How To Get Over an Ex

Speaker 1 Hi y'all. Speaker 2 How are y'all doing? Speaker 1 What my batteries, little who unplugged? My PC. Speaker 2 How are you guys? Speaker 1 so, Speaker 2 As you see on the title, how to get over an ex my way. Speaker 1 Okay, my way she was seven way. Speaker 2 Not the typical way that the way people tell you Speaker 1 to, okay. Speaker 2 I've never had to ask anyone this question. I've never had to ask anyone, how to get over an ex Speaker 1 never, why I didn't care enough to even still care. When they're gone, they're gone. They don't come like I'm doing. So when people ask me this, Speaker 2 I try to put myself in their shoes and think about, why I would not be able to get over an Speaker 1 ex Speaker 2 I'm like, why can't I how could I possibly not get over 2x, what would that X have to do for me to be? Still wanting to be with him? I feel like I would have had to mess up the relationship. And do something really wrong to where they were mad and left me for me to even want them back in the first place. But if I left them, which is a majority of what happens, a lot of time, ladies lead, a man and then a week or two later, or a year later or a month later, or when they start dating, someone else, when the man starts dating, someone else, the woman wants them back so or they're never over the X. And I'm trying to figure out why women cannot move forward and why they can't get over an ex or why they keep wanting this person that doesn't want them. So, here is what I came up with the best way to get over an ex is to Really understand first and foremost. Why you broke up with him or why he broke up with you write it down on a piece of paper why you guys broke Speaker 1 up Speaker 2 then think about the exact moment that made you angry enough to either break up with the person or think about the exact moment that that person broke up with you and what made them angry think about Speaker 1 this. Speaker 2 Could you relive that feeling again? And again, with the same person, are you willing to forgive? Are you willing to relive this feeling over and over? If he cheated on you, are you willing to get back in the relationship and let can cheat on you again? Are you willing to feel that once again if the answer is no write down no, I am not willing to go through this or feel this again when you write down your answer That answer right there. Should tell you that wanting this ex back, is a bad idea. Speaker 1 Okay, Speaker 2 then ask yourself. Do I want him back because he moved on and found someone better than me, or do I want him back? Because I think I can make it work now and write down that answer, okay? If he found someone better than you, that's your ego. That is your ego saying. Well, that's not fair that are not. Now, I want to back. That's just your ego. Okay, so after you answer that question, would you take him back after he's been with another woman, who he still has contact with? Who keep cute? Who he could sneak off with at any Speaker 1 second Speaker 2 and go cheat with her again? Are you willing to put up with Speaker 1 that Speaker 2 if the answer is no write that Speaker 1 down? Okay, Speaker 2 the next and the next question you to write down. If you did something wrong, will he forgive me? Or will I have to live with this for the rest of my life? He will. He ever trust me again? If the answer is, no, are you willing to live and be punished with this person for probably ever be willing to be punished every day because you made a mistake. The answer is no. Write that down. Then, ask yourself this last question. If this person or I repeat the same mistake that created The Break-Up, do I want him back after Speaker 1 that? Speaker 2 If the answer is no, then the truth is you really don't want this person back. What you want, Is this Speaker 1 person? To Speaker 2 miss you and to feel the pain that you felt what you want is basically to be with this person again until you get sick of them again. Then break up with them again. Okay. That's what you secretly want. You want another try so that you can understand why you broke up in the first place? That's all you want. You want to see if the breakup was something that you can live with. I'm not drinking wine. I'm drinking coconut water and my glass. I mean, am I cut my chalice? So, Most of the time, it's only women mostly women. There's a few guys that want their ex back because, you know, they messed up and a lot of these ladies will take a cheater back Speaker 1 but Speaker 2 usually it's always the woman that wants the man back and she's probably most likely the one that dumped him in the first place. So if you're going to dump someone and then want him back, two weeks later think about why you dumped them. You know, this is how you're going to get over it. Write down everything that they did to you write down. Every time they made you feel bad right now, every time you thought they were cheating right down the messages. You probably found in their phone, right? All the bad stuff down. Write it all down. You can start getting mad, you're not going on him back. You must Smite. Am I doing? I'm so stupid. Why? I'm just being lonely. I'm just being lonely. That's all she, I need to go out and do much better because I can't believe I remember that message that I found in his phone and those pictures you can get mad all over again and you're going to say, what am I thinking? Speaker 1 What if I keep Speaker 2 finding this stuff after I take him back? The only reason you want him back is because you feel stupid. You feel stupid because you probably gave more than you received and you feel like more is owed to you and through being in a relationship with this person who messed over you that you're going to get your compensation. But what you're really going to get is them using you even more and draining you even more and then Then you're going to have to prove yourself and give even more than you are given in the first place. So you're basically just begging to be drained even more when you go backwards. Like oh you didn't learn your lesson the first time, okay. Let me teach you to you times to this time. Let me teach it to you times to since you didn't learn the first time. Let me let me go ahead and show you who I am times two. Speaker 1 so, Speaker 2 They come back now. You feel stupid because you broke up with them, you know they've been out with other women, you know it, your emotions start to get upset so who's with when I was when we were broken up. Where were you do you start it all over again? Yeah. Then they're going to be like oh God, what did I come back into? You know, so honestly leave them X alone, get over them by writing down every single. Terrible thing that they did to you relive, every single moment in your mind and realize this was a lesson, okay? And if you're stupid enough to repeat it, It's just like going to school and not passing and having to repeat a grade. Don't go backwards graduate and move forward. If you're stuck on an X because you don't feel like you can do any better, you know. That's your fault that your fault for even thinking that. If you had never met that person, you would have done better. You know. Speaker 1 so Speaker 2 if you're in a bad relationship and you know you will never be happy in that person will never change and you're just sitting there hoping and wishing do the same thing. Write down all the things that he's this person is doing Speaker 1 to you Speaker 2 and you're going to get up and leave. Same thing don't don't try to get someone back because you feel like they owe you something. The only thing they owe you is another lesson and that is going to hurt you worse because you're going to going to feel even dumber the second time along the second time around, I feel even stupider. Yeah. Like I should have let him go the first time and I was so stupid. So save yourself some time and some energy and write down all those things that you don't like about him. And all those bad things that happened and ask yourself. Am I willing to go through this again? And if the answer is, yes, I'm rude. But I love him, then. Go do it again. You know, go do it again. More power to you, if the X, if the breakup was a temporary break up to get what you want. You know, if you gave the person, an ultimatum and they have decided to change their mind and pick you up, and take you up on automate them. You shouldn't be trying to get over him, if you know him well enough, you know, he's coming back, you shouldn't be worried. Speaker 1 This should just be his wake up call. Speaker 2 If he doesn't come back, he didn't want you. Okay. He was like, thank you. Thank you for letting me go because I was not I didn't want to be with you that long. I don't want to marry you. So thanks for the way out. what if his for what if it has friends with his ex what if you has friends with your ex, Speaker 1 Honestly, Speaker 2 I'm not like a people person like I don't make friends with everybody. I just slowly start drifting away from them to, you know, because I don't want people in my business. So if I was friends with someone that was friends with him, I would just stop communicating. Speaker 1 Um, Speaker 2 Going back to X will be the same. Nothing will change exactly. The same problems you had or going to be doubled when you come back. So I wouldn't even bother if you broke up for or if they broke up with you because you were overemotional, you're going to really have to change Speaker 1 as Speaker 2 and it can't just be for a couple of weeks. You could really going to have to change and they might not believe that you can change and they might not even want to waste any more time on you, you know? So getting over an ex should be like, getting over a job, okay, now, job you lost You should be focused on finding a better new one that gives you a lot more Speaker 1 not focusing on. Speaker 2 Oh, the good old days. I remember when we were so happy that. Yeah, before he messed up but the truth is the person already messed up or you messed up and you can't erase that. It's always going to be there, whoever messed up. It's that is always going to be there in the back of your mind every time he doesn't text you right away. You're going to think he's with someone else. Every time you text him every time he texts you and you don't text back right away. If you messed up, he's going to think you're doing something wrong. So can you live with that? No, you can't. And you shouldn't have to and you shouldn't put up with it. You should move on and get a fresh start. So the person that you meet thinks, you're Great and they're not suspicious of you and they have you know a good outlook with you. They're not thinking - things when they look at Speaker 1 you right? So make sure you're understanding that when you go forward, what you're basically doing is not Speaker 2 Allowing people to hurt you again and again. Speaker 1 Yeah. Speaker 2 Because even if that person didn't do anything wrong and it was you, you're going to you're going to pay for your wrongs if they come back. Another tip if they misbehave, a excessively don't respond for three months. When next you pick up say oh we broke up when you didn't do XYZ, okay? The ghost break up. I like that. Speaker 1 So, Speaker 2 Like someone says a change if James cheated, what I say? Yeah. Because I don't care about that, like some women do. You know what I'm saying? Is this is for those ladies who are in relationships, For loyalty, trust, love and honesty and stuff that really doesn't truly Speaker 1 exist for those women. Speaker 2 That break up with men for Stuff, men do. This is how you get over it, okay? So, And the reason why a lot of ladies want their ex back is because they think they can fix them or change them or they think that that they have learned their lesson or something, but it's not true. Cheating pisses you off. Speaker 1 Well, Speaker 2 you know that's why most like some people are in relationships for certain reasons. If you're in a relationship for, you know, I need you to be honest, and loyal to me and this isn't that and you marry the type of person that, you know or you date the type of person that you already know it's not a loyal type person or it's not an honest type person. You know if you if you date someone and you already know how they are, what kind of friends they hang around and you still I think they're going to be loyal and honest to you. You're only fooling yourself. If all their friends Speaker 1 cheat, Speaker 2 if all their friends are unloaded up there in the club, or in the bar, Speaker 1 all night of the week, Speaker 2 you're just setting yourself up. Okay, so, please don't think you're special, don't think. Oh, he won't cheat on me. Just understand that if you do catch him or he does flip Speaker 1 up, Speaker 2 you kind of already knew in the back of your mind that he was the type of man to do that to you. And that's why I'm saying you have to have more than one reason or two reasons more than one or two reasons to be with someone. Besides loyalty and honesty, you know if you have more than one reason to be with this man. And things like that. Then a lot of those things wouldn't bother you, you wouldn't be in a quick. Hurry to break up with people. You wouldn't be wanting back two weeks later. So that's why I said if you're going to be with somebody and you're going to break up with him for doing something and then take them back, two weeks later, don't even break up with them in the first place. Don't even bother breaking up with him in the first place. Because it's going to be dumb when you can't get them Speaker 1 back. Okay. Speaker 2 That's why I always tell women, don't go through his phone unless you're willing to leave him. And then don't come back two weeks later saying, I want you back. Think about Speaker 1 it. Speaker 2 You're confused about emotions. I say it is best to turn them off. Especially when you're after you've experienced to Heart. 23 heartbreaks, turn those emotions off. Start focusing on what is important in real Speaker 1 life. Speaker 2 Go experience, heartache, pain and suffering. Go have a heartbreak. Go Pine for an X that doesn't want you back. Then, come to reality, you know, and want a relationship for more than those things that most people cannot live up to, okay? It's like asking someone to be on a diet. Their entire life. And you catch him eating a piece of cake. And you're like, That's it, Speaker 1 you know. Speaker 2 That's literally what it's like for young men. Like if you're dating a 20, something year old man, they don't cheat. I'm just gonna tell you straight up. If your man is in his 20s, he's cheating. He's going to cheat at one point or another, he will cheat or you will cheat. Okay? If your man is in his 20s, he's cheating sometime or another with you or whatever. Okay. That's just it I'm so sorry to tell you 20 something year old man are not Speaker 1 faithful. Okay. Speaker 2 How do you turn off emotions? I just stopped caring. I have more, I don't care about that side of it. I care about what benefits me. You just have to stop caring about. If this person is doing certain thing with somebody all you need to care about is what he's doing for you. Like that's why I'm saying if you stopped if you want to turn off the emotions data rich man, if you want to turn off the emotions, they demand that pays everything. Speaker 1 Okay? Speaker 2 Because it's easier. You're not going to give up all of this. For a slip-up. You know what I'm saying? And I'm not saying to date me in that sheet on you, Speaker 1 I'm saying having have Speaker 2 more than one reason to be with this person and don't break up with people, just because they hurt your feelings and then two weeks later you want them back. Doesn't make sense. You know, if you were going to see if you wanted him in the first place and you wanted to take them back in the first place. After he cheated, or did you wrong? Then why did you break up? It's not teaching him. A lesson, all thats doing. It's saying who now I can go out and get all the sex I want, she all I want or be with anyone I want while you're sitting at home crying. All you're doing is giving him permission to go out and have fun with whoever he wants to Until you realize that you want him back. so getting over an ex should be like, A wake-up call. Like the reason you left write it down. Do you want to render it again? No. So don't go backwards. Let's see, right? I mean, nobody wants to be cheated on, okay, that's obvious. Nobody wants to be cheated on, but if you're the type of woman who will take back a cheater, don't bother breaking up with a cheater that is just common sense. You can punish him during the relationship, but if you break up with them and then you want them back and you can't get over him and you don't date for 225 years, because you can't get over an ex That's a little mental, okay? Speaker 1 so, Speaker 2 Get over him and move on or don't break up with him in the first place, Speaker 1 okay. Speaker 2 They don't care, they really don't. All you're doing is giving them more free time to go. Do what they want to do especially in their 20s. Okay? 30s. Yep. They still, they still feel like and think like they're 20, so there are most likely to probably go out and do what they want, but then they might want to come back to because they feel like they're getting older but 20th. Oh, forget it. Don't even bother, don't even bother because They're out exploring the world and seeing what's out there. I want to start dating again and not find the same control Speaker 1 freak. Um, Speaker 2 I've never, I've dated a cook, one control freak and I never dated Speaker 1 another one. Speaker 2 Not everybody is a control freak. so, most likely, you probably the only only way you're attracting control freaks, is if you allow yourself to be controlled. Let's see real women. We don't let their men cheat but real women, we don't let their men cheat that saying it's stupid, huh? Okay. You would easily land a very rich narcissist. Yeah, our relationships worth it. If you make good money on your own, if all men cheat, here's my thing on it. If you're if you make good money on your own, You only need a man. To have babies. Speaker 1 Okay, Speaker 2 I'm just being honest with you. You only need a man for children. If you want to procreate and you can get sperm at a sperm bank. The reason I'm saying this is because most women do not need men, Speaker 1 okay? Speaker 2 We can hire any any type of person to do handiwork, if you got money, you know, you can go out with male friends colleagues, if you need a male companion, You can have a gay Speaker 1 friend. if you're just lonely and want someone to share your life with remember, if they're a masculine man, it's not going to be that fairy tale type love because you make enough money on your own and you really don't need him for anything, you know what I mean? So I feel like you really don't need one. Probably be like one of those ladies who Speaker 2 No, just dates Speaker 1 randomly. Speaker 2 I need to get into your level up, okay? Just go to my YouTube channel page and click on that Facebook icon on my my picture that says she was seven and then inbox me on Speaker 1 Facebook Speaker 2 so making sure to get over an ex this is helpful. When you let go of emotions, learn how to let that go. Why would, why would you want someone back? Who does not want you? That's low self-esteem. Look at yourself first and say, why do I want someone who Speaker 1 discarded me? Speaker 2 What does that say about me? You know. Ask yourself these questions. Why do I want someone who treated me? Bad? Discarded me cheated on me. Lied, to me. Why do I want them back? Do I not? Think highly of myself, do I not deserve better? Speaker 1 You know Speaker 2 am I just upset that? I think he's out with other women and I'm just being possessive. Because I feel like it's not Speaker 1 fair, Speaker 2 but then think about what is fair. Is there anything on earth that is fair? And why is it an expression to be an exception for Speaker 1 you? Speaker 2 Okay, you got to really think about stuff, instead of just feeling stuff all the time, you have to think you got to think your way out of being depressed, over an ex you got to use your common sense. get out of your ego, get out of thinking, he owes you something, because you were with him and cooked for him and clean for him like a wife, and he threw you away like Speaker 1 a Pick me. Speaker 2 You got to stop. Okay. So make sure You're thinking and not feeling once you when you do this, okay? Get out of your feelings, they don't care about you, they don't care, but what if they still call me and say that they love me and distant, that's open. What? I call that open door policy, it means I can come back and hit it when I feel like it when I'm in between girlfriends, on my current girlfriend is mad at me. I still got you. That's all that means they, if they left you, how could they love you? Speaker 1 How could you still be the Speaker 2 one? How could they still have these deep feelings for you? Yeah, it's a lie. It's called open door policy. So if your ex is in and out of your life, cut them off, sexually and see what happens. You think he's going to come back? No, never Speaker 1 because that's all he wants. Speaker 2 If your ex wants to come back and be your friend, End forever with no strings, no sex Speaker 1 then great. Speaker 2 But I highly doubt that they will ever be back for just friendship. Speaker 1 Okay? Speaker 2 If you know, some people can be friends later on in life but not right away. Not going to work like that. So getting over an ex should basically be making your self-esteem higher and understanding that it was a lesson. Not a mistake. Okay. And who cares? If they follow you on social media, good, let them see, live your life. Go date have fun, post pictures, that's what I do. I might even use Photoshop, look where I am and Paris, just because I knew they were washing, but I will be on a, with another man be like, hey, my new boo. Upgraded to a new boot. That's what Speaker 1 output Speaker 2 I would. Make a post upgraded to a new and Speaker 1 better. Boo. Speaker 2 So get out of that. Like stop being so emotional. All the time look like, sometimes, y'all are like women are just too emotional. Like, why? My kids aren't even that emotional. You only act emotional when it's an Speaker 1 act? Speaker 2 When somebody dies? Yes. Great. When you're happy, yes, great when you're sad boohoo, but don't stay there. Emotions are temporary get over them quick. You're supposed to be done with them. You're feeling. You're done with them and you move forward, you don't stay in them. That's how people end up being depressed, being bipolar, you know, living in something too long. You don't live in Emotion. You feel it and you done get over Speaker 1 it. Okay? Speaker 2 So get out of that stop dwelling in that they didn't want you great and I move on and don't care what they didn't want you. They just don't want you or maybe they just wanted somebody else and you wouldn't let him have somebody else while he was with you, you know, maybe he just wanted a new flavor and you were like, no. And he was like, okay, well, I would say would you let you know, maybe that's what it was, maybe he didn't want to settle down. Maybe it wasn't you maybe it was just because he's a man. You know, he's just a man, man cheat man, like variety been want to sleep with her and her and her, and her and Speaker 1 him. Okay, it's not you. The nature of man is To want to sleep with other, that's it. Speaker 2 Some women do too, right? You can't stop human nature. You just can't. If you know, if you could stop human nature, you would, you wouldn't even like that, man? You know why? Because it will be like having a robot. Oh, my, you know, you wouldn't even like him. If he didn't even have the option to cheat, you wouldn't even want them. You understand? Think about it for a second. You would not want a man who did not. Not have the Speaker 1 option to cheat. Mhm. Um, Speaker 2 That's what, that's what draws you to him. That he does have those Speaker 1 options. you know, so what do you mean? I mean, most women think that men are perfect and that they're not supposed to cheat? Look at other women, not supposed to cheat, not supposed to do this, but if they're 21 and 22 and 25, and 26, and 27, okay? Speaker 2 They're not thinking like you, they're not marriage-minded, they don't see themselves forever with you. They see what else can I hit before. I get old and settle Speaker 1 down. Okay. Speaker 2 Someone says stop watching romantic movies. Yeah, those are people right that because they can't have it. People write romantic movies because they wish that's how their Speaker 1 lights were. Okay. Speaker 2 If you were to write a true love story, it would be boring. Speaker 1 Non-eventful? Speaker 2 Think about it would be playing. Oh, how did you meet all we met at the club or we met at the bar? Okay, what did he told you? He loved you. One time during fix. This is how life would be. Oh okay. Well when did y'all decide to get married? Oh, When I got pregnant or oh, after five years, you know, I told him I need to either get married or go find somebody else. The ultimatum. Oh okay so how was your wedding? Oh what's good? My mom came. We hired a caterer. Speaker 1 It was, it was cool. It was cool. Speaker 2 Okay. What's the most romantic thing he ever did? All he drew me a bath and put some rose petals in it? That will be the most boring movie. Most boring is love movie ever, right? So they have to add all that crap in it, all that fantasy, all that drama. And then have him come running on a, you know, was it a limo like, I'm pretty woman. Or a horse or come save the day during the end and realize she was the best thing that ever happened to him. No, they have to put all that drama in there. Because that's what they really want. And life is so normal. When we compare Our Lives to that, we're disappointed. That's when most of the time, it was pretty good and we didn't even realize it. Mhm. What if he is the one that expects it to be a fairy tale? Then, Speaker 1 I don't Speaker 2 know many men who would want a fairy tale because they couldn't live up to their end of it. Are they Prince Charming? Speaker 1 What about Megan Speaker 2 Markle? That's what I mean. Megan Markle. That's not really going to be a fairy tale. If you think about it, it's going to be all work. Work work, work work Speaker 1 work. Speaker 2 She can't wear what she wants. She has to get okay for everything. She does. She has someone following her around every day with a schedule? I mean, it looks like a fairy tale, but it's just a lot of after after the Speaker 1 fact. But it's something that she was willing to do anyway as an actress. If you're going to be on set wake up, they tell you what to wear where to go, what to do, if you're famous anyway, so she was already used to that, you know, Speaker 2 So that purse like Meghan Markel. Yes, she's marrying Prince Diana died. But she can't wear what she wants. Say what she wants. She can't do nothing. She wants. She just has to be a representative of that family. Now, that's just it. So it's a fairy tale. But it's also a Speaker 1 job. Yeah, so Speaker 2 remember, if you're going to break up with somebody, make sure you want to stay broken up with them and that you will never want them back ever, ever, ever don't try to get back with someone. If you're just lonely, just replace them with someone better. Okay. And never And never ever go backwards to someone who threw you in the garbage Speaker 1 because they'll just throw in the Speaker 2 garbage again and again and again until you tired of smelling like garbage. Then you'll wake up one day Pennywise Speaker 1 black men hate taking care of their responsibilities as I'm reading the comments, your whole, um, Speaker 2 I have never been sad over anybody. I have never been sad over an ex except for one time, but I was only 17 and I got over it in three days, three days. All it took, I was like, okay, I'm sad. Nah, let's go out, let's go have fun. I met somebody else. Like three days later that were that was way better. So I was good. Speaker 1 Okay. Speaker 2 so get over it pretend like there's something better out there Speaker 1 and I feel like, Speaker 2 I don't know, I'm going to have to ask women. If anyone of you guys that are watching, if you are having a hard time getting over an ex, can you please tell me why. Because I have no idea. I've never felt that way about anybody who's broken up with me or who I broke Speaker 1 up with. Yes, I'm married. but, Can you please tell me? Speaker 2 If anyone of you guys are not over necks. And tell me why. Because you have a kid with him, Speaker 1 okay? Speaker 2 I had a hard time this. Okay. So you want the father of your child to be with Speaker 1 you? Speaker 2 Do you want him back? Or you just uncomfortable that he Speaker 1 left? Speaker 2 Because they invested too much into the relationship and they feel robbed. Yeah, that's true. I said that a little bit earlier Speaker 1 um, Speaker 2 ear to start again, but I just need to remove the emotions. So it's more of a personal problem within. It's not that you really want that person back. It's a personal issue with in. People can't handle rejection. I, you know what, this is so funny. When someone rejects me, you know what I feel? Speaker 1 Like I'm Speaker 2 like I'm laughing at them because the joke is on them like literally that's how I feel. Like you don't know what you do. You know how many men is waiting in line? That's that's exactly what I'm thinking. Do you want me to? People are waiting in line for me to break up. You did it for him, you did all the work for them, you know. That's exactly how I feel. I don't sit there and wonder if I'm ever going to find someone again or don't let start over at Speaker 1 I'm like, okay. Speaker 2 Haiti many miny moe. No, Michael cake. Does this one right here? I'll take, let's go out tonight. You know, when someone breaks up with me, or when I break up with someone, I'm just like, I get like I get happy and excited because I know I get to start all over with another person. They don't know, none of my flaws. I can still do the fake act for about a couple of months. I guess I can start getting new stuff. I can start over and get all the stuff over again over and over again. Oh thanks. Oh, where are you taking me to dinner? Oh, we get to go to this place. All okay where are we going? Like you know how in the beginning of a relationship it's all new and fun and they're spending money look forward to that with another Speaker 1 person. Speaker 2 I get excited because like, well, I got I can wear my same clothes and they'll be new to this person because they've never seen them before. So I get all excited, I would get all excited and he's like, oh yes, you know, They're going to be all extra nice to me, give me whatever I ask for, and, you know, it's just going to be so fun. I get to start over. I'm going to feel even better looking than I did because this person has like, I'm new to them. So that's how you got to think. I get excited. I'm like okay I'm not that same night you broke up with me that afternoon. I'm out that same night. Speaker 1 I'm saying. Speaker 2 I used to have a really high threshold for alcohol. So guys, I would I would lie and say well I can't drink a lot because I get drunker and Tipsy really fast. Maybe trying to hurt drop, buy me a bunch of strong drinks and I'm just Drinking free. I thought you said you had low tolerance and maybe they watering them down. Tell him to make him Speaker 1 stronger. Speaker 2 It's like, oh, I forgot. I ate a big meal before I Speaker 1 can get Speaker 2 them free drinks because they think you're going to get all Tipsy and gone with him. I cleaned. I can outdrink you. They be drunk and I'm still sober. I'm like That was a long time ago though. The CI I made the best out of a breakup. I made Speaker 1 a breakup. Speaker 2 Like yeah, I'm single again, you know? Okay, I'm single again. Remember that business owner? That was eyeballing me. Want to go back over Speaker 1 there, you know Speaker 2 remember that guy who owned the bar who was trying to talk to you but you had a boyfriend who go back over there now you're Speaker 1 single. That's what That's what you got to do. Remember all your options, remember all the options and all the men that came on to you while you were in that relationship. Speaker 2 That's what I would do. That's what Speaker 1 I did. Speaker 2 What if boyfriend still friends with his ex? What is that? That's open door policy. That means when he makes you mad and you kick him out or you make him mad or he makes you mad that he can go over Speaker 1 there. Speaker 2 Yeah, that's because I didn't sell myself short. I didn't cook for nobody. I didn't clean for nobody. I didn't do nobody's laundry. I didn't care enough for anybody to pay for anything. So it was very easy to get over them because I didn't lose anything. All I lost was time. I mean, I can't get that back so I can't cry over it. I just move, I move on be like, who's the next victim? That's how you got to be. If you're investing a lot into a relationship and you don't have a ring, And a marriage license. Then that's your fault. Stop investing. I didn't I never invested in your Speaker 1 relationships. Speaker 2 The purpose of a relationship is for that man to court you and to prove himself to you as a good partner and possibly a good husband. If they fail to do that job, then you shouldn't even be upset. They failed at their job. Basically, they failed at courting, you and impressing you and willing, you they failed. Why are you mad? You should be happy that you called it before you got into a more serious relationship. If You have kids with the person they failed live up to being a father. They feel to be end up being a husband. They failed. Why do you want back a failure? You know, it's not about being rejected. They rejected you because they failed. You, they can't live up to being the type of, man, that wants to be with you, for a long time or forever. So, why are you beating yourself up for? Why do you want the failure Speaker 1 back? Speaker 2 Y'all have it backwards? I'm trying to tell you. You got it backwards. That man, if that man, is not trying to impress you, in court, you and prove to you, that he is worthy of Keeping you and being with you for the rest of your life. You shouldn't even drop it to you. You shouldn't drop a tear you like, okay well you obviously are not husband material. So thank you for trying. Bye. But if you invested all your time, money put car down payments, pay for him to do this, this and that gave him money. So, Kim shopping, you're his mom and of course, it's it. Like I said, in my other videos, you're his mother. It's going to be hard to let go of your Speaker 1 child. Speaker 2 So stop doing all that stuff for guys, they're supposed to be doing that for Or you and then if it doesn't work out you didn't lose anything, okay, well you had your chance to impress me, you failed? So on to the next If you sitting there pining over an ex is cuz you have it backwards, that's it. You got everything backwards and you need to switch it around. Um, so you got to switch it around, who taught you? That who taught you that you're supposed to be sad over an ex who taught you that You're supposed to want him back, he failed. He failed at living up to impressing you as a long-term partner. He already Speaker 1 failed. If you cheer, you can't trust them. Speaker 2 And that's the only thing you need it from him. You never asked him for money. All you asked for, for was for loyalty and honesty and he can't give you that or money and you still want to back then, your something is wrong with you, you know. Oh, he can't give me money. He can't give me trust. You can't give me loyalty. The only thing he can do is lie and sleep with me. And give me company so I don't be lonely. So you want company? That can sleep with you. That's all you want. You want company that can sleep Speaker 1 with you. You can get that Speaker 2 anywhere, okay? You can go get that dude, you put in the friend zone and do that Speaker 1 with. Speaker 2 He'll be there. Believe me, he's waiting on you to call. Call me. I saw you broke up on Facebook. Speaker 1 Chicken ringer. Speaker 2 He in the mirror Speaker 1 fixings. Speaker 2 I know she stayed in his friend zone for eight Speaker 1 years. Next. Speaker 2 I already know what I'm going to say, it's okay. I got you. I would never do that to, you know me. Speaker 1 I promise you. Speaker 2 Just cry on my shoulder. I got you. You can stay here as long as you Speaker 1 want. So, Remember that? Speaker 2 All this, my real hair today. Y'all know we going to do this. I'm growing it back Speaker 1 out. Speaker 2 I'm trying to grow it back. I'll Speaker 1 do it still like Speaker 2 shorter a little bit shorter in the back, but it's growing, Speaker 1 I've got a Trying to get it Speaker 2 back long Speaker 1 again Speaker 2 my ex told me he hates me. Wow. What'd you do to him? Why does he want me to invest emotions? So that he can hook you and you can accept him back after he does you wrong? You never invest emotions until they passed the test if they pass the test of being a good Speaker 1 provider. A good Speaker 2 person, a good man, that could be husband material, then you have best a little bit Speaker 1 emotional. Speaker 2 But if they're not fully providing for you, there's no reason to fully invest emotionally into them. Why, why would you they're supposed to be courting you so that you can pick them? As a spouse. If you're seriously dating someone that is the purpose. Speaker 1 That is Speaker 2 the purpose. Okay? If you're not dating with a purpose and you emotionally invest, that's your Speaker 1 fault. Speaker 2 If you're not impressive as a future husband, I'm not going to invest in you emotionally, that's just straight-up because that's a waste of time, you're not even worth it. You're not who I want, you don't do what I want. You're not impressing me. So I'm not even going to give you the time of day Speaker 1 emotionally. Okay. Why are you so? Speaker 2 Why do I wear a wig? If I already got nice hair because sometimes I feel like doing my hair sometimes, I just feel like the only weak and so sometimes a we'd just looks more stylish and sleek and Polished. Speaker 1 um, Men. Love. That feminine entertain, but not the emotional energy, is, I really want to know what goes on with b and j behind the scenes? Oh, they probably don't even Speaker 2 I bet I can predict Beyonce and Jay-Z, are they're super busy, they're so busy. They barely probably see each other except when they get home, they probably have to schedule time together and show up or the other one will be mad. It's probably like that. Well, he's okay. They probably have a marriage Clause. Now that they had all their drama. They probably went to marriage counseling and they said, okay, well y'all have to eat dinner together every night. You'll have to sleep in the same bed every night and you'll have to talk at least 30 minutes a day. So they have to write down on their schedule, what they need to do, they got to get off their phone, their Instagram, their next plan for a song or two, or they got to get off all of that. I got to turn off all cell phones and sit there with each other and talk. It's forced. I believe their relationship is forced now because there's such a business conglomerate and they're trying to make it work for those kids and they probably love each other but it's not the fairy tale love. It's the well I can't go anywhere because I'm invested business-wise with this woman and this man and the whole world looks at us as this power couple and this is our identity now. Speaker 1 And Speaker 2 whatever problems we have, we can make money on them anyway. So whatever just stay. they just stay, because If they were to go anywhere else they'd have the same problems, but probably not as much Speaker 1 money. so, you Speaker 2 know, it's not all marriages are going to be the same, some marriages, some people have business marriages, some people have open marriages, some people have, you know, those romantic marriages but Speaker 1 you know, Still, Speaker 2 there might be something else lacking that they wish they had, you know, so not all managers are the same. All marriages are perfect. They just because all people aren't perfect and you can't walk around breaking up and divorcing with people because they made a mistake, you know I'm saying? Because if that's the only reason, you married them, and they fail to live up to being perfect, then you just fooled yourself. You just fooled yourself. Like it's just like a child. if you had a child, this is why I say love is conditional. If you had a child and they did something wrong, would you kick them out and say, never come back. I don't want to see you again and then be like, I miss you come home, you know, like which one is it? Do you want me or not? Do you forgive me or not? Okay, you knew you were going to forgive me when you broke up or you knew you were going to forgive me when you kick me out. So why did you even bother this? Is how you have to Speaker 1 think. Speaker 2 If you're glad take him back, don't even bother breaking up. Don't even bother kicking them out. Just stop, just give him the silent treatment and cut them off or keep them. Get something out of it. Speaker 1 But getting over an ex means moving forward, Speaker 2 getting something better and not looking back and having high self esteem. And understanding that you don't really want the ex back. You just want the time energy money and emotion that you invested. That's all you really want. You can't get it back. You should have been giving it in the first place. You know what I'm saying? If you gave it away it's your fault. And if you want him back he's just going to take it again and again and again until you feel even Speaker 1 done. So please Speaker 2 understand that. It's not that you want them back. It's that you want all that stuff that you put into the relationship back. You want it to pay off in some way and it never did. You didn't get the payoff? That's Speaker 1 why Speaker 2 before you break up with him, get something about you. Then you won't want them back. I promise you. If you, if you're planning to break up with your ex these logical because you're never going to get anything back from him, so make sure you take something before you break up with them. You'll feel good about. If you got a nice watch, you get Speaker 1 that Speaker 2 if you Speaker 1 got I'm telling you, get it. Speaker 2 Tell him you going to pay all the bills this month. No tell him you want to pay all the bills and put them online as much and you need all the money straight up then take it and go get you an apartment. If you live together, you know, get take something before you leave, you will never want him back because you're going to be scared. Watch. I took, I took this up to that. And then you can just blame it on the movers. Well, I just, I just hire some movers to come. Get my stuff down off, they went through your Speaker 1 stuff or not. Speaker 2 Like, I don't know, I can't control what they do. You call losing Connie. So if you know, you're going to want that fool back because you invested too much and he didn't invest a thing then take something. Take back. What you think you're old. Take his computer, take his Speaker 1 laptop. Okay. Speaker 2 Take some take. All the shoes. Put them on eBay, do something. That's what I mean, you have to do something to feel better about the whole situation. If you know, you're going to sit there and be mad because you put too much in and they get anything out. And, you know, that's your fault. To make yourself, feel better, compensate yourself with help yourself to his stuff. Okay, make you a killing on eBay and then go buy you something really nice that he would never buy for you. Speaker 1 Okay. Speaker 2 These tricks only work on down being okay. So if you live with a woman and she knows she finds out you're cheating but she doesn't say anything. And she plans to move out. While you're at work, she could literally remove all your stuff. And move Speaker 1 away. Speaker 2 Leave the door unlocked and open and say you got robbed. Okay. So how's that only work on dumping because that's a good Speaker 1 plan. Speaker 2 I left the key so I could lock the door. Yeah, Rob. Oh my Speaker 1 God. Speaker 2 Can't believe that. Thank you. Oh, thank you so much that they want to give me a donation. Thank you. So I promise you. You won't want him back after that. He might want you back but you won't want him back because you're compensated, you're good. Okay, you got a good. You got a laugh out of it. You saw him struggling, trying to figure out where his stuff Speaker 1 went Speaker 2 and you probably made some money off of it. So you're good. Now you can move on with ease. Most women that get revenge on their exits, don't want it back. So if you get revenge, it's less likely that we'll be pining over him. So get revenge. Don't get arrested. Oh yeah. Like the, you gotta have an Speaker 1 alibi, you know, move all your stuff out and boxes. Speaker 2 So they can't see what you took. Leave the door Speaker 1 open. Speaker 2 Have Speaker 1 Movers. And they can't prove you did. Speaker 2 You got robbed, I left the door open. I'm so sorry. It's not a crime to leave the door, open. Speaker 1 Or if you don't want to Speaker 2 take it and he lives in a bad neighborhood and you know, he don't get robbed anyway, leave the Speaker 1 door open. Speaker 2 If you don't need anything and you want to get revenge, you lives and you know, in a bad place, leave the door wide open, put all the stuff, the valuable stuff right in the doorways. O people be like Speaker 1 what's that mean Jordans? Speaker 2 And he sees everybody walking around the neighborhood issues like I'm coming to Speaker 1 America. Speaker 2 Hey, that's mine. Doing all of this. You can you're not even going to be trying to get him back. You'll be laughing like he's an idiot just like Speaker 1 do tell everybody, your story and laughing. People kill for Jordan's. Oh, thank you bizarre brilliance. Speaker 2 Thank you for the donation. I appreciate it. How can I think like you shura? You got to think devious. You just gotta do what you gotta Speaker 1 do. Speaker 2 It will make you feel so much better. I promise you you won't like most women. Like I said they don't really want the man back. They just want everything that they gave and most of the time they just say I want a back so I can dump him, they just want Speaker 1 to feel Speaker 2 Like they have the good end of the bargain, which never do if they give too much and if they eat most, if they invest emotionally, they will never have the good end of the bargain. And when that relationship is over, they will feel like their old something and they will confuse that with wanting that person back. And after they get them back it's the same old thing. So what they really want is Revenge what they really want is compensation. So get the stuff, get the Revenge, get whatever you need. Do get them fired, do whatever you need to do and walk, you got to be ruthless if you want to feel good about this breakup and not look backwards. Take what you really want. Speaker 1 Take Speaker 2 what you were denied. In the entire relationship, taken take it right at the end because you've never got that throughout the entire relationship. So, take what you want in the end and you will never look back. I promise Speaker 1 you Speaker 2 never never look back. And you'll have something to laugh Speaker 1 at. Speaker 2 You'll always feel like the winner in that relationship. I got Speaker 1 him. Okay. Speaker 2 Yeah like yeah, take your suitcase, whatever you want, put it in the suitcase, take some boxes, leave the door open, leave the window Speaker 1 open. Put put something that you didn't take a value in the doorway. So if there are cameras, you know, someone's going to walk in and take something. Speaker 2 Bad game for this era. Thank you, Nikki Jones. I really don't think it's bad because Speaker 1 You know, Speaker 2 relationships and exes and stuff like Speaker 1 that. Speaker 2 Especially if your ex has a criminal background record or Warren, he's not going to be calling the Speaker 1 police Speaker 2 especially if you paid for whatever you just took, take all the stuff you paid for take every gift you gave him take everything. Just say I'm just taking what is owed to me. He owes me, thirty thousand dollars. and I know he was never going to pay me back, so I took what he owed Speaker 1 me. Speaker 2 And other objects. Most likely. They're not going to be cameras on the door of the apartment itself or the happens. How many people, I mean, how many houses have cameras? Looking directly at the front door? Speaker 1 You know what I mean? Speaker 2 What if you owe Speaker 1 him? If you owe him Speaker 2 money. Never ran across that scenario. I'm so sorry. I don't know. They never ran across that scenario. If she owed him money. She probably wouldn't be breaking up with him. If you had to like that, that he could just give her money, she wouldn't be Speaker 1 going anywhere. Okay. Speaker 2 What do you think of girls who pay for their wedding? They really want to get Speaker 1 married. Speaker 2 Cameras on the doors, becoming the new Norm, okay? So take a suitcase. They can't they can't tell you what's in the suitcase if you taking your own stuff, if you're moving out, if you live together all you got to do is pack your suitcase and pack some of his stuff to the how do they know what's in the suitcase? Speaker 1 you know, if you leave the door open, Speaker 2 Have I ever fell in love with the dusty? Yeah. When I was 17 dirty. when women are supposed to fall in, love with us, tease Speaker 1 not I'll Speaker 2 get you a suitcase or box. Say I moved Speaker 1 out. Speaker 2 Left the door open because I was Speaker 1 upset. Mmm. How to know if you're ready for marriage. As a woman I mean I don't know, like I was ready because I was there, there was nothing else I was doing. I was dating the same man forever. I mean, what we going to do date till we die? Get married. As Speaker 2 soon as you lie, I will show the video to my lawyer. I'm aware disguise gonna dress like Speaker 1 a man. What you going to do. Speaker 2 Dress like a man. Go in his house and get the Speaker 1 stuff. Leave. There you go. Speaker 2 Y'all know I'm an evil genius, right? I'm a figure it out. Sure it'll show the video to your lawyer. Are they going to see you as a man robbing you? They ain't gonna see Speaker 1 me. You're just an idiot. I'm not the one getting robbed. In fact, I'm aware your clothes. So they could beat you fraud non-insurance. Trying to frame me. Imma get you your clothes and put them on So whatever, Speaker 2 I'ma find a way. Speaker 1 The man are shook. Speaker 2 Yeah, I'm giving I'm giving all these ladies, good ideas because I don't, you know, I always said if I was going to rob a bank if I was going to rob anybody, I'm a dress like a man because that's what they're going to be looking for is a man. I mean, I'm tall. I'm tall. They don't, you know, I all I do is put on some bedclothes. Deepen, my voice. Rob go put on a bunch of makeup, a wig, come out with a dress on me like, hey, how are you? Oh, they went that way. Yeah. Scary. Huh. Speaker 1 Okay, remember men are watching this too. Okay. Well they can't really do anything. If somebody want Robbins recommend, I think I'm due or they could just hire somebody to go in there and get the stuff off. I mean, there's a will there's a way Speaker 2 I'm just saying some women can't get over their eggs, so they need to do something to compensate themselves. I wouldn't really have to do this but I don't care. I wouldn't invest emotionally. I wouldn't care enough for about somebody to actually want revenge or steal their stuff. I wouldn't really care because I would never invest emotionally and for someone who I wasn't, you know, thinking I was going to marry or That didn't please me or that wasn't going to be good, husband material. I wouldn't even thinking of him like Speaker 1 that, so Speaker 2 It's better to move on. Yes, that's him saying. Get over the X. You're not really getting over the man. You're getting over this time and energy and effort and money. You probably spent and you're just mad that you can't get any of that back. So you compensate wanting him back, getting confused that you want him back. You just want your time energy and effort back. Hm. Speaker 1 So we Speaker 2 can do start dating one of his friends. Don't make a real mad. Okay, this friend be like, hey I hope you don't mind. I'm taking your friend. Take his best friend away. and you said did that see go get his friends like you know, just like the whole time even if y'all like them just do it just because you can still his best friend. You know. I always thought you were saying then we like, If you sleep with his friend, you help him clothes. Not real friend. Anyway, exactly. So he lost you and a friend Speaker 1 take to take two away. Speaker 2 Your ex don't have Speaker 1 friends. and, Okay. If you want revenge, we could lose his job. Cheat with a co-worker, huh? Speaker 2 This is high school game. I need to put you on some grown man. It's not high school game it's just Petty. That's all it's super Patty which is exactly why it feels good. It's compensation for what you've lost. It's Revenge Speaker 1 basically but Speaker 2 you don't really need to get revenge. If you never emotionally invested, you won't even care. You'll be so excited that you're single. Speaker 1 With what new Speaker 2 men are out there, waiting for you to appear and spoil. That's what you're going to be focusing on. If you didn't invoke, invest emotionally, but if you did, you you're going to be focusing on wanting him, back or wanting Revenge. So, do whatever makes you feel good inside, and then move on, Whatever makes you feel good. Do it and move on. Does it matter if it's wrong, or right? If it feels right at the time, good for you. You don't feel bad anymore use like, yes, I got him back and and you're not going to want him back because you got em, you got, he got what he deserved and you're going to be like I'm done. I can move on and be free. Speaker 1 so, Speaker 2 However you want to get the revenge is up to you. However you want to feel about moving forward, is up to you, but at the end of the day, any woman who wants her ex back is mad at herself, not him and she really don't want her back. She just wants all the wasted time energy and effort and money. She put into the relationship that she didn't get anything out of so, at the end of the day, It's better to feel good. By getting your compensation. So, for example, you'll always asking me of James did a b c and d, what would I do? Okay, if I had emotionally invested into a real into this marriage with James, and he decided he was leaving me or breaking up with me or something. He like if I was really invested, if I cook it, if I was clean, if I didn't handle maid services, I was, if I was doing stuff every time, he asked me to do it. If I was, you know, being this made, if I was doing all that and he decided to leave me if I let myself go and couldn't get somebody else. If I had loved him, truly and gave my Speaker 1 all. to him, Speaker 2 massage his feet, had his food cooked when he if I did all that crap and he Speaker 1 left Speaker 2 He would regret every day of his life Speaker 1 thereafter okay, cause I don't Speaker 2 play if I were to invest like that but I don't invest Speaker 1 like that. Speaker 2 because if I did, That's how bad Speaker 1 the revenge. No, I did not marry in the church. I married on a yacht. so, Speaker 2 Just like acrimony. Yeah, just like that chick on acrimony. She went crazy. She did all that mess for all them years and when he she the one that broke up with him, you know, then she want him Speaker 1 back. Speaker 2 She made most of every day of their lives hell but I wouldn't, I would be better than that. Like I would know how to get away and do some crazy stuff, but that would only be if I had invested which I never would have because I'm not a pick me. So I would be just like changing my Facebook status and I'm blocking out and people had to block because they was in my inbox talking about. Can I take you out? Let's go eat this, go do this you know that's what I'd be doing you like First come first, serve, how you doing? Okay, but I'm not a pick me G. I don't do all that housework. I don't do all that, you know, catering do, none of that. So I will be fine. Plus, I get all that money. I get all the other stuff I be actually better Speaker 1 off. Speaker 2 So that's what I'm saying. Don't invest emotionally, don't do all that crap. It doesn't pay off ever and never pays off. You will never feel compensated. No matter what. Even if you married, you will never feel compensating because a woman's job. If you do everything, women are supposed to do, it's never compensated. So don't even bother just hire somebody to do it. Okay? You will never be compensated for meals. That you cook or you will never be compensated. For every time you do something, when he want to do it, you will never be compensated for taking care of kids and cleaning and doing laundry. You will never be compensated for it. So don't even father, just hire somebody else to do it and when he dumped you or you leave him or he leave you, you'll be fine. Like Well, on to the next, you know, but if you did all that housework and you look like a maybe because you were a maid and a nanny and a chef and a hooker, you all that you're going to look back. You're going to look used up because you basically we're doing the job of people. And you're going to be pissed, you going to Speaker 1 be mad. Speaker 2 And chances are he probably had no money either so you can't even get them in Speaker 1 court. Speaker 2 Because that means you were a pick me. Are you doing anything for Speaker 1 money? So when you think about exes, think about what you're doing for them, if you're in a relationship that's going south and you realize this stop doing stuff, stop you never going to get repaid, you're never going to feel like you're going to get back what you deserve, even if the relationship is good in the Never Ends, you will never get compensated ever. Okay. So Speaker 2 just be who you want to be and don't worry about what anybody else wants you to be. Because at the end of the day, all you have to live with yourself, you have to live with every decision you made, you have to deal with everything you've done. For another person who has not done anything for you. In return, you got to deal with them, throwing you or rejecting, you throw you in the car Bridge or rejecting you, you got to deal with all of that. So ask yourself, will you be mad? add, if you've been somebody's made, For five to 10 years to 20 years and they just tell you, I don't want Speaker 1 you anymore, Speaker 2 if the answer is that you're going to be mad, best thing to do is stop doing all those Speaker 1 things. Just stop. Going strike. Tell him if he wants that done. He got to hire somebody to do or do it himself. It's like I'm done. I don't watch this, there's no more. That's your job. What guy are maybe thinking Speaker 2 You going to pay me to do it, I'll do it if you pay me. That means I'm getting Speaker 1 compensated. Speaker 2 Okay. You want this house clean? You want dishes, done? You want laundry done? You want this? This this and how okay, go call the maid service right now and ask them how much it costs to do that daily or weekly. Okay. What was the price really? Okay, how about you give me that Speaker 1 money and I'll do it. Speaker 2 But you're supposed to do. You know what? I'm not supposed to do anything. I don't know who told you that, you know, but did it in a sec? Especially if you work, especially if you work. Well, my boss pays me to do things. What you think, you know? So he's gonna be like I'm going to wash my own clothes. You sure do. I got to cook my own meals. You sure do. It. Do I have to come home from work and cook it. Unless you pay me, I'm not doing them. Or you can go hire me. I need this much money in my account every month if you want anything, done Speaker 1 around his house. Speaker 2 What he gonna do divorce you so you can take care of his money. Speaker 1 Mmm. so, Speaker 2 So that's what I'm saying. Y'all don't beat the but I don't even be the maid after you get married, don't even do that because you'll never be Speaker 1 repaid, either. And tip, you happened. I pick and choose my battles. Speaker 2 Should we even should we even get Speaker 1 married? If you want to Speaker 2 thank you, I am carrying. She gave me a nice donation. Thank you. So, you know I'm saying if you you can't get over an ex, just get revenge, Speaker 1 you'll be over in quick or Speaker 2 Before you break up with him and you know, he's going to have a hard time getting over it. You know what to do. Be what a souvenir. We would appoint your souvenirs, Speaker 1 okay? so, Sorry guys, Speaker 2 it's not that I'm against you. It's just that these women are Speaker 1 mentally ill when getting over an ex and Speaker 2 If taking your Little Mac Mac Book Air or you'll PSP, or Xbox is going to help them heal, then let them do it. Let him get on your video games, let him get all your computer. Let them take all that stuff because it's going to help them Speaker 1 heal. You should do that for them. Speaker 2 It might just save your life, you know? I'm just saying. Speaker 1 Mmm. Or if you have a girlfriend and she starts doing all this extra crap, stop her to say, no, you don't have to do this. Don't let her cook and clean and do your laundry. Please, if you want a peaceful break up because you don't plan to marry this chick, don't let her do all that crap. Just tell him you don't have to do that. Stop. I don't want you cleaning and better. Ah, you know, I don't want you cooking me food. I don't want you. Doing if the man stands up and says, I don't want you doing these things. That should be the first clue. Like, okay. Stop doing all this emotionally. Emotional investing. I don't see you like this. You know? She's gonna think it's romantic. Oh, he don't want me to cook and clean. He must be the one. Speaker 2 But when you go out with her, she's not going to be as Speaker 1 mad. So, think about it. Speaker 2 You ain't gonna have to worry about your stuff Speaker 1 missing. Speaker 2 Do you have more tips for men in relationships? Yeah, don't let your women out. Do you if your woman is giving more to you than your given to her? It's not because she loves you, it's because she is trying. I mean, she does love you, but it's because she's trying to get you to do the same back and return. And she thinks it's going to pay off one day and when it doesn't, that's when she gets real crazy. Okay. So if you're not giving just as much than stop her from doing it, just tell her Speaker 1 Her please, Speaker 2 you know, you're doing too much. You know, I'm happy with the way things are. You don't have to do extra let's just take this Speaker 1 slow. Okay, Speaker 2 don't allow her to do all those things because all you're doing is digging a hole and making her invest more into you and later on. She's going to start to feel empty because she's not getting much in return and she's going to start feeling bad about herself and that she's not this, and she's not that she's not worth it, and she's going to lose herself by trying to cater to you so much. And you don't even see her as wife material. So stop the pygmies from doing that stuff. Okay, stop them. And some of them they don't even know. They're pygmies because they're just young, they don't know any better. You're going to have to stop them. No, please don't buy me anything while you're out. No, please don't wash my clothes. No please stop cooking for me. No, please stop doing those things with me. No, you don't have to pay. No, don't buy me expensive birthday gifts, tell them because if you don't, you're exploiting them and when they, when you break up with them, you're not going to even know what to expect, because they're going to be so crazy. Speaker 1 Mmm. Thank you. so Speaker 2 in another, in another piece of advice for guys, If you don't plan on being with that woman or ever marrying, her tell her straight up Speaker 1 you like, you know Speaker 2 what, I don't just say. I don't want to get married. Just, you don't have to say to you just say, I never, I'm never getting married. If they're dumb enough to stick around thinking, they can change you their fault, but tell them over and over. I'm never married. Speaker 1 This will help. Get Speaker 2 them in and out. Speaker 1 Okay? Speaker 2 So they'll be like, okay well I can change his mind and then a year or two later I'm never getting married. They don't get mad and leave and that save you. A lot of trouble and they can't say anything mean to you because you told him from the start, I'm never getting married. I will never get married, do not even bother asking me, I will sleep with you. We can be in a relationship but don't expect a ring ever tell him that They will never, they will never. Be able to say you lied to me, you led me on because you told him and some of the pygmies will like you even more because you said you would never marry. Then they're gonna be like oh well if I have his baby then we together for life. You better? You better wear some condom, so Just say I don't want to get married now I don't believe in marriage. Don't believe in ring, don't even want you to live with me. Don't even let him live with, you know, you can't move in just be like that. If that's how you going to be, don't lie and trick them because You can get them in and out and get a nice rotation going, you know what I'm saying? And the funny thing is, they'll be on their best behavior. So you can see them as a wife. Nobody Speaker 1 like I'm good wife Speaker 2 material. You know, so you going to have a really good girlfriend? Until she realizes that you never going to marry her, then she's out then it's like, okay, now I'm free on, go get me another one. You know, that's what I do if I was a man if I didn't want to get married or if I don't want to marry that person I was with. I mean like not I don't believe in marriage. I don't get married. I don't want no kids just say I don't want kids I don't want marriage. I don't even want you living here Speaker 1 and see what they do. Speaker 2 If you go, if you got to be a man, be a real man and tell him. What's what it is? Don't lie. Don't try to convince them. That it's okay to emotionally. Invest just tell them who you are. Look, no, you can't live here. No, I don't want, you know, I don't want you to have my baby. No, I don't want her. You can come get this every once in a while, but that's about it. Don't call me. Don't text me, I'll call it text you. Speaker 1 That's how it's Gotta Be. Speaker 2 Oh, I like him. You know, pick me school? Ah, I'm a change him. I know he gonna be mine. Speaker 1 Okay. So, the best, the best advice to guys just be straight up, don't lie, just tell them what it is. They're like you even more parmesan. That's because the pygmies are crazy. A smart woman won't even give you the time of day. They'll be like oh okay, well thanks for telling me. The pygmies will take it as a challenge. The smart woman, I'll be like Good luck. so, Speaker 2 and if some of you ladies are in that situation right now, Get out. Speaker 1 I don't I see the you see Speaker 2 the light, all right? My ex stole all my stuff when he left and I did everything for him. See they would do it to you in a heartbeat. So why wouldn't you do Speaker 1 it to them? Speaker 2 Thank you. I'm just saying, you know. What, what some smooth things to say to avoid having sex other men online? Speaker 1 Oh, start seeing some real freaky stuff. They are afraid to do. Speaker 2 Do eat. I'm just, I'm just start saying some crazy stuff that you know, they will never agree to. And that's the only thing that turns you Speaker 1 on. This is my problem. This is why I'm single because I'm just too funky. Speaker 2 Name some nasty stuff that they will never agree to and just tell them. This is all I get turned on. You don't want to do that. I can't sleep Speaker 1 with you. Well, Speaker 2 then they're gonna start going home to watch videos and see if they can get into it. But by then you you don't got what you want in your Speaker 1 out. Take the opposite. Take the opposite direction. Like don't be shy, be too much for them. Make make them like uncomfortable. Speaker 2 What if they like it? Add something worse to it. They can't like everything. No, I'm not saying. You must not know what freaky is, okay? You must not know Speaker 1 what freaky is. Okay. Cuz Speaker 2 there's some stuff that would make a lot of people uncomfortable, just go look it up and figure it out and that's what you use when they try to get Speaker 1 some Speaker 2 No, go worse. Like you got to go work. You got to go so far that. They won't even talk about sex anymore that Speaker 1 night, okay? Um, No, no. I'm, y'all see. Y'all are rated PG. I'm talking about rated triple double helix like Speaker 2 Not even you not even allowed in this country. Okay, Speaker 1 you got to go crazy, Speaker 2 so he will be like, no, I'm so Speaker 1 sorry. Speaker 2 Go far go as far as you Speaker 1 can take it there. Hmm. Well, the last time we had last time, you know I got intimate with someone. We ended up in the emergency room If you know what I'm something, you know, something went wrong. He was in the emergency room all day and all night. He was so embarrassed. He's going to see what whole different way then, you know, he's going to try to tame you down. Well, what if we just do this instead you know then you have time to negotiate? No. Speaker 2 I don't know. I have to have it this way. Well, maybe if we do this, hmm, let me think Speaker 1 about it. Speaker 2 Well, maybe I could try this but don't do that. Speaker 1 That's the deal Speaker 2 breaker. I know next week we'll be able to come up with some type of, you Speaker 1 know, Compromise. Speaker 2 But for now I need this Rampage. Okay. Okay. And I think about it. Okay, so there you Speaker 1 go. How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, right? Well, that would be a good video how to lose a Dusty in 10 days. Mmm. What if you built, what they make? What if you built with a man? And it's not shit. Do you leave even though you spent so much time and energy, Speaker 2 What did you build? I mean, do job build anything together like do is there something that you guys built? Take what you Speaker 1 built. Mmm. Speaker 2 If you didn't build anything, you can't take Speaker 1 anything. So Hmm. Speaker 2 Please respect me and like we respect you. I do. I respect Speaker 1 men. You know, Speaker 2 this is just for the women that are seeking Speaker 1 advice. so Speaker 2 anyway, The tips on how to get over your ex are in the first part of this video. I was just answering questions after, but they're good tips. They make sense they break down why most women really want their ex back. It's not that they want them back. It's that they wasted a lot of time and energy and they want that back. But since they can't get that back they think having the man back his compensation, but it's not. So getting revenge or taking something that you feel. Will will compensate you. It's probably going to be the best bet or not ever in book investing emotionally and to anybody until they give you and prove to you that they are husband material. Speaker 1 And make you their Speaker 2 wife and even don't 100% emotionally invest then because there's always divorce. Speaker 1 Okay. Speaker 2 When I broke up my exes in the past, I would burn all Speaker 1 the pictures. Speaker 2 I never kept none of that crap. Speaker 1 I just Speaker 2 what? Well, I lost it in the move. I don't remember where I put. I didn't value them that much. Because I knew they weren't husband material on. Like, this ain't gonna be my little girl. I haven't met my husband yet. Y'all just time pastors. Yeah, I just drink buyers. Yeah, just food buyer. Did you date a man who owns a gun? Only if you own one Speaker 1 too. Speaker 2 You still have your letter X as letters from the night. I throw all that crap away. I don't look back, I'll be embarrassed. I can't believe what was I thinking. you had a guy that had like, 12 guns, Speaker 1 So I Speaker 2 ripped up my ex's. Basic training, military love letters, right in front of him. Y'all think that hurts them. They don't Speaker 1 care. They just happy you gone so they can get some new stuff. You know, some new they can't wait for you to get up out of there so they can start working on the next chick. Okay. PA Speaker 2 tear it up a with. Yeah, I need to get on Tinder. Are you don't lie? Her up, get out. I got people Speaker 1 waiting on me. Speaker 2 You know what I'm saying? They like it out. Hurry up already. Got somebody Speaker 1 waiting. I'm late they don't care. Okay. And Speaker 2 see when you break up with a man, they're going to go hurry up. And replace you quick. They're gonna go find rebound, chick Speaker 1 quick. Speaker 2 So, just remember that. If you plan on taking them back, they probably have already found some rebound. Chicken goes to her by Speaker 1 then. So Speaker 2 when you get him back he's going to have been with probably a few other women that he still keeps in contact with throughout the relationship that you took him back into. He's going to have some side chicks because he already know you going to take him back after he cheated. So why throw these numbers away? Let me keep these numbers because I know she take back cheater. So if I get caught again, I'll be. I'll be right back. I go have a break. Go out with these chicks, she's going to call me back in two weeks. Anyway, let me just keep this in rotation. Speaker 1 So Speaker 2 if you take a cheat next back, they have already had time to meet a couple Speaker 1 of women. Sleep with a couple of women Speaker 2 and they're going to keep those numbers and you're going to feel stupid again and again, so don't take, don't ever take expec leave already. They've already been out doing fun things. And they will want to do more fun things, now that they've gotten that taste in that freedom. And you'll never be able to control them after that it's going to be like what have Speaker 1 I done? Hmm. Speaker 2 so once it's not a lot of women with common sense out here, What would you leave? Would you leave if your husband lost his job now because he has a career, he has a career which means he's in high. Demand everywhere. You lose one job. There's five jobs. That's emailing him. Now, he still employed. That's what happens. When you have a career, not a job. That's why I say, don't go for me with jobs, go for career man. Speaker 1 You know. Make sure. Speaker 2 Career man, not Speaker 1 job. No, Dusty's merch. Speaker 2 How do you get the Young Rich Nigerian got? Don't ask me about no young man, who deal with young Speaker 1 man. Speaker 2 Okay, waste of time waste of time. Can you imagine you get some? Past dirt. On officials. You got it made right? Speaker 1 Blackmail um, how long did it take you to move on? I never cried over no tanks. Like I was done like after day three. I was already the worst. Probably Day 2 or 3? I was already going out with other person another person. So Yes, that was that. Speaker 2 the reason why I Speaker 1 don't, Speaker 2 Know about younger men because to me, they're not there just like something to pass the time, they're not serious, you know what I mean? I don't feel like they're worth investing into emotionally or anyway because they're not going to give you anything. They're not going to benefit your life. They're not going to add to you. They're just going to experience you. And move on. So I Speaker 1 don't really think that Speaker 2 unless you're just trying to have fun. Then I really wouldn't advise seriously dating them, you know, data for fun, whatever. But I would not seriously get into any type of emotional relationship with one. Women are too mature to date young men, okay, they I'm going to try to tell you guys something, so y'all can understand this women mature, too fast in, men are not mature in their 20s women think, like, they're at least in their 30s, when they're in their 20s men, still think like they're teenagers in their twenties. So you can't really Date them successfully you know? So I suggest if you're in your 20s and you want some type of decent relationship, go for an older man. Least 10 years older than you. Okay, because you're not going to get cooperation, you're not going to get understanding, you're not going to get the type of mature relationship. You're looking for, you're just going to get hurt. Okay, emotionally. Because they're not trying to settle down. They're trying to have fun. Okay? Um, Shira. What would you do this new rich, man. You're dating is sterilized and you want kids. Speaker 1 Um, sterilized, I like that word, Speaker 2 then tell him. Do what you got to do, get married. And then Go get artificially Speaker 1 inseminated. Or adopt. The only thing that's going to happen is he won't have to pay child support if you divorce, but you still get the marriage benefits in the divorce. if he's Rich, you can afford to go get knock, you know, inseminated it's okay I need money for liposuction or hey, I need money for Botox and just go get him some animated Speaker 2 I'm just lying. Say I need money for a procedure, he's going to think some type of surgery on type of cosmetic procedure and go get the other procedure and then when you wind up pregnant showing the paperwork, I got them. Artificially inseminated surprise. You going to be a daddy. And by the time he going to be hooked anyway, he ain't going to leave Speaker 1 unless he wants to, you know. Speaker 2 Do what you want to do. After the fact get him, click them, go get yourself, a baby somewhere else and if you want it from a certain man asked him to donate the sperm and then you go have them inseminate with that Speaker 1 matter. Hmm, how to make a guy really fall in love lie. Put it on them. Speaker 2 Tell me everything he wants to hear because best supporter cheerleader, understand everything for 10. You got to act Most men in their 50s. Don't look like they are even that old. Exactly like a lot of women think when they think of safety, they think of some old man with gray hair, most guys that are 50 still look like they're 40 something or some even look 30 something because you know, lots of guys work Speaker 1 out Speaker 2 People are aging as fast or they dye their hair. You know. You can't tell they dyed her hair to got here died they got a beard so you can't see all the wrinkles. There's some block now or black, don't crack. Whatever. They don't look 50, I'm trying to tell you Speaker 1 Jamie Foxx is 50, right? Will Smith. I think he's almost 50. Speaker 2 So when y'all say 50, that's not even a hold Speaker 1 to us. Speaker 2 Just, that's because they're actors. Who I know? I know guys that I mean, I know a lot like the dude next door. He don't look nowhere. Close to his age, you know. I've seen 65 year olds. Look 30. Okay, I promise you. Speaker 1 Yeah, Speaker 2 especially the ones that work out. so, That's all I'm saying. 50 to meet 50 if I were if I were to start all over. 50 would be too young for me, okay? I couldn't date a 50 year old. That's too young for me. Like if I had to start all over. That's only 11 years older than me. And I'm like, No, I need somebody at Speaker 1 65. Thank you. so, Yes. Speaker 2 What if you're not attracted? To the older man? Though. Envision someone else in bed. LOL. Um Vision, all your likes, getting cut off and the eviction notices on your door. Speaker 1 No, I'm just kidding. Um, Do whatever you need to do, I don't know. Well, I got to go to bed. It's 1 a.m. have to wake up early. Convert to Pagan. Why would I do that? I'm already. Speaker 2 So, what is your zodiac sign? I'm a Speaker 1 Pisces. Hmm. How do you get past the Bad Karma for doing this to me, I don't believe in karma because it's a choice. And I always say this like Karma is a choice. You either feel guilty or you don't, and I don't, so I don't attract anything. I don't attract a punishment for any type of guilt because I don't feel guilty about it. It's just the choice that I make. It's a Well, calculated decision that I thought about planned and logically came up with to execute. So, I don't feel guilty about it. It's premeditated when you premeditate, something you don't feel guilty about it. Speaker 2 Because you're planning it. This is what you doing. This is you're taking steps towards it because you understand the outcome in the effects that you're going to get and it's positive. So you only see things as positive. So you don't attract any negative things to you, because you have a plan and the end result is Speaker 1 positive. Speaker 2 And it's actually up to that man to do whatever you need to do. If you take things from him, if you do things from them, you are his karma, okay? You become his karma Speaker 1 because if you used and abused you and dumped you and you choose to take action against that by getting revenge, you became his karma and Whatever. Or you took action into your own hand, you took your own justice. So, whatever you choose to do, if they choose to do the same thing to you then. You have to calculate that type of person into your plan is see someone that's going to seek revenge or you have to incorporate him not ever knowing you did something to him and being clueless of who did it. But as long as you know, something has been done, you're good at here, you know? You got to be smart. Speaker 2 Can a woman, motivate a man for Success yeah. His mama. 50s. His Speaker 1 mom. Speaker 2 If she didn't do, if she didn't finish. Raising him. Don't get in Speaker 1 line, okay? Hm. I am leveling up myself. Everyday, good. If you look at your what. Oh, okay. It just came in that right time? Yeah. So basically y'all make Speaker 2 sure before you leave a relationship. You feel good about leaving Speaker 1 it. Speaker 2 Don't leave the relationship. Don't break up with someone. If you know, you're going to take them back in two weeks. This is dumb. in fact, if you plan on breaking up with them, have a plan on how to get what you want before you leave the relationship. you know, if you already know he cheated, Tell him you forgive him. Oh, all you have to do is buy me a ring. It doesn't even have to be. We don't even have to get married, just buy me a nice diamond. Ring, a promise ring that you will never do it again and I'll stay with you get the ring, then be out. I thought about it. I can do it. I got a nice ring. Okay, Speaker 1 so Speaker 2 just make sure you leave feeling like you got what you needed to get out of the relationship. That's it. Okay. If he cheated on you, he messed over you. You pretend like you're going to take them back after he buys you this expensive jewelry that he's put on, you know, credit Make it quite a bit. I want this ring. You have a credit card. Put this on it and I'ma stay with you. I promise you. I can get over this. You know. I know you are man. I know you make mistakes. I know you don't love her like they all the Pick Me lines. You can think of get the ring then bounce when he buys you that three four carat ring on his credit card but he has to pay off every month. Go get you that ring. And then one day while he's at work working to pay off your ring Speaker 1 pack, all your stuff and go. They can't come and find you to take the ring. All they gonna do is keep building him. I'm keep bailing him and keep billing him. Then he's gonna be looking for you cause you got this ring, then you gonna be trying to really marry you, but I thought we was getting married. I didn't say I was gonna marry you. I just said this a promise ring. I Promise You Gonna Learn Today. Gonna be out and, Gotcha. Speaker 2 Oh man, you were over there. I'm gonna pay these bills. You wrong for that. Oh, like he was wrong for cheating. Now you see how it feels right? You can't even get the ring back. You can't take back time. You can't take that time. You can't take back energy. You can't take back any of that. Just like, you can't take back this ring. Speaker 1 But you Speaker 2 still have to pay for it, right? Or your credit is going to be. You better report that car Speaker 1 stolen? Speaker 2 I'ma tell him your name. Tell. Nope, I tell him where you live. I'll tell him the car wasn't stolen. Don't. Alright, thank you guys, I gotta go. Remember, get what you need to get before you leave the relationship. So you don't go chasing him because you feel like you weren't compensating. Do my ideas and you leave happy. Speaker 1 Bye.