Hopeless Romance with an Audacious Femme

Welcome back slurs. I am Robert Townsend. And I am Dr. Serena Fairfax and this is the read. Thank you for joining us. Thank you for joining us indeed. Hope you're well and hope you're you know it's it's going to be May. So keep that eye on the prize. Let's start the usual festivities with black excellence this week. We're going to give honor over to a collective known as or orchestra noir. It's an all black orchestra that was created in 2016 led by one Jason Ikeem Rogers from North Philly has been in Atlanta for about 14 years which is where this group was originated this office to fill in a huge gap lacking blackness within classical music and to bring black folk who are not interested in classical music or think that they're not interested in classical music up to the front they have been all over the place from the inaugural Juneteenth Freedom Vibes Festival Jimmy Fallon show they were the first orchestra to first US orchestra to present at Red Bull Symphonic and yeah they're selling out shows all across the country right now and I think part of the appeal for Unigro's who wouldn't go to this sort of function is that they're working in early 2000s hip hop and R&B songs you know switching the game up so that you girls can go out there and you know I guess drop down and get your eagle on or whatever but with great music and instrumentation and talented people Jason said I felt the nation needed to see in here an all black orchestra that was playing and performing its own culturally representative music in a very authentic way and not shying away from anything in regards to how we do culture that era of music wasn't just popular it was foundational shaped identity confidence culture this man has three degrees in what is it he has three degrees and I think classical music yeah nice went to Philadelphia school district Cleveland student music listen you can look up orchestra noir see if they're coming to a city near you and go have a good time a Wayne Daniel and tell me all about it um yeah looks okay this week and our hot tops segment just a couple of things to talk about first I want to talk about this story that this isn't really a big deal our story to me but it's kind of petty apparently Sydney Sweeney was supposed to be in devil whereas prodigy for like three minutes playing herself and reports are saying that she was cut from the movie obviously you have a lot to say about this lady after you know her jeans were blue or whatever and so yeah they're like her and they I guess say she's mago although she's not said she is but she hasn't said she's not right um but anyway I read that it was more of a creative thing than a dramatic petty thing for us as to be a lot but they say that Emily from the last film is actually working at Dior which I didn't notice in the trailer but she's I guess head of operations at Dior and there's scenes supposed to be at the early parts of the movie where I guess they're dressing Sydney Sweeney up for something and therefore it goes that it just didn't make structural sense for that part of the movie so they're kind of out take that with like that how you want I don't know well I do love it if it is true um I don't want Sydney Sweeney to prosper at all and if you can't say that you're not mega then you might as well be mega as far as I'm concerned so yeah I'd like to see her in fewer things I love how chilly just like she was just hiding her hands and Tiana was like well let me tell you who this bitch bought her for she did snitch the immediately my group mate did she's a good way to tell us oh yeah yeah you niggas gotta pick a sad yikes I too will be fine um from going to the thought of oh god do they really need to make this movie to genuinely looking forward to watching it Sydney Sweeney not being in it is like oh frosting too that's nice it tastes good yeah like she wouldn't have ruined it but it's even better knowing that she maybe just got kicked out of it that's even better that's not even just that she maybe not being in it but she maybe got kicked out yeah yeah like they were like oh actually that's not even the vibe babe that's just literally not the vibe the girls don't come here for that we don't that weird Eurocentric my jeans or blue I have great jeans even though I'm I'm very funny looking like yeah that's not the that's not really the the vibe we want to have for the movie so no thank you I love that thought they probably try to put her in jeans in the in the shot and she said now and they're like well girl beat it if you can't make fun of you why would you be at a door fitting where in jeans she was like just fire mean just fucking fire means jeans really oh I guess it's we're just having a good time okay so now y'all just doing shit what was Ashley ever doing on them people's boat oh my god I just logged on the threads the first thing I saw is a group of black people in all red just having the time of their life dancing they asses off doing the Wu Tang and backflip in and house party one two and three and I was like oh look at these like it's having a good time and I saw something about a cruise I'm like oh they're having a good time on a cruise unfathomable and I realized it was like something about this like this all this information came to me back so it started with the shade and then I saw okay this is a in response to some other black woman on this ship that complained about something and then I found out that other black woman is Ashley ever and that she walked her ass up on the stage that she wasn't supposed to be on and try to do the single it's choreography and they told her to get her ass down and then I guess she made it into like a they're giving black people a hard time on this boat and I believe nearly every black person present on the boat was like no I'm having the greatest time they're feeding me devil eggs out of their hands it's been a blast so yeah I saw that same thing on threads and I also I saw something about her complaining that they didn't do nothing special for her birthday um and then I said yeah something about it was my birthday and it wasn't nothing done for me something like that and then the next post was they had a great it hard to like a sweet on the boat and so she was like okay I'm gonna delete them post then because now I'm happy that I have the VIP room but yeah I also I also saw other people being like this boat is great and it's a virgin voyages cruise so I know y'all was having fun those cruises are incredible I've been on two they are they are first of all virgin voyages is adults only no kids well that's a great story which immediately makes it elite as far as I'm concerned but yeah I've been on two one to the Caribbean and one around uh France and Spain and it was so much fucking fun um so I'm not surprised that everybody else was like I don't know what the issue is with her I don't know why she thought like we all knew the dates for this cruise you accepted the invitation knowing that the cruise was happening during your birthday I don't did you want strippers to your room like did you want somebody coming out of a cake like but I don't know it's it's a bunch of you know niggas posting on social media it's not like some real new story about it but yeah the girl is definitely did pipe up to be like do not let her experience a virgin keep you from going on virgin bitch because we are having a good ass time and I can concur that they they gave me shit for free I paid fully out of pocket I the first time I got a regular room second time I did the VIP um and both times it was an incredible experience how long were your were your could did you like a week it was yeah the first one uh around the Caribbean was I think like four days and then the one around uh Europe that we did for my graduation that was like a week and the boat docks like every day or every other day so we went to Abiza and we went to like this wine field in France and so you get the opportunity to get off the boat and go do shit in them cities but you can also just stay on the boat. They got pools, there's plenty of liquor, there's no children, I can't emphasize that enough. They got clubs and gambling and karaoke rooms. Yes restaurants on the boat the food on the boat was great so like I just next time I go I'm gonna bring a nigga that was the only thing missing like you do need something to fuck on but other than that it is a good time. It's a good time. The best sleep on the boat. Oh my God yes you open that door and that's the thing even the small rooms have a little balcony so everybody has a private outdoor space even though you're not supposed to smoke on it. They very strict about that but they all have a balcony that has a hammock in it so you can lay out there and go to. Oh yes. Yes. Hamptok. Yes. Or you can luxury or you can just leave the balcony door open and let that ocean air come in at night while that boat is rocking your ass. Baby I can't wait I cannot wait for my next project. I've never cruised anybody but virgin so when y'all are like oh I went on Carnival and it was kids everywhere whatever I'm like yeah I don't know nothing about that but I had a great fucking time on my cruise. Both of them. It just 10 out of 10. Loved it. hammocks on the function. Now I see why niggas was like Ashley girl we not trying to hear that before a virgin up and stop inviting our black asses on this amazing shit. Now you shut your ass up. Anybody go tell you to up in the club just woke up on this motherfucking stage bitch their ropes on it. Ropes on it for a reason. Yeah they said we don't we all know you was in a single ladies video we know who you are we all have a lot of respect for your talent and your resume but don't get some line on these people okay because I want to stay on the PR list and I do not claim y'all. I know some people for a version where cat go with it. So but you know she got an upgraded room so that seems to have made her happy and maybe that was maybe she just wanted you know a little extra special attention because she felt extra special. I don't know. I really don't. Why does she just do it on the dear floor? Well because she's extra special. I don't know. I don't know. I don't want to sit here and talk this lady if none if if everybody's kind of blowing this out of proportion but I didn't see all them post from people being like I'm having a grand old time. Never want to leave. So yeah I get it. What makes sense now why I saw this sister who like Dr. Contessa doing a Wu Tang and that red dress I was like what is going on. This is on our cruise. Oh yes. This thing is happening a good time. I mean you know there was like a creator. Yeah yeah and Virgin is because it's adults only they have a lot of adult theme stuff. They're they have comedy nights which I mean that's one thing but they also you know the swingers be put be putting pineapples on the door and what yes or people wear pine apples or they'll put on the door so you know that they're down for the swinging shit. I saw one guy pineapples. I saw actually a few pineapples is the is the sign for we swinging and we down the fuck on this boat and I saw a couple of people who had like little whiteboards on their doors and they're like here's my only fans link if you like what you see put your room number down or something and less link like I'm shooting only fans content while I'm on this cruise yes okay well that's business. That's an investment but but because this adults only you can do stuff like that because it ain't no children when I'm like what's only fans so yeah it's great it's great I can't wait to go again. I just got to find a nigga that I want to be on a boat with for a week. Reddit what does this deal with pineapples and swingers. The pineapples specifically the upside down pineapples. Yes, symbol that swingers community. Swingers community uses as identification it can be and decorations the core clothes are just in mention. Yep. Doesn't say why it's a pineapple. Oh yeah that I don't know but that's that's they that's they signal like pineapple upside down cake. What do they have to do with it gives because like you know a pineapple upside down cake is almost like a like a casserole it's one of those things that you like in the neighborhood would bring over to. Okay with the neighbors. Oh wow. How did y'all take that into my guess. That is my best guess. Okay that's not a bad one but yeah that I can't I can't say it and you would think they sponsored me the way I love that fucking boat. I had a good time. Maybe now they will. Well I mean listen the next time y'all decide you want to invite some niggas out please please the email address is open I would love to go. Because you got to make sure they give you a plus one. Oh yeah yeah that I mean I've gone with friends obviously it's fun don't get me wrong but sometimes you've just been hitting the drinks and partying on now you're like I just need some like that's all that's missing is something to fuck on. But maybe you don't bring something to fuck on because what if they're you're gonna meet somebody to fuck on on the boat. Exactly. He cut. Yes yes so I'm almost tempted now because it does sound like a fun time but I'm afraid to do cruises that are more than was just like the weekend. I think they do have shorter ones around the Caribbean that are like maybe three or four days but yeah. But they're not like okay I've been to the Caribbean at times. Right. Right. Going to Ibiza Ibiza and stopping at all of these other different European places sounds more. Yeah. A bang for your buck. Right. But I'm afraid. I'm scared. But I will watch the Tik Tokies. Yeah I'm glad y'all are having fun because it's it's a good time. I haven't even more fun now because now there are memes. I was there and they are chewing Ashley up. I said damn they are annoyed with her. I said girl it's hundreds of influences on this but I don't know why you think you elite but okay she got her upgraded room so there you go. Penna rose on you niggas nose. Did you see this video of ice spice at the McDonald's? I did. I didn't eat. It was too much talk and so much talking in that video. It really really was if you guys haven't seen it. Ice spice was Adam McDonald's here in a way somewhere 2D it was just her and a white girl who served absolutely no purpose. What a disappointment this woman was that was with her. Anyway. Yeah. Some young lady approached ice spice and trying to do the where you from. Check it and whatever shit and just slapped her for no fucking reason. And they got separated by some fuck mega who was also threatening to beat her up. And it's just her and this white girl who ain't doing a fuck thing. I felt so bad for her. Yeah. I it seems what I heard was that somebody who works at the McDonald's tip that other girl off that ice spice was there. I guess ISIS now understands that like she's too famous to just be sitting in a McDonald's eating like. It's one thing to go through the drive through and pick up a order and go home. But girl, you can't just be sitting in McDonald's with no security because these bitches will run up on you. I'm glad it didn't, you know, escalate into something crazier. But yeah, I was actually shocked she didn't have nobody with her. This white woman did fuck all. She kind of tried to break it up and then a man got involved as she just went and picked up like the cup of pop that not fell over. So I'm like, girl, are you not with this bitch? Like you supposed to be fine. What is going on? Yeah. Yeah. That young woman would not have even gotten close to as soon as I hear their tone. I'm standing if I was the girl. I'm standing up. You're not even getting close to this young lady because what do you even want? Because I know because what do you even want besides attention? Yeah. Why are you running up on me? Some of y'all really, some of y'all really got to go have a conversation with the people who neglected you or dismissed you or just never acknowledged you or your heart because y'all go outside try to pick a fight with somebody to recognize it so you can be on the shade room on TMZ. That's a wildlife. That's a wildlife wildlife. Yeah. I will say at least I spiced a Sheila like, you know, when it went there, she was busy. She offered me to one of them fucking the McDonald's. That was actually hilarious. If you were her set up, it was like, less fight. I want to fight that. Yeah. Yeah. She's a let me fight that bitch. They took that shit outside in the streets. I'm like, please somebody like this is I mean, I used to really love watching people fight, but Yeah, this just felt like you know extremely targeted and like it could really get out of hand way too quickly So right yeah fighting for absolutely no First that you don't know So bothers right and that shit was gross asking me where I'm from when everybody know I'm from the Bronx It's just you know you're not asking where I'm from you're telling me you want to fight That's why like exactly. This is too much talking. What is this white girl even doing it? So exactly Man, yeah, well, I'm sure she know now she won't make that mistake again That's the same shit. I was thinking to that white girl. Why don't you wait girl? You have to be like you know where she's brought bitch the Bronx. She says in every fucking topic Man, what a useless individual Like even if it was the Bronx like maybe if she's like in the McDonald's and in on a black you grew up on And that's still when she was right. Yeah, she probably wouldn't even do it all other city. Yeah A shame, but yeah, you can't be out here by yourself girl. You too famous for that Hmm lessons learned speaking of ice The hip-hop fees or all the buzz with Drake's Iceman album finally having a Release date First of all, we need to talk about how this release date came to be or how the announcement of it came to be now this ice sculpture Yep This nigga Interanto had someone erect a Mountain of ice like a bunch of ice breaks. I don't even know what it was supposed To be I think it was supposed to maybe look like a stack of money. Whatever. It was a bunch of it was ice. I was an ice Yeah And he's all people that within this Mr. Freeze art piece was the release date of his next album and surprises And a countless amount of fans went out into the streets It's spring now, so I'm gonna assume that Toronto is not freezing cold. Oh, it is But that ice is That ice definitely is and I read on the news outlets that the girls are out there with pic acts They're out there with screw timers. They're out there with blow torches Everybody fighting to chip away at this ice like there was a golden ticket inside that would take them to the chocolate factory where they would then you know eat candy flower petals or whatever the shit Apparently one person did end up finding like a blue bag in the ice that has some money and a magazine in it that said May 15 But that was not long before Toronto's Fire department said we're gonna melt this I didn't know that part Yeah, they went out there spraying the whole thing with hot water to melt it down They said the city's tripping and this is dangerous. Yeah Well, so like what I actually what I thought it was a cute idea The giant ice sculpture and having the fans go out there and try to chip at it, but I can see how The city would be like this is causing a problem like I don't know how many people are out here or how long it took them to do it But I thought the idea itself was not a bad one Yeah, I think it's a cool idea too. I wonder if it was a thing where he got like a permit or whatever to do it And then the city was like, okay, we didn't expect it to be this way Somebody's gonna get hurt. Yeah, right and one person is gonna see the gold and take it and then they're gonna fight. Yeah They already have weapon. Yeah But it took I mean it took a big ass team all these pictures They posted it took a big team to assemble this and and make it happen. So yeah Maybe a better idea and concept in an execution, but So and it's only a few weeks away Line them up and be like here is is your ice man Fork, I don't know, but you've been each something safe. It's just take five minutes and chip Something not super dangerous like but you don't like it. Maybe it was a little bit more contained Moderated direct did then it wouldn't have gotten shut down so quickly Either way somebody found a goddamn bag. It's money and magazines in it. So congratulations. Yeah Are you looking forward to hearing it? Do you have an evening? No No, you know, I always try with Drake. It's just that he usually lose it lately since Scorpion. He has lost me within the first track or two so Once again, I'm going to give it my best, but I'm not I can't say I'm anticipating it because it's been a while since he's really hooked me with the music I don't I mean, I know he put out some songs last year. Maybe those will also be on this, but Who knows? I mean get back to rapper. You know, I was I pulled up like one of my you know how Apple will do those You know your top songs of 2023 or whatever playlist. I was listening to one of those other day and nice for what was was on it and I was like, you know, if we can just get back to this. I Would be fully locked in like I this is the Drake that I like that I fucked with That was number one on my Apple music wrapped or whatever like that, but I don't I don't think we're getting back to. I don't think we're getting back to the girl I just respect you and love you so much girl. Why you won't even give me a toenail wife of attention girl Please like, but that is the Drake that I like that is the Drake that I wish would come back What do you think might take place because I agree do I think there's ice man like I guess cold I'm cold-hearted now. Yeah, yeah, this is I don't see him being positive about Especially not women and it's gonna be all you niggas turned on me For real, yeah, and so now I don't give a shit and I did see a lot of critique of like in this current climate Do you really think calling yourself ice is the best move like? Why would you even want to refer to yourself as these people who are going around snatch a people up and separating them from Niki It's like which is valid, but If you're saying if your heart and soul are cold as ice or whatever, then I guess you don't really care no more, so But I will give it a fair shot I didn't even think of the ice part of it. Yeah, shit I will also give it a chance I completely agree that his last maybe like two or three albums Well, you like at least the last two I gave it honest try and I was like I'm not really fucking it with this who look a nesk lyricism and tone yeah And now that I'm sure he feels like and how that we know he feels like everybody hurt his feelings. I Just anticipate that he's gonna have a lot to say about a lot of people. I believe a lot of it will be shady I don't know he's gonna say too many names Um I feel like he probably will say Savannah's oh Yeah, cuz bron just cuz he's that type of nigga I am curious is if he's gonna like It's gonna do any Kendrick shade I just feel like that would be so unwise, but not Have you have you not had enough that would be my question like has it not been enough though Yeah, after that whole year of that nigga beating your ass on the charts and in the court of public opinion and in the actual courts Like have you just not had enough? I would leave that man alone literally go after the niggas who you feel like turned on you after the Kendrick thing, but That little nigga has shown you that he can easily handle you. Please just leave him. Oh, please Not like us came on my little shuffle Sometime this past week and I was again like He dog walked That's no part of it. Yeah, he just Wrangled this man On the Bob and this was not even the most venomous one right what else is there to say on that yeah I do feel like he'll probably address you know everyone calling him a pedophile Hey, man's friend and probably the lawsuit Oh, yeah, well, okay. I mean what is there to say? Right? I mean stop going after Teenage girls I guess like I would love to just see you date grown women Publicly that would be amazing that would go a long way to getting rid of those pedophile rumors What helped a lot Well, yeah, Drake, I will check this thing out on May 15th. That is if I stop listening to Zara Larson's new album that comes out of May 1st, we'll have two weeks at least. So maybe by then, I'll be taking a break from that. So is God Is comes out on May 15th, so I might not even be able to do this at this time. May 18th. Yeah. That's true. I might not have the time. And Delulu Hive thinks Beyonce is putting an album out around the Meg Gala, so. Delulu Hive. Yes. They have really no reason for this, but they've decided that it's happening, and they are whipping themselves up into a frenzy about it. And every time I see a tick talk about it, I'm just like multiple people think they're saying, "Oh, Delulu Hive is real." And they say, "Okay, I'm Delulu Hive, yes." But I looked at the time that she posted this clip, and you remember how it's smoke hour, it starts with "Come on, baby, it's time to rock." And so that means, because she posted it at 904 AM, that means the rock album and the Meg Gala see, so this is what Delulu Hive is doing, and I'm letting them have it. But that Creole woman, I don't have the energy for that. Whenever she puts it out, that's when I'm going to obviously dedicate my life to it, but I'm not feeling it. I just cannot play these games, which I absolutely have to let y'all have it. I'm not doing all that with her. I was going to ask with the reasoning behind this prediction could be, but it sounds like nonsense. Oh, they come up with all kinds of stuff, but I don't know, watch if they are actually right, they'll never shut up, so. True. But yeah. But I feel like her clues don't even be that deep. It's like, "Oh, here I am smelling a lemon." Lemonade. I'm like, "Here I am smelling a lemon at 3.45 pm, because track three of the next album was track four of the last album, and the fifth album will be the third." The thing is, you can find a hint in anything if you really, really want to, and that's the game I'm not going to play. That's the game I'm not going to play. Have y'all considered that she might see your TikToks, and if you are right, she'll just completely scrap it, because how dare you. I was just thinking that too, like Beyonce ain't the change in mind, and change her mind as to ask me, like, "Change." Beyonce will fully be like, "Actually, nah." Yeah. Yeah. Music videos for Renaissance. No. I don't feel like it. I could tease it, but I tease a lot of things. Unicus will be all right. I don't want to. Oh, you want that Renaissance movie on streaming, oh, you want to buy it on DVD and Blu-ray? Just let me tell you, you're never going to get it. Yeah. I had a dream one. I had a dream I was at her house. And I said, "We was just sitting around talking to each other's hair." And I said, "Girl, the people really want the Renaissance movie on streaming." And she said, "Oh, no." And started cracking up, "Hey, you are such a bitch." That's a fantastic dream. You also saw her in a washing machine. Oh, yeah. But that was on Shrooms. She was in the dryer. Yeah. Yeah. She said, "You found me." I tried Shrooms since then and she hasn't popped up anywhere, so I'm still working on that. Oh, yeah. Well, you know, you keep bragging on it. There's just a link going into the other room. Girl, here you go. Whenever that wraps up, I guess we'll talk about what I'm not about to do, bitch. That is so real. She's snoring now. She's snores. It's so cute. What? I don't know. I guess it's her getting older. And I'm talking about, sometimes it's like a little cute, like little snores and I'm just like, "And then it'll be nights like last night where I'm like, "Mayhem, did you work on it?" In like an Amazon warehouse and where a bitch like you are snoring like hard like that. Not having a sleep apnea. It's the cutest thing in the world. Oh, I love that. Yeah. That's going to be it for hot tops this week, folks. Hope that you gleam something from this. Perhaps not to promote genes and racism at the same time you might get cut for a movie. Maybe you don't go to McDonald's by yourself in South California. Maybe if you hear a song that you once dance to, don't feel like it's your moment in a public place where I don't know about to give a fuck about that. Also, perhaps, do not make ice sculptures in the middle of your hometown and then tell a whole bunch of 18-year-olds to go out there with flame throwers to find a magazine and sorry. Amen. We're going to take a break and then we'll come back with your letters. Okay, folks, we are back and it is time to get into your business. It is indeed if you have a question for us and to ask the [email protected], we may read it aloud on the show. We have a couple of updates. If you'll remember, Kelly wrote us because her mama wanted tickets to Chris Brown to the Bumson bruises tour and Kelly was like, "Girl, fuck, no, I'm not spending my money on it." So she wrote us back and said, "Thank you so much for reading my letter." Y'all took the words right out of my mouth. My mom did tell me that she's planning on going to the Houston show of the concert with her friends. And she figured all that ticket mess out. I'm glad she's going so that I won't have to hear her talk about it to me anymore. My brother ended up buying her a nice Brahmin bag and said it was from the both of us. So shout out to him. We both got a good shuckle out of this entire situation because of the sheer audacity of this woman. Thanks for the advice and the laughs as always and fuck Chris Brown once more just for good measure. Thanks again, Kelly. Girl. No, Kelly, I'm glad it all worked out. You haven't I do a fuck back because you know how I had you fucked that. We also, we have an update from Lano. If you remember, Lano wrote us a month or so back about an air tag that was placed in his car that he found and was like, "Um, this person is stalking me with the hill." So Lano said, "I want to say thank you. I appreciate the advice. I've spent some time sitting with everything and figuring out how to move forward. Unfortunately, things have escalated." A couple days ago, I was at home playing with my dog and I tossed a treat across the room. It rolled under my couch and when I reached under to grab it, I pulled out a hidden voice recording device that was turned on and actively recording. Mind you, this person has not been in my home or in contact with me since before I wrote the original letter. Finding this device inside my home completely changed everything for me. There is no telling how long it's been there and I no longer feel safe in my home. I went straight to the police and filed a supplemental report this time providing the individual's personal information. I'm also in the process of obtaining a protective order. I didn't want to take things this far at first, but now I feel like my safety is at risk in a fatal attraction type situation. If you have any additional advice on what else I should be doing on how or how to better protect myself, I would really appreciate it. Thanks, Lano. What the fuck? You see how you just never know with these people? You just never know with people. I was terrified. I think with this additional information, the police reports and the protective order, you should be able to take this to your apartment management or leasing company or whatever and get out of your lease and then I would move. And just keep the number of people who know where I live to a minimum. Anything with public records, I would get a PO box and change the mailing address to the PO box so that people can't easily find your mailing address. And I don't know if you live in a home. I don't remember if there are kids who are or other people who may have access to your things regularly, but this is the kind of situation where people get weapons for their own protection. And I fully understand that because if you come in here, it's going to be me or you and it's not going to be me. So it won't be me, but so, but I think that's really you've done the things legally that I would recommend. Hopefully with with all this documentation though, I think your apartment, your complex or whomever should let you out of your lease because I would simply not feel safe there anymore either. I completely understand that. Yeah, I mean, I didn't even think about that, but I, I feel like they should let you break the lease if you are actively in danger. I think, um, I just cannot imagine how I would feel if I'm playing with Link and her tennis ball that, oh my god, it smells like a breath and is soaking wet. And she's just still like, yeah, it's my soul. I love it. I literally love it. And then under the couches are recording device. Oh my God. No, I would lose it. I would, I would feel so unsafe. It ain't enough locks in the world that would make me feel comfortable in that house no more. That's what I'm saying, like moving is like top two, top three stressors, it sucks. It is so fucking annoying. but this is a reason to move, bitch. - It is. - Even the PO box thing is, you know, inconvenient. But if this is about your life and your safety and the same for the people around you. - Yeah. - I suggest the exact same thing. I'm sorry it is an awful, awful thing to be dealing with. But yeah, I agree, it can't be you. - Yes, I'm sorry. I really pray that you're able to stay safe. And it's just a shame that there are people out there in the world who act like this. Like, you know, you could just accept the fact that whatever we had is over and move on with your fucking life. I don't know what's wrong with you. But like, try being just like a little normal. - Uh, um. - There are billions of other people on this planet that you can go and- - Like billions. - There's just them now. - Billions, billions. - So. - Oh, sorry about that. I do pray you're able to stay safe. Good luck to you, Bill. All right, our first letter this week comes from Lee, who says several months ago, a guy who works in my industry asked me out and we briefly dated. It was the best relationship I've ever been in. He was always community-killed and emotionally available and mature. We could talk about anything for hours and would only stop because we had other things to do. After three weeks, he broke things off. He said that he thought everything was going well between us, but he realized there were things he needed to work on in his life and he couldn't commit to a long-term relationship. He knew that I wanted something serious, so he thought it was best that he in things sooner rather than later. I was devastated, but we agreed that we wanted to remain friends after some time apart to heal. - Oh, sure. - A couple of months ago, we reconnected. We still talk for hours, see each other at least once a week, go to industry events together and we have a running list of things to do with one another. It feels exactly like we're dating again, except it's 100% platonic. It's 100% platonic. There's no romance, no sex, no hints of flirting and no talk of getting back together from either of us. This has left me confused. It's not that I want to get back together with him, although I would be open to it. I think I always assumed the depth of friendship and relational intimacy I'm experiencing with him would be reserved for our romantic partner. No one knows us or gets along as well as we do with each other and none of my other friendships look like this. Is this what being good friends with someone is? Is it possible to have this level of intimacy and chemistry and it remain platonic? What do you all make of this situation? Thanks for your thoughts, Lee. - Lee, I mean, a lot of that sounds like aspects of a good friendship and all of these other things. Just not when it's with somebody that you were dating and had real, real feelings with our four. And then, you know, promptly had that person break things off with you because of their inability to commit or whatever the thing was. You don't then just keep hanging out and go into the museum and Panera bread and all so the stuff is still dating. So the reason it probably does I feel like any of your other friendships because you're not friends. Oh, well, well, thanks. - Yeah, I mean, it's just like each other and you're still hanging out. - Yeah. - So maybe don't do that. I mean, if you're having a good time and you're not uncomfortable, then sure. But you're like, oh, I don't want to get back together with him at all. But if he wanted to, you know, I might be open to it. Why so good? - What'd you do? - You do. - You do. That's fine. - So I think either this person is like, okay, enough time has passed where we can still be friends, but I'm not in a place yet where we can date or this person doesn't feel about you the way you feel about him. And it really might be that latter. I'm sorry. It really might. But the fact that he's not trying to lead you on to me is a big sign that he doesn't feel that way he's not in that space, you know, whatever else. So it is possible that this is just what being good friends with him feels like for you because the two of you really click in this unique way. But I don't think you really want things to remain platonic and the more that y'all chat all day and, you know, go on run clubs or whatever to all the shit that y'all are doing together, the more your feelings are gonna become harder to separate from each other, the more confusing it's gonna be for you. If he starts dating somebody else, God forbid, you, you, oh fuck. That's when you're really gonna realize that like your feelings for him are not platonic. You even said it was the best relationship you've ever had, but y'all were only together for three weeks. Why? Well, so, I mean, and that's, if that's very possible that it was still the, because you two really click on this level. Like, I think he, he probably missed you too. Like he missed your companionship. He missed your friendship. But I just don't, yeah, it's possible for all of this to happen and it remain platonic, but I think that's only if it started out platonic. It did not. Right, right. It did not. So I think it's probably gonna be in your best interest to really sit with yourself and ask, do I have feelings for this man? If he texted me tomorrow and said, "Hey, I think I'm done working through my shit. Do you wanna be my girlfriend?" Or I don't even know what your gender is Lee, but do you wanna be with me? You need to ask yourself, like, would I really be down for that? And I think the answer is yes. And because it is and he has not, he was down with like y'all reconnecting but hasn't even hinted at anything romantic. I think it's gonna be in your best interest to maybe withdraw a bit from the intensity of this connection that you have. Wholeheartedly agree, I don't believe in the whole. Oh, we had this great relationship and so into it and head over heels and all of this stuff and then it ends here and like, "Oh yeah, let's keep going out and hanging out "and we can be friends." It is almost never the case that both parties feel like on the same page about that. Yeah. So I always suggest distance from that person for as long as it takes. And yeah, like Crystal said, at this doesn't sound like something like that. This doesn't sound like a situation that would prevent you from getting back with this guy if he said, "Let's get back together." But then what would, what is there to, what would stop him from later being like, "Okay, I don't wanna be with you "because of such and such or what have you?" You don't even mean like, if it just was this spontaneous thing that you didn't expect and you broke up, like what does the foundation of that really look like? Especially if you guys are dating for three weeks. Right. So, I hope you have other friends. And you can rest your spirit on that and start dating again because, yeah, when he does bring a new piece around, you'll see who really friends. Yeah. Yeah. That's how you know whether you're over somebody you've had a romantic connection with, being around them when they are actively in love with somebody else or pursuing, courting someone else. Yeah. I have one friend, a genuine friend, that I used to have a romantic relationship with. And that was 15, 16 years ago. So, we are way past it. And it took a lot longer than a few months for us to get to that place too. That took a couple of years, actually. So. (laughing) Sorry, Lee. But good luck to you. It's hard when you feel like you really vibe with somebody and it just doesn't work out for whatever reason, but plenty of fish in the seabay. Right. You're somebody's out there. You are. All right, our next letter comes from Savannah, who says, I'm the youngest of five siblings and the only child born to both of my parents together. My siblings are 15 to 26 years older than me, so I basically grew up as an only child. My dad never fostered relationships between us before he passed away when I was 22. And I have spent my entire life wanting us to just be a normal family. Recently, I hit a major life milestone and four out of four of my siblings that I invited showed up. For one beautiful moment, we were live laugh loving in the same space and I thought, this is it. This is the family I always wanted. That lasted less than 24 hours. The next evening, my oldest sister, with whom I had only just started building a relationship, decided that that was the perfect moment to drop a bomb. I wasn't exactly sober, so I didn't fully catch it in real time. But once I sobered up and replayed the conversation, I realized that she alleged that my mother and our father had an affair and that my parents are the reason that her parents' marriage ended. She also suggested that our father intentionally kept us apart and fed me negative things about her to protect that secret, and she hinted that cousins I've never met on my dad's side consider her and her brother to be the original family and aren't really interested in having a relationship with me or my brother because of how we came into the picture. She attempted to reframe my entire existence as a family secret. Fast forward a little while in this same sister recently posted photos on social media from her trip to the plantation where our ancestors were enslaved and she went with these cousins. This was a trip that I specifically told her I wanted to take as a family, but she went without me and without any of our other siblings. She never even mentioned that she was going on the trip and I was hurt by that. I shared all this with my mom and my sister on my mom's side who called her a liar evil and told me to cut her off entirely. Now I do love my sister on my mom's side, but this is also the same person who has always broken my trust on multiplications and once had a physical altercation in my home. So I'm not exactly running to take her advice on family relationships. Here's what I actually want to know. Is what my older sister said and did serious enough to blow up a relationship we only just started building? And the bigger question, why is it so hard for me to have any real semblance of family with any of my siblings should I just give up, am I the problem? All I did was be born. I feel like I didn't ask for this. Love you both. Savannah. Oh, Savannah, yikes, it's a lot. I don't think it would be blowing up anything like I don't think you need to blow things up. It sounds like your oldest sister is attempting to blow up things up and it sounds like she's pretty solo on that front because like these cousins that she mentioned that she took this trip with like you might assume anxiety even might make you assume like yeah, they on the same page. She took them with them because they all can't stand me or whatever. And I'm cuz it's gonna not know what the fuck you're talking about. It's true. That's definitely possible. But either way, even if the things that she saying has some truth to it, she ain't got no business saying that shit to you. You don't have anything to do with a fuck thing that she just brought up. So I would say, especially being so much older than you, girl, build a bridge. I would just say, you know, protect yourself and surround yourself with a family that does appreciate you know who you are, know your worth and let that oldest sister continue to deflect. And if you can't say directly to her that she needs some healing that Angonans do with you, you can pray that she'll find it or somebody else will say, say something to her. There we go. Cuz she obviously has a lot of hurt that has to do with her fucking daddy. And nothing to do with you. Right. And honestly, the hurt that she feels is understandable. If your dad did have an affair with your mom and that's why her parents marriage ended, it makes complete sense that she would still be feeling a way about that. What is unfair is taking that out on you because you are just the innocent child in that situation. You did not ask these niggas to be involved in that way. Like you didn't ask to be that. So I agree with what Kayfiri said, I would say it's hard for you to have any semblance of family with these people because your dad, he spent 30 plus years having kids with multiple women and didn't bother to make sure that those kids knew each other or felt like a family that is completely on him. And he's gone now. So it's not like there's anything anybody can do about that. But you think his love to die too. Kay, don't they love to just fuck shit up and then die and then die girl. Yeah. So, you know, this woman is 26 years older than you. It's very immature of her to be like, well, just so you know, because you don't know, don't even consider you real family because of how yo ho ass momma can't like, okay, okay, why are you saying this to me? I'm trying to have a relationship with you here, my sister. I'm trying to do what our daddy didn't do. You, you being in your feelings about how your parents marriage into this valid, but I am just the baby who was born as a result of that. Like, there's no reason to take that out on me, take that out on that nigga. Go to the grave and let it all out. Like why you didn't say when he was alive, you had way more time with him than I did. Go cut him out. Work. Take a trip down to that man's parents. Yeah. And let it out. Let's open your composition book and let it out the fuck he's talking to me. Right. Furthermore, when I was born, you could rent a car. Why are you like, literally you were so grown when I was born. That's so unfortunate, but she's hurt. She's clearly hurt, but I think it's not your fault. But at this point, your sisters in her 50s or 60s, it's really time to stop taking this out on you. It's time to stop taking it out on you. If I'm not saying you necessarily need to blow things up with her, but it also doesn't. It sounds like she's still taking that resentment that she has towards your dad and putting it on to you and you don't deserve that. So I would be hesitant to volunteer to spend time with somebody if they were going to treat me like that. So. Right. But no, are you the problem? No, girl. Your daddy's the problem. Your daddy really sounds like a problem here. Because you see how you're in touch with your sister on your mom's side and your brother on your mom's side. That's because, well, first of all, children usually live with their mothers. So whoever grew up in the house with you tends to be there. But also women tend to do a much better job of making sure that kids from different households know each other and have a relationship with each other. We see that a lot actually where women get together because that nigga don't give a shit or he's in jail or he doesn't ran off or whatever. And maybe like, that's so true. Maybe like, okay, I know I have a real attitude because this nigga cheated on me with three different holes and now my baby got five other siblings. But we gonna get together and make sure these kids like we don't want them to accidentally date or whatever. Like, so we just gonna make sure these kids all know each other because it's the right thing to do. Family blah blah blah. So true. So true. Yeah, it's not, you're not the problem. I'm sorry that you, you, this dream of like your big happy family isn't coming to fruition, but that's not because of you. You can't put that on you because you're not the one who had all these kids across decades and didn't make no effort to make sure that they knew each other or gave a fuck about each other. Girl, you the youngest one. He's popped out at the end like, here I am, and now there's 50 something year old lady is like, well, let me tell you something about your whole ass try finance mama and let me tell you an additional thing about how none of us fuck with you. You were, you've heard this bitch like man, like that was my birthday, but like that's so gross. They said, oh, well, you're not the original family, so they don't want to have a relationship with you. Why would you say that to me? Do you want to hear me? Why would you say that? Right. Did I ask him? Why are you in your mama? I didn't ask daddy to cheat on your mama. I didn't do that. I didn't set that up. It would even make more sense for her to be mad at your mama than to be mad at you. Right. Just a little bit more sense. Right. To be mad at your mama. Exactly. But coming at you, for the fuck more. No, no, no, so I'm sorry. I think it's also gross that she knows that you are her, that it's important to you that you're passionate about building these relationships with the family. She noticed it and is trying to throw all of these wrenches in it. Right. At least, you know, you had all these other family members, including other siblings go. That hoe is lying. She's being extradout and like ignore her ass or whatever, but I get it. Yeah. I'm just sorry. It didn't work out the way you wanted it to, but this is why people who have families with multiple other people should really make sure that they put in the effort so that those kids know each other and have a close relationship because they don't have to be this way. And that was a failure on your father's part. He is the one connection between all five of y'all. Right. So. Good luck. I gotta get, we have to get used to placing the blame where it made it. Yes. Yes. I'm just so conditioned to just immediately attack the woman even when they don't make no damn sense. Right. Like you. Fuck her. She's coming at you for the innocent baby. You could have just not came to my birthday or whatever. You could have just not came if you had that big of an issue. Your graduation or whatever it was that you invited everybody to. If you hated the idea of me that much, you could have just said, I'm not interested in having a relationship with my dad. These are the kids. No shade. Right. Like, she's, she's being, she need to go talk to the lady about these feelings. She's had all of her life about how her daddy is trifling it, grimy. Exactly. That's not all you've been. Next time she says, I'm slick to me, I would pull out like a business card. I would go to like a reputable place for a card. Please. No, no, it's not for me. She's saying so bad. Just pull it out your pocketbook here. I want you to call this number. - Yeah, set up a QR code that'll go right to therapy for black girls and be like, - Yeah, just open your camera. It's open to find the camera on your phone real quick. - That way, that's way funnier. (laughing) Especially if she don't know what the QR code is, like, "Oh, I want you to say something real quick." It takes her to like 200 black. - Oh my God, do that, that's way funnier. - She need to get over to it, that's not on you babe. - Fear of it. - All right, our last letter comes from Mumbo, who says, "I'm a 34-year-old mask who decided to casually engage with a 31-year-old woman." When we first started talking, she was seeing multiple people. Over time, those connections fell off and things between us grew. Her decision to openly date seemed to come after her ex-ended things with her because she wasn't supporting her through her struggles around Christianity and sexuality. But right now, this woman and I are at odds. Recently, I told her I no longer wish to hear about her ex and whatever they have going on. I set that as a boundary for my own comfort. However, this past week, her ex was in town and stayed with her for the entire week. - Go on. - Oh, the day after the ex left, she called me. I'll admit, being the Leo I am, I had a bit of an attitude, especially because she kept mentioning the ex and how great things were, especially when me, with every advance I make in courting her, it feels like I'm trying to tie my shoes, I'm trying to tie my shoe laces with my hands cuff and fingers bound after I had already asked her to not bring that lady up. I'm trying to figure out if I'm wrong for having this boundary. I don't want to be controlling, but I also want to protect my feelings and not constantly hear about a situation that makes me uncomfortable. At the same time, I recognize that we started dating casually so I'm trying to balance expectations with reality. Am I wrong or is it reasonable to ask for that level of respect from a casual relationship? I'd really appreciate your thoughts. Thanks, mumbo. - Is it controlling the television? I don't want to hear about this. (laughing) - Oh, I love lesbian's, bro. This is so close. - Deep, so close. - So emotional. - Yeah. - Oh, gosh, is it controlling? - I mean, you have to be. - Chat, is it wrong to be like, I don't want to hear about that bitch that used to dick you down, yes or no? (laughing) - No! (laughing) - Oh, Lord. - What are you saying? That bitch better not be in the zip code. And if so, I'm coming over, playing fabo and going up. I'm playing keyglock when I pull up to the grid. - All you're doing is saying, I don't want to hear about this thing, which I think is reasonable. - Yeah, it is. - It absolutely is. - It's your dating someone. - Right. - And you like someone, or you agree that you like each other. There's nothing wrong with being like, you're not even going like, well, I don't understand why you still with this bitch where you date me and you're just saying, I don't want to hear about this. - Very fair. It's extremely fair, mumbo. It is. - Let's be honest. - Yeah. - Mumbo. - Very tummin' did not do all of that work. - All right. - For other stunts to have to. - I'm not doing this. - Oh, hilarious. - I'm not engaging this. - Oh, hilarious. - I'm sorry. Go ahead. - Mumbo, your problem here is that she still wants her ex. - Yep. - It sounds like they wouldn't-- - She has her. - She has her ex. - It sounds like they would have never broken up if they were on the same page about, you know, whatever the issue is with figuring out your religion and your sexuality, which is something most of us go through at some point. It sounds like they would have never broken up if not for that. And the fact that she keeps bringing up the ex even though you've asked her not to is proof that she is, that the ex is absolutely the priority in her mind. And maybe everywhere else too. 'Cause maybe you should not even have to ask her to not bring up her ex. If you are dating other people, why the fuck are you bringing up your ex? Especially when I didn't ask you, hey, so how'd your last relationship end? If it's-- - Right, on my eyes I'm about to say that. - Literally that. If I didn't ask, yeah, how long has it been that you've been single or whatever, why are you bringing up your fucking ex 'cause you want her? 'Cause you, or your feelings are still deeply, deeply wrapped up in her. I don't want to hear about that bitch. I simply don't. - What, it's wrong with her. - It's like soup. - It's like a 101 dating. - It really is. And it's not even gay dating. This is everybody dating. - Why? - If a dick actually could not stop talking to her ex about me, I promise you we're not gonna have too many more conversations. Go be with that lady. Go call that lady and get your family back. (laughing) - What? (laughing) - And she's telling us, she's telling Mom about how great things are going. Ma'am, are you, are you, are you having, are you in psychosis? - She came in visit for a week and we had a great time. Bitch, I'm literally trying to court you. (laughing) - Do I look like you're, like one of your cousins, did you FaceTime even use her as the money else? - I think, I think you really like this lady, but I think you got to move on. She is playing with you. She is wasting her time with other people until she figures out whatever it is with this ex. And it doesn't even necessarily mean that they're gonna get back together, but it does mean she doesn't have the space for you. - I really do not think she does. She needs something more casual than what y'all have. So, I think-- - I don't think she doesn't even have much respect for you. - Right. And I wonder if you didn't call her a text or know more would she even hit you up? (laughing) 'Cause like, what do you mean your ex came and stayed with you for a week and then you call me as soon as that bitch leave, talking about what a great time you had with her. - That is unhinged. - I'm blocking you immediately. Are you out of your mind? - Right, oh my. (laughing) - What the fuck is that little lumbar? You can find somebody else who is not gonna play which you'll fuck your feelings like this right in front of your face. - And they, yeah, we can be a little toxic. (laughing) - We can be-- - Girl. - We can. - But you deserve better than this. - Yeah. - Terabitch. - He's like, oh yeah, my ex that, you know, that I talked about us being separated because of the Lord was she found Jesus. And she's been staying at my place and we are having a blast, girl. Temptation Island just went off and white girl. So what'd you do it? That is insane. - What you've been doing over the past week? Have a sex? 'Cause I have. Like, okay. (laughing) It's like, I'll be like, so does this ex know about me? Does she know that you're dating? I'm being the bitch might. - She probably do and she don't care because she knows she's a number one. You could date whoever you want to, but when I call and say, I'm gonna be in town for a week, you cut all the bitches off. - Now that hoe is controlling. Control. - Oh, yeah, let her go, Mumbo. You can do better than this, babe. - That's so insane. - Best of luck to you. The girlies have lost it. - A nerve. - Let this be a problem. - She got this poor stud over here, like, it might be in controlling. - No, you're being on your own being. - You're being played. - Zai. - Oh, baby. For those of you who think, same sex relationships are easier, let this be a sign to you that they are not, we are raggedy too, okay? - Don't believe that lie. - Don't allow anyone to perpetuate from us. - Yeah, we are raggedy as well, babe. Good luck to you. That is gonna wrap up the letters this week. Again, if you have a question for us, send us an email, [email protected]. We're gonna take a quick break and then we'll be right back. - All right, folks, we're back and it is time for the read. Today I wanna talk about the vice mayor of Coral Springs, Nancy Matear, who was found dead in her. - Oh my God. - House. And her husband, Stephen Bond, was promptly taken into custody for her murder. This is a remarkable woman who was doing amazing work. Not too far from where I was born and raised, maybe like 45 minutes out. In Coral Springs, she was the first black person. American female member of the Coral Springs City Commission. I read that she was planning on running for Congress next with according to a lot of her colleagues and loved ones. But that was all taken away from her because a black man in her life and her household that was meant to follow vows of protecting each other and loving each other decided to kill her with a shotgun and wrap her up and evidence up and try to tamper with evidence and leave her lifeless body in the second floor bedroom of their home. This is obviously not just tragic, it's disgusting. It's really upsetting and it kind of digs it me in a particular way because she was doing amazing work in a region of the country that I know needs people like her. It is so incredibly vital to have women like this individual in positions to look after and take care of people. First was an environmentalist. She was doing like incredible, incredible work to predict people in Florida, South Florida, and essentially the nation. I just I have to say, niggas, black women are not disposable. They're not to be dismissed. They're not to be taken for granted. They're not to be used. They're the most valuable human beings on the planet. Like the impact and the change and the revolution that this person had in their hands that was snatched up because of a fuck nigga who just couldn't take whatever. Get your fucking shit together, black man. Get your shit together. Cross whatever bridge it is that you need to cross to recognize or acknowledge who failed you. How you have failed others. And before you know, do the who will not all block me. I don't give a fuck what you're talking about. Go talk to the ones that do then. Stop talking to me. Stop talking to women. Go and get your brother, go get your daddy. Go get your son. Go get your uncle. Go get your cousins and help them get their shit together. Demand that they get their shit together because this is ridiculous. It's useless. And it's absolutely detrimental to you niggas because they are the black women are the first in line for you bitches. So now a place very near and dear to me is lost an incredible woman, a great woman doing great work. For what? Cause the niggas and his feelings. How does I don't what are we doing? What are we doing? The senseless healing of black women is it's a genuine crisis. And there are so much that we can do this. We have the tools to end it. And too many of us are choosing not to. So yes, I did not know her personally, but I know a lot of people that did that are moaning her now. So that alone speaks to the the magnitude and reach and love surrounding Nancy. So yeah, I don't really have anything else to say, but besides that I'm incredibly disappointed and tired and heartbroken. So my heart goes out to her and Dr. Fairfax. Yeah, I am. That is another story in what feels like a long list recently of black women being murdered by their partners. And the the Shreveport shooting. Did you hear about that? No. This man in Shreveport went around. He killed nine people, I believe. He shot his his wife had just filed for divorce. I believe the day before he shot. He killed nine children. Eight of them were his own. One of them, I think was a cousin of one of the other kids. One of the kids only escaped by jumping off the roof to get away from the house. It is just it was like literally the most horrific thing I've heard in the long time. And this is back to back. It feels like it's been every other day where we get the news of men deciding to kill the women in their lives because like Dr. Fairfax, she had had enough of this man and his bullshit. She had proof that he had been, you know, violent or abusive in different ways that he had just been ordered to vacate the house that they all lived in. Virginia's laws around marriage and divorce are apparently very weird. And because a lot of people were like, well, you know, as a dentist, why wouldn't you just leave and like get an apartment or something? Something about like if you abandoned the house, if you leave the house and you abandon it and he gets to keep it or something, I don't know. I don't know all the laws. But what I know is that it really should not even matter killing women because they don't want you no more. And killing your own kids so that their mothers will have to grieve is some of the most fucked up heinous shit I've ever heard in my fucking life. And it's not just about mental health. It's not just about guns. It's not even just about domestic violence, although overwhelmingly it is about that. This is about men, overwhelmingly men reacting in a violent way to no longer having control over women or whatever else for whatever reasons you do it. You just decide their lives are worthless. He just in Fairfax left that lady killed that lady, killed himself and left the children to find that. What's more selfish? Why don't you all ever just kill yourselves and leave the rest of a sound of it? And there's nothing you can say to women that will protect them. There's no amount of, oh, well, find a man who's educated, Justin Fairfax was absolutely that. Oh, well, find a man who's nice to you. You think most of these women sit up and build lives years and years with men who don't, who aren't kind ever to them? There's nothing we can do. There's no precautions we can take that will 100% keep us from being harmed by one of y'all. So we need to shift the focus to where it belongs like we talked about during the listener letters and let's talk about the real goddamn problem, which is men killing women. Period. What else is there to even say? So yes, rest in peace to Dr. Fairfax, to all of those sweet, precious babies while your mama is fighting for her life, all those kids, I just can't even, I mean, babies, I'm talking about these kids range from like three to 13 years old. When are y'all going to stop trying to say, oh, well, pick different men? Do this, do this, do this. When are we going to talk about the fact that we have a very real problem with men being violence towards women? Because it's been obvious for decades and decades. And if not centuries, it's been clear. I said women should be able to shoot at least one man a year without any repercussion and it started as a joke. But yeah, it's starting to feel very real. It is. But that was my reason. Okay. Well, I'm glad you brought it up because I was definitely going to also talk about that. So I guess I will move on to you weirdos who want to know how I feel about Cardi B's tour. So bad that you decide to talk, tag me on TikTok and Instagram and one girl on threads. Talk about I wonder what that lady gonna say about Cardi B's tour now that it's over. Bitch, first, right, right. This is really ridiculous because if you actually listen to this show, you would know that we've been talking about this tour. It comes up pretty much every week because there's always something like newsworthy or noteworthy going on with the tour. We have talked about it multiple times since it started. So if you want to know how I feel about the tour, luckily for you, the episodes don't automatically delete after three days. You can go back and listen. You weird bitch and see for yourself, but I don't actually care how I feel about the tour. You just want to gap about me. Yeah, you just want to not like me, which is fine. But I would appreciate it if you all at least did a crum of research before you run your fucking mounts because I've been talking about it. I've been given that lady her props. Yes, I had doubts about her ability to complete a 35 date tour. So recently, most people did because most people who give birth don't then turn around and go on tour a few months later. So I'm very glad that she did complete the tour, but I was never rooting against her. You weird bitches. I have always been a Cardi Beef and I've always loved her music. It's giving like the ice emojis that they put in country, but Mars Instagram comments. Oh, no. Oh God. So yeah, I don't know why y'all are weird. I cannot believe y'all woke up thinking about me. Thank you, I guess, but y'all being weird about me is not going to change the fact that I have always like that lady's music and that's not changing. Yeah. So I'm very strange. Get the fuck over it, maybe. Um, be my rap fandom. A lot of it is just like, okay. Like be my rap. Like in the morning and get to typing. Like literally get on one of them spaces. Things that you're talking about in a text. Somebody else did it until bedtime. Right. Somebody on TikTok was like, uh, commented on uh, Crystal's catch video and was like, the people want to know where you at now that Cardi's tour is over. And I said, I'm on my podcast where I have been for 13 fucking years. I've been right here every week. If you really want to know how I felt, simply go look it up. It was never. It's like you're nicky. It's not behind a paywall. It's right there. You can just go listen. I have. I can't let y'all around me up. It's just a y'all. I don't even try. And it's like I wish I would try. But on the other hand, I don't because it's so much easier to shut you down when you don't put forth any effort. Y'all are just so bored, girl. Thank you for thinking about me. Though I appreciate having condos and ubiquitous hits. Ask them. Damn, I really, if you ask, be uh, like I said, I'll ask somebody on Cardi. Every night. Every night. And the whole arena is dying laughing, bro. Name five. Be a song. She just says it. And everybody is like, yeah, bow. Did you see the video of Meg? The rabbit getting laughing? Talk about why would you say that? Now, that's what would hurt me. That's what would hurt me. Not Meg laughing. Oh, God. I'd never get over that. But asking you about the door. That door wrapped up in. I was the first thing on y'all's minds. Wow. The power that I fucking have. I love that for me. You bitches are strange. Um, and you know, I was gonna do some more complaining about the Trump administration. Did you see this video? This is actually very quick. You remember like last week or two weeks ago when Trump had that door dash grandma at the White House dropping off McDonald's. How could I forget? That was so fucking stupid. And he agrees. So he did, uh, I don't know something, some kind of press conference or whatever, shortly after that. And he was talking about how they was talking about how you know, this whole no tax on tips thing and how this lady is doing door dash to pay for her husband's cancer treatments. And I'm like, this is actually not a feel good story. This is actually extremely sad that she, this, this grandmother in her 60s has the door dash so that her husband can live like what the fuck? Like this is actually an issue. But yeah. So Trump is talking about he's like, you know, we had this, this lady come up to the White House. Very beautiful woman with two big bags full of McDonald's hamburgers. And you know, honestly, it was a little tacky. It was a little tacky. But you know, you gotta, you gotta do it. He was like, it was kind of tacky. But you know, you do stuff like that. And then you win overwhelmingly the rating shoot up. So you know, we had to do it. Even though it's a little goofy, I mean, you know, McDonald's at the White, at the Oval Office. Probably nobody has ever had McDonald's door dash in the Oval Office before it's probably the first time. That's a good impression. Because this is just, he's just pretty good. He just opens his mouth and let's bullshit fall out. I could not believe exactly. Exactly. He just freestyles. Fuck me. It's just whatever comes out, girl. I said, y'all actually propped this lady up. You think she has to be like the bitch to do the door. Like y'all propped this lady up. Y'all selected this woman with her story. Didn't, if this was a some staffer going on door dash and legit ordering McDonald's, y'all set it up. And then he's sat there afterwards talking about. And she had it. He called it tacky. Not he straight up said it was kind of tacky. Yeah, it was tacky, but it works. But it works. So you got to do it. Oh. He is fucking demanding. He is. It's really something wrong with that man. Like bro, your people set it up. What you mean? Like, oh my god, this country is so humiliated. You think that lady wouldn't rather be at home, knitting something or watching her grandkids or looking at young and restless or something. Like you think she wouldn't rather. You think that 60 something. You're all woman wants to be driving around doing fucking door dash so that her husband can afford his cancer treatments. And you used her so that you could brag about this. No tax on tips. And this is $11,000 tax free as if that's some huge amount of money. Trump shits out $11,000 in a less than a day. It's not even some huge amount of money, but it's big to to regular everyday people. But you don't actually give a fuck about that. You only cared about how it might make you look politically, which we all knew, but for you to turn around and be on camera on a hot mic, looking directly at the camera and being like, "It was tacky as hell, I admit." I was like, oh, this guy, he wasn't running for real. I said, he was talking about McDonald's and he's fucking, what do you call him? He pressed rallies or whatever the fuck he was like, all McDonald's fries. I remember that clearly. He fucking loves McDonald's. And that was another thing. Being like, "Oh, you know it's kind of tacky to have this lady with these two big bads, McDonald's, bitch, you love McDonald's and you know you do." You sit up here, act like you two good for whatever they sound at McDonald's because you know you love that shit. Y'all took them bounce inside and you said, "Put it in the heater. I will be back." Benninga said, "This bag is mine." Now, you guys figure out whatever you want to do that other one. This bag is for me and me. He said, "I know I ordered three double filet o-fishes and they all three of them better be in here when I get back Scott or so help me, God." Bitch, so act like you two good for McDonald's. You ate that shit up and you know you two. You and your rest over for a big Mac and he just smacked his hands. It's mine. They're like, "Mr. President, there's eight big Macs. Bitch." Why aren't there 16? Don't sit up here now. I'd be like, "Oh, well, it was kind of tacky, you guys. You fucking love McDonald's and you love exploiting the people to make yourself look good." And then you try to bring trans people into it. And that lady was like, I'm not even here to talk about trans. I don't even even too much know what that is. I'm here to talk about me not pay taxes on these tips, which is another thing. You got to depend on people actually tipping you, which a lot of them don't fucking do. So then a bunch of people end up door dashing and Uber eating and all that for two, three dollars because they don't make shit off of doing that. They really depend on those tips. Damn. And her go Trump big dumb ass talking about how tacky it was to have her do it. Everything about you is tacky. You would know. You would know the nigga with an all-go bathroom. Right. You would know the nigga trying to build a ballroom in the White House would know about tacky. You would. I could not believe. I said, I know the people around him are just constantly like, bitch, can you shut, can you just shut up one fucking time? Like, can we do one thing? Can we execute one plan without you turning around and trying to spill military secrets or sell the nuclear codes or tell people that the photo op that we set up was actually tacky as shit girl. Okay. All right. Did you see him? Did you see him yesterday shaking all his swollen ankle over Virginia? I can't let them spend if we get let this guest pass because they're going to do exactly what we just did. And Virginia said, hold this missy Elliott record and see what we got for you, bitch. Yes. Virginia said, actually shout out to two up two down. We could play that same game, bitch. They said that's exactly what we finna do, bitch. That's exact. We finna redistribute all this shit, bitch. In fact, what the fuck made you think we wouldn't or couldn't? What are you? I'll be just smoking. Oh God. That man is just such a fucking idiot. It blows my mind every single day. The things that he in this administration aren't allowed to get away with, but I just outside that video of him calling that thing tacky. And I'm like, you this was the y'all's plan. It was y'all's plan. You you went, you fully went along with it. Don't act like the bags was empty, right? Don't act like the bags was empty. He said, I know it's not. Bring your voters. I know breakfast. I probably thought that was lit. Make sure they throw some mid grittles in there. I know it's after 1030, but tell them pull them out the freezer. Daddy want to make griddle. I know you did. Oh, big selfish greedy bitch. Maybe it's because you know, like they'll walk out of the Met Gowler or some shit like that. And there's an in and out truck. Oh yeah. And everybody goes up. So maybe it's just like it because it was McDonald's instead of five guys or whatever. But bitch, you run on McDonald's and so do all your voters. They order them shits in little little drones named Melanie. Like we don't have to act like this. McDonald's This is like the number one fast food spot in the country for a reason in the world. - Right, probably the world, a lot of people eat it. You don't have to act like you were just so much better or above this stunt, but everybody else told you to do it, but you love McDonald's. Them sports teams be winning, them kids be winning national championships and Trump invite them to a McDonald's buffet at the White House. Fucking quarter pounders with cheese and fries and nuggies. (laughing) - Talk about this ice cream machine does work. - I hate him, I'm looking so much. - Real bad. - I wish he would just fall down. - And just never get him back up, Lord. Just let him close their minds. - It would just be one good trend, one good fall. I feel like it's all it would take. - I know, there's a brain bleed, just waiting to hit you. (laughing) - What is taking so long? - Odin McDonald's you eat something gotta clog something up. Come on, yo. - Come on, we gotta work together, teamwork, make it work. - You will never guys. - Oh, so yeah, that's exciting, that's it for me. This week it's been a, oh, okay. - Leave Kev on stage alone. I imagine calling yourself a child of Christ. - I completely forgot. - And then wanting to battle a man who says, you know, I just, I try to do what I believe Christ would do than call me to do. - I saw my son be born and I thought, I could never kick this person out of my home or my life for being gay. And y'all were like, how dare you? (laughing) - Baby, the superstite Christians are out of their minds. And they are really pissed. - He's fine. - He's fine. - Oh, give it to me. - Well, I think he's probably quite over, you know, he's trending, which I understand. But you're trending because homophobes are mad at you, gone and let her rock Kev on stage. Gone. (laughing) - I like the on stages. I like his content. I've said before that Kev on stage is probably the only influencer that me and my family both follow. Like. - Right, that's very true. - He's that bridge between all of us. And there's nothing wrong. Like, they are just absolutely disgusted at the idea that you might lead with love as a Christian, as Christ told you to do. (laughing) - It's remarkable. (laughing) - Wait. (laughing) - Hey, you're right. 'Cause I saw a glad post of a quote from him. - Glamour Instagram. - Oh my God. - Glad, absolutely. - Oh, not glad. - Not glad. - Oh, Lord. - With a quote and his quote ended with, you came with me. (laughing) - Same page. We see each other, Kev. - This place is very ridiculous. You kind of got to last to keep from crying or having a complete mental breakdown. 'Cause the way some of you are so fundamentally stupid, ignorant, hateful, and want to remain that way is really disheartening. - And want to remain now. - Dedicated to it, actually. So. - And it's free, it doesn't pay. - It doesn't. - It does not. - Damn. - Hey, we're white. 'Cause they are just Charlie Kirk. - All right. All right. - See you with. - Yeah. - Have a nice day. - Yeah, we do. We do. Imagine being mad at a man for saying he loves his kids unconditionally. (laughing) Are you dumb? They are real dumb, actually. Oh, okay. That is gonna wrap up this week's episode. Of The Read. Follow us on social media at this is The Read. There are a few tickets remaining for our live show in Atlanta this Sunday. You can find those at TheReedLive.com. We cannot wait to see all at the show. We're gonna have big fun. Big, big fun. Thank you. - What's the wretched? - Thank you so much to the one and only Dr. Roxanne Gay for being on this week's episode of Crystal's Catch. We had an incredible conversation. Check that out. Crystal's couch on all of your favorite podcasts. She really is. We had a ball. She was so nice. I just was, I have not been starstruck or nervous for an interview in a long time, but that one. - But she didn't love you. - Well, I can't accept that. So. (laughing) So actually, my brain is just gonna go right ahead and reject that, but we had an amazing conversation. So check that out. Crystal's Catch, wherever you get your favorite shows. Any other announcements from you this week? - Yes. Furious Thoughts podcast is out this week. We have Thought Squad. The one and only magnificent artist extraordinaire. We had a really good time. We cut the fuck up so you can go catch that on YouTube. Dotcom/KidFuryTV, all of your podcast platforms, things of that nature. Go give me a like. Give me a subscribe, so on and so forth. - All right, y'all, take care of yourselves. We will see you next week.