Gwyneth Paltrow

Hello everyone. Welcome to another episode of Good Hang. We have a great guest today. It is the one, the only Gwyneth Paltrow. Gwyneth and I, we get into it. We're going to talk about a lot of things. We're going to talk about codependency, bone density. I mistake her for Nicole Kidman and we'll never forget it for the rest of my life. Also, we talk about her new film, Marty Supreme, out now and her return to acting. It's a great conversation. We always do this thing before our guests come and join us where we talk well behind their back and speak to someone and get a question from them. Joining me via Zoom is the director of Marty Supreme, Josh Safty. Josh has made a bunch of really amazing films, including Good Time with Robert Pattinson and Adam Sandler's Uncut Gems. And this is another big hit. So let's join Josh and see where he's talking to us from. Hi, Josh. 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I said do you have anywhere that I can do it to sit the pastry thing because it's like morning stuff. So they said it's pretty the traffic here is quite minimal. Well, you know, as a director, it kind of makes sense that there's some interesting depth to the shot. Yeah. Yeah. I hope so. I mean, I'm actually I'm hoping that people there's some really good pastries here. Yeah. Really like a little kid. Let me see. Let me see. Oh, geez. We got a croissant. We got. Let me see that. Yeah. There's like a braided something. What is that? Hello. Sorry. Now there's someone coming to get the pastries. Thank you. Listeners now that someone came behind and are grabbing the pastries from behind our set. And we're going to need those pastries in there for continuity. We get to get those pastries back, Josh. Some more. So we haven't had a chance to meet you and I am a huge, huge fan of your films and your work. Sorry. Wait. Listeners. There's another person behind Josh getting some more pastries right now. This is amazing. Well, it's hard to make a good movie. Congratulations on making many. And this movie seems awesome. And you work with Gwyneth and Timothy Chalamet, so many other great people in your film. First of all, your casting is super interesting. How do you approach casting? You're like, you have someone in mind when you're writing or like, how do you approach casting in general? I for most of the writing process, I try to think of somebody and write with their voice. So casting Gwyneth is reason why I wrote it for her is like, I have this memory of her. Obviously, she was acting until pretty recently. But I have this memory of her as like a teenager, as like a kid in the movies, like, you know, obviously, her earlier, like seven and hard APTA and Fincher. And my cinematographer shot seven, like, those were like early like you're into film and like, wow, these are so. But then like, talented Mr Ripley and great expectations and a perfect murder amazing movie that she plays and later two lovers by James Gray. I mean, she's talked about as a movie star who hasn't acted in a long time immediately. And that, I think for her also was really, really special because it was, it was easy for her to tap into that. But she like brought, she's cool. She's like like a boulder, but also a feather at the same time. So she's like, she she brings that to the movie in such a great way, but she she sent me right before we started shooting. I I scheduled it so that the first thing that we shot was her, we're like acting on state, her character acting on stage for the first time in 25 years. So and she turns me, she's like, I hope I remember how to do this. And it was something so like this person, I like looked up to and one of my the greatest actors. And I just, you know, revered her. And now she's coming to me and she's so vulnerable. And it was so human. It was so like perfect. It was so perfect. That's the thing I think is so interesting about Gwyneth is she balances those two things like a lot of real like self-awareness and self-assuredness and confidence. And then a very open creative and vulnerable quality, both of them a lot. And and I really, I'm so interested in talking to her about exactly that, that that moment in your film, the moment in the film when she is on stage and she kind of gets this glee that she's back. Great moment. Great moment. Yeah. And it's shot so beautifully and captured so beautifully. And it does feel like we're talking to her in that moment when she's feeling like I'm an actress again, whatever. And do you ever even really stop? And to your point, I mean, she is one of the guests that I feel like is the most projected upon. She is used to being looked at, which is already a hard thing. Like she can withstand being looked at. That's a hard thing. I can't. No, I can't. I'm like, I got my wife and I got married at City Hall, partially because I didn't want to like stand on a aisle and get looked at. And she's like as people say she's got that dog in her, you know, and she can she's she's a lot. I mean, when I first went to meet with her, I just kept telling my agent, just please just get me in front of her. I was like full on Marty and I pull up to her house and I go in. And there's this thing that Hollywood does that people don't, sorry. But there's someone else coming for croissant spot. People don't know about this. And it's something that I like learned in Hollywood a little bit later. It's like when you go and you meet someone in particular, someone of power, you go in and they have this trick that they do. I'm sure you know about this where you have the assistant or someone they work with comes in after 15 minutes and they say, Oh, you know, we have your next meeting is here. Do you want me to push it or do you want me to like do you want to, you know, jump now? And they that's like a little thing is to get them out of the meeting. Like, this is a hard one. I'm going to get out of it. And I saw her her assistant come in after 15 minutes. It's like, Oh man, that was so brief. And but was we were really connecting on the history of this character. She's like, No, you know, just push it. I was like, All right, I mean, and she pushed it like four times. So when I left, I was like, I think I did it. I think I like convinced her to do this just based on the push rule. Yes. Well, I know you are about to eat. And there's nothing more. You know, it's the first rule of directing when you have a croissant in the shot, you're going to have to eat it by the end of the. Just any one of the ones with the little. Look at this over here. Let's see what else we got. Josh is directing us. Oh, oh, chocolate covered donuts. Okay. So to finish out, I asked my guest, my zoom guest to give me a question for the guest I'm talking to you. Is there anything big or small, you know, important, not important that you would want to hear in this conversation with me and her or like you wanted to always ask her or advice or thoughts or anything that comes to mind. Oh, man. What did your son think of the movie? Beautiful. Because you guys just had a premiere. He just saw it. And I spoke to him very briefly. And he was that he felt he had this kind of high about him. But I didn't get to talk, you know, you get pulled in all these directions. But I wanted to talk to him more. And his name is Moses. And the dog's name in the movie is Moses. And Moses is the purveyor, the moral. He's the moral purveyor. So I love that. And also, Josh, I just find it so awesome that you know, as the movie is coming out and it's getting these huge reviews and it's it's out. People are getting to see it. You still care about what people think of it. You know, like it's it's important for you to hear how it's in the room, in the room. I try not to pay attention or read the other stuff. Well, I'm here to tell you what's the thing. I don't think it's a hit baby. Oh, thank you. You got to you have a good meter on you. So that I'll like think you're not bullshitting me there. No, it's a hit. The kids love it. The critics love it. Oh, it's all day. Babe, get ready. I don't believe in jinxes. Thank you so much for your time. I can't wait. Send me a photo of you eating any baked goods that you get to get in that kitchen. Okay. I really hope the camera didn't see me touch in the food. Thank you so much. Such a pleasure. Have a have a good time talking to guy that she's she's it's like talking to a movie star. I can't wait. Okay. Thanks so much, Josh. Appreciate your time. Bye. This episode is brought to you by visible. Got a resolution to save. Kick 2026 off right with visible. 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And were they clip on? Yes. And they were really painful. Yeah. Yeah. I don't think you need to boing it up. No more boingers. No more boingers. Big boingers on your ears. That's what we're saying for 2026. Hi. Yeah. Are you happy you're doing this? Thank you for being here. I've not seen you in such a long time. No, I was trying to think. I feel like the last time we may have seen each other was Rob Lowe's 60th birthday party. The most incredible young looking 60-year-old in the world, Rob Lowe. Incredible. It's all the plastic surgery. Yeah. Over and over and over again. Over and over. Um, I mean, and I feel like I got to see you briefly there and sat next to your wonderful husband and had a really good convo with Brad. But um, yeah, that was it. But we didn't get to. We didn't. We didn't get a good hang. You know what I mean? I'm very excited to talk to you today. Oh, thanks. Thanks for being here. Please lower your expectations. I do enjoy a low expectation too. But um, I wanted to kind of start in the present. You play this character in Marty's Supreme who is coming back to acting. Yeah. You are also doing that in a real way in the film. You haven't been in a movie for 10 years. And there's this really beautiful moment in the movie where the actress hears the response. And it's really cool. And, and has this feeling of like just, I don't know, joy of being doing something again. Did you feel that when you were making this movie? I did. I did feel it. I was so, um, I don't know. It was like such a special group. You know, sometimes you do a project and you're like, Oh, this feels really special. You know, it feels like, it feels like we're making something worthwhile. I don't know if people will like it or not, but it's like a real swing and everyone's great at their job. And yeah. And so I was like, wow, I think I missed this. You know, it felt so, I don't know, like, not pedestrian. Like it felt very unique and like special. So we have this thing where we talk to people behind their back well, behind their back before they come on. Oh boy, okay. And we talked to Josh Safty. And what was it like to work with him? What kind of directors he, what was that experience? Like, it's just great. I mean, he's brilliant and kinetic and, you know, what I love about working with him too is you never quite know what he's going for. So you never totally relax. You know, you're like, what is he actually saying? Like, what, what do I, or like, you'll do something one way and then he'll ask you to do the exact opposite and then back to the first way. So you're like, what do you want? What are we going for? And I think that's by design, you know, to sort of unearth something surprising or very real. Do you like that when people keep you challenged a little bit? Yeah. Yeah. I do. Yeah. Because it's like a trust that they feel like you can handle it. As long as I think they're a good director. Because when someone's doing it, when you're, I'm sure you've had this happen. There's no worse feeling. And any job that you do, anywhere where you show up where you're like, uh-oh, the person in charge is not ready or yeah, good. It's just, I think what happens as an actor on that set is you become risk averse. You're like, I'm not going to go too far out on a limb here because I don't know if I'm in safe hands or not. Are you the kind of person that would take over a situation if there wasn't a good captain? No. I mean, I would like in the AD department. I do anyway. I'm like, guys, come on. Let's go. What are we doing? Me too. I'm like, yeah. I actually, it's actually like a problem. I have to work on which is like, stop trying to shape the day. Right. I mean, I just like, I think I have an efficiency issue, you know, and like, when I, I think what also really messed me up was when I went to go do glee and I saw how much they got done in one day. TV is incredible. It's a machine. It's like, you are never sitting there. Yeah. You work all day, everything's so quick. Yeah. You leave the set and you're like, oh my god, we accomplished so much. You know, we're like on a Marvel movie. You're like in your trailer for 14 hours. I know. And then even take, take TV and then go to SNL, which is emergency room, which is like, we need something tomorrow. Yeah. No problem. And then in films, it's like six months out. You're like, we can't do it anymore. It's going to come and get me. I'm going to die. I'm going to die. In my trailer. I know time is really weird. It's weird. Yeah. Like time is your currency. Like, that's the only thing that's important left. That's right. And we're not getting, they're not making any more of it. So Josh was so, so, and he said something very sweet, like his question for you, which is such a director's question. And such a question from a director whose film has just come out is, what did your son think of the movie? I wanted to know what Moses thought of the movie. That's so sweet. He loved the movie. Yeah. He was, I mean, he I went after the screening when I saw him. I said, he's like, it was incredible. It was, I mean, I had to kind of watch like this because there's some kissing. Sure. So that he was not a big family. Yeah. But other than that, he loved it. So many people project so much stuff on you. And it's like, you get so much stuff projected on you. And you spoke at the Hollywood Reporter event you were receiving an award, the Sherry Lansing woman leadership award. And you spoke really beautifully about it about this idea of versions of ourselves. Because I do think that every woman, every man, every woman understands it. Like, hopefully if you're doing some work and you're having some life experience, you keep kind of shedding stuff and figuring out things about yourself. And having those versions kind of be out in the world is really difficult because people get to have opinions about it. But everybody understands that feeling. Yeah. Okay, with that in mind, I want to go to like the tiny doll, the little Gwyneth. Because I kind of, I know people that knew you when you were little. You sure do. You know, my Rudolph went to elementary school with you. Yeah. What do you remember about being with her when when you two were little little people? Well, our fathers were best friends from Tulane University. Wow. And so Maya came to our elementary school right after her mother died, unfortunately. And I remember my dad saying, oh, my friends, you know, daughters coming. And we just became great friends since seven years old. Yeah. You know, I think our our senses of humor really developed together with, you know, our other best friend and or a couple of them. And then they all went to high school together. I moved to New York, but stayed close with them forever and ever. It must be nice to have Dick Rudolph. Maya's amazing dad in your life too, because he knows so much about your dad who passed like to have somebody who knew your dad went. That's always important. It's so important. It's like it conjures them again. Yeah. You know, when they're in the room, they they talk about them. And then it's like all of a sudden you feel the person. It's so nice. So then you go to New York, you go to Spence. What kind of high school? Like, who are you? What are you like in high school? Are you confident? I think I so I we moved to New York City when I started seventh grade. I was coming from California, you know, so I was like a very rare bird. And middle school so brutal. I know. It's so tender. It's very tender. It's like scarring for life. It is. And it's very everybody's trying on a lot of things. Like, maybe I'm emo, maybe yeah, maybe I like I only talk to animals. Right. I was trying all kinds of things. How old were you when you did your was hard at your first film with PTA? No, my first film I was probably 18 something like that. I had a few films where I had like one line. You know, um, it's sometimes it's hard to have one line because there's a lot of pressure. And you're like in the mirror saying you're one line saying it again. Did you ever get fired from a job? I got I got fired from like I worked in Madison Avenue to Toy Store and I got fired. But you mean like a movie job? Why did you get fired from the toy store? Do you remember? Oh, because I was working. My parents always made my brother and I have jobs after school. And so I didn't know that like, oh, everyone doesn't just go on spring break. Like people have jobs. So I went on spring break. And then I didn't tell anybody. And then I came back and I remember the look on this face. She's like, where are you? She was like, no toys were sold. She's like, you this is not how life works. She's like, you're you're done here. I was so crushed. Oh, yeah. I was like 12. It was really. I should have sued her for child labor law violations. Yeah. But anyway, I feel like I got I did get you know, I was supposed to do a movie at one point where. And it was like right after the kind of conscious uncoupling thing with Chris. And there was like a lot of a lot of harsh stuff in the press. And I think the distributor was like, this might be too. Too hot to touch. Interesting. Yeah. They were like, we don't need the heat. Yeah. Interesting. So that was great. Because I was getting into force. And then I got fired off. So I was like, I'm sorry that my divorce is bothering you. I'm sorry. I mean, if I can stay there for a second, boy, you were ahead of your time. Yeah. You really were. Thank you. Because you gave. Which is good and bad. I know. It's not probably not easy. I think you've been in that position before. But you like you gave a war. Are you get it? It wasn't your term. It was a term you were talking about. Yes. To like bracket this idea that if you want to, you can try to make the dissolution of a marriage be one that isn't deeply painful. You can try your best. You can have all of the feelings, but you can still try together to make like a conscious effort to do that. That's what you were talking about. And it's really interesting that people had such big reactions to that. Yeah. Huge. Because I think, like, say you had had a really nasty divorce or your parents had had a really nasty divorce. And then you hear this idea that like, you don't, it doesn't have to be done this way. I think the implicit learning is like, oh, fuck, like they're saying I did something wrong. Like, and which of course was not the intention. But I think, of course, I mean, that makes sense to me. Like, oh, no, like, is the inference that I messed someone up? Like, that's not a nice thing to contemplate. So I do understand why it was so personal for people because it was. Like, you only get to see that kind of reaction when it's personal. So true. And I think to, you know, we're all, we're all like when we're defensive about anything, it's saying a lot about about something. And when we're hurt, when we're, we say things we don't mean, you know, we get angry, we respond, like, yeah, that's human, that's humanity. Yeah. Comedy is a little bit interesting in this way too, which is like what we ridicule, like what we make fun of. It says so much about us. Like what we laugh at makes us so much about what we think is. And it's, it's, it's, it tells on you. Like it really tells on you. Um, you reveal yourself. You do. Um, and I have to say, I've always really admired your sense of humor about people's reactions to things. Like, if you have to, you have to kind of have it. And we got to experience, I mean, we, we, I got to, like, to SNL with you and see how funny you were. And it was really fun. We did have fun. I was just thinking today about the stuff that we did together. Do you remember? I was thinking about that. I was thinking about that sketch we did where Will played our dad. Yeah. And we were like angry dad. And we were like gangster teenagers, like thinking we were, we were gangsters. Like I think the joke of the scene was we just quietly ate dinner. We were like scraping the plate. Yeah. We would like have an outburst and then go back to like quietly eating like awkward teenagers with the family. The second time I was definitely less nervous. The third time I was, yeah, I feel like I got to sort of enjoy it. And it was fun to like meet different incarnations of the cast and stuff. And like, I think I was on like Jimmy's first season. I know there was a sketch with you and Dratch and Jimmy when they used to do like Celia and Denise, like Boston teens. Oh yeah. They were at the prom. Oh my god. That's right. I totally forgot about that. Yeah. And you did a pretty good Boston accent. I have to say. Thank you. That's not easy. It isn't easy. Now I married a guy from Boston. So, does he, does he, I mean, Bostonians are really picky about the Boston accent, you know? Well, there's different kinds. There's sort of the petition one. And then there's like pretty much gone. Pretty much gone. The Kennedy one is kind of gone. Yeah. And there's just like kind of your local. Yeah. Duncan Donuts. My husband doesn't have really a Boston accent except like on awards. Like he's like stock. He's like stock. Yeah. You can just like, it's like very. Oh, that's nice. Yeah. He's like socks. It's just subtle, but it's there. Totally sucks. I get it when I get a little angry or a little tired. You do. I had a hard time when I would do Parks and Rec with the word, um, I still have a hard time with it. Government. How do you say it? Because I want to say government. Right. Like I want to go. I want to skip over the ERN. I want to get rid of the R. Yeah. I get rid of that. Yeah. I get from cares. Yeah. Say it your way. Okay. You're an actress. You do 15 movies in five years. Wow. That's psycho. I mean, babe. That's problematic. How did you do that? I have no idea. Probably why I quit for 10 years afterwards. I was like, no, I'm not doing that. 15. That's insane. I know. Can you imagine? I just like that, but like this sort of touches back in what we were talking about, which is I didn't feel like I knew myself and had the agency to say. Yeah. No. I felt like I better just keep going and going and going and I didn't bring a lot of strategy to it. You know, yeah. Well, you don't know what you don't know. Like we can't be tough on ourselves. You know, you're trying to figure out, especially in your 20s. I mean, your 20s is I think a really difficult decade. Oh my gosh. It really is. It is. It's just you don't know at all who you are. If there's a problem, do you like people? How do you like people telling you about a problem? Let's say, how make up a problem? Like let's say someone isn't going to show up for something that you want to do. Like you're scheduled to do something today and it's not going to happen. How do you like being told about the problem? Just straight up. Yeah. That's what I suspect. I don't want to preamble. Yes. I don't want you to soften the language. Just be direct. Same. A direct approach. It's always and are you direct with other people? Yes. Now I am. And I didn't use to be. Do they? Do you? What do you do when you notice that your directness makes them uncomfortable? What do you do with their uncomfortable feelings? Well, I'm a recovering codependent. So I used to do anything and everything not to say the thing that would make the waters choppy. And then I realized how many more problems I caused. Like real problems. You know, I so relate. Can you say more about that? Yeah. Like I think when you don't say what needs to be said in the moment to spare somebody else's feelings, first of all, like you're rejecting the truest part of yourself. And then it's going to come out another way. And that's like you'll end up being dishonest. You'll end up not saying what needs to be said. You'll end up stringing out some lame relationship for eight extra months. Yeah. And treating them not so nicely because you have stuck yourself in something. You know, you just make a mess. Yeah. So I think around the time I turned 40 is when I started to move into this like I really need to stop doing this. And I worked with a coach on how to hold the uncomfortable feelings of somebody else and disappointing somebody else. I really had a problem with it with men. Like when I worked with men, a really hard time disappointing them or saying something that wasn't aligned with their version of things. And now, I don't know. And then it's so self honoring when you just speak the truth. And you can do it very kindly. And it's also not your responsibility to take care of somebody's feelings when you've simply said the truth. It's a huge, I'm not just women. Everyone needs to learn it. But especially when you learn as a woman, our age that people are responsible for their own feelings, it sounds like a very simple thing, but it's very, very hard to learn. Yep. Yep. Yep. Yep. Now that you're in a new film, like we're able to look back at some of the films that you've been in and see like be kinder to yourself about stuff. Like are you able to be a little bit sweeter to yourself about anything? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I think as far as the work is concerned, I think that I had such a long break and things have changed. And you know, it's like now I'm like the venerable old, you know, you know what I mean? And like I did this interview with Jacob Alority the other day and he was like, you've done this and this and I'm like, fuck, I'm old as hell. It's so weird. People are like, my mom, I remember. My mom loves you. My mom. My mom is in high school. She loves SNL. Yeah. I'm like, can I get a selfie for my mom? Like how old am I? But I do think that, you know, there's been a bit of a, it's so interesting because now I'm like, oh yeah, like I did these things that now, you know, at the time, you don't think that they're going to be whatever. And then it's like, you know, people send you 10 pictures every Halloween of Margotten and bomb costumes or like people say, like, oh God, I had a sliding doors moment where I X, Y and Z, you know what I mean? It's like cultural stuff. Yes, exactly. And I, and oh, I worked with this great director in his first film and this one and a second. This one is first and like, yeah, cool. Like I did do that stuff. That's neat, you know, and it feels like for the first time I'm able to feel the impact of the work that I did earlier in my life. Okay. So with that in mind, I'm going to do a quick speed round with you about your movies because you've been in so many. And I feel like you've talked about them forever. Okay. But here we go with speed round. Shakespeare in love. What words help you get into a British accent? You know, it's like the vowels, like you sort of have to change the placement of the vowels. Like, so any, any words like the A's, the O's and words like perfect. Cold mountain. How cold was the mountain? I was an in cold mountain. Oh, forget it then. But thanks for thinking of Nicole Kidman bonus. Wait, why did I think you had a cold mountain? I don't know, but I'm so happy. I was like, what was it like working? Maybe a husband, Tom Cruise. Oh, he was hot. Yeah, I bet. Iron man. Is there a lot of waiting around? You answered that. That was my question. Is there a lot of waiting around on Iron Man? So much waiting. Crafty must be good. Marvel crafty must be insane. I don't know. Interesting. You know what I have to say? I think like, I think snack foods can be dangerous. And snacking is like, at least I know for me, is completely emotional. Yeah, completely emotional. Yeah, it is, isn't it? Yeah, it's just like if you're not having a cigarette or you're going to those were the days. I know, remember cigarettes. We talk about it here and we know they're very bad for you. But God, God, that came up such a great time. I know, man. I know. You know what I decided when I'm like 87, I'm going to start smoking again. Fantastic. I mean, I remember when we were in the 2000s, when there was a lot of that. And then also you were the first person to say the word macro biotic diet. You were on a macrobiotic diet. Yeah, that was that was a great phase where it was like cigarettes and tofu with the brown rice and the seaweed. Like, I don't know what I was just kind of in your house while it's on fire. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Okay. Sliding doors, you mentioned it. Do you read the subway? Do I write a subway? Yeah. I mean, I haven't in a while because I don't live in New York City anymore. But when I did, I took it all the time. And you have to go pretty in Cognito. Like, do you feel like you can kind of blend? Yeah, I feel, don't you feel like New Yorkers are just don't care. Yeah. Contagion was it weird that everybody was watching it during the pandemic? Yes. Everything that was watching it. I know. Everyone got really into dark shit. I know. And it's like they wanted to see you dying. I know. It's very character. You're character. It was very weird. I know. Royal tenon bombs. Halloween costume. Yeah. And so much more. And so much more. You're smiling. What's here? I just love, I really love that movie. Yeah. It's a great movie. And I had such a good time making the movie. Yeah. It's such a cool character. She's so cool. She's so cool. I know. With her wooden finger. I know. Talk about cigarettes. I know. And I'd quit smoking. And then I had to smoke in the movie. And you were like, oopsie. I was like, I guess I smoke again. That fur coat. Who's I do? No. It's all west. West West. West knows every how he wants every single prop and costume and everything. He's so wonderfully specific. I loved that. I loved stepping into this drawing of his. Yeah. That's what it felt like. It's so cool. Talented Mr. Ripley. Did you speaking of clothes? Did you use any of your own clothes in that film or did you keep any of the clothes? You're so I should have kept some. I wish I'd kept a couple like one souvenir from every movie. But I never thought to do that at the time. I was like the most legendary costume designer did that movie. She was just so amazing. I love those costumes so much. But legendary costume designers can also be really intimidating. They don't let you keep anything. That's true. View from the top. Do flight attendants talk to you about that? They do. That's the best part of having done that movie. Do you ever think about fantasy other job you would do? Would there be a job? Whether it's flight attendant or where you would feel like you'd be good at? I would like to be a chef if I wasn't. I think I could have done that. Well, I love cooking and food. That would be I could have a little restaurant somewhere. I'm a hook. Robin Williams. Oh my gosh. I didn't get to do it. I thought you were just about to say I wasn't in hook. No, I was in hook. Don't think I will forever think all my whole life that I said you were in cold mountain. But I just want you to know this is an honest mistake. I mean, Nicole Kidman and I are very interchangeable. Thank you very much. But did you work with Robin? No. Did you get to know him? You know, I only got to know him a bit when Goodwill Hunting came out because I was dating one of the people who wrote that movie and was in that movie. We're well aware. And so I got to know him that. So you guys were dating during Goodwill Hunting? Fantastic Boston movie. After. Okay. But when it was coming out. And so he was around for that press and stuff. Yeah. He's so good in that movie. Oh, I love that movie. It's a perfect movie. I agree. I love it so much. And it's so. It's so like rainy day movie. It's like a rainy day movie. And the and Elliot Smith who did all of music and God's like, it's just perfect. I love it so much. What's a rainy day? What's a movie that when it comes on, you're like jackpot. I'm going to watch it. Like a rainy day, you know, a plane movie. Something if you're like, you know, I'm like, all the 80s movies. You know, like what? Like San almost fire. I will never not watch that if it's on. I, you know, getting back to Rob Lowe. Rolo as we called him on set. I would just sometimes like sit there and always. He loves it. And he's never had a name. He's never really had a nickname. And the best thing is it like didn't spread as much as you guys tried to make it a thing. And he called him Rolo. I know, but he didn't go outside, you know, and he really, well, I think wants it to go. He's like, I've never had a nickname. I know. He loves it. I remember like the first day on set me saying Rolo. It was his birthday and he was shooting on his birthday. And I was like, oh, have you ever been on set for your birthday? He was like, yes, like 400. Right. You've had a long career. Um, San almost fire Billy Rolo as Billy as Billy. Bad boy can't change him. Heaven. Heaven. He was never my celebrity crush. Who was? I mean, well, Keanu Reeves was my first like real. But when I watched San almost fire, like I wanted to, like I would have gone with Judd Nelson. Oh, interesting. You wanted them more professional. Yeah. Yeah. Billy was too. I don't really like smart and cheater. Like that was. Yeah. Also, when you rewatch that movie, it's like everyone is so dressed so professionally. I know. Like they're every we really did dress like we were when we were in our 20s, we dress like we were 60 year old. Yeah. The 80s was a dream. And it's happening again now. Yeah. Like not that Wall Street thing, but sort of like this sort of grandma chic, like all the, all the hymns or cool kids are sort of, you know, it's like the soft, everything's soft shoulders. You tell me knitted things and I got a quarter zip just for this interview. So you tell me. It's looking really good. Thank you so much. Okay. And Han, both Han, you brought up Rashida, both Rashida and Han love you and talk about how fun it is to hang with you and and how like they both, you know, and they're, I think, representative of a lot of people who kind of want to know what you think about things because they trust your style, they trust what you said, like the work you try to do to figure out what is the best thing of things. And it's not even about the things. It's just like, is there someone who's keeping an eye out, keeping an eye out and figuring out like, is there a better way to do something? That's, you love that. Love that. So where do you think that comes from? I think I'm in anyagram one. Okay. Jackpot. Here we go. So like, I'm always trying to improve everything. Great. So for people less than I don't know anyone who's listening to this, who hasn't, hopefully, what is anyagram one? How would you describe it? Are you into any grand thing? Very much. Again. Okay. Do you want to guess my number? Nobody ever gets it right? God. There we go. I'm always, I always get the wrong, I always, people guess the wrong number, which saddens me because I love, I love, yes, ask some questions. Please. Okay. Like, how would you describe yourself as someone who really enjoys a dinner party? Yes. Okay. Would you describe yourself as somebody who is very focused on achieving? Yes. Are you a peacemaker? No. You're talking about three. You're talking about nine. I'm neither one of those. I know. That's what I just - It's clean. - Yeah. So, how? - I have a peacemaker wing. - Okay, ah. So you're a one. You're not a one with a two wing? Okay. - You're not an eight. - Yes, you are. - You are, I'm okay. You're an eight. - You know this. You're an eight. - I am an eight. - You're an eight with a nine wing. - Yes, so I'm not a monster, right? Because I got a little peacemaker in me. But I'm a challenge, I'm a challenge. - I'm a challenge or I'm okay. - And I think I hide it, but I definitely relate to all of that feeling of like authority stuff and challenging a little bit and wanting to lead and feeling very happy with direct people. Like I'm like you, like I really like when people tell me truth and are direct, I can handle it all day long. But when people come sideways and like what's going on? - Yeah, it's such a bad, it can be feeling. - Yeah. - And I love any of grandma ones because ones are on it. - Yeah, we're on it. - And they believe in like getting it right. There's the hardest on themselves. - Oh yeah. - They are really hard on themselves. - But we are trying to make things better, right? We're the reformer. - So you're always, and I've always been like refining to figure out what is a better way to get efficient, like to do it like. - Yeah, to improve yourself to feel contentment, to reduce inflammation, to be a good partner, to be a good divorce person. - Yeah, okay. So with your striving for perfection in mind, I have another one more speed round. - Oh, okay. - Perfection speed round. - Here we go. Make it perfect. Cold plunge, lot of controversy about whether or not it's right for women. I said that I do it, and there were a lot of comments saying it's not good for women. Do you do it? Do you like to do it? How do you feel about it? - I do do it more sparingly, like my husband does it every single day. So I spend a lot of time researching this. And what I think I understand that the net net of it is, cold plunging is not unilaterally terrible for women, but we kind of need to listen to ourselves and maybe not the water quite as cold as the men. - Like that. - Maybe not quite as long as the men. And to just be mindful of where we are, if we're exhausted, and because it can be quite taxing on the body, but it's still, there are still benefits for us. - Speaking of temperature, what do you like for your sleeping temperature? - Well, the older I get, the colder I like it. - Me too. - I like, you know, in the '60s. - Yeah. Me too. - Ooh, I love crazy. - Alcohol, after 50. - Oh, why do they have to ruin it for us? - I know, it's like, it's a disaster. - It's a disaster. - Such a bummer. - Coffee? - Yes, big time. I'm a big coffee drinker. - How do you drink your coffee? - With raw heavy cream. - What? - I know. - Shocked. - I know. - I'm in New York, of you, and not California. - I know. - Good job. - I'm not the alt milk queen. - Yeah. - Same. - Yeah. Oh, you do have regular milk? - I have cow milk or half an hour. - Yeah. - Yeah. - No shame in it. - But I don't really do coffee. I do tea, because coffee is a lot of-- - Oh, coffee is a lot of-- - Mm-hmm. Very English. - Yeah. - Okay. Lemon water. - Love it. - Great. Bone density. What are we gonna do about it? - We are gonna, we're gonna, you know, talk to our doctor about potential estrogen supplementation. - Totally. - We're gonna do heavy weights. - Yes. - Lots of heavy weights. - Are you doing heavy weights? - Yeah. I do it on this giant, really heavy Pilates reformer thing called a "Legree," and that seems to be good now. - Yeah, look at that reformer. - It's called the "Legree," it's very, very good. And we're gonna gag down protein 70 times a day. - Oh. (laughs) - Yeah. Bone broth, has that come and gone? Bone broth is great. I still like bone broth. I think it's, it's fantastic for your gut. It's full of protein and collagen, all the things. For some reason, people thought like, I only drank bone broth. - Yeah. - But I'll have it as like a cup of tea in the afternoon. That's my favorite way to have it. - Interesting. Sleep routine. Talk me through it. - Okay. - So, I have to take a bath every night. - Wow. - Yeah. Have to, non-negotiable. - Interesting. - And if there's not a bath tub, then I have to shower. Like, I gotta get the day off with water. And I think part of my good sleep routine is eating dinner early, so not going to bed on a full stomach. - Yes. What time do you like to eat dinner? - I like it at six. - Okay, me too. (laughs) - I make my reservations at six p.m. - So do I. - I love it so much. - She's so great. - And I honestly sometimes I like to be the first person in the restaurant. - I was last night. - I did five, 45 last night. - Incredible. - I know. - To be in bed and have eaten by eight o'clock. - Is there anything better? - No. - I think about bedtime all day. - Me too. - I love it so much. - Me too. - I love it so much. And then Brad and I usually watch something in bed, which I know you're not supposed to do. - I know. - I know. But, you know, it's so deeply relaxing to me. - Yeah. - You get in there at a cold room and like watch some serial killer or doing something so great. And then, you know, go to sleep and then, oh, I have mouth tape and ear plugs and- - Mouth tape. - Yeah. I'm big into the mouth tape. - I know that's controversial too. Mouth tape because there's a whole mouth tape movement. There's pro, there's, but mouth tape is helpful. Do you, are you a grinder? - I'm a grinder. - Yeah. - So it's helpful for me. Also, I really believe that there's no one size fits all solution, like we're all so different. - Totally. - We have such different genetics, different phenotypes, different tolerances, allergies, toxic loads. Like we're all, this idea that one thing works for everyone I think is not true. - See, this is why we love you, Quinnith. It's true. You just said all the stuff in it is like your, you were not selfish. You were not a gatekeeper. - No, that I am not. - You're like, I'm trying this. Would you like to try this? I don't think this works, but who knows? - Right. - You are, it's interesting. It's kind of like the, even though you're, maybe consider yourself a person who's trying to get it right, you're not afraid to like try and fail with things and you share it with us. - For sure. - Yeah. - Yeah. - I believe in, I mean also because I'm such a researcher and such a guinea pig, like I wanna share, I wanna share the learnings, then take it or leave it. - Okay, and then the last thing I'm gonna ask you about is, what is making you laugh? - So the thing that's made me laugh the hardest and like the past year? - Mm-hmm. - When was the SNL thing that I lazily did not go to? 'Cause I. - You didn't go to the SNL 15? - No. - Wow. - I know. It was a mistake and I regret it. So I just wanna say that out loud. - You were like, oh, that's, you just thought like, - I was like, oh, that's way to another 15. (audience laughing) - I was like, it seems like I had so much work at the time. - It's gonna be hectic. - And I was like, I gotta go all the way to New York and I had something the next day, so I just couldn't go. - Yeah. - But I watched the thing at Radio City or whatever, what was the night before thing? - Yes, incredible music show the night before. - Okay. - Wait, what are you gonna say? I love it, I don't know. I'm gonna try to. - When Anna and Will did the church thing. - I talked to Anna about it. Bobby and Marty. - Did you write that? - I wish. No, Paula Pell, the great Paula Pell. - I'm incredible writer on SNL and performer and Anna and Will do these Bobby and Marty call. - I, and she starts singing Kendrick Lamar. (audience laughing) - Yes, and what Anna said, which was so incredible, is I gotta tell you something. And I think I said this on it, but I just wanna extrapolate for a second about it. To me it was so, it was like such a win for the comedy kids because it was such a cool night. They literally followed Lauren Hill. They came on after Lauren Hill. - Amen. - And their job was to settle everybody. (laughing) They had to go like, we're gonna wait, we're gonna wait until you stop talking. Quiet, they kept telling everyone to be quiet. - It was so funny. - To me that's like that, I don't know what brand of comedy you call that, but it's like that funny bones. Where, what, what was the Kendrick Lamar song? She's like, oh, we gotta look at it for a second. It was, what was it? What was it? - Yeah, let's just watch it. And I hope we can get it on that way. Like is the 50th SNL on Hulu or something like that? Here we go. - Honestly, I. (laughing) (laughing) (laughing) (laughing) (laughing) - I'm a commitment. - I'm sorry. - I know the commitment. - What kind of humor, what do you call that? - I'm sweating. - I'm sweating. - Like, to me, what I would call that, honestly it's a great question. To me, I would call it like, committed. (laughing) (laughing) - We gotta spend Tic, our first one. (laughing) - We gotta spend Tic on Good Hang. And it's good. - It's all over my skirt. - Here we go, here's some Tic, good hang Tic. - Oh my God. (laughing) - Oh my God, breathe. It's so funny. (laughing) - Wait, let's play it again. (laughing) - Oh my God, I'm sweating, I'm dying. (laughing) - Oh my God, okay, so that's called sketch comedy. (laughing) (laughing) - I need a fan. - I'm having a hot flash. - Oh my God, I'm learning the quarter zip. - A sketch comedy induced hot flash. - Yes, I feel like what you're talking about is real, which is, I feel like it is commitment. It's commitment, here I'll take it. (laughing) - I'll pick it up on my way out. (laughing) - I feel like it's commitment. And I feel like it's character based sketch when he's with me sick. That's all I describe it. - So, to me, that's like the funniest thing I've ever seen. (laughing) - That's what you mean. - I like, you know, it's like these weird specific things. - And in person, it was so funny. - Ah. - That was really fun. - It was really fun. - Quinnith, thank you so much for coming on. - Thank you so much. - And we wish you a good hang. - You're a good hang. (clapping) - Thank you so much, Quinnith. It's so fun to hang with you. And you gave us this first bit take that we've ever had on the show, and we hope it's not the last. So thank you so much. And you know, for this polar plunge, I wanna talk about polar plunges. I wanna talk about cold dips. There was a lot of controversy when I brought it up last time. And I am here to just remind you, you don't have to do it. I like it. It makes me feel alive slash like I'm gonna die. And I like it. I know it might not be good for all women, and maybe it's not good for me. I'll find out, okay? But I'm gonna keep plunging. And it does make me feel better, okay? (laughing) I don't know, I don't know what to say. I appreciate, I'm not telling anybody to do it. But if you wanna do it, I think it's great. (laughing) Okay, anyway. Thank you so much for listening. Thanks Quinnith for joining us and see you soon, bye. (clapping) - You've been listening to Good Hang. The executive producers for this show are Bill Simmons, Jenna Weiss Berman, and me, Amy Polar. The show is produced by the Ringer and PaperKite. For the Ringer, production by Jack Wilson, Kat Spalain, Kaya McMullen, and Alayah Zeneres. For PaperKite, production by Sam Green, Joel Lovell, and Jenna Weiss Berman. Original music by Amy Miles. ♪ All I ever wanted was a really good hang ♪