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From IGNORED to CHOSEN by Her Specific Person | SP Manifestation Success Story

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From IGNORED to CHOSEN by Her Specific Person | SP Manifestation Success Story

In this interview, a client named Victoria shares her journey of manifesting her specific person (SP) with coach Paulina. Victoria had previously tried various manifestation methods—inner child healing, visualization, and affirmations—but nothing worked. She found Paulina after realizing her mental image of her SP was negative and that she needed deeper work, not just surface-level techniques. Victoria discovered that her nervous system felt unsafe with intimacy due to a traumatic childhood involving an aggressive mother and a violent father, which made her push her SP away. After joining Paulina’s program, she saw initial movement when her SP began asking personal questions, but then experienced a standstill period where she felt like giving up. However, she continued working on herself and noticed internal shifts, such as setting boundaries and changing her self-perception. Victoria learned that external movement depends on internal safety and self-concept, not on fixing her age or physical appearance. She emphasizes that the program’s deep work on resistance and safety was key to her transformation, unlike other coaches who only taught affirmations or visualization. Ultimately, Victoria realized that her SP is a reflection of her own beliefs and that she had been manifesting her own blockages.

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Yay! I'm so excited for today because today I have a very special treat for you, especially if you're manifesting your specific person. I have a pleasure to interview my gorgeous client from, she signed up for my manifest your specific person program. That's how she joined my world last year. Hello Victoria. Hello! I actually bought every course of you. I'm so excited for you. You bought all the courses but you haven't really even finished any of them right? Have you gone through them already or no? I have gone through them all, yeah. I mean, some courses I still need to repeat again and watch them again. It's always like, "Oh, I don't even know! I thought you hadn't started to change your specific person program." I know. I watched it and everything already. I'm still working on me right now, so I'm not focusing on the course but I have watched it everything already. Okay, that's amazing. Very dedicated client. And your story is so beautiful because you told me that you were living in Mexico when you found me. You found me, like, explain a little bit how you found me, and also about the time when you were living in Mexico and you didn't have the money so you were saving up for this course. It was like. Yeah, yeah. So I was in New York before and there was in Florida and I did like it and then somehow I went on 6th of 6th 2025 to Mexico. And something happened in Mexico, like this place is so magically. And yeah, it's like an inner deep journey. And then when I landed, I felt like, "Oh, fuck shit, I still have things for this guy for the last 2.5 years." But I was never honest to me. I was just like, "No, no, no, no feelings." And he's just a client. And no, there's nothing. But when I landed in Mexico, I was like, "Oh, fuck shit, I have funny story." And when I was like, "I was like, okay, this client." Yes, I have a business. And last year it wasn't running that well. And somehow I landed in Mexico, I wanted to save money actually because Mexico was cheap. And he's my business client for 2 years. And yeah, we're just clients, like business. I'm the business consultant, he's a client and he's only a real business. Yeah, really, really business. So, I found you that, "Okay, I realized I have feelings for this guy and now I need a SP coach." I never had a SP coach, but I've had before. And then I was looking up on Instagram and I manifest your SP coach. And I found 10 and I was looking up for 10 and I was like, "Okay, probably not she's the one. She's my soulmate coach." I just can't, I know it, yeah. And then I bought a course. That time I still had to pay in several installments. Yeah, and this is how I came into your word. "Have you done any other manifestation like courses or worked with any manifestation coaches?" Like not a specific person, but yeah. There were no specific person courses. Like, there were a lot of love, relationship, blockages, inner child healing, self-concert manifestation. And I really thought, "Okay, I worked so much already. I'm not like the affirmation girl." I'm more like, "Okay, self-concert and inner child healing." And I know I need to feel chosen and wanted and important and everything. But just nothing worked. Nothing worked. Like, people, or men were still go see me. Men were still not choosing me. Men were leaving me like two hours before the day. Like, "Oh, I cannot come." Like, "What the fuck?" I was so angry myself. I paid so much already. And still nothing works. I just want the shit to work now. Yeah. And I just had a good feeling with you. Like, "Okay, even though I worked so much already myself, but I still want to do this journey." "I need to finish this. I need to continue this." So let's sidetrack a little bit. Because you said that you had also worked on your self-concept in other programs or with other coaches. What kind of self-concept was that? Was it affirmations or like, "What kind of. " No, we did a lot of inner child healing. And what do you want to believe and visualize? No, not affirmations, but more like visualisation and imagine how you would be with your person together on mildest or something. And then, "Okay, I just did a lot of inner child healing in emotional release." Which is like important, yeah. And I also worked on the relationship with my father and my mother. And I'm like, "Okay, is this enough now? Or should I do more?" Still not working. Like, "What else should I do? I don't know." Do you remember something that. This is like, you did all of those things already. Because I have so many people coming to me and they have been doing all the things. And they're like, "Okay, but how is this actually going to be different? How is this actually going to change my life? Easy to even going to help me." Yeah. Can you speak on that? Was there anything that you were like, "Okay, you just knew that this was the right for you?" Yeah, because I read your post and all the other SP coaches were like, "Just do affirmations and visualisation and just keep on believing in ignorance with you." Like, "Fuck, I'm doing it already in my life and it still doesn't work." And I need something different, yeah. I need someone who's not like for beginner. Like, I was advanced already. And I could see in your post, like, you were. There was a post, like, "Yeah, your self-concept." It's not a thing why you manifest them. It's your mental image. Like, "Okay, interesting. What is that? It makes sense." And then, "Yeah, okay, you need to change the mental image of your SP." And then, "Oh, shit, yeah, my mental image is so shit about him." The right sense? It makes no sense. Yeah, and this was a point like, "Yeah, okay. I think she knows what she's talking about. She's the expert. I'm going to hire her." It's like, "Okay, thank God. Now I understand why I didn't see her." Yeah. It was not like the bullshit everybody's talking about just to affirmation, ignore 3D. I'm not stupid. Like, "I'm doing it already, but still not working." Yeah. Now, I was going to ask you the million-dollar question that I always get from a lot of people on TikTok and YouTube. It's like, "What affirmation should I repeat?" So, like, "What affirmations did you repeat?" Yeah. I didn't do any affirmations. I knew like, "Affirmations is not the thing because it's just like, "He and my brain, but I also need to feed it in my heart and in my DNA and my body." So, I didn't do any affirmations. Yeah, before joining a program, yeah. And still nothing worked. I wasn't the affirmation. But did you do any affirmations inside of my manifest yours? A specific person program because a lot of people think that we're doing affirmations there. No, never, never, never, never. Like, your course is so deep. I'm so deep. I've never seen something so deep in any other coaching. And I'm not new to the coaching world. Not new. Like, I've seen it so much already, but you already know what you're talking about. Yeah. Just like week one of your courses already. Like, I've seen movement. I've seen movement. Yeah. Like, my SP, he was so ignorant. Like, it's only about him. He's only about him and his taxes and his business and then. He never asked me one time in my life in two years how I am. Just this fucking question of how I am, he just never asked me. And I did week one of your course and then we had one Zoom call and just one hour we talked about me. He's like, "What the fuck? This guy is asking questions about me." And he was kind of interested in my personal life. He didn't ask me anything about taxes or business stuff. Wow, it works. It works. Yeah. But the thing is also I could see like it was me who was manifesting it. And before I was always like, "Yeah, men are shit. The men are this." And it's always there forward. I kind of realized like, "Hey, it's me. I am manifesting this version of the M-Shit." Yeah. And this is like what I really like about your work that I feel so powerful now because I know like, "Hey, he's just a reflection of me. It's me. It's just me. Yeah. It's just me." Was there anything that you can remember inside the program that made it click or like an aha moment that you could share? Maybe an insight that you were like, "Wow, like this explains everything." Yeah, release the resistance. I mean, we worked on so many things, yeah. But I never heard about this release resistance. So I just did your task and then I could see like, "Wow, I have heavy resistance. Like heavy resistance." Yeah. And I could see like, "Okay, I want him, but my nervous system doesn't want him." Oh, oh, no. And I remember I told you like, "I was in Mexico and then he also wanted to come to Mexico." Like, "What the fuck is happening here?" Like, there are so many countries in the world. Why do you want to come to Mexico? And then he wanted to come and then know. And then yes, and I know I could see like, "Oh, it's me because I felt unsafe. I wanted him, but I felt unsafe. And I wanted him and then I felt unsafe." Like, me, I was pushing him away in all the time. And yeah, to honest, Mexico was a hard time for me. Like working with you was really hard time for me. And I really want to be honest. Like, it's not just like boo-hoo and we do some things. It was, and I know like I have a heavy past. Like my childhood was a mess and my mom was aggressive. And when she was aggressive, she was throwing knives on me and my father, he was beating us up. And we didn't learn what love is. Like, my parents never hugged me my life. Never. They never said anything nice to me. And yeah, just learn like love is something that is not existent in my world. It's not possible for me. And it's dangerous even to open your heart to someone because they will hurt you. So this is what I learned. And actually, the first time I learned it with you, why did I have so many coaches before? And nobody told me anything about this. Help me out of this. Yeah. And this is the difference. And also like I could have told you to inside my program, for example. I could have told you to repeat a bunch of affirmations or like just remind yourself that you are the chosen one. But even if it works for you because for you, you felt unsafe. And that's something that I don't really, it really see a lot of people talk about. Because if you don't see, it feels safe to even have your specific person relationship or have that relationship or that love, then it's not going to happen. Yeah. You can feel chosen. You can tell yourself all day long that you're chosen. Yeah. There were so many deep layers. I know like the first week with you was, like after I was one and one call, like I worked on this, I'm not good enough because it's just I check a little bit, okay? I just want to go back and I just want to explain everyone listening here that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then you started seeing movement there. And I think it was maybe, was it like one month later or something that you signed up for a few one-on-one sessions with me. So that's what she's talking about now. I had your manifest your SP course and then I signed up for your magnetic membership, like three weeks later. And then I think four weeks later, yeah, my first one-on-one session with you. Yeah. That happened first. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, go ahead. You were sharing something about some beliefs there. Yeah. So I had my one-on-one call with you and I still remember when I was sitting in Mexico there in this coffee shop because internet was lost and I don't remember when I was like, "Oh, she's my hero now. She's the only one who can help me." And then you were asking some questions like, "Holy crap, what do I think about myself?" Like, this is, of course, he's not gonna choose me. I wouldn't even choose me. First thing, because my SP is like eight years younger than me. And I think like, okay, I'm eight years older than him. Why would he choose me? I'm good enough. I'm older. But I would already choose an older woman. Yeah. And then also I had this thing with my body. I thought that I need to lose weight. Yeah, I literally have it in my Google Docs notes because for every client I'm writing, like, making a Google Doc document with like all the things. And I went through it today and I read that it said that you had told me on our first call that the problem was that you weren't sure that he likes you or like you would have to lose weight and you would have to manifest your dream body before he would want you or before he would choose you. Yeah, from this point of view of today is like, what the fuck, like why would I think that my body has nothing to do with love, nothing. And I look insane. Sorry. I look insane. I look insane. Yeah. But I feel like this is the illusion that a lot of people are in because your mind is telling you that you need to fix all of these things. Like you need to manifest your dream body, for example, like change your physical appearance and be younger and be more beautiful and do things that are outside of yourself because you don't feel safe to have the love. Yeah. And once you're very confident safe to have the love which nobody is actually helping you do in in this like coaching space. Nobody. Yeah. Or I haven't seen any other specific person manifestation coach ever talk about this because they're always saying like just assume that you have your specific person. Yeah. Yeah. And but if you don't feel safe to have the specific person relationship, you're just not going to call it in by trying to live in the end or whatever. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So oh, this week I cried a lot because he was triggering me like he came to US and then no, I'm going to go to Bahamas. Like what the fuck the shit? Like why are you already on the other side of the world? They just come to Mexico now. But the moment he said he's flying to me. Bahamas. Oh, thanks God. I was so released because my body was like no, no, no, this is unsafe. It becomes here because I'm afraid to get rejected. Yeah. Yeah. So you work so much deeper than just any vision board or affirmations or whatever. I don't know like it goes so much deeper. Yeah. And I couldn't understand like, yeah, it's me who's pushing me away. It's not him. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. I honestly don't believe that we would be here right now if I had just told you to be living in the end state or just pretend that you already have your specific person. Because I didn't want a coach who's telling me live in the end. Oh, yeah. I didn't. It's not like I didn't try it already. Yeah. I tried it already and it didn't work. I wanted someone who's really just better telling me the truth. Like you need to work on this and this and this. Yeah. Yeah. And it's really hard and like some deep work with your parents or childhood. Down for it. Let's do it. I'm doing whatever you want. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. This is the one deep work deep. It's like the deep work you can do. I just didn't want anyone like who's pampering me and just saying, yeah, just a film and I wish you guys. Yeah. No, don't pamper me. Was there at any point during your journey? Was there like a moment where you felt like this is never going to work out? Yeah. Like my life is never going to change. I just might as well just like settle and be alone forever and like all these kind of things. Like I'm not going to get my specific person. Yeah. So we worked like, I mean, I worked on your manifest your SP course and then we also had the one and one where you gave me the data plan for me and it was like, in August, October, November. So around two and a half months, I worked on myself. Yeah. And I didn't see any movement. Like he was even blocked to me. Did the care like nothing happened. Yeah. And and then end of November, two weeks before I went back to Dubai, like I had this moment where I was, you remember when I was crying and I'm like, oh my god, nothing else. And I didn't even believe in God anymore. I thought like God is losing me and he's breaking my soul and I know it was my ego. It was just before because like four weeks later we had an offer stay. But that time I was like, okay, nothing works. And I don't know why I'm doing the shit and I love Paulina's work. But why it's not working for me? Stupid stuff. And I've not already seen a lot of movement before that. There was just a standstill period. Yeah. In the beginning, you saw a lot of movement and then you kind of became silent for a moment. Yeah. Yeah. It became silent and I wanted a bigger movement, like not just a text or something. I'm not like chasing the small stuff. I don't want just a text or a call. Like I want the relationship. Yeah. So I'm going like, okay, I go through all the shit here. But this there was this moment where I thought like, I just give up now. I just don't, I don't fuck up. I give up. Like, okay, I still continue working with you because I like you and I work with you. I just don't, I give up now. I think I was there. I was there. I was a singer and died for the rest of my life. I was, I really feel this moment because my heart was so broken. Yeah. So that's interesting though that you said that you were about to give up when you didn't see movement for a while because you thought that nothing is working. But did you ever consider that maybe when you were in Mexico and you had this like not panic attack, but when you felt scared that what if he's coming there? Because you had that moment of like shit, like what if he's coming here now and what am I going to do then? Like do I need to see him all of those things? Like, oh shit, like I don't have my dream body yet. I don't look the way that I need to look in front of him. Like I don't have my physical appearance. I need to change all these things. So you kind of had that panic moment. So did you ever consider that that was showing you what you needed to work through before seeing real proper movement with him? Yeah. I worked on it. I knew like, okay, this panic and anxiety is my thing and that's why he wasn't Bahamas at a Mexico. Or the feeling that I'm underneath. Sorry. The feeling unsafe underneath because again, it's just the panic and the anxiety is like kind of like that. Yes. Yes. That's just a sign of something deeper and the deeper or the Victoria was like feeling unsafe. Yes. It's always the safety with me. So when he didn't reach out and he was away, I'm like, yeah, okay, my friend and he are together with him. But when he reached out, I'm like, oh my god, anxiety, anxiety. Yeah. I saw nothing, no movement. And I think it was good because he just, this time just gave me the time to work on myself. I think this time where nothing worked, it was okay. But I mean, from nature, I'm a person like if I start something, I just, I put it to an end. Like I'm not someone who gives up. Yeah. And even though my soul wanted to give up, I'm like, no, you just didn't start this journey just to just to end in the middle. Like you have to finish this even if it's just for me. And I knew like, I did this for me because I knew like when I manifest someone else, like it will be the same pattern again. So just continue and do it for yourself. Yeah. And then the first movement, your question. Yeah. Because my question is like, did you see some internal movement after like during the period when you didn't see external movement? Yeah. Because a lot of people are just focusing on external movement. Yeah. The external movement doesn't happen before the internal movement happens. Yeah. Yeah. And I'm talking about it. I got wrong. Like internal shifts. Like you, you noticed that you see yourself differently. You feel differently about yourself. Yeah. Totally, totally. I have completely changed as a person. I mean, I still want to continue changing myself. But like I could really see like different things when I learned like, okay, I said boundaries. And I was always this people pleaser and like this golden retriever overgiving person who's always like, yeah, what do you have time? What do you have time? What can we mean? Like, and the problem was that I could see the problem. But I couldn't, I couldn't do something else because it was a subconscious pattern. I couldn't do anything about it. Yeah. Like there was a ghost inside me, which is doing all this stuff. And I'm like, hey, I know it's wrong. But why are you still doing this? But it was my pattern. It was my pattern. Yeah. And I learned to say no. I learned to say no. What is this? Do I want this? No. Like the first time in my life, I asked myself what actually do I want? I never did this in 30 years. Like, can you imagine? Like, never in 30 years, I ever asked myself what do I actually want? It's always like what do the others actually want. And this was a big thing, a big thing, young. Even when I was a brother. And I had this fight with my brother. And again, like the fucking stupid old man in my life, like they're just doing shit. But hey, I could say, first time in my life, no. How do I want it? I was so proud of it to say, okay, this is what I want. And this is no. Yeah. Without feeling like, you know, like usually I would feel guilty if I say no. I'm like, oh, I'm not a nice girl. Maybe he knows me. Maybe he abandons me because I say no. Like, no, fuck shit. I don't care if he abandons me a lot. But I won't abandon myself anymore because my needs count. And this totally shifted me. Because before I always put other people on the pedestal and other people needs a more important than me. Yeah. Because this is how I learned it in Asian family that you don't count. Yeah. You as a girl, you don't count. And you are not important. Yeah. And you really helped me to see myself as someone who's actually the most important person in my life, this entire shift. I learned to love myself again. And I mean, I hear a lot of times. You have to love yourself. Like, yeah, but how? Like, yeah. But how? Yeah. Is I know a lot of bemen, especially on this journey. They feel really emotionally dependent on their specific person. And so they feel like, they feel like she's when they don't see movement or when they don't hear from their specific person. And they feel good about themselves the moment when there's some movement or like something happening in the external world. So you're telling me that that also, like, you kind of detached from that in a way. Yeah. I mean, it's harder. It's really hard. I don't say it's easier. I was in November when I was almost crying in Mexico and then went back to Dubai and then I didn't see any movement. I was asking the universe all the time, can you send me the movement please? Please, just one movement, just one movement. And then I got a huge movement. We had our first date and then he disappeared again. I'm like, okay, fuck. I don't need the movement. Like, it doesn't help me. If I have one date and then he disappears again. Like, then I don't care about the movement. I don't, yeah. And then after that, I didn't care about the movement anymore. Yeah. Because just having one text or one phone call or one date with him and then he disappears again is like, okay, then I don't want it. I want the whole cake. And then after that, I stopped caring about the movement, yeah. Because movement was no thing for me anymore. Yeah. Yeah. And what about the overtinking, over analyzing, spiraling? Did that. Like, did you have that in the beginning and now you don't have it or like tell me a little bit about that? Oh, yeah. He was 24/7 in my mind and it's always like when I like someone, it's always like, does he think about me? Does he want me and now? And my decision has been met with me and then always on the phone, like, he's not met with me. And like, totally over analyzing. And the problem was like, I know I shouldn't do this, but there is this subconscious pattern which is like living my life and I cannot do anything about it. Yeah. And I never had my own life. It was always like him, him, him, him, him, him. When is he? When is he? Yeah. Like, I'm obsessed with like hyper focused on another person. Yeah. And I felt so bad because like, okay, I'm a businesswoman and I have my own life. I'm journaling. I'm independent. I have my own business. I'm fuck shit. Like, super confident in my business. And then you see yourself in love life with your SP so needy and all what analyzing. Like, why can't I be so confident in my love life? Like in my business? Yeah. Well, I don't know, yeah. Yeah, yeah, exactly. But is there anything before you signed up for my manifesto specific person course or before working with me one on one that you thought that you needed to fix or you thought that you needed to like change apart from the physical appearance. And then you realize that that wasn't actually the key to being chosen. Before I signed up for your manifesto specific program or one on one. Yes. Is there a difference? Maybe before. Yeah, because before I even found you on Instagram, I had no idea what I needed to work on. Yeah, my self-concert was top tier. Everybody told me just I have a nice self-concept and that's it. And then like, okay, but what else do I do now? I don't know. I was like speechless. And then I found you and I'm like, okay, I don't know what she's doing, but let's just do it. I had no idea what it was doing. Yeah. Funny. Yeah. I just thought I, okay, work on your self-concept here in a China. That's it. Done. Boom. Man is there. He was there. I don't know what to do now. Okay, just buy this course. Let's see what she's doing. It's just dumb spreading to it. Yeah. Yeah. So I had no idea what I needed to work on. I was just like, what else? Yeah. Okay. Give me the solution, God. And you were kind of looking for the solution because you had done all the things that everyone told you to. And you were still in the same place. You were like, yes, yeah. Yeah. I was so angry. I was so angry like on myself and on the world. It's like I did so many stuff. And then I see other people who never work on themselves and they just get straight away boyfriend like me. And I'm not that bad. I'm not ugly or I'm not dumb. So I'm like, I'm a good person. Good catch. And everybody else around me has a boyfriend. I will accept me. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Were there any specific audience inside the manifest your specific person course that helped you take your power back and helped you like feel more confident about yourself? Helped you find yourself again. Yeah. So I like all your audors and especially the one like this release the resistance because when I release your systems, I saw the most movement. And I could see results. I could see results. Yeah. And I also know that there's a lot of people that struggle with like they think that they're doing the manifestation process wrong or they think that they have to be perfect. Like if they're not perfect or doing the manifestation process perfectly, then if they miss a step or something, then they're not going to get their specific person. So especially for my logical people like me, I think you're super logical as well, right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Have you seen my notes? Yeah. Excellent. Yes. And Google the events. That's life. So once you were inside the manifest your specific person program, did you ever worry about that? Did you ever worry that shit like what if I missed one step or what if I don't have the steps like, yeah, did you feel supported all the way or was there anything? You wake up in the morning and you don't know what you're going to focus on. You don't know what to do. No, never, never. I always felt supported by you always 100% yeah with you like you were even a coach. I'm not even dependent on you. And even though I like to hire you, but you really taught me how to be dependent on myself and whenever there's a problem or a trigger inside me, I know what to do. Okay, do this to that. So I'm totally fine. Like I can create my own plan. I know what to work on. If this problem happens or if he blocks me or if he does the mandatory, I know exactly what to do to this thing. I've had always so supported and I really learned like to be dependent on myself. Yeah. And this is what I really appreciate while you work. I love that. I love that. Yeah. Because we don't want to create co-dependency. It gives you. Yeah. Yeah. My clients have a lot of co-dependency in the relationships already with the anxious attachment style. So yeah. We want to learn how to two-doubresults, how to release those triggers and release resistance on our own. Yeah. Yeah. I really love it. But the deal with those intrusive tools and yeah. Looking back now on your journey, could you pinpoint something like what was the thing that created the biggest shifts for you? Can you pinpoint one specific thing or a couple of different ones? Yeah. So, you know, I always put him on a pedestal. Like he was this, this, this, this, this, this, even though I dated Billioness before and I don't know Shreys and Presidents and I don't know, like I had already talked his art concept but when it comes to summer, I have really deep feelings. And he was such a pedestal. Like I couldn't get him off this. Sorry. He was special. And then you gave me some journal from the world like, okay, find 10 flaws about him just to make him a little bit more like a human and I thought like just three flaws like the fuck, like he's just a normal guy. Why did they put him on a pedestal? And then everything changed. Everything changed. I put myself on the prize. I put myself on a pedestal. I didn't even care about everything more than I blocked him then. And now he's coming back crawling. He's coming back crawling. Yeah. And so right now he moved into my, for everyone in this thing, he moved into my neighborhood and you're not like how big Dubai is, how fucking big Dubai is. There's so many neighborhoods, 4 million people here. He moves into my neighborhood. Yeah. Just watch out. He's going to move into your building one day. Now he just moved into the day but I think it's a building was five minutes by walking. Okay. Was it so that he asked for your address? dressed before or like did he know where you lived? He knows where I live. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. He's like, he has a lot of department closest to her. So funny. Yeah. So it totally shifted. Something totally shifted. Yeah. I can just tell every one of your clients do the work and continue to do it. Even if you don't see it, you need to continue. You will see movement if you change yourself and you always talk with like, you need to change and he will change. Like, yeah, it makes sense, but I don't believe it. And maybe you know, I kind of like, okay, whatever. There's the resistance. There's the no, no, I don't. It's like, yeah, it works for others, but not for me. Okay. Anyway, love. And then now I see it's like holy crap. It works. Funny that you say that because one of the questions that I also had for you is, what would you tell someone that is listening right now? Somebody that is watching this and they feel like they're the only, like, they're the only one that it doesn't work for. They're the exception. They think that everyone else can manifest their specific person except for you. To answer which is say, like, you need to hire Paulina because she's the best. I need to say this. Yeah. I had so many coaches before. So not for my questions. Believe me. Person program. Yes. You need to hire Paulina. And me, I'm like, I like to have fast results. That's why I hired you a one-on-one. Yeah, I just don't sit there and want to find it out. Like you're the expert. Just have you want to do and done. Yeah, I don't want to find it out by myself. Yeah, that's why I hired one-on-one. And yeah, what I like all your courses. I have all your free courses. Yeah. So you just get all of your courses. But I would say like, I think if you think that it only works for others, then there's maybe subconsciously a pattern like, yeah, it's too good to be true. Or it's always I always have to work hard for it. And for the others, it's always easy. And I think like this is the subconscious pattern, which is holding you back. And this is actually what Paulina is helping you to change it. So you can change it to, okay, it also works for me. And I can also have it easily. Yeah. Because I also have a very important. It's not conscious pattern first. And then like I have the tools to give you to shift it. Yeah. Yeah. Because I always had this thought. Like it always works for others and not for me. And it not only love like also with health and family and business and money. And like for the others always it works and not for me. So it's like, okay, I think I can work on this because it's not only related to my relationship. Like it's also related to my other areas of life. Yeah. Yeah. It's almost like the question of what makes you so special. Why do you think you're so special that you're the exception? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But I actually, um, I never had this thing of, yeah, my case is so special with my SP because I listened and read all your success stories before already from your other clients. And you had like insane stories like they got blocked. They had third parties and I'm like, okay, I'm not blocked. And he has no girlfriend. And my situation was actually easy. Yeah, I didn't have the circumstance. So I didn't I thought I didn't think like it was hard for me. No, I didn't. I thought like, okay, I'm lucky actually because I'm not blocked and I don't have so body. I'm lucky. But there was just this big thing of I see he's ignoring me. And you know, like for months, when I always told you like Paulina, but he doesn't, he has no interest. So why should I continue manifesting? Obviously it's like the sun is yellow. Yeah, the sun is not green. The sun is yellow. And he's not interested. But I just kept continuing. It's like, okay, I do it for me. I don't do it for him anymore. At some point I was like, this is for me, not for him. Even though I want to manifest another man, like I just do this for me. Yeah. Yeah. And I remember that when you were shifting your beliefs about yourself, like the beliefs of, you could also mention like, whatever the beliefs that created the biggest shifts for you, the beliefs are like, I am not lovable. I am not good enough. Or I have too many. Yeah. So my biggest belief, I mean, I did a lot with you and I'm still continuing because I just love to work on myself. But it's like, I'm not enough. I'm not good enough. Biggest one. I'm not powerful. Like everything happens around me. Everybody has a free will except me. I don't have a free will. Yeah. I'm not wanted chosen. I'm not safe at all. Like not safe to be emotional, not safe to be seen, not safe to that he's abandoning me. It's not safe to trust anyone. Like so many safety things. Yeah. And then I'm not safe to feel seen with your emotions. Yeah. Yeah. I think these are my biggest things. Yeah. I need to come forward. You felt like you didn't matter and you weren't important. Yeah. Always this, I'm not a mignored. I'm not seen. I'm not important. Like it's still a little bit. Yeah. But we work on this. When I die tomorrow, nobody cares about me. Nobody fucking cares about me. Yeah. And yeah, I can see like why he's behaving like this. He's just a reflection of me. Right. It's like you, you don't feel safe to be seen by him or by anyone. And then you're like, but why is he ignoring me? It's like, okay. Yeah. The matter you feel like you're not important. Yeah. Why is he ignoring me? Yeah. Yeah. It makes sense. Yeah. I mean, you kind of took like the magic out of manifestation, which is not a bad thing because before it was like, okay, why can I manifest the puckings? Lot and not a SP or a 10k client. And now it makes sense because it's so logic like just do this and two and three and done. Like there is no, okay, it's just like the pure logic and manifestation was not logical for me before. And now I just love it because they're okay. Just do this and this and this and done. Done. You do these things follow these steps. And then it's the result that you work. Yeah. Yeah. There's actually no magic in it. It's just like pure logic and I could understand it now. It's just pure logic. At least that's how I could explain manifestation in my brain. I don't even like the word manifestation. It's more about like reality creation. Like reality. When you shift things here, that's when the outer world is like shifting. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, because manifestation, it's not at least for me, it's no booh. I could never get behind those like just change your energy or just raise your vibration. Like no. Yeah, even what does it mean like raise your vibration? What should I do? Like should I jump now? Should I eat now? I don't know. How do raise my vibration? Nobody would tell me. Yeah. I can kind of now explain it from a logical standpoint as well. Like how do I actually raise your vibration? Because it's like when you shift your beliefs, every single belief has a specific frequency. Yeah. A specific vibration. So when you shift your beliefs like in your subconscious mind, that's when you're going to naturally raise your vibration. And when you let go of those eke-emotions, you know, using the purchasing the past formula, for example, like letting go of resentment, letting go of fast hurt, like the heart break, all those things. That's when you will also naturally raise your vibration. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, it's just pure physics and neuroscience. Yeah. Yeah. At least at least. Yeah. Yeah. I got finally got it. Yeah. Yeah. And that's why like now for me, like it's like you bake a cake. Okay. You put sugar and then an apple and then an apple cake. Makes sense. Yeah. And now it's saved. I just do this and this and then SP comes out just like for me. Exactly. It makes sense now. And now I feel safe. The okay, I can't have them because it's just pure logic. Math. The thing that I want everyone to understand is that the steps, yeah, the steps are the same. But what you do in those steps can be different for every person. Yeah. Yeah. Supposed to focus on in those steps is going to be different for each person because each person has a different like programming. It's kind of like computer system up here. And we need to identify your computer system. Like are you still running on a Windows 85? Yeah. Yeah. You have like a Macbook like I don't know what's the OS like system or what is it called? OS. I'm so bad. I don't really know these like computer. Mac OS something. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So basically, yeah, I'm just repro my subconscious mind with you. Which I never did before because nobody ever told me it's just like, yeah, you have to hear your frequency and hear your inner child. And then I don't know through affirmation. And then there's this human desire in child, in which you have to look and say so many things like I'm like. It doesn't help me. Like can someone just tell me the fucking truth, please? Yeah. I think I was. I think so often it's like just believe that your specific person is your first of all for me, for example, like I never believed that. My manifestation was real. I never believed that my specific person was going to show up because I had all those circumstances actually. And I didn't believe that it was going to happen. So I thought that you don't have to believe for it to happen. Oh, interesting. When you shift things up, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I kind of lost my, my to believe in it on the way. But then somehow at some point I just didn't care anymore. I'm just saying, okay, just continue reprogramming your subconscious mind. I don't fucking care if I believe it or not. I love that. I have a few last questions for you because I think that these, the people watching are going to find these helpful as well. Because this is something that a lot of people are like I see them asking these questions. So what would you say to someone who feels scared right now who knows that they might have to go on this journey and they really want to manifest as a specific person but they just feel scared even if they feel deeply drawn to this kind of work to like manifestation and when I say this kind of work what I mean is the law of assumption so they feel deeply drawn to this kind of work but they are scared. Just do it? I don't know. I was like a slow gun you know. I'm pretty simple just do it. Yeah I kind of understand yeah I'm a business woman so I make bold decisions every day yeah so I'm just like I make the decision but I think that's why it's a little bit different yeah yeah yeah yeah it's different so I don't know how it is like if I'm scared like because for me it's like if I'm scared I do it anyways yeah yeah I know because I'm scared I have to do it anyways yeah because I want to jump over my anxiety. Yeah I'm just saying my feel the fear but I still do it. Yeah yeah yeah yeah but I think that for someone I mean I cannot imagine it yeah because I'm always my whole life like this if I'm scared I do it yeah but I can understand like if someone has some fears and scared and I would say like like working with you is not some boo-hoo superficial stuff like and you are not just scratching the surface you're really going deep deep deep into deep layers like deeper than deep and it is fucking and it's fucking hurts and it's work I'm telling you it's work yeah it's not like just you just two minutes and no but if you do the deep work it will work like there is it's just math it's logical yeah it feels like shit for a moment and you might cry and shit but then after that you're gonna have the transformation yeah and I will always listen to someone who knows what she's talking about I'm only like hiring someone who has what I want yeah and you have your SP and I mean like you had third party and got blocked and I okay I don't have these circumstances I think she can help me with that yeah but it's like really deep work I've never seen someone help me so much in my life like you you completely changed my whole life you have no idea not even only in this area like also family and money in business and we talk about the data but like you completely changed me and my person and I always wanted to be this I don't know if you know this term of black cat and Gordon with Trima yeah yeah yeah yeah and I was always in Gordon with Trima like please so when do you have time for me and like begging and like no I know I am the black cat but somehow I don't know like why I'm not acting like the black cat I know like because something inside is holding me back and this was actually my higher vision like okay SP is nice and fine but to become this woman who's the price energy and who's like get the fuck out of here like this is my place yeah I want to become this person yeah and now I am this person and this is so much more than just manifesting SP or money or anything else like becoming a new version of myself yeah I was so tired of being this needy good girl over analyzing energy that I was so tired of myself yeah yeah yeah and this is what you have actually changed within me it's not even about SP like SP is right now okay you stop yeah don't fucking care now it's me now it's me now yeah yes and it's me now and because I was always like it was always about the other people in my life because when I my brother was born and I was always about my brother my brother my brother and he got the inheritance and he got the he got the money he got everything he got the houses and I'm like and me whatever me so I experienced this my whole life it's always about the others and the others and the others and the others treat me like shit and the others want something for me and the others never ask me how I am and say when is it me when is it my fucking turn now nobody ever cares about me if I die from all nobody cares about it and I was so done about this I wanted my life to evolve around me and not evolve around the others yeah yeah yeah I like that yeah and you feel like that's the reality now for you yes everything removes it here a fucking SP is moving to my neighborhood what happened yeah I think I didn't tell the story yet yeah but in January I put myself so much on the pedestal because we both worked on I am the prize I am the pedestal in January so January for me was like pedestal month yeah it's me now and at some point at some point I wrote down the flaws about him and then you know I lost interest in him and like smooth as guy like just normal guy like I deserve someone better yeah I am mother fucking queen Victoria okay so I I could see like wow I have changed I have evolved and now he's asked me on his own if he want to meet for coffee and so nice yeah and then even the small things like he just asked me like do you want to meet a Wednesday I'm like no are you gonna meet me don't Friday but I wasn't it now it's my turn you can't wait yeah you live in my neighborhood you can wait yeah yeah he completely changed like okay it's just a time metal time now when we become coupled but it is done it is done now it's just done yeah and then okay too many things are happening what what like who's his person he's 180 degrees changed changed change person change person yeah let me see I have one last question here yeah if you imagine you're all self-watching you right now then what would she know this about yeah she would be one of the most as person who is this person completely different person yeah but my old self would be so proud of me like wow look at you how you walk how you talk how you dress how you how you behave like your whole life is completely evolving around you now my old self would be so proud also would be like really is this is this true like is this reality is this possible yeah I I cannot even imagine what happened Mexico when we talk to Mexico's like who's his person in Mexico yeah you know like after our first one of one session I wanted to go on the treadmill because I thought I need to lose weight so I don't know and today I'm like why would I go on the treadmill for him like put the fuck like yeah yeah what is so incredible is that you were able to do all of this within like I would say within like six months like yeah less than six months like you haven't been in my world for that long yeah and completely transform your life yeah under six months yeah under six months yeah I think in six weeks we are couples yeah but now I don't even care anymore because I I am the love of my life and actually you know like in sex and the city there's a Samantha and she always said like I love me more than you Richard and like yes I love me more than you and the the most the most amazing thing is like when he's there or when he's not there I don't care like he can leave me he can leave me and I'm still the most amazing woman on earth and this doing yeah yeah of course I still have my triggers I mean you and being yeah but basically it's like if you are there or not like it doesn't change anything in my life like my life is so amazing and if you there or not it's just like nothing changes my life yeah nothing changes my life I mean like if I'm your life yeah it will change a lot yeah but if you are my life it's you are so many more like yeah because I have created my own life now and before I was always sitting at home and watching Netflix and doing nothing and now I have I just came home yeah it's 9 p.m I just came home from you don't even have time for Netflix no I don't have no I don't have time for him like he has to wait now until the weekend yeah I'm so full packed like I have a second business now my money is running I have friends I am reading I so many things around my life like my my life is my center now and I never did this before because before I was put mid on the pedestal like always the man the man the man the man it's always about the man the when is he calling you now it's just sitting do whatever you want yeah and I found myself yeah I found myself like I found the love of my life and that's me and it's not him it's not him it's me you found the price biggest price ever yes yeah yeah I am the love of my life it's not him yeah and this is so emotional for me like thank you so much for you you gave me so much for when you gave me my life back actually you know you actually gave me my life back really yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah because like I before I always felt like I'm so powerless yeah okay if he doesn't want me I cannot do anything what should I do just wait no firm yeah but now it's like no no no I don't have to wait I decide what he do not yeah I decide I am the power I am the creator of my life I do this yeah yeah were you in other areas of your life as well waiting for things to happen or you were thinking if something happened you were like oh like it just happened like I can't do anything about it yeah always I was always waiting waiting energy and you know like when you wait you create more waiting energy was there okay what should I what I should I do it kind of do anything because I always felt so powerless yeah yeah things things happen around me like I mean we do this other call about money and this is like even more insane yeah but I'm not waiting anymore. I'm like, okay, I know what to do. Do one, two, three. And then this will come out and done. Yeah, yeah, exactly. And this feels so powerful to know like you are the power, you are the creator. You create this. It does matter if it's SP or your body or money or what else. Like you created. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I love that. Yeah. Yeah, you took your power back. That's the thing. Yes. Yes, I took my power back even though there were really times where I cried my ass off. And I thought I'm dying and God is taking my soul out and like, why? Yeah, but I was just still like, okay, it's my ego actually. Like I have an identity shift and it's next level. And my ego just wants to hold me back. I just mean like before I was like a span of a whole day where I needed to work with myself when I was a trigger. And I was just like, book, okay, five, 10 minutes and done. Yeah, and continue my life. It gets easier and easier. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you so much. Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful journey with me with everyone here. But I got all your courses and you are so worth it. You are so worth it. I need to create new courses, more courses for you. Yeah, I'm waiting. Yeah. I cannot pay anything. Just paid like two or two one sessions in advance. Yeah. I love it. Yeah. With Victoria right now, we're working a lot with other areas of life. Like sorting out her business stuff, for example, which she's already seen incredible results with. So with just business stuff and money related stuff. Yeah. Yeah. Last month I was focused on myself. So I focused on money and I was seeing huge shifts in money. Huge. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. Yeah. And this is what I love the most about doing this work because when you transform your self-concept in one area and let it be like love and relationships, then it's going to overflow into all areas. That's also what you saw. That you shifted your money reality because you were shifting your love story. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. This is for the next quarter. Yeah. We keep it for the next quarter. Yeah. Huge shifts. Like my career is booming. Booming. And when I wanted to buy a course, I'm like, "Someone, we fuck, I don't have money." And you know what, before our first one on one call, I waited like four weeks or something because I didn't have the money. And I was like, "Why would I. " I don't have these problems with anyone. That's so good. Yeah. Just buying your one on one calls in advance. That's not bad. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Is there anything. Yeah. If there's anything I would say, it's just like. Just do it. Just do it. Best ride of my life. Really. Yeah. Yeah. And I'm also like. I think you can just go for it. Yeah. And I'm always like, I'm listening to my intuition. And when I found your page, she's like, "Yeah, she's the one. She's my soul, my coach." Yeah. I didn't know what you did in your course, but okay. Anyways, just let's go. Yeah. I had no idea what you were doing. No, you had no idea. No, nothing. Oh my God. No, I remember. I just asked you one question. Are we doing inner childhood healing? I'm like, please say nobody. Say no. And you said, "No, no, no, it's just a part of it, but it's not like off-clothes." No. I just didn't want to hear my inner child anymore. But did you have any idea? Like, did you have any assumptions about what we would be doing? No? I even never heard of subconscious programming. What is that? And I never heard about it. I never heard about it. I just wanted to know no affirmations and no inner child healing, okay? Okay. I mean, yeah. I tried it on my sales page. Like, yeah. No affirmations. Yeah. No affirmations, no inner child healing. Okay. I'm done. I'm fine. I'm sold. Yeah. No idea what you were doing, but I'm sold. Yeah. Because the thing is you don't need more fixing. You don't need more healing. That's the thing. It's like, we just need to shift something here. Yeah. Yeah. The program, the old computer program that is still running. Yeah. No, the best right of my life. I think I will never leave you. There's so many other things. There's the house and the marriage. So many things. What's the saying that like, when you get married, there's the until death, wait, what is it? Until death, there is a part. No. Until death is. Yeah. Yeah. I know what you're saying. Until death. That's the thing that I wanted to say to you. It's like, you're never going to leave my world. It's like until death. Yeah. I was forgotten. But you know what I mean? I hear it all the time. I don't even remember it now. And even though it's not only about SP, I just didn't even tell you, I was just going out with the clients, the two clients and the one client he was so into me. Like, he was so into me and you know, I lost my phone in the taxi. Holy crap. I lost my phone and Dubai in the taxi. Oh yeah? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We were just talking. I just lost it in the taxi and we went out and like, oh, my phone is there. And you know, he took care of my fucking phone for three hours. He was always taxi and calling the police and calling the taxi driver and like, hey, he's the phone of my friends. He took care of it all the time. And like, wow, the sky is too effort for me. He's opening a door for me. He's paying for me and it's like, he took so much care of my phone. And it was the most important thing in his life. He's doing effort. This guy. I love it. I love it. That's what you deserve. Yes. Bear with him. Bear with him. I'm so happy. No, I'm the happiest client on earth. I just want to continue and never leave you. No, I don't just do it. Yeah, just do it. Yeah. I love deep inner work. I'm not, I don't need someone who's pampering me if you want to have real shifts and holiness. I'm one for you. Yeah. Yeah. I really don't want any of those. It will be tough love. Yeah. No. I mean, there's not a peppercorn. You're not a peppercorn. You don't pamper me now. No. Yeah. I think one time you pamper me. I'm like, could you please not pamper me? Just tell me the truth. If you remember. I don't remember what it was about. Maybe it was something that I felt like I had to soften it first. Yeah, you soften it. Yeah. I asked you like, yeah, he messaged me this. What should I do? And you were like, yeah, just do this. I'm like, this is kind of, she's softening me. Don't pamper me. Then you were like, I don't know. I would do it like this. I would ignore him and then just ask him, like, who are you? I don't even know you. Like you were like, now, now, now. I'm ready. Are you? Who are you? And that's it from my side. Thank you so much. Thank you so much for joining here and for sharing your beautiful story. Thank you for having me here. I manifested this interview. I was so eager, like, okay, I want to be an interview with her. Here we are. Here we are. Yeah. Thank you. Yeah, I have nothing to say. I'm happy. I'm happy as well. Thank you.

Podcast Summary

Key Points:

  1. Victoria found a specific person coach after realizing she had feelings for a business client, having tried other manifestation methods (inner child healing, visualization, affirmations) that didn't work.
  2. The coach focused on deeper issues like resistance, safety, and mental image of the SP, not just surface-level affirmations or living in the end state.
  3. Victoria discovered her nervous system felt unsafe with intimacy due to a traumatic childhood (aggressive mother, violent father, no affection), which pushed her SP away.
  4. She experienced initial movement (SP asked personal questions) after week one, then a standstill period where she felt like giving up, but internal shifts occurred (setting boundaries, changing self-perception).
  5. Victoria realized the external movement depends on internal safety and self-concept, not fixing physical appearance or age.

Summary:

In this interview, a client named Victoria shares her journey of manifesting her specific person (SP) with coach Paulina. Victoria had previously tried various manifestation methods—inner child healing, visualization, and affirmations—but nothing worked. She found Paulina after realizing her mental image of her SP was negative and that she needed deeper work, not just surface-level techniques.

Victoria discovered that her nervous system felt unsafe with intimacy due to a traumatic childhood involving an aggressive mother and a violent father, which made her push her SP away. After joining Paulina’s program, she saw initial movement when her SP began asking personal questions, but then experienced a standstill period where she felt like giving up. However, she continued working on herself and noticed internal shifts, such as setting boundaries and changing her self-perception.

Victoria learned that external movement depends on internal safety and self-concept, not on fixing her age or physical appearance. She emphasizes that the program’s deep work on resistance and safety was key to her transformation, unlike other coaches who only taught affirmations or visualization. Ultimately, Victoria realized that her SP is a reflection of her own beliefs and that she had been manifesting her own blockages.

FAQs

This program goes deeper than affirmations and visualizations by addressing subconscious resistance, childhood wounds, and the feeling of safety needed to receive love, rather than just repeating positive statements.

She had deep-seated resistance from a traumatic childhood, making her feel unsafe to receive love, so surface-level techniques like affirmations couldn't override her nervous system's fears.

Releasing resistance means working through the subconscious fears and beliefs that push your specific person away, such as feeling unsafe or unworthy, which is essential for real manifestation to occur.

Her self-concept included beliefs that she wasn't good enough due to age and body image, and her childhood taught her that love was dangerous, which created a pattern of pushing people away even when she wanted them.

She shifted from being a people pleaser to setting boundaries, and began to see herself differently, feeling more powerful and aware that her SP was a reflection of her own beliefs.

Her nervous system felt unsafe and anxious about potential rejection, which showed that she needed to work on her internal safety before the relationship could progress.

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