Friendships that increase your self confidence

The spring style guide is here. I am so excited for you guys to get it. I am creating all of this year for the seasons style guides to help you get dressed and know what is trendy and what goes together for each of the seasons. It's really important to me in my style mastery to help my ladies through all the seasons throughout the year because I can help you one-on-one get your summer wardrobe figured out but then when fall comes you are confused and don't know what to get which is what happens with my one-on-one clients. So I put together some style guides for each season to help you with the seasons so that you can get the clothes that you want so you can feel confident so that you know what you're doing with your clothes for each season and it is really, really valuable. And it's available right now on my website at sherrybrazier.com and it's right on the front but I'd like to tell you a little bit about what is inside. So the very first thing is a style quiz so that will help you discover your personal style then it moves into your lifestyle categories helps you decide what your lifestyle categories are in the spring. There's a spring style capsule wardrobe that you can look at and get ideas from and also shop from it will show you what the capsule wardrobe is and how it works. Then I have some trainings that are videos and PDFs and different things to help you with your style for the spring. Some of those trainings are being more of you this spring how to help you come up with your own personal style and relate it to who you are in the spring. How to look and feel amazing addresses how to style your hair for the spring there's some tutorials on hair styling and some favorite products of mine. And also there's some bonuses to there's a spring routines that I like to do in the spring and how to get out of your house in style and how to keep up with your style when your life is busy. There's so much value in this style guide that I am just so excited for you guys to have it. So go to my website sherry brazier.com to right on the front and it says spring style guide available now just click there and get the style guide. And then in the summer there's also going to be one in the summer and then watch for one of the fall there's going to be one of the fall and again there's going to be one for the winter that will have all kinds of Christmas party outfits things to help you dress for the holidays it's going to be super fun. First one I have some fun things for each style guide for the spring and the summer and the fall and the winter for each of the seasons so it's available right now so go grab it. Did you know that you can have unshakeable self confidence I'm sherry brazier I'm an advanced certified style coach first no wardrobe stylist and season hair stylist. I'm on a mission to teach women everywhere to see their true value and create self confidence on the inside and then help you dress that way on the outside. Women just like you are creating strategies to dress your body shape stylishly tools you can use to help you love yourself and process disappointment and overwhelm all while still looking put together when you leave the house. If you're ready to figure out your personal style and learn the tools to help you build and create more self confidence than you are in the right place let's get started. Hello my friend welcome to the creating unshakeable self confidence podcast I'm sherry brazier and I'm your host and so glad that you're here today so if the audio sounds a little bit different I'm on my phone and I'm recording this at 5 30 in the morning as I go to the temple to serve in the temple. And it this thought was on my mind as I fell asleep last night and I knew that if I didn't record it well it was on my mind this morning when I woke up that I would forget it and I would get going on my day and I wouldn't remember to record my thoughts so this is what we're doing today I'm going to record this on a voice memo in the car on my way to the temple so here's what I want to talk to you about today. I want to talk to you about friendships networking the people that you surround yourself with on the daily and how that impacts your life for sure but more importantly your self concept your self image your self confidence. So recently I joined a couple of networking groups and these networking groups I don't even know really how they came to be like honestly they were just meant to be they were I was looking for. Groups to be in that would lift me up that would support me that would lift me up that would help me become the person that I want to be so that I can create what I want to create. And I just started praying for that I started praying that I would know the networking group that I was supposed to join I started looking for networking groups I started looking for collaborative places to be. So what this looked like was me googling literally I googled women networking groups in my area and I started to just read about different networking groups I I didn't really know what a networking group was really. A guy didn't really understand networking groups there's lots of different ways that you can network and so I knew what networking was obviously but I didn't know about different kinds of networking groups and how they how they run and I was I was like I'm curious of how these networking groups run and how they could be beneficial to me. And so I googled it so I started to just learn about different networking groups and I just started going I just started being a guest in different networking groups and I started this last year it was kind of my end of the year goal I guess you could say I don't even know if it was a goal but maybe you call it intuition whatever. And so I started to just put myself out there meaning I just started attending different groups that were networking groups and a lot of them were business networking groups but some of them weren't business networking groups. They were just groups of women that I felt like they were raising their vibration they were becoming better versions of themselves they had mindsets that were expansive. They had passions about different things that were expanding themselves right this could be church groups it could be groups that you would find in your kids is schools or maybe your own school it doesn't really matter where they are. I think that the way that I found them was just what I like my interests my strengths things that I care about and those were the groups that manifested themselves to me that showed up in my world right. So I started joining some of these groups meaning just going as a guest I didn't pay any money I didn't sign up for anything I didn't commit to anything I just started putting myself in places that there were groups of women that were either doing things that I wanted to do. They had done things that I had already done they were just people that I wanted to be around that were going to lift me up and support me and I found some really great people in those groups and I have met the most amazing women specifically through these networking groups and I want to convey to you how these groups have raised my self-concept. They have helped me to realize the strengths that I have, the impact that I can provide to the world and it has raised my self-confidence. So I thought I would give you some tactical ways that this has happened for me and because you might be thinking like how does joining a networking group or a just any other kind of group help you increase your self-confidence and so I just want to give you a example of how this has worked for me and what I've seen show up over and over and over. So this is just one one little example but this has happened. I can't even tell you how many times this has happened. I could give you like 12 examples right at the top of my head but I'll just give you this one. In one of the networking groups that I'm in it's a networking group for women business owners and I just showed up I knew no one. I knew not one single person that was gonna be at this group and I was nervous. I was anxious to go because of all of the normal reasons that you're gonna go into a room of women that you don't know that you don't know what they do for a living you don't know who they are where they're from what kind of you know backgrounds they have like there's so many like if they have kids if they don't have kids are they married or they don't have they're not married like you just don't know what you're gonna get when you go into these groups and so I was a little bit nervous going in to the group and I almost didn't go because I almost let my my anxiety keep me home but I was like you know what I am going to do this scared I'm gonna do this with anxiety because I want to achieve the goals that I have and in order to achieve the goals that I have I'm gonna have to get really used to doing things anxious right so I gave myself a pep talk all the way to the event that I can do this one of my strengths is people I love to just get to know people and so I will go into this room and I will put my own emotions and my own anxieties and my own embarrassment and all of that on the table and I will do what I do best which is learn about people I'm just gonna start learning about the people that are there I'm just gonna ask them who they are and ask them all the things about themselves and that's what I do best and so that's what I'm gonna do so I walked in and there's only a few women that were there and they were all anxiously engaged in conversation but the girl that put the event together when I walked in she she came right over to me and introduced herself and we had met on social media that's how I met her was through social media and I had never met her before I we don't live in the same place like we would never cross paths we just found each other on social media and I recognized her from her profile picture she recognized me for my profile picture and so we introduced ourselves to each other and started talking and I started asking her about her business and what she does and and just all the things and she started asking me about mine and we just started a conversation it was it was very organic and very easy actually it really wasn't hard at all and so she introduced me to a couple of the other women and then we just it just went from there like we just started to get to know each other and we started to introduce each other to the people that we were meeting and I started doing an outfit audit and an outfit audit is just where I take what you have on right now and tell you all of the perfect ways that it is helping you in your style the the reasons why you loved the outfit that you put on this morning there's reasons why you like it and there are things that it is doing for your your body and that is doing for your emotions in your spirit and yourself confidence and there's also probably some things that it's not really helping but you don't really know what those are and so I always very first when I do an outfit audit I always tell you all of the things that you're doing right and all of the ways that this outfit or these earrings or the accessories or whatever it is what it's doing for you because I think I don't think I know from working with hundreds of women now I know that there are reasons that you pick what you pick but you don't really necessarily know what those are and so I like to be the mirror that tells you why it's working for you and why you love it so that you can then be aware of the reasons why you love it the reasons why you like what you like and that opens up a conversation for you to ask me all of the things that you want to know well what about this or what about that I have this issue how do I help this how do I fix this how do I find this how do I find that right it just organically makes that conversation so easy and so I started doing an outfit audit on the girl that hosted the the event and then everybody that was there wanted an outfit audit and so I went through all of the women that were there and did outfit audits for each of the women that were there and it was so much fun first of all for me because I love this stuff I love to talk about your style and clothes and seams and designs and prints and colors and I like a geek out of all that stuff and it was so fun for the women because they felt like they had someone that understood their struggles that understood what their struggles were and then had some information to give them to solve their problem to solve their struggle to give them some options to try to open their mind up in a way that they hadn't ever seen things before and in that moment I realized I do know some stuff that helps women out that gives them peace the relief on their face when they would talk to me and then I would reflect back what they said so that they understood that I understood the relief on their faces that's why I do what I do is for that look that look of relief on women's faces when they can see that I understand what they're going through that is the most amazing feeling for me and I realized in that moment they need what I have in my brain they need the information that's in my brain and it boosted my confidence in a way that I had never really had happened before and that whole day that whole two hours that I was there was like that like I I just talked to all of these women and did all these outfit audits and then the the darling adorable photographer that she has come to all of her events we had such a great conversation she took pictures of me and they were fabulous pictures like she took fabulous pictures she's a great job but not only that like just our conversation and she is adorable and I just I followed her immediately on social media and I just could not wait to see her again at the next event to see how she was doing and she just to see what's going on in her life and anyway I just loved all of the women that I met there I followed them all on social media now I consider them all my friends and I could not wait for the next event because I made such great connections there and I left that event and the whole rest of the day and even the whole rest of the week I was just finding myself in awe I just felt like did that actually happen did I actually fall into this group of women that are so amazing how did that happen and not only that the women that I'm that I'm now connecting with since then in other groups and along with this one have been the connections that I've needed to reach my goals. The goals that I have for my business, for my life, for my personal development, for my spiritual development, I am meeting these people that are supporting me in those goals. They are helping me reach those goals. They are giving me renewed motivation. They are giving me renewed determination. They are filling up the willpower that I have that wanes sometimes. You know, willpower doesn't stick around, but unless you fill it, so you have to go fill up your reserves, your emotional reserves, and willpower is one of those things. And so it has just been the coolest experience for me to watch how making these connections is making me more confident in myself. I am seeing myself differently because of the connections that I'm making, and I'm seeing the value that I have to bring to the table and how much it's needed. And it's giving me a lot of motivation to show up at these events, even though I'm anxious, to show up for my networking groups with whatever assignment that has been given to me, or that I have accepted, that makes me really nervous, that makes me out of my comfort zone. It makes me excited to show up for those things, even though I'm anxious, even though I'm afraid, even though it's something I've never done before. I'm excited to do those things because of the connections that I've made, as support that I've been given, it just has been so amazing to watch. The thing that has happened that I didn't expect, or realize, is things have happened in my own personal life that have nothing to do with these relationships, or these networking groups, or any of it. Like, my whole life has just been upleveled in ways that I just can't even believe that has happened. My whole view of networking in general, whether you have a business, or whether you don't, networking is just making friends. That's what networking is. Networking is going out and making friends, and friendships that increase your self-confidence are the goat. They are what this life is all about, is relationships and friendships that make you feel like your highest self. That can mean that you are contributing at your highest level, or that you are expanding yourself so that you can reach a higher level of growth for yourself. What that looks like to me is I want to be my highest self so that I can help someone, so that I can answer the call that if someone needs something that I can solve for them, that I can help them out, I want to be at my highest self so that I can contribute. And just this week, I had another in another networking group that I'm in, a friend that I met through this networking group. She needed me, and she kind of got an panic, and she just texted me, kind of in the middle of kind of like a crisis, and she was like, "Hey, what are you doing today? Can you help me?" And I was like, "Of course. Yes. Today I don't have any real things going on. It was a perfect day for me to read, adjust my day so that I could help her, and it was not a problem for me at all. It was quote-unquote easy for me. It wasn't stressful for me, but it was stressful for her to try to figure out, and I was able to help her out, and she was so grateful for it. And I was just watching that whole situation, and I was like, "I am in a position. I have put myself in a group. I have put myself in a position where my strengths and the things that I can do easily was accessible to someone else." And she didn't have those strengths. She didn't have the abilities that I have, and those things came in really handy for her. She needed those things in that moment. She needed those things, and she didn't have access to them. But I did, and it was easy for me. And so when she reached out to me, I was like, "Yeah, I can totally help you with that. Not a problem. When do you want me to be there? I am ready to go. It'll take me 10 minutes to put some stuff together, and I'll be there." And so that even showed me how important it is to have friendships and to have groups of people that you can align yourself with, that can lift you up, and that can give you opportunities to lift others up as well. Friendships increase your self-confidence. Go out and find those friendships that will increase your self-confidence. And it is a two-part thing. You're looking for people that can help you, and you're looking for people that you can help, because what you put out into the world comes back. What you put out into the world will come back to you times two. I promise the anxiety that I felt that day when I went to that networking group for the very first time was super high. My anxiety was high, but what I gave to the group came back to me times two. The connections and the opportunities that I have been able to have just from that one networking event that was two hours. I can't quantify that. It has come back to me times two, and then some. It's come back to me times ten for sure. So what you decide to put out there might feel like a lot. It might feel hard. It might feel like it's a lot, but what will come back to you is so much more. So if you're anxious about making friends, if you're anxious about putting yourself in groups that are new, just do it, because what you will find is connections and opportunities and value and support times ten that will come back to you. So go out there and find those networking groups. And if you're local and you want to know what my networking groups are that I'm in because you're looking for groups that match what I've described to you, then send me an email. And I will let you know where these networking groups are because they're open. They're open for people to join. And these are amazing women. So especially if you are a business owner and you have a business in our local community, you are going to want to be in these rooms. You are for sure going to want to check out these connections I've made because these women are doing some amazing things. And even if you want to just watch from the sidelines, you're going to want to watch because these ladies are getting it done and going after it. So if that's interesting to you and you want to know how I found these groups and if you're not local, I will give you my tips of how I found them and how I searched online and found these groups online and how I found them in person and local. If you want to know, reach out. I'm happy to share all of the wisdom that I have found. So that's what I have for you guys today. I hope that you will look at your friendships. Look at the friendships that you have right now in your life and see if they are increasing your self-confidence. Look for ways that you can increase your connections, increase your relationships, your friendships, and your networking to increase your self-confidence. It is a game changer, my friends. So that's what I've got for you this week. I can't wait to record another podcast. I've got another one coming. Until then, we'll talk to you later. Bye. We're get to go to my website and get the spring style guide so that you can have better style. The spring, it will help you create your own personal style in the spring that will have you feeling better about the clothes that you have, the clothes that you're going to buy and what you are going to put in your closet long term. It'll give you all kinds of guidelines and steps to put a capsule wardrobe together for the spring that you love. So go to my website, sherrybrazier.com and get your spring style guide now.