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My cousin, 20, and my aunt, 47, dropped they were both pregnant. What? I'm thinking a pot roast, but it's not just like your average pot roast. It's gonna be a pot roast with red wine. That's what I've always put in pot roasts. She said, not your average, red wine. Carrots. Tomato paste. Put a little beef in there. Ha ha ha ha! Welcome back to Always Here. We're your hosts, Abbey Howard. And Abbey Howard. How we doing today? Honestly, it's a great day. It's a great day. Yeah, it was a great weekend. It's a good day. You barely slept last night. No, and I think that's, I'm like feeling, you know when you get kind of rushed when you don't sleep at all, but then the next day you're bad. Yeah, you're gonna be rough tomorrow. I think today I'm like, you know what I mean? Yeah. Yeah. Were you gonna go to bed early tonight? No, I never do. Okay. Yeah. No, I can't. So, yeah, we'll see how tomorrow is. I'll probably just lay around. Yeah, it's been kind of odd. Well, let's do our, let's do life updates first before we jump into Hope and Heart. Yeah. I just think we had such a fun weekend. Yeah. Such a fun weekend. We ran. We ran. We ran. Did you know that I ran almost five miles? Yeah, that's amazing. Isn't that nuts? I watched Abbey's video of it today. How did you guys end up going for a three mile run and ended up almost running? Well, because we didn't end up at home. Oh. You what? We didn't end up at home. And then when we got home, we'd already gone over a three. And I was like, okay, let's just do a little bit more. That's how you run more. You can't stick, if you stick to your same route every time, you're mentally telling yourself like, it's hard to get out of that route. But if you switch up your route, it's a lot easier to go farther. I think it's just because Abbey was there. I don't know that I would have, I never, actually, I know that I never would have done that if I wasn't with Abbey. Then we just kept going and I felt good. So I was like, let's go. And so then my legs felt fine. My lungs felt okay. And then afterwards, my stomach hurt so bad. I was having bathroom visits all evening. Sometimes it does that. It was so embarrassing. And you know what? That happens to everyone, every once in a while. They do four miles. Yeah, your body's just not used to that. I feel like that's marathon runners. I'm like, we got a long way back. We got to really stretch my digestion. But I will say on Monday, I did 3.15. Oh my gosh, on your own? Yes. And I felt totally fine. So I just think it was an aggressive jump from two miles to 4.7. And so, yeah, I did two miles. You didn't ease your intestines into it. Yeah. Yeah, they don't talk about that. But you know, that's why they say train, you know, before you jump into race. I am very much a beginner. I'm very much a beginner. But you did it. Isn't that amazing? Did you get the runner's high? No. Mm-hmm. I think you start noticing it as you run more. Okay. Because sometimes the runner's high. I feel like it has to be more than like five miles. Yeah. No, I get it with the three. Three? Mm-hmm. I've actually never run more than a 5K. One time I ran a 5K. And I've never ran more than that. So I've never experienced it. It's going to take more than three miles to do something to me. It's the three-mile hump. Like everyone gets stuck at three miles. Because three miles is hard. But once you get past three miles, you're in the home stretch. It's just like your body. It's just like your body at that point. Your lungs aren't hurting. You can talk. You can have a conversation and run. I don't think I could have spoken at any point. You're cardiovascular in a groove. Well, that was your first time. That was my first time. I don't think I could have spoken a single word. It was fun. It was great. It was a great time. Great times minus the afterwards. Mm-hmm. The afterwards wasn't good. You had diarrhea. I had a face plant. Yeah. Oh, my gosh. How did you get it on your. How did you get your back? She twisted. I like volleyball rolled. I literally tripped on like a lip in the sidewalk and full spread. Like, my arms went up. My phone went flying. No, she turned, though. Yeah, I did. I hit the ground and I rolled. You fell on your back? Okay. She fell on her back. That's the way you do it so you don't get so hurt is you roll. It was literally so instinct, just to roll like that from volleyball. It happened so fast. So fast. And then I told Matt, I was like, I was kind of ashamed because then I knew you were vlogging. Yeah. And your phone just flew. It flew. I was like, get the phone. No, I was like, turn it on. It was my hook. It was perfect. I'm glad you did it. Okay, good. I was like, because then afterwards I was like, that was really. I made sure you were kind of okay, but then I grabbed it awfully quick. That's so funny. No, that was perfect. It's exactly. I was like, that's not like me. Matt has trained you well. Matt has trained me well. I was like, I'm so sorry. It's like you get in a car accident and they're like, pull out your phone, quick, take a video. I'm just kidding. Can't be doing that. But I was like, I feel like she's okay. I was fine. But that looked ouchy. My pride was hurt a little. I was feeling so good. I'm like, we're doing great. And then you got to watch out. It can happen to anybody. Yeah. I'm shocked it didn't happen to me, honestly. But no, that was fun. What else did we do this weekend? Soccer games. Oh, the soccer. We haven't talked about the three-year-old soccer yet. It's out of time. We forgot about soccer. Yeah, we all thought something bad happened. I love that we were that accountable. You also asked me, though. I didn't. I never asked. And that's. Here's the thing. No one told me, but I also never asked. Okay. So, I'm putting it on both sides. But the fact that Blake got a call at 9 a.m. from his mom. He's like. He goes, my mom is calling me. I'm like, weird. We're sitting on the couch watching college football at this point at 9 a.m. on Saturday morning. Yeah, she called Blake. And then she goes, are you okay? We were like, where are they? I said, call Blake and make sure he's okay. Yeah, literally. We're like, this is. We were great. We just completely forgot. We didn't. Brayle had spent the night at my mom's house. We were going to pack. We were going to go to our new house. We were just chilling. That's crazy. That was amazing. And we would have been there if I would have remembered. No, it's fine. Don't get up. Do you have games this weekend? Our kids. Yeah. Okay. Our kids did not have their heads in the game. It was not a good. It was not a good performance from our two. It was us. We'll be there next time and we'll get them. Not a good performance. I mean. It's such a hoot and a holler, man. And also, our kids that are on the same. Our boys are on the same team have opposite problems. Yeah, they do. But neither one is looking promising for professional athletics. No. CJ is like. He's a true oldest child. Like, a little timid. You know, doesn't. He's like going out there. He was upset that no one was sharing the ball. I'm like, that's actually not the game. It's a hard concept. Think about it. You tell him to share everything and now you're telling him to take something. He goes out there and he's standing in the middle of the field and the whole pack runs behind him. His back is to the pack and he has not moved his feet. That is a funny video. Like, the pack is running around behind him. He can't even see. He's just staring at the grass. I learned last year with having our oldest was three. It was his first year. I was like, I am not a sports person. I'm not even. I wouldn't even. I don't even identify as being competitive. I don't even identify as being competitive, but three-year-old soccer is surprisingly infuriating. Like, I was like, especially last year with what was happening, I was like, get on the field. Like, oh my gosh. Totally. And then I was like, am I becoming a tiger mom? No. So then I just had to let go. And then he enjoys it a lot more. I do feel like there's a learning year, you know? Yeah. I mean, they just don't know. They've never been put on the spot like that. Yeah. We're like, Augie's a second child. So he's been around it. He knows. He's a little bit more. And he's just got. He's got a lot of. He's got a lot of. He's got a lot of fun personality. Like, he wants to jump in there and be involved in it. Yeah. It's just funny. It's so funny. That was fun. It's a hoot. It was a good time. Got another big weekend. Halloween. Addie shower. Abby. Yes. Thank you for the reminder. No, I'm just kidding. I remember. And then next weekend. It's on my calendar. Next weekend, we're going to the Polar Express. And then the next weekend. I really need to look at my calendar. I'm going to be in my new house. Isn't that weird? It's going to happen. It's going to happen so fast. It's so weird. It's so funny that we're doing Polar Express the weekend after Halloween. It's like, we're in the season. It's like, we're in the season, baby. We're going to take that train right to the North Pole. Guys, I looked up on my email to, like, confirm. Because I was like, okay, where is it at? I was starting to plan everything. We booked that in July. I know. Abby was on top of it. You were on top of that. Well, because we went the year before. And I did also have to book it then in July. Because I do know that it fills up. It didn't feel like it was that long ago. But that was a long time ago. Especially with how many people we need to get on this trip. Yes. There was a lot of people on this trip. And it'll be fun. It'll be exciting. Pack it out. Can't wait to talk about it. Yeah. Full chest. I'm telling you guys. Freestyle diapers are my favorite. 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celebrate because he doesn't want to celebrate it so it feels like he's going to be a little bit more of a fun person to celebrate because he doesn't want to celebrate it so it feels like he's going to be a little bit more of a fun person to celebrate a little bit more of a fun person to celebrate because he doesn't want to celebrate it so it feels even more fun because i'm like i'm gonna make you enjoy this you know so i stayed up really late last night till 1 30 and i decorated the house and then i woke up at 4 30 this morning because he had to be at work at 5 30 and i made i kept asking him like so what what time does you have to leave for work are you sure like i kept being like really that early perfect so i'm i'm running on like three hours of sleep oh yeah but i made terrible egg muffins like really gross um he's celebrated yeah and bad bacon i got it at target they're meat bad yeah but you know it was the thought that counts and he loved it great i know i'm so excited about his birthday present you know he's obsessed with curling so i got him an hour of curling at this like bachelor place i know i'm so excited for him and some of his friends that's so bad at curling oh my gosh you've done it no i would be oh same yeah i don't get it me neither yeah he loves the strategy like every day he stays up all hours of the night to watch he really does get locked in on those things like that glass blowing yes loves glass blowing that man loves glass blows he loves a hobby but he doesn't have any he loves watching other people's hobbies i think also when it comes the olympics he would love to be in the olympics so he's like what's attainable and i feel like curling feels attainable i don't know man it's like beer league you know and you could just be really good at it and go so like i wrote in his car i was like this is your time to shine and see if you can do it that'll be fun i'm excited to see how that goes me too i'm excited my heart is that vivi's been sick she's had a pretty bad fever the last it came on after that play date like really bad on monday and so but she had tylenol in too i know and she took a nap and woke up just hot as heck i know but she's doing okay like you think it's related to teething or something different no this is like an illness it's a 103 plus fever so she's sick your kids run high fevers they do which doesn't scare me anymore i'm like thankfully i feel like i know how to manage it now it was really scary with cj at first yeah i don't think any of my kids have ever had 103 cj's had a 105 fever i remember that that was really bad for a while it was didn't break for a while no it didn't like they usually last two to three days too like it's not like a one-day fever gone scary yeah it was i remember him being super lethargic on the couch just like so out of it but okay once you gave them medicine and vivi's kind of she hasn't been lethargic but yeah just so hot and sad but she is getting a tooth i think she's getting a tooth at the same time no it's this one here great so proud i really didn't think she's gonna have yeah 13 months first tooth wait she's almost 14 i know yeah yeah wow we're getting to the borderline of nervous he's like 15 months you kind of worry about it i'm like perfect perfect come on tooth yay another hope in the heart love that yeah so those are my things okay my hope was that i got to be better about like staying in i feel like when we talk we talk for a really long time but i'm like i want to be better about just like casually making a call we still did talk for like over an hour but it was really sweet it was good to talk so this is your sign call your grandma because it's really special that i'm able to just give her a call and it was a good conversation so yeah it's a reminder for everyone call your grandma call your mom call call them give them a call i feel like sometimes like you know it's easy to get be on your phone a lot and then you're like but i'm not ever i'm it's a solo activity on my phone like i don't know it's good to just like oh we could actually just use our time on our phone with him yeah grandma loved ones stay in touch and then um hard is one that i'm like also super grateful but it it's allowed to be hard my baby cannot be sat down he's entered the phase he's he's been in that yeah he's been in it and i think now i'm he's been in it and i think now he's been in that yeah he's been in it and i think now i'm also i was just like it would just feel so like so good to just set you down for just a little bit to like i don't know brush my teeth eat if eat food like showering is hard like because i've got to find someone someone else's arms to hold it's getting a little tricky and so i'm like i know i thankfully i have like the perspective i'm like i know this isn't gonna last forever and it's so sweet to get to cuddle him all the time sometimes i'm like i would love to be able to set you down just for a minute here i'd love to do that like you know he won't get being his bouncer like you i mean there's a short window yeah there's a short window and i'm living on a prayer in that window i'm like five minutes is actually like legit five minutes yeah and i feel like even then i'm like coming down he's like screaming so you know i'm i'm thankful that he feels the safest in our arms maybe he's getting teeth that would be crazy i'm sorry it is hard and in the like oh man this feels long yeah but yeah he's also a hard baby to hold he's just rearing back your babies are stiff they're so stiff they are so stiff and they're gonna be great plankers he couldn't walk he couldn't like crawl yet but he was up there doing full planks that was crazy the board i have a wow that's crazy wow that's crazy oh wow that's crazy woman broke her own record for the world's longest plank she was in her 40s look at how old is she she just broke it she's planked for over five hours what did you do mentally for five hours and like were they sliding an ipad under her was she watching tv like what do you legitimately do for five hours in that position i just saw a video the other night of someone walking a marathon in their bathtub there's a guy is it a guy he does those videos he did one under a coffee table he said walk in a marathon it took him over seven hours he's just like doing like this on his legs was he sitting and doing it it was a time-lapse going back and forth in his bathtub oh my gosh like three steps in it you can see the sun going down yeah i've seen that guy's videos it was funny this lady did it for five hours five hours she's from canada she's older she's like you should have had me guess how i think the longest could be and i would have been like i think that one hour eight hours it's nine and a half hours nine and a half hours for a man well how old is she i don't know how old is that she's 53 53 she's 53 tell me why i can't just kidding the man is 53 oh um the woman is 61 61 isn't that amazing that's crazy i have a while that is crazy okay um and we could cut this if i sound really stupid let's hear it it's crazy for addy addy's mind blown away he's like benjamin franklin's not president okay let's call out last episode i said i think my mortgage is gonna go down every month i don't know what i was thinking i don't remember you saying that i said that did it haunt you i think yeah well when i watched it back i said you're an idiot um i think i was maybe thinking like my principal like what's actually left on the line is going down but my payment is staying the same oh and we all look at each other we're like do you have a let's clarify we were like what do you mean no sorry i was like let's clarify okay we know i was supposed to have a budget meeting today shoot i was supposed to have a budget meeting today i was supposed to have i see those on the calendar i don't even honor them on your calendar i'm like we can book over that she's like everyone she's like don't that is a free window don't worry that's like what's going on you guys are colluding uh but okay back to what it actually is like a viral video that's going around right now and i'll explain more context after this but you guys know like a percentage of something is like if if like 34 listen just listen just listen 34 something if you did it 100 times that means 36 times it would be successful that's what like 36 percentage is did you know what it's like per cent cent as in like a century like a hundred per 100 percent but it does make sense because i guess it's out of a hundred percent yeah it's out of a hundred percent no that's a fun fact that's a fun fact the clip that's going around is like from pat mcafee's podcast that he does and another guy was on it i don't know his name but he was explaining that he didn't understand that every time a percentage is it was out of a hundred he didn't understand that portion i do know that the percent part i do know that yeah i know that's what made him sound really dumb but then he pointed out the percent thing and i was like that's actually a good point that's good knowledge so that's wow that's crazy that i learned i don't think i ever learned percents in school I don't remember that lesson. Like, what do you mean? Probably around the time you did fractions. fractions i'm really bad at fractions that was a hard lesson for me it was a hard lesson for me when you started saying a percent i immediately got sweaty you're like oh no oh no am i gonna sound stupid i know like here it is but who knew not me fun fact actually wow my blood sorry this week was kind of slow in pop culture world wow that's crazy stuff we're just busy we're just living our lives we're not we're not locked in shirley ballas do you guys know who that mark ballas from dancing with stars his mom was on it was a judge on dancing with the stars last night and she gave out a four when all the other judges gave eights oh dang it shoot she gave really low scores she gives everyone low scores except mark she did get no he got he got a low score well like everyone scored like nines for him and she gave him a seven oh my gosh that's funny but it was just funny having her on the show she did get a 10 though and i'm like when you get a 10 from shirley ballas you're like wow yeah that was good you know she's being critical like she's being honest yeah she's very honest yeah she gave out a two on her like they do strictly dancing over in the uk i think and she gives out twos oh so she's a judge on like a different series yeah she's like very well she was just like a cute grandma like no she she like trained julian and derrick huff too like they like grew up together and trained she's very well known in the i feel like dancing with the smalls dancing with the stars is a small world it is there's like one studio in utah that they all come from oh interesting i don't think i knew that it was like a utah thing until recently dancing with the stars yeah a lot of talent comes out of utah dude the more i live here i'm like wow utah is i never knew about utah back in missouri legitimately no one talked about utah i knew one person that went to utah for skiing and i was like what is in utah and then idaho didn't know i like i knew it was a state i knew where it was on a map i knew they grew a lot of potatoes that was all i knew about idaho and then i met one girl in college and i was like idaho that's so random she's like it is random she didn't even hype it up you come out here everyone's like idaho is literally heaven they're like it's beautiful i'm like who knew that's like living in missouri i didn't know about mormons unfortunately yeah not really i did it i know now everyone knows because of like secret lives of mormon wives but i feel like when you're in arizona you you learn more i have so many friends that are like i knew two people in high school tell them to make them tell them to make some food invite them to friendsgiving yes let's do it thanksgiving with mormons is great they're gonna make some great meals they make some recipes crazy salads they make some things together that no one else is doing i know and they do it to the best of their ability and it's a harmony it's fantastic the holidays are 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about it i forgot my birthday you can try and hop on a flight that day we're still gonna find a way no i forget about my birthday too it's at an untimely time um so today we're talking about friends givings we're doing friends givings i feel like they have be i don't remember this even in college like i feel like it was like we're gonna do something fun that not people many people do we like did like one friendsgiving now friendsgiving is it's another holiday it's a whole other holiday yeah kind of where do you put it before thanksgiving yes but like the weekend certainly not after you're on christmas after thanksgiving i know yeah you can't do it after you can't that's just sacrilegious yeah i feel like it is definitely before okay it's like your lead up thanksgiving i actually do remember starting it in college maybe my senior year maybe like i think when social media became a bigger thing everyone's like this is a great idea yeah and they were right i think it's great especially for people like there's a lot of people that aren't living close to family or even like estranged from their family yeah so having a way to celebrate thanksgiving and with other people is fun and now with kids it's just even more fun and chaotic and so we are going to be sharing our perfect friendsgiving menu just the whole day like maybe we have a little competition and you guys in the comments tell us who's friendsgiving oh boy you like that let's do that let's do that okay and comment abigail or abby just so it's extra clear so for today's episode we are going to have friends giving face off but first we're going to share some of your guys's hosting horror stories slash like your worst thanksgiving stories um you know happens every year some of them are not always going to be a win i'm reading this first one and i'm shocked at where this is heading okay this guy said crazy ant put a dead mouse in the soup to make it look like the house wasn't clean i don't know i don't know i don't think it's a good idea i don't think it's a good idea i mean it's just so irrational is that real i don't believe that i can't i believe it i don't even know where i would find one of those yeah where does one keep dead mice does she kill it like maybe she has like a pet snake that she just keeps them in the back feeder snake okay this one says my cousin 20 and my aunt 47 dropped they were both pregnant chaos followed you know what we did share a pregnancy announcement on thanksgiving yeah your first one was griffin you're a griffin it's a good time oh this guy said garbage disposal slash wait she was pregnant at 47 but he didn't say anything so i was like i'll just jump over it incredible okay yeah you would think like that's not possible but it kind of feels like a miracle it's a miracle this guy said garbage disposal sink clogged washed every dish in the bathtub upstairs oh but oh the food you might have to catch all that food maybe that's why you're sitting with your hands wow i probably have dirty dishes my grandfather decided on a whim to marry his girlfriend in our living room it was awkward grandpa's like you know it'd be fun for everybody who was ordained in that group i was like anyone ordained i think you can do it or did he do it he's like i'm ordained so i will marry us he just started zoom calling in like ordain.com yeah i think one of our friends in college did that i think he did it on his own i think he did it on his own i think one of our friends in college did that i think he did it on his own can't really do it online oh became more oh yeah yeah we went on a family walk my family locked my cousin in a porta potty and flipped it over okay that is oh i know that's one of your fears probably yeah wait is that you or is that matt it wasn't mine but i honestly like i'm not denying what that would be addy's afraid of being locked in the bathroom so that would technically count right i don't know does that terrify you never happened i don't know what i did get locked in my friend's bathroom once but like i don't know what i did get locked in my friend's bathroom once but like i don't know what i did get locked in my friend's bathroom once but like i don't know what it's specifically on stalls but you can climb under or above yeah those ones don't scare me as much but there are a lot of places that there is not it's like a full door yeah it's a full door those ones freak me out do you know that blake got locked in the bathroom twice when you were kids he's somebody he broke down the door yeah i was thinking my worst fear was that he was going to starve and so i was putting something under the fruit roll-ups under the door i was like what's the flattest food he can eat turn the lock right like that's he just couldn't he needed to turn the lock but then the other time he got locked is he just opened a drawer the door was unlocked but he couldn't think to close my cat he like barricaded that my cat locked the bathroom door because it was in it was in the and then he opened the cabinet and then we couldn't open the door to get the cat so what did you do um i think we could open it just slightly enough and like we like shoved things in to try and like push the cabinet that should have been your lesson did not have a cat my parents have four right now that's hilarious that's so funny my parents have four right now what's the current cat count over there i will i'll publicly apologize i told my mom to get rid of her cats the other day that was not very nice she said she said that wasn't nice get rid of your dogs i said excuse me i used to hate on cats and then shadow changed my heart i'll never get a cat i don't think any cat will ever compare but rip shadow that was horrible i'll share that story another day i'm not ready to talk about it oh that's actually so sad i think about it a lot i'm gonna get you a cat one day just start putting them at her doorstep so they could live outside because she doesn't want to get one no she just needs to adopt one in her neighborhood across the cat there are cats that still come in her backyard everyone i'm like oh you're not shadow get out of here this one says our deep fryer caught fire which spread to the tree it was next to i fear about that those people deep frying whole turkeys yeah it's really unsafe scary really scary i've never done that until i went to my friends for a fourth of july party and they did a fish fry like that which was it was really fun and really delicious but looking at the contraption that you have to deep fry things and i was like surely that ain't safe you know you look at that thing it's there's so much oil in that that's freaky and hot oil yeah it has to be hot yeah oh my mom cooked green potatoes and gave everyone food poisoning green potatoes like moldy signal oh hey i've had food poisoning from a holiday party it's it's an embarrassing time because no one wants to point blame no one wants to point fingers but you all know but you all know dropped all the homemade pies when bringing them out cry face no pie for anyone that would literally make my stomach sink i always think about that on birthdays how many pies was she carrying it seems like a lot i let the turkey on fire still tasted good though this one says tried to grill the turkey still raw after six hours six hours pregnant sister-in-law was hungry and we felt bad six hours at that point grill a turkey grill a turkey i've never heard such a thing nobody told us thanksgiving was canceled drove almost two hours nobody there that'll ruin your day that is a bad thanksgiving that's a bad thanksgiving no food no family and no more time no more time your day is done my dog ate the entire cooked turkey off the counter that's it i'd be out i'm sorry that dog would be no i can't even say because people hate when i say stuff about dogs but well that would that dog would really make me question my life my life i would be spiraling from that moment forward where do we bring the dog i feel like that's pretzel now she's gotten so bold with eating food off of our counter i was like ever since she got fixed she's hungry our dog has regressed and i don't know what happened our dog has regressed way more than our children have since having a baby there's a phase i open up any meat that girl is salivating at my feet i'm like girl you're not getting the steak i know those first six months postpartum your poor dog gets so pushed to the side you just don't have the capacity and they just they eat everything they eat everything i know lewis is better now but he went through a bad he went through he went to a dark place dark place the power oh sorry the power the power went out right before we were done cooking no everything's this close you're smelling it no you're basking in the smells you're getting excited you're anticipating the meal and then that would send me nothing's done my grandma put cumin in the apple pie instead of cinnamon tastes like dirt pie dang it that's a simple mistake that is a simple mistake it looked the same tastes very very very different well those are fun um do you have any bad thanksgiving memories you ready to face off i'm ready to face off all right i'm not feeling confident because mine i'm like you have to try mine though yeah but i feel like mine's really good okay go okay for my appetizer i'm starting with something that you hate what do i know i love olives this is going to be a warm goat cheese dip with honey and pistachios and like a buttery cracker or a cranberry cracker i want a warm cheesy dip okay yep and i wanted to you've never made that for me i don't think well you don't like goat cheese i would eat it okay i'll make it i'm not i don't hate it that much that's such a funny thing blake doesn't like olives and he doesn't like goat cheese same for you i think he just wants to be like his big sis oh let me really think about it i was telling you i was telling that to you right yeah i ate them today though so you would put them inside like you eat yeah i'll eat them you put kalamata olives in your greek bowls don't you yeah sometimes so do you not so do you like olives that's how i feel about bananas i'm like i'll eat it i'll eat it i mean that's the thing about me hard cider pretzels with creamy honey mustard i've made these have i made them for you guys before i made the regular salad i made them with you that one time oh yeah well you use yeah beer aren't they good yeah okay shoot okay okay that feels like fall like too because you're using like an apple cider beer yeah in it and then the creamy honey mustard's like warm it's a half baked harvest recipe and it is good and meow i thought you said meow i thought she did too if i want to interrupt and just start meowing meow meow okay abby you have the floor i can't take target maybe we dip the pretzels in the goat cheese we mix it let's try it honestly it probably would be good i used to be a bad mumbler as a kid and so people always thought i said crazy stuff and i just kind of brought that back for friendsgiving i'm thinking a pot roast but it's not just like your average pot roast it's going to be a pot roast with red wine that's what i've always put in pot roast she said not your average red wine carrot tomato put a little beef in there okay i'm just thinking like your friends you want to make something a little nicer that's going to be yeah but i think i'm thinking like you're not bringing turkey to a friendsgiving who has time for that well also we're about to be eating it for the next two months anyway none of us are thrilled about it really likes turkey like that i just watched him saying his cowboys makes the turkey but usually i'm like ah it's fine but i think about everyone's turkey not just killed it's just a bird that big you gotta it takes a lot of work to swallow it i know like there's so much effort that goes in and it's just kind of like a mid-meat we are so hard to please because we also don't like ham what are you guys gonna do for thanksgiving turkey turkey yeah yeah yeah um for maine i said i don't do the maine okay i went just happy wins this round okay but i'll be honest for friendsgiving i'm there for the sides every time yeah i think it approach that's what friends girl i know but friends i guess you're right like that's really not like me but at friendsgiving i'm like just everyone bring a side and let's just eat sides yeah it's fine but if someone made a pot roast i would be heavy ladling the pot roasting so you win that round thank you yeah but you did just make gave me an idea i was like maybe someone should make short ribs for i was gonna say short rib but that felt more not like friends too bougie yeah it feels like a little expensive for friendsgiving that's for your family you said red wine and i was like short ribs i know that i'm gonna put short ribs on here and i said no one's been that cash what if they did short rib ragu so it's like mostly pasta with the short ribs listen if there's short rib on a menu you know i'm ordering it i love remember we had short ribs in new york i was thinking did we have it in new york no no we had the lamb lollipops don't take us to a fancy restaurant everything was so weird i was able to i was able to have my first burger since that experience i used it for the first time i was pregnant for so long literally but that burger was good yeah it was but it was a few bites what was what was weird about it it had that cheese really thick cheese well it wasn't even a patty it was a deconstructed it was basically ground beef did we ever talk about this no it wasn't ground beef i mean it's wagyu it was wagyu which is fantastic bring that to friendsgiving that pickle lives getting invited every time i actually got pickle they make weird pickles the worst thing we had to ask the waiter what was in it cloves he's like it's just a normal pickle we're like no it's lying i'm like you haven't eaten your own food yeah it had like flowers in it or something cloves yeah yeah that's not right for a pickle no um keep your cloves out of our pickle yeah i was like that burger was fantastic but take the pickle off oh my gosh so cheesy i was like what is on here i know okay so you you get i'll give you that round thanks side dish is gonna be okay here we go i bring it to every friendsgiving green bean casserole it's basic but like when else are you gonna make a green bean casserole listen don't lighten it up like make the green bean casserole true to form yeah it's the best get the canned soups yes just don't tell me that you know what i mean like i just want to eat it and i'll think about it yeah i asked my mom for the recipe for the first time two years ago and i was like you're telling me that's all it was this whole time and people would be like laurie bring that green bean casserole and it's like you were just really reheating cran green bean casserole and i was like i don't know i don't know i don't know green beans mixed with some cream of mushroom soup and topping with those crunchies it's fantastic i think i had like six helpings left i think they put i think they do put a little weird worcestershire i think there's worcestershire sauce in there delicious who thought of that i know like you know we could josh it up a little classic okay i'm telling you that sounds so basic but this stuff is actually good okay it's so good i love green bean casserole my you might win this one i picked brussels sprouts but i'm thinking no i like your brussels sprouts thanks i really like them but they're not as exciting as matt doesn't like brussels sprouts so i don't find myself eating them as much as i want to put a little muscle on the glaze i like them with a i them with maple and that little don't you put a little uh prosciutto or something in there i do put bacon in there bacon what do you guys think about creamed corn is it any better than regular corn i think it's divine it is crazy i had some yesterday that's why i'm asking where about it we had a we had a small group and someone someone brought cream corn yeah we were having we're growing from the midwest yeah that feels so yeah they're from they're from south dakota cream corn a lost art a lost art it was so good we brought baked beans it was good wow what a meal do you make baked beans or did you just get the can i get a can and then blake fancies it up yep get some maybe even worcestershire sauce he put some sort of sauce in there maybe mustard i don't know probably um some brown sugar wow half an onion shoe doctor's up that's what my mom always did yeah shoot i'm hungry all right give me your dessert oh she went lame you went lame for the dessert i'm gonna think of a fun one okay i'll go you're a dessert gal i have two actually because i think you need i'm just literally going based off what i brought to friendsgiving last year guys too literal no okay go ahead it's fine it's perfect she's like i'll win i love the space option i'm just getting people figures um i picked two because i think one you need a pumpkin but i picked the pumpkin crisp because after having that i don't want i love that thank you make it guys okay i'll make it for thanksgiving and then my second i want some type of chocolate bark okay yeah i don't know what you won't put in it but i want like a pumpkin and i want a chocolate i've actually never made a homemade chocolate bark but i love when people do and they put stuff in it and then they just pour the chocolate yeah i'm thinking like a pomegranate chocolate bar oh wow but that feels maybe more christmassy with pomegranates bring your pomegranates to friendsgiving that's fine okay perfect yeah like a pumpkin and a chocolate i like that right i like that okay i'm going to change my answer specifically just get the go to trader joe's and get that chocolate that was so good guys i've been sleeping like a baby let me tell you why the chili pad going into the winter 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guessing it's something scary it's so scary okay hold on let me think it's a baking i know specific i'll let you keep going no guess i think corn syrup yeah oh yeah yeah it's you're basically eating entirely corn high fructose surely i don't know that doesn't say it all different i don't know i don't know i don't even know what fruit fructose you need a lot of it my doctor looked at me when vivi had um constipation he's like just give her some corn syrup and i was like can you just buy that like i was really surprised he's like it's just a pantry staple i was like is it do people just keep that on lock what else would you use that for yeah oh people have been cooking with that for really yeah desserts or meals no desserts interesting it's very very sweet yeah i mean it's like the best thing in the world but um the best crust takes shortening and it's one of those things really just let the grocery store do it for you and then you don't know you have to think about it the best cookies also have shortening in them let me tell you really someone i made something i used vegetable oil and someone commented they're like and the abby using vegetables in the day of our lord like 26 i was like i'm sorry we are using it every once in a while instead yeah you're like just do what you gotta do i think it was one of those things where it was a box mix though and i'm like i'm not really think we're already using a box mix i mean yeah like for brownies you put vegetables i think i just do olive oil but you just use what you got on hand honestly yeah i'm like if you don't have that then throw on the butter what is your gonna be your three theme or dress code oh i i would never have a dress code for any event that i'm hosting i would never have a dress code for any event that i'm hosting i would never have a dress code for any event that i'm hosting but for what i'm wearing wait theme or dress code well this was like yeah like if you were gonna have a friendsgiving you're gonna make it a theme i misread this you do yours first i have an answer written down okay what'd you say i just said what i was gonna wear oh my gosh and it's what i wore to friendsgiving last year jeans and a sweater she says i remember this day very well what is it a sweater dress with tights brown sweater dress oh my god i quite literally cannot remember friendsgiving why am i so not creative when was friendsgiving last year yeah when did we have was i invited was i i don't think it was invited there's no way abby hosted i didn't host it oh then maybe we didn't get invited i don't need to be invited to everything you guys don't don't jump to conclusions i feel like you're probably invited you're probably there actually nobody jumped to conclusions okay i'm okay with it okay the no i like like i really don't need to be invited to everything it's overwhelming what did my theme what'd you say my brain just stopped working okay i think it'd be really did you not write anything down okay i should thought about this i think it'd be really fun if if you're going with a group of friends you've had for a long time you dress in the era of the year that you became friends so if you're going with your high school friends it's like great 2014 themed friendsgiving and you have to wear outfits from that year or maybe it's like friends you made at work you all have to dress like you put to work i don't know it's just like something that's a good idea and reminiscent of when you became friends like college friends for me 2016. i love that yeah you go in your years that's a good idea or like maybe your gymnastics friends you'd all show up in leotards you know what i mean i don't know i mean you know what i mean just something kind of funny how'd you think of that thanks i was just trying to be creative it's not working for me i was a brown sweater dress it's so easy think quince think abercrombie right exactly you just warm cozy sweaters turtlenecks think sweating at friendsgiving think no jeans no buttons yes exactly lose how about we just all wear spandex sweatpants i like that thing bring your eating pants that'll be mine bring your eating pants that's a cute theme that's a cute one oh thank you i like that that's great that was creative and just kidding me oh you're gonna love how creative people are like why am i like what are we listening to here's my thing i love to host did you just say the essay i said why are we listening to this oh my gosh no um we should have a sign on our wall that does say what words we can say on this podcast and what words we cannot say because it brought it was news to me when we could say labia but we can't i think we can i just think she didn't want to w-h-o-r yes i needed to swallow it please make a chart for me how am i supposed to know that you're going to try and bring that word up labia anatomy labia admitted anatomy is a good i think but there's also anatomical words we can't say like you're probably not going to say penis okay where is this going anyway getting back on track you're probably not gonna say ass i did think i took out titties what is it i took titties out that was aggressive that one's out okay let's get a charge just so we can be on the same page correct anatomy not slang anatomy like medical medical anatomy safe slang anatomy is crap okay what okay also you said jizz what is happening here it's not consistent uh that's not anatomy though so it does your rule still applies i i think it's anatomy it's a bodily function function what right jesus not anatomy oh my this is too first of all i probably don't want music at a friendsgiving really no i don't like it okay um but if i do i will probably just get on spotify and type in friendsgiving you just like a quiet oh this is where i was going with this i love to host but i don't get creative with it my house is probably not going to be cleaned up for it and i'm it's not gonna i'm not gonna have like a table setting no it's not gonna be decorated plates and we're gonna sit down and there might be a we're gonna i'm gonna work i'm gonna focus on getting good food and having my my place available but that's all i got that's all i got but you know what maybe down the line i could come up with a theme well when sarah did that first i always think about that because our friend sarah amazing event for us and she kept it small but like the most beautiful table setting most beautiful decorations so if you're picturing that for your friendsgiving what playlist would you put probably johnny swim i just love johnny swim good vibes it's good vibes it makes me feel grateful yes i put fall songs 2026 brown leaf emoji chill autumn vibes that's the playlist name or bieber i knew it bieber but you could type in like bieber fall that makes you feel like friendsgiving no i just like bieber fall like bieber fall vibes they have those yeah yeah yeah okay i just want a playlist that has his music on it okay i don't care what if mistletoe comes on like christmas and then is that allowed yeah actually it's encouraged i love friendsgiving no i feel like you cannot play christmas music no that's actually a wrong thing to do no that's a friendsgiving don't i agree i agree keep christmas out of friends give that song it gives me childhood butterflies of like a crush feeling yeah yeah i just wanted to be kissed under a mistletoe so bad when i was 13 maybe it'll be justin bieber maybe but every time i play it and i look at him i'm like butterflies that's fun okay i have some i have some good ideas for activities and crafts which is our next category perfect okay i'm figuring kids are gonna be here at a friendsgiving that's what i'm thinking of i thought of the wrong direction apparently it's okay you can do whatever direction you want okay well it's your friendsgiving if there's gonna be kids there i have an activity for adults too if kids are gonna be there i think it'd be really fun to just get those tablecloths like they have it do you know when they used to do those at restaurants where you could color on the tablecloth yeah but they have like ones you can do of turkeys and like little that's cute like thanksgiving activities then it's two in one they're eating on it you can just pick it up throw it away let's clean up um another one is a thankful turkey they're actually hanging up in the unplanned studio i don't know if they still are our kids did that last year it was so fun you just do a little hand so this would be really you could do this with little kids too not the hand turkeys like you cut out a turkey but then you can cut out different feathers and then they can either write like each feather is something they're thankful for oh that's cute and so it's cute too to see like what they said last year like both my kids said parties they love having people over too and so like they said uh augie said bad guys yeah like so those are some of the things that we're talking about so those are cute and a fun way to also just kind of like have a little glimpse of your kid each thanksgiving and i feel like that'd be something really easy to do just cut out some feathers and everyone can write something and tape it on um for adults i'm just ripping through all mine is that okay okay i said any jackbox games it'd be really fun i feel like a lot organized games at a friend's giving usually it's a bigger event that's hard but jackbox games i'm talking about like quiplash those are actually really fun with the group so fun with the group so fun the best game we love them we love to laugh thank you so much thank you so much thank you so much thank you they have a lot of good games though but specifically quiplash is a fun one and then you can kind of make fun of each other it's a good time i feel like we played that so many times as a family we only we've run out of jokes it's like the same jokes every time because we've played so many times but it's still fun i never get bored um for an activity craft okay i'll think of one for the kids but neighborhood growing up used to do a chili cook-off which is so fun i know and the same family usually hosted every year and they would always have a table where the kids got to decorate cupcakes are you the one that hosted that one of these you know like cook off no that was adrian oh that was so fun wasn't it you won i did yeah i wasn't going to say it but that's where you got your award my award-winning chili i use a wooden spoon weekly every day almost um but they used to do like decorate your own cupcakes that was really cute you just go get store-bought ones and then just different icings in a bowl and then the candy corn topping that's fine it was so cute and i was addicted to sugar still am so i loved it i remember i remember it are you a candy corn girl i am a candy corn girl not the brown candy corn oh no no just that one tastes the classic i don't like that one the brown chocolate yeah i don't want that it's not chocolate chocolate flavor yeah i don't like that it tastes like wax to me see i love the texture yep i do and if you're an adult i don't really think we're having time for an activity at a friendsgiving but we could do like some canvas painting that i think it would be a good idea to do it at a friend's or something like that get the husbands their own tote bag caleb might be into that he's into painting thank you i could not get that man to do a craft i took him to a painting class when we were i was pregnant it was like wine and painting we were just painting and he was like are you having fun i was like i'm having a great time and down at those um gingerbread house cooking competition i don't touch the gingerbread house over i'm like i have some good ideas i got it he's like don't get near this like this is my this is my domain backup woman that's so funny you know you should make a video that's funny we won that one year yeah that was fun we did not deserve to win at all there's a 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baker's bakery section those are for the children yeah like i'm not going to eat those sometimes i'm not going to eat the store-bought grocery store bakery little cinnamon rolls like do you know what i mean yeah or like brownie bites i like box mix stuff like i love the crusties cornbread and all that stuff like the box mix stuff's fine and stuffing love that but if it's like the pre-made store-bought stuff i'm not gonna eat it store-bought rolls i agree i don't reach for it yeah i didn't think of that one this one i first of all it's kind of hard to mess up a friendsgiving but the one thing i said was we talked about it on our call don't hog the oven that was a good one that was a good one addy came up with that one that was a good one gotta give her credit but i did think of that it wasn't from my experience i took it from other people's experience come with it warm yeah it's hard to do yeah i think you're expecting cold food at friendsgiving and that's okay it's gonna be a little cold you're gonna have some cold sweet potatoes some lukewarm food that's the joy of it if you're going to a family thanksgiving it's different expectations than a friendsgiving sure you're not expecting to cook at someone's house yeah so yeah i will be using your double oven i'm gonna also i was gonna give the caveat if you ever find yourself at my house you can use my oven it's fine but i did think of that one addy did i offend you with my no store-bought thing no it's just an interesting take really it caught me off guard i'm sorry addy's judging you i'm thinking about all the time that i've ever brought us because i definitely have but what would you get what would you bring well no i'm just saying things that i've brought before to something was like a potato salad a mac but who's making their own potato salad i feel like potato salad is uniquely that's a given that that's door i feel okay here okay maybe i mean like let's also caveat this is about a friend's giving not like a girl's night yeah like a lot of like girls nights we're bringing store-bought cookies oh i'm picking something up you know oh yeah you're prefacing this is because i feel like friendsgiving is about the food it's supposed to be yes you're supposed to make something like i feel like that the caveat there makes makes more sense yes like if you bring a store-bought pumpkin pie i'm not touching it yeah i will only eat a fresh made pumpkin pie from scratch no i feel like good friendsgiving you're expected to bake something yes i feel like that's and if you're not a good cook i feel like this is your time to get out of your comfort zone maybe you bring the pretzel rods yeah you bring easy you bring a cracker you bring crackers yeah dip yeah or or paper plates i feel like that's that's always overlooked please bring paper plates bring some paper bring some drinks yes exactly okay that's my that's my hot take abby doesn't care about drinks though yeah i'm good with water yeah um what to do at a friendsgiving i thought of a good one i think this is good i'm gonna spitball this here you guys tell me not a good idea a good idea bad for the environment maybe you get for the environment i don't think it's gonna be i think it'd be okay because you can reuse it so i'm thinking every the host buys you know how target has like those seasonal tupperware containers get some thanksgiving tupperware and everyone gets a little bit because there's always so much food left over because everyone's bringing a whole dish yeah get a little bit of food and then you can take it home and eat it next day instead of you having a mega of one side item yeah you're just not sure what to do with and then you just end up throwing away i think it'd be fun to have a smorgasbord to take home yeah i like the idea of the host providing it i mean that's a little you need to bring your own tupperware but it's hard it'd be hard for you to be like bring your own tupperware because then i'd be like maybe they don't actually want me to like if the host has it you're like she's like no take it take it rather than being like so i brought tupperware to take some food so then afterwards your food doesn't go to waste yeah no i like it you can reuse the tupperware i love that i actually didn't think of this one so i like yours i like your you want to do yeah i always leave so full we have some good friends that know how to cook we do mm-hmm that's fun we're gonna move over to patreon if you guys haven't thought about joining our let us just tickle you with what goes on over there because maybe you just need to hear about it again yes because it's i don't think my mom i just i don't think my mom watches the patreon so i feel a little looser over there i don't think my grandmas are on there i know my mom watches but it's okay ruth's allowed to hear everything she is allowed to hear it she is she's a part of the team feels like she um oh not she our patreon is really fun oh yeah it's extended 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it four stars i also gave it four stars same this might be the first time we've all three agreed yeah on a rating is this our genre mystery mystery i know when i started i didn't really know what it was and i was like oh it's a classic murder mystery this is great it felt like you want to read it in the rain by the fire with a tea yes a hot tea it was the perfect amount of suspenseful not too scary kept you engaged i just it was a great story yeah i was like it's good clean fun but it actually isn't clean it's actually not clean because i listened to audiobook and there are some f words so oh turning that one off around the children whoops whoops i she said it three times in a row right when she said it three times in a row right when she said it three times in a row right when she And, like, my kids were in the car. Shoot. Shoot. You're like, well, we'll try again later. At least you had a British accent. I really liked it. The only reason I didn't give it five stars is because I feel like there were some parts of it at the end when she's explaining the murder and the logistics of it that I think I got a little confused. And we had kind of agreed that there were a lot of characters that also I felt like maybe I got a little – it was a little hard to follow some of the characters. I feel like there were points where I was confused in this book that kind of took me away because I was like, wait a minute. I had to, like, get back to it. So, yeah. I feel like I gave a five-star review when I'm like, I would recommend this book to – but this book, I'm like, I really enjoyed it. I would recommend it. I don't know that I would be like, everyone needs to read this book. Yeah. Like, I don't think it can't be recreated. You know, if that makes sense. Yeah. But I really liked it. I feel like I would read more by this author. Yeah. She's compared to Agatha Christie, which I – I think now because is Agatha Christie also, like, a U.K. author? An English author. Yeah. And for her 66 detective novels. Yes. I bet that's why she's compared because she's also English. No, I just felt cozy, classic, four stars. I would recommend it if you're looking for a mystery that's going to make you think a little bit. Don't think the typical thriller right now. Like, it's not your TikTok thriller. Not the TikTok thrillers. What does that mean? Those TikTok thrillers, how would you describe them? I mean – This is one that's, like, a little more in-depth than just, like, a quick – It's more – The Housemaid. Yes. You know, it's – Oh, okay. It's more in-depth. It's not a Frida. No, it's not a Frida. Frida is, like, more – Cliffhanger after cliffhanger after cliffhanger. What you see is what you get. Okay. Like, the characters are not necessarily believable. Like, it's just kind of just a little bit more shallow. Oh, okay. This was a great story. There's a time and a place for that. This one's a little bit more depth to it. I genuinely had fun reading the story and following it. And I felt like I could place myself – I felt like I could place myself in the ship. Yes. Yeah. It was a strong setting book. Four stars. They also have a movie of it, and we're going to watch it this week. Yeah, we'll talk about it next week. Perfect. Yay! Okay, last. Do you ask Abby? Ask, ask, ask, Abby! Hey, Abby, Abby, and Addie. This is Tavisa from Virginia. And my new favorite question to ask moms is, what are the three biggest differences between your kids, current childhood, and your childhood growing up? Thank you. Bye. This one will make my mom cry. So – Because she still feels guilty about this to this day. Filter it. No, it's not her fault. Oh. It's why I'm going to just give this PSA. Like, thank you so much for letting me have this be my job. But my mom wasn't able to stay home with us as kids. So, like, we went to daycare, and then – like, she had to work full time. So, like, financially, that was not an option. And so, I'm really grateful that my – I spend a lot of time with my kids. And it's not that my mom didn't spend a lot of time with me, but there were times where we had to go to daycare. Like, we had to go have a sitter and stuff like that. And so, I mean, every single day. So, it's such a blessing that this is – that I would say that's the biggest difference, though, is, like, the amount of time that I am able to spend with my kids. Yeah. I just think this will be different in general. My sisters and I are all spread out. And so, my older sister was – my sister was always – especially as a little kid. She's five years older than me. So, I always felt like she was in a different life stage. Like, she was the cool older sister. You know, that I wanted to be her friend. I was just, like, the annoying younger sister. And so, I – CJ and Vivian are closer in age. And even now, they already play so much together. And so, I'm excited to see how that goes with their childhood, just being closer in age like that. Because my little sister and I are three and a half years. So, still, like, a little bit of a gap. So, I feel like that will be so different. And new and exciting to me. Also, I never had a brother. So, seeing a brother-sister dynamic is – is so – I'm like, what's it going to be? You know? That's sweet. I know. I'm excited to see it. I have no idea what's – Yeah, you're not doing, like, traditions and stuff yet. There were – she's so young that I'm like – I also don't remember a lot of things that, like, would have – like, obviously, you don't remember anything at this age. Right. But, like, kind of what you were saying, me and my siblings were close in age. I did have sisters. You know, so, like, those things are balanced. We do childcare. Brielle's going to have childcare. I have childcare. Like, my parents have childcare. We'll see. I just thought of another one, though. Just growing up in a smaller town, like, here, living in Phoenix, like, you could literally do whatever you want within, like, an hour or less than an hour. That is crazy to me, like, the access here. It's, like, the thought of, like – even the fact that we have, like, every chain restaurant you could ever hear about, like, we have them all. It's so wild to me. It'll never be lost. Like, we could go to every restaurant – a different restaurant every single night and still not try every restaurant. I know. Like, that is so wild to me. Like, any niche interest our kids could ever fall into, I feel like we could nurture it here. Like, in a very – we could take it to great lengths here, which is so wild. Just, like, the thought, like, I really like theater and acting. What was I really going to do? I did literally everything you could do. always in Quincy, but why do I feel bad saying Quincy? loved quincy like you're not talking bad about it's just yeah but then we had to drive two hours and stay in a hotel to even do like a slightly like different yeah more yeah for sure i just thought of one is um living close to family so i the closest family i had was two and a half hours away and so i think that's gonna be different growing up and like prepare to be sick of us no i'm so excited that's why we moved here you know like was so that we could have that because even if we were back home and by home i mean springfield like that's where we would have lived if we were there we wouldn't have moved to joplin probably i would still be an hour away from my parents and so i feel like being here and the way that my parents have this set up too is they don't live here full time but they'll be here for extended periods of time so it's not like a weekend away at grandma's it's like grandma's here for weeks at a time and then she goes home for a little bit then she comes back and so and then you get every day they see you get like every week so um i think that'll be fun that will be fun for the kids these are good i love that question um there's a hosting one hi abby abby abby i was just wondering if you're the host and you know somebody has a dietary restriction whether it's dairy gluten or vegan vegetarian whatever it is do you think it's your responsibility as the host to provide dishes several dishes that they can eat or do you think it's their responsibility to also bring dishes that they can enjoy as well i'd love to hear what y'all think have a good one i think it's nice to have at least one thing that they could eat yeah yeah i think one one thing minimum and the other stuff if they can pick around they can pick what works what doesn't i've done that wrong before i have a friendsgiving coming up with my church girls any of you listening to this i love you all but at the top of the menu it says allergens peanuts tree nuts cashews dairy eggs gluten oh eggs are in a lot so is gluten at thanksgiving it's all carbs what do you do yeah if it's that many you just go butterfree i feel like dairy can be easily swapped out like or egg you know that's really hard substitutes but yeah they're allergies yeah dang because you have to be careful with an allergy label everything and then make one thing that they could eat i i have messed this up before we have friends that are vegan and gluten-free and that's been a learning curve but i'm learning and i feel like every single time they're super gracious they're like no we ate before we came or we just get takeout with them and i honestly feel like we always end up getting thai takeout with them because there's always like at good it's rice and like a veggie tofu yeah and so um but yeah i do think it'd be it depends on how big the group is but i think it's going to be a lot of fun and i think it's also like if you're just hosting them it would be very weird to not have an option but if it's like multiple families then whatever they bring to the potluck it's like yeah they probably eat that yeah yeah and it's like if it's like thanksgiving specifically a lot of those things might have those out like the things that you need are the friends giving is a little different but having maybe specific things to make them a tofurkey or just have like an extra vegetable like yes maybe something that you know that's safe that everyone can eat like a veggie or even a carb like oh you're gonna mash potatoes like we could throw some rice too you know just something easy and cheap you have a veggie roast some carrots and throw some corn you know rice in your pot yeah all right last one hi abby abby and addy my name is mara and i'm also originally from st louis so i love all the midwest shout out to you ladies too my husband and i are about to have our one year wedding anniversary and i was wondering if you guys had any fun traditions that you do with your husbands or if you've heard of any fun traditions that you would recommend that we do love listening to you guys bye sweet happy anniversary you should get a hotel room and just go have like a little staycation in your area and stay like a fun fancy hotel caleb did that for me for our six month wedding anniversary he picked me up from work i worked at lululemon and he said do you know what today is it's saturday he goes no it's our six month anniversary i was like oh i wasn't even counting that but yeah he like got a fun hotel downtown and it's really sweet that is sweet we um for our specifically for our one year we did things that we never have done since but we ate the top layer of our wedding cake you know we um we ate at we got married at a country club we ate dinner at that country club then like we went to the town that i'm from so we could eat there and we also stayed at the hotel that we stayed at on our wedding night fun so that was really fun um ever since then yeah we get a hotel for our anniversary and we have we didn't celebrate last anniversary i think about that a lot yeah it was just a crazy time so pregnant and i didn't we didn't celebrate it but i'm sure we'll do something we've already been talking about what we want to do next year for our anniversary to like make it big um but yeah that's a fun thing to do we also go back and watch our wedding video sweet yeah we don't do anything dang it i mean we'll go out to dinner oh yeah but i would like to maybe do a hotel room that would be fun i feel like on that it's like not the day of you're like i want it to be on a friday night or something you know it's not that same day but i feel like these past two years we've done something fun like well not just last year like for like five months postpartum we went on a cruise and so we had like a whole vacation and then this time we already have another uh like a hotel stay like a four day up in scottsdale planned for like five months postpartum again which doesn't align with our anniversary but we are doing trips together so i'm like sweet but this year's five years so maybe we should do a hotel night yeah on our wedding that's crazy to me blake and i have five years and it kind of went fast yeah that is crazy isn't it crazy that means griffin will be five this year oh my gosh i was like it hasn't been five years because griffin's not five but he will be five not for a while guys yeah like please stop saying a long time you have a long long time we usually just go to dinner too but i feel like on the first and then our big ones we'll do something big we're gonna go to dinner bigger we went to dinner my my work gave me a gift card to flame for our anniversary so we didn't pay for our anniversary or actually for my birthday all roads lead back to flame it's so good so good it's so funny all right um you know it's good when you work somewhere and you want to go back there after you work there i think that's the sign both the restaurants i want to go back really i love it always hungry yay well i kind of dropped the ball i'm gonna share the pot roast recipe that i was picturing and envisioning in my head for my friends getting menu i've shared it before but i think it was towards the beginning of the year it's the ambitious kitchen grandma's beef my mom's beef stew recipe or something cute it's a beef stew title but sometimes in her recipe she'll cube the roast or the chuck and then put it in the slow cooker i just sometimes just throw the slow cooker in and i'll shred it and that feels more pot roast style oh i like the idea of cubing it though because i get so annoyed by shredding it yeah it's a task yeah and it's really good because then you get big bites of like the beef it's good that's how my grandma used to do it i should do that yeah it's a good hack well you could even cube it after you cook it you could why am i over here thinking i need to shred it every time well i don't i know i think shredding feeds a crowd better that's true because the chunks the beef goes faster so i think when you're doing a big crowd a shred is a little easier i've been wanting to make a pot roast i find it hard to do it during the week yeah i think it's a good idea to make a pot roast because it kind of takes a little bit of time in the morning like it's not the easiest thing you know you got to prep it you got to feel wrong to make it in a crock pot really i don't know oh i always do it in the car oh you do it in the crock pot yeah okay well maybe i should do that i made it when we went to flagstaff too and it's really good sometimes i add more salt than what she calls but it's fantastic and add more worcestershire sauce too that's all i got i'll say what i was gonna say so i am wanting to do with the pumpkin recipes i mean it's halloween i'm thinking about we're actually having a potluck on halloween wherever everyone brings his soup we did it last year it's really fun and it was sweet i asked and i was like what soup should i make usually he's like i don't know whatever you want and i'm like i like it when he knows what i make and he i've been making this pumpkin chili every year since we got married and so he's like make your pumpkin chili and i was like wait that's so cute that you know that that's my thing that is cute um it's actually a vegetarian chili but um it has a can of pumpkin in it and it has a warm flavor to it because you also had cinnamon in it yeah it has like a really warm cozy flavor like flavor so i'm making that for halloween but another pumpkin recipe that i'm excited to try this week i'll report back i got it from the always hungry chat on our patreon it was a white chocolate pumpkin dessert yeah yum i'm very interested yeah i've never had that combination of flavors before i know but it's checking out it sounds like it will work it sounds like it will work and i'm excited um so yeah i'll put the pumpkin chili and i'm excited for halloween i used to always put cinnamon in my chili just like my regular chili and then someone was like is there cinnamon in this and i got insecure that it tasted bad but i really liked it it's like a sweet warming spice you know it is you don't put a ton in it no just a little dish a little dish dash a little dish dash but they didn't like it so well that's really fun i'm gonna have to report back on that right white chocolate pumpkin because i want to see if it's good maybe i'll make it on sunday wait no that's addy shower oh yeah we're gonna have a lot of pumpkin so much pumpkin we're gonna eat good this weekend yeah i'm so excited um you guys thank you so much if you want to call and leave a question or voicemail you can call 602-456-9690 we love having you guys be a part Of our episodes. 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