Finding Self-Love and Confidence | Episode 1

Dani Barretto Introduces The Bare It All Podcast please you. People often get uneasy entering unfiltered conversations, but you have nothing to be afraid of. A safe, genuine space where you can be there and just be you. Join me as we entangled some of the most guarded stories, uncomfortable topics, and inevitable truths about life. Let's talk bare topics and bold conversations here at Barrett All Podcast with Danny Barretto. Hello everyone, Welcome to the Barrett All Podcast or Dubai Bagshaw Baggage Shang platform. My God, but but you, wagon platform than a man. Sasa hope so. I'm so excited to do this. I've been meaning to do this for the longest time and a lot of you also requested for us to do this for so many years. And I feel like this is the perfect time to do it because Andaman and Nangyari over over the course of what, 6 years of my life. So Masma Rami Nahomi in Putnam Wisdom someone. So yes, welcome to the Barrett All Podcast with Danny Barretto. So weekly episodes and topics what was happen and some of them in my guest style like today. So it don't guess that all sounds so and Heidi so so Alyssa guessing the top available be like somebody. Speaker 2 You know my availability. I really have to open up my schedule. Speaker 1 No proper intro. Ohh okay. Anyway, guys, welcome to the podcast. Have you. Wow. Speaker 2 Thank you so much Miss Danny for having me on your podcast. I really Speaker 1 appreciate it. Speaker 2 Of course I only have like 15 minutes so let's make the most out of it. OK? Speaker 1 OK. Defining Self-Love and Early Parental Challenges So anyway guys our topic for today is self love and confidence. So I decided to bring to guess him here in the podcast because I want details of podcast not in my mail perspectives a topic that Samantha Kalakihan debate. Speaker 2 Yes, Speaker 1 that was a yeah. Speaker 2 Yeah, so I guess it's more of a way to find the perfect footing to be vulnerable, but at the same time not be prone, Speaker 1 feel uncomfortable. Speaker 2 Exactly. Speaker 1 I don't know Bahadur feel comfortable more to express. Speaker 2 Or maybe they can learn their own way. Speaker 1 Yeah, to share our wisdom, whatever wisdom we have. So yes, okay. So first, since our topic is self love and confidence with the self love to you. Speaker 2 It's accepting your vulnerability and being. Comfortable with your vulnerability. So I think that's my definition of self love, yeah. And for you, what's your definition of self Speaker 1 love like? It varies. It changes over the years what self love is to me. But I think right now, self love to me is just overall like accepting the fact that no one is perfect. That somebody is always going to be prettier, smarter, more successful, thinner. There's always someone that's more. Speaker 2 There's always someone better Speaker 1 than, there's always someone better than you, so you just have to be confident with which you. Speaker 2 I think with accepting that Speaker 1 what you are, yeah you are like I think nawawala ang self love is when you tend to compare yourself with others. Don't a Laguna. Speaker 2 Or being too harsh, Speaker 1 being too hard on. Speaker 2 Yourself. Yeah, exactly. Speaker 1 For actually like because it means that it was in the sub more so find home vino rasna efforts even thou gagalingan sayo Yeah I like the quote when they say now you cannot give amount. You cannot give love to other people or love them well if you don't love yourself. And I truly believe that cause I was like a test to me when I became a wife and I became a mom. For me, self love was like down the drain for like a couple of years. Yeah, Byron. I think I just gave too much of myself to my new role in life, which is a wife and a mom. And I kind of forgot who Danny was. Yeah, for a moment in time and like, I felt like even Danny Nahoy, Danny Naho. I'm a Danny. I'm Danny as a mom and Danny as a wife. The Danny before I felt like Buchanan in the Shah stuck the shadow the area. Ohh gonna go any Danny before anyone you Hindi ko Apna dapat dala dala Yeah some mom and wife era. Speaker 2 Think like I can say the same about I'm. The worst way to put it is like. Like for me, being a father, it's like, But Uncle Chan, you're bringing your family back and forth. Nervous automatic steering. Otomo, yeah. And you can't take your family to where you're supposed to be safely. Yeah, so that's what I realised then initially in apartment, like, no, I need to cater to every single need of my family. And he didn't mention, like, I'm not saying that I'm complaining because that is what I'm supposed to provide. But of course you also told me and a lot of friends told me then the parang, I also need to take the time for myself. Yeah, even if you think you're being selfish, let's say, for example, Hindi muna puntahan young la bastilla for let's say they were going to go out to the mall. Because I had my own personal plans that I put off. You shouldn't be afraid to accept that. Yeah, because if you don't, then yeah, that same metaphor or that same figure of speech, that. I don't want that to happen. Speaker 1 Will have to young time mobile accessory limo. That for me, is so, so, so important. Speaker 2 Yeah. The Awakening: Separating Roles and Finding Self And we both learned that. Speaker 1 Yeah, we. Speaker 2 Yeah, we both learned that. Speaker 1 If I'm being honest we both learned that quite late like feeling cold last year long coming said that the naming yeah sarile cause parents were the longest time. It was just we were in our bubble well. Speaker 2 I mean, it was also a pandemic, Speaker 1 no? No, not that. Even after like we were kind of like already combined, we were comfortable at one point. You are, yeah, this is all brand and Amy excuses to stay home because they don't. We feel that. Speaker 2 We feel like basically the word is. The summary of it is we feel like bad bearing. Speaker 1 Yeah, if we. Speaker 2 Leave if we have time that isn't dedicated to Speaker 1 her. Yeah. And then, you know, I just came into our realization last year, which is funny. It's like a month before Mellie's birthday that I was just so sick of the fact that how come everybody you social media that enough move forward you manga new moms that had to let go they're all doing so well on their own like they have. There's May, Sarili, Parency Lang, Mahoba, Sabian, Byron. There's still somebody outside of being a mother. Yeah, you know, pardon. They were still able to by nobody comma describe parent. They were still able to become. Speaker 2 They were. They were good at separating, Speaker 1 yeah, they were good at separating the roles that they doesn't have to be always like merged together because you're always going to be a mom and and say some interview. I'll say some event now. You're always going to be a mom. That's never gonna change once. Maggie Nanika, you're a nanny for life, so it doesn't your role. Monahan. Hindi magbabago, Yeah. Doesn't make you less of a person if luma Baska one night with your friends or mags alone, yeah, well yeah, but these are the things that you do for yourself to keep your sanity and for you to become a better parent. Speaker 2 Yeah, I agree. So to round back to the main topic which is self love, can we agree that during the time when we did not know how to separate? Are hats. We weren't really practicing self love. Speaker 1 No, we really weren't. Not at all. It's like but. Speaker 2 Of course, Speaker 1 physically, everything and everything. Speaker 2 But because back then then we didn't know. Cause of course as first time parents, I mean honestly speaking, I've met parents. No. It's like they said. Read this book, attend this class, this. Yeah, Speaker 1 because parenting is, like, literally as you go. Speaker 2 So that's why the people that figured it out sooner they must have learned or sat down. Yeah, sooner than us. Exactly. And you and I are not afraid to admit. Nah, we didn't love ourselves initially. Speaker 1 But I came to you last year was my awakening. Yung Parang said Lightning manga. Personal issues cause I said illegal physical attribute papaya casino again confident that the parang ohh thank you sobrang indico active sabo Mundo no me mahalan Pala home bargains but uncomfortable now that was a good enough awakening last year the parent we packed in Costa Salamin big yak down the parent he did but as I made order. Speaker 2 So I have a question like what made it? What took you so long to realise the pattern and the like? I'm using your words. I like, like you felt that way. What was the culmination of that feeling? Speaker 1 There were some people who reminded me of who I was before I became a wife and a mom. There were some people who would say no, many fashion icon going on that day and killing killing Manamit nanny and dammit, necessarily gonna first love glossing fashion talaga. Yeah, so parang tomato effort at all. Speaker 2 It's like your persona doesn't fit their idea of you, Speaker 1 aren't you? They need the Skype. Speaker 2 It wasn't you now, Speaker 1 Rani Dina ho mahajani wala na ako yung. Speaker 2 The person? Yeah, exactly. Speaker 1 So parents have a colleague Malay play school. Hindi na Pala hota laga nola nola. I'm Danny Nah. There's my love for beauty. My love for fashion. My lover. Speaker 2 So Speaker 1 industry and everything else that I've worked hard for for the past 10 years, you know, Manawala, to be honest, like mature young content go over the years, it grew up with me, but I just lost that that spark, yeah, that that spark that I used to have that whenever I dress up, whenever I take care of myself, I feel a certain level of confidence. And I've always felt unstoppable every time I felt that way. And last year I really said like I I have to change this. I have to go back to the Danny that I used to love so much. Young Danny Navarang, describe Kano. Classic Daniel. Speaker 2 No cause. Reclaiming Identity and Challenging Societal Expectations I mean, I understand then like of course when you make that self realization aparang, I don't love myself in as much. Of course you're in denial but first you're like no cause it'll go back to the parent thing. I'm spending too much time like I'm taking care of my daughter, like my husband, my family. But what? What did it take for you to realise the parang Hindi kaananilla okay like I'm a good mom Speaker 1 for the past? Speaker 2 Three. I've always said that Speaker 1 he had no hobbies while at home, anything going on for myself. Speaker 2 Do you think that was like a yeah, that was bad for Speaker 1 you? No. It was a point that I realised my gig. Shannon is on time. Leon Sabong swerte, momi booyaka inhaler Helena we got. Speaker 2 The ball Speaker 1 give. Speaker 2 I actually do too many things, Speaker 1 like Buhari, Shahala, Bashan *** wanna parrino gigs? Yeah, and then he can still come back home and do his normal routine everyday. Everyday. So I'm like name at one point and really sad now. Wait, I need to have that? Speaker 2 I always told Speaker 1 you though I had to really explain to him the Hindi kita in Hawaii. But I want that life. I want to also have time alone for myself. I want the hobbies. I want to be able to actually have time for myself now. Oh Oh my God. And pudding Maggie nagawa Dinho Ryan like the possibility was endless. No awakening Korea. And you know what? To be honest, after that day, what happened? Speaker 2 Yeah. She was seeing her friends again. Speaker 1 As in Bagota Lagaho. Not for the worse. Speaker 2 The most impressive thing for me was Graham Bagung. Friends. Speaker 1 Yeah, hello guys, for the longest time. Speaker 2 Gina joke. Damo. Friends, Speaker 1 Friends. Friends. Speaker 2 I know, like the core. Wow, I don't Speaker 1 know. You know last year for me league, we're not kind of peak Sabu Haimo young. I don't age kind of beak look interview Sinasabe last year, last year on a big last year and this year Bahut Cassie. It don't it last year was the year that I focused on myself like hardcore young talagang. I started losing weight. I took my power back young, powered in a tangle and every they'd say no bump. 9 wings are really more again he come on burrito like and you know almost game. Bata bata mumba Yuma, Genya, comments Alamo Nick. Tart inspiration. Unnecessarily gonna. They got that guy. No. Yeah. Like that is not. You cannot generalise that. You cannot just say that I am that. That's not me. Yeah. And for me, like over Pineco massaging magulang. Speaker 2 Because you you get to do what makes you happy. Speaker 1 Yeah, of course. Speaker 2 Being a parent makes you happy, but like in other aspects of your life in Thailand is an aspect didn't like your social life. You're happy with your personal life. You're happy with your relationship with your daughter. Happy ka sat relationship with her husband Mosana Masaya Speaker 1 Hindi parent don't population going lad and still come home and become a. Speaker 2 Good. You know, just to share. I would before like Prior, before she found herself at that time I wanna man myself. Karen like the love I had for myself was super good because of the things I was I was doing for myself. I was able to do it and I felt like a level of success. Like for example Pupuntahan studio. I'll be gone from a five hours. Let's say Kate valid the Monongahela. I would feel guilty. But at the same time, it's like McGill, Tiho Case, Maggie Nagawa, Ako. But would you rather, Speaker 1 I think the intentional unit, of course. Speaker 2 It's just in my nature. Speaker 1 And then towards the end, Bing girl. Yeah or whatever. When I'm going, you balance Lang Alamo. Even just going to the salon, getting your nails done, having your hair done, doing shopping or eating alone, watching a movie, seeing friends, having dinner. That itself is already a time for yourself. Just that's having a life outside your home with. Speaker 2 That being said, I think people need to also like realise not to take because of course some people they do those things but they want or demand more for their like self. There to love themselves more, but at the same time you need to also appreciate those little things because those things bring you joy. But yeah, some people just demand Speaker 1 more. It really keeps you sane, yeah, and keeps your sanity intact. It makes you, it becomes. You become whole in a sense, because there's nothing lacking in your. Speaker 2 Life Speaker 1 you are. You're a good mom, you're a Good Wife. And then you also have that self love for yourself now. NASA Mabuti Kalagayan. Prioritizing Mental Health Before Physical Changes Mentally, emotionally and for some physically, they and physically tapos nag progression to mentally cause I had to also come to terms with the fact now I wasn't happy with the way I looked. So I had to change that. I had to make some changes. I had to do the necessary changes for me to feel good about myself again physically and then the mentally. It followed the pattern since I already feel confident with the way I look and another major mentally nahila homen Talina, wala naho anxiety breakdown. Blooming in comments, Being confident. Speaker 2 It's more like you value yourself more to Nona I Yeah, you say that, but it's not true. Speaker 1 Are you banging Dina? Standard and beauties? No problem. Yeah. Kung Yung Standard. You know beauty is perfect in the hotel again causing the perfect perfect. Go on Standard. Don't beauty saying your I I won't go. I don't classy, but standard than beauties in your home kind of problem exactly saying I do not leave. I do not live to please you Yeah or I do not live. Parama annoying animal ma Martin going. Speaker 2 Standard. Are there further validation Speaker 1 you use? Yeah, and if I feel great, I feel beautiful. Well, I'm going. Speaker 2 But also like it Speaker 1 matters is how I feel. Speaker 2 Yeah, of course. I just wanna point out then for some people like you, they start loving themselves more by physically changing something about themselves. But for some, it doesn't work that way. Like, honestly, it kind of pisses me off then sometimes apparent for me when parent people see the both of us, they're like, damn, you look so good, you know? Then like, yeah, I'm getting my life together again. They're like, ohh, you're still look the same. You're still a little heavy, but in my head the mobile alarm for me personally I would rate the way I fix myself is mentally first before physically. Speaker 1 Discussed her unchanged doesn't always have to start physically because some people. The way they look, Hindi Lang sila masaya mentally and Speaker 2 emotionally. Speaker 1 Yeah, that's how it is for me. Ganon din Yun for you guys sometimes must gusto, Speaker 2 luckily. Speaker 1 Mental health more And how you feel then, rather than the way you look. Yeah. Like it means you need ambassador. Important. Speaker 2 No. Like, like you and me, we've been together for so long. My way the physically look isn't as important as the way I feel and think. Speaker 1 And there's nothing wrong Speaker 2 with. Yeah, exactly. That's why when there's nothing wrong, people would tell me na parang. I would tell them I had this conversation with this person. Sabika ohh no. I'll start getting fit when I know mentally I'm okay. Speaker 1 It's a simple question to everybody but Maganda Masaya, Speaker 2 exactly. Speaker 1 Latvanen guapo Speaker 2 masaya so. Embracing Individual Timelines and Processing Trauma Big and more 100% population of Maganda at Guapo Masaya. Speaker 2 Yeah, no. But anyway, back to that point, like I remember there was even a point. There's Annabel. When I'm mentally stable or mentally happier, I will work out then and no work out and it comes after and I'm like, be back for you. Speaker 1 It works, but for Speaker 2 me the fact that ongoing disrespect it just because we're men doesn't mean Thailand abs or shoulders or biceps to prove the other people. To be frank, I don't need to prove to anyone, I'm happy. I just have to prove it to myself. Speaker 1 Yes, like men. Speaker 2 That's your ego name. And The thing is, I'm not an egotistical person. Like, I'm the type of person successful code, let's say Ferrari Go Basam Kyun, that's how I see it there. So, so like for a guys, you just have to accept the way you are vulnerable isn't the same way other men are vulnerable to yeah, like Long still being Jim Sahin, No, I would. Speaker 1 Rather buy. And you know, every journey is different. Exactly. It's it indeed. Big saving. It worked for you. It's gonna work for others. Nai bataya nang journey. That's what I actually want to tell people now. Timeline. Papaya. Guinan boy Nathan Makai Bataanaa timeline Hindi porket. Let's say 25 Kana, Speaker 2 Telangana. Speaker 1 Telangana. They still had no baggage. Makanannya Time Timeline timeline on Bawa Tau Tau. Ready. Yeah. Hindi already. It it comes with in all aspects. You know, not only for self love and confidence and there are a lot of also mean, but I mean in town that they come from a place of trauma Speaker 2 exactly. Speaker 1 They come from a really bad Speaker 2 experience. The thing is, if you keep on discrediting their feelings, you're going to push this person to share something, Hindi share ready sharing to just to shut you up. Speaker 1 And that's not fair. It doesn't work that way because for me, Lana, from someone that comes from a place of trauma they have. And move on first Speaker 2 before anything else accepted. Speaker 1 They have to accept it first, funding situation, conning Nangyari and process it the way they have to process it or the the way they want to process it. Agree before they even move forward to another thing in the Mozilla pointing at the press comic workout. Indian Solutions Ivanka Yeah, Seguro say Banta. And Marami Talagang. Yeah, Garcia Hota Laga Speaker 2 that works for you. Speaker 1 Yeah, anxiety. Being active because I've been working out three times Speaker 2 a week, yeah. Speaker 1 And now, if I'm being honest, mentally. Morning. Yeah, things have been young Journey more. Keeping. Speaker 2 Yeah, yeah. I remember I had this friend in college, but I'm gonna parent. He wasn't really mentally stable, so basically his friends would bully him for his hobby. And you'll have Gundam. You knew Habina? Speaker 1 Bullshit for that Speaker 2 I don't know. So when I when I was, I was like, what, 20 at the time. But at first I was like, yeah, I laughed. Then I was like, wait down edition messier. Speaker 1 If this what exactly Speaker 2 so? Speaker 1 And The thing is, I'm just like you. Speaker 2 And I'm pretty. I'm pretty sure some of those guys have their own hobby. Yeah. No. Boy, didn't anyone. Anyone can laugh at anyone's hobby. Oh, oh, Magano, my plant. It's. You can't really shame someone for what brings them joy. Speaker 1 If that's if that's what they do. You're not make them happy to keep them sane. Then why would you judge Speaker 2 them? Why would you go out of your way to make someone feel excluded? Speaker 1 And it's not even funny. It's not. I don't even find that funny, to be honest. That's it takes back but going Speaker 2 Aaron, I remember he. Speaker 1 Was saying. Get up and Speaker 2 Madam Chang like a 50,000 peso Gundam ohh no Mahali. But for me, I didn't judge him cause I'm like that's what makes him happy. Speaker 1 Whatever. You know what guys, OK. Gumastos, Exactly. Kaya nila. Gumastos. Ferrari. Ferrari like. People can get that up on me and Speaker 2 I suddenly need to drive. Speaker 1 Now one thing that again. Was uncomment not Diana? We're doing Cortina. Diamond Ganyan lagging me. Bad thing? Speaker 2 No driver. Speaker 1 You see that like? Okay so. Or like ohh. What are you making judgement also? You might. Yeah, they work hard for that. You think it's easy to buy those things? Oh my God, I cannot even afford a Ferrari. Not Speaker 2 even the expensive things. It's what brings them joy. Speaker 1 If they buy it, yeah, they can afford it. But Speaker 2 exactly. Speaker 1 In anyway, Speaker 2 what's a happy celeb? Speaker 1 But that's your insecurity talking, yeah. And if you want the same things that they have. Girl, go work Magtrabaho, Karen. Inhabiting them again? Yeah, gonna tell you something. Along with that is a self love psycho. Whole. Okay, Speaker 2 yeah. Speaker 1 Like. Yahoo. No, never gonna eat it going yet. Don't say that. The real excuses are really responsibility. Sigurong single dinner ho. Barnaby, Billy. Currington. Margaret. Baggage. Percy Guru. I admire the hard work, yeah, that they have because then the work ethic that they have cause. Being hit up. Because I like Oh my God, I have to hustle more if I want to be able to afford those things too. Anyway, Speaker 2 and that's your form of self love. Then let's make that makes you. Speaker 1 Happy. Yeah, that makes you happy again. Kanya, Kanya and Kanya, Kanya and meaning non self love. Yeah, conning self love. Sachin. Normalizing Male Vulnerability and Emotional Expression Yeah. Anyway, for me you have confidence when you have self love. Those two work hand in hand. Speaker 2 Do you think it's harder to love yourself if you're a guy or a girl? Speaker 1 No, it's equally as hard. Equally has heart. It's equally as hard. You know that men, you have to think about it. In the Philippines, they expect men to be the breadwinner. They expect men to be this masculine energy that can do it all. But there are some men that aren't like that. You must like it. Speaker 2 Yeah, they're they're more. Speaker 1 Capable of buying a must. Capable must must dominant mean sand it happens and babe must like kicking breadwinner and babe must successful then the guy it happens, you know And sometimes men don't even get to express their emotions like I haven't even classing outlet along to express it because in these glamorous a personal lives cause it works Speaker 2 but they're just too aimed. Speaker 1 They're too ashamed because there's already a certain standard in this country that Gannon DAPAT, but I think Thailand normalisation is. I am going. Bye. Ma women are naturally good Speaker 2 caregivers. Speaker 1 Caregivers like they're really Magaling Talaga is a baby. Hmm. Speaker 2 What? What? That Confusing. But a friend told me this and I've been a girls are lucky. So big. Why any fellow girl and that girl will understand. Yeah, as a guy friend. Mulakat in Yamashita, Agad Hasil Khan, Bayan Mauka. Speaker 1 And damage Sassabee. The Speaker 2 only person a guy can cry to is his joa or a partner. Speaker 1 Wife. Speaker 2 Yeah, that's why I Then again I realised I go ohh no. Then that friend of mine said, can we normalise like I wanna. I'm seeing you guys, some guys like guys in there. Speaker 1 I'm going through something. Speaker 2 Then when you meet at. Yeah, but you there, you already briefed them? Speaker 1 No, that means you're not sitting with the Speaker 2 right. Exactly. Britney Okay tapas. You're gonna try to throwing humour at something does not fix a problem. Speaker 1 Yeah, it really doesn't for me, but a second, personally. Amal al Umiyak Yeah Kappa. Or let's say the citizens for me. Sign of strength. Special weakness Speaker 2 for me, the reason why I'm for sensitive sensitivity now? Because sensitivity breeds empathy. Yeah, look like macho, macho, whatever. They're like like, yeah, I've heard that so many times. I say I'm a guy. I'm supposed to not care. Yeah, better. And so why can't you just treat everyone that's that way? Why are you so afraid? Speaker 1 Be a good human being? Exactly. Just be a good human being. Like you know, nobody has it together all the time. And I think that's what I realised last year when I really lacked self love. While the girl that feels that she always has it together and she's so put together is not whole is broken into pieces and. The only person that could have. Put myself back Speaker 2 as yourself. So yeah, the way I see it then can say is like when it comes to self love, you're not supposed to be afraid to fall. Like you know what they say when you fall off the horse, get back on you and you shouldn't be afraid to fall. You should just accept the fact that there will be times you will fall off and you need to accept that, like realise why you fell and get back on. And that's how I look at taking care of myself. And I'm like, oh, I know there will be times I'm going to fail, fail more than I did before. But as long as I understand why I did, I processed my feelings properly, Then I know for a fact that I can grow into a healthier partner, healthier human, being, healthier father. Yeah, and I think you. Speaker 1 Yeah, and that ends his guest thing because he has to pick up our daughter. Dani's Personal Journey to Self-Acceptance and Growth I don't. I don't put in. Speaker 1 Put his father hat again, Speaker 2 discuss about Bob Caster hat. Speaker 1 Good morning, Okay. So, Melissa See Harvey. Emily, so right now just to close, well we're in the closing parts of our podcast. I just this is a very sensitive topic for me because I struggled with this. For the past two years I struggled hard with this and I think I could finally talk about it. It's because I already came out of such a dark place. Again, I was explaining a while ago that I kind of forgot myself in the process. Like I gave practically all my love to everyone else. Atula hung Natera Sarili Ko at one point that I just kept on giving and giving and giving until I felt really drained now. Parang. At every time. Connery. Bahut na Papa gutna ho bahet dapat natutuwa hose masayo mangata napapasaya Hindi masaya. And then gonna realise Kasay Wella Nacho. Cole. Well, I'm in love for myself and I think that's what makes a person whole. Is that when you also feel? That. Double password for me on self love, don't feel nahole. Really more at Latnok Taos Paligid Masaya Din Masaya. Mahatma Lang masaya pero ikaw Hindi Pano hanuman awakening. Say a better piano. Back. Neon. And Jason Braham self love. Young man Mahal Sahin and junior male cause he didn't expect Rosella to love me a certain way the way that I do, but it's unfair because I Nina Mahatma Tao. Will love the way that you love like Hindi porket ganito ho magmahal, shadin ganin dincha magmahal. You cannot expect people to love the way that you do because everybody loves differently. Imagine if everybody loves the way that you do. A dialogue break Diva walang problema sa Mundo issues a love life. But for me like because I lacked self love, I expected so many love. I so much love and attention from everybody else because I felt like you knew mug fulfill no holes or hardcore pero Hindi Pala. What I needed to do is figure out. What was lacking in that sense and for me to figure it out on my own because? He needed them. Unfair not nagging outlet Yamagata. Get silly young. Getting up. Ohh, Damon and Gannon and it's unfair casino. Gonna be gay, noni. So pardon for me no confidence, patience, self love. No my snagging booting asawa, homo booting nanay, booting kaibigan, booting anak. Own any expecting parent group. I lacked self love, I lacked confidence. So I seek validation from everyone. Titan Hinahanap Validation Neon. And I only found that validation study legal. I felt validated by myself when I took the power back now. Every single comment or every single not good government, Basha, Bashir's chancellor comments among social media. When I took that power back, it felt amazing, I say. So you feel. You're okay now you feel that? Sabko Hanina. Bharat ko Bagi nagawa, ginagawa paras Chanelle I'm not. I'm not doing all of this Indigo. I didn't go through all of this hardships to impress the people I do not know. Like I went through all these hardships because there has to be a lesson here for myself. India Mancilla Marikina Bang. And change better up. Bandai McCormick about your lives because he needed. Say so. A date. Italian, you know, Alam nila the in between, so you don't know that. So for me, it's like it was a journey, it was a process. But I'm glad that I found my way back to myself and I feel like I'm a better person. And if you're going through the same thing, it's okay, it's a process, it's a journey, it's not an overnight thing. Sometimes you have to go through it to actually. Um, figure yourself out or find your way find yourself. So that is our topic for today. Self love and confidence. If you guys have any suggestions on what you want for us to talk about here on the podcast, please do comment and let us know what you think. And again guys, these are all based on experiences or personal opinions and experiences. This has nothing to do with other people. I mean, this is again the beret all podcast we want to be able to. Express our emotions and be able to talk about our experiences. So I hope Nakatulong come and Nabi come in and wisdom to those who are going through the same thing. And I'll catch you guys in the next episode. Bye.