Don’t Waste Your Life: An 89-Year-Old’s Best Life Advice For You

Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. Today on the Mel Robbins podcast, we are going to go on a walk with my 89 year old mother-in-law. She just stopped by and told me the craziest decision that she is making to change her life and do something incredible in the next six months. So, we're going to take you on a walk with us and we're going to jump into that walk and this episode after a short word from our incredible sponsors, this is going to be incredible, right Judy? But we're going to do an episode and we're going to go on a walk together. Okay, good. And you're going to tell everybody this decision that you've made at 89 to go do something. Yeah, crazy. Okay. Okay. I'm ready. You're ready. I think it's going to inspire everybody to make a major change because who would think at 90, you would change it up this much. That's you better change it by 90 because I'm running out of time. Well, you're going to make the most of it and we're going to inspire you to make the most of yours. All right. Before we get started, I want to invite you to stick around later in the episode for a special segment presented by our new sponsor, JetBlue, which is one of my favorite airlines. I'm going to share with you some simple travel rituals that will help you rest, reset, and get things done and arrive at your destination feeling your best. Trust me. You do not want to miss this one. Hey, it's your friend Mel Robbins and today I am so excited. I'm going to take you on a walk. You're going to go on a walk with me and my 89 year old mother-in-law, JJ and my husband and our two dogs and I wanted to do this because my mother-in-law just burst into our house to share some exciting news about a decision that she has made about what she wants to change and an adventure that she wants to go on in the next year of her life at the age of 90. It's pretty crazy and so we're going to bring you on a walk. Now, I'm going to be trying to film this. We'll see how this goes, but I'm thrilled that you're here with me. Let's start the show. All right, you ready to go for a walk? All right, let's do this. I cannot wait for you to share this crazy decision that you have made. Everybody. With the world. With the world. Well, this is amazing what you've decided to do at 89. And so I want you to tell the whole story, okay? Okay, I tell the whole story. Because if you can make a decision like this to do something and switch it up at your age, anybody can make this decision at any age. I love this. Okay, all right. So, Jude, let's reverse to when you came into the kitchen and you tell me, tell me what happened. So you were literally to start with you went to New York to see the thing. You took a gummy. Let's start there. Do I have to tell a world? Okay, so I went to New York with my partner John and we went out to dinner. We had a gummy and then we went and saw luminaries at St. Pat's, which is the most amazing light show you've ever seen. So St. Pat's is what? St. Patrick's Cathedral. Okay, church in New York. Okay, so afterwards we were, we went, oh, afterwards we went to the St. Regis to have a port, which is they have a wonderful bar at the St. Regis. Okay. And I said to John, I had this vision. I said, why don't we just drop everything and go away for a year to Europe? And you've got all sorts of places you want to travel that I've already been to and that you never have. And we'll just put a backpack on and get on a train and go. Okay, now how old are you? I'll be 90 next September, who is just 89. And how old is John? He'll be 85. Okay, so he's a, ooh, you're a cradle robber lately. I am. I'm a cougar. Okay, so he's 85. Yeah. You're 89 and you're proposing to your partner, John, that you guys rent your houses, get backpacks and you go to Europe. Yeah. For how long? A year. A year. Well, we're 90. Yeah. Well, first of all, I don't, we don't have to use sticks. So you have so many friends that have sticks. What does that mean? You know, walking sticks because they don't have any balance. And I said to John, if words and good or shape is we're in now, let's take advantage of it. Why wait? What are we waiting for? You know, so many people say, oh, okay, I'll do that next week. Now, I have to tell you that one of the impetus to got me going was this very good friend of ours, who was 62 years old, just died in a car crash three weeks ago. And at the memorial service, this cousin said, just remember one thing. Don't wait. Don't wait to say I love you. Don't wait to go to your favorite restaurant. Don't wait to take that trip. You've always wanted to. Just do it. And that's what I want to do now because I can. It's true. I mean, at 89, because you've been walking every day for the last 30 years and you do resistance training, you take good care of yourself, you can do it. And what I find amazing is that I think a lot of people start to, as they get older, you start to think you're just kind of stuck where you are. And for you at your age to say, wait a minute, I don't want to keep doing life the way I've been doing it. Because you also, normally you like a lot of people go to a warmer place for the winter. And you also had something interesting to say about the fact that you're sick of magin. Like tell me a little bit more about that. Well, it's just that I never want to complain because I have a beautiful life. Yep. So it isn't a complaint, but I'm tired of, in the summertime, going to the club for dinner, playing bridge, playing golf. Now that's a terrible thing to say that I'm tired of that when I'm so privileged. But it's just that it's a routine. I've been doing it. I'm now moving into the last stage of my life. And I'd like to do something different. And by the way, I used to live in London. So going back to London, said to John, it's really kind of weird. I lived in London with my husband and I'm returning with my lover. And no children. That makes it even better. Yeah, exactly. Well, I just am very inspired by this idea that you can have a good life. And you can at any moment wake up and say, hey, wait a minute. Like, why am I waiting to shake things up? You can always come back. You can always change your mind if you're renting your place. And I also love that at your age, you have so many friends that live in so many places that you've been talking about the fact that you can live. You can actually rent in somebody's flat that you know in London. Well, we don't know that we can do that yet. Okay. If we have to rent from somebody we don't know, we just hope we can find a place to rent. Of course you can. So what is John your lover and partner say about this? Well, John is a complete opposite kind of person than me. Okay. He likes everything organized, everything in the place. He's a news junkie. So he likes to sit in his computer and I'm just the opposite. I'd rather sit with a book and go into La La La and you know, if somebody else is than facts. Yes. I know. I don't just it doesn't do it for me. And he also has a house and he worries about his house. He likes to take care of it. Of course. And that's a big deal to go for a year. Yes. So I love that at 85 and 90 you guys are going to get backpacks and just go. Oh, and then John said backpack? No. I'm not a backpack on a guy. I said, well, okay, you take your suitcase. I'll take the back. I have smaller clothes. Oh my god. Why do you think it's important to recognize that you can mix things up anytime you want? I think the thing that people have to remember is that you have no guarantee that there's tomorrow. So mix things up now. I mean, you and I and Christopher are taking a walk. This is a terrible thing to say, but this might be the last time we ever walk on this loop. Oh god. Don't say that. I mean, I don't want it to be a downer, but it's the truth. It's true. You know. So when you said, let's take a walk and I said, oh, I don't know, it might be too cold. Yes. So I said, you know, it's never too cold as long as you can walk it out and walk. It's true. Oh, you know what, Judy and Chris, I see somebody coming up with a dog. So let's get the dogs on a leash. And this is a great moment to take a pause. Let our sponsors share a few words. and don't go anywhere, because we're gonna be right back here on this walk with you when we return after this short break. So stay with me. Welcome back. It's your friend, Mel Robbins, and today you're on a walk with us. We're here with my 89 year old mother-in-law, JJ and my husband, Chris and our dogs. It's beautiful, beautiful day in Vermont. We're talking about this theme, don't wait. All right, so Judy, I'll take this from you. Great job, Chris. I think it's the most spectacular fall we've ever seen. Ever. I mean, I went, you know, having gone to college in New Hampshire, having come here for 33 years, I've never seen a fall this-- - This spectacular. - It's extraordinary. I know. Call me, come here. I agree. I like this theme of don't wait. - Don't wait. - Don't wait. You put up so many reasons whether, well, our kids are little or well, my job, don't wait. What if you decided, okay, I'm going to create a new chapter right now? Like, absolutely, as you're listening to this, whether you're 89 like Judy or you're 58 like me, it takes everything in me to not try to micromanage, Chris. Watch out for the dogs, if he doesn't even-- he doesn't know how to do that. But whether you're 58 like me or 56 like Chris, I'm a cobertine, I guess. - You're cute. (laughing) - Don't wait. If I were to say to you, okay, you've got six months or a year to figure out how to get a backpack and go to Europe and be in Europe for a year. I bet if you gave yourself six months to a year to figure it out, you could do it. 'Cause you're gonna start this in August and that's like eight months from now. - I know. No. Oh, yeah, that's true. - It's just an information that we have today. That's a lot of time. - That's a lot of time. AI could help you figure it out. - Oh, and John is so good at that. Every time we travel, he goes to AI. And next thing you know, we're going from Seattle to Roseburg, Oregon and there's like 20 places that we have to stop to see, you know, this view and these woods and because AI tells you these are the things you should see. - Yeah. So Judy, talk to us about this funeral that inspired you to shake things up and what it's like at 89 to have so many friends that are dying and that are deteriorating and they're struggling with dementia like, you know, I think now that the actual memorial service that I went to this weekend was after the fact, I had already made up on my mind, I wanted to go away. I think what really got to me was I played duplicate bridge at my club on Wednesdays. - Yeah. - And our instructor, we had dinner with him. - Yep. - And I said, you know what? I looked around the room at bridge tonight and I said to myself, you know, in five years, none of us are gonna be here. No, what are you gonna do about bridge? We're all old and he said it's a dying game in many ways because your generation isn't picking it up. You're not playing bridge. And that's when I really start thinking in five years, if none of us are gonna be playing bridge, then we better do whatever we wanna do now. - Yeah. Get up and do it. It's now, it's very much like your first aha when you decided that you had to get out of bed. - Yes. - The five, four, three, two, one. - Yeah. - Okay, it's the same kind of feeling. Just do it. - That's true. What are we all sitting around waiting? Just like waiting from Godot. Did you ever see that? - Long time ago. - Oh, long time ago. - Why not? - Because we're waiting for the right time and yet time is the thing that's most precious. - Time is not waiting for us. - Exactly. - Well, you know what? - We're all into making excuses. - Yeah. - We all make excuses. And one of the things, years and years and years ago, my husband and I went to Est, EST. - Yeah. - And they taught us all sorts of things, but one of the things that I remember, so vividly is, when you go someplace, you should get there on time. Because you're told that you were going to be there, at 630, go, be there at 630. But the one thing that you should remember is, if you're late, you're late, period. There's no excuse. You don't have to go on and on and on about the traffic or my children or whatever. The point is, you're late. And I don't know where I'm going with this. - I don't either. - No, I don't know. No, I don't know where I'm going with this. I guess there's no excuses. Oh, I know where I was going. Where we say, oh, well, I can't do it now. I can do it. I can do it tomorrow. - 'Cause I would think at 89, you got a lot of reasons, not to just throw it all up in the air. Change plans. Go figure it out, run out your place. Go rent somebody else's place. Go spend a year somewhere else. But I guess when I really stop and think about it, time's more precious, 'cause you have less of it. - That's for sure, and I think about it all the time. - What do you mean? - Well, you know, when you're young, you think about where you're going to go to college, if you're going to get married. What kind of a career am I going to have? All the things, how's it I'm going to buy? Now at my age, I think about, I know this is a problem. Where is my memorial service going to be? How many years do I have left? - How many years do you think you have left? - Well, every year that I have another birthday, I add on another year. I used to think, well, if I could live to 90, that would be great. - Well, since that's next year, that's not long enough. So I think I'd like to live to about 98. Maybe a hundred if I had a mind. I don't want to lose my mind. - Yeah. - I said to Christopher, if I lose my mind, he'd just shoot me. - Will you stop? Do not say that. Well, you won't know what's happening anyway, so we're doing no such thing. - That's true. - Well, I think it's important to have a number of mind because it gives you something to look forward to doing a little bit more. - Absolutely, yep. - Otherwise, you're just biting your time. Which I hate to say, I increasingly notice that the older folks in my life seem to just kind of, I don't know, waiting for the time to pass. Here we go. - Well, the thing is, is that we're waiting for the right time, but time is not waiting for us. And I found it so inspiring. How you just wall straight into our kitchen this morning and said, "Guess what?" I have an idea. I think John and I are gonna go live in here for a year, and I'm thinking, wait, what? - Well, of course I know, you're 90. - I haven't really convinced John yet. He's a little more of a stick in mud, but Chinese torture will do it. Just keep going and going and going. - Well, I love this idea because you can have a really good life, you can have worked hard to be in a really good routine, and it works for a while, and then all of a sudden you just have this epiphany that even though you're grateful for what you have, and even though the routine is nice and enjoyable, that you just want something different. You want to experience something different. And I find it very inspiring that at 89 you have the epiphany, wow, I want to shake things up. And so what did you turn to John and say? - I said, "I know this is crazy, but what do you think about just going and living in Europe for a year?" And he said, "You're out of your mind." - It's like bartender, can we get another cocktail over here? Cut her off as when he should have said it. But you weren't out of your mind. - You were very clear. - No, I was very clear. And I had to point out all the things that he could do. - Like what? - Well, he could rent his house. I don't have to rent mines. And I can't rent here in Vermont because all the kids keep coming into my house, so. - Okay. - All right, so he could rent his house. What else? - He has to do something with his cat. - Yup, okay, we're not going to discuss that. - You're going? - So he just kept looking at me like, "She's nuts." And I said, "You are healthy. Who knows? You might have, lose your mind, like half of our friends have next year and we'll go anyhow. You just won't remember." (laughing) - So you didn't get a yes at the bar? - No, he still thought it. - You got a huh. - That was three days ago, he still thinks I'm crazy. - Okay. - Then, oh. - And then tell me what happened, 'cause then you go to a funeral. - Oh, then yesterday I went to this memorial service which was so beautiful as they put her ashes into the Baton Killer River. We all threw flowers. - Tell me what they did. It sounds really beautiful. - Friend of mine, sister died. - This is Car Crash, she was 62. And he'd had the same memorial service for his wife like six years ago, where they put the ashes into the river. And then we all threw flowers into the river on top of the ashes. - Oh, of the ashes. - Beautiful. - It was amazing. And that's when her cousin was talking about, don't wait. He was saying that he had talked to Carol like two weeks ago at night and said when he hung up the phone before he hung up the phone, he said, "We'll talk about it tomorrow morning, why don't we have coffee?" - Yep. - And she said, "Great, I'll see you tomorrow morning." And tomorrow morning came at 630 and she hit a truck, and that was the end of her life. So he was saying, "My message is don't wait." You know, why did we have to wait until tomorrow morning? Why didn't we just get together that morning? You know what I'm saying? - Yeah. - Anyway, that just solidified more for me to say to John. Let's not wait. Let's just do it now while we can. - Okay, we've come to a hill on the walk and as you can tell, we're panting. So let's go to a commercial break and give our sponsors a chance to share a few words and give us a chance to catch our breath and don't go anywhere. When we return, we'll be waiting for you on this amazing, inspiring, and glorious walk here in Southern Vermont. Stay with us. - Welcome back to your friend Mel Robbins and we are at the top of the hill. We're catching our breath and we're so glad you're here on this walk with us. We're talking about why in life it is so important to stop waiting. Shake up your routine, create the experiences that you want. I don't care how old you are. JJ's been telling you at the age of 89. Her big plans to spend nine months to a year backpack and around Europe with her loverish puts it. So let's just jump right back in, Jude. What's it like to be 89? - Well, I'm lucky, Mel, at 89. Because I'm still healthy. I still have my mind. I can still do all the things that I've always done. A little slower, like we're walking at a pace where I could be a little out of breath. But as long as I'm so lucky and so fortunate, then I, well, let me back up. Your podcast that you did with Oprah. - Yes. - Really hit home to me. And I don't listen to all your podcasts, but that one in particular, I did. And Oprah said, we're all been put here for a reason. Not necessarily things happen for a reason, but we're here because she's very spiritual, as you said. And she felt that she had tapped you more or less to take her place, which part was pretty powerful. And she said, you need to figure out why you're here. What is the reason that you're here on this earth? And I really started to think about it. And there are two things. One, I'm a connector. I know that. So, but more importantly, I know that I'm an inspiration. And I've had so many people say to me, oh my God, you really inspire me. You know, you still walk four miles a day. You do this, you do this. And so what Oprah says, if you realize why you're here, don't stop. In other words, just because I figured out that I'm an inspiration at 89, doesn't mean that I can just sit back and rest on my laurels. I have to continue being an inspiration. And this certainly will inspire more people. - Well, it also inspires you. - Yes. - You know what I'm saying? Like, it's not even just. - Not out there. - It's not necessarily out there. - Yeah. - That you've got to live your life in a way that you continue to be inspired. - Exactly. - And when you get to a moment in your life and it can hit you at any moment, John Grisham came on the podcast and talked about these golden moments. One of light goes off inside you. And you never see it coming and you're forever changed. And I would say that moment at the St. Regis Bar, where you're like, right after the light show at the St. Patrick's Cathedral, where you have this light go off and you say, wait a minute, how about we go live in Europe? How about we back back? Why don't we do that? Like, even though I'm 90 and you're gonna be, you're in your late 80s, like, let's change. That's an example of what it means to be an inspiration. Let's leash them up, Chris. Boys, boys, come on. Good boys, put the dogs on the leash. Hold on, let me pass them because if they start barking. They're talking about money and how people react to money. And I think it's in bread, like my dad, for instance, no money, the electricity could be turned off. But as soon as he got some client to buy some insurance, he'd be at the antique store buying a silver service. And then he'd bring it home and then my mother'd have to return it. 'Cause it's not any money. But I think I have that mentality of my father, like, I don't worry about it as long as-- - I'm that way too. - You're not. - The more I think about money, the less I make. The more I don't worry about it, and I'm a very big saver, though. - Well, I say-- - I'm a lost everything. - I'm a saver, but I also can spend. - I thought it was very interesting what you were saying, though, because the idea of doing something exciting and changing things up and, you know, using your savings, or being more strategic and intentional, you were saying that another thing that happens as an excuse for friends, people your age, your 89, is that you've noticed that people your age don't want to spend the money they've saved because they think they're supposed to keep it for their kids. But that seems stupid that you would limit your own life and rob yourself of experiences. - But everybody feels that way when you get older. We don't want to leave. We don't want to die about money. - Well, let's talk about that, because I don't live my life as if my parents owe me anything. - Well, I know. - Or do they owe me anything? - I don't think you, your kids, expect us that we owe you something, or that your parents owe you. I think it's just a mentality, and I think that when you get to be older, you're going to think, you know, I want to leave some money for my kids, that's all. - Yeah, I understand that. I guess I'm just saying, like, if that's a wonderful and beautiful thing to do, and I also would hate to think of someone who has the opportunity to travel or to do things at the end of their life that they're not doing it, so that they can leave the money to somebody. - Well, I agree with you 100%, but unfortunately, I don't think that's how people feel. And it's just something that's in our forever. It's been like that. Parents feel like that. And I don't think it can change. - Well, it can change. - Well, I can't. I mean, I'm-- - Absolutely can change. - But there's one other thing I wanted to add, and Christopher will remember this. When we were sitting at the table, and Christopher was only about 11. - Yep. - Actually, we weren't. We were traveling with his father. And Christopher just sat at the table with his hands like this. And everybody was asking him questions, and he would just kind of nod. And I said to Christopher, there's one thing that you should remember. If you're not interested, you will not be interesting. And just think about that. If you're not interested in the other person, you're not an interesting person. And when you get to be old, like me, people really don't want to be around old people, because they're boring. They are boring. They're going to tell you about their childhood, and then their college, and their marriage, and who cares? But so I think that it's important not only to do something now, because you can. Do something that you think is interesting and is fun. And guess what? You can regurgitate it back to your family, or whomever, and stop talking about your aches and pains. And Christopher, don't you remember-- That's true, because it does seem even a 58er was talking about how this hurts, or that hurts, or the other thing. Oh, my God. Everybody talks about how they feel. And do we really care? No. I mean, if you're throwing up, I don't want you doing that on my carpet, but you have to care of yourself. I love this idea that you need to push yourself to keep shaking things up, because it keeps your life interesting, and then you have interesting experiences to share. And interesting people that you're going to meet. Exactly. - Exactly. - Just think of all the people you'll meet if you travel around to all these different countries. And particularly with someone like John, we're both chatterboxes. - Well, if you don't have the means to do it, I think there are ways that you can take this 'cause it's a really important point, Chris. And just stop and ask yourself, is your routine to routine? Have you gotten bored of your own life? - Exactly. - Have you squeezed all the juice from this chapter? And if you're kind of bored with your routine, then that's the only answer that you need. And it tells you that it's time to shake things up. That even at 89, you're still meant to grow and explore and learn and push yourself into new chapters. And it doesn't require you to go live in a different country or go travel backpacking for a year. It requires you to wake up and make a decision that you're a little bored of your life. And that's okay. It means you worked hard to build what you've built. You work where you work. You see the people you see. You move through your day, how you move through your day. You eat what you eat. And at any moment, you can decide, I don't wanna spend the rest of my life in this routine. I wanna experience something new. - Think what's interesting about making a decision is the moment you go from thinking about it to saying, I'm doing it. All of a sudden, your mind shifts. And you go from seeing the excuses to seeing possibility. - Yeah, you just need to let the consideration of doing it percolate a little bit. Then it starts to come live. - Exactly. - You're just not stuck. You're not stuck in your routine. You're not stuck where you live. You're not stuck in this pattern. You're not stuck in this version. And even when you change and you move or you take on an adventure or figure out how to do it, you're not stuck in it either. Oh my God, I'm always out of breath. - I am too. I gotta stop. - Okay. Ah! - So glad. He said that. - This is the most glorious hall I've ever seen. There's one saying that one should always remember. And you know it. It's the past, it's history, the future, a mystery. The present is a gift. That's why we call it a present. - Hmm, it's beautiful. So live in the present. Live in the present. Thoughts, Jude. - Oh. - Chris, hurting words. - Harding words. Don't wait. That's all I have to say. To all of you, if you have one thing you wanna do, if you have a phone call to a friend that you haven't talked to, call him today. Don't wait. - If you have a chapter you wanna live, begin it. - Exactly. - Don't wait. Well, Judy, I love you. - I love you too, Mel. - That's so excited for you. Thank you. - Poor John, doesn't have a chance. - No. - You've already decided what's happening. He's thinking she's already going. Okay. Well, thanks for going on a walk with me and my mother-in-law, my husband, Chris and our dogs. I hope that this inspired you to shake things up. Change your routine, create a new chapter. Don't wait. You get one life and I really hope that you decide to do something really interesting to you in the next year. And in case no one else tells you this, I wanted to tell you that I love you and I believe in you and I believe in your ability to create a better life and a better life is not one that you create by waiting. You create it by deciding to make a better and interesting and adventurous why you still can. Ah, oh, I'll welcome you into the next episode. The moment you play, I'll see you there. (soft music) - This segment is sponsored by JetBlue. JetBlue is my absolute favorite airline. And let me tell you about Mint, which is JetBlue's take on business class. It's like a vacation itself. I'm talking fully lie flat seats. So you can rest world-class food from award-winning chefs, fast, free Wi-Fi. I could go on. So do yourself a favor and give Mint a try on your next trip. And I know a thing or two about traveling. I'm not proud to tell you this, but I traveled 156 days last year for work. And you know what, that means it means I am a travel pro. And I've really had to perfect my routine so that I can arrive wherever I'm flying, feeling my best, because I always hit the ground running. And so I have five travel non-negotiables whenever I'm flying. Are you ready? Number one, plan for comfort. When I travel, I don't expect comfort. I plan for it. I got comfy sweats on. I bring slippers. Yes, real slippers and cozy socks. And I've been known to bring a pillow from my own bed because I'm planning for comfort, because this is another pro hack. Yeah, you may only get one carry-on, but they don't count a pillow as a carry-on. So bring one and plan for comfort. Number two, enjoy the silence. I always bring noise-cancelling headphones, because let them only get to so far when a baby is crying or someone's talking loud or snoring. So let me just cancel it all out and put on the headphones. And number three, bring a good luck charm. Now, I've got mine right here. I am holding a very special, ratty scarf. I mean, this thing is torn and nasty. It has holes in it. It is my special good luck charm. I can literally, I can see through the holes on this thing. I bring this 15-year-old blanket scarf thing with me on every flight, because it brings me good luck. It doubles as a blanket. And if I forgot my pillow, I can wad this sucker up and I can use it as a pillow and it just makes, I don't know, it makes plain travel feel a little more personal. It's a little good luck charm that I love and it just makes flying so much better. And that brings me to number four. Me time, whenever I get on a plane, it is me time. There's no place I'm more productive than sitting in my seat on a jet blue flight. First of all, there's no one there to bother me. So if I want to spend the entire flight, making a Pinterest boards of outfits or the way I'd like my bedroom to look the next time I redo it, or if I want to write a newsletter that millions of you read every week, if I want to sort through my photos, if I want to do something creative, there's just something about being in that seat. Moving five hours an hour through the clouds, it just brings out the creativity and the fun in me. It's like it becomes this little pocket of uninterrupted time. This is for me. Honestly, it's something I look forward to now. And number five, hydrate. I'm the kind of person that can drink half a gallon of water on a cross-country flight. So I always have my water bottle that the crew members on jet blue are so great about filling up with ice and water and more water and more water. So the next time you're booking a trip, don't stress. Just use these five tips from your friend Mel Robbins. Plan for comfort. Enjoy the silence. Bring your good luck charm. Enjoy me time and hydrate. Because when the journey feels easier, you give yourself a much better chance of arriving, feeling like your best self. I really want to thank jet blue again for sponsoring this segment. And now jet blue is introducing another amazing premium product with blue first. Blue first is jet blues take on first class, the jet blue way. Welcoming, not exclusive. You'll get modern comfort, wider recliner seating, extra legroom, priority check-in, boarding and baggage claim. And all of this creates a full experience designed around comfort, hospitality, and value. Visit jetblue.com to learn more and book your next trip. Hey, it's your friend Mel Robbins. And today we're going to do something a little different. I really want to mix it up on the Mel Robbins. Don't go anywhere. This is going to be incredible, right, Judy? What? [LAUGHS] Yeah. We've got to watch Chris from where you are so you can film it. I thought I can't swear on television. Yeah, you can. And I think I already mentioned that. So I go and tear it again. Oh, and one more thing. And no, this is not a blooper. This is the legal language. You know what the lawyer's right and what I need to read to you. This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist. And this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I'll see you in the next episode. [MUSIC PLAYING] Sirius XM podcasts.