Dom's $20K Wedding

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Hey. Hey, you all. Just tired as shit. Like, when you see me with three drinks, it's just like, that's how you know I'm just trying to, like, stay alive. Like, half-eaten Nature Valley bar, just like, whatever. Right, and that's, like, okay. Um, hey, guys. Hey, we were just, like, mid-conversation, look. Oh, yeah, we were mid-conversation because, shout-out Ciara. My friend Ciara is getting married, and she posted a video on TikTok talking about how this charcuterie board that the venue, like, offers was $6,000. That the venue offers. Yeah. That's making more sense to me now. But even still. Because they play. Because they play. They play. Like, I feel like at that point, you could get, like, an In-N-Out truck. $6,000 at that point? But I will say. Honestly, guys, I'll just give it up. I'm married in my house. But that's what I want to say about weddings, is, like, people easily spend, like, $100,000 on a wedding. Which is insane, however. Like, I do. It's, like, numerically, that sends a shiver down my goddamn spine, seriously. Like, I'm also recovering shopaholic right now, which is something that I could talk about in the sense that I, the dope, like, where are we getting dopamine? Where are we getting dopamine? Mine has been, like, the mall. And it's just, like, not even fucking fair anymore, you know what I mean? Yeah. I just, I'm currently in an era where now every time I want something, I'm doing, like, an actual chart. Like, it's a chart thing. And if you get plus this much, then you can get it. And if you don't, you don't. So, numerically, I understand that that is absolutely insane. There's no way I'm paying $6,000 for a charcuterie board. Or $100,000 for my wedding. However, if I was, like, Jeff Bezos type shit. Yeah. I just feel like. Everything gorge. Everything beautiful. Also, too, when it comes to the charcuterie of it all. Like. Are people, like, really, like, for the grazing table. Like, are people tearing up charcuterie like that? To be honest. Yeah. Like, I almost feel like that's the only thing people are tearing up. Oh, really? Because the charcuterie is when you get there. Which we know something about that. Yeah. When we get there and, like, immediately, like, we're at a food hat. Like, no shade. I feel like the charcuterie. Because, like, my sister. Shout out my sister. My sister got married, as we know. This is old news at this point, kind of. But charcuterie board when you come in. Charcuterie board with, like, a table. Like, lumpia and stuff. Because she's Filipina. It was immediately. Like, immediately. But then, also, I hear so much discourse. I haven't been to that many weddings. I've only been to her wedding, really. But, like, with a conscious brain, at least. Because the only ones I've been to are as children. As when I was multiple children. Thanks, Saf. I do it for the people in the back row. But I'm just, like, the people don't really eat dough. Like, if you're going to spend your money, do you spend it on the light bites? Or do you spend it on the meal? Because from what I hear, like, around wedding discourse. Like, some people don't really, like, eat at the wedding. Well, okay. So, here's the tea. I mean, like, every wedding's, like. I'm, like, we can't help ourselves. Every wedding's, like, so different. Because, like. Right. Like, for example, I've had friends who are, like. Well, actually, both weddings, like, that I was, like, a fan of. Right. Kind of ran their shit. Like, four weddings. Similarly. You need to watch four weddings. We should watch that sometime. Okay. That should be our next, like, rock. Because I think you would key. Okay. Okay. D. Because this is the tea. Like, I've seen people do the. I'm sorry. Like, when our legs go up on the chair. That's how you know. We just, like. That's how you know we play. Right. But I've seen people do the. Why can't I think of? Catering. Yes. Catering around. Which. Right. Which. That's why I'm saying we know something about that. I know about catering. We'll get to that. But I'm just, like, you know. I think that whatever the money I could only imagine would probably. Cost the same for, like. Yeah. People coming around. Bringing food. Facts. Or honestly, for me. I don't know what Sierra ended up choosing. I guess we'll only find out. But. You could, like. Put, like. Other food out there. You know what I mean? Yeah. Like, I'm just, like. It doesn't have to be charcuterie. Like, I'm honestly leaving y'all out. Like, Taco Bell. Like, bar. Y'all can't be trusted with that, though. Yeah. And y'all being me. But. But that's what I mean. Like, I feel like I would rather spend the. I mean. You guys. You're probably flamey in the comments. Because I, like. Don't know how much it costs. So, like. Right. I don't know. It's probably more expensive. Right. We're not getting married yet. To have, like. Catering come around and bring you, like. The kind of food. That you want. The hors d'oeuvres of it all. But I'm just, like. Fuck. Six thousand dollars. Six racks is, like. Out of this world. And also. What I was going to say about. Just, like. The overall spending of the wedding, too. Is it's, like. Unfortunately. Maybe because I'm an air signer. Because I have ADHD. Like. I do. I fear my wedding will cost me money. That, like. Yeah. I'm. It's probably going to buckle me to my knees. Because I do need certain things. That add a little ooh. Ah. Sensation. With that being said, though. Like. If I was going to pay six thousand dollars. It's not going to the food. Do you know what I mean? Or, like. Maybe not the food. Because the food as a whole. Yes. But, like. I mean, like. The kind of, like. Charcuterie. Like. Chips and dip. Like. That's not where the six racks is going. The six racks is going to, like. The ice sculpture. Like. The hyper-realistic ice sculpture. Numbers. And, like. The dress. And, I don't know. Yeah. And, the dress. Oh. See. That's what. And, the dress. I'm spending the least amount of money on. Really? The dress? The dress is, like. Max. I'll do, like. Twenty five hundred dollars. No. And, that's real. Because, honestly. It's giving that vibe of, like. When you would watch. When you would watch, like. Say yes to the dress. And, the girls would come in and be, like. I only have ten thousand. And, I was, like. Damn, brokey. Like, bitch. You broke. Baby. Now, that I'm literally, like. Now, I have a brain. I'm, like. Ten thousand dollars. And, it's just, like. And, because. Okay. This is my thought process. Is, like. At this point. And, then, like. Who knows when I'm getting married. But, like. Yeah. At this point. I feel, like. I would just want. First off. Not everyone to, like. Bust their fucking wallets open. For a wedding. Like. I feel, like. Genuinely. Max. I would feel cool with spending. On a wedding. Would be, like. Twenty thousand dollars. And, it's gonna be. My wedding's gonna be low key as shit. My wedding's gonna be low. You are not. That's. That's the most. Not you shit I've ever heard. No. Guys. Guys. I've thought about this. But, like. Honestly. Period. Right. I thought about this. I support y'all. Exactly. And, I'll believe it when I see it. I've thought about this very deeply. And, one thing. I will not spend money on. Uh-huh. Genuine. High. Genuinely. Uh-huh. Dead the fuck ass. Is a wedding. Like. Okay. Because, I'm like. Okay. Here's the thing. This is what I've thought about. Okay. I would probably do it. At this spot. I got a little spot. I've thought of. You already got a spot? Then, I was just like. It's cool. But, like. Where's the spot? Is it in California? It's in California. Okay. But, it's not like in LA. Yeah. Of course. Okay. Yes. But, the thing is. Only like. It could fit max. I think. Like. Seventy people. You're playing so nasty right now. That like. And, I'm. I. I. And, all I can do is perceive you. Yeah. But, like. Seventy people. Seventy people. Do you know who the seventy are? Yeah. Oh, wow. Because. A lot of people are going to be surprised. Yeah. Split. Split in half, really. No. Thirty-five each. Yeah. Right. Because, thirty-five each. But, it's giving. You're going to pick thirty-five people. Yeah. It's giving like. Dominique. Dude. It's giving. Are you kidding me right now? Dude. It's giving. If you are like. If you genuinely have seen my like. Cooter cat. Like. Literally. On some friendship shit. No. I believe you. But, there are going to be bitches that are like. Absolutely gobsmacked. Who are going to be gobsmacked. But, here's the tea. Here's the tea. Here's the tea. Right. I feel like a wedding is about me. No shade. Yeah. And, like. My partner. And, like. Our love and stuff. Right. And, I. And, I think that you end up spending so much money on a wedding. That it's for everyone else. And, it's just like. You don't even remember the night. And, you spent so much money. Yeah. And, I'm just like. Yes. I want. You know. This. I think you could have a really beautiful. Fun. Incredible wedding. That's also like. Incredibly small and intimate. Yes. Because, it's like. Genuinely. I want my closest friends there. I want people who get along. Like. I don't want the drama. Like. Anyone who's sending me. Do you think it's okay to wear this to your wedding? Like. You know. Like. People who like. Make weddings about themselves. Right. Like. Literally sending the bride a picture of. Do you think. This dress is okay to wear to the wedding? Oh. Like. That kind of vibe. Where I'm just like. People get really self-involved sometimes. When it comes to another person's wedding. Yeah. Interesting. And like. I just feel like. There's a lot of dynamics. to juggle i can only imagine and like all the things and all the sorts and i'm like for me in my house genuinely all i want to do is like have a key show up of course and like do my thing and then also like spend the weekend at that place yeah with like my closest friends who want to stay yeah and i'd rather ball out on like a honeymoon where i could literally take my fucking friends and like have more of like a buddy moon experience yeah and like spend a hundred thousand dollars towards like that and like yeah you know what i mean i just feel as though like a one-day event is not worth to me yeah is worth a one-day event that i'd be willing to cough up the cheddar for is like 25 000 um period period i'm excited period i'm excited it's gonna be like very you know a like it's gonna be like a one-day event and i'm like yeah i'm excited period period i'm excited very humble tease no i'm just like the concept of you trying to pick 35 people well that's like the fun i'd probably get 50 you would get 50 yeah and then they would get 20 yeah they cool no i'm kidding i don't know about that yeah because mind you then it's also like 35 but then you have family yeah more which is probably like 20 yeah i was gonna say more than 35 but if you picked your baddest like maybe what like 20 well no kids allowed so all my cousins are like no i'm like um right no uh no have you no kids allowed no kids allowed no plus ones unless you're married or i've met your partner right and like you know and the way you didn't see there it is again well we can talk about this i think your guest list is gonna probably be at least 100 people on your side and that's just off people like that's not even derogatory that's just like you connect with so many people and i think that if you really sat down and wrote a list of everybody and their partner because your friends are like you're also booed up we're looking at elise huh and that's before family mama no i think genuinely i would have like i i could pull i could pull 50 okay like can i pull 50 for a chat no i like genuinely from my side 40 yeah i mean i understand the sentiment it's gonna have people shook i completely understand it's gonna have some people it's gonna have you like really personal but i'm gonna make this personal because the wedding that's all you can say is literally friends and fam type shit and i'm just like y'all if y'all really support our love then you're not gonna make this about you type all right we'll see it when we see it can we can i say that we'll see it when we see it because yeah what i'm thinking about it now i'm like you know there's some people not making the cut no i mean for sure but i think if you wrote down physically with the pen and paper a list of people that you key with you would be surprised yeah at how many that is yeah and then they're like husbands and wives and like yeah no like husbands and wives and stuff but also i feel like everyone i would invite would know everyone that's also going like yeah yeah you know like it wouldn't be like i don't know loki i just am not interested on like a day where i'm like racking shit up that i'm like not trying to like i feel like it's the one day where it's like really an expression of your love and so it's like i don't want to be stressed about like entertaining and dynamics yeah and like also it's just like i'm gonna have fun i'm gonna like do my thing like you know i i think i could do it i'm like family mom sister and my aunts and uncles right and my cousin and how many is that i have two aunts two uncles six yes and then four five cousins hello and then on my dad's side two uncles 13 an aunt and a cousin 15 okay so 15 then when we go into the friends do they get to bring their partners or no yeah okay 30 30 okay okay fine maybe give or take maybe give or take but only only like you know you know right right okay 20 20 20 20 20 20 20 20 right then we get into my friends right exactly then that's where we're gonna take the heavy hit that's where we're gonna take the heavy hit but it's just like boom boom boom boom boom boom boom boom 10 boom okay you get what i mean yeah like it's gonna be like it's gonna be like whoa but it's gonna be the people that i like see every weekend the people that i like right and which is like you know a few of them my tail yeah and that's about it yeah and so i feel like i could really squeeze it down to i think you could squeeze it down to like 150 and that's a squeeze and that's a squeeze to 50 squeeze yeah no that's real um that's real yeah i mean because literally my friend she had a wedding who's like genuinely we are like pretty close you know i would say and it was mad intimate yeah like essentially none of her friends were there besides her sister yeah and then like like family yeah essentially and um i was like period sister yeah that's crazy because it's just like sometimes you need to like run that you know a hundred percent but also her location of where she had her wedding is like similar to mine and that area you just can't have mad people yeah pull up like totally like it's very it's like kind of secluded and like hard yeah you know what i mean yeah and intimate is cute and intimate's cute like i don't think i could handle but like yeah that's very yeah and no phones yeah that's a good idea because i'm going to be like all anything that about the wedding's gonna like come for me and i'll send everyone the photos but i'm just like no phones we vibing and like you know and it'll be handled yeah yeah yeah it's just like whatever no the small one too like honestly obsessed with that it's either that or it is going to be a hundred thousand dollars but only because it's like you know i flew everyone out to like one villa in spain right and like after that followed by right a bus down bundaloo yeah that's t i feel like if i had like a destination wedding i just like don't know where i would go period you know like i feel like i would want to go somewhere that i actually understand yeah and like know or like have some sort of like connection in a way because i'd be so nervous if i just like showed up somewhere yeah and it was just like wait what yeah to like shout out france how about that i love paris bro i keep thinking about it every day a shot to a shot to like a shot to a shot toe no i wouldn't get married in france it's just like you know just thinking about it yeah there's a lot of logistics and stuff there's a lot of logistics i don't think i could stress myself out that bad to be honest that's how i feel too i just this is what i mean like i'd probably do something like california a little like higher up and just heavy on a little just like some loke shit no that'll be sweet and fun yeah we'll see i don't know that's like how i feel now who knows right well who knows who knows when the day comes i know who knows i want a ferris wheel but i don't know who knows that's a key like i'm trying to do some like i'm thinking about it and i think this is also something i could work on in my life but i'm thinking about it like everyone else unfortunately so i'm probably going to be stressed out but i'm just thinking about it in the sense that i'm like even with the way how hard it is to plan things now yeah and just like the prophecy of being in your late 20s actually coming true where like genuinely i'd be having to plan things with people like three weeks out now i'm like oh so by the time a wedding comes along and like some of y'all are married maybe some people have kids i don't know we might get surprised in the fourth quarter but like it's just like like the the opportunity to get everyone to come together for a weekend like you have to you have to call off work because it's like your friend's wedding you know what i mean like i'm taking full advantage like we about to have that shit at six flags magic mountain like i'm like guys because remember when we were kids like it's starting to feel like remember when we were honestly i feel like what you should do is become like big about well i feel like you are like big about your birthday and yeah i do do a little one to do like something fun yeah but i feel like there's some friends where i'm like with their birthday it's like oh it's like all good you know what i mean like whatever like we'll get like a nice dinner and like yeah own thing separate but there's some friends where i'm like oh like that's their birthday well it's a you to birthday and honestly i feel like like this birthday was the first time i actually did something for my birthday but again and i think that's what you know the the the downfall but also just it has multiple layers to it but i like never do anything too crazy for my birthday because then again i'm like yeah i don't want to make everyone do so much like because you know it's like yeah it's my birthday one time a year but then it's like the 15th birthday of the year for everyone else you know because we're about to enter birthday season again um or at least for me they season right now there's like six birthdays like in the next like month and i'm like yeah it's always like this time and it's always bitch march march april when all y'all parents were let's see i'm like february january december can i count backwards november october mm-hmm september august question mark yeah july okay so all y'all parents are doing too much in the summer it's like everybody was born in march april it's like annoying yeah well and also i feel like i feel like this time and also august yeah hella virgos oh august end of august i don't have a lot of virgos in my life i don't think okay i do like my best friend our best friend from high school and my sister's birthday is like in august right the virgos it was just like hella virgos and you know top of august leos but my right i think i only have like two leos yeah or maybe one leo now i what like i murdered them or something sorry but just like one leo that like i would get a birthday invite too yeah no i have maybe i have like two leos maybe actually three leos that i'm like clocked in leo girls what's right now cancers cancers right and that would make sense there's a lot of cancers in the chat wake that the fuck up shout out my cancers what about this cancer and like shout out are you excited to get older right and it is it does give that it does give that we want to take a break to thank a sponsor of today's episode sea geek guys summer is here and i think it would be so fun to go to a dodgers game with my friends in this warm weather come on with over 35 million downloads sea geek is the number one rated ticketing app there are more than 70 000 events listed on sea geek including concerts sports festivals and more there's so many artists going on tour right now like ariana grande olivia dean ed sheeran and more so go grab your tickets right now i love using sea geek because i recently went 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online courses exclusive tutorials and premium workshops head to squarespace.com slash upstairs for a free trial and when you're ready to launch use offer code upstairs to save 10 off your first purchase of a website or domain um but yeah so it's just like i don't know no like hella b days and stuff it's just like hella b days i know my brain is like so smooth i just have to say that out loud yeah that's okay and love island tonight i'm like guys i'm can i just say can i just say something really quickly to the collective to the actually to the to the general pop it's just like listen it's all fun and games it's all fun and games this island that they put of love you know what i mean but i'm just like genuinely i'm gaining sentience of like the difference between watching love island and then like commenting on it and publishing something for me is like very different the energy yeah because i just i just i fear like yesterday like we we filmed our bus down which like oh we're like two weeks out at this point or something but we filmed our bus down i genuinely gained sentience because i was like honestly guys i don't know if i feel like it's one thing to be a hater with your friends like it's one thing to like watch something in the privacy of your home and be like ew like hate that whatever and then it just like dissipates into the night and like the box of like hater things that you say with your friends and like it just like dissipates and it's like whatever it's another thing though to like i'm just grappling with the with the casting of judgment energy yeah in a weird in a in a and i'm doing too much way because it's like actually not even that serious but like genuinely gaining sentience yesterday being like what am i what yeah who am i well i feel like it's this fine line of like like I feel like with discourse culture i feel like we're we're like losing it like we're dragging it as fucking like honestly we're fucking dragging the fuck out of it and honestly we're dragging the plot too because it's like i feel like before people could just say shit and i'm not talking about like out of pocket shit or some shit that's like offensive or fucked up but i just mean people would be able to like give an opinion and you not agree with that opinion while also just being like yeah cool like it's all good like you feel that way i personally don't see it that way but like i don't think that you're a horrible person for like not agreeing with me or like even when we like talk about love island and like you see it one way i see it another way but like that doesn't make us like any less a friend you know what i mean yeah and i feel like though the problem is with discourse culture is people will talk about something and almost talk about it as though it's not an opinion but like fact yeah and real and because of that though there's this like moral compassing behind it and also like it's not a moral failure or you're not morally corrupt for having a different opinion as your friend like that's actually like very fucking normal because based off of my trauma and like what triggers me versus like your trauma and what triggers you is like we're gonna have two different reactions to things totally versus like what experiences we've had like yeah you know like everyone just like i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't know it just comes from like different understandings and knowledge and it's like if you're like out there like giving your opinion to something it's just like i feel like that's where they like it gets taken to a degree where i'm like it's too much bro like sometimes people be like calm like okay if i give my opinion and you guys are like what the fuck like girl i don't see it like that or like you're doing too much or like you're saying too much it's like period yeah but that doesn't mean i'm like a bad person to be like period it used to be like period it used to be like period or like you know for example i'm using movie reviewers as like a good baseline because it's pretty yeah it's like neutral it's pretty neutral about yeah but like there's this creator love him to fucking death like love him to fucking death he is like everything to me and he reviews movies and like sometimes his movie reviews for me like i'll watch like watch his video being like i watch this movie this is what i thought and then i'll watch the movie and be like oh wow i thought that was like absolutely phenomenal but like he is a professional movie reviewer i'm just like the average joe like watching a movie kind of vibe but you're both people watching but we're both people watching movies and every time he posts a video watching him like his reviews of it not that i always agree every time but i'm just like love yeah love like love your videos love what you have to say and it's like good con like it's good content but it's more so like good perspective because it's like i would never think or notice that but like that's cool that you did you know what i mean and i feel with like the whole discourse culture of it all it's like someone will have an experience or like notice something about someone doing something and then talk about it as though like well because i don't agree they need to change and it's like no i just can say i don't fuck with that i don't like that and i wouldn't do that all while as long as they're not doing some like crazy violent harmful shit they can say the fucking same yeah if you are in a botched ass relationship and like i see it on reality tv and i'm like your relationship's botched as shit or more so i wouldn't personally be in a relationship or put up with shit like that i have my opinion to say that and in your same right you have the opinion to say i love my botched ass chopped ass relationship and i'm gonna stay in it yeah boom boom yeah no and like boom and then i don't know because i feel as though we then run into the problem which is that we feel as though we can't share our true like thoughts and feelings or just like that's why we all sound the same right now yeah exactly and even just the idea of um you know just that like tiktok comment going around that's like we can't talk here email me right it's just you know and that's why i feel like i'm not the only one that's like i'm not the only one that's you know what i was like telling maya and i mean we've expressed this sentiment multiple times where it's just like genuinely the person that's gonna flame and fry me to shit for not agreeing that like if your team melanie or your team soul or your team whoever on the island or just in general in life whatever opinions that you hold and i'm talking about opinions not like moral standings and views well we've we've sort of started we've started like mixing the pot yeah you know because i'm just like there's a difference between like human rights and like people's rights versus like someone's in like doing toxic chop shit that like yeah i just don't like you know what i mean yeah and it's just like just because the compassion levels that you have for someone like someone else doesn't meet you with the same compassion doesn't mean they're void of empathy and like a bad person but also it's like if you genuinely think because i say melanie and sincere move weird as fuck and i'm not gonna lie to you i'm not gonna lie to you i'm not gonna lie to you i'm not gonna in the villa and you want to genuinely pop my butt and be like you don't see it though she's having an emotional she's just very emotional everyone's not letting her hey hey hey whoa what happened to hi how are you or more importantly you can feel that way i don't feel that way but that doesn't mean that like you and i don't fuck with each other and that doesn't mean that like i'm a bad person and you're a bad person because you have more capacity for someone who's like emotionally regurgitating all over the people in the villa i personally don't have that much capacity for someone who's like fucking spill your guts or fill your guts at times i also don't know melanie and i'm sure that she has shit going on in the back of her life that like makes her feel and think like one way and same with sincere and same with everyone else going in that villa all we see is what we get and you know what they chop and screw shit up on reality tv to like paint a narrative or like showcase something to like make it seem whatever for the for the plot quite literally and so it's just like y'all we really need to find a way to just let the pendulum swing a little bit back to the middle because i'm like this like weird policing of your friends and their choices is like you can tell someone something and them not listen to it and you still be like hey girl love you boots though and leave it at that and leave it at just like whoa that's like actually insane and gnarly but like also love you boots yeah no definitely i agree i think there's definitely like this weird undercurrent of morality that plays into like opinions now which is just like it is really stifling and suffocating and i'm like yeah i feel like definitely feeling that i think also as somebody who doesn't like naturally watch or i don't feel like the same maybe like passion of reality tv to even like sit and maybe like defend half the things that like and see even that like the word defend because that's very like the vibe these days you kind of have to say something and be ready to like defend it as it as if it's like a mirror of your character as if it like you know like has all of these like oh this opinion means that you're like and it's kind of just like wait like not really not really though and also yeah i guess yeah i was just feeling that where i'm like love island is very fun and chill to like watch with your friends when you can like i guess like have that feeling of like yeah we can like disagree or like we can be like girl fucking and then it's just kind of like anyway so anyway but like there is something to i don't know just maybe yeah even the bigger conversation of just like being seen on the internet right now and kind of having to feel like you need to have this really fierce like understanding or like yeah almost like well-rounded worldview that like what you're giving out is communicated perfectly which which it never it never is and it's just like it's impossible to like and i think that's the thing that i was like genuinely like gaining saint saint dance saint interesting um but gaining like sentience like while we were filming yesterday i was just like whoa like number one i don't even necessarily know if i want to be like at least publicly because girl privately like you know we want we want many a thing and i you know we cut up yeah whatever but like we know that it gets washed away in the etch-a-sketch of like the deep understanding of each other and knowing that like if i literally said that i would like rip somebody to pay off like at the end of the day i would like rip somebody to pay off like at the end of the day like i'm just like i'll dap him up it's not even tea but i guess in like a public a public facing way i'm kind of just like damn like i just i guess i don't know and we're still gonna do it and it's like actually not even this big of a deal it's like thoughts pass and like whatever but i'm just having a hard time resonating with like judging people in a way that i wouldn't want people to judge me if that makes sense of just like seeing these people online technically and just having such fierce and like harsh opinions that i'm like that that being like published specifically because i think there is something to like the privacy of like whatever because i have trusted myself and in my friends that like it's not even that fucking deep like if you literally were like i love melanie i'd be like girl you play and we would like move on and like offer each other m&ms but i think just like in the public forum of that very like the gent like i've just been feeling i guess as we are more forward-facing these i just like feel the police state so much fiercer now where it's like oh like now i'm almost thinking about things and this is why i like i mean my friends like girl y'all already know it's like cooked and like i've talked about a million times but like to y'all type shit i'm like i think that's why i have to cut the i have as much as i love kiki and like like there is kind of a passive consumption of discourse culture especially like using love island as a example of that i'm like that's why i'm like i have to cut the tiktok i have to cut the shit because i will literally watch the violent episode this is just being an example of like a greater metaphor here but like i'll watch the violent and fully be like oh this this this this this this and then i'll get on tiktok and they'll literally be like if you thought this this this you fucking misogynistic racist piece of shit i'm like wait what dude dude literally and it's like too much this but like no this on like a smaller scale in the sense that like i was literally on the phone with my girlfriend and she was like telling me about this tiktok that she saw about like sincere getting the ick from soul and i was just like what are you talking about and she was like telling me about that like in this moment like sincere got the ick from soul and i was like that right there and that's not like me reading my girlfriend like she's just like literally relaying her fyp to mine but like that's what i mean like even when i watch like love island by myself versus like entering the discourse of like what everyone else has to say which we are also actively participating in but it's just like here's the t i'm like yes there are themes and like words being used and like there's a lot of things that are being said that are being said there's a deeper meaning and the anthropology of like reality tv and like the studying of humans and whatnot but at the same time it's like we do have to like step back and like touch grass and like smell some roses to also have the understanding that you like based off of like one person saying one thing and that's the moment that this person because they saw that they made this decision and it's like not necessarily all the time though and yeah more importantly everything we say about anything is an assumption it's quite literally an assumption unless we hear from the mouth of the person that made that decision that this is what i was actually thinking at the time and whether or not that is met with honesty the honesty of the communication being given to us we will never know but all i can say is like hey based off of what's being shown to me these are assumptions i'm making and projecting onto these people and having on it's like thank you having on the projection of what i'm putting on these people because it's like i'm projecting that like you know i feel like i like really like gave zach a one-two like popped his butt so bad but also if you've been in a situationship with an avoidant attachment for like a year plus and you know that experience and you participated in that experience that can make you feel a way about when someone's acting avoidantly towards someone but like also i've had the experience of feeling avoidant towards a situation and it's like you know i don't know it's just there's many perspectives we've lost a lot of nuance i fear yeah because i think your point is very fucking valid where it's like i think that's like really hammering it of like whenever we decided that opinions are actually like markers of people's i don't know character moral standing like and just also like facts which and heavy on facts it's not though like at times that's kind of beautiful guys because that's what i mean it's like we just need to like understand that at the end of the day this discourse that we're partaking in is truly nothing more than entertainment like it really is just fun like the other day i watched an episode with a love island episode at avery's house and it was like a group of girls that like some of them really close with but like two not the closest with but like love them boots as fuck and like low-key that night bonded us for real because like um one of the girls who like it was my first time like actually getting to key with her and literally she felt completely different about a situation that like i felt yeah and when we were like talking to each other i was like damn okay i didn't think about that and she's like honestly that's true like i never thought about that and it's like neither of us were trying to convince each other that the other was right like we were truly happy on that yes because i'm like i feel like that's where we really fucking lose the plot for real yeah it's like we need to stop trying to convince everyone that like this is right and this is wrong and yes there are times where it's like fucking 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Or shop now at Poshmark.com slash upstairspod and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K dot com slash upstairspod. Yeah. Like, yeah. Yeah, we've definitely, like, and it's one of them tangs, and it's just a marker of our time, you know what I mean? Where it's like the black and white, like the prisons that we put ourselves in are, like, so fucking fierce, and I just. Yeah, I was just, like, definitely having an epiphany last night where I'm like, you know, even for the kiki of it all, like, being a part of maybe, like, the discourse culture that I just feel a real aversion to right now. Like, will we do it like the sacredness of, like, us? Like, obviously, that's a whole different thing, but just, like, in kind of a zoomed out sense, I'm like, I've been done telling y'all since the beginning of the year, like, I'm so over discourse culture simply because, too, it's like, you know, I think it is culturally kind of, like, where we're at. Yeah. Is it a kiki? Yes. Like, it'd be a kiki for sure, but I also think that on the back end, from, like, a subconscious perspective, it is one of those things where it's, like, we are very much in an era where everyone's trying to, like, convince each other that they're right and, like, you know, get everyone in these, like, gotcha moments, like, bitch, I fucking knew, like, ooh, I knew you, ooh, da-da-da, like, you like him, so I fucking knew you were, like, like, it's, like, okay. Yay. The discourse not being so, like, lighthearted anymore, all of it being very much rooted in these, like, nobility politics or just, like, this, oh, I'm right and this is noble, so, like, your opinion. Your opinion is wrong and, like, you actually, like, you're a bad person. It's, like, okay. Yeah. That's where I'm, like, the subconscious brain, for me at least, I'm, like, I gotta get out that shit because sometimes it'd be, like, what do I think? Yay. Like, genuinely, like, what do I think if I wasn't worried that, like, my opinion was wrong and, like, that in and of itself is just kind of, like, so void of, like, the human experience and, girl, not even too much, like, we'll zone in on something, like, geeky, but I'm just, like, and that in and of itself is what has me scared for these goddamn kids, mind you. I mean, that's what I. Dude. The girls don't want to geeky, or not even not geeky, but the girls don't want to, like, you can't fuck up anymore. Like, you've been, like. Dude, literally, I don't. Did I tell this story on the podcast about my friends? Like, I went to my friend's cousin's soccer game. No. Dude. Wait, did you? I don't think so. I don't think so. If I did, if I did, sorry. We'll tell it if I, like, I'll remember if it's familiar. Okay, I went to my friend's cousin's soccer game and, like, she's, like, gen alpha for real. Yeah. So, we went to the soccer game. Her team lost, but, like, they did really good because they played outdoor soccer. It was indoor soccer, whatever. And after the match, there's this. First off, she's going into middle school. It's, like, the summer. They just graduated sixth grade, going into middle school, which I'm, like, arguably middle schoolers are the fucking worst because for the first time in your life, you're gaining consciousness of, like, this hierarchy that exists. Whereas, like, in elementary school, it doesn't exist because you usually just have, like, the same grade, but, like, you're in your. classroom versus like in middle school you have like class periods and like there's popular people a lot of people are going through puberty and like you start liking people and like i just remember for me personally going into middle school and experiencing like for the first time thinking there's cool people there's popular people and there's like not popular people like or just thinking like these people get treated differently because they're considered like this this and this and like these people get like treated like good because of this this and this like i just remember in middle school thinking that for the first time in my whole entire life with that being said she was at her soccer game they lost but like it was a great game immediately in her group chat with this one girl arguably who i think is just like needs to be put in her place which that's a whole another story but literally was like damn y'all are trash like da da da they just finished the game instantly flamed them because another girl on the team was like lol they lost like and that's what i mean it's like in back in our day there wasn't that like instant communication of like you're bad you're bad or like someone like uploading a video or like videoing you guys like losing a soccer game and then putting it in the group chat and then people like flaming you for like yeah not being good you know what i mean yeah and that's what i mean about the police state of like these kids literally are so used to being like oh like this whatever and i just remember telling her i was like don't let that shit slide yeah like don't let that slide and don't let her talk to you like that because i mean like it's really just giving like middle school mean girl energy yeah well it's like the kids are like you're like experiencing puberty and emotion but you also like don't have a brain or any frontal cortex yeah literally in the chat like girl you suck like oh hell yeah and she was just like she was like damn y'all she was like y'all are trash like y'all are trash like whatever instantly after losing a game versus like i don't know like back in the day it's like unless i told you it'd be like ggs unless and have you on unless i told you then like you wouldn't know that like i lost my soccer game type beat and i i don't know i guess that's like the other thing too about like the discourse culture right like i feel as though like something like that happens right like someone says some mean shit or does some mean shit like for example i'll never forget this i saw this tiktok video it was like ages ago but this girl was at a football game or a soccer game or something and she was like making tiktoks and like i don't know like taking pictures of herself whatever and the girls behind her were making fun of her and being like you're dumb as fuck like like i don't know not even saying anything actually they were just like laughing at her and like making comments to each other and you could like see it in the back of her video and she made a tiktok being like guys like i'm just so disappointed by like the meanness in the world like i was making tiktoks and like just doing my own thing and she was like these girls were just making fun of me the whole time like da da da da and all these people were like in the comments like wow that's so messed up like da da da da like just i don't know like going for those two girls and then this other creator stitched the video and was like what do y'all want us to do when you make what do you want us like when you make videos like this like what do y'all want us to do do you want them to lose their jobs like do you want us to go in there like harley quinn with a baseball bat like you're not gonna do that and she's like whatever happened to checking and i'm like can we lock in with that like with the irl yes like the irl like digital yes because i'm like people will literally be like this person was mean to me and then like bring it to the internet instead of in that moment but like literally if you but knock knocking bitch and bucking at a bitch who's literally like if i was making tiktoks and literally taking photos of myself like in point five whatever and two girls behind me i just hear mumbling and fucking cackling and be like hi hi love are you good bitch are you good you dumb ass okay you good you good yeah you you fucking good okay you good right problem solved cleared no worries all good no worries and as somebody who like wouldn't do that you also wouldn't catch me on tiktok like go get them it's like for what it's just like they're like being a bunch of like fucking dickheads dickheads going dickhead girl and that's what i mean i'm just like also i personally am not gonna like bother myself with the problem of birds bro yeah like that's very bird behavior that's very like you're weird as fuck but also it's just like i'm not so like i personally like don't give a fuck and also if i do feel like oh like low-key like you're giving me action like i'll show you action well we can do action in the old testament and i'm not mean like we just live action well even well i'm sorry that's my friend because i was really proud of you like even if you did i'm just like it is the very like damn we online as shit like yeah we really be like no like get them it's like it's like what for what though but yes and like sometimes it is giving like get them because like people oh if you really did some like yes if you're really doing some shit like oh when the girls be like oh this person fucking like hit my friend at the club oh we're finna oh oh yeah well also even just in the sense of like yes like the public knowledge of like arguably that's what social media was for like let's get the message around this bitch yeah yeah i had this experience where like you know they literally were like you can't come in here because you're this this this and this yeah let me fucking know i'm not going to that establishment anymore because that's like bulletin board shit like yeah let's like talk about it you know like let's know about it which sorry this just made me think of this thing that like low-key had me like weak as shit which talk about discourse culture of it all i'm like me seeing this video but this girl went to this brand event this is like a hard not a hard pivot but just like a story time it's chopped anyway um but this girl went to this brand dinner and i guess it was like this like skincare brand that's like not from the states but anyways it was an intimate dinner and the girl went and they were like okay guys set up your phones like we have a big surprise for you guys and they like closed their eyes and every single girl got a louis vuitton like passport case except the girl like she was the only one who didn't get one she just got a letter being like thank you so much for supporting our brand like da da da da da and then like in the video she was like i don't know if it's because i was like a plus one or like what it was but like i didn't get one and i just felt like that was like high key like fucked up and mind you it was like 30 people so it was like relatively small and i guess she was like the only plus one there and i was like that's like a good thing because i was like i don't know if it's because i was like a plus one and i was like that's like a good thing because i was like a good thing because i was like are you fucking serious that's literally like worse to me and then the brand literally just it like actually had me weak as fuck because i was like this is like insane but in their statement they're like guys we had this dinner because we wanted to like thank our creators who like essentially brought that skincare company to like the states and like opened up like the united states market for them okay and they're like so that's why we brought we like got everyone the louis vuitton like passport cases we weren't trying to start drama and we're thankful for all our creators that was like dead ass their statement like they never acknowledged the fact that that one girl like didn't get anything i'm just like okay because okay okay i'm sorry hold on let me find it i guess i'm just like outside of the branding outside the gucci gucci louis louis it's not even about like the product it's about the idea that like if i invited 30 friends to a dinner and one of my friends said hey can i bring my friend and if i knew in my head oh there's not enough food for you why would i let you why would i let you bring her just be like sorry it was for 30 so you can't eat are you guys fucking that's like are you guys fucking kidding me right now like i was like you y'all are like actually insane oh like y'all play and y'all play and and again in the in the discussion of like whatever like maybe okay like i don't know did she rsvp after they like made the order like what is the what's going on but i'm just like at that point put it like okay at that point whisper in her ear before you even do some dumb shit like put your fucking phone up put your phones in the sky or more so i'm like put it in the like goodie bag and like but even the crack the crack though of going home because okay that's what i was gonna say because i have been to some events where like they are like oh if this is your plus one like they don't like get anything well but that's why it's like even though it's still which is like that's like still just so fucked up but i'm like there's not this like public like embarrassed not even embarrassment because it's not embarrassing which is like left out like yeah absolutely left out of like oh so you made everyone close their eyes open their eyes and i have a letter like even if they were just giving me like a letter like i'm like oh my god everyone like a bouquet of flowers it's like so everyone got a bouquet of flowers i got a letter why wouldn't you just tell my diva before she walked in hey okay like this is what our budget allow i don't even know what it sounds like but like why would you be talking about turn your fucking phone don't even let her come that genuinely like genuinely just be like no plus ones which like because if you're gonna treat the girls different let's just cut it let's just not do that because i'm like that it was so fucked up that is crazy of them just being like no we did this because we love everyone and like then because they're passing the lie detector they said well we wanted to let the girls know it's like girl y'all play that was fucked up that is actually so insane isn't that crazy well yeah because it genuinely is that vibe of like if i invite 30 y'all to go bowling and i know that 31 means you don't get a lane baby i'm either about to tell you t and you can decide whether or not it's like worth it to show up or i'm not gonna bring an extra person and be like yeah what dude crazy as hell that's like absolutely insane but okay yeah i'm thinking about no thinking about her i was thinking about i wonder what happened maybe i need to like clock t yeah i mean i guess i just wonder if there's any more like i i would just be really interested to know what resolve there was yeah what resolve or even just like what like how like i don't know what i mean their statement was so weird it was like we we got them these passport covers because we love that they brought us to the u.s market just like but like and it's just cooked anyway it's just like that's just all this shit cooked no shade it's all cooked sorry my leg being also hi hi vibrams hi vibrams and also me like trying to point my foot like out hi vibrams and also like do i order the ones off tiktok shop oh do they have them well and when the vibram like pendant falls off in the first day because i'm guys here's the tea if you can if you're listening i'm wearing these vibrams which vibrams are like these five toe shoes which like yeah like yeah and also just like culturally i'm like i am used to my toes being separated and i fucking love wearing a finger sock and a finger shoe like it's no shade um been absolutely like been looking in some manifestation shit been looking for vibrams for forever and then we got invited to like a vibram little kiki and they were doing one too love um here's the thing though i am iso if anyone knows i'm iso of these specific vibrams they're black and they're like they're like flats in the sense that they're just like the toe like they're like basically if there was a flat but they just had like toes on them and they were like black around the sides but i fear it's a discontinued model so i've been looking down boots i can't really find specifically because i just i really want them in black specifically because like that will match everything in my closet um i can't find those specific bust downs however because they listened to me and they got our cookies type shit like now i found out that they sell them on tiktok shop for like 40 and i just know considering the fact that the depop market is like quoting 250 i'm like okay these might be vibrams you know what i'm saying but it's just like does it does it in the grander like i just can't tell what it's giving okay i this is my opinion on the matter not that like anyone cares but like vibram like what they're known for is just the bottom of they like clock it the bottom of the clock the soul the soul like they like soul yeah like i'm just like the shoes that they make yeah are specifically you know like good support yeah for the bottom of your foot so the only thing i would say if you did get the like tiktok shop ones is just like i don't know if that would be giving like you know you're gonna get like plantar fasciitis no and that's the thing is i can't judge because again in the dystopia of like everything is fake online it's just like obviously every tiktok shop video i have everyone's like they're fucking they're vibrams like i'm like i was like because that was like the thing with the arterix beanie is only like 30 on tiktok shop right but then you get it and like there's no dinosaur bones and it's just like barney i know it's like well there's a dinosaur on it but it's like and that's the thing is like here's the thing about it is it's like a separate conversation from vibram which is a you know a thing in general where it's like okay then it becomes like arterix beanie metaphor if you care about the dinosaur bones then yes like if you if you need it to be arterix and that's one thing no no but if it's giving like woodchuck's like i just want a tabby and like it could be it doesn't have to be margiela that's another thing but again because everybody be lying in my goddamn face on tiktok shop and yes it's like i don't know again i think back to my original sentiment which is the fact that the only concern thank you the only concern i would have is that like are they going to disintegrate under your feet while you're walking exactly because and how do we know because i think any shoe like not even a pair of vans are $30 so it's just like right well and that's the thing is it's just like and again there's a bigger conversation the social economical state of the world then my question becomes and see how there's only one way to find out but my question becomes is this a conversation of let's take this outside of vibrams because not about vibrams because these are like absolutely sickening and i could like run a mountain on these but like in a general sense with tiktok shop as as tiktok shop is this a situation of are we white labeling do you know what i mean do you know what labeling is it's like for example like furniture stores where it's like for like a crate and barrel will like white label like a dresser for example that if it wasn't the tag of crate and barrel it's the same manufacturer in the same situation as if you bought it from like uh what's the other one called wait like wayfair yeah something so then there is like the white labeling of like okay if you can like put a specific label on it then we can charge you more whatever whatever i would i would do research because in like at tiktok like in tiktok shop it tells you like who the manufacturer it is or like where it's coming from because i've never bought from tiktok shop okay well as someone who just bought a chud light shirt off tiktok shop um well and also the dubai chocolate that we bought from tiktok oh i literally buy i'm saying we but like i bought dubai chocolate i bought the fifa world cup lays flavors tea you guys one thing about me off tiktok shop is like low-key i don't buy much but i do occasionally like what gets me is like the different chip flavors like when they did the switch where it was like doritos cool ranches ruffles right and like cheetos right right right right right those cheetos oh my god like literally what was the cheetos flavor it was like bar it was like you know the fritos twist barbecue twist but cheeto flavor dude i literally gobbled those so fucking i didn't even know about that i would have literally had those from and also it was like seven dollars but it was like three bags full size yes bro sweet southern yes barbecue who is on that is that billy who is that madison beer oh dude genuinely if you ever see that flavor please buy it oh that's like my it's literally so fucking good i ate that so crazy i ate that so crazy like whoa like sloth shaped cheeto fuck yeah the flavor swaps i ran the flavor swap bags like really crazy yeah do you buy chocolate i did right off of well exactly well because like in the conversation of like the drop shipping and the white labeling it's like where's everything coming from uh-huh the speed who's that in the middle dude oh dude perfect dude perfect are they the fucking um trickshot trickshot guys yeah thinking about the trickshot guys damn how did everybody get on the bag like just for funsies yeah damn dang tees damn we live in a crazy machine partnership tees right the partnership but the partnership i did buy those it was literally like seven dollars for all three of those bags right um and yeah i bought a chud light shirt shirt i bought a shirt a fione apple shirt on the and i've bought a shirt that says music core on it okay love those are the three things i've bought and i think that's the thing is like i where i where i stand at like i don't often participate in tiktok shop is only because the only things that i want to buy on tiktok shop like i literally be like oh margiela tabby's for 20 it's like no yeah well i need to get tiktok shop appropriate thing because on tiktok shop it comes like those obviously those lace chip came from from lace like it came from the retailer i need to look yeah like it wasn't just like some random girl selling like yeah you know like the pink sauce yeah the pink sauce um the fda unapproved pink sauce you know on ebay for 2500 exactly no thank you love well well i won't but if somebody buys that's honestly awesome that's huge like amazing that's huge and you have to put it in bubble wrap so it's like i don't know um yes the black veebs bro honestly i think you would like because like why do they only show up on sheen i but that's the thing that's the black is not there and it's discontinued mama d-pop well and i've been looking on d-pop but then i have to find my size and my color which i haven't been able to find because obviously i haven't checked ebay okay i would say check ebay baby sold out y'all are paying and then i have another ebay hack for you okay i would like to know about that like i'm honestly i feel i just want the black sickening flats like i would wear those every single day the chart course but yeah yeah if they come up in my size i'm a handle but like you might just you might check too low-key grailed hashtag grailed um but yeah that's the only thing because it's like see like the sheen the sheen ones are like the same price and it's just like again but then see they on ebay the same price three so it's like y'all just playing in my face but that's what i mean because ebay though it's if someone already owned them previously yeah at least you like know that they're like pre-owned we see those but i think they they sell them like straight up like as a scam but there's like you know similar similar people on ebay selling fake things exactly yeah so it's just like hard because the question becomes like and i just oh those are so sickening oh the red anyway but i would just say i'm like again like in terms of just like do some research yeah because i feel like there are some shoes where it's like okay if you get like the but i feel like the only thing with these ones since it's like that's your foot that i yeah like if there's nothing on the bottom and they just give you like oh for sure claw well and obviously like i want the vibram ones i'm just like they're so sickening that it's like if anybody has a link to a size eight vibram in charcoal like let me know um this specific um this specific style because they're so sickening baby they're gone so anyway just like know when i get those they're not coming off my goddamn foot i feel like you'd like the strap ones though yeah the shops are cute but again all not they're not sold anymore mama oh wait yeah like sold out okay i feel like the ones with straps though might be easier to find since they're like a little more of a current style like they might be sold out yeah but like i don't think they're like discontinued per se well that's the thing about the vibrams though is like they kind of run at least from what i can tell they kind of do run it like they drop a collection they keep it pushing yeah because it's like those are those are an older pass i yeah yeah but they are i just really want just the straight up flatsies i like the grass finger ones yeah but those are the ones that we saw remember those ones are sickening too i did like those but i just yeah i'm going for a specific kind like so if anybody knows anything please uh let me know let me know but shout out vibes like these are t as fuck so yeah those are hella t and shout out carly and shout out useful project yeah yeah shout out shout out um but yeah so like yeah so just like yeah guys so like boom like if anyone cares it's just like yeah they're t though well yes i just love i just in the trying to be grounded all the time of it all i like actually would walk around in socks so it's just like annoying that i can't do that or i could just go barefoot like some people do and never mind i just like in la oh absolutely the fuck not same with like low-key new york is like well because cities mama yeah but i'm saying like new york like low-key i don't even know if i could wear flip-flops like walking around bro no that's that's also san francisco corey used to say that growing up like you can't walk around sf in the in the bus towns like you never know i'm just like even in la like you know i'll wear a flop sometimes oh i'd be flopping the house i'd be like flopping cray but i'm like fuck dude like well it's just hard because there's hella heads and it's like bitch my toe gonna touch your toe it's just like hard it's just like hard um but shout out new york and shout out sf shout out sf miss you girl um anyway okay well yeah so okay neighborhood watch i don't know neighborhood watch um oh gosh i have one if you want to think oh yeah my neighborhood watch right now is johnny cakes um because i've been watching because i don't have tiktok and shit i have been watching youtube shorts but mine are trained and they're only cake videos and so then i saw johnny cakes on youtube who like he's giving me like very millennial core like i'm sure he's been doing it forever i don't know i found him like two days ago but i'm just like absolutely obsessed just like ordering cakes and doing some bullshit we i love and i love somebody commented on my youtube the other day which honestly like about to become my bio but they were like i don't know i don't know i don't girl you just be bored as shit and i'm bored too so subscribed i'm like yeah because one of my next videos like genuinely wedding like i order anyway you i'm gonna order a taste kit of wedding cakes because i want to try a bunch of cakes because i keep watching cupcake videos with all these different flavors the only way that i can replicate that is by ordering wedding cake wedding wedding cake um places and i found one that will send it to me no no questions or will let me pick it up without like the the contact how many guests like to follow up they'll just like send me the shit so i'm gonna do that though wait that's and i am gonna try about 25 different cakes and i'm gonna just shut the fuck up i want to do that with you oh well you should like see what's you ever want to guess gluten-free if you ever want to guess on your channel let me know i will be letting you know i just need to figure out when i'll be able to pick them up and i'm gonna get probably all dirty i don't know i have so many ideas for youtube videos that are just like i just be bored of shit which is good sorry i feel like i yeah one day i'll join youtube i will say as a girl who like only feels like editing once every three weeks it's like that's the part that has me like i low-key like i'm down to edit i just like it's the finding time to like i don't know i don't know i overthink it i honestly overthink it and i need to just do it no and i yeah i agree with that because i feel like that's the only reason i keep up is because i do have the heart of like a 2016 youtuber in the sense that like for me i just be like i kind of just want to do a pickle flight today and i'm gonna just record it yeah i'm gonna do a pickle it's just like shit that i'm like guys i would be doing that anyway but there is a like then in my head it's like okay it makes sense that i would go try like pickle float with like it's a pickle with like hot cheetos and nacho cheese because then i just say it's for youtube and then my brain's like yeah exactly and you're good at youtube like in the sense that like you just don't think about it too much but that's what i mean like i feel like i would like be on youtube and be like hey chat no i think you could do i think there's just there's just like a lot of like a heart there and i think it feels a lot more like it feels a lot more like lazy river over there where like for me i feel like short form sometimes feels like very like wave pool like i'm also just like the gates are like busted open and i'm like okay like everybody is like watching in a weird not everybody's watching but there's the potential for like everyone to be just like watching or like youtube's just like vibes yeah and i feel like i'm very much emulating and projecting onto the experience like it's very much the jenna marvels effect like me with my dogs putting them in halloween costumes like Let's think about that 10 minute video bitch. Like I'd be paying YouTube does like they'd be my email like can you please make them 20 minutes i'm like if they're 20 minutes yeah but i'm gonna fuck around do a seven minute fuck you like bitch i don't know no heavy on that yeah maybe i'll maybe i'll do something and yeah you try it out and see if you like it yeah you know as with everything you know you try it you see if you like it or you don't like it but um i just have a bunch of stupid shit planned i just like the time to edit is just like it's just like where are they so if anyone knows about some editors in the chat that will like i don't know i do know i know but it's just like it's just like a lot we could talk about that off camera because if i had an editor i would actually be mr beast um but the adhd be like before i edit this video i do have to clean my room and then i never edit the video i know about that so i know about that a lot actually anyway shout out johnny cakes like love he just be like trying cakes like he does like he'll be like ordering like he does he when you gain consciousness and you're like does anyone care um he does these videos that i'm obsessed with right now though where he'll like order like valentine's cakes and you order one from a one-star bakery a three-star bakery and a five-star bakery just doing shit wait love i love when bitches just do shit oh that sounds really good so yeah looks yummy awesome um my neighborhood watch is ml butch which she's coming they she i'm not sure i'm off they're coming to la right in october artist or like musician musician love which sickening guitar like sickening guitar like sickening like and when you wake that up like right like i don't even like you know like your youtube channel could be dom plays dom plays well because i'm like guitar dom plays guitar and like dom just like playing on her well because my friend plays guitar i do play guitar so i do and bass guitar right um and the violin if it was desperate time if it was if it was desperate times and desperate honestly the violin though like i i i could run that i could run that because that's like light you know what i mean yeah so late in terms of like so late reading the sheet music is like on some basic level shit is like mad easy no period i just don't play so i'm like you know i don't know no like the treble clef but um with that being said uh ml butch is like so fucking t and it's leaving like when all the boys were like what's your like literally commenting in mcgee's like photo like on his photos and shit and being like what's your pedal setup man what's your pedal right and that's real and that's how i feel about ml butch i'm like i know whatever pedal system you have like rocking is like so d because that is like has me like yeah it's like it feels good inside the brain love love well we love you guys period like we'll see you like later bye y'all you on any journey using uber it helps to know you're getting into the right car pin verification adds an extra step to make sure your ride is your ride before the trip begins your app gives you a unique pin just tell it to your driver and they'll enter it in their app before the ride can start hey what's your pin two five three eight that way you know you're in the right car taking the right trip and you're getting into the right car and you're getting into the right car and your driver knows you're the right passenger make sure your ride is your ride with pin verification from uber one more way uber is putting safety at every turn learn more on the uber app should she say that about the kisses is that weird she doesn't care she presses send this is the love story of real hinge couple daniel and roshin written and read by me rufy thorpe listen to the free audiobook now endless summer escapes start here travel the worlds of netflix irl inspired by fan favorites like stranger things and squid game brave the upside down face off with the front man play leveled up arcade games shop exclusive merch and enjoy themed food and drinks beat the heat play eat and shop on repeat at netflix house at galleria dallas bring your crew and save get your tickets today at netflix.com house