Deconstructing Your Relationship With Alcohol, Finding Your Why & How To Quit Drinking

Welcome back SDC. It's been a little while since I have put out some content and I really want to get more consistent with my podcast this year Life is crazy man. Life is crazy. I've gone through quite the evolution of Barty Arez the guy that you met five years ago when I first got sober to who I am now and what my life is now and what it looks like on a daily and Weekly basis and I want to give you guys more insight to that happy new year to everybody who has been listening to my podcast Who has been a follower who has been getting support and value from my content And I'm hoping that this year has been a good start. I hope it's been beautiful I hope that you've been operating at least in the best that you could in terms of Alignment or integrity with some of the things that you set out for yourself Nobody's perfect. We're all learning. We're all just trying to improve and get better and and ultimately Reconnect to and live in harmony with our own personal truth so that we can Be the best version of ourselves so that we can support others in the best way and that we can show up and In love of life that feels meaningful and on purpose and that's the topic of today's conversation I want to talk about purpose. I want to talk about meaning and I want to talk about your anchor point You know your anchor point is something that is so important in sobriety when we look at people who Drink alcohol on a collective mass scale one of the things that we see Is that a lot of people lack purpose they lack structure They um don't really know who they are they don't really know where they're going and they don't really know why they're waking up and doing the things that they're doing They're like all right go to school go get a good job Raise a family and then do the thing day in and day out day in and day out and it becomes drudgery Right especially when we grow up in environments that are chaotic or unpredictable or around parents who didn't provide safety love It was unpredictable Things were hot things were cold things were black things were white and These experiences from zero to seven really shape our nervous system they shape our identity They shape our beliefs and they shape who we become they literally form the internal architecture of our thoughts Of how we think of how big we think of how small we think of our reference points of how we compare things Whether something is going to be safe whether something's going to be positive whether it's an optimistic chance or a good likelihood that it'll work out versus it not working out You know and these things they they become who we are in the way that we show up in engage in high school in the way that we show up and we engage in college But especially after we go out into the real world and we start working and we start Doing the things that we do as human beings in our culture You know and when we have not gone back to examine who we are what's important to us what what is our true authentic self like who the fuck am I What do I actually value what what brings me joy what brings me fulfillment what actually makes me feel good what turns me on and brings me alive In the world in terms of the way that I live in exchange energy with other people Right if we don't know those things and we're sort of living Under these masks these Compensation patterns these behavioral adaptations that we had to put into place as a result of living with a family unit that was chaotic unpredictable or unstable um We don't really know who we are and so we end up finding ourselves in life in some capacity In a way that feels dis resonant or unaligned to our truth whether it's a career path That's working us to the bone that we don't really care about that at some level Maybe we feel like we're stuck in because of gold and handcuffs We get paid well, but the hours are brutal and it's like a back breaking work that we don't really enjoy Right the other piece could be something around the lines of like being in a relationship with somebody who um is toxic or dysfunctional and we haven't developed the communication skills the tools the strategies the confidence to be able to speak to them in a way is that Let's them know how we truly feel right. We haven't been able to co-create a relationship with them that feels harmonious and um and and understanding and and filled with empathy and co-creation and so as a result we're in a relationship that subtly feels unsafe in that if we make the wrong move or say the wrong thing We could be punished or we could be left or we could be abandoned and and then you know it's it's like There's so many layers to this alcohol thing There's so many layers to this addiction thing and I was thinking about it today It's like why am I a sobriety coach or what do you get out of working with a sobriety coach? And it's like dude sobriety coaching is hard work I think it's some of the hardest work in the world because when you're working with a sobriety coach at least when I look at myself I can't speak for other people In a way, I'm somebody's like number one confidant And when you look at why somebody drinks alcohol not just from a physical standpoint but from a deeper Pain pleasure access neurobiological standpoint where alcohol represents the fulfillment of pleasure and the reduction of pain and then over time as addiction settles in and salient settles in which is now your brain is producing dopamine and response to all the triggers and cues related to drinking It's like dude somebody now drinks for 20 different reasons Their health their relationship their fear their anxiety their work their this their that and It's like I have to be able to sit and listen and feel you and understand you and read between the lines and help you get through and understand and process and reintegrate a multi-dimensional Like map of your life, right? It's like I'm not just helping you quit drinking I'm helping you understand why you were drinking in the first place the subtle fears or anxieties or resistance points or blocks or the parts of you that want to blossom but feel restricted The shame and the guilt that's still holding you back and how to reprocess that and how to have compassion and how to heal these parts of yourself and how to release this energy and it's like Do you know I'm it's like I'm a shaman looking at the entirety of the human and I have to be able to be skilled enough To support you in every capacity, right? Is it leadership at work? Is it relationships with your husband or your wife? Is it about improving your communication skills with your children so that you can You know get more compliance from them. Is it about being more consistent in your day-to-day efforts? Is it about reminding yourself of the things that are important and why they're important? Is it about creating an action plan to put a certain goal into place? Right and is it about deconstructing that goal from clarity to visualization to embodiment to tracking? It's like do this stuff is you know I help people with a lot of different things and Yeah, it's like this whole journey of of quitting drinking and getting sober. It's I want to remind you it's At some level of a get it's it's a gift It feels hard it feels scary it feels you know, oh, I'm not gonna get the dopamine rush again or that it's gonna be boring Right don't get to go to bars and it's like Sorry drinking drinking some coffee there, but it's not about that. It's not about that See when you look at a healthy human being imagine a healthy human being standing in front of you This is like one of your mentors. This is somebody you look up to who's inspirational to you Like this person they wake up they have a clear morning they get to work they stay focused they concentrate They're fun. They're flexible, but at the same time they They execute they are responsible. They're organized. They manage their time well They have the ability to have a sense of freedom and abundance and integrate plan to their life They're present for their friends. They offer great communication and emotional support. They're a great leader. They can help inspire people they motivate people They're creative in their own unique flavor right That person has a healthy nervous system. They're in touch and in tune with who they are They understand their strengths and they double down on those things and they're totally aware of the things That they're not so good at their weaknesses And maybe they have friends or employees or other individuals who help compensate for those things Right, so they can be in their zone of genius right? They're not chasing all the time. They're not feeding all the time They're regulated. They're clear and they stick to the plan and These are people who we look at were like damn like look at it How were they able to achieve x, y or z? Like you know and it's because they're living in a way that's in harmony They know who they are and their system is working with them and for them instead of against them And when we look at what alcohol does to our system it literally destroys it Because when you look at okay, I'm sitting here in the present moment. It's um January 31st 9 33 a.m Right and I have a timeline going out into my future When I look at this moment and I look at what's in front of me or what's like available in front of me um it's like What's gonna what's gonna guide that is My brains sort of dopamine system My nervous system and what I believe or what I have trained my system to believe is gonna get me closer to feeling good and move me away from feeling bad. That's it, my friends. I don't care who you are. I don't care for your billionaire listening to this. I don't care if you're 18 years old and you just graduated high school. The fundamental axiom of life, the basic driving force of all reality. I don't care what spiritual texts we're talking about. I don't care what philosopher we're talking to. This is how the human operating system works. This is what it means to be human while we're here on earth for an undisclosed period of time. Is that every thought, every feeling, every behavior, every action, every reflection point, every way decision is in, is this gonna get me closer to feeling good or is this gonna move me away from feeling bad? That's all there is because life is survival. Everything else is a smoke screen on top of that to entertain you and keep you busy along the way. Otherwise, those are the two core functions that drive everything. So alcohol comes in and it destroys. It rapes, it molests, it completely destroys that circuit. The most important circuit that drives you forward towards feeling good or moving you away from feeling bad, alcohol comes in and it hijacks that system. And it says, I'm gonna do both very effectively for you, very fast, very quick, very easy, low effort. It's just a few dollars. And by the way, look at all the advertising, look at all your friends, look at all your family. It's great, it's normal, it's natural. This is what you do and you get duped because you don't know any better. We weren't taught about mental and emotional regulation when were we taught about our nervous system? When were we taught about trauma? When were we taught about managing our beliefs? When were we taught about overcoming fear and anxiety? When were we taught about healing our social anxiety from being ridiculed or embarrassed in seventh grade? We weren't, we weren't. We were hurted through a system like cattle and we were duped. Now we're in our 20s, our 30s, our 40s, and our 50s, our 60s, I've had to work with some people in their 70s who have gotten sober. And it's like our system is now like wrecked, right? And we're following these looping short term cycles of instant gratification in respect to anything that suddenly makes us feel off or weird. And it's important that you understand that like, dude, alcohol is the devil man. It's not good. You think it's good. But it's literally the thing that has hijacked your entire operating system and is keeping you truly from becoming the version of yourself that you imagine in your heart, mind, and soul. You can't do it when you're drinking alcohol. It's not possible. Great, maybe you're listening to this and you're already a multi-millionaire or a billionaire. Money is not the only metric of success. And once you start making money, you very quickly realize that. Although people who haven't made money don't tend to believe it. They think money is the only answer to all their problems. And it's not. So getting back to this idea, this sense of purpose, this why. It's like, OK. So what we've done is we've drink an alcohol for many years. And as a result, we have changed our brain. We've created neural adaptations in our brain with our prefrontal cortex, our amygdala, our nucleus accumbens, our insula, right? And so these different regions of the brain aren't either overactivated or underactivated. We move from, I believe, its dorsal processing to ventral processing or ventral processing to dorsal processing where we go from conscious choice to autopilot behavior, right? The way I want you to think about addiction is that it's like a reflex. Like once you become addicted and you're getting cravings and urges and you're kind of feeling like, I didn't really want to drink, but I pour the drink anyway. You've moved into autopilot behavior. That's kind of like having a reflex, right? You get triggered, something happens, and then something happens automatically. Like when someone hits the doctor, hits your knee and your knee and your foot kind of pops up, or you put your hand on a stove and you pull it away, or you try to keep your eyes open for a period of time and they start to get dry and you blink. That's a reflex. Now, can you apply raw dog willpower to reflexes? Yes. Can you try to keep your hand on a really hot stove? Yes. Can you try to not have your foot pop up? Can you try to extend your blink? Yes. But eventually that willpower is going to fail. Because getting sober is not a matter of just consciously every day choosing to not drink. It's more than that. And that's why I've developed neuro-re patterning, a new emergent technology that does not exist on planet Earth. That takes the underlying architecture of addiction from a brain point of view, from a psychological, emotional, nervous system point of view. And it's reverse engineered for you. You don't have to decide and be like, OK, well, what should I do next? It's like you just-- you play the guided experience every single day and each experience stacks upon the next over the course of 90 up to 120 days. And it teaches and retrain your brain, your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, the triggers, the cues in your nervous system to repattern and re-condition back to a sense of safety, sovereignty, calm, and regulation. It's literally teaching you the fundamental skills that otherwise you wouldn't learn and might not learn even in five years of therapy. If somebody's going therapy-- many of you have been going therapy for many years, like maybe you've done EMDR or you've done something along that. You're not doing EMDR every single week. You might do EMDR two or three times a year out of a 52 week session, right? With neuro-repatterning, every single session of neuro-repatterning is including advanced modalities like EMDR that most people have no idea exist. So you're stacking it every single day and repetition is a mother of all learning. That is how you change neural pathways. That is how you learn, right? When you're trying to drive a car, you don't drive the car once a week, you try to drive a car every single day. When you're trying to play an instrument, you try to practice five, ten minutes a day. When you're trying to learn a language, you try to-- you don't just practice once a week. You don't just do it three times a year. The way that you change is by applying repetition and it's simple. Neuro-repatterning, you don't have to apply willpower. You literally just press play and you listen and follow along and you learn and follow the guided experience. It's mixed with education and application and understanding and integration and all the things that you need. Coming back to your why, coming back to your purpose, okay? When we fall into a pattern of addiction, what's happened is we have wired our system, our brain and our nervous system into these looping cycles of short-term instant gratification. As a result of that, our brain, our body, our nervous system is going to be producing the ret signals, pain signals on a regular basis. Okay, when we get bored, when we get stressed out, when we get overwhelmed and we constantly drink over many, many years, we teach our brain the nervous system that alcohol equals relief. Alcohol equals relief. That's what we train our brain, but it's not true. Well, it might be true, right? If we're watching a movie per se, it might be true for the first five or ten minutes of the movie. But then unfortunately, our brain doesn't record all the downstream consequences. See, what's interesting here is that the brain does not care that alcohol is a class one carcinogen, a toxic poison that is literally destroying you, killing you and causing you to lose half of your assets when you get a divorce very soon because your wife or husband is leaving you. It doesn't give a shit. The bottle doesn't give a fuck about you. And you will never win trying to get to the bottom of the bottle to try to make yourself feel better or to try to out run the hangover like you're, it's a black endless pit. Every time you drink, you're killing cells and you're aging and your liver is becoming weaker and your brain is degenerating. You will never out drink or out maneuver or out game the alcohol. If you have a problematic relationship with alcohol, the only thing you have to do is quit. You've been in the cycle for the last five, ten, fifteen, twenty years of trying to manage, of trying to moderate. Clearly it doesn't work. You're on the same merry go round that you've been for the last twenty years. So when are you going to fucking wake up? That's the question. When are you going to stop bullshitting yourself and when are you going to develop the courage to say, "Listen, I don't know how much time I have left. I don't know when I'm going to die. When I lay my head on my death bed and in my pillow, I want to know that I at least did X, Y and Z and that'll make for a fulfilled life. If I die knowing I'm still drinking, that is going to be the deepest, most harsh, disgusting, sad level of regret and I do not want to transition into whatever I'm transitioning into with that frequency and vibration. That scares the shit out of me and that's partly what got me sober. What else 29? I was drinking four to six bottles of wine a day and I was in the pool and I was like, you know, shoulder upside down, mangled and excruciating pain and I imagine myself on my death bed when I was 29 and I was like, "This is fucking bullshit. I'm not gonna die in a hospital by myself. All these machines hooked up to me at 32, 33 years old, pissed up, pissing away this potential. I was given so many gifts from God and to choose alcohol over it because I wasn't willing to feel a craving because I wasn't willing to let go of the bar scene because I wasn't willing to let go of the dopamine rush like, bro, wake up. Life is so much more than getting high. Life is so much more than just managing sensation. Sensation's just part of it. Like life is infinitely expansive. There's an infinite amount of depth to explore in an infinite amount of ways. It's not just about feeling good and moving away from feeling bad. Like, yeah, that's the axiom, but there's so much more that you can discover that can create meaning and fulfillment and everything else. And that's part of the growth process. That's part of the evolutionary process. That's part of the maturation of becoming like a wise sovereign adult is that it's not just about chasing sensation all the time. Right? It's about expanding deeper into sovereignty, deeper into consciousness and recognizing that you're just the witness. This is why spirituality is an important component of recovery. It's like, I think unfortunately, AA turns a lot of people off to spirituality because it's too fast too soon. Spirituality and the development of consciousness has to come when somebody's ready. And oftentimes, they're ready in the moments where they're kind of broken and at their knees and they have tried everything. And so they surrender. But also, there's a lot of high functioning people who are just like, it's not the time. But getting to the place of becoming the witness of your life, witnessing yourself, witnessing your thoughts, witnessing your sensations from not a dysfunctional, but from a leverage standpoint where you can step back and sort of be disassociated and just see it and watch it and witness it for what it is is incredibly powerful. And such a key part of the recovery process, the thoughts that you have are not commands and the sensations that you feel are not something that you have to catastrophize over. Something you discover through consistent meditation is that life is a wave. Thoughts are a wave. Feelings are a wave. Emotions are a wave. Sensation is a wave. It's neutral. It triggers. It rides up. It peaks. And then it slowly falls. And that is the nature of our hundred-year existence in everything that we do. Whether we're talking about our days, whether we're talking about cycles of relationship and everything in between. And so I want you to begin thinking about why are you quitting drinking? Why do you want to quit drinking? You know, you have to have an anchor point. You have to have an anchor point because when you go to quit drinking, we all have to deal with cravings from time to time. We all have to deal with discomforts from time to time. And that doesn't mean that neuro repatterning and the systems and the tools and strategies aren't going to significantly support that. It just means that, listen, when you've been drinking for 10, 20, 30, 40 years and you've wired your brain and neurochemistry and nervous system in a way, you have to be honest with yourself. It's going to take some time for you to revert back to a place of calm and safety and homeostasis. And you've borrowed a lot of money from the neurochemical bank, right? And so the debt collector is going to come from time to time and say, "Hey, remember every time you walked into your kitchen at 7 p.m. you had a drink?" Well, they're going to come knocking from time to time. And that's okay. But when you meet that edge, when you meet that discomfort, you've got to have something you can anchor into. You've got to have something that you can hold onto that's going to get you through that 10 or 15 or 20 minutes of discomfort. And if you don't, if you haven't found something more important, more valuable, more meaningful than alcohol, then I'm going to be honest with you, my friend. It's going to be much harder for you. Right? It's like, if you're a parent, a really good reason in anchor outside of, of course, getting sober for yourself is your kids. Right? What kind of family did you grow up in? Was your mom abusive? Was your dad abusive? Were they dysfunctional? Did they struggle with substance abuse? Like, when you look into the innocent eyes of your son or daughter, like, they're innocent, man, they didn't deserve this. They didn't ask for this. You chose. You took the responsibility of bringing them into reality. And it's your job to be their guide, their rock, their, their, their support system, their leader. You're a little like walking God to them. And it's like, they're not just going to listen to what you say. They're going to watch what you do and they're going to model that. Their nervous system is going to model your nervous system. So, are you meditating? Are you taking time to create space? Are you pausing before you react? Like, we all have a responsibility here, right? We're all like, just a node on this planet with seven and a half billion or eight billion other nodes. And we're trying to collectively evolve the spiral of consciousness upward to greater levels of union and, and harmony and connectedness and support. And I want you to think deep, right? Like, what can you anchor to? To me, when I quit drinking and I was 29, I knew that if I went back to drinking alcohol, I was going to die in early death. And so, every time over the course of that first year, when I got sober and I was thinking about having a drink or I got a craving, I played the tape forward and I thought, okay, well, what's going to happen when I have a drink? And at some level, you just have to wake up and stop bullshitting yourself because many of you are just not playing the tape forward or you're playing the tape forward and saying, fuck it anyways. But for me, dude, I had stakes and you have to find stakes in your life. It's your life. I can, I can lead the horse to water, but I can't force you to drink nor can I, can I make you be thirsty. You have to be thirsty or hungrier for a better life and you have to be willing to go out and get it. The good news is when you join a coaching program, when you join a sober community like mine or whoever else you might resonate with, like, you're going to be surrounded by like-minded people who want to get better, who are going to be there to support you, who are going to hold you accountable, who are going to do things that are going to genuinely help you become a new and better version of yourself, even if you're anxious, even if you're scared. That's okay. We all are in some degrees and some capacities. But you have to find that anchor point. For me, it was like the thought and idea of dying, having not fulfilled my potential, not become the barter that you're seeing and that is talking to you right now was so deathly terrifying. The pain of that regret of having died with all this music inside of me was so deeply painful, so deeply scary. And I told myself in that moment that I'm willing, I'm willing to open myself up to any other form of discomfort so I don't have to feel that ever, because that pain that I felt in that moment, he was even deeper and more excruciating than my shoulder upside down, mangled, severely dislocated in the most fucked up looking horrific way. That emotional pain was so fucked up that I told myself, I will open myself up to any other form of discomfort so that I don't have to feel that and that, my friend, is what you have to find within your own life. That is your purpose. That is what you have to discover. And I'm not saying like, you have to, everybody finds their own way, but if it was me and you trust what I have to share with you and you feel supported and guided, I would encourage you to begin reflecting. Why the fuck are you here? Why are you waking up every day? For what? Is there something you're moving towards you want to get to? Is there a box you want to check? You know, like, you got to find that thing and you got to find the thing that scares you, right? Like, if drinking alcohol is like burning your hand on a stove, then it becomes easy. It's like, dude, I know what happens when I put my hand on a red hot burning stove. I melt my fucking hand off and then I have to live with one hand for the rest of my life and the rest of my life becomes way harder. And so it's like, okay, pretty clear. Even when I'm bored, even when I'm like, oh, but that sounds great. Like, it's fucking clear, right? But in the beginning, it didn't feel that way because my whole neurochemical operating system, my prefrontal cortex wasn't working. I couldn't connect my inputs and my outputs. My big, amygdala was overactivated. I literally could not consciously like make sense of these things. And so just like you, I was in these looping cycles of behavior, but this is what neuro repatting addresses, right? It helps support the repatting of your brain and nervous system, which nothing else does, man. I've been at this thing for a long time. I didn't come in just to fucking make a few bucks and create a personal brand. This thing killed my dad. This thing fucking re-tavic for 15 years in my own life. And neuro repatting is a novel evolution and the recovery space. And so you have to think like, you know, like what can you anchor into? What can you anchor into that's going to help you get through that 20 or 30 minutes of discomfort of the pity party of the story, right? And how can you begin reframing it looking at it more like empowered? Instead of being like, "Oh man, I can't experience the relief and dopamine. How can you look at it and be like, "Yo, I'm turning into a fucking legend. I'm elevating and upgrading and strengthening my resolve and my resilience and my nervous system. I'm expanding the load-bearing capacity of my shoulders, of my chest, of my armor, so that I can carry my kids and my family and my employees. That can be a better leader. If something's happening in front of me in a market or on the street, I can be the one to step in and take a sense of responsibility and help other people. I can be the one to use my voice when something isn't right, when somebody's hurt, when somebody needs support. It's like, can we start flipping the script and looking at who we can become and how we can become more empowered rather than living in this like puppy dog shy, retracted on our heels reactive way? And who did you want to become when you were born? Do you want to be an astronaut? Did you want to be Superman? Did you want to be this athlete? Did you want to be a movie star? Did you want to be this amazing artist who is creative, and sensual, and embodied, and inspired people? Like, what did you want? And you have to be connecting to those things again. Because if you do not choose those things, alcohol will run it for you because alcohol serves as the synthetic numbing agent to keep you a slave living in a little cage that you become a battery for the system. It gives you the dopamine and it helps you relief. You fucking go to work, they collect money from your taxes, they keep you playing small, they keep extracting from you all while you continue to live a small, meager fucking life. This is the game folks. I know it's hard. I know it's like maybe this feels disrespectful to the root, but this is objectively what's happening. And you have to get angry and you have to get frustrated and you have to say enough is fucking enough. And you have to do something different. If you try doing it on your own a hundred times and you keep playing the fucking merry around for the last five, ten, fifteen, twenty years, it's time to do something different. Or you're going to keep getting the same results. Develop some sacs, develop some courage, put your money where your mouth is. You've been working for the last ten, twenty, thirty years and saving up for a flat tire or an emergency for a family member for a reason. And now your health, your family, your kids, your future, your soul, your emotional fortitude and constitution is being massively threatened. You got to repattern this thing, you got to get back on track. Why were you put here on earth to be who, to be what, to express what? To lead how, to give how, to support how. You know, you got to think about that. You got to feel into that. And I know it's scary. And I know it's hard. And I know you like, you're like, I fucking party, I feel like I'm piece of shit, I have nothing to give. It's not true. It's not true. This is why you're here on earth. This to uncover the layers of the onion that make you you. Anything else is a fucking smoke screen and distraction, my friend. Personal development, the expansion of your consciousness, the development of your spirituality, is why we are here on earth. This is what creates the most connected, present, depthful, meaningful, purposeful, rich experience of life. Not just making money. Not just fucking sitting back and throwing your legs up and cracking beers and watching fucking games. That's all distraction. That's all designed to siphon from you. I know this might seem overwhelming or it's not. You're like, party a fuck, yes. You're finally putting words to the things I've always thought about. And if I am, I encourage you to reach out to me. The thing that you want to remember here about the path of human experience and existence, trust me when I say this, I've experienced this myself. Is that your life grows in proportion to you being able to get around the people who you feel the most energetically aligned, drawn, or resonant to? There are people that come into my life consistently, whether it's friends, lovers, this last eight or nine months, this brand new beautiful relationship that's expanded me, new couples that we've become friends with, new friends, expanding into community. There are certain people who you just, there's something there in the way that they speak, the way that they hold themselves, the way that they carry, the way that they listen to you, the way they offer insight, the way they offer reframe, that it's like, ah, there's something here. You can feel an invisible tether. And if you feel that with me, it's for a reason. It's for a reason. Because when I keep myself closer to those people, my life gets better. It expands. Something grows, I evolve. A new door of my own heart and mind and experience opens that I didn't even know was there or was waiting to be opened. And so like, dude, I encourage you to do something, to take action, to reflect, grab your journal, take notes here. And if this resonates with you, go to my website, www.thustoptrinkingcoach.com. I don't know where you were at last year, January 31st, 2025. But if you told yourself you were going to do dry January or you were going to quit or you were going to reach some goal financially or with your family or with your kids or with your health and you didn't, and you're in the same place, don't think about it. Fucking rip the bandage, fill out an application. My program offers sobriety coaching, life coaching, and all of the coaching in between. Just like I shared earlier and before. You have struggles with your relationships. You have struggles with your kids. You have struggles with work and how to navigate XYZ or your beliefs or that not good enough or how do I get over the social thing. Like there's all of that. All of that is available within my program. We have office hours on Thursdays. You can come in. You could do Q&A. We have incredible coaching calls on Tuesdays. Neuro repaturning is about to be fully integrated over the next week. Like, things are moving. Things are changing. And it's only getting more supportive for everybody. So I appreciate you listening to this. I hope this inspired you and gave you something to think about. I hope it gave you something to really sit within reflect on. I hope it rattled something inside of you because you got to do something different. That's what it comes down to. We could sit here and think and reflect and pontificate in journal all day long. But what are you doing differently every day? How are you changing your energy? How are you changing your embodiment in the way that you're literally living hour by hour by hour by hour? What are you doing to rewire and repattern your brain and to step into and unlock the version of yourself that you want to be so that you can build and create the life that's amazing. That's what you deserve. That's what we all deserve. But it comes through this process of reclaiming sovereignty and ownership over our mind, our nervous system, and our body so that we can choose. And that the old cues and triggers and reactive patterns don't choose for us. Otherwise we're just slave. So ask yourself, do I want to continue being a slave or do I want to get to a place where it appears that every fucking person who had a problematic relationship and get sober says, it was the best decision I ever made. Do I just want to put my own bullshit aside and just trust them for a second? So visit www.thestopdrinkingcoach.com. Got a video there, tons of testimonials, fill out an application, book a call with me, and yeah, very, very excited for the opportunity to meet you and to support you going into this new year.