Dad Energy & Dating Drama with Roy Wood Jr.

you already know we love a man who can make us laugh make us think and make us feel something and roy wood jr does all three he's a brilliant stand-up satirist and storyteller and now an author pulling back the curtain on fatherhood healing and legacy in his powerful new memoir the man of many fathers from the daily show to cnn's have i got news for you from prank calls to punch lines roy's career is as rich and real as the stories he tells let's get into it because baby this is kiki palmer no matter what we're doing in the car just chilling pop on amazon music sit back and listen life love sex science covering it all especially the bad cause money always involved no matter what it is we gonna make it make sense nothing else to do but kick it with the homies and kids so grab you a drink and a snack you enjoy and get into the vibe that only you know it's your face this is kiki a dark night a quiet house but inside danger was lurking oh not really we have xfinity shield so we're not worried what if protecting your home and devices could be drama free xfinity imagine that restrictions apply not available in all areas as the nights get cooler and the leaves start to change i'm partnering with airbnb to help you find your perfect autumn escape from mountain cabins to charming cottages with fireplaces airbnb's got you covered now let's get into it man what's up roy how you been old friend last time i seen you we was doing a game of passwords yeah yeah helping that black woman get the money did we did you win yeah yeah and i felt good because i was on pyramid and my contestant lost like by one question you know them people be mad at us for real like if you don't help them win the money be like legit like come on roy wood i mean i don't know nothing about ferns but you can only imagine man that that for them it's like twenty thousand dollars is on the line i get it but it ain't my fault i don't know nothing about ferns the category was plants my bad huh larry's well juniors i'm so happy thank you for having me on the show it's good to see you every time you're always making us laugh but before we get into to our conversation you know i gotta do the pre-show pull-up we do this questionnaire with all our guests to see kind of you know what your vibe is coming in here with today who you are what you is so today i'm giving you said focus with the side of intensity i love that that feels like some good energy for us to take into this conversation today break that down for me what's the intensity and what's the focus every move that i'm making now professionally has to have a longer strategy attached to it i dealt with for kind of still dealing with i say yes to everything and i'm i think one of my biggest faults and assets is that i'm too nice to people and so that's how you get caught up working on stuff that take it's a time suck so i've done a lot of time suck activities so i'm trying to cut that out trim the fat you know i'm blessed to be coming back with cnn this fall yes congratulations to do the show but that's it ain't a lot like i left daily show three years ago ain't been but two new political kind of shows us and after midnight after midnight done so i'm blessed so everything matters now because you know i hate to start doom and gloom but yeah no but this is real i wanted to talk to you about this industry this industry entertainment as a whole is about to get far more competitive than what it's ever been like when you're talking about half the amount of writers are working as were before covet because they make less script so i have to tell you so every single choice i make every day has to be better than the other choices i make every day and i have to tell you i have to be better than the other choices i make every day i have to be better than the other choices i make every day i have to be better than the other choices i make every day and i have to be better than the other choices i make every day and i have to be better than the other choices i make every day and i have to be better than the other choices i make every day and i have to be better than the other choices i make every day you spend your time on, if it isn't going to materialize into something that you feel is worth it, then you've just wasted a lot of valuable time. But the problem is that when you come from hearing no so many times in your career to being at a point where people trust you to come to ask you to do, to be a part, nobody was coming at me 10 years ago, 15 years. And now you have an opportunity to do all these other things and help all these other people. And every now and then you have to take a moment and help yourself. So every single thing that I'm doing right now is just about, it's selfishly about me right now. I love it. Focused intensity. As the great juvenile once said, I can't please everybody, but I love my folks. If I give you everything, baby, I'm going to be broke. Okay. Cause you're going to be MC Hammer broke. Remember that in White Chicks? How broke? Martha Stewart broke or MC Hammer broke? MC Hammer broke. Okay. Today's mood in one word, lasers. I feel that it's right into the focus and the intensity. Yeah. What did you listen to in the right here? Now this, I love Jeezy with orchestra. There's nothing better than hip hop with orchestra, man. It does something to me too. That like, you know, you find two things that you didn't think like apples and cheese, right? Oh, let's go good together. Apples and cheese is good. I didn't know that sriracha should be on that like rap music with orchestras. Also it's the perfect way. Cause none of these old rappers can move no more. And when you got an orchestra, you ain't really got to get inside the side, Bob, with a two-step uh, yeah. Jeezy's, uh, TM 101. I forget the name of the orchestra and I want to give them a shout out. I'll pull it in a second, but they nailed it. It was a great first time that I got into it was with, um, was with Migos. Migos. They did something with the rest in peace take. They did a orchestra and I was like, I never knew this would be dope. So now I got to check out Jeezy. He's dope too. Okay. Last screenshot on your phone. No deleting. Show me. So what are we about to get into? What kind of stuff you got up in there, Roy? It ain't nothing too freaky. Just a little bit though. Not too freaky. Just a little bit. So minus the two videos of me just walking on studio right there. That's a screenshot at a home of the young brother, Rajah Karouf, who's a black, uh, driver in the Winston cup. He's not on Winston cup level yet. It's like whatever that level is right before, but he's coming like whatever Lewis Hamilton is in formula one. I really believe Rajah Karouf has an opportunity to be that. Um, I went and saw him race with my son. Cause my thing with my son also, let me see, let me show you black people doing stuff and a lot of different corners and a lot of, yeah, a lot of different corners. And so we've become fans of Rajah and he won a race recently. And so he's like showing trophies and stuff. Shout out to Rajah Karouf. I love that. Text it to my son. Like, let me tell you what's going to blow your mind with your child when the time comes texting with your child. It is the weirdest thing. No, no. It's so funny that you're saying this because last night, my sister goes on a date. She got three kids. She was married for 10 years. Her and her husband ended up getting a divorce. Um, we lived together and she went on a date. This is like the first time in a long time. My niece, Allie, she about eight years old. She started texting my sister. How's your date going? Angry emoji. Where are you? I'm worried about you. And then she there with me and my brother, you know, we're there having her there. And all of a sudden they're like, call her, call, call my mom, call my mom. My brother's like, I can't call her, man. She on her date. Start punching the air. I'm like, are you okay? All because her mom ain't answering her text back. Oh, she going to be a problem. She's a problem. So, so has Henry on text? Is he calling you? FaceTiming you? My son is, he will send me a, so the thing we do because I travel. So, you know, similar to that, I'm in a co-parenting situation. So the weeks that I don't have them, we swap a text or two. Hey, here's something cool. I saw. So if I'm traveling, the deal is I will show you something interesting from my travels. Yes. And then he will show me something. So he got a drone and he figured out how to make the drone do flips. I don't know nothing about this type of technology. And he sent me a video. And if I don't reply in five minutes, I'm getting a call. Yes. You ain't see the video. Hey man, this ain't, this ain't FaceTime. This is text. That once is crazy. Just because you my son, I don't mean you, you ain't talking about nothing. Like I treat my son the same way any other text. You go pertinent, pertinent, non-pertinent. I get back to that one. Right, right. Swipe. Get back to you later son. Save as unread. So I won't forget it. But I get back to you. Yeah, but no, I love him. I love him. I'll be so happy if my son texts me, man. That sounds the coolest thing ever. I can't wait till his little fingers get to going. Okay. Not when he started blocking, when you on a date, then it ain't going to be funny then. Okay. Your Zodiac sign. So you don't know your big three, but you're a Sag son. You're a Sagittarius. I mean, all the Sagittarius I know are hilarious. And I mean, obviously that's true with you. You literally make a living being hilarious. Adventurous kind of life of the party, supposedly. Hate being held down though. Yes. I'm a free bird. Like the personality part of that, I agree with. But when you start getting into moons and mercuries and retrograde, I don't know none of that. Don't talk to me about none of that. People are like, Water, fire on the cusp. Hey, man, I was born December 11th. Whatever that means to you. You're a water, fire on the cusp. That's what they be saying. I'm on a cusp, moon, fire sign. Hey, I don't know none of that. All I know is that I try to be funny and I help people. That's a true sign of a Sagittarius. That is. I live for Sag. I'm a Sag moon, so I feel, you know. Also, we flirt a lot and we're noncommittal. Agreed. Okay. Now, what is the most unexpected thing on your talent rider? This is cool. Is it? I feel like it's kind of childish. I mean, Rice Krispie Trees, there's nothing more sweet. Who doesn't like a Rice Krispie Tree? I'm a 46-year-old man. Is that? Should it not be Hennessy? Oh, my gosh. Now, Hennessy is a good one. But it's like, do you want to be drunk everywhere? I drink, but not at shows and performances. You know what I mean? Because then you can't focus. Now, I'm all tumbling all over. I mean, there's a lot of cats that need. That liquor to give a good form. But I just don't, I don't really need nothing before a show. I've just not, I've thought about, though, being like that Robin Hood dude. Know what I mean? Where there's certain comedians and their rider, they'll have something that they know they cannot travel with to the next city. And it remains a part of that club's green room until comedians break it. There's, part of the reason that some comedy club green rooms have TVs or cable boxes is because some performer. Some performer came along and said, I want that. I got to give a shout out to Jamie Foxx. Shout out Jamie. Jamie Foxx, when he was on that I Might Need Security tour, early aughts. It's 20 plus years ago. On his rider, well, this was like the beginning of flat screen TVs. Wow. And a PlayStation. And this is at my home club in Birmingham at the Stardome. And Kiki, we wore that damn PlayStation out. Look what you did, Jamie. Because Jamie Foxx somewhere on his rider at the time, I don't know if that's still in his rider now. But at that time. A flat screen TV. And a PlayStation is an insane thing on your rider. But he sells out nine shows at $60 a ticket. $60 at that time. You can't see Jamie for nothing. Have you seen the rider that they had? They was going around online. Michael Jackson's rider. Was it Kentucky Fried Chicken? And then he like wanted a Coca-Cola in a sparkling water can. It was like, what was that about? Why was it a science project? Because I don't want nobody to know that I'm drinking a Coca-Cola. Now, I know some comedians who drink. But they get the drinks through their managers and their tour managers to make it look like they don't drink. And it'd be straight vodka in that Dasani bottle on that stage. I'm telling you. I'm more about travel amenities than actual at the venue. I don't need cloth. I don't need scented candles. Now, what do you mean travel amenities? Let's get into that real quick. I need a nice hotel. I need a decent flight. I need a decent seat. I was like, if I'm crossing this country, live flight would be nice. It would be nice. Talk about the live flight. Because my issue sometimes with, why is all the planes from 1975 these days? Some of them live flights don't want a live flight. You just stiff up in there. Some of them things. Y'all got to update the planes, airlines. Clinton administration. Anything after 1996, throw it out. I was on a plane one time. They had a DVR player in their head. DVDs. Yeah, so no. I like to travel. I'm all about how I travel and where I sleep. Once I'm at the venue. I mean, I came up doing standup. I slept in my car at truck stops. I slept at the bus station. I rode the Greyhound. So there's not a level of comfort that I need once I'm in the venue because I haven't been at the bottom with that. And you started doing standup at what, 19? Yeah, I was 19. I was at FAMU. Oh my gosh. My sister graduated from FAMU. Wow. Did she get arrested too for scamming or just me? Now, what was you scam doing scamming, Roy? See, your sister didn't. She ain't no real rattler then. She ain't no real rattler. See, when I tell you she loved FAMU. She loved. That's a dope school name. That school saved my life, man. You're kidding me. What do you mean? That school saved my life. I got. So, you know, I was running credit cards. I had a job in the post office, campus post office, a mail sorter. Yeah. So I'd take credit cards out of the post office, take them to the store, buy clothes, sell them on campus for discount prices. I'm your man if you need Tommy Girl for cheap. Come on, Tommy Girl. Yeah. And then got caught. Come on, federal agents. And so I got caught. And so I got suspended. I got suspended from school for a semester for that, you know, and I ended up on probation. But at the time, there was a faction of people on the campus who were pushing for my expulsion. Willie. And I understand that because crime is an issue and you don't want people to. I get it. But I'm thankful. So my mama FAMU, my daddy taught there. My daddy Morehouse, he connected with it. I'm black college through and through. Oh, my gosh. So the connects that they had and the people. So that they knew I'm blessed because there were enough people at Florida A&M who saw me for what I could become instead of what I was. And so I got back in school. I started doing stand up during the break. So I started doing comedy while I'm back in school. I get my degree in journalism. And that degree was the one thing that helped to protect me from having to check guests on the felon box when it came time to get job applications. I'm not saying I wasn't judged when it came time to try and get employment. But. Having that degree was a big deal. And also going back home to Birmingham and working at the radio. So I have to give a shout out to 95.7 Jams. I was still in probation when I started that job. Wow. And I know a lot of people that love listening to you growing up in Birmingham. That show catapulted everything for me comedically. And so, you know, I'll always say that, you know, you know, I am who I am because of my mama, Florida A&M University in the city of Birmingham. Wow. Like the people of Birmingham, they they will hold you up, man. But I love you owning that because. I think there's something that we think about in our lives when it's like, oh, I could have did this or I could have did that. But sometimes the thing that you so-called did wrong is what leads you to where you're meant to go. I'm not here. During that break, you try and stand up. You know, that wouldn't have happened had you not done them scams. Well, you know what it was? I thought I was going to. I had a court appointed attorney. He goes, you going to prison. Wow. So get your life in order. You got six months till sentencing. Comedy was on the list. Now, before then, when you say comedy was on the list, before then, were you just funny? At home? Did you really ever think about comedy? I was funny around campus and stuff. Because, you know, college, especially when you go to school out of state, your whole personality resets. Yeah. Whatever you were in high school, you don't have to be that in college. You can be a thug. You can be a pretty boy. You can pledge a fraternity. A fraternity helps to transform you into something. If you go Greek. So in high school, I was funny because I wrote the bench playing baseball. I wasn't good at baseball, but we would just yell ignorant across the field at other teams trying to. Trying to break the umps. Trying to break the parents. Get them to laugh. So I had the itch for it, but I ain't had the courage. You know, and sometimes it just takes going, yo, you're about to have your life taken away from you. Wow. This time is finite. And that's when it hit. And I was like, oh, well, let me try comedy. I started doing comedy. God's will. I got probation instead of prison. And that's been that. And I'm sitting here with you 27, 28 years later. Like, that was. What needed to happen to get me there. So when you've been at that bottom rung and comedy is this thing that fulfills you and makes you happy and it gets you, you know, out of that depression. I'm just thankful to be here and be performing. I don't need nothing else. Just give me a Rice Krispie treat. I mean, speaking of these deep topics, depression. I mean, I feel like you use humor as a way to really get into those things. And I'm big on that, too, because I think. I mean, comedy is the best medicine. So I want to talk about Lonely Flowers. Oh. You're special, man. The Hulu joint. The Hulu joint came out in January. I mean, what sparked that theme for you? What does Lonely Flowers mean to you? Because we're all beautiful people, but we're all separated. You ever seen a flower by itself in a field or just in a. Going out the sidewalk and you just feel like, oh, I wish there were more flowers around. We're more beautiful in a group. That's why you prefer. We're a bouquet over a single rose sometimes, you know. And for me, I feel like COVID did a number on us as a people. And we all disjoin it. We don't talk. We don't connect no more. And I just wanted to do a comedy special that really got to the meat of why that is. But then also look at myself and then think about the things that we do now to try and remain connected. And we try to judge people on that stuff. But deep down, it's just people. That's why I like. Look, so I met somebody that's poly. OK, polyamorous. And also in the special, I talk about getting invited to a sex party. And we got to talk about that. I've had I've gotten invited to those two. Now, let me just also say this is a lower level sex party. It wasn't like the high Illuminati. Like it wasn't. This is very D-list. Oh, my God. Like you have to tell me your sex party story. And I was like, it was like I got invited to like the like. Texas Roadhouse, David. You get invited to no boo sex party, like upper level. I was, you know, outback steakhouse. I'm howling. But it's like you try to judge and go, oh, yeah, it's just folks looking for connection. Yeah, that's all it is. And that's why there's is there it's it's not a coincidence that that type of lifestyle is more prevalent in the last 10 years. Or people are more open about it or people actually saying, hey, maybe I don't want to do fidelity. Yeah. Maybe I want to have a couple of people juggle them and hey just so you know i love you and i love you and you're gonna have your room and you're gonna have your room and we're gonna meet in the living room i i couldn't do the sex party though i got invited by two porn stars i know oh my gosh so how did the conversation go so i i i love this stuff all right so king noir and just saying jasmine really good friends but i interviewed them back when i was on a daily show okay about discrimination race discrimination in the adult film industry we got a very upright and good conversation it sounds like a very good yeah yeah it's i mean it's workplace discrimination that's right it's a workplace the same as any other job so let's talk about it and we did and then after that they was like would you like to come to a sex party and i'm like slow down let's go out to eat first uh but no they invited me to a situation that that they do on a regular basis you know with a couple other consenting couples and all of that and i think it's a good thing that they're doing it's a good thing that they're doing it's a good thing that they're doing it's a good thing that they're doing it's a good thing and i think it's a good thing that they're doing it's a good thing that they're doing it's a good thing that's also part of the issue is that i'm single right now and i feel like a sex party where it's like a bunch of you kind of want you need a plus one yeah in case whoever you get paired with you don't want you know you'd be at church and they'd be like turn to your neighbor but you came to church alone and you're like hold reach out hold your neighbor hand you don't want to touch that person's hand like scare movie too give me a strong man uh yeah so that was that can be so bad because what if you don't think anybody is cute there it's too late you there you're there you're in a villa in costa rica butt naked for seven days oh my gosh you locked in so i was invited to a sex party once this is when i was like i guess i was like 21 i was working on this tv show and i get contacted not by any of the actors on the show by by somebody else that i know that's entertaining like hey hey girl so a black person already no white person starts a sex party invite with a girl so they're like hey girl so i don't know if you ever heard anything about this but look check this man out look at his net worth you know i heard about these parties and you know you ain't gotta do nothing but when you go you know you can have a mask on you know they just they just want lingerie but they willing to give whatever depending on what you're up to doing and i'm like this is there's no way this is real but it was just so crazy because i didn't know at that age that that was real i thought my friend had to be praying you know i just didn't i couldn't believe that that was really a thing where people are doing it i've enjoyed having i've enjoyed not being famous enough to get invited to really weird 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been pimped for a meal once or twice i'm sure every dude has but it didn't like they didn't make me mad right but then i'm also at a level of income where i can afford to all right you got me next time chilis she got me with that damn sugarfish sushi you got me this time but i i don't everything does feel very transactional even friendships i think the the the most difficult thing especially at 46 is that there is just a certain level of prerequisites as a man that you have to already clear before a woman will even activate the nerve endings that will allow her to connect romantically with you so it's very much in my case it's what do you do not necessarily what you make you can kind of figure out what i make if you know what i do you can do the math on a ticket at a comedy club um son and then and then relationship with son's mother that's always one that's a very important that seems really normal yeah that's a normal expectation well but it's not something that i mean i've been single like three years or so and that wasn't something normally at first but i guess now i'm starting to meet women and i'm more tired yeah i will say even for myself when i was in my early 20s it was very like okay whatever goes now i'm like so what exactly is your name and what's your next 10-year plan yeah it gets serious because we go back to what we're talking about at the top where time time is valuable who i'm spending it with why am i spending it with you you know the the other issue though is that whether i like it or not to a degree you're also i also have to consider how you integrate into my son's orbit if if we're talking on some long term whatever sooner or later i have to consider is this a motherly could you be with me at a parent teacher conference right like just on some on some character types Like, who are you? Like, I'm not saying that it's your job to be my son's mama. But if you're going to be in the orbit and be in the space, I ain't saying check his homework. But this needs to be a positive interaction. And that's something I didn't get growing up. And so figuring out, like, one of the hardest things was when my son was born. And I started back looking at how to show him love. Yeah. You know, and me and your mama, we live together. And we're going to raise you in the house and there's love. Okay. Well, what does that look like? Because you didn't necessarily have that at your house. I mean, my parents were married. But my pops had another family across town. He spent a lot of time with. I'm the ninth of 11 kids. My mother's only. But I'm the ninth of 11 kids. So it's a little pops dancing around type situation. A very respected man professionally. I know you accomplished so much. But on the family side, it wasn't regular. Yeah. So when it came time to sit. And reflect on, well, damn, what does love look like as a man and being an example of love so my son can just watch how I interact with his mom. Well, who can I emulate? And the best example was my father and the other woman. So you have to not only accept that the house that your parents built for you wasn't enough for your pops. But also, damn, he loved it. He loved it. He loved it. He loved her. He really loved that woman. He really loved. Because you start going back through the things that you saw. And I can compare my father's actions with that woman versus with my mother. And what I saw over here looked more like love. So now, in order to show him love, the sample isn't my mom. And it's deep. But do you want to raise the boy right or not? So you have to respect the data. Even if it's coming from an unlikely source. So, you know, one thing I'm very fortunate about. Wow, man. I'm very fortunate. It's two people I'm very thankful for on just the love side of the game. It's T-Pain and Queen of Comedy Adele Givens. Shout out, Adele. And so those two people have had what I view as extremely stable marriages through the craziness of entertainment. And then allowed me in there. At home in some capacity or another for a million other reasons. But I just got to kick back and just watch how T-Pain and his wife and their dynamic. And watch Adele and her husband's dynamic. And how Tony would tend to her and make sure that she had what she needed. And then there were times it would flip. Tony had a surgery one time. Adele canceled five, six months of work to be in the hospital with that man. But then you also can only do that if your money's right. Yeah. And if you're taking care of your money. And so I learned that you start realizing the whole point of all of this. And these lights and these mics and all of this is so you can have quiet moments with somebody that truly appreciates you. And so that should always remain a need for you. Beyond a script deal or my age. I couldn't agree with you more. And I actually think that that's the real desire of that is somehow conflated with needing outside validation. People think in order to find their way to this deep connection, they got to have the right car, the right money, the right look, the right vibe, the right career before they can be deserving of love. And then it kind of ends up all getting jumbled up and messed up. You know, that's the weird thing about it. Because I think we all really do want love. But what we think is going to get us is love. And what we think is going to get us there is sometimes the furthest thing from it. The problem also is that we get so damaged along the way that we start putting our needs before the needs of the relationship. And so it becomes me first, me first, me first. And the other party never gets a need matter. You don't care to meet the need. And that creates an inequity. And then that's emotionally corrosive. And then sooner or later. There's nothing there. Yeah. Yeah. And that's probably in terms of having a child. And if you're talking dating, that's probably the most difficult thing to kind of reconcile. Because it's really low key. Dating is the one thing you can't control. I can control stand-up comedy. Yes. If I sit alone long enough, I can come up with 60 minutes of stuff to say on a stage. If it gets funny enough, Hulu or somebody else will give me money to say it on TV. Wash, rinse, repeat. But dude, I've struggled. I've struggled with this, especially just, you know, again, you as an entertainer. I'm an entertainer. I've been doing this since I was a kid. This concept of like having things figured out because with your career, you can make it work. I can figure out how to do this. Hire someone. But when it comes to love, relationships, knowing what it means to exist with another person in their humanness, that's really hard. Yeah. Which is why if you find someone that you vibe with, then. And y'all on the same wavelength and into the same things, you got to go on that ride. Like, low key, I kind of should put King Noir and Justin Jasmine in that same bucket. Like, all right, y'all do adult films, but that's what y'all both into. That y'all love it. So it's, that's a very hard thing. And I know I've run into some old vets from the acting side and the comedy side who, you know, they find it hard. They've had a couple of divorces under their belt now. Yeah, yeah. And so now they the one that's going to trick off $100,000 for you to wear the mask and walk around naked. And they cool with it. And for them, that is enough of a need. And so what happens is that when you get older, you start a la carting connection. Yeah, yeah. Partners, like romantic. You know what I'm saying? Like, all right, you and me have sex. You and me go out. You and me go out and cook and talk about stuff. And you and me, we go to Dubai. That's so crazy. And we get really weird in Dubai. No, for real, though. And I know I don't want that. I know. I know. But it's hard to figure out where it's like, or being alone. Also, you know, I'm sure it's a thing, too. I don't know if Henry ever says, hey, Dad, are you going to get married again? Or what that looks like when, you know, you see your kids wanting to see you with someone. Or wanting to know what that looks like for you. Or telling them that sometimes happiness is solo. You know? Yeah, yeah. I think about that a lot with my son. Yeah, I think it's, but I also owe it to him to find happiness for myself. And so don't lose yourself in the happiness, in fulfilling the happiness of your child. Because what will happen, at least what I think, I kind of slid down for a second, is that if I'm not happy, I'm incapable. I'm incapable of being all things that he needs or filling him up. So my happiness is just as important as my son's, as far as I'm concerned. So the things that make me whole, the things that give me feeling, the things that give me life, I have to prioritize those in a way. And I don't mean skip visitation for a week or don't get, hey, don't bring him over this week. I'm making myself happy. Like, I ain't going to do that. Don't be worried about me. But in the moments and the times that I have, I have to choose. And that means saying no to certain s**t that you no longer have time for. Because I might just want to play my PlayStation tonight. Okay, with the flat screen. Thanks, Jamie. Wait, I want to talk about your book, The Man of Many Fathers. Congratulations on that. Thank you. And you talk a little, I know we spoke a second about, you know, Roy Wood Sr., your father. But he's a very, very accomplished journalist and broadcaster. I mean, covering the uproar. He's organizing his civil rights in Jim Crow. But it's interesting. South Africa, Rhodesia, like Rwanda. Like, you name what black folks was getting shot at or beat on. Okay. Pops was there reporting on it. Doing the good work. Yeah. But it's interesting because you speak in the book about how you don't really recall many intimate moments with him at home. Or personal connection in that kind of way. No. Because the book, the basic gist of the book. So, my dad died when I was 16. Yep. So, I didn't get all the game I needed to get as a man from him. So, the book is a collection of lessons that I learned from other men throughout my life. And so, I was like, kind of like the whole T-Pain thing. I learned some, like, you learn stuff from other men along the way when we talk about manhood. But the idea of how do you define manhood for yourself when your number one instructor wasn't always present. You know? My Yoda wasn't always there. That's right. To teach me the Jedi trick. So, you know, for me, it was about looking back at that time in my life and just being thankful for the moments I did have with him. But, you know, something that I learned later on. And I got to give a shout out to Finding Your Roots for this. Because there's a lot of black men, especially black fathers, I believe, that have a seething rage against themselves. Against themselves. there. father or one of their parents like the moment you have a child you immediately audit how your parents raised you and you because you're thinking about everything you're going to do for your kid and then as you go through your child's life and you have all of these first moments with them and you start reflecting on whether what was it like when i had the oh damn we never threw the ball what was it like with the oh damn he never showed up to the school function what was it like when oh damn he wasn't there to learn how to to see me learn how to swim well wait a minute you literally that's the train of thought in the delivery room i'm holding the newborn and i'm just i got a newborn kid and i'm sitting there mad at my daddy who's been dead 20 years ain't been studying him like love but you know what i mean i love studying him but but i'm from alabama yeah i ain't been studying you you and now this idea of damn man that wasn't enough yeah that wasn't enough okay but then i need to make sure that i do enough with him so i'm gonna tell my son i love him i'm gonna give him physical touch we gonna we gonna we gonna just dap up sometimes we gonna hug and when you don't like it i'm gonna still hug you so those moments i hope later on have meaning parenting sucks man because you don't know whether or not you did it good to like year 25 you always did it bad i feel is it you know what i mean like no matter what like your kid is going to tell you what you could have did better you know it just is i guess it's a part of the script you know what i mean i don't know you know i expect for my son leotis to one day be like mom yeah this was good that's good but you know i always wanted blah blah blah and i gotta receive that part of my fear and so the book is framed as a letter to my son because i lost my father early so you know i don't know when i'm gonna be able to get back to him but i'm gonna go you know so when i did finding your roots i found out that my father and i didn't i didn't know any of this because i didn't really meet or interact with anyone on my dad's side i have a couple half siblings i'm tight work with but in terms of getting the griot and getting a talking to the old grandmama in the kitchen yeah didn't meet none of them wow on my dad's side never met none of them so i know so i don't know the family history i go on finding your roots they find out that my father lost his dad when he was a little girl and he was a little girl when he was a little girl when he was four and through census data found that there was no other male head of household present in his life then on top of that my pops had a real bad accident when he was 16 he had to walk with a limp the rest of his life he was hit by a car hit by a car chasing behind a girl who had just broken up with him she broke up with him so you chasing behind this girl and get hit by a car who you gonna blame you don't blame the car you're gonna blame women so i'm betting that contributed to ninth out of 11 kids i'm betting not having that father figure and having to be hardened on your own you probably never even knew how to show emotion because ain't no telling what you received at your house and i'm betting 50 your mama who was dead before i was born my grandma on his side i'm betting my pops mama was just grinding and working trying to survive absolutely my mama stayed in night school grad school law school master's degree yeah doctorates to make herself better for me that's right so i don't know and doing that show it gave me space to give them a little bit of compassion and grace it sounds like i think that's also one of the greatest things that we can teach our children i remember when i had a big blowout with my parents while i came i didn't want the whoopings and i hated how y'all did that and you did blah blah blah and my dad's like you right i could have did a lot better but now you're an adult so what are you going to do with that now that you know the truth now that you know i messed up i could i wasn't the perfect father i didn't do everything right i was trying my best but i fell short what are you going to do with that because learning how to forgive your parents for the things they didn't understand for the things that they like you said they had no way of knowing if they were giving it their best shot and they didn't know how to forgive their parents and they didn't know is i feel like such a big part of us being able to move forward to understand that as a parent you're not gonna be perfect i remember so my parents were separated till the third grade during that time before my parents got back together pops we lived in memphis and pops would drive up to memphis from birmingham once a month to come see me or whatever and he'd bring me a truck or something some truck stop toy or whatever he would sleep most of the weekend because he was tired because he was working his ass off and then he would get in the car and drive back to work and he would be like oh my god i'm so tired i'm so tired i'm so tired i'm so tired and i wonder sometimes if his truck stop toy is no different than the videos i send my son because i'm not there and so this fear of is this effort or is it replication now the difference is that the joint custody of it all and i'm and i'm blessed to have a great co-parenting partner so that dynamic is different from my son's life to you know to to how i came up but i i wonder about that do you do you ever are you ever concerned that your life is googleable for your child when they are of that age to try to feel like my fear is that my son is going to try to figure out who i am through bits and pieces of my life and i'm not gonna be able to figure out who i am of media and by the way if you're watching the sun in the future hello hi leotis yeah like i'm not going to get to give you the context of the thing and why here's why i was gone you're just gonna go you were gone yeah and then you was gone and that's what you was doing you missed my thing because i know i'm gonna miss stuff but the food is out there i'm not yeah i you know i do sometimes wonder about how my son will be ingesting what the world thinks of me even when i'm we're out and people want to take pictures with me and stuff if i'm with him i really try not to do it because i don't want that to be uh such a thing in his mind of who i am perceived as right i know i can't control it but i want to try to make sure that he knows me because i remember when my little brother and sister you know when they started to realize i was famous and it was a heartbreaking but they were kids but i could see the shift of them seeing what that meant yeah what this means to my friends and they want to come over and if i drop your name real quick sometimes people act a little different with me and i remember feeling that and knowing what that was like and so i really want to protect my son from that as long as i can so he can really feel a sense of normalcy and really knowing who his mom is not in the gag is but like who i really am before he gets sick involved with the performance of what i am yeah work for that because my son you know when we're out in new york it it depends because when it was daily show it was much more love when i was out cnn breeds a different type of hate yeah and there's people that rock with the show and whatever but if it's the wrong week and i've told the wrong yeah have i got news have i got news for you if we've done a hard trump joke that week or one of my co-hosts michaeline black and amber like when amber ruffin got caught up in the white house correspondent she's really funny stood ten toes and said i'm not doing both sides this is horrible i'm gonna tell trump jokes fire me if you got oh damn you fired me okay if i'm out in the streets that week it may not be all love yeah and if i'm with my son i'm very very hyper conscious about people who recognize me but they don't like me yeah and it's not that you know how black people get it you ain't all that yeah that's fine you know yeah who cares i ain't studying you that's fine i ain't studying versus yeah they just follow you walking i'm just in a panera and it's just a white dude in the corner we gotta go we're not having panera man we're not having panera block is hot block is hot that's what i say to i say man it's block hot we gotta we gotta go to another spot and so keeping them safe in that regard is it's very difficult but yeah i just hope that i've done enough to where he has one-on-one data of who i am and not stuck like me pulling up eight tracks and reel-to-reels of my father's interviews from the 1970s and digitizing them to figure out pieces of who he was because i never got to that part of him in adulthood yeah well i mean i think you're doing a really good job already i mean the book is incredible man i appreciate you and the conversations are important to be had baby this is 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they all talk and interact with each other daily show the same way it's just that the daily show is the small private school that ain't got the big classes like snl is like 20 people every year daily show it's a host five six correspondents at a time but when i first got the job sam b gave me game john oliver i don't even know how he got my email he gave me game colbert gave me game jason jones like there was so many people wyatt's in that jessica williams we need a separate episode for me to talk about just how much she helped me in that job including showing me the instincts of when it was time to leave i think that all of those people were so important and i just i hate what's happened to colbert and i guess in paramount have done to him to cancel him yeah because he had a difference of opinion and so that's why i mean i think that's the big discussion right like is it because of the difference of opinion that we think are we really moving in the in that direction where we've seen it some with comedy but even just comedy and news and just information is it really is that really what it is or is it hey we've had our time and the ratings were low and you know that's just what happens i think it's we'll know based on what they replace colbert with because there's cheaper there's cheaper ways to still give an opinion but the fact that you didn't give colbert any opportunity you know how it go the show costs too much you cut costs yeah and then you cancel because it's still too expensive you don't just cut the show off at the knees off the top so we already know that that was political and that's influenced by the merger or whatever whatever but if these corporations are serious about lending a voice to people to speak truth to power yeah we'll see what you replace it with i think that's a really good way to think about it is like what would take that space and what are the conversations that you're going to be leading now here's the here's an interesting thing though i think that because donald trump and this administration have decided to lean on the media they're leaning on abc they're leaning on um cbs sued cbs trump recently canceled an interview with nbc news at the time that we're recording this so you know you're going to silence the media and beat them down into not criticizing you and i would argue this started not with colbert but it started with amber ruffin because basically through the grapevine you tell the white house press corps if y'all had a girl at that thing and she's telling jokes about me y'all ain't gonna be allowing the white house no more to do your job and i'm gonna make you choose did you see the thing with charlemagne yeah yeah when at charlemagne you know it would be hilarious though is if he started calling himself donald the god to get a shot i would laugh oh i would laugh a lot of charlemagne came back call him donkey of the day oh you're doing good work on daily show he laid out the trump dementia symptoms i just that's an opinion and perspective i think that you know that's everybody's supposed to be able to have one right that's the whole concept media but you're going to force the voices that were in the media online to where you cannot police it and to where those voices are stronger and bolder don lemon got knocked out of cnn for not being centrist enough and then the boy went and got his own youtube channel and getting millions every week more numbers higher numbers than what he was doing in the time slot that you took him from on cnn so yeah did you really silence anybody or did you just reposition them into a place where their ownership and their voice is louder and has more reach oh we think steven colbert just gonna look well y'all care to me all right bye bye thank you for the career hollywood or you think colbert gonna figure out a way to turn the camera on and still go punching you're created a monster and you created a monster in colbert's show and smacking the heat of midterm elections i can't wait to see how this all is gonna turn out because things are made worse the way that the information is getting through and the way that people are able to use their voice i mean it's definitely been democratized through social media and you know we've seen that i've seen it for myself as a traditional entertainer and like you said people like don so it's very he made it worse just like when you break up with somebody and then you cuss them out then they come back and kill you but i mean doing what you do do you think that there is no you're not do you think that there is a fine line between how you spread news stay unbiased and still criticize political figures or public figures the issue with bias is that that is in the opinion of the receiver you can say i'm left-leaning and other people can say i'm centrist some people say i'm super left-leaning and some people say i'm super left-leaning and some people say i'm super left-leaning super liberal i did the correspondence dinner my first joke was to joe biden's face about him forgetting where he put documents that's the first joke before i said good evening to the audience i punched the president in the face so am i you know i don't yeah it's just you're on the channel therefore no so i don't i think it is a comedian's job to tell the joke and talk about the world as they see it and i wonder where we got so so like you know everything is so at odds there's no middle ground there's no i kind of understand that i don't understand that or i do understand this you know everything is so nuanced is gone boom nuance is gone but that's gone for everything like it means you agree with everything you know where it started with them stupid ass mount rushmore arguments on twitter the people go what's your mount rushmore french fries what's your mount rushmore black r&b like and you at like it can either be the it's it's the classic i like pancakes and then somebody goes so that means you hate waffles that's it that's i can't remember what's going on that's what's going on and so that's at a small level and then that's at a larger political level but i just i'm thankful that comedians don't change and i think there has to be a space for all of these comedians to have these opinions including the ones that i don't necessarily agree with the premise on yeah you i think that as a comedian your job is to tell jokes about the world the way you see it and if people don't like it cool in the next week they may like john when john stewart came back to daily show his first episode he called joe biden old and everybody was like how dare you how could you john you have betrayed the democrat and now here we are a year later and now everybody going y'all knew he was old and you made him run and that's why we lost so it's john stewart right what if john stewart was just dancing for the popular people and i think that's what's going to happen and just doing whatever will get him a nice pat on the head and get him a nice comment and a couple of a couple of instagram double taps it's so true you can't live for that not as a performer not as a host yeah not as a comedian not as a public figure there's usually a platform to say something that you believe in something um love love brooklyn i want to talk about that your rom-com the premiere of sundance yeah congratulations man so give me a little rundown you got andre holland nicole bahari who i love the wander wise and obviously roy wood jr and so beautiful black woman director rachel abigail holder stephen soderbergh's ep oh wow so i worked with soderbergh a couple of years earlier on a project and him and andre holland know each other from the nick and they were talking about the script and andre comes to me and he goes hey i'm doing a film about who is trying to figure out which woman he wants to date while his life and career is changing while the neighborhood of brooklyn is changing it's changing so it's a triple layered story about evolution and of course i played a married friend who gives him terrible advice that's my job but you know i think it's a beautiful love story that goes back to that old school love jones brown sugar well when you said what you were saying about the evolution and about brooklyn it made me think about brown sugar with the evolution of hip-hop and the evolution of their relationship and how the neighborhood played a character that influenced the decisions the characters made yeah i love that so yeah you have nicole bahari who is running a wonderful art museum and an art gallery I'm sorry. And then you have DeWanda, who is, you know, she's a woman who has a child. She needs stability. You just can't be fleeting in and out of it. This is a girl. She don't see you and remember you. So how are you going to choose? And what I thought made Love, Brooklyn so interesting is that this isn't like a traditional romance where the dude is just bouncing between the two. The two women know about each other. So. A little more spice. They are aware of each other's presence. And that's T-Boo. Yeah. And so that part, it don't get poly. It don't get weird. I'm going to spoil it, but I can tell you right now, you don't choose both. Not between Nicole Behar and DeWanda White. You got to choose. But yeah, it's a beautiful film. And I think, you know, a story of not only about black love, but the complexities of just how important. It is to choose the right partner for where you're headed, not necessarily about choosing what's right for your heart. And so I think it's it's it's I just think a lot of folks going like Nicole Behar. You can give you a means for days, too. Oh, my gosh. I love her so much. All right. Well, before I let you go, man, I want to play a game with you. I mean, obviously, because you wrote The Man of Many Fathers, I'm ready to play on that called Who's Your Daddy Now? Now, a lot of us was raised by, you know, TV dads, rapping dads, pastors, barbers, OGs, you know. So I'm going to throw out some life scenarios and you tell me which father figure that you turn to for advice. OK, I'm going to give you a situation. Let me get one. These got to be real people, the fictional people, because I was raised on, you know, Fresh Prince, you know, Uncle Phil, Bill Cosby, Al Bundy. Who were two like Al Bundy. Totally different type of father. Still, I get it now. Yes. I just want to take a in a bathroom no one else is using and I want to put my hand in my drawers and watch TV. No, I don't want to have sex tonight. Dads are so gross. OK, you just got ghosted, but you try not to spiral. Who's your daddy now? A. Uncle Phil. B. Morgan Freeman. C. George Jefferson. Or D. Al Bundy. It ain't Morgan Freeman because he talk too slow. Respect to the Clarksdale OG, but I'm spiraling right now. I need advice fast. So it can't be Morgan Freeman. I feel like Uncle Phil would give me the most level headed advice, but I feel like Al Bundy would be one of them dudes that would just be like, you know, hey, man, just come be miserable with me. And I think that's that's probably what I would choose. I would just drink a beer and watch football with Al and the boys in the garage. Because Uncle Phil gonna be all on that. You're a good man and you know your worth. And a woman out there is going to see that. She didn't see it today. I don't want to hear that, man. I'm sad, man. Sometimes all you do need is just to drink and just to be kicking it with your folks. I think misery going through that is OK to allow yourself that. I agree. Your kid asks if Santa is real and you don't want to lie, but you don't want to kill the magic. Who are you calling? Carl Winslow? A. B. Bernie Mac? C. Andre Johnson? D. Roy Wood Jr.? As yourself. Oh, my son got a hunch Santa ain't real. It ain't confirmed yet, but he got it. He's nine. We just watched Interstellar. I know the edge that he's on. We just learned that time is the fourth dimension and love is the fifth dimension and that time is a relative flat. I can't. I ain't lying to him about Santa. I'm going Bernie Mac. OK. Because I feel like Bernie Mac can tell you the truth, but ain't no goddamn Santa. That's my Bernie Mac. I love Bernie. Ain't no Santa. It's me. It's me. It's my black ass. Put the gifts under the tree. I'll be missing Bernie so much. I literally go through this thing where I watch shows, marathons, and I was watching a Bernie Mac show not too long ago. Yeah. It really just brings you back to it, you know? He's missed. He missed that. That's a biopic that's long overdue. Oh, my God. Oh, my gosh. Because we don't know who going to play Bernie. That's scary, man. Don't nobody want to do that. They know they ain't going to be Bernie. I like the Supreme Dreams kid. Mark, I can't think of his last name. I apologize, brother, but you're very talented. Wow. I'm going to have to check this smooth dude out. He's a sketch brother. He does a lot of funny stuff online. I think he could do it. I think there's also Cinqua Walls. Oh, Cinqua Walls. Oh, that's tough. It is. Because Bernie was so tall. I know Lil Rel does a mean Bernie Mac impersonation, and not impersonation performatively, conversationally. Yes. I do love Rel. Rel also is from Chicago. That's the other thing. You need that Chicago. I don't know. Listen, I'm not here to get all Black America versus Africans versus British 90s. I'm not a Nigerian, but I'm going to tell you right now, you're going to have to cast a Black American for Bernie Mac or it's going to be a riot. Okay. That's all I'm going to say. I'm not here to start no mess. I'm not here to start a diaspora war in the comments about British actors can't take the Black. I'm just talking specifically Bernie Mac. Got to be. Okay. Got to be. Just give it to Dion Cole. Oh my gosh, Dion, I'd love to. He's from Chicago. He'll figure it out. Okay. God. You're ready to tell someone you love them first, but you're scared. Who's walking you through it? Barack Obama? Flex Washington? Pops? Or Cliff? I'm going to go Pops from Wayne's Brothers and Friday. Yeah, yeah. John Witherspoon. Yeah, yeah. That's what you got to do. That's what you need to understand. Pops, he always eating something. He wasn't eating. He was just snacking. Boy, that's what you need. Come on. Why was it always that? I love you. Damn, I said it. I feel like he was just sneaking in fast. He's not going to make a big performance. Because I feel like Flex, and I got love for Flex. I love Flex. But Flex is baby. You know, Shanice, he know love and R&B and all that. So he's going to be all romantic and wordy. But if you're doing something, like when you take, that's a huge risk. It is. When you tell somebody you love them. First. Yeah, yeah. You just got to say it real fast, and then act like you ain't say it if they tripping on it. Okay. These are good. Give me one more. Okay, this last one. You're tired of adulting and want to tap out for the day. Who's enabling your inner child? Homer Simpson, Philip Banks, the new version, Robert Freeman, the boondocks, or the daddy on Sanford's son? Oh, you got to go. Daddy on Sanford's son. What's that man named Redd Foxx? You got to go to Redd Foxx all day. Redd Foxx was always about the ladies. I'm coming, Elizabeth. You know what I give Fred Sanford credit for? He never had money to take Donna out. But he'd put them candles on and pull up that ripple in the living room and just pray Lamont don't walk in or pray Grady don't wake. However many episodes of Where's Sanford's Son, I think he took Donna out twice, maybe. It wasn't no $200 date either. They was eating at Chateau Broke. Oh my gosh. But Fred Sanford knew how to make the space romantic, the intention of it. He put the good blanket on the couch so you don't have to sit in that little, that rip. You know them old black couches, they bite your ass. I feel like that vibe is so not thought of more because people just do, well, if I do this and I do that, then it has the same meaning. But even if you do less and put more meaning. It's more worth it. Than the big old extravagant. Just somebody knowing you were thoughtful enough to get the details right. Yeah, but don't do that first date, fellas. Because they'll talk about you on Twitter. Can you believe what he did? You setting them boys up. Y'all, why I'm at this Negro house right now. You know, y'all be on dates now. Well, not you, but you know what I'm saying. Like, black women, y'all embarrassed to do mid-date. It used to be you have the date, then you go home. Y'all be like, look at him right now. Well, you got to text. Look at his ass right now. You got to text and let her know because she's worried about you. She's like, my niece, how's the date going? Y'all are brutal. Y'all will live stream a bad date on Twitch now. Oh, my gosh. But we had to get the viewers up. Yeah, that's why. See, that's why. We need them to buy them emos. But see, that's what the men get. That's what y'all get. Dating them. You in your 40s, dating somebody in their 20s, then they go live on your ass. Oh, my God. Better get somebody your age. She ain't going to tell nobody about her Facebook group. That ain't going to damage your reputation. Now you all over the Internet. Oh, my gosh. Roy, you are amazing. Just as good as I remember when we were on Password. Thank you. Thank you sincerely for inviting me. Thank you for the invitation. I can't wait till we get together again. I appreciate this. Love Brooklyn. Love Brooklyn. Want everybody to support Love Brooklyn. Black woman director, all black cast. It's a dope film. Man of many fathers. Yep. It is October 28th. You can preorder it now. And I'm doing the audio book. We need to talk off air about the audio book process. The audio book is needed. People got to hear you take them to the journey. They got to. It makes it so much more special in my opinion. I have questions for you. about just vocal health, I've been, like, fraying a little bit. So I'm, like, dreading that. I know what's going to have to happen. Bye, y'all. We gone. We talking real life. You found that at the sex party, didn't you? Roy, thank you for keeping it real, for making us laugh, and for opening up about the tough stuff, too. The Man of Many Fathers and Lonely Flowers both show how powerful your voice is on stage, on the page, and as a dad. Your comedy doesn't just entertain. It challenges, connects, and shifts culture. This conversation was honest, funny, and full of heart. Baby, this is Kiki Palmer. Baby, this is, this is Kiki. Baby, this is Kiki Palmer, yeah. Baby, This is Kiki Palmer is hosted and executive produced by me, Kiki Palmer. Lucas Siegel is our post-producer. Our producers are Lauren Hampton. Lauren Hampton and Molly Nestor. Hilary Esty McLaughlin is our executive producer. Production services provided by Evolution Media. Our original theme song was written and performed by me, Kiki Palmer. For Team Kiki, my producer is Sharon Palmer. For Wondery, our managing producer is Olivia Fonte. Senior managing producer is Nick Ryan. And our executive producers are Emily Feldbrake, Aaron O'Flaherty, and Marshall Louis.