Currently Married (With 20 Crushes) feat. Uly Morazan

- It's one thing to tag my husband, but it's another thing to tag my next friend. - There's my other husband, yeah. - Yeah, my other husband, my boyfriend, my lover. They were just trying to take down every possible relationship that I had at the moment. (upbeat music) - This podcast is a dear media production. - Hi guys. - Hi guys. I just walked back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat. Welcome back, Rayna, so it's 9 AM. For you and us, we're way off schedule. I haven't pooped yet. I've just realized I just felt it in my stomach where I pooped at 10.30 and you know that. Okay, you know what I pooped? It's everything as an emergency. I will get up and leave the most important conversation I've ever been having. - Well, I have to poop. - I just felt my stomach and I'm like, oh my God, this is not how we operate. This is the earliest I've ever had you get up. This is ridiculous. You got to get up and record what are we doing? - Well, you live in LA, you have a healthy lifestyle. You know, here my body is trash. So we're in this heat wave here and it probably will have broken by the time it's airs but it's been so hot but also humid and people are losing their minds because truly, the humidity is like we didn't sign up for that. Yes, it rains here, but it's a hot humid day. It's out of body for us. - No, so cold humidity, like I don't know her. - I've never met her. - It's weird, I got back here from being on the East Coast and was like, what is this feeling? This is really off. You're not used to walking out in hot and humid and it's not raining. It's been a wild experience. So pray for us, everybody. It's probably over by the time you hear this but hopefully we survived it. - Well, I was also thinking like, okay, September 8th, first day of fall, fresh, fresh new season. It's not, I'm going to, I have to leave here to go to Columbus. It's a 90 degrees at Columbus today. - I know I was looking at going to Delaware in either September or October and I was like, I just want to be there when it is, there's a chill in the air. So I just, I feel like I can't rely on September anymore. So I need to push back to October. - I think I thought this was like new season new me. I thought we were going to like to a summer wrap up like what are, but if people say they're pits in their peaks or roses and thorns of the summer, but it's like summer's still here. We can do it next week, we can do whatever we want. It's still technically summer. Next Monday will be the first like official day of fall. We'll do it then. - All right, we'll be about it, girl. - You guys, you guys stay tuned for all the bad things that happened us this summer. All right, we'll thank our partners and we'll get into it. 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Like, going to tates, going to those little markets. So you're either more Ashley's friend or more rena's friend when it comes to pastries and bakeries, but continue. - I only like savory pastries and I love them. Like, I will eat a ham and cheese pastry every morning. And so like, when I find a place that does them, I'm very excited. So I'm not just, I'm not a big pastry bakery, kind of, girlly. And this thing has been happening to me. And now I've had to keep a list 'cause it's so weird. So I was in Martha's Vineyard and I went to this bakery and the girls at the front desk, the hotel, had told me about it. And I was like, I'll be nice. I'll get them a couple things while I'm there too. And so I threw like five things in the bag and then their Wi-Fi went down and it couldn't charge me. And they were like, just take it. And I was like, oh, all these free pastries, okay, great. So I take them, I get them to these girls. I'm like, I had free pastries today, how lovely. And then I, was that the four seasons in LA last week? And I like popped down to the restaurant. (laughing) Or else you would say. (laughing) That's not the France then. (laughing) I was in Dubai after that. Just these things keep happening. It's funny that you created this story just to dunk on everybody. (laughing) This is crazy, you guys. I don't think these pastry things that keep happening in all the rich places I go. That's my life, okay? You know what? I have nothing to say for myself other than my life is awesome. I don't know what to tell you. (laughing) And it makes you uncomfortable, that's your problem. (laughing) I mean, actually, if you want to know, I wasn't even paying for the four seasons. I had sex and then I went downstairs to the bakery. That's all awesome that day was. I also love that this story is about you not paying for stuff, that living this great life and also getting stuck with great. That's what this whole story is going to be about. So I go downstairs to the restaurant of the four seasons. They have like a little bakery case. So I ordered a ham cheese croissant and a cold brew and this guy goes, you know, just take it. And I go, what? And he was like, you know what, just take it. I was like, you do want to charge it to the room and he goes, no, you can just take it. And I was like, okay, sure, thank you so much. So I'm like so excited. Also, I just want to throw in later that day. I also got my car washed and for some reason, they gave it to me for free at Beach City. At Bay City? What do you mean they gave me for free? They have a whole system. Yes, actually, I go all the time. I left your house, I went to get my car washed and I give him my credit card. He comes back and goes, this one's on us. What are you putting out there in the world? Oh, understand. So then I come back, I'm in New York last week. I'm walking down the street. There's a bakery called apartment 4F. And it's next door to Rosemary's in the last village. I'm walking by at 6 p.m. This girl goes, excuse me, would you like some free pastries? Oh, okay. No. They're hunting you down in the streets for your aura. Like what is on my body? The line for this is usually like 50 people long. I tried to go the other day with Emily. We couldn't get you the building. She goes, well, we usually throw everything out at the end of the day. We just give free pastries out. She gives me this giant box of pastries. I was on my way to FedEx. I just give it to all the FedEx people. And I was like, surely this is done. So yesterday I go to this place, St. George in the West Village, where I've been going to get my ham and butter sandwiches. And I order three sandwiches. And I get home and I realize they've given me the wrong stuff. So I have to walk back and he goes, okay, still have your box. Just keep all the other stuff. I don't know what it is about me, that people are like, she just, she needs it. No, something else is happening and the car wash is the smoking gun. Like what is happening and you're putting out there in the world? You look poor. Maybe you can get afford it. Maybe if you've been dressing extra dressed. My nipples were really out. You know that outfit? I have from St. George's Nipples. I have from St. George's Nipples. I'm proud of you. And thank you. I heard about those four F pastries because I was in the house where you were coming to and you didn't bring them to us, me specifically. Megan mentioned it and I said, what do you mean? She said, Ranger's got all these free pastries on the street from this incredible place in New York. I said, tell me they're coming on the way she said she gave me to the FedEx, guys. I thought we were best friends in that moment. I knew we were. You don't know me at all. To be honest, I actually thought that by the next day, they wouldn't be that good. I thought about bringing it to you guys, but I don't love day and a half old pastries and I actually thought you guys deserved better. It depends on what they are. You know, like, I just like, you know, like a Bippin' Anabra would keep a crumb cake just to pass. I'm not in this culture. So I'll keep it in mind. I don't know. It's just a weird thing that's been happening. I don't know what it is about me. But, you know, I think it's because I don't really want it. I don't really want pastries that much. I'm like a fuck boy and people are like, you clearly don't want this. So we're going to give it to you. It feels so good and you just feel so hot when someone gives you something for free. Like, I remember being at the Equinox and Miami, where just I'm the ugliest person in there, obviously. And I got a coffee in the way out. They have like a coffee bar in there and the guy was like, just take it. And I was like, okay. I'm sorry. I'll study them, I. But yesterday, Reina, I was at zinc after going to berries and we were having coffee and they had the market in the back. And I got some stuff, like some stuff for dinner. I got some fruit. I got the gawater and their scanner wasn't working. And I like to scan the bar codes on the items. I had five items and I was like, surely she's not going to give me this all for free. She would give you for free. Obviously, that's what happened to you. She keyed in everything, every single thing. I stood there for so long while she manually keyed in every item. Like I almost just abandoned it. Like I almost was like, I could go to another store in this time and buy all these things. Yeah. Also, like, why do I have to stand here while you do? Just give it to me. Just give it to me. It's $42 total. I don't think people feel bad for you because you're tall. I think people look at me and they're like, she's so little. She's like a small toddler. Her life is so hard down there. Let's give it to her for free. Well, now I'm just like, maybe I need to have my nipples out more. I don't know why you stopped. Your nipples have not been out that much. And like, you're my most nippley friend, I feel. I don't know what's going on. She became a wife. No, they have. I thought one tank. They've been out. Maybe, you know, I'm wearing darker colors. Maybe don't see them as much, you know, like over that black tank all the time. I'm always freeballing under there, but sometimes you don't know it. Do you feel like 'cause you're a wife, you just, you haven't been like showing your nipples off? No, I feel like 'cause I'm 43 and they're just a little lower. I don't think I was anything to do with marriage. I thought you were trying to be like, Demira for Shashank, no, no, I'm just old. Well, what's going on in my life? I mentioned this briefly on the snack that we have a new foster dog named Cody. And you guys have probably already seen him by this point. As we record, I'm going to pick him up today. And we talked about him. He's just like a little malteous mix, whatever. But I did just want to talk about the experience with Zizu. So you guys were really invested in the journey with Zizu, who was the foster dog. I had the pug a few weeks ago with Wags and Walks, which I've just loved working with them here in LA. Oh, you know who does Wags and Walks, Nashville is Jason Tartick's fiance. Oh, is that is it there? Okay, cool. Yeah. So anyway, I just thought that was interesting. I knew she did something with the dog rescue. I don't know if maybe she started that branch, but that's who she's associated with. I think that's how they met. Yeah. I think so too. He does stuff with dogs. Anyway. So Wags and Walks is who I'm partnering with here in LA. And Zizu was the first foster that I haven't kept. I mean, like do he was technically a foster, Zul was my first foster after do we passed. And so I've never had to give them back. And it was, it was so heartbreaking. Like it was such a hard day. Like I enjoyed my time with him so much and I just fell in love with him. And I think that so many people have this experience. And you know, we had Isabel Cleon and we love her book. And I feel like she's the top when it comes to these dog fosters. And how painful it is to bond with them and have to give them back. And for me, it was so sad because I just felt like he was going to miss us so much. Like I wasn't handing him off to his forever home. You know, like there's a quote, people apply to dogs for various things. I mean, I guess traditionally when you put them down, like something along the lines of we suffer so they don't have to, like you're saying goodbye to them and your life is going to feel so empty, but they're not going to be in pain anymore. And it's like that would have applied to Zizu if I knew I was giving him to like his forever home for like a happier life, but I handed him off to another foster, which I'm sure he's doing amazing, but he's still up for adoption. And I just felt like he was so in love with us. Like I feel like he just wanted to be around us and follow me around all the time and just cuddle up with us and he loved a soul. And I feel like when he first came into the house, he had a little separation anxiety. And then we kind of just started leaving him out of the crate when we left little by little and then he would be right by the door. And we got home. And then as the two weeks went on, he would be like on the couch with the Zul. Like he didn't even seem anxious anymore. And we just like fell in love with this dog. And it was just so hard. Like I don't like I don't know if I'm built for this. I didn't think you're going to get him back. I just I saw you guys together on Friday and I just I know he was so he was like in your arms. Also like a Zul doesn't like sit in your arms like that. So I'm just too big to do it. I didn't think you were going to give him back. I know and I just I don't want you guys hearing this and be like go get him and go get you know, like it's just not doesn't make sense for us right now. But like he will. First of all, he's silver adoption. He's so wonderful. You guys, if you know anyone or you're interested, like please reach out to wags and walks or just reach out to me or just apply for him. He's on their website. But I just I'm going to keep tabs on him forever and like what happens to him. And I know he'll find a great home eventually. And you know, maybe our paths will cross again. And you know, I've comforted myself with like dogs don't miss people like humans do like I know they can grieve and miss their owners and they remember you and all those types of things. But he's not like thinking about us now like we're thinking about him, you know, they live more in the moment. And I just have had to like do some research and like talk to people like I just feel like he felt really home with us. And I'm checking in with his new foster all the time and she said he's doing great and I'm sure he's happy and so I'm like comfort myself with that. But I just wanted to share how this experience was for me and I don't know how I'll feel with every dog. I don't know if that was like the first one and it was so hard and it will get easier. I don't know if it's because of just how much I loved him and how much he grew on me and he just became my little buddy and he just felt like such an addition to the family. So we'll see what happens with Cody and with the ones after this. But you know, Zizu is still out there and he's still up for adoption and you know, who's to say you never know, but it was really hard. People were sending me this reel from Tyler Cameron's fiance tape of her with this puppy that she'd been fostering just sobbing and she was like, who let me do that? That she had to give back. She was like, who let me do this? Who thought I was stable enough to foster dogs? And I just want to share that I feel like that too. Like what are we doing? This is so hard, but you know, it's further a good cause and to get these dogs adopted. What are we doing? I mean, he had a great life with you. It was very cute. Him and Zul were very cute. I'm glad I got to meet him. I don't think I'm going to get to meet the Maltese, but let's see how you guys. I don't know. I feel like I don't know if you're going to be as into the Maltese since you were into the Blackpog. He's a Maltese mix. So last night, Shashan goes, Ashley, you think he's going to be like, yippie? I'm like, excuse me? Like that head across my mind. Yeah, it's a Maltese that had crossed my mind. I've never had like a dog like that. I can't imagine you guys with it. I had talked about this dog before, Sue, this senior German shepherd that's still up for adoption with Wags and Wocks and we almost had her to foster last week, but the timing like didn't work out. But we were really close and that could still happen one of these days and she is still up for adoption too. So check them out and think about Zizu if you know anyone that could be a fit and I just I miss them. I think about them every day. Oh, that's like a sign, but you know, I mean, I think you should have got him, but he had a beautiful time with you and we have a huge platform, but what's important is that you promote that somebody should go get him. Apparently not huge enough. What is going on? What are we? Are we even famous? Apparently not. I was like, surely the girls going to eat community will get this dog adopted because they're all just like they want me to keep them. They're setting me up. Yeah. They don't want to step on your toes with this guy. No, but anyway. So I've just wanted to share how that is and there's another one coming and we're just going to keep doing this while we can and one we're in town. Okay. We will get an episode in a second. I just want to say one more thing and this audience and you will hold me accountable. It's just I feel like I learned something about you this morning. I didn't know before, but maybe I'm not listening to you, but I said, I want to preface this by saying, I don't platform anything, JK Rowley does. And I would not consume stuff that she produces anymore. But I was talking to Shashank in a group chat with you about how this new show is coming out in HBO of Harry Potter. And Shashank said, you have never, ever seen a Harry Potter movie like you've never turned on a Harry Potter movie. I have not. And I am now trying to run the tape on if I've lied about it before to save face, but the truth is no, I know nothing. I feel like the most I've seen of Harry Potter is this one audio that people make reels and tic-tocs. And it's like, there will be no something, something in this, something, something in there's like a cape. You shall not pass me. You should know that. No, no. It's just other thing. There's this other thing. It's this guy with a cape. People put capes on their dogs. It's a funny thing. No. Rand, I don't have anything about it. I know it's about like a kids in class and there's like, there's magic because I would never, it's on TV or whatever. I wouldn't in a hotel. I wouldn't put it on because I don't know it like that. I mean, it's weird to think about it today because it's on my radar. I mean, it's like a Sunday night watch for me if I turn on the actual TV. If I've logged into your inch of shocks YouTube TV, I'll turn it on. But I watched the final movie like when I was in college when it was out. I read some of the books when I was younger because they were so long and I could read them in the car with my mom so she wouldn't talk to me. Oh, yeah. I didn't, I don't think I realized you had never consumed a single minute of a Harry Potter movie. If you guys really get in the comments, let me know if like anybody else is in this community. I know people are like team, like what's the where we'll shit? What's a twilight? Twilight. Okay. Sorry, I'm not trying to diminish it. I know people love it. I know people are like Twilight or Harry Potter. Like you just haven't consumed any Harry Potter, which is fascinating. Yeah. And I've seen all the Twilight movies. And the first Twilight movie is really, I wouldn't say it's one of my favorite movies, but it's, I love it. And I will watch it over and over. I've watched it again. It's one of those things that like if it's on TV in a hotel, would you watch it like absolutely. And then I've seen some others in the theater. I think I just read like the first book and then I just switched to the movies. But yeah, I was really into Twilight. Anyways, I just thought that was fascinating. Yeah. Okay. Well, let us know in the comments, you guys. We have Yuley Morazon today. We had so much fun with him. I am so excited for you guys to get a load of his list of men that basically like the hottest men, the men he has dibs on, but we have photos for all of them right now. It's like, I can't wait to see that, but this is a good one to watch on Spotify or YouTube. There's visuals for everything and he's just so, so fun. And we can't wait for you guys to get into this interview, but we're just going to talk about our partners first. I am telling you about Mint Mobile. I mean, self-implans are just out of control and they just don't need to be. And I feel like Mint Mobile is here to prove that we have been getting scammed all these years. No, I'm just kidding. 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And of course, everyone in the comments, you stole this from the, like people were like, you didn't come up with this yourself, you know? And so I was like, okay, credit where it's due. Everybody, like, I did it, steal it. But I, I do wanna know the originator. (laughing) Well, I will, I will also say, I don't know if I'm the originator. I think people have been saying current husband, first husband, starter husband. And for like starter husband. You know, like from the dawn of time. I, it's not an original joke. I think we'll have been making fun of, like, their first, their marriage for a long time since then. I think, because I almost, like I said it so many times for so long now that maybe people associated the most with me. (laughing) It's not like an original thought, I will say. I actually got introduced to you based on the same thing, the same moment. - Content theft? - Yes, for contact theft. So, and my friend Emily, shout out to Emily. Loves you guys. - Hi Emily. - Hi Emily. - She sent me a clip of you saying current husband. You like, I had found out that like this comedian, Yulee says, yeah, based on the response. And so she sent me that clip. And she's like, oh my god, girls got to eat. Shout out to Diablo. And I was like, oh, crazy. We were like, we want to give them credit. - We want to talk about the thing. - Thank you. - So how did it start with you? - I think similar to how it started. Like how you said it, I think I accidentally set it in one of my like story time. Like I just like posted it. And I got a lot of reception. - Yeah. - And it got a lot of like current husband, current husband, oh my god, like that's so funny. And so like all the comments were that so then I just like, I just leaned in and started to say it all the time. So that's how, but it just like came to me. I don't think I said it. Thinking it was gonna get any traction kind of like, you just like randomly said it. - No, it's someone has to pick up on it, huh? - Raina was the one that was like, why'd you say current? - I just like was like, what? - Current fiance is funny 'cause they will not be your fiance eventually. - Yeah. - But like the implication of a fiance is that you'll get out of fianceed. - Yeah. - But current husband, there's no implicate, you know this. - Even funnier because it's supposed to be forever. - I know what it is. - What is your husband and mine? How did you guys meet? - He is really grumpy, moody, and an introvert. He's kind of the opposite of me. - Okay. - But we compliment each other so well. Like our friendship is full of laughter and that's like what brings us together. But we met because we went to, there was a bar in a lake called Fu Bar. And it no longer exists, but on Thursday night, they had a night called Big Dick Thursday, which happened every Thursday were in the club. They would, if you wanted, you could go into a back room and print out a photo of your erected penis. - Wow. - And they would, he would take it and print. - I'm sorry, all questions welcomed yes. - No, okay. - You went to a room with a printer? - Yeah, who takes the photo? - Yeah, was there a photographer in there? Actually, it's like, what's the admin? (laughing) - Wait, wait, wait. - I need a visual. - Yes, good questions. I had never done it myself. So this is, I don't know what the actual process is, but in the club, there is like a back room where we're all like the go-go dancers and like the bartender now. In that room, I believe there is a photographer that will take a photo of your erected penis. And then they would print out that photo in, I'm assuming the same room, in the club. And then they would hang it up in the middle of the club on like a string. - Okay. - And so by the end of the night, you would have like about, I wanna say 10, on average, about 10 erected penises, some butts, some boobs, but mostly penises. And everyone at the end of the night would like, clap on which photo was their favorite, and that person would then go onto the stage and they would win a prize. - It sounds like you're making this up as you go, and because of that incredible. - Yeah, you guys haven't gone? - No, I don't really open this club. It's not open anymore. - I'm sad that I didn't get this opportunity. - Wait, it was a gay club. - What, but you said boobs. - Like I want my 40-year-old boobs up on that thing. - For straight women in there, like it doesn't seem like that was the vibe. - I think, I mean, there were women would go. I mean, mostly men, I feel like percentage. - Right, right. - Probably like 90% men, 10% women. But yeah, there would be boobs, there would be butts. - Do you think that you could pick your penis like out of a line up? - My own? - Yeah. - Like if there was 20 penises. - I think so. - Do you think your vagina would have a line up? - Oh, better question. - That's just a better question. - I mean, my boobs, probably. - You know what I would do is I would pick a better looking one and then it would be like all of a sudden lying. - Like actually that's the worst. - I'm like, well, I can dream. - Yeah, that's also what I think. - We were talking about that's not on my business on the last recording. And the inside of my vagina, not on my business, but that looks like a close. - Oh, but it's actually the city time - That's my husband's problem. - Every woman should take a look. - I'll take a look. - You've seen this episode? - Yeah. - Yeah, I see. - You've seen every episode. - We've taken a look, but I don't care. - Okay, I'll look at it. - I don't care. - I'm just trying, I can't get over this like, old and male's dick, like photography situation. Like posing for a dick pic is so funny to me. - Yes. - And then I've just, they need to bring this back. But like the process of getting hard in the room too, you're just gonna be one second and you're jerking it. - I was in everything. I don't know the process. - She doesn't have her voice. - But I think also like, I will say like, I think the erected penis got the most attention, but there were some like semi, I think it was just like based on like what you wanted to present and I think most men wanted to present. - Obviously. - And erected. - Okay, so Ernesto was there. - Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, let's get back to the story. Sorry, we did not participate, but that was a very popular night at this club. And I go up to the bar, I'm with my friend Jazz, who's also my podcast host, like the host, Jazz. And we go up to the bar and the bartender comes up to me and he's like, that guy from across the room wants to buy you a drink, what do you want? And like that had never happened to me before. Like no, I like, you know, like I have like, that guy's at bars, but no one has ever sent me drink from a bartender. And so it was earnest. - Okay, he sent the drink and then he walked into the crowd. So then when I ordered the drink, I walked up to him and I said, "Thank you so much." We hit it off. I lived down the street from this bar, so I invited him back. We ended up coming back up to my apartment. We started making out 'cause I was like, "Let's seal the deal." I went in for some time. I was like, so he's so hot. He's so attractive. Come back to my apartment. You bought me a drink, you're so cool. And then as we were making out on the couch, he threw me off and he said, "Actually, I don't want to hook up. "I'd rather just take your number "and take you on a proper date, "which had also never happened to me." (laughing) - It doesn't happen to be that much either. I have sex with like, "Wait, is this a bit?" - Well, I was just like, after drinking on my and like, passionately making out on our couch, like, you know, like, so having a cutting. - I'm just like, usually, it seals the deal. And so the fight like I was like, "No, I want to take you on on a date." I was like, "Wait, what? "We're about to, so we didn't hook up that night. "He got my number." And then we like started dating the next month and the rest is history. - That's kind of an opposite of you and your husband, 'cause he was like, "I want to take you on a date." And you're like, "You can choke later." - Oh, wait, what? That's so true. - You can choke later. - It's a wild fucker. It's a long story, but I was like a crush of his. He was like, kind of a fan. But he just said like, "A crush on me." And there's a lot of backstory, but so funny, 'cause like, when we came back to tour and Boston where he lived at the time, he was like, "Can I finally take you on a date?" And I was like, "No, you can come to the theater at 11 p.m. "After the show." - After the show. - Oh. - And we can fucking hotel. - Oh, wow. - Basically, in our marriage. (laughing) - Oh, you made a fan? - Yeah, I can't recommend it. Taylor Swift did too. - Oh, yes. So you recommend it. - 100%. - You recommend it. That's the way to go. - That's the thing. - Yeah, and obviously, yeah. - It's not creepy if they're hot. 'Cause I had another stalker fan situation that was super creepy. And we'd like kind of put him on like a do-not-fly list at the show. - Oh, the show. - The show was like tall, like, de-boys. He's like, "Yeah." - Well, you did it right. - Yeah. - I like got popular online. After I was like in a committed relationship and like married. So like, I never get to experience like, fans. And the same way that you made me have experience. (laughing) - And he was the only male fan. - He might have just been having that. - Oh, yeah. - Yeah. But it's different for women. Like, I don't know. But how do you meet people? I like the guy that I'm seeing, which I don't know. - You have a couple of fans. And this comes out. We're still dating. But I met him while he was on a date with another girl. - Oh. - Yeah. - Yeah. And I just waited. - Like, you just like walked up and like, they were in the middle of like, having a date. And you're like, "How's it going?" - I'll figure out how to tell this to you. - I know. - Okay. 'Cause it paints you in a bad light. - No. (laughing) - There she is. - Which is fine. - She's a home record. (laughing) - Because it paints you out of it. - You know, I was somebody one time. And then he hit me up. And it was just like, that's what dating is. You try things out. Picture till you guys even started messaging. - When, what year was that when you started dating Ernesto? Like, how long have you been dating? - That happened in December. And so this December, it'll be 11 years. - Oh. - Was that, can we do the math there? - Okay, so it was like a decade. - A long time. - A long time. - A long time. - I know. - He got me when I was young. He got me when I was in my prime. And I told him this all the time. I had just turned 26 when we met. And I feel like I had a couple of like, good years still left in me before like, we started to seriously date. - I mean, I agree. - Thank you. - I feel like people shouldn't like, really settle down to their 30, but it worked out. It's he's older. - He's slightly older. - Okay. - Like about two years. So I'm 36, he's like 38. - Oh, okay. Just a little bit older. - He's not like a daddy. - That's a great age. - Yeah. - A great age difference. - Yeah, yeah, two years older. - He is like sexy, Zadi. - Yeah, yeah, he does. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. He does. And I give young youthful like energy playful. So I think we just like, we'd like lean. I lean younger, he lean older, so maybe that's it. - And then what was the decision to combine with your Instagram? Like for your handle is, you lean in a style. - Oh yeah. - But he doesn't, it's you. - Right, thank you for saying that. - You're right. - So I'm like, I'm just curious. - I'm curious. - 'Cause you don't see it. - Well, we started off as a couple's account. So it was truly you lean in a style in the beginning. We did like weekly YouTube videos once a week. Like we just like randomly kind of like fell into it. We just thought it would be fun. And like we ended up like loving it and editing the videos together and figuring out the algorithm together. And like, oh my God, what are we gonna talk about this week? And then we got an Instagram to help our like YouTube page. And then when TikTok came out and reels, that's kind of like when we started to get more traction. But eventually as things started getting bigger or Nestos still has like a nine to five, he's like a corporate girly. - Oh okay. - He like, he has a full time job. Like he gets a bonus every year. It's like one of those things. - Got it. - When I started to get more recognizable and our content started to get more recognizable, he was like, I need to take a step back. I think like he was like, he started to recognize me at work. And like he has like vendor appointments and he like goes into like stores. And he's like, I feel like if I'm gonna be taken seriously, are like totally no one at his job cares. And everyone who organized them is so nice and so sweet. And like is excited to see him. But I think he like started wanting to have a distance between his professional life and his internet life. He basically took his step back. And so I carried on 'cause I loved it. And I wanted to do it. And it was working for me. And then that's when I really exploded was when he stopped working on that social media. - And now his name's just there. - And drags you down. - No, I'm just kidding. - Actually, I was considering changing it. - It should just be your name. Yeah. - That's what I was. - No shade to him. We don't know him. And that's my professional opinion, but that's, you know. - But I feel like I'm a little afraid because people know even me as Yulie and Ernesto. - People don't care. We said this to friends before we changed, I changed mine. So my count got really big 'cause I was a food blogger. And it was just like a cute, kitschy name. And then we started the podcast and I was like, I just want to post content about me in my life. - Yeah. - So I changed it to my just personal name. - Yeah. - I don't know, I put up an Instagram story and just say like I'm changed. 'Cause I thought your last name at first was Ernesto. - Oh. - Yeah. - Oh really. - I think of Hannah. - Remember Hannah was like being burns. You know, I think of stuff like funny. - People kind of get to a certain level, which obviously I think you're at and you can just kind of make it your name. - Yeah. - But you do you. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I was thinking, I think Yulie Morazon is available. You gotta get it. - But I was like, yeah, we'll see. But I changed my picture, the icon on my social media to a photo of us to a photo of me. - Okay. We're getting there. - And people kind of are like what's going on here. - And like you break an eye. - I take talk, I changed my handle from @yulienernesto to just @yulie and that got a little, like people were like, where's Ernesto? Like he still has a lot of love online. So I'll consider it. - Okay, yeah. - And he also just say like the bold name is Yulie Morazon but the @ is Yulienernesto. - I think what's important is just like the lesson that like once you get a man out of your life, you do blow up. - Like she's like, yeah, I'll just like kick him out of there. - Yeah, just get a man out of there and your life will improve. - Yeah. - Just get more Instagram followers. - Yeah. - If you want. Well, there's a whole thing right online. And I don't know if you guys experienced this but like people who follow creators that are single and like once they get a boyfriend or like get a fiance, they were like, I don't want to see him. Like I don't want him to be in the content. I want you like. - With that so, okay, let's unpack that 'cause I was having a conversation with them whenever girlfriends that's an influencer and she was single for so long and then she found this like love of her life. She married the most wonderful person. I love him so much. And she was like, I don't think people wanted that content. I think people wanted the single girly content. I validate that like people sign up to watch your content for one reason. - Yeah. - And when you pivot, they're like, wait, but I didn't agree to this. - Yeah, well, right. Like I think some of that stems from like, I'm following this fashion girly. I don't care about her dusty boyfriend. - Yeah. - Like it depends on again, like why you're following them. For me, I felt like people were so invested in my life and my journey to find love because of this podcast. - Yeah. - So which shot came along. It was, I mean, people really wanted it because of the nature of the content. - I said that to her. I wanted to show you saying that to me. I was like, "Ash and I are really lucky "that our business is just dating and relationships." - Yeah. - Anything we do, people are invested in. - They're part of it, yeah. - Yeah, I feel like, yeah, it depends on your content. - Yeah. - Because I feel like if you follow someone for fitness and then all of a sudden they're showing you like something else, you're just like, "Wait, what's going on?" Like thankfully, when our Nesto left, all our stuff like that did well was also under my perspective anyways. - Yep. - So like even with him being in less videos, it was still like my voice, my tone, and like I just created my chaotic energy that I had in my relationship and I just like put it on other things and elsewhere and it ended up being fine. But I think you're right, like if I'm following a girl because of like one thing, and then she's a boyfriend. - Oh, how dare she. - But I like the content where it's like immediate unfollow. I didn't, I don't want to see him. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - I respect it. - I follow these food accounts and like once in a blue moon, they'll post like their baby announcement. I'm like, "Oh, I got here to see your face." - Yeah. - It's right. - Under babies. - Oh, like you see, like only food on your face. - See, only food on your face. - And then I think if you're that specific, - Yes. - So what are we, you're supposed to have a family? - I didn't know that you had a family. - Family, do you? - Yes, get your family. - But I also understand if girls were following me because I am a single girl living my best life and then he comes along, I get it if you want unfollow. We don't want to see him and that's fine too. - Yeah, wait, I have a question. - Yeah. - So when you guys introduce a guy in your life, is there a level of like discussing things with them? Like how much you talk about them? Like, yeah, what did you guys decide like for yourselves? Like was the answer for you? Like do you just like put everything out there? It's like, how do you handle that? - And we've evolved the shows evolved. It's very partner specific for me. I've had people be like, I don't want you to talk about me on the show, and I acknowledge that I'm dating somebody, but I'm not gonna talk about what their dick looks like. And at this point in my life, I'm not gonna do that at all. But also, I've had situations where I've introduced somebody to this audience. They've been with me for the whole ride, and we broke up, I had to talk about that too. - Yeah. - That's fine, that's what this podcast is. I can choose. - You didn't ask for privacy during a time when you broke up. (laughs) - I was like, I think it was more attention, yeah. - What had to happen was we were touring, and they broke a mid tour, and her material was about him, and we had to discuss Reina's level of comfort in which the way her material had to pivot. She was like, I don't feel comfortable going and telling the same stories like we're together, we're not together, so it was like, - Kind of. - So you changed up your entire set? - You have, 'cause it was about like dating. - About dating. - And so we had like a show in like seven days. So then we had to put the podcast out, 'cause we knew thousands of people were gonna come to the show and be like, they're broken up, and so she had to kind of rush her statement. (laughs) - We're getting on the way. - Wait, wait, wait. - We realized that Dr. Epis way. Epis way. Epis way was announced, that you guys broke up was gonna come out, and then people were gonna go see the tour. - Three days later. - It's a really awkward, to be honest. - Yeah, yes. - And we're, oh, so you had to really bib it. - Yeah, it attacks him like, we have shows, and I need to announce this now. - Yeah, I don't care about that. (laughs) But I think these things, I don't wanna pretend that they're not on our minds, on my mind, all the time. I mean, Shashank, it was, I think people, when we first started dating, I did a soft launch, you couldn't tell who he was, and then I remember the hard launch, and people were so obsessed early on, because it was like, I'd been single for so long, and this was my man, and I felt uncomfortable. Remember, I called you when I was like melting down, I was like, people are sending him stuff from the internet about him, and it made me really upset, and he doesn't wanna be involved in that. He's the private part. - Private, so he's private. - Yeah, I mean, yeah. - I feel like I've seen some dipping toes, but nothing crazy. - Yeah, great product, citizen. - Yeah, I think family is private. - Oh, yeah. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - But no, I mean, now he created this app, so he's trying to get out there a little bit more, but early on, I was like, I don't want him getting this kind of attention. I don't want people on fucking Reddit, talking shit. It made me a lot of anxiety, and I was like, I wanna pull back, but I don't know. We didn't, I didn't say his name until we got married, and then, but then we brought him on the podcast. It's like, I think, (laughing) 'Cause it's like a specific name. - Yeah, I can't, it's not like just like, yeah, he's not John. - He's easy to Google, and so there were just a lot of, like, calculate decisions along the way, and I think the longer we dated years, then we got to, like, people start caring less. Like, I think that's when someone immediately gets a partner, that's when it's just so much that people, who is he? What does he do, you know? - The last time I went on, people just stopped. You know, content is not a partner. You're not a couple's account. - You're not a couple. - You're not a couple of different relationships, though. You know, I just, I just, like, just like, broaden it to the regular audience. Like, you're allowed to get excited about somebody and talk about them, it doesn't work out. That's fine, too, like, you see, like, people be like, I'm so excited, oh, wait, never mind. And like, we had to do that on the podcast over the years, too. - Yeah. - It's just no shame in it, no shame in it. - Oh, no, no, no, shame. I just don't know, like, how you, like, what you decide. And obviously, it's different for a person. Like, you're saying, like, some people are, like, down. 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They were tagging Ernesto, but I was also just like more upset that they were tagging Pedro Pascal. Your other. Yes. Which is like, my that's what it was. Yes. You know, like how they are. It's one thing to tag my husband, but it's another thing to tag my next. There's other husband. Yeah, my other husband, my boyfriend, my lover, you know, like, they were just trying to take down every possible relationship that I had at the moment, which felt rude as private covers as I was working on another one. Like, it felt rude. A girl's got to eat. Right? Like, that's why we're here. Yeah. We're going to try to see. Yeah. Like, stop tagging these people. Yeah. Yeah. You know, does he just let you cook all the time? Like, this is all this stuff really funny to him or is he ever like, you got to take it out or not. You know, like, I don't know. You guys seem like you have a great secure relationship. We unfortunately have a really healthy relationship. That is very secure and I feel like, I mean, if there's any indication that you have a healthy secure relationship is calling your husband, your current husband and dragging him on the internet. Like, all the time and having all these like celebrity male crushes. So he's fine. Yeah. Like, we laugh about it. He thinks it's fun. Like, I mean, he's not like jumping for joy, but like, he understands that like, you know, like, you guys know, like, this is like a one minute video. I think the last time we talked about, like, friends will ask him a lot, like how it makes him feel and he said two things as long as a check keeps coming in, he's fine. And also he says the likelihood of me ever being or hooking up with any of these men is so unbelievably low. He's like, you Well, he's like fat, he's like not, he's like, my concerns are not there. I have no concerns of this at all. - Does that make you wanna be like fat? - Yeah, I will do it. - Watch me. - Okay, I live in LA, watch me. Did you meet Pedro at Pascal? - Not yet. - Not yet, not yet. - Have you been in the room with it? - Multiple times. - Okay, I've got it. - Multiple times. - There's always like hot celebrities walking through the deer media offices, like maybe we'll see something. - Oh, okay, yeah. - But I'm sure he's seen your content. Don't you think? - Yeah, he follows me. - Yeah, okay, right. So he follows me and he's like a couple of my videos and he's commenting, okay, my videos. - I'll comment it. - Oh my God. - Yeah, there's been a couple of comments. Yeah. (laughing) - I'm dead. - Oh yeah, I meet in my entire personality. And it's so like, yeah, that's also kind of fun. Like if Ernesto's worried about anyone, he's probably Pedro because he's the most interacted with me. - He's pretty close for comfort, yeah. - And so I got invited to the Fantastic Four premiere. - Okay. - After my whole story with Pedro was that he started following me based on the last of us. You watched that show, you know that show? - My husband watches it. - It's a little man at the man show. - It's a little violent. - It's violent. He is wonderful though. We obviously love him. - Something happens to him in the second season. I made a video about it. It went viral. He followed me based on that video. And so then I made my personality. Pedro Pascal follows me for, I think. - Okay, sure. - The world of this day is so part of my brand. - Yeah, anyways, we went to the Fantastic Four premiere, but I didn't get to meet him. I've been to the Mandalorian premiere. I didn't get to meet him. We were both at the Super Bowl at Bad Bunny. He walked past me. Like we were literally going to get like concessions. And as we were going up the stairs, he was walking past. And Ernesto was like, oh my God, that's Pedro. Go see him. And I was like, I'm not going to run to him with his backs turned like a crazy person to say hi to him. - Do you have a publicist? - No. - They need to be coordinating things because people will eat this up. Like the publicist needs to be involved. But I mean, you don't have them. But I'm just saying like, I feel like we need to get you hooked up as somebody that can facilitate this. - There's publicists listening, like reach out. (laughing) Just for the first time. - I do think that the day it happens and the day I drop it online will be a very big day. Big day for me, big day for me, whatever movie he's producing. - Yeah. - Small day for Pedro. But big day for everyone else, yeah. (laughing) - Okay, can we go through your list of meh? - Oh yeah. - So I screen shoted one, but it's not the full list. You've since added to it. But well, you know, I posted that list and then everyone's like, you're missing this person, you're missing that person. Like, where's this person? And then also I'm like, now that I'm starting an official list, let me just like keep adding to it. - Okay, you wanted to have a say about us, we to make lists this morning. - Oh wow. - A lot of mine are on this list. It's a comprehensive list. - Okay, well I just think like in general, our audience, that you make your own list after this. - Yes. - Yes. - And I will tell. - Yes. - Okay, and this is a list of just the hottest meh. - I mean, these are my men, specifically your men. - Yes. - Yes. - My men that I have claimed. - Okay. - So actually you can't have them. - Well, okay. - So not even Jalen. Okay, you know what's fine. Let's look at through it. - And you know what, people get upset about that. But like, I'm leaving a lot of other men out there. - Plenty of fish in there. - Plenty of fish in the sea. The population is big. I'm leaving a lot of men out there for everyone else. These are just my men. - Okay, so you guys, he has divs on all of them. Don't even try it. - Okay, Pedro Pascale. - Yes. - In a particular order, I should say. - Right. - Because people are like, "Why are they down there?" They're like, "Okay, you guys relax." - But Pedro Pascale is number one. - Okay. - Benito, I'm Tom Holland. - Take it out of your brain. - Yeah, I'm from Mauiwad. I don't actually see the appeal. I think he's amazing, but I don't see the appeal. - To go to Pedro Pascale, Benito, and then Tom Holland. It's a jumpscare. - You don't see it coming. - Because that is the most vanilla man alive. - Yeah. - In a particular order. - What do you have to say about it? - You're like laughing like a lot. - And tall, sexy. - No, I want to know what you're talking about. - I want to know what you're talking about. - Oh, I just recently saw Spider-Man brand new day. And I just liked what I saw. - Okay. - All right. - I liked what I saw. - I saw Spider-Man. - You know what? And I will say, because of the Spider-Man movie, there's been a lot of interviews with him and Zendaya. And I also think that there's like a really cute couple. - He seems incredible, by the way. - I see them interact. And it just reminds me of the relationship that I want to have. - No, they're like two people that are happy with each other and laughing. And he hypes her. They seem like really a wonderful couple. - I know. - Wait, why do you think he's disgusting? - No, I don't. - He's too short for her. It's the height. He looks really young. - His white and he's short, which is like she's out on all front. - Okay. - Here's the thing. - Incredible actor, incredible partner. When I watch him on screen, I'm like, it could be any white guy. - Oh, okay. - He doesn't grab me. - Yeah. - But he is a wonderful actor. - Yeah. - Actually, you don't like white guys. It's okay. - Okay, okay. There's a couple of white guys right here. - Are they short? - Ricky Marin. - Ricky Marin. - Okay. Yeah. - Feran Torres. Do you know who that is? - So even more Tom Holland is a pivot because we've gone right back to Lan. - Yeah. Okay. Who is he? - Feran Torres is a Spanish footballer playing in the World Cup was scored the winning goal. - I'm going to sign up as the only goal in the World Cup is the score that he made. - I'm going to know what you call it. - Okay. Jalen Hertz. - We are. That's all I talk about. There was a point where I was like, say Jalen Hertz one more time, actually. Jalen Hertz was the third host of this podcast. - Yeah. - Yeah. - So I'm a huge fan and huge Jalen Hertz fan. It just seems like a great guy. - I'm very all woman management team. - He does in the community and for kids and charities and all these things. So we would say he was the only man that could pull that go T off. - Oh. - But he's gotten rid of the go T. He's just doing a mustache now. It's an interesting choice. - I have seen the updated look. - I like a mustache. So I'm very turned on by mustache. - Okay. - You can do no. - I love a mustache too. And so Ampedro famously both have moustaches. - Well, we talked about it. - We talked about it. It was so trending. - Listen. There's something about a guy with a mustache and a guy with glasses that just. - Oh. - Glass is pretty little glasses. - It just like gets me. - It just gets me. - You like Harry Josie. - You're like number one. - Harry Jalen. - He's so beautiful. - Do you have a mustache and glasses? - You just like you do that when he does the glasses. - A guy that can't see. - I like a guy with a handicap. - You know? - Like. - That's just me. - No. - No. - I like when they wake up in the morning. They're like, you're so beautiful in the morning. And I'm like, you don't have your contact. And I love that about you. - Yeah. Like herness every morning is like, where are my glasses? Where are my glasses? I can't find them. - You just can't find them. - Wow. - You really need me. - Disapprived problem. - Sorry. This is a long list. Super sexy. - Yes. - Great personality. Charity. - All around. - Woman management. Who cares? - He's hot. - Yeah. - Sean Mendez. Recently, as you list, how do you feel? Mendez? Nala Tino, though. How do we feel? - I'm indifferent. Objectively good-looking guy. - Objectively attractive. - Yeah. - Objectively, don't care one way or the other. - Yeah. - Sean. - With Camilla Cabello? - Yeah. - Have you still together? - No. - Of the Camilla Cabello. - I remember that kissing was happening back across here. - Is that so random, too? He's very attractive. - Yeah. - Good-looking guy. I don't care one way or the other. I remember getting the x-ing them like fake kiss. - Remember? - Yeah. - Two white for her. - He's hot. - And you're under cheated either. - Wow, the white men are really-- - We're leaving them for you. - It's a really hard time for white men right now. - I know. - And you guys are not helping-- You're not helping out. - Let's give them their flowers. - Yeah. - White men are ugly. - Okay. Slavko Vincic. Do we know? - S-L-A-V. - Slavko Vincic. - He was the ref for the World Cup final. - Slavko. - Yeah. Although someone said you don't pronounce the K or the V. I don't know. Someone was like, "That's the way you pronounce that." - I was like, "Is that it?" "Yes." - Yes. I like a daddy. - Oh. - I like a daddy. - I also like a guy that's like a little sassy. And he was like, "Gary, like." "No, you guys go over there." - He was like-- - No, he not looks like an asshole in a hot way. Is he-- - Yes. - He's a Slovenian. - I think those men are so hot. - He's Slovenian. - He has to be white. - Okay. Jude Bellingham. Do I know that? - Sorry. I'm like recently in sports. - So hot. - I have a couple of things that I latch on to. One of them being my current husband. One of them being pictures of basketball. - Oh. - And now sports? - Oh, all these World Cup players. - So he was an English World Cup player. - Yeah. - Who is so hot. - He's hot. - Okay. - Who was the guy that we were all obsessed with the majority? - The goalkeeper. He was not in the World Cup. - He was not in the World Cup. - And he had something with Cardi B. - Mumba. - Mumba, something. He, I got a lot of like, when I did my World Cup series, they were like, look at this guy. - Maduca. - Maduca. - Maduca. - Oh, yeah. - Oh, yeah. - Oh, yeah. - I kind of, for the sports girl, he's out there. - I've got an invested. The Jonas Brothers at the same time. - All three. - All three. - You need all three. - All three are nothing. - I mean, I do have a favorite. - Okay, rank them. - Is this a secret? - Yeah. - I do have a favorite. So, this is a journey. Not everything needs to be a story. But when I was younger, like, Joe was a sexual awakening for me. - Okay. - Then I moved on to Nick. - Okay. - Right. - And now I'm back on Joe. - Okay. - Oh my god. - I thought you were going to say Kevin. - Can I tell you where's the secret? Who else thought Kevin was coming from? - I don't know which one is which. I only know them by which women they're buried to. - Oh, okay. - I don't know. I've never learned any other names. I only identify them by who they are. - I love that. - That's what it should be. - Yeah, 'cause I'm trying to decent our men. - Oh, okay. Sorry. I tried to send her men at all times. - Which one's married to Priya? - Priya, Agitropra. - Nick. - Nick. - Nick, okay. - Yes. - And then who else? - Was married to Sophie Turner? - Joe. - Joe. - Okay. And then the one that had the reality show with his not famous wife is. - Kevin. - Kevin. - Yeah. Okay. - And they're white and they're short. - I'm so sorry about that. - Nick Jonas is a Tom Holland vibe. They just look really young. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - Like I watched their Christmas movie. I was like, is Nick Jonas 12 age? - Yeah. - The thing is that Kevin is just a little, he seems a little too quiet for me. Like a little too nice. - No offense. I'll be like a nice guy. But like I need a little bit more spice in my life. Nick seems like he takes himself a little too seriously, especially like when I'm seeing the tour. They're like up there on tour right now. And I'm like, oh, and Joe just seems kind of like a goofball. And I like a guy with a wide eye. So I was like, I go to Joe. - Okay. - Do you guys have a favor? - I think Joe might be my favorite. - It's gotta be Joe. - Nick just looks super young today. - I thought you were gonna say Kevin. - Because you were disappointed that I didn't say Kevin. So I thought that was the cure not to be just one. - Do people have Kevin as well, Joe? - I think Joe, you and Anna would say the one. - I think when you're like, when you're in your mind. - No, it's a Kevin. But I think it's like one of those things where it's like, when you're trying to be a little different, you should, you're like, it's like everyone else. - It's pick me. That's a little pick me to choose Kevin. - Do you know like I'm not like other girls? Like I actually like Kevin, you know? - No, if it's a Kevin, if, friend of the pop. - Not a regular girl, girl. - The Christmas movie is really cute. Did you see? - Yes, very cute, very cute. - Okay, Hall, W, Downs, a new ad, Connor Story, Hudson Williams. - Okay, Connor Story. - Yeah. - Wait, Connor Story who pays off as a Tim? - Hudson Williams. - Which one is L.A. - Connor Story. - Connor Story is like up there. I like, I know he doesn't really have a Russian accent, but like him when he does the Russian, yeah. - Yeah. - Oh, yeah. - I love him. - He does it good. - I mean, he's so fuckable, it's insane. - Yeah. Okay, I said the off-campus guys. - It was such a horny show because of them. - Yeah. - And they were all just so like emotionally intelligent and communicative, like that was just so hot. - Yeah, yeah, that's very hot. - They were not enough men having sex. - But did you lie? - Thank you, same. I like, I think I like heated rivalry. And then you have this and I'm like. - I know, I'm like, what are these guys gonna start having sex with each other? - What is this? - None of you are gonna suck each other off. - Yeah, I'm like, watch this whole show. - Not even one time? - Here's a no-hand job. - Yeah. - Like I never do that and you know what? - It's pretty straight. - It just seems unrealistic. - Well, I've just seen this on really, and from what I've seen you need to rival really, it's see, I bet. - There's at least one. - Jonathan Bealey. Guy at Jim. - Jonathan Bealey. - Guy at Jim? - Guy at Jim, Theo James. - Yeah. - Theo James. - So such a strong list. - Milo Vintamiglia. - Yeah. - Maluma Harlow's Alcarez and my current husband, which is the only one that is checked off from my list. (laughing) At the moment. - The channel I love him most is cause he's the only one that I've fucked. - He's the only one that I've had in my life. - Maluma was in that one down. - Wasn't that Jala movie? This was a really good movie. Like, you know, so I watched it on a plane. He was like, had me so turned on. He's so, so hot. And he played like a singer. - Maluma Tim? - Yeah. - What movie? - Marry me. - Do you guys remember this, like, 2020s you romcom? - Jennifer Lopez played a pop star and Maluma played her fiance, Bastion. He was also like a star. - Oh, he's so hot. - You gotta get into it. He's so sexy in that movie. - Is he? I mean, he is sexy. So I feel like I do definitely. Is this a type? - You like Latin guys? You like short white guys. - And short white funny guys. - A couple of black men, but a lot of athletes. - Yeah. - You love an athlete or a referee. - Yeah. - But did this kind of shift with the world? - Yeah. - I mean, yes. - Yeah. - I started doing fantasy football for the first time last year. And I did like a series of like all the people that I wanted on my team, all hot men. And it kind of like opened my world to more sports. And so like, it's like, you also kind of go where like, your audience wants you to go. So they wanted a fantasy football series every week. I gave that to them, that led to World Cup, not going to the US open in a couple of weeks. - Oh, that's great. - Wow, congrats. - So it's like all of us. It's literally just me thirsting and following all the hoties in sports. - No, I love this in sport. It's just like, you know, just like dress for the job you want. - Yeah. - You know? - Yeah. - That's why I was such a slut in my 20s. And now we have this podcast. There's about dating and relationships and sex. - A hundred percent. - What we did, actually. - Yeah. - Would you guys see you have a type? And why would that be? - I have a couple specific types. But like, if I could build a man, it's like a bald guy with a beard and like tattoos. - Right now. - I'm very sick. Like, I want you to look like a bouncer. Like, and it's so funny when my friends clock it. Like, actually, I would walk into a hotel yesterday. - Like, very muscular, I'm assuming. - Yeah. - Not big much. Like, actually, we were walking to a hotel yesterday and I had made eye contact with like one of the valet guys. And Ashley was like, how what are you? Like, it's like, that's my specific. And then, weirdly, I'm attracted to a lot of genders and I can't explain it. - Oh. - It's like, these two ends of this background. - Yeah, okay. - But, yeah. Like, Dave Batista is her. That's my number one. - Like, number one. - It's me. - WWE, he's also an actor. He's also known for like fostering a lot of dogs. He's an advocate for women and for gay people. He hates Donald Trump and he's just an angel. - Oh, yeah, he has lesbian moms. - Yeah, lesbian moms. - Oh, yeah. - I know that. - So this would be like, you're not like only dating this, but if you were to build a man. - I feel a person. - That you were like, okay, this is it. - And Rain always jokes, she's really put bald men on the map. Like, she prefers it. - Oh, okay. - Because I think a lot of women don't want that. - Yeah, they want, it's like full head of hair. It's a very big insecurity for a lot of men. So the fact that you're like lifting them up. - And she's encouraged guys to go bald that had needed to. - Oh, that's like, that where it's like really kind of balding and she's like, just do it and they've done it and like, it's such a good look. - Yeah. - A lot of gays of pushy just open for them. It's confidence to me. It's really confident to walk around looking like that. - Just to be that brave. - That's it. - I do it when I, like, constantly say like, it's so brave, like, those guys don't give a fuck about anything. - Wow. - But sometimes they just have to. - Yeah. - Yes, yes, yes. Quick question about the bald. Do you prefer like a Mr. Clean or like a five o'clock shadow or does it not matter? - Actually, it's funny. You said that 'cause this morning I requested a five o'clock shadow. 'Cause it was kind of shaving his head and I was like, I don't like it. He was like, he has like an electric shaver. He does his head in the morning and I don't, I want a five o'clock shadow. - Yeah. - He's asking. - I just didn't know how specific of bald we were getting. - You don't wanna see like a glare in it. Like you don't wanna see your face, like you're like, a reflection or a reflection. - There's a shine we've gone too far. - Right. - That's so fair. - Okay, okay, good to know. But I'm sure there's a lot of men out there that are also very hot. But like I just wanna, you know, you're hot. - They're not for me, but yes. - Okay, got it. Just a little, a little something there. - We hardly ever crossed over on a guy. Like we've never gone for the same guy. Right, every once in a while someone, you know, maybe they'd walk in the room that objectively are hot, but we've never really, there were different opposites. - There was one guy. - There was one guy we both wanna date with one time. - He is. - Objective, yes. - Very hot. - But there's some guys that are just like everyone's. - That's what it is. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - Yeah, we put like seven years in between that and she was engaged. Like I waited until she was engaged. - Oh, I encouraged her about it. - Yeah, I wasn't. - Oh, wait, wait, wait. So like you guys were both single at one point and both thought he was attractive. But then after, I went out with him in 2018, 2019. And didn't have sex. We just made out a little and went on a couple dates. - Oh. - And then you also attracted to him. - He's just objective. - But not like into him at that point. And then we moved here. And I was like, once I was with my current husband, I was like, you should go out with him and just see. - I ran in to him. - She kept running in with him. - Yeah, I kept running in. - I was like, yeah, just go for it. - So quick question, not to get too juicy. - No, do it. - Not to get too crazy. - Yeah. - But do you think you would have needed that blessing? Would it have been weird if you had done that without you knowing or without the acknowledgement? - So I think our friends are always like, at which point am I allowed to date somebody that you dated? And when do we cross the line? This is not somebody that she really had strong feelings for her relationship with him. - So it wouldn't have been like a thing. - No, not at all. I think you told me, ran into him and I was like, you should maybe pursue it. I guess there's a lot of retrain. I was like, I ran into him. I didn't invent him. - I invent him. - What do you think? And I also would have been like, it's fine. But I don't know. Would it have been different if I was single? I don't know. And I think I would have felt differently about it. If he had said like, do you wanna go out? I would have never mentioned it. I would have never done it. And I probably would never talk to him again. I can't imagine a man in the world that I would ever let come between us. That would be insane. - Right. But we always talk about that. If you go in a date with somebody and it's not a love match and you think they might work with your friend, I remember doing it with this guy in New York. He took me on this great date. I remember he, like we spoke Spanish. I just, there was things about him that I thought he might be good for a friend of mine and I did set them up and they did go out. It didn't work out between them. But I just think why not? They get's not my ex. - Yeah. - So I think the worst case scenario is like your friend dates a person that kind of rejects them, creates a strife like the mandipatula, West Sierra of it all. - Yeah, like, they reject them. And then they picked, yeah, they're like, okay. - And your front row for like all the trauma that your friend went through. And you're like, I'm gonna date him now. - Yeah. - That's the top top of the case. - Yeah, 'cause it's like, that's something that hurts me still. And now you're like co-signing on their like rejection of me. - Right. - Like yeah. - Yeah. - There was one time, Jaz, who is like my bestie. - That's right. - Is like your longtime best friend or like a newer? - He's not my longest friend. But being two gay men who went to college together came out around the same time. We lived together for like six years. Like, we've been friends for like, I wanna say like 20 years. I think like, we have a lot of like, past that cross, but I have so many like best friends. But he's like probably like my bestest friend only because we have so many shared experiences. Like, liking a straight guy, like all these other things. But one time I did walk in on him at a party making out with someone that he knew I had a crush on. - Is that what like, crush me? - How were you guys really young? - Yeah, we were like, no, we were in like, in our 20s, just moved to LA, both working out like the same restaurant. What happened, did you, like, how did you guys work out? You know what? I forgot about it. [laughter] Don't say you're not a woman. He recently, he recently on the podcast, he was like, "Remember when I did that?" And I was like, "Actually, no, I kind of forgot about that." You did that, which is like great for like long-term relationships when someone does something very hurtful. No, I don't remember my reaction. I think it obviously was pissed. I think we were both really drunk. It was like at a house party, very mean girls, like Regina, George, and Katie here, and knew I had a crush on him, and then he went for it. We're still besties to this day. Totally. Probably. Probably. I think at the time I'm assuming I was like, "Fuck you." Yeah. "Fuck you did to me." But again, also, this was like a crush on a guy that didn't have a crush back on me. I would talk about him all the time. I don't think it's okay. He wasn't like, he tried to make out with someone that I was actively dating, and like in a merry way. He didn't make out with Ernesto, and I was like, "What are you talking about?" This was something that I would like, phone over a lot. I don't know. It's not. I guess everything is like, contacts to nuance, but if I say to a friend of mine, I really have feelings for somebody, and they're like, "What I'm going to do is go after him. Maybe I'll take a shot. I don't like it." No, yeah. I think it's really fucked up. Yeah. I mean, I feel like it's almost kind of hurt worse if you feel like someone chose your friend or for you. This happened. We all went on this trip. I had a couple girlfriends, and there was this guy that was on the trip, and I thought we were flirting. I thought we had a vibe. I had a crush on him, and we got back from the trip, and he asked my friend out. I was like, "Oh, my God. Whoa." Yeah. And I had to tell her, like, I'm not going to begrudge you this, but I feel a little rejected. And a little weird. He told her? Yeah, I was like, "Oh, because you had such a vibe with him, and like. " I thought we did. But we did not. I guess he had a vibe with her. Yeah. It was just like, we're all single. He's on the trip. I guess we're all flirting. Who's to say? Yeah. I just thought he was going to pick me. Yeah. And he didn't. And. But that didn't ruin your relationship with her. No, but I was like. Oh, weird. For me. I don't really probably want to hear all the details of your date. Like, I normally would hear about all the details of your date as, like, two single girl is running around New York dating, you know, and it actually turned out really fine. And. He fucked her over. Yeah. I totally dig it over it. And then I felt for her. He was kind of an asshole. Yeah. It was a bomber. Okay, okay. Like, I wasn't celebrating that. So, similar to the jazz make-out story, the night that he made out with him was the last. He was like moving out of the state. And he was like, away. He was also our co-worker. So, I think it would have been completely different if I was reminded every day by seeing him. If they started dating, that would have been completely like a reminder that, like, you screwed me over and over again. But literally, you never saw him again after that. So, I think. Perfect. That ended up helping. No, of course it did. I mean, I had a situation with a friend. It's kind of fresh, but like a really close friend of mine that I had actually would never fight on camera. I had had feelings for this guy on and off for a long time. We slept together kind of recently and he pursued a friend of mine and I said to both of them, like, what did you think was. This one are my best friends. And I said it. Both of them, what did you think was going to happen here? I was going to spend time with you too, hear about this, my vacations with you guys, and now they're about that, to me. And then they did it at a dating, but it's kind of like, you kind of try to predict what it would look like. And you're like, how would we ever get to, you know, a place where we could just all be out of like a fun hang? I don't know. It would be a little weird. Also luckily, they didn't really date, I mean, they're both out of my life, but you know, right. So you like, yeah, you guys are after that, you immediately were like, and we're done. I mean, I'm joking about this situation. It was very painful and some day I will talk about it a little bit more on the podcast. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I mean, there was, I also like, with Ashley and this guy, I told her I ran into this guy. We had a conversation, she was like, do you want to go out with him? My friend lied to me about this for weeks. Oh, wow. So that's what's, that's what's, I think that, that makes it worse too. Yeah. Like, I don't know. I think we're all trying to find somebody, you know, if you went to your friend, you're like, I think we have something here and how would you feel? And if I want to pursue this and they can decide, yes or no, but I don't know, the things can get tricky because it's like, we didn't work out, but I don't know. It would have been a hard no for me with these two specific people, because I'm around him a lot. And that was one of my best friends. And she knew how painful it was for me. And I was like, you're like negotiating with me about going out from now. What are we doing here? Yeah, that's crazy. So I think there's a million levels to this and like everybody's had a situation like this. I mean, there's so many. Like again, that's why I feel like, guys, like, we've gone through so much because like, we, we are, I've been the only two that have experienced kind of both flirting with someone. Like kind of like, what you're saying? Like, oh, I think he's flirting with me. Oh, I think he's flirting with me and like, and like, having that like, oh, wait, he chose, he chose someone else. No, like, you know, like, did you say you guys both something about straight guys? What did you say you both were industry guys? Oh, like, like, what it feels like, like, to be a gay man and be like, oh, maybe he, I think like, is he flirting with me? Is he not? Like, maybe he's gay. He hasn't really, like, announced that, like, that feeling of like, pining over someone that, like, you don't know their sexuality. Like, I have so many girlfriends that are such deep friends, but like, jazz will be the only one that knows, like, what that really feels like. Okay. I think it's that kind of like experience. Yeah. Like, to be like a gay man, that's kind of like, wondering, like, that feeling of like, not being sure. Obviously so many people feel that in general, but like, to be a gay man and feel that and be like, do you think he's straight? Like, maybe I don't know. There's like a vibe that I don't know. Yeah. Have you had that happen a lot? So many times. So many times. So many times. So many times. So many times. How does it usually play out? They're gay. I think everybody's gay. Yeah. One of the saddest things about being married is like missing that like crush because like, I like was a serial crusher. I just like the highs, the lows, the face and the arrows that you made up in your head. Like, it was so good to have it. And now I found a way back in with these celebrity crushes which feels good to me. But yeah, I was always like wondering. And like, similar to what you just said, I feel like everyone's on a spectrum. I feel like, especially with like, straight men, like, they don't, they don't have the ability to be as comfortable exploring their sexuality. What's that? Like, in pop culture, right? Like, once you like kiss a guy at a party, there's no going up for that. You're gay, like, whatever. Women are not held to this standard whatsoever. Right. Although I have kissed plenty of men that have ended up with women and like, married with kids. Like, it's fine. Yeah. I just thought the men are not as empowered to just go out. Yeah, it's not. I mean, and caveat. Those are theater guys. Okay. It's a little different in the theater. Yeah. You know. But to answer your question, I would never ask. I would always just kind of go off of like flirtation. And to this day, I will be like, these guys were flirting with me, whether it was for because of sexuality and they were attracted to me or because of attention. And they just liked the fact that someone liked them, regardless of the gender of that other person. Like, I would be like, there's too many. I'm not crazy. I'm not a crazy person. But there was one guy in particular that will remain unnamed to save him. But he was very flirtatious with me and I had a huge crush on him. And at one point, we were drinking. We were pre-gaming, which for those young people, if you don't know, that's so funny. Do they even pre-gaming? I don't think they do. No. They barely drink. They're definitely not working. They don't drink before they drink. You know, they barely drink. They barely drink. They don't drink. They're not drinking. Carlyne, did you pre-game? Okay. Carlyne is, she's different. She's different. She's different. She likes Kevin Jonas. She's a different one. Yeah. Well, Carlyne, are you a Gen Z? No. You're millennial on the cuss, okay? You're a cuss. She's still got introduced to pre-gaming before it started dying. Yeah. For those that don't know, pre-gaming was the act of drinking before going out to drink some more. Yes. Then people would come over and ask me in college, let's back out before we go out. So this guy was particularly flirtatious and we're pre-gaming when I, and I get a text from him saying, hey, meet us at the bars, like I feel like I can make out with anyone tonight. And I would have, I think there was something that flipped in me with that text that was almost so aggressive because the flirtation had always been so much more subtle, but to say something a little bit, a little bit hurtly sexual, a hurtly sexual, kind of pissed me off. And then, and I was also drinking. Yeah. And so I go up to the bar and he's like very excited to see me and he's like, hey, because like we were friends. Like this was like someone that I saw a lot and like we were, we were guy friends. Yeah. He was my bro. Anyways, I go up to the bar and I was like, can I talk to you outside? And I basically, the only guy that ever did this with, I was like, what did you mean by your text? Okay. Yeah. It was a joke. Like don't worry about it. Like I was just like, gas like joking, like how we joke, like we joke and I was like, okay, but like what if I ended up kissing you? Like what if I came in here? This is like a guy that's like not out straight, like does he ever said anything about being gay. I was like, what if I came in and kiss you and he's like, it wouldn't have been a big deal. Like we would have laughed it off. Like he's like, I have other gay friends that I joke around with. Like it wouldn't have been a big deal. And I was like, it wouldn't have been a big deal to you. Right. I started crying. I'm like, I mean, the tequila is flowing. I'm crying. And I was like, it wouldn't have been a big deal to you because it would have meant nothing to you. It would have meant everything to me. And then you're laughing it off as like the gay guy that ended up kissing a straight guy. And you think it's not. like it's on a joke to me, like that's messed up. Anyways, I'm basically like cussing him out at this point and saying like how fucked up it is, that like what this could have led to and like how like he thinks it's funny, you know? - Right, it's not a joke at all. - And then the next day after coming down. - What happened? - Oh, we don't hook up or anything at all. - But was he receptive to that? - He was receptive to it. - Okay. - He was like, I understand, like I'm so sorry, he like apologized, he's like, I understand I'm so sorry, like but I meant it as something fun and cheeky, like how our relationship is, which was flirty. - But you're flirty with me. - Yeah. - And you know what you did. - Yeah. - And so it made me feel crazy, yeah. - Yeah, and so I felt crazy. I felt like I was like, I'm going insane because part of our flirty relationship was like wondering like if actually something would end up happening, like how far could I take it? And to make a long story short, the next day we ended up like chatting on Facebook Messenger. (laughing) - I love this. - I just missed out on this story. - Yeah, I've been a long time ago. And then I basically was like, sorry, my I felt like my reaction was a lot. I think it's just because I like you more than just a friend, more than just a flirty relationship. I just like like you. I have a crush on you. And I think that just like triggered me. And then he was like, I'm so sorry about that. Like, you know, I am straight. Like, but like I love you. I love our relationship. And then we kind of never talked again. - Oh, okay. So you didn't like stay friends after that. - It's tough. - I mean, we kind of like, - I mean, unfortunately you had to be like the sacrificial lamb. I hope he learned a lesson from that. But like it does mean something to people when you say things like that. - Yeah. - I'm also proud of you. - I'm proud of the old you. - Yeah. - For like, say something. - That's true. - It is hard. - It's really embarrassing to be like I like you. - But it's, it's even gay, straight, whatever. It's just like, why not just say the thing. - Which is totally not like me too. I would never, like I'm not used to like, I said I would have Christians on these guys and just fought with them and just like, wonder the whole time. I'd never confront. I never was just like. - Well, 'cause it's easier than getting the answer. - Yeah, like a rejection is so much harder. And part of it was like also like a strategy for me to like never meet someone that was available. You know, like if I only had crushes on guys that I didn't know their sexuality, it's presumably straight. Like it was like a defense mechanism 'cause like then I could never get really hurt if I knew there was like actual potential there. - Well, this is like why I've been attracted to emotionally available people my whole life. - Right. - I mean, living in the same city as me or we're never gonna want the same stuff. - Right, it happens regardless of your sexuality, yeah. - But like it's the same defense mechanism. I'm like, we can't end up together. So this is safe for me. - Yes. - 'Cause I don't know what the end is. - Yeah, I've read this book before. - Right. - Did you work through that? Like did you have to come to that conclusion on your own or like in terms of pursuing people as a defense mechanism? Was that like any therapy or were you just like, I'm doing this thing? 'Cause now you're in a healthy relationship with someone who wanted to be with you. - I don't think- - Or do you just grow out of it? - What a beautiful question. - I think I just grew it also. - Yeah, I think I went to UC Davis, which is a big college, but it's in Northern California. It's a cow town. There's not a big gazing there. There's not a little gay people there. And the one gay person was my best friend, Jazz. You know, like I'm sure there's more, but the one person that I really knew was my best friend, Jazz. Once I moved to LA and we went out to West Hollywood and all these guys started flirting with me, I was like, oh, yeah. There was a little bit of like, not wanting to be in a relationship, but there was also a little bit of like, these are my only options. These straight men that are flirting with me once I came to LA and there was so many guys. - Guys. - It kind of went away because I'm like, oh, yeah. - I got stuck up. - But I will say there probably still is a little part of me that holds on to that because now I have crushes on all these celebrities. That Ernesto would say, I can't help. - Okay, a lot. - Manifestering. - I agree with that question. - I agree with you. - So, with Pedro and I have to- - Are you grown? - Maybe not. - That's a perfect way to end it. - You guys be the judge. (laughing) - This is a great episode on Personal Growth. - We will have- - Tell people where they can find you, your podcast, your social media, everything. - Thank you so much. You can find me at Ulyner Nesto and you can find my podcast current besties at Current Bestie's Pod. - Are you touring? - I just wrapped my first comedy tour. - Oh my God, congrats. - Yes, called "I Love Uly." 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