忖度と空気読みの違い

Domo konnichiwa shigeki desu. Today, I would like to talk about reading the air. Japanese people have been called "people who read the air" since a long time ago, right? If you look at the other person's face and don't have to say a word, you have to hold down on what you want to say so that you don't break the air of the place. In a sense, this is the most delicate and most beautiful part of Japanese culture. Among the listeners who are listening to this, there are also people who think that they want to master the technique of reading the air of Japanese people, right? However, I have something that I have been thinking recently. The meaning of the word "sontaku" has changed in the words of "Itsunomanika son taku". "Sontaku" originally meant "to control the feelings of the other person". But now, no one clearly says an opinion by imagining the direction of the person on the top and using it in such a negative way. For example, there is often a company meeting. While looking at the boss's face, I wonder if I can say this or that. As a result, no one raises their hand, no one says their own opinion. I think there is often a good thing about a daily company. In fact, no one says their own opinion. I think that this heavy air is the root cause of the Japanese society. Originally, reading the air is an effort to smoothen the relationship with the other person. Since it is a matter of communication, it is quite difficult. I think that there may be people who think that they can convey their thoughts to the other person. But if you only take that attitude, there may be people who can take the other person's things as if they are the kind of person who does not read the air. At times, it is important to say the truth, but it is also important to think about the other person's things. That is also because it is the kindness of the person. I think that there is a positive side to reading the air around that. However, in the current Japanese society, reading the air is a way of preventing the wind from blowing. In other words, it is digested. That is not to read the air, it is in a state of being controlled by the air. In other words, it is a matter of choosing the right things rather than the right things. It is the first time that it is difficult to avoid. This is how the situation becomes smaller and smaller. But reading the air in the original is more and more humanistic and should be more warm-hearted. For example, when the other person is falling down, you should not say unnecessary words, just keep quiet and go to the side. Or when the other person is tired, if it is normal, you can say jokes with a slight mouth, but without saying jokes, you can watch quietly. Reading the air is a wonderful thing. It is not a thought. It is moving from the thought to the feeling of the other person. Thought is an action that comes from fear. It may be criticized by the people around you. Your position may get confusing. That's why you make a thought. But reading the air is an action that comes from love. I don't think you should be confused here. For example, being careful with your boss at a meeting is a thought. But when a colleague feels that it is difficult to express something, it is better to read the air than to follow it. Both of them are similar, but the cat is completely different. Sontaku is a thing that makes the company organization tremble. But the power to read the air is to make the organization soft. The former person is conscious of the person, and the latter is thinking of the person. I don't think we should use the power to read the air. I think it should be used gently. When you look at the society, you think you are reading the air. In fact, there are many people who are just Sontaku. But reading the air is to understand the feelings of the other person. In other words, the original person is very active and creative. In the true sense, the person who reads the air is a person who imagines the position of the other person and feels the atmosphere of the place. It is a person who can say his opinion properly when necessary. If there is such a person, the atmosphere of that place becomes bright. Reading the air is not to be silent, nor to be polite. I think that reading the air is the intention of the person who thinks of the other person. Sontaku makes people silent. Reading the air is to connect people. I think we should not forget that difference. What is needed in the future era is that in the organization, in the relationship with people, it is not a person who does not build a wave, it is a person who can feel the feelings of other people. The power to read the air is not to be afraid of the surroundings, but it should be used for the kindness of the person. If such a person increases, the Japanese society will become more and more cheerful and more free. See you again!