confidence & self-love tips that have ACTUALLY helped me

Hello everyone, my name is Leoni and welcome back to Curiouser and Curiouser, the podcast. So the second episode of this season, we talked about confidence culture and how we have this culture of giving confidence tips that are mostly catered towards the individual, especially towards individual women, telling women that it's their personal responsibility to just love themselves more and get themselves out there and we're kind of forgetting about all the ways that, you know, like patriarchy and the beauty industry and the anti-aging industry are influencing our lack of confidence. I have consumed many, many confidence tips and confidence videos in my life in an effort to gain more confidence and most of these tips don't really do anything. But in that episode, I said that I keep a list of the few confidence tips that have actually helped me and you guys have expressed interest in me sharing that list. So that is going to be today's video, okay? All of the confidence tips that I have accumulated over years that have actually helped me gain confidence. Oh, I'm wearing a head. If you're watching the video version of this episode, I'm wearing a headscarf and it keeps falling off my head like it feels sliding back. Anyway, that's probably going to happen many times during this video. Where was I? Yeah, so in today's episode, I'm going to be sharing the confidence tips that actually helped me in the hopes that it may also help you at least a little bit. But all of this video needs to be watched in the context of me acknowledging that, you know, your confidence is not just, you know, like an individual thing. There's many things in our culture that may influence your low confidence. And if you struggle with low confidence, then that doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you or that you have some kind of personal failing, you know, you're not fitting the standard of a confident woman. Okay, before we get into it, of course, I want to share little whimsy moment of the week. My little most whimsical moment of the week was actually this weekend. I went a little girl's trip with some of my girlfriends to Hint in Belgium because there was a marathon there. And three of my friends were doing the marathon or the half marathon. And I was there to cheer them on with a fifth friend. Not only was this a magical experience because I am so proud of my friends for running the half marathon. And especially the marathon, that's crazy. But if you're cheering on, if you've ever done that cheering on someone who's running a marathon, you spend a lot of time kind of going through the city quickly going from one point to the other, trying to get there before the person that you're cheering on is getting there. And then you kind of stand there, just kind of watching waiting for your person to show up as like hundreds of people run past. And it's just really fun to see this like stream of people running by. And then like somewhere in the distance, you see your friend and they don't see you yet. You see them struggling and then there's this moment that they hear you shouting their name and they look up. You can see like their face light up and that excitement. And then also the excitement of like cheering that on and cheering that on. And like the moment is over in like two seconds because of course they're flashing by. But it's those like two little seconds of just like cheering and excitement that I love. But on top of that, it's also just the collective experience of seeing thousands and thousands of people running a marathon, first of all. But then also cheering each other on. And I was really experiencing this moment of I think is called collective effort vessels, which is a collective experience of joy of like a big positive emotions where everyone is basically just cheering everyone on. And a part of the marathon went through the city. So I saw a person who's front of their house was by the road. And they came outside with like a huge boom box. And I just started playing music, you know, like music with a good beat to cheer the marathon runners on. And in the house that we were staying at, we also went outside for a little bit because there was also a route of the marathon just like cheering on random people. I love those collective moments of joy where everyone is just suddenly on the same side. And everyone's just excited for everyone. And everyone's cheering everyone on. That was beautiful. Those are those beautiful moments where you're not really thinking about yourself. You're just being a part of something bigger. And you know, that's going to perfectly segue into the things that we're going to talk about today with the confidence tips that I want to share with you. This is a little bonus episode, by the way, of the podcast, which when I say bonus episode, I just mean that I didn't like prepare the episode. I didn't have to do a lot of research. I'm just going to be sharing the list that I already have. So I am someone who has struggled with their confidence for a lot of their lives. As most people have, I can assume I am someone who tends to really, really convince myself that I'm going to fail at something that I'm not going to be good at something. There are so many things that I would love to do that I don't even try because my brain has like convinced me that I'm going to somehow mess it up. And this is also why I really want to work on my confidence because I think a lack of confidence really stops you from doing the things that you love. And I often get told when I tell people that I really struggle with confidence. Most people's responses like no, you don't like you don't struggle with confidence like clearly you're a confident person because you know I have this YouTube channel. But I think it's important to realize that confidence comes in like different areas in your life. For example, I'm confident in my ability to make YouTube videos because I've been doing that for 10 years. But there are many other creative things that I don't really do because I'm not very confident in them or I don't share them on the internet because I'm not very confident in them. I tend to be very insecure when it comes to friendships and relationships. And when I went to the psychologist for my anxious thoughts, not like a real psychologist, but like I don't know what that's called. Like the the free psychologist that comes with your GP, I don't know what that is called in English. But I went to her for my anxious thoughts. And when I shared the things that I was anxious about, the first thing that she noticed was like you have a confidence issue, you need to work on your confidence. Because it's often my lack of confidence, my lack of belief in myself, that causes me to avoid the things that I'm scared of. Because it's often, you know, our lack of self-confidence and self-trust that makes us avoid the things that we are scared of doing, which is such a shame. I first kind of want to tackle the word confidence because to me, it invokes a whole different feeling than the word for confidence in my native language, which is Dutch. And the Dutch word for confidence is self-protower, which I really like because if I were to directly translate that back into English, it would be self-trust. And I think when we think of the word confidence, we very quickly think of self-love, you know, loving yourself, loving the way that you look, loving the things that you create, loving the way that you are in your own personality. But I think we're actually already kind of going wrong there. And that is that confidence is not about love. It is actually about trust, self-trust. I mean, the word confidence comes from the Latin confidentia, which means to trust, to deeply trust. It is not about thinking that you are amazing and loving everything about yourself. It is just simply trusting your own ability to solve your own problems and to do what you want to do. And it's just that little bit of reframing that always kind of helps me. Of course, self-love is also important. Don't get me wrong. But when we veer too much towards trying to love ourselves, I don't think we're actually building trust in ourselves. You know, when I am really, really insecure in the bouldering hall, it's not because I don't like myself. It's because I'm genuinely convinced that I'm going to fall down. And I don't trust myself to be able to make the next move to the next boulder because I'm too afraid that I'm probably just going to fall down. And I'm probably going to miss it up and then somehow break my leg. That lack of confidence in myself doesn't really have much to do with whether I love my body, but it's more a sense of do I trust my body or not. Okay, let's just go through the list. I highly recommend doing this too. A list of confidence tips that have actually helped me. For most of these, I do not remember where they came from. It's just a list that I go through when I am feeling very low and helps me. So the first thing that I wrote down is that confidence is all about self-security, feeling secure in yourself. And then the end result, the eventual end result of that may be more self-love, but the process of getting towards confidence is learning to trust yourself. It's about feeling safe in yourself. And I guess it's almost kind of like a sad realization that when I'm feeling insecure, I don't feel safe. within myself and with myself and with my own capabilities. So if I want to build confidence, I need to work on feeling safe with myself, feeling safe in my ability to actually solve problems when they arise. And this is why, you know, the kind of like platitude is true, this little platitude of like confidence is not about believing that you are a superhero confidence is about realizing that you don't need to be a superhero. It's a platitude. It's a bit cliche, but that is kind of what it all comes down to. You don't actually have to be perfect and amazing. If you continue to think, Oh, I need to find myself amazing. I need to be perfect. I need to be perfectly confident. That is actually not confidence because confidence is realizing that you don't need actually don't need to do any of that. You just need to learn to feel safe within yourself. And now this is of course easier said than done. The next tip that always helps me is becoming aware of the fact that we tend to compare ourselves to the best traits of everyone else. Every time that I feel insecure because I feel like I'm not funny enough or I'm not smart enough or I'm not outgoing enough or excited enough, it is because I'm comparing myself to others. I'm sure we're all aware of this. You know, confidence often comes from comparing ourselves to others, but it really helped me to realize that we are not like comparing ourselves to like one singular other individual. We tend to compare our whole self to like the positive traits of dozens and dozens, maybe even hundreds of people nowadays that we are capable of seeing hundreds of people on our social medias. You see all these people and their amazing traits and then we keep comparing ourselves to this collective of positive traits of other people. You know, I'll think like, oh, other people are much funnier than me. Other people are so much smarter than me. Other people are so much more fun than I am. So much more creative. But that other people is not one singular person. Do you see where I'm going? All of those positive traits could never exist in one singular person, but you are comparing yourself to the collective of other people as if that collective is one singular person that you should also be unrealistic. Next thing, I think confidence and insecurity can often be, you know, like feeling inferior or you're feeling that you're not good enough and this can also often crop up in friendships or friendship groups or among colleagues or something like that and you may feel like, oh, all these amazing people, especially if you struggle with your mental health, you can probably relate to this feeling of like, oh, all these other people around me are so amazing and I am like so much more inferior compared to them. In such cases, I like to remind myself that maybe you just have amazing friends, maybe you are not inferior, maybe the people they use around yourself with are just really, really awesome. Or I try to turn this around, you know, when I feel like everyone around me is like so much better than me, does that mean that I'm inferior or does that mean that I'm just, you know, a very supportive person that always sees the best in others. And if all of your friends and the people around you are so amazing, maybe that is a sign that you are too, because otherwise, why would they spend time with you? They choose to spend time with you. If you feel like they are so much more amazing than you are, then maybe that is a sign that you are also very cool. Oh, another one that really helped me was actually you don't need to be confident to do the thing. You can do things while being insecure, actually. And I think I spent a lot of time waiting for confidence to arise before I want to do the thing that I wasn't confident about until I realized, wait, you can actually do something even when you're not really feeling very secure in that. You can share that painting, even if you are not sure if you were going to like it. You can say that thing even when you still feel like very anxious when saying it. You can sign up for that marathon, even if you're not confident about the fact that you're going to make it. You don't have to actually be confident in your writing to start writing. You don't actually have to be confident in your looks to just wear whatever you like. When I started with my writing group, I'm part of a writing group that comes together every two weeks, I was so scared to hand something in and I really felt like I could only hand something in if I was like confident that it was good. And over the years, I have learned to just hand things in that I don't even really like yet. I'm just handing things in for other people to give feedback on even when I'm not really confident about it because you can actually just do that, right? You can just share things with people for feedback even when you yourself are not very confident in its quality yet. Then, and I'm sure we've all heard this before many, many times. Different people like different things. Yada, yada, yada. I've heard this so many times in my life like, yeah, who cares what other people think? There's always going to be people who dislike you. There's always going to be people who don't like the things that you say or the things that you make. You can't please everyone. And all those things, I heard them and then, you know, they just flew right over my head. And I was like, well, I'm going to try anyway. That thought never really crystallized fully in my brain until I heard it explained by my psychologist in this way. She told a fable, the fable of a girl and her mother on a donkey. The fable goes like this. Imagine a town and into that town travel a girl and her mother and a donkey. And the mother is sitting on the donkey and the girl's walking side by side. And there's people thinking like, oh, how can that mother sit on that donkey and not give that place to her daughter, how egotistical of her, how selfish, you know. So then they come to a different city. And this time it is the daughter on the donkey and the mother walking besides it. And people are saying how selfish of the daughter that she is not giving that space to her elder mother. Like, shouldn't the elderly be sitting on the donkey? How selfish of her. And then they come to the third town. And this time neither the mother or the daughter are sitting on the donkey and they are just walking with the donkey. And there are people thinking why aren't they using the donkey? This is such a waste of having a donkey that can carry someone like why would they both just be walking? That's like such a waste of this this wonderful animal. And the point of the story is, of course, that no matter what you do, people are going to dislike it. When I think to myself, oh, but what would other people think? Other people are probably going to think that I am really bad at this or other people are probably going to think that I really suck. I am treating other people's opinions as if it's a monolith as if there's like one true opinion that is held by other people. But that that just doesn't exist. Like, different people are going to have different opinions. There's always going to be someone no matter what you do that dislikes it. So even if you don't do the thing that you want to do, people are going to dislike you, right? Even if you don't try the thing that you want to try. I have a personal example of this. So I used to be not confident enough to wear the things that I wanted to wear. But I am now. And that was a long process. But one of the reasons that I am quite confident in the way that I dress is not because I don't care what other people think. I do still care what other people think. But I am very aware of the fact and have accepted the fact that there are going to be tons of people who don't like the way that I dress. Bright, I dress very colorful. I dress like slightly alternatively. It's just very like vintage Pinterest currently. But to a lot of people that is like a little bit too much and a little little too colorful, a little bit too out there. And I'm very aware that there are going to be people who therefore don't like the way that I dress. But the thing is, if I catered to those people's opinions, if I started dressing more grayish or more on trend, then the vintage gruelese would find my outfits boring, right? I'm very aware of the fact that no matter how I dress, there are going to be people who don't like the way that I dress. So I might as well just dress the way that I want to, right? If I were to only listen to that negative voice in my head, that is like, ooh, but people are not going to like it, then I would be catering to people that have completely different opinions and style as me, which I don't want to do that. And this brings me to the next idea that I think is one of the most helpful ideas. And that is the Taoist idea of inner nature and living in line with your inner nature. So an example of a space where I often feel insecure is when I am, for example, at some kind of party or surrounded by people that I don't know very well yet. And I will be filled with insecurity over not being like good enough as myself. I'll be thinking, oh, if only I was funny like that person or if I was more charismatic and outgoing like that person or if I had more interesting things to say like that person over there. But instead, you know, I feel like I myself am like too quiet or I'm often afraid that I'm really boring. Generally, the way that I am is going to make people not like me and I feel like I should be something else in order to be likeable, which I think unfortunately a lot of us can relate to, right? Like a lot of insecurities, just like feeling like we should be someone else in order to be liked or respected or whatever. And I always think of this Taoist idea of inner nature, which basically means everyone has an inner nature, everyone has a way that they are. I actually have it written down in my scrapbook journal from last year. Sometimes I like to use my journal to write down little reminders to myself. And these quotes come from the book The Tao of Poo. It says, "Everything has its own place and function. When you know and respect your inner nature, you know where you belong. But you also know where you don't belong." You know, it is about not putting square pegs into round holes. The idea of inner nature is it's very related to the Taoist idea of who way, which is to do nothing. And when I say do nothing, I don't mean like laying around in the grass. I mean not forcing anything. You know, not forcing wealth around peg into a square hole. If you try to live not according to your inner nature, but you're constantly trying to be someone else, well, then you're forcing something. Whereas if you live according to your inner nature, you will be like water. Like water that just flows along the path of least resistance, easily flows around rocks. If you live according to that sense of ease of doing nothing, then you will eventually by itself basically end up where you belong. By knowing who you are and just respecting that and not trying to change that, you will eventually end up where you are. Like in the example that I gave, if I'm constantly trying really hard to be more outgoing or to be someone that I'm not, first of all, people are going to notice that. Like it's not going to feel natural. And that will probably make people not like me that much. And it will probably attract the wrong kind of people. Whereas if I just embrace who I am naturally, which is a little quieter, a little introverted, I will attract people who are similar to me or who like those parts about me. That will happen, by the way, very often that I feel this insecurity pop up. And whenever I feel this insecurity pop up, my instinctual reaction is to try to push myself, try to be different, trying to force myself away from my inner nature. And when that happens, I think of the concept of inner nature. And I actively try to lean into the thing that I'm insecure about. So whenever I feel insecure about being too quiet, for example, instead of trying to be louder, I lean into the quietness, which sounds very counterproductive. But because I lean into it, I relax, I no longer come across as very uptight. And then that quietness turns into serenity. It could be the other way around, like maybe you are someone who is insecure about being too loud or too much and you're trying to make yourself smaller. If you're constantly trying to keep everything in and not live according to your inner nature, people will notice that. But if you lean into your loudness and your boldness, you will be more relaxed. And then that loudness or boldness will turn into excitement and you will attract people that like that about you. You have to radically accept who you are at your core and don't try to constantly force yourself into being someone else. Just be whatever naturally comes to you. And you will naturally end up in the place that you need to be. And this all sounds I guess a little woo-woo and spiritual, but it also just like logically makes sense. You know, if you are yourself, you will attract people who like yourself, right? Now, this is all easier said than done. Of course, I'm sure you can relate to having like a little negative voice inside your head that no matter how many great tips you find on the internet, there's always a negative little nagging voice inside your head that goes like, "Oh, you're stupid. You suck. You're going to fail this. People are going to think this, people are going to think that." And the question is how do you shut that voice up? Well, I have super helpful tip that I learned from my psychologist that is not actually a psychologist. And that is the concept of diffusion, which is basically you need to learn that your thoughts, your feelings and your behavior are three separate things that you know you are not your thoughts as they say. And she visualized this with three pencils. One would symbolize your thoughts, one your feelings, one your behavior. And we tend to believe that, you know, they all always point in the same direction. You know, when we feel like we're going to feel at something, we feel scared. And so we avoid doing the thing at all, you know, all the pencils are pointed in the same direction. And diffusion is learning how to separate the pencils basically that you can have your thought pencil pointing one way, being like, "Oh, you have to stop this. You have to not do this. It's all going to go wrong." But then you can still decide to have your behavior all pencil point the other way. And just do the thing anyway. This is basically just what I explained with like, "You can do things scared. You can do things confidently." Your thoughts don't actually have to master your behavior. And one little tip that can really, really help with this is taking that little nagging voice inside your brain and just giving it a name, any name, okay? Like, who is talking to you? Who's being mean to you right now? Is that your mom? Is that an imaginary friend from when you were younger? You can just give it a random name, okay? You can just call it Bob. It really genuinely doesn't matter. You just give it a name and kind of personify it. You might even give it a silly voice, okay? So that every time you feel negative thoughts pop up, you can think to yourself, "Oh, that's just Bob." That's just Bob talking to me. Hey, you're going to fail. No one's going to like you, Bob, Bob. And then you can just think to yourself, "That's just Bob talking." Bob? Not right now. I don't want to listen to you. I have things to do. It sounds silly and funny, but that is exactly why it works. Because it kind of downplays it, and you kind of start seeing it. It's like, "Oh, that's just one voice in my head. It's not everything. It's not me. It's not my entire being. It's not my reality. Just Bob talking." Sometimes I want to listen to Bob. Sometimes he has something good to say. Like, maybe he sometimes reels me in when I'm being impulsive, but most of the time, maybe I don't want to listen to Bob. And that's also okay. Classic psychology trick. I'm sure some of you know it, but I feel like this is one of those things that anyone can benefit from. Oh, the next one is also something that I learned in my little confidence course that was doctor recommended to me because I was told I had a confidence problem. Here's a little thought exercise. Okay? Imagine yourself waking up as a completely self-secure, confident version of yourself, a version of you that is just completely securing themselves. Imagine how is this person feeling, how is this person moving through the world, how does this person act, how do they carry themselves, but most importantly, what do they do in their job, in their friendships, in their hobbies, in their general life, what do they do that you wouldn't do? What would a confident version of you do that you wouldn't do? Think about that for a second. You might even write it down. This is a great journal prompt also. The answer to this question is your goals. Basically, the things that you should be striving for and the things that you should be doing. And remember, you don't actually have to wait to become a confident version of yourself to do those things. You can just do them confidently. Again, easier said than done. I am aware of that. I've definitely not done the things that I wrote down on that list. I don't even remember what I wrote down there. Now, all the tips I've given so far are basically individual tips. You know, and if you've listened to the confidence culture episode, you know that kind of the problem with this whole confidence industry is that it's way too focused on the individual. So the final few tips are not focused on the individual and maybe the most important ones. First one is, well, you really have to stop thinking about yourself. It really is true, and I think so many confidence tips, including maybe the ones that I just shared with you, just kind of lead you to think about yourself even more, to put all of your attention towards yourself. But Jemima Kerk was completely right when she answered a question on Instagram that was like, do you have any advice for unconfident young women by saying, I think you guys might be thinking about yourself too much. The only reason that you are thinking, ooh, people are going to think that I look stupid is because you assume everyone's looking at you. They're not. I'm being mean here. I need to stop being mean because I literally also do this. Basically, stop endlessly watching confidence videos about how to feel better and how to feel better in yourself and how to love yourself more. And instead, just go outside and like, help someone volunteer in your local area. I recently joined like a feminist activist group in my city. I haven't really been super active yet, but I really do, aside from the fact that obviously I care about the cause, I do think it's one of my favorites. those things that's going to help you stop being in your own head all the time and just put your focus outwards for once. If you're not thinking about yourself, you can't think negative things. Life hack. I always find it difficult to give this advice because I am aware of how harsh it can sound and I have been the recipient of this advice while I was in the throes of negative thinking spirals. And it feels really mean to hear that, like it makes me feel like, oh, I'm doing something wrong. I'm being selfish by thinking about myself too much. Oh, no, turning it into another negative thought. But it really is the case that when you are like in the throes of like a negative thinking spiral or just like negative self talk is you are constantly thinking about yourself in that moment. And it doesn't make you a bad person, doesn't make you selfish. This is not another reason for you to hate yourself. It's just an observation, right? You're just kind of neutrally observing this that when you are constantly thinking negatively about yourself, you are constantly thinking about yourself. And that is just not helpful. And you can very easily remedy this by just start doing things that stop you thinking about yourself and start you thinking about others. And the final two tips are, of course, everything that that episode about calmness culture was about most of our insecurities are taught to us by the patriarchy and racism and beauty standards. Okay. Every time that you hate the way that you look, just remember that there are some loreal CEO out there that is benefiting from that. And you know, sometimes that's all I need. Just that kind of like annoyance that I feel like that helps me get out of it. Basically every time that you don't like something about the way that you look or that you want to change something about yourself, ask yourself the following question, who is benefiting from this? Especially if you're a woman, who is benefit? Well, actually, no, not just if you're a woman, who is benefiting from this insecurity of mine. It's probably, you know, someone in the beauty industry, but for many, it could also be like some kind of random manosphere life streamer who is just getting clicks and engagement and money from saying things that are going to make you feel like you are not man enough, like you are not attractive enough. Someone's just benefit and telling you that women are evil in the enemy. Someone's just benefiting from that. And no one has set this better than in a wonderful song by one of my favorite artists. Paris Paloma, she has this song called As Good A Reason. That is about a conversation, a fictional, I think, conversation between her and an older woman who is very confident, and she thinks, how do you be so in love with yourself? Tell me please, because I need help. And then in the song, the response of this older woman is, every time you are succeeding, there's an old man somewhere seething when you hate the body you are in, or love you're acting just for him, as he counts his golden green in his ivory tower. Our fear it lines his pockets. So basically next time that you feel bad about yourself, just ask yourself, who is benefiting from this feeling? And if you have trouble turning your negative self talk into love and trust, maybe turning it into rage is easier, maybe that can be an easier first step. Anyway, those were all the things that are currently on this list. I made this list about half a year ago, started it and have kept adding to it as I go, because I do want to say all these things that I'm sharing in this video on this list are things that I am currently also still struggling with. That's why they're on their list, because they are reminders to me, basically. And I'm very much looking to expand this list. I basically actuate every time I read something or I find something online, or I hear someone say something that I added to this list. And so I think it would be really, really wonderful if you guys want to share things that you would add to this list, like little confidence tips that have helped you personally, like truly, truly change something in your brain and genuinely change your life in a certain way. I would love to read them. Yeah, and then I just want to end with a little housekeeping update. So this is the final episode of season one of curiouser and curiouser. I already know that I want to come back for a season two, because I have more ideas. And I did these two little simple bonus episodes that are just like very easy for me to make. So I have some time to kind of prepare new episodes. And now there's going to be a small hiatus. I'm not sure how long it's going to be just a few weeks, I think, so I can prepare the upcoming episodes. And a few of you have recommended to just maybe change the podcast into a biweekly episode thing. So I have more time to prepare, but it's still kind of like an ongoing thing. But I think I really prefer this way of doing it. And that is because these episodes, like the more researched episodes, they come to be not because I like pointedly decide I want to make an episode about this. And then I'm going to research it. They come to be because I just read a bunch of stuff that I find interesting. I go down rabbit holes and then I make notes on them and then kind of common threads start to appear, common themes start to appear. And I think to myself, oh, I could make an episode about that. So it's kind of the other way around. Like a lot of the episodes were just a result of stuff that I read like last year or before that and notes that I made months before I even thought about having a podcast, you know? And it's that kind of non-pointed way of writing that I think actually leads to the most creative and interesting episodes and interesting connections between things. So I never want to create a situation where I'm like, oh, in two weeks, I need to have an episode about this concept. So now everything that I'm going to read and write needs to fit into this specific concept. And instead, I will just take a few weeks where I just read whatever I find interesting. I just research and think divergently instead of convergently towards a specific episode topic. And that actually works better for me. And I also think it leads to more interesting connections between things because I'm not already filtering everything that I read and everything I think and write through a lens of like, oh, this is the topic that I'm going to make an episode on next week or in two weeks. I hope this makes sense. This is just a creative process that works well for me. So yeah, follow me on Instagram, curiouser and curiouser pod, or at the book Leo, if you also want my personal Instagram. I will, of course, post on there when a new season is going to be coming. I am already very excited about it. So yeah, I guess this is a good bye for now, but I will be back soon. OK, you don't have to miss me for a very long time. For the people who don't know, I also have a channel where I talk about books called the book Leo. So you can also subscribe there if you want to see my videos that I do keep posting on there. So yeah, I really hope that you enjoy listening to this video. Thank you so much for listening to the first season. I had such a blast making this and I will see you soon. Goodbye.