Comparison is the Quiet Thief of Joy | Episode 85 - The Bare It All Podcast

Is the World Designed to Make Us Insecure? Just to fit in, but at the end of the day. Hey guys, welcome to another episode of the Baritol podcast. So for today our topic is about the world is designed to keep us insecure or the powerful statement Agadagad Well Bhagat Naba. Why did the world design us to be insecure? Is it intentional? Is it not I have a feeling akos personal opinion Co it's not intentional. I have a feeling it's really us that Yuma insecurities nothing or Yuma world and its resources. It's because of the people that consists of the world. How Social Media Fuels Comparison & Unrealistic Standards Why do you think the world is designed to keep us insecure #1 Social media. Social media is now a playground for a lot of things. Pros, cons, positive, negative. Your interpretation on social media ion really depends on you. So call Gila Gamit mobile and social media for the purpose of just having one for business, for to share your hobbies, your likes, to share your life. Whatever your reason may be, it makes you feel that social media nowadays personal. These are just my opinions you can have your own but I feel that ever since like similar age of social media not pakadami issues not pakadami toxic behaviors social media non social media and that many toxic behavior na nalabas samana Tao is an insecurity. Comparing yourself to others became a big big thing because dial to social media in personality, you tend to compare your life to theirs or social media actually for me is #1 but two again beauty standards. I think social media issue not to way Pansene Nino neditos a Filipinos. Or picture for some reason picture or video. Lagging physical target every video celebrity influencer picture somewhere physical attributes. Video So my teenage years outside noise Some beauty standards which no one can ever ever meet. Reasons to hate on people Beauty standards you know ever. No one can ever meet the BA beauty standards. Cafe eBay ebayen baata una salahat bucket to my beauty standard the BA for me. It's so unic for me on beauty standard case. You're basically saying that if a person is not this beautiful or not this sexy Hindi Salah beautiful, you're basically scaling Ma Tao or everyone every, any gender. You're basically saying certain level of beauty, certain level of intelligence or certain level of weight in your in your standard, they're not enough. I feel that it's so toxic to have that mentality because now everybody feels insecure every single time. Nobody or eating disorder or beauty standards, you know, but since never beauty standards because you cannot please everyone kite an ongoing MO. You cannot please everyone. Them being a basher is just who they are at this point, so they're never going to stop being bashers. Choosing to Mute Toxic Noise and Live Your Own Life So you the receiving end of it choice. It's your choice Nakoma Papa de la cataloga sabe about you based on others perception of you. Then you're part of the problem. You get what I mean? There's already a problem which is the best social with the toxic side of social media and the toxic side of the users of social media. It's always going to be there. Hindi and Mahwala. As much as we want each and every negative person, each and every basher to just not have a social media account, it will never happen. It's a free app, everybody can be on it and even if you take down their account, they can just simply make another one. It's just a never ending cycle of hate that we cannot run away from. It's just part of our it's just part of our culture now. Especially in a culture nowadays. Nowadays it's just being human is scary. Nowadays, if you think about it, making mistakes is so scary and that's what makes everybody so scared to live because they feel that if they don't meet the the standards of everybody else Hindi sela enough, they're not enough. De BA imagine, imagine doing everything you could or imagine ikao and yet it's still not enough. I don't think society is the problem at this point. I think you are the problem now because you have a choice. You have a choice to mute the noises around you, remove the background noise and just live your life 'cause it's always going to be there. If there's one thing that Hindi Nathan matatangal unless Mawalalalahatnam social media platforms, I think that's the only time. But I don't think that's ever going to happen at this point moving forward. The haban to matagal most of the modernize the Madame social media platforms. It's a never ending cycle. Unrealistic standards ikawat iko den a ma pagod mawala casseri limo identity crisis madid presca unrealistic standards. Don't Lose Yourself by Pleasing Others; Seek True Validation The only validation you need and the only thing that you have to listen to is God, yourself and the people that genuinely love and care about you and know you wholeheartedly know you and what you are and what you have. You. What have you become the other about you? Nahindi maganda. These are just their opinions. Gusto Lang de la mangla ET bored la SE la sabaji misdirected anger la nyana pino project nila saeno. Your expectations. That's not you anymore. You're going to lose sight of who you are if you keep if you keep pleasing others just to fit in. But at the end of the day, because you're running a different race, it's not your race to run Hindi. That's not the destination that you should be going. You're running another person's race. Sometimes you tend to look at social media and you mistake inspiration and pigs as pig at inspiration guys as you're inspired by someone's work ethic, inspired by someone's let's say business career looks inspired and being pinnepeg Mosella Hindi peg is that blueprint. Understand the Difference Between Inspiration and Insecurity But it doesn't necessarily mean insecurity cassettes from jealousy guys. Insecurity is naya ingit kasabuhaina meron celas echura nilasa yon naya ingitka. Technically you know insecurity gustomo eco den meron gustomo gano caden inspired. When you say you inspire me, it means you're inspired by someone's journey, career. How did he get that sexy? You're going to eat healthy. Inspired is that? The standard. So previous episode not insane Abaco you say in your deba that we have different paths. Timing is everything and journey more is journey and journey more Hindi pareos, a journey in an IBA Hindi more Alamion sacrifices to get to that point in their lives and they don't know the sacrifices you had to make also to get that, to get whatever you have in your life. That person did not go through a series of heart breaks and pains and rejections. Journey, yeah, so feeling road to get to that point Nakita success you don't get to say because that's called insecurity. You're projecting insecurity when you invalidate someone success someones feelings that roots from insecurity, Ayo Moni acknowledged. It doesn't mean that it's not happening for you. It can't happen for others. Life does not work that way. When things are not happening for you, there can be many reasons. Either it's not for you or either you're running another person's race or you're comparing yourself to that person in best the focus Casa growth more. It's a journey more OK, so you guys it's you don't lose just because someone else is winning again. You peers more, you more or you more or you best friend more. You winning, you winning, you successful area young Taquita more young dream Synagon food in the big Sabian successful is that's the end of the world for you. That part of that person's life is the timing that God put for them. Ito young times Abu Hain dilana Shanaman na na antiren cela na kuhan and Elayon ka said this is their time, It's their time to shine. Cela naman diba indeed dahil cela naman E big sabi hindon ikawa Lana Hindi bisa being on ekao Hindi Mona Hindi Mona Mara ram daman Omaha met yo ina and taimo not time to shine MO Hindi on. It's never like that. The High Cost of Comparison and How to Live Your Own Life I believe that we run our own course tala Gaye we decide how our life is going to go tayo almadi decision. If we choose to always put ourselves down and put others down to make us feel good, then your heart is full of spite. Then you're going to be a person that's going to be filled with jealousy, insecurity, anger, resentment, instead of focusing on your own personal growth and your own personal journey. Ang boa Indi taina boisa Mundo para E comparion bohaina tensei bang Tao. You are wasting your life if that's the case because you are so busy, so busy comparing yourself to other people. You are so busy comparing yourself to other people's journey. Deserving kaden of deserving kaden sabuhaina ina asamot pinapagarapmo that you're also worthy of all the good things this life has to offer. You are so busy meddling in other people's lives that you forgot to live your own faxion. Guys, that's the truth. Other people spend so much time on social media nitpicking every single thing they would see. Celebrities, content creators. You're gonna break them apart thinking that it will make you feel good. Does it make you feel good? Does it honestly make you feel good? Maina Baba go BA sabuhimo every time. Sumika la magen da hills a gagnani me pero la mannan dahil gagnani like every single time. For what? Where does it root from? Why are you that angry? Do you ever question yourself as a person who does this a lot? Why do I do this? Why do I hate this person? Believe me, voila, you're projecting. That's what you're doing. You're projecting whatever you feel inside to other people to try to make you feel good. But it's never going to work. It's never going to work because you're not focusing on your own journey. You're not focusing on your life. You're so busy. Caring about others people's other people's lives, I'm pretty sure. You're spending so much time on the wrong things instead of focusing on what matters. And that's you. You forgot that you matter too. You forgot that your journey matters too. For me, you're Nowadays they're so busy comparing their lives to others that it becomes self destruction, that it becomes a cost for self destruction. You forget who you are. You forget that basically you turn into someone that you're not. You keep conforming to the norm, trying to fit in, trying to achieve the unrealistic beauty standards of the world. And what happens to you at the end of every day. Messiah Khaba, ask yourself that question while you're listening to this podcast. Are you happy? After everything you have done to fit in and to look good, Is it enough? Do you feel enough? I want you to answer these questions as you listen to this, to this podcast. You can comment your answers. If you don't, then that's a sign you're doing something wrong. Conforming always to the norm and what others, what others feel you should look like will always make you feel that you're not enough. Because Hindi, most Hindi most standard, standard. It doesn't make you ugly, it doesn't make you unsuccessful, it doesn't make you unworthy. It just makes you insecure every time online and you feel. Silla long bar me carapatan machiuon ekorinimani Ekoriniman Baket feeling more Hindika worthy of that Baket feeling more porquet silaganon eko Hindikana worthy of that kind of life. You're also worthy. Why Believing in Yourself is Key to Overcoming Insecurity I think this episode is just to remind you that it's OK to be inspired by people that you look up to. It's OK to be inspired of whatever you see on social media or the encounters you have with other people. It's OK to be inspired by them. That's so normal. As human beings, you should be inspired because it helps you learn, it fuels you, it gives you, it fuels you to become the best version of yourself, to make you stronger, to see. Now, OK, it's achievable. It's attainable, but it's not meant to make you insecure. That's a choice. If you feel insecure of something, it means you're lacking something and that's not on the physical. You're lacking faith in yourself. What you lack is faith in yourself. You lack confidence, you lack you lack believe Sasarelli union casseto ma taunto I'm sure not achieve nilayan capabilities nila alumnila life. To believe in myself, I have to dream, I have to manifest, I have to have faith that I can do it. That's why they were able to attain it. And that's the difference between you and them. You lack confidence. You lack faith in God and in yourself that it could happen to you. You may comment and say possibly and Sakhin Miss Dani privileged Kakase Kayakaya Musabihinian dreams. Dreams are not for the privileged, Hindila privileged or you can't achieve anything anymore. That's not true. That's mindset, mindset, perspective and faith in yourself Aqua and a perfect ingredients and to making things happen for you again. Also power of manifestation prayers. But mostly it starts with you. So if you keep worrying about other people's lives and you're so fixated on other people's lives except yours, you are really going to stay the same. While the people that you're comparing yourselves to just keep getting more beautiful, getting more famous, more happy because they're running the race, you're not running yours. That's it, guys. Stop Living for Others and Embrace Your Own Journey I think this episode should inspire you to start focusing on your lives and focusing on yourself. To have faith that you know in this life, things are always going to just be modernized. I'm fast-paced now, every year, my Bagon platform, my Bagon Instagram, my Bagon TikTok, my Bagon platforms, to always make us feel that, to always make you feel that way. If you are watching this episode, Hindi titiga lambu hai parasateni, life is just going to keep going and going and going and going. It's always up to you how you're going to choose to live yours. I've said this in past episodes, you have to stop living for others and you have to start living for yourself. What do you want? What is your standard? What are your expectations? What are your dreams? The dreams of others is not necessarily supposed to be your dreams too. You can have your own, you can have your own, you have your own journey. Live through it, go through the process step by step. No matter how hard life gets, life will always. If there's one thing I could tell you guys, life is just going to get harder and harder as you get older. And I think I've said this before in other episodes, Responsibility, Dad. Everything else is modernizing. Everything is just going to pile up. And if you're going to use all of that as an excuse to move forward with your life and to yeah, if you're going to always use those things to be an excuse, then you are really the problem. Just this is just a reminder that you are worthy and you are deserving of all good things this life has to offer. You just have to tell yourself that. You just have to learn to have faith in yourself, to believe in yourself that you're also capable and worthy of all of those things. It's OK to be inspired by the others that you. It's OK to be inspired by the people you look up to, but don't ever make you. Don't ever make yourself make yourself feel less than just because they have more, because you can have that too if you just believe in yourself. Thank You for Listening: Until Next Time Thank you guys for watching this episode and I hope to see you guys on the next one. Bye.