Bonus #185 - Live Call Show Vol. 42 [PATREON PREVIEW]

A lot. So quick context, grew up in a small town, America, went to college right down the road from my house, stayed at home during college, got a degree that is functionally useless and have been working random jobs ever since. Sort of directionless career wise right now. Okay. And I've always felt this like push that gets stronger the older I get to like run away and fucking move to a city or move abroad and just like get out of my small town. Sure. You know what I mean? I get that of course. Even though I like you're talking to two guys like I'm moving to New York in their 20s, we get it. Exactly. I love my family and I have a lot of really good friends that I love. So that makes it like a little harder for me. Of course. To like grasp that. But anyway, six months ago, I fucking hit my job and I need something new. So I was looking at scheme out in jobs in the Alps. Oh yeah. But I was like too late in the season to do that. So I just got a scheme out in job like down the road for me. And it's been off the resume. Be up the ski resort resume a little bit. Yeah. And then maybe next year, maybe next year, I got you somewhere in Europe. Yeah. That's awesome. So I got the chance to go on like there's like a gap four week gap between spring and summer or summer and winter. We get laid off for four weeks. So I said, fuck it. Backpacking trip to Europe for 11 days. Fuck yeah, dude. Yeah, it was sick. It's awesome. I was telling my sister about it. And she was like, that sounds cool. And I was like, how you want to go? Because she happened to be finishing up her semester. So we went to explore the air a little, right? Love that. And it was like awesome. It was dream come true for like the last 10 years. It's been something I want to do, right? Hell yeah. In Paris, I met this girl off hinge. And we had like a pretty fucking, you know, three that's all three solid days together. That's the dream backpacking trip. Shack up with the Parisian bitch for a fortnight. Nothing better than that. I'm saying. It was sick. So now she's like, Hey, you should come live in Paris. And I'm like, I feel like there's a lot of things pushing me in that direction. Like I really got nothing going on here. Socks dick America fucking sucks. It's getting exponentially worse. Yeah. So I'm like, I don't know, maybe I should just go to Paris and like see what's up, even though like, I know realistically, maybe it doesn't work out with this girl, but who fucking gives a fuck dude? Like that's a thing. If you felt sort of directionless and have this malaise, and this is just sort of naturally in front of you, and you're young enough, like you're young enough, you don't have shit kind of holding you back. Whatever it's like, just fucking go. What's the worst that can happen? You're going to fucking, you have to get to find another fucking ski lodge job. Yeah. I got to, I got to hunt. You'll be able to find, they're not asking about the gap in your resume when you fucking apply for a ski lodge job. Yeah. And listen, it doesn't work out in Paris. Fuck it. Try a different city. You know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, that's, to me, this sounds cool. And this sounds like the kind of thing where what do you really have to lose, you know, like go see if you like it. If it doesn't work out with her, all right, you lived in Paris for six months and it was a cool, you'll be able to tell that story of the rest of your life. And by the way, that might be enough for you. That might scratch this itch, right? Like, because I'm like, you know, I remember starting because we have a very, me and I'll just do have a very specific kind of like dork, dorks around America, like thought of like, you know, moving to New York is like like, that's our eat prey love, right? When you're like a fucking, we're like a fat schlub who's like, I want to get into comedy. Like New York is like the ultimate thing. Uh, yeah, I, I, and I remember when I was like 20 being like, man, I thought I'm making it in New York. I'm going to fucking kill myself, right? When the reality is like, the older I got, the more I'm like, I would see friends of mine who would like come to New York for 10 years. That was all they needed. Then they moved back. I saw people that moved in for a, moved here for a couple of years, had a great time and left. People who moved here and realized it wasn't for them. Like these, these experiences, look, could you be a fucking guy who just lives in Paris and you have fucking French kids and like, whatever. Yeah, that's one way it could work. Could you be a guy who just has an awesome, or not even awesome, like, oh, the weirdest six months of your, like, you know, you and this girl have a weird relationship, you break up, and then you stay in Europe and backpack for three months and get your dick sucked in Berlin and fucking, you know, go train to train whatever the fuck like, right? Either way to me, you're never going to, this is so perfect because you don't have a job that you're that worried about. Your expenses. It seems like are probably low. This is the time to do and believe me, believe me, if it wasn't, I would tell you, right? I would tell you it's fucking dumb, but you know, you're not, you're not about to come up for tenure at your fucking university. You're not, you're not about to get promote. You're not about to make the union. Like, you're fucking serving up fucking hot chocolate and fucking teaching kids how to go down the bunny slope, right? Like, you can find that job after you wash out of Europe or case scenario. So this is the time, bro. This is the most open and shut question we've ever actually gotten because I don't even see one negative if I'm being completely honest. Yeah. So the reason I needed like some outside perspective is because I'm going to talk to my friends and family about this and they're going to be like, oh, but we'll miss you. And they're going to hit maybe a little guilt trip and like you should stay and like we won't be able to see you. And I just needed someone else who's like on the outside with no dude, yeah, association. How old do you bike out of curiosity? Do you say 27? Yeah. Did you got to go now, bro? You gotta go now. I'm running out of time. You gotta go now, man. I'm on the doorstep of yeah. No, no, it's if you don't go now. And by the way, yeah, this is so, you cannot, you cannot let your friends and family guilt you into this shit. You cannot, bro. You will literally, this is crazy to fucking heighten this so much, but there are certain moments in a person's life that dictate how your life turns out. I'm not kidding. This is one of them. And if you become a guy who lets guilt and the familiar and inertia of how you grow up stop you from having new experiences, you will be this guy forever. You will be the coward who didn't go to Paris forever. Even if your life turns out good on some level, you've changed who you are. You will, dude. And I'm speaking of a guy who's like, I honestly, dude, I've been courageous like five important times in my life. And the rest of the time, I've been a complete coward. But he was like, you know, moving to like just being like, you know what? I want to do stand up. And even though, I mean, you know, I went to therapy because I want to do stand up and my family guilt, like, I had to have a therapist basically tell me doing stand up was okay. And I still didn't listen, by the way, I went back to school, I had to learn it for myself. And then was like, no, she was right. Moving to New York was a big one. Fucking leaving hometown when I was making like 30 grand a month for no, for no, with no like, you know, certainty that shit would go well. And like, we've been really rewarded more than I even fucking could imagine. And it's like, you know, and look, some bets haven't worked. Sure. Like, I've had some fucking bad, some bad shit that didn't work out, whatever. But like, you know, there's a couple moments where it's like, you have to throw everything away or that are that are scary. And it's like, if you just power through that shit, you just become a better version of yourself, win or lose. Whether that situation went right or wrong, now you're a guy who takes chances and doesn't let, you know, doesn't let his family and guilt stop him. And that, that in and of itself will be bigger for you than even going to Paris in my opinion, speaking as someone who's, you know, who's had a couple of these moments in a couple hard conversations and a couple hard decisions. Yeah, that's my advice to you. But I couldn't, I couldn't more strongly believe that you should go. Fuck yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So do it. And yeah, call, call us back from a fucking French from French internet when you're all set up up there. Absolutely. Did you got, did you got a chamagne when you're in Europe? I did not. I'll just just look for excuse to talk about his vacation. Go ahead. Well, you should definitely go, that place is fucking awesome. It's like, it's like, it's like, it's like, it's like, basically a French like ski bump town. And it was like, okay, I was only there for one night with my wife like near the end of our trip. But I was like, holy fuck, this is the coolest fucking place. That's awesome. It's just like so many young people were really doing that ski bump life up there. And God, you should seek that out. I love it. I love it. Go out there. But definitely, definitely, yeah, I fully agree with everything stuff said. This is, this sounds fucking awesome. Yeah. Sounds like you got nothing to lose. said, Hey, worst case scenario, you're just back in six months to a year, but calls, calls back in a year. We want an update either way. All right. Fuck yeah. I will do so. All right, big dog. Good luck. All right. Thank you guys. Love the pod. Love what you do. Keep it up. Bob, thanks for talking to me. Take it easy. Wow. He's got to do that. Yeah. He's that's fucking these. I mean, it's like if you drop your life and go to fucking Paris, have the reason is because you want to get French pussy and sounds like he's got to line up. And by the way, even if you move back, now you're the guy. Dude, how many people remember when we were like, I remember like, I remember comics who came to New York, failed, right? Older people. Yeah. But they were not failed, but they were just like, they just wasn't for them. Like, I had friends who like older comics who like were past at the cellar or had a TV credit. And it's like, yeah, did you have the fucking exact career you wanted to? Maybe not, but those guys are you, you go back and you talk about your six months in France. You're so much more interesting than the version of yourself that just stays there the whole time. Totally. You just had like, I had friends who came to New York, had some success and realized all this work isn't worth it, but they had some cool stories. And a lot of those guys helped me just become a better standup or like, and you could be a guy who some kid from your hometown could talk to you about living in France. And then you could actually you could help somebody else, you know? So anyway, it's beautiful. We're all for having transformative life experiences and taking gambles here on this podcast.