The podcast offers a humorous and heartfelt exploration of personal growth, friendship, and bold life decisions through the lens of "big swings" — major, often unexpected changes in one’s life. Hosts Benito and Mary Bephrone share relatable anecdotes about moving to New York, changing careers, proposing, embracing new relationships, or making unexpected personal choices. They weave in themes of vulnerability, self-reflection, and the emotional toll of relationship anxiety, particularly relationship OCD, while maintaining a comedic tone rooted in pop culture and everyday life. The conversation also highlights the value of deep, authentic friendships, such as secret trips and shared traditions, and the importance of emotional honesty. Personal stories about family, identity, fashion, and even political views add depth and authenticity. The hosts encourage listeners to share their own "big swings," turning the episode into a participatory experience. The tone is playful, self-aware, and deeply human, blending humor with meaningful insights about modern life and connection. It’s a celebration of risk, change, and the joy found in imperfect, real relationships.
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Hi there.
I'm Benito Skinner.
I'm Mary Bephrone.
And this?
Is?
Rye.
Rye.
Are we recording?
We're recording, yeah.
Dad say, hey.
Hello everybody.
Dad, what are you-- what are you right for?
Uh, I write for it.
No post-appointment service.
Oh, and I'll leave.
Oh, my god.
I'm thinking of that crap.
It's like I had a fine time.
I don't need to rate it out of 10.
Look at her.
You just--
I'm going to get my daddy in this bar.
No, for real, y'all.
You don't need feedback on everything.
Do you know what LC told me to talk about on-ride?
That's like actually so insane.
What?
In Idaho on the ballot right now, you
can vote for the state gun.
So my dad's going to write in squirt.
Yeah, squirt, gun.
Or nerf.
Squirt or nerf.
Nerf, too.
Yeah.
Dad, you look great.
Look at this, man.
I believe any appointment I think, well, it's my wife's call.
I know it's a text.
I was your appointment.
I go, I just laughed.
I just-- first of all, let me figure it out.
I want to figure it out.
Can I sit-- let me sit in the parking lot
of a sonic driving for a second, eat a couple tater tots.
And I'll let you know.
I'll let you know.
Let me mold this over.
Hey, the Cavity Filling hasn't settled yet.
I'll let you know.
For me.
This was me every week as a kid.
I drink so much tang that I just--
Yeah.
And then sprays for spiders like it went to me.
Like, how I was and I go, well, I haven't seen a spider
since he left, but it's only been five minutes.
Give me-- give me at least 30 seconds.
Wait, you're putting bars today.
I'm going to get my daddy needs a subway take.
Karim?
Do you get a re-dye?
Yeah, I did it today.
Oh, wow.
I did a fresh mom.
I shaved the mustache, got a re-dye.
I like it, yeah.
We did shorter.
I wanted, like, die hard.
My parents live reaction to the hair.
This is huge for the pod.
You're getting it.
They loved it.
Well, I got nails today, so--
Check out the nails.
And I got gems on not to flip you off,
but I did get gems on the middle of fangies, yeah.
Yep.
I'll see you later.
Hey, Dad.
My mom is in the back.
Hey, miss y'all.
My mom's like, that's my bitch.
Do you bring nails in?
Mama's soup.
He says, "Mom, your mom."
Oh, they look sweet.
I will say--
That's our mom.
One of my favorite jokes in season two
is a character to Mary Beth goes,
just seeing Benny and Benny's mom, and you go,
also my mom.
Also my mom.
It's good.
All right, we love you.
Love you too.
Thanks for getting--
Bye, y'all.
We'll talk to your managers and agents,
and just get this signed off.
We'll send you the audio.
We need clearances.
Of course.
OK, bye.
We'll do DocuSign.
Love you, bye.
Perfect, bye.
Not my dad knowing DocuSign.
He's going to get a survey about his experience
with DocuSign.
My dad's going to be so happy.
You know, that's a shit that I really can't stand.
I love that you--
Because he said this to me, and I was like,
I think I know what you mean, but there's
texts that are from random state senators that I can't vote for.
I had ice replies stop every time now,
because I need to be free from the shackles.
It's crazy.
And also, I think a lot of them say David,
so he put my number somewhere.
I don't know where.
Well, your dad had stolen valor because your sister's husband,
David, texted me after my dad died,
and I thought that it was your dad.
I know, and you texted him, and talk about texting
a parent, some shit like that.
They're like, oh, I have fucking dementia.
She was so-- like, when I said that was so sweet,
you texted Mary Beth, he was like, um, OK, did I maybe call?
Did I call?
She said text.
Yeah, that it was your brother-in-law.
I'll put you in a home tonight.
D-I-L, you go remember.
I can't wait for you to put me in a home.
Well, we're--
I'm going to leave towels all over it.
What did I say when you said I have to use your shower
for a couple of days?
And I said, OK, we're going to work on not leaving the bathroom
like the rain forests.
Yes, the rain forest cafe.
Rain, rain stick.
I want a rain stick.
I'll send you my address if you have one.
Marshall.
Marshall, your interior designer.
Let's get a rain stick.
I love the relationship between me and this lovely man
that, of course, Jake Samus, Sakura-ity.
People security.
And I've been doing my--
not the people security.
That's going to stick with me for a couple of days.
I didn't come up with that.
But I've been having so much fun.
It's kind of like me and my assigned bestie and class
doing a group project together.
I finding things for my apartment and playful.
I have a new friend.
In New York, I'm just making all these new friends.
I love it.
That's just the power of New York.
Can I talk about one man today?
One Chad Senzel.
Oh, right.
- Oh right, not the Chad that you're in the son of with.
- No, 'cause we haven't seen him since.
- 'Cause you're not in hotels anymore.
- It's not looking good.
I'm out of the hotels.
Oh, see, that's a burp.
- Oh, okay, we have a lot to,
this is Nami rushing you, it's actually exciting.
We have a lot to get through.
I did wanna say, we had a generational run of episodes,
Camilla Cabello and Nut Butter,
it gets more to brass tax.
It's like, it's definitely funny,
but it's like whenever we talk about female singers,
we get so serious with it 'cause it's not a fucking joke.
- Yeah, but I'm pissed because I didn't bring up Baby Pink.
- And I didn't bring up Mark Ronson's album,
The Late Night Feelings,
which Camila Cabello features on.
- Jack and Moose first on the shoes of Versace.
- Yeah.
- Let's go get Calamari.
I have to like all play it at some point.
This verse that she has on,
I think it's the Magic City Deluxe.
That's what you're not gonna see it.
And that's what you're gonna see it on there.
- We're talking about Magic City Deluxe.
- I know, I know I'm sorry that's on me.
Let's talk about Chad Senzel.
- But there are some things we get serious about.
I thought potatoes I kind of like got a little intense.
- Right, and for good reason.
- Of course.
So Chad Senzel, it's a vintage store in New York.
It's amazing, but he had this sweater and I was (beep)
with it, it was kind of a putrid green color.
And you know I love pushing limits with color.
It's like if you hate it, let's see what we could do here.
A mustard.
I know you guys are right enough a mustard,
although a light beige is tough.
That's just gonna be hard on.
I think it's beautiful on you, but on me,
it just is like, that color on you is great,
but on me, we lose me, especially with my brush.
- My weekend with Marilyn.
- Shren the fresh.
- Or is it a week with Marilyn?
Which one was it?
- It's my week with Marilyn.
Which Marilyn was in the right that whole time.
- Weekend, it's a short film.
- Weekend.
- It's my weekend with Marilyn.
- My morning with Marilyn.
- And I think that would be an honor too.
I don't mean a whole week of your time.
- I can't stress enough.
I'm actually so fine saying this.
I know we would have fucked with each other.
I love her down.
I would have loved Norma, and I would have loved Marilyn,
and I would have loved to just literally like,
she loved gay guys, and you can tell like all her teams
were like these gay guys that were telling her tricks
of the trade.
That would have been so fun to kind of be like,
how do we make black and white film?
Or actually she wasn't in black and white film.
But how do we make it?
How do we make black and white film?
I thought about it.
I thought about if Princess Diana was still around
and if Kurt Cobain was still around.
I think Princess Diana's Instagram grade would be kind of like
a disaster, it would be a lot of activism stuff
that's just like text on videos, you know?
- Yeah, well it was what Emma Watson's was.
- Yeah.
- Do you remember?
I loved her, her like millennial-ass Instagram was so much.
I'm a (beep) with her.
- Like obviously I wish there was still here,
but I think that her Instagram would have been a mess.
- Emma Watson is still here, right.
- Continue.
- And Kurt Cobain, I think he would have resisted
to getting social media,
but he probably would have gone it eventually.
- Well the band Nirvana as like a brand,
they would have had, I mean Urban Outfitters
would have made them.
right, they would have had to sign up and then I think Kurt Cobain would have made two
TikToks and then said, it's just not for me.
You think Kurt Cobain would have made TikToks?
Two.
That's it.
Ah, sorry, this is, I don't understand you.
This is like the beginning of a huge argument between you and a straight guy, by the way.
Me and my, yeah.
Kurt Cobain would have never done such a good thing.
No, Arming Hammer and I talked about it and he agrees with me.
Come on, forgive me.
I did.
It was a couple of times.
Forgive me.
Do you want to talk about jump scares when he pops up in a movie?
It's like, so I was watching Nocturnal Animals,
which a Tom Ford film.
I love all of his, I can't wait for his next one.
I am s**t with this film.
Trigger warning beyond, it really is so disturbing.
- Do you even think I should?
- I think it's unbelievable,
but then he pops up out of nowhere
and you're just like, I mean, it really was.
I go, what the f**k?
What was that?
- What was that?
- It's Army Hammer, I was trying.
so Chad Senzel, he had saved a sweater for me.
It was in his stories and I was like,
I love the sweater, can you save it for me?
And he did and he waited like a long time
'cause I wasn't in years for a while.
- 'Cause you knew you were good for it.
- Yeah, and I came in today and I got a couple things
and we had so much fun.
He almost fell down the stairs at one point
because there's like steep slacks
and I kinda caught him. - He had fun for me.
- Of course it is, but it was actually one
where I was worried 'cause usually if someone falls,
I'm like, that's fucking major.
Like you and you saw Tom Francis.
(laughing)
- It was like I got blown by a blast or something.
- Yeah, you just eating shit.
Me, I was like, it's business.
We gotta shoot this show.
- You go, we can't put her in a cast.
(laughing)
- Yeah, it's wheeling you to set.
All gracious things are here up.
- Like when I'm holding a plant,
like when they're trying to hide--
- We had to hide your baby bump.
We had to hide your baby bump the whole season.
- Yeah, I've had births.
I've had births.
- I'm a proletariat.
- I work.
(laughing)
- We finally said the thing that makes no sense.
- Yeah, this seems been fun.
- I'm a proletarian.
- I hope you all can tell how much fun we're having.
We are, this is right after dark at six o'clock.
- You asked today, you go, "We should do it with drinks."
But then I was like, logistically, I was like,
how do we--
- We're gonna save that for a later episode.
- Yeah, we'll shoot in a normal episode.
- Bitch, I think Sunsel is okay, or he fell for real.
- He died.
- That's bad, babe.
He cracked a skull open.
- Oh, of course I got the sweater in her jacket. - Oops. - Sorry. - Then I did the reater. - Yeah. (laughing) - Bye. - Should I leave a note? (laughing) - I have a press interview in 15. (laughing) - Bye. - Thanks, Chad and Daya. - Y'all have CCTV in here, right? - You know what's crazy is that you can bring gay speak into straight places and they've never really seen anything. Like I called this guy Greg Yana. Recently, it was so confusing to him in a way that I was like, nothing is less confusing than Greg Yana. - It was a guy at the gym. - His name was Greg. (laughing) - I said, Greg Yana, you know what, what? It was so he's like, maybe just Greggy. - Okay, he said let's split the difference. - Yeah. - He's not ready to go full, full F'sler. - Have a little fun. - You guys, I went full blonde. - I think I'm gonna bring the mustache back though. I just had to shave it for Ellen. - I have a couple things to say. - Awesome. - First of all, my stomach is making noises. That's something I can't really help. - I'm having a coaxero. I love coaxero. Let's get it at more restaurants. - Oh, I wish we had checks still, 'cause it was a cute little way to show your personality. - My mom's had golden retrievers on them. But can I tell you what mines would be? - What? - Mines would be. - What's, what's, what's, what's, what's mine? - I miss, you can have my checks as mines. - Oh, I thought about Nina recently. I don't know what it was for. I mean, Halloween obviously is very herm. But I'd have Tweety Bird. (laughing) - Nothing. I can even get like a giggle. - Oh no, because it makes sense I'm nothing to add. I'm just now thinking about what mine would be. - My Tweety Bird. Watching my mom balance her checkbook every month, I was like, damn. - Mine would be the King Kong that's made a Swarovski crystals. That was holding the Eiffel Tower. - Swarovski crystals. Yeah. If anyone wants to know where to see that, it's at Fokets. - Fokets. - Fokets. - Can you play the take talk? And then I'm gonna do show and tell. We have hitchhikes coming next week. - This is audio, so you don't have to see it. So just don't feel like you're missing out anything. If you're just listening in your car. This had me laughing in a way that I, I was like holding my crotch. I was about to fiddle. - I work at a marketing agency called Ride Digital, and whenever emails is very similar to what I would assume people would think of the Ride podcast with Mary Beth and Benito Skinner R, their email would be. - This is Ride One. - So we did just get some submissions for what people are writing for this week. And one of them is eating ass to our work email. So I would love to forward it on to Mary Beth, and you know, on behalf of these patrons, which is don't know what email to send it to. - So if this is Ride One, you know. - This is Ride One and Gmail. - Forward it to the correct people. - Carter Schmidt, you're a hero. Thank you, honey. - Thank you for probably a fun day of work. - I mean, how fun is that to crowd around a computer with their coworkers? - And just doing what is this, and then clicking and it's somebody going, - I like to eat butt. - Well, enjoy to that I say, just sweet. - It's the month. - Oh my God, we haven't just sweetened a while. - Okay, speaking of I am of the world. - I think that's some big putty. - Oh, David. (laughing) - I did not think of David who'd go triple five. - Do you not have another? I have a friend who does. - For sure Lesbian has gone triple platinum. - Well, I didn't even realize, I will say one thing about that. Some people were like, he had that ready to go. - Yeah. - I didn't have that ready to go. We could just go all the way. - You actually like it, and also you said that when I wear baggy shirts, that's the only times you believe them bisexual. - Yeah, of course. And I want that on the record. - Yeah. - But my thing is I'm like, we do that shit all the time. - Yeah. - We could go forever. - Also, I burned you first. - Alyssa! - Speaking of A-Lister, I got a text from our manager's assistant saying, a 24 would send you a gift, what's the best address? So I sent my apartment address. I thought it would be something to do with overcompensating or maybe heart feelings, like the show that we're working on. - Like literally like get lots of heart attack. - Yeah, pretty cool. - Yeah, it's pretty cool. - Do you like on their big slates? - Yeah, it's really cool. - You thought maybe it was the shorts. My favorite tweet about time. Next to the strap. - I know you're sucking whatever. I'm going to pull out of these A24 basketball shorts. - Amen. - So I-- - I love the way he looks at us. - I know. He's just a real one. - And back like I'm blushing right now. - So I get a package. Christmas come early. It has A24 tape on the package. So I go, what did Santa bring? I could have never expected. - I'm picturing you in your high store, Whitesman boots naked with a knife. - I had a corset on. - You just corsets, but titty's out. - Yeah. - Yeah. - It's a box and it was three brutalist t-shirts, which obviously means the world. So this one is from the 1980 Venice Biennial, the Lasso Toss, the presence of the past. - The presence of the past. Exhibit. - Yeah, of course. - One of his past. - Then I had this box and I said, what could this be? So I'm opening this and mind you, I'm getting built-in bookshelves installed. - Where might we add the titular last part to us? - The titular van Buren killed himself in. He hung himself in there. But Margaret wanted to keep it alive, keep the memory alive or something. - Of course. - Yeah, of course. - So it's this beautiful and it's hard 'cause I just got my gel extensions today. - And so this is what Kim Petrus drove by. - This is the building that was brutalist. So this actually says on it, the Margaret Leven Biennial Center for Creation and Activity. And this is gonna go on my built-ins and look, so this is show and tell us today we're doing. And you can kind of deconstruct the building. - Oh, can I actually see you? - Wow, Lazlo. - Lazlo snapped with this one. - He really did. - He went all the way off. - I mean, not for just that. - It's like the two crosses. - I know. And when the sign is over, it's like a whole thing. - Is this true about the, here I go, 9/11. No, no, no, no, you guys don't wanna talk about 9/11. You know where I carry? - No, because I always want to. - Okay, she has this thing where she kind of add a concert. She was like, no, no, no, no, you guys wanna talk about 9/11. It must be hard to do. - I know she wasn't talking about us. - Well, no. - But in the Oculus, apparently at the exact time of the sun when like the towers went down, the towers appear. - Whoa. - In the Oculus. - I didn't know that. - Is this true? - That's thoughtful design. - And so it only once a year, but once a year, this happens, or is it consistent? - To me, that's right. - That's right. - That's what we did in the tradition of longevity. - Longevity. - You get that? - In the stars. - Yeah. - It's very-- - A hero and who does that? - We gotta like this out here. - Well, it's like Manhattan Hinge that happens, but let's see it. - Oh no. - Quasano, bro. - I could have been every character and hookanese. - Have you ever stand something so hard that you get, you start to get, you get the little limited edition merchandise. - The only thing I can relate that to you, and of course, if a woman says something, I have to see if I can beat her. - You always have to have a better story. - Here we go. - So I really wanted the looks, Rosalia Nun sweatshirts, and I did post about it, and then they sent me. So you're not the only one here. You get some stuff. (laughing) - It's so unnerving. - What? - You have to ring show until next time. - I know I was trying to, I was looking around my place. - There's so much cool stuff in your place, you could just grab. - I know, I just wanted it to be a, how could it be a specialist, you know, Lathlow? - I mean, let's just say I'm really happy. A brutalist is on max, but it's leaving soon. So just keep that in mind. I don't know who's gonna nap up the rights, but it's leaving soon. - Day of streams in. - I wanted to talk about our new bits that we have. My new bit is, I'll never be cruel first. - I love that. - I'll never be cruel first. I'm not saying I'll never be cruel, but it's usually born in reaction to someone else being cruel. - To me though, your brand is called Cruel, and it's a hair thing at Sephora. - Well, and it's peach the mag, or would it be just had my fake magazines? - Oh, I don't even know. - Fruit the mag or something? - Oh, fruit the mag, yeah. - Fruit the mag, and then my brand is called Cruel, but it's felt different. - Cruel, yeah, it's like C-R-O-O-L, that brand exists, probably. But my t-shirts would say I'll never be cruel on the front, and then on the back, it says first. - I love this. - It's just a little something I've been thinking about, 'cause I feel like it's like, I'm kind of putting people on blast lately, like anonymously, where I'll like tell a story about so, and so that I dated or whatever, but it's like, I only feel comfortable sharing that because they were so awful to me, and picked apart my entire personality. To the point where I actually, I actually had to look and we're gonna go, no, I like stand by how I am. You know, when someone's like poking at you, and they're like trying to like pick you apart, and it actually forces you to double down on everything you believe. - Yeah, when you can find, well, my therapist and I have this thing that we talk about a lot, me and Brad. She's like, so this is called the self. We're refining the self. And that can be really nice to get back there. 'Cause also it's hard. Oh, I saw the best TikTok that was somebody being like, it said, but you're not like that. And it goes, I'm different. I've changed the last 10 minutes from different now. - So I've actually, I've gone on a lot of growth journeys in the last 10 minutes, and I'm different. - And I'll be different. They were like, you said that a couple of years ago. No, it's some different. - Someone did a TikTok, and I'm gonna post this, and it's like, I can't do this anymore. I mean, I can, and I obviously will, but I can't do this anymore. (laughing) What was that, oh, he must use the Wishing Willow. - Oh my god, he must've used the Wishing Willow, 'cause what the fuck am I doing right now? - Very us. - So let's talk about your new bit when I walk. - So my new bit is, okay. So I love this kind of, I don't know how to describe it. It's like, they all went to a master class. They haven't, it's not from my academy, and we don't offer classes. - Not Benny Ramos, sorry, Academy.
- Not at the university, but it must be at Augsford. I always loved that in Gatsby, it says Augsford. - I forgot that. - Is that interesting? - I was thinking about if Gatsby was like, 'cause I never mind. - You were thinking about West A? - You're not invested in that, right? - Nah. - We'll talk about it later. It was a bit that I thought of, you kinda had to be in my brain for it to be funny. - Okay, wait, so you can hear when I tap the table, right? - Yeah. - Okay, so I go like that. - Sit on your hands, be a good boy and sit on my hands. - Actually, we'll sit on my hands. - Nice, that's nice. - Oh yeah, I fucking like that. (laughing) - That will be good for the sound. - Yeah, yeah, that's great. - You wanna just keep doing that. - Is that good, you guys? - My bit is you're walking the Victoria Secret fashion show. - It's their body positive year. - Yeah, of course. - Small boobs. - Yes. - We're getting a lot of plastic surgery next year. We'll talk about it off later. - Really? - Well, I asked if you wanted to go to Korea and you said know the other day. - No, I don't want skin stuff. I want major surgical procedures. - VBL, fake boobs, elbow, plastic. - Oh, you need that. Your elbows are nasty, nasty. We were talking about how they made this very soft. - My ears pinned forward. - Hey, baby, can I talk to you? 'Cause your elbows make me soft. (laughing) - Oh my god. - Oh my god. - So, picture this, Mary Beth, you should have walked. I have a lot of like, I have a lot of people I think should have. - But I don't think I, okay. - You spin around. ♪ Angel of my dreams ♪ - I'm the guy, front row. All the cameras are obviously on me because you're my woman, my wife. And it's me going, (laughing) - And then you. - Oh my guys are bad. They're slapping me on the back. - Seriously? - Crop trowels, you should be hard-tricking off. - And I start drooling. - And then you go, and that's the aristocrats. That's your aristocrats. You know that joke? - What? - That it's like that famous joke structure where it's like, I don't know what the intro is, but then you say the nastiest thing you could possibly think of. And then the ending is that's the aristocrats. There's like a documentary about it. It's like a historical comedy thing, but I think you jerking off to me at the VS Fat Show. It's a completion, certainly qualifies. - You know this bit, starting this episode with like, "Hey, Sam, my mom and dad are everyone." This is range, y'all. - We talk about the hard stuff on here. (laughing) We're saying, "Taint, once per episode." - I was watching Detroit, so your fashion show I couldn't help but think, 'cause they, they panned all the guys in a way that I'm like, okay, yeah, I know they're dating. - The boyfriends? - Yeah, I was like, go back to the, I wanna see the girls. - The Habs, the husbands and boyfriends. - Exactly in them all there in black suits. 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That's nocd.com, love you. - With Tinder group, hangouts. - Oh come on, don't choke on your words, it's Tinder. - It's Tinder, the group chat can actually go somewhere 'cause you know how the group chat goes, someone throws out what's the move tonight and it turns into 40 messages, three pulls, a bunch of reactions, maybe even, what's that, a doodle? - Oh a doodle. - And then zero decisions. - So with group hangingouts, you and your friends pick an activity. It can be drinks, mini golf, karaoke, motherfucker, whatever sounds like the fun move for you and your friends. Then you can find another group who are looking for the same vibe, no blind date, no forced pairing. Just your people doing something you were already gonna do except now there's a possibility for new connections and maybe romance. - I'm learning about this feature for the first time as well. - I know, I've known about it for a while. - You've been using it quite frequently. - Of course. - With a group chat, there's no pressure on any one person to carry the conversation. You're just planning a night out that happens to include some new faces. Tinder makes that easy to do. Here's what I love about this. Tinder said in the words of Catherine Hudson, I'm not just one thing. - Exactly. Tinder has always been where a connection's, wait, you missed part of it. Hey, hang on, hang on, hang on, hang on, hang on, hang on. Maybe you all become friends. Maybe two people hit it off. Maybe three people hit it off. Either way, I want to tell people to do that more. During sex and dates going, oh. - I'm not sure I could do that. Good. If I wanted to. - Either way, you had a good night with your friends, which was never in question. - Tinder has always been where a connection starts. Now it's where you bring your friends along for the ride. - Oh yeah. Come on. - Try Tinder group hanging out to bring your friends, pick a plan, meet new people. Down the Tinder today. Of course. - I mean, hey, what could go wrong? - I mean, it's not the craziest idea. Should we get into what we ride for? - Oh, I forgot what I'm writing for. - Big swings. - Big swings. - And I'm writing for the secret trip that my friends take. Well, actually, no. I'm writing for the secret trip that my friends and I take. - Got it. - I just wanted to make sure I ever know that I'm also on the trip. - At the end, I. - It's cleaner. - All the firsts. - I think so too. - So, I have this-- - I think so too. - I'm a pro-- - I'm a pro-chariot. - I have this group of friends from high school, my high school friends, also known as home friends and some circles. - Of course, I call 'em, the girls. - The girls. - I call 'em, my friends. - Your friends. I'm just gonna say it right now. We have Julia Emily Lauren, R.E. Jake Lauren, Coriana and Rachel. - Lauren. - Lauren. - And Ralph. - Lauren. - And Lauren B. - Lauren. - Lauren. - That's for the fashion viral. - So, this core group of friends, we've now been friends for 20 years. And I guess this was pre-pandemic around 2017, 2018. I forget who presented this idea, but I'm sure they're gonna tell me. - They started following me. - They started following you on Instagram. That kind of changed everything. - I am. - So, at some point, someone said that they had heard about this thing from another group of friends, where the group picks a four-day weekend to go on a trip. - Yeah. - Two people in the group plan the trip.
And no one else knows where we're going. - So fun. - Until three days before. So two people have to keep this underlocking key. They get all the flights together. They do all the itinerary while we're there. Accommodations, everything like that. So the first trip we went on was to Mexico City. - The fun? - And it was fun because they sent letters for the reveal. So we all got letters in the mail and then we had to open them on FaceTime together to find out where we were going. - You are now seeing Hogwarts school which has to be with it. - Yeah, you got it by text. - So it was really fun and exciting. And it builds buzz and it's just like this cool thing where you can kind of go on vacation with your friends. It's not surrounding like an event like a wedding or a bachelor at a birthday or anything like that. Some people live on the West Coast, some on the East Coast. So it's fun to also have defined locations that make sense for everyone travel wise. - Yeah. - So we did Mexico City first, which was incredible. And I learned so much. Very hard to find Mexican Xanax though. I guess for us, maybe it's not for everyone, but for us it was. - Interesting, I would have totally not thought that. - No, yeah, I was confusing. Second time we did it, we went to Sedona where there's a lot of alien stuff. We all had our cards read. There was a lot of like four textes. And it's very, it's like, yeah, cosmic. - It's a burning man. - Like celestial, Joshua tree. - Exactly, dry heat. - Yes, capes with an eye, like a glitter eye on them. - And hiking and stuff like that. - Of course. - Third chip we did, I believe was Jersey Shore, which I planned, and we went to you. - Oh, that's like me. - I can't remember what it was called, but it was really cute. - We could remember it. - We rented a big house. Look at Jill. - Hey. - And Pinkie was on that one. - Are we seeing that pressure shoulder off challenge? - I think so. - Thank you. - I got red in permission to bring Pinkie on the one. 'Cause the Jersey Shore ones, which I helped plan, I had to leave early to go film over compensating. - Wow. Oh, I remember this, yeah. - Yeah, then the last one, oh, season one. Last one was Driftwood, Texas. There's one coming up, which I am unfortunately going to miss, but it's such a fun trip. And what a cool idea. It's like take the stress out and just put the stress on two people in the group. - They look over and they go, "Wait, I thought Mary Beth was coming and it's very mess-barone." - It's you and the Galaxy Brain dress. - They go, "Hey, guys." - Yeah. - I do dry delivery all day. (laughing) I do your whole business. - Service workers spend your food. - It was fun for 15 minutes. - They go, "You can just be you if you want." - The bit was tough. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. We're kind of like, "We missed her, but you can do your own thing." - Hey, no worries. - Wait, where is it this year? - I don't know yet, 'cause it's not revealed. - They should tell me. - It'd be fun to hold back to you. - They won't even tell their spouses. - Okay, I'll text Jake. - That's the thing, text Jake. He doesn't know, but yeah. - Oh, he wouldn't know. - He's not planning it. - Who's planning it? - Laurie and Lauren Pryl. - I don't have Laurie's number. - Yeah, oh, you should get it. - I have Lauren, be Lauren. - Maybe. - Lauren, Jr. - But it's just fun and it's, like I said, it's just nice to sort of get together and just be like, regress to your high school self and just have fun and giggle with the girls. Although the first year we did it, there was a major, major meltdown over a game of salad bowl. - Yeah. - When you pick the thing out and it's like three rounds. - It can be fish bowl too. I don't know. - Right. - But it's just depending on the state you're in, I guess. - I don't remember what happened with the beef was, but I think I left the room. I wasn't happy with how some of the people were playing. - Go where you're wanted. - Go where you're like. - I didn't like how people were playing, manipulating the rules. - I tried to play that game, but with my parents, and they were on my team. And it's like, obviously, I'm a pop culture savante. You have to split them up. But what I knew my mom would get was bad bunny 'cause we could act that out. But there were just so many things. - You have to have more than one though that they're gonna get. - But I think I've said this before where my mom couldn't understand board games 'cause it's like moms are like, there's so many other things I could be doing right now. It's like how you say that no woman would be a magician. - Right, right. - It's like it's about tricking people. It's like, I don't have to fuck up. - We have other shit. - We gotta cook. - We have to clean. - We have to get work and provide for the family. - We have to raise the children and raise the adults too. - Try to not be a soldier. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - And so we were playing the past code game. And I think, do you know where you're trying to get like the words or whatever? And then one. - Catchphrase or something. - Yeah, catchphrase. And oh no, what's it called? I think it might be called code names. - Code names, that's the one with the cards. - Yeah, the cards. Well, one was Paris. And you know, you try to get as many as you can with it. - But you don't want to get the bomb one. - Yeah, and my mom just goes France. So she got one point. - Exactly. - And I go major. Well, you know, I play Scrabble for Speed. - Oh cool. - I don't play for points. - That's cool. I like that. - I just want the game to keep moving. And let's just try all the tiles. We'll just see what happens. - That's really fun. - Yeah, that's the little thing that I've come up with. And so when people start making takes talks about that as they've done with the kissing game, kind of trying to claim it as their own, just know that they learned it from me. - Oh, the girl. - They learned it from me. - She's got that attitude. - So I. - I'm the most famous person alive. - But I love you. - I love you. - I just wanted to tell you I love you. - I highly recommend you attempt to do this with your group of friends wherever you may be. And it's a lot easier if you're all in one city 'cause you can kind of leave out of the same airport and stuff. - You know what I love about it? It's like you do have to make effort to have experiences as an adult with your friends. You have to make that effort or else it will not happen. So I think that's really beautiful. And to have it be like a plan thing that you can kind of always keep like maybe something open with, but it's really hard in our industry to do that. 'Cause on that dime you can book the new Godzilla movie and like how to do it. - That's what you're shooting. - I'm going to shoot Godzilla. - Well maybe I'm shooting Godzilla with you all in and then what else you're shooting? - That's the main thing with her. - People keep asking you where it films. It's New York. - It's New York, it's Godzilla. - It's Godzilla. - Where else would he be? - Come on. - I also just wanna say it's a travel privilege, first of all. Second of all, my friends chose good husbands. So they don't have to stress about the childcare 'cause they leave their kids with the fathers. - Yeah. - Which is not just leaving. They're just with the parent. - Right. - Yeah. I'm like, oh cool, they're with their parent. That tracks. - Yeah. - That feels right. - Oh, yeah. - Yeah, I guess he is that. - Oh, yeah. - Oh, yeah. - No, for sure. - Yeah. - Well, that's fabulous. - It's really fabulous and it's fun. It's like it's sisterhood and stuff. - But is no one, no one new can join it. It's like just the core sisterhood. - You know my mom and her friends, her group of friends call themselves the Aayas. They do yaya weekends once a month. - I as a kid, I never saw it and I still, I don't know if I have, but I want to. - We should watch it. - It's the book of the Aayas sisters. - Yeah, no, then a movie. - Well, it's the divine secrets of the Aayas sisters. - It's the divine secrets of the Aayas sisters. - That and Mona Lisa smile. I thought I'm out of my lot. - We have, we have discussed a spouse trip where the spouse is can come, but. - So me. - So you would be my plus one, yeah. If that's cool. - I would love that. - We would have to book the weekend pretty far in advance 'cause someone's pretty busy with press. - If you're gonna talk about yourself, just say it. She sells, she sells it for an ass. Whoa, oh my god, he's so mad at you right now. - Let's get, let's talk about big swings. - So big swings, I, I had kind of talked to you about this a little bit where I was so, actually let me think of where to start on the big swing. - At the beginning. - Eve took a big swing when she defiled the world with the taste of one apple, she took the biggest swing of all. And the fall of humankind began. - Wait, did you know people kind of like fuck with the devil now? 'Cause he's like punishing people for being bad. - You met me, honey. - Yeah, I know you did a deal with him. - I know how it exists 'cause where else are the people in LA gonna go? - That was it. ♪ Turn it down ♪ ♪ We don't even want us dead ♪ ♪ It's all alive ♪ ♪ 'Cause that is Bridget's land bird ♪ - That's best of sound, I'm taking Taco and Viara. - Oh yeah! - Damn, Boise Idaho. - And Boise Idaho, I'm Bridget Zayena. - I'm Princess Diana, chickpea. - Me, touching down and Boise. - I don't know, I guess, of course. - Show 'em. - You wanna see Miss Racktober? - Oh my God, wait, whoever wins, congrats. I don't know who won, but we-- I'm still trying to get their marquee. - I know, we need that marquee also. Did you need an email? - Yeah. - Was my dad helping you with that? - I was gonna call him, but then I realized I only had your brother in law's number. - Oh yeah, well I can send you my dad's today. He would take care of that in like five minutes. I mean, I'm just patient with my parents entering that strip club and they'd be happy to do it. - We have a business opportunity. They have $20,000 cash. - By the way, torch two, there's two of them. They made a sequel strip club. - How cool was that? - I want both. - That taught me that sequels can work and they can be just as good as they were before. - So big swings. Talk about a big swing. It can be sequels. It can be starting a podcast. - It can be starting a podcast. It can be making your very first Instagram video reel. (laughing) - It can be ending a podcast. - It can be quitting said podcast. - No, we're never gonna do that. - No, that's like hypothetical. - That's hypothetical. - It's about other people. - It's about everything. And to me, I think I love when someone takes a big swing because sometimes it's not always understood the first time. I think CXOXO is a big swing because it's very different than what she had done sonically. I think the visuals were very different. It's a big swing. I think Lord doing solar power, a big swing. It's completely different. - Are you coming out of the closet? - Oh my God. I like it up the butt. (laughing) Come on, do we still have a light out of contact? - We just went literally like, this went from like, this went, this just went bad. We were sort of checking along, you know, we were on the, we were on the straightened path and then it just went, it went. - Oh shit. - So. (laughing) - The baddest picture they knew. - I wanna pick up your dirt.
- That's a friend that would affirm you. - No, it don't. It like hurts me. It like awakens something to me. 'Cause I went to school where it was like, a bunch of Republicans like you, and they would say things and I'd be like, "A woman should have the right to her own body." And they're like, "Yeah, baby killer." And I said, "Maybe ya." - That's not your friend that would affirm you. - That is. - No, your friend that would affirm you is when you're like, when you're trying it. - Isn't that what it is? - Oh no, I think those are babies. Those are human lives. - That's not a friend. - I feel, don't you feel like those are babies? - That's like political differences. - Baby, isn't it all the same? - So, a big swing, solar power. - I wish you were a little bit buzzed right now. - Brat, we are Brat, big swing. - Oh, I'm adding 10. (laughing) - Adding some soup. Wait, is it he and Peru? That's a big swing. I know, the fuck is that bear going in Peru? - What, he has a passport? - Okay, so that bear got a boat. - Okay, okay, if the bear ain't got it. (laughing) I put that bear on a plane. Okay, so that's a big swing. What else, Dolly, Parton making a theme park? What a big fucking swing that is? - Yeah. - I just, I think that people get scared. They're rock concerted outside. I love New York! - Well, you know, I called the cops before we knew that cops were bad 'cause someone was playing Lincoln Park really loud outside my apartment. Other car? - That's fine. - I feel like they were white. - 'Cause also, yeah, they were, and confirmed. But also, you can do like a neighborhood watch number. - It's 3-1-1, but they were just like, we don't care. - Oh, cool. - I was like, but I'm trying to sleep. - You are, like, it was funny. I just re-watched us, and they had a joke about how you kind of like have to wait on the cops. - On the cops? - Yeah, for like, yeah, they're like, they'll be here in 25 minutes. It's like, what? Like when the one came to my house. I hope she's good, by the way. We'll talk to her. We'll talk to her. We'll reach out. - I think she could do other things, but I guess it's good to have like a mole. She's our trainer. - I love a general meeting with her. - Of course. - Just to see like what she's thinking. - Well, you still want a mug shot, right? - I really am desperately wanting a mug shot. - Yeah. - We could do it. - But what's one on my thought? - I just, I think I did, but if it's only one picture. - You let that dream go. - I want to do selects. So, another, I'm just thinking of big swings. Do you have any like to throw, you'd like to throw in here? - Big swings. - The time jumps, Riverdale. - Proposing to somebody. - Proposing, take a big swing. - Even if you know they're gonna say yes. - Here's my thing to all my straight guys out there. Do it a little bit earlier than she would think. - Yeah. - That's what I'm saying. Do it like four months too early. - Date two. - Date two before you even fuck her. Right? - Yeah. - I think that's like, that's a big swing. Saying I love you first is a big swing. - I have to, I have to tell you about a big swing. - No Calderone is a big swing. - That one of the bigger swings. - Nicki Minaj pre-Trump doing Roman holiday at the Grammys, big swing. Am I at the Super Bowl going? - Emma, Emma, Emma. - Emma A, big swing. - So, you remember the guy that we met at Little Ruby's who I went on, I went to get drinks back. - Yes, yeah, of course. - I got the screenshot from someone who shall remain nameless but they matched with him on a dating app. And I guess they're a comedian as well. So, he goes, the last day that I went on was with a comedian, do you think we'll have better luck? And then she goes, which one? And he goes, well, this determined if we go on a date and she goes, it would determine if we'd have better luck. And he goes, Mary Beth Barrowd and she goes, then the answer is no. - Wait, sisterhood, that's the divine secrets of the Yaya sisterhood. - Oh, yeah, yes, sisterhood. Super swing. - That's a huge swing. Asking someone out on a date, moving to New York, going to Times Square one day. - Buying property. Buying property. - One, you should have one, not multiple. - I like that, I think that's cool. My dad randomly was like, what if we had a vacation house? And I'm like, that's so random. But then he got over it. It was just kind of like he, I think he-- - At his time like this. - I think it's Chai Tee hit and he got bold. - Yeah. - So, he's like, my dad loves his Tazo Chai. - Yeah, it's good. - Period. But another big swing. - Getting a driver's license. - Such a big swing. - Starting a business. But only if you're a woman. - But one that's necessary and not a t-shirt brand. Unless you're doing it a little different. - Yeah, unless it's different. And I like the fit. And it's actually kind of a cool take on a classic. - Being the son of a restaurant tour and opening a restaurant yourself. - Oh, that's such a big swing. 'Cause it's like-- - 'Cause it's like, well, you measure up to daddy. - Totally, it's a nipple restaurant. - Yeah, it's a nipple restaurant. - Yeah, that's cool. - I think becoming a doctor is a big swing. Like, how do you know you're gonna wanna do that forever? - Making the big choice of like, changing up your life in the middle. - It's like, a big swing, just take it and go recently. Marshall said to me what color bathroom. And we just said, "Royal blue." And we did it. It's blue cheese. - Well, it's the alternative to a big swing. You're gonna, you're gonna bun. You're gonna bun every-- - I can't have it. - What? I don't want a white wall. - I can't just bun every-- - You can't say bun. - Unless, 'cause I just think my big fat Greek wedding. - Buns. - Buns. - Buns. - Buns. - Buns. (hip-hop music) - There's no, like, down part of that movie. Is what I realized when I watched it. Like, the-- - Don't they break up? - It's like, very quick. - I don't care about that. - It's not even, yeah. It's really nice. There's another movie that does that and it's Chef. - I don't think I've seen that recently enough. - John Favreaux, Chef. I need to see you can see everything I have tickets to go. - When are you going? Why aren't you going with me? - We'll talk after. It's nothing like that. I had to get tickets in advance. - A-lister? - Yeah. - You've been gone for a month. - Sorry baby. - LA was calling in that head to pick up. - I'm changing your name on my phone to A-lister. - I am. Another big swing. - Writing a TV show about yourself. What else is a big swing? - Texting on the pod. - Yeah, and being honest. Like, see, I don't know. There's something about it. Obviously, I like when women do it more 'cause it just tends to be, like, for the masses as opposed to self-serving. - Oh, sorry baby. - You know what I just thought about? I think, well, I've been thinking about a lot of stuff. I think when women make bad decisions that affects themselves and when men make bad decisions that affects other people, that's just what I've been thinking about. - Yeah. - So. - Yeah. - I just wanted to put that out there. So that's that. - Well, you know my thing about straight guys' energy of thoughts. - Yeah, you want to say it? - You can say it. - I don't want to. Also, I've stopped asking questions. I don't want the answers to. - Whoa, that's a big swing. - That's a big swing. - I'm not asking anymore. - Anything that's a shift in how you, wait, you know what's a big swing? Picture, it's 1230. Let's go to a diner. - Oh my God, oh my God. I'm seeing some TikToks of people getting breakfast with friends before work. How cool is that? - That is so cute. A cup of gel with your bestie loves. - And eggs on a weekday? - You're an egg sludge. - Child wonder. Oh, and I do think the secret trip is somewhat of a child wonder. It's like, you're going away. It's like your parents plan the vacation. They're surprising you. - Exactly. It's like you won some like free vacation, but you're paying and your friends kind of picked it for you. - And you all have different budgets that you can pay. - Yeah, yeah, that's such a cool vibe. I love that. It's accommodating and it's thoughtful and it's true friendship. It's making time for all people want is that you give a fuck about them. - Yeah. - You know what I mean? - Reach out. - Reach out is a big swing. - They care about each other. I think that's really beautiful. I would love everyone to send me their big swings. Email them to this is ride one at gmail.com. But yeah, just lately I've been like, fuck it. I made some big swings this year. I moved to New York and I'm like-- - My ambition. - Come on, this is a exactly big swing. - Getting in. - And I was like, I'm gonna, you know what? I took a big swing. How about a second one? Swing better, butt. - Getting a huge jacked body. - Getting big fucking titties, you notice? - My BBL is a big swing. - Yeah, it's a big swing. - And I'm getting a lipo. - Yeah. - But not where you think. (laughing) - My lipo is not where you think. - I, they're paying back to me. I should do it when you're coming back. Figure it out. - Yeah. (laughing) - Where would you come? - Chest. - Chest. - I'm a stomach comer. - That's awesome. I haven't seen that because we've been gotten there yet. (laughing) - Yet. We haven't finished yet. - Hey, it's only 24/6. - The night is still here. - Let me audition for American Idol. (laughing) ♪ How do we sit quietly ♪ ♪ And watch the world pass by ♪ - And they're like, is that Nikki? And I'm like, I don't support her politics, but yes, this is one of my favorite songs. - Do we have to do "Rider Die?" I feel like it goes without saying. - I think we have to, babe, 'cause it's like this is the format that we set for the pod. So certainly we have to do this. - I've been begging a break format. I've been begging to do an episode where we don't ride for anything. We just do chatting. - We'll do the next one. - Well, it's hitchhikes, but. - Before years end. - Before years end, it's just gonna be like, let's just talk. What will it be called? Bus stop. - Okay. - In our. - Stop, wait. - In our mind. - In our mind. - In our mind. - In our mind. - Earthquakes. - In our mind. - In our mind. - In our mind. - I'm okay, I come. And then she walks out, it's my favorite. - So I ride for big swings. I mean, my whole life has been a big swing, really. - A leak of their own. - Yeah, sixth child, third girl. There's already three boys. - Oh, remember, Velma, on HBO, the cartoon. Velma's kind of a lesbian. That's a big swing. I had fun. My thing's, yeah, totally. And I, yeah, there's all kinds. I don't know, I can't, I'm gonna think about more. - I think this is gonna be a theme for the rest of the pod. - It's big swings. - Yeah.
- We've ridden for a lot of big swings. - Totally, and Fopaz can be big swings. - Your Feminine is when you're in. - Right. - Try pitching that in a room. - Try explaining that to an executive. - Do it, Dave. ♪ Pick up your phone ♪ ♪ No more requests left ♪ - She played that, and they were all like, "Oh, it's got some steak on it." - I keep thinking about should it smells like turkey in here? Every time I see someone's hairline. - I think he shaved it for Fjord. - No, I know, and it's not for turkey, I just-- - It's just for fun. - We're having fun, we're cultural commentators. - In a way. - So I think we're participants. - Right. - But if that's the case, then we need to stop naming people on the pod. - But do you know, oh shit, I guess I'm in the hot seat here, right? I am in trouble. - Has anyone done this with thirding? - I just think it's funny. - Has anyone done this move yet where you just tongue out in the middle? You're just talking very normally. - This is my new thirding, there you go. (laughing) - Fuck. So a guy takes daddy to watch the Dodgers, right? - And I'm clearing my teeth. - They're watching. She asks for three things of peanuts. (laughing) That's all she asks for, and she goes, "I'll be right back." The next time he sees her, she is running across. Second place. - Second place, second base. Second base, sprinting across, painted fully blue. That's the last time he sees her. - Right. (laughing) - I need the Reddit thread of lore that I will have my assistant find 'cause I'm not looking at it, but I would love that. If someone could just put everything we've said about her. In one place, do you ride for the secret trip that my friends and I take? - I'd love to go. I think it shouldn't be so sacred. I think you guys are bullies. I think you're non-inclusive. I think you really, the places you go, you defile. No, I think it's adorable and it's an inspiration because it is so hard as you get older to find the time to have that. If you don't try to make memories as you get older, you won't have them. So, and I have this thing where it's like, it's fun to do things in days that you'll really remember the day, and I think that that is really special. - And take more pictures. - Take more pictures. - Take more planet. - Can you please be on your phones more? - Please be on your phones more. - That's what I say to my baby. - Baby, baby, baby, baby, get your phone out. - Sweetie, don't you want to film this? - The way you can reveal it, can be really fun. I believe there was a cameo from Frankie Munez one year and then the Jersey Shore year, we did a video compilation of from the show. - That's awesome. So. - When I reveal, then I'm taking you guys. - Ta-ta-he-day. - To Greece! - What's going to Santorini Greece? - Come with me, we're going to Greece. - Mikaela Nagoya, now she's taking some big swings. - Santorini Greece! - To Katashian, I fucking love her. - I know. - I'm like, this is, I'm here, I'm here for it. That's who I watch on TikTok. Someone asked me recently, they go, "What's making you laugh lately?" And I did three bits that you were doing and two that I went and were doing. And they're like, "No, I'm in on TV." And I go, "What do you mean?" - I know, what is that? ♪ An angel of my dreams ♪ Can you do a walk for me? - I'm there, I'm so sick of watching all these other I'm like, talking to my friend and he's like, "Yo, oh my God, there she is, there's your girl." And I go. - I look down, see what I want to try. - Oh my God, everyone's looking at me. I'm like, fuck, it's about me, right? - But I can't wait a minute. (crashing) (crashing) - An angel! - And then this is, this is it. That's how you bounce down it, girl. - Let's go, come on, let's go. - Come on, let's go. - Come on, let's go. (upbeat music) - Oh, my exit. - Any babe, I's in the road. (crashing) - There you go. (upbeat music) - Rye, rye. [BLANK_AUDIO]
Podcast Summary
Key Points:
The podcast features a lighthearted, humorous conversation between Benito Skinner and Mary Bephrone about personal experiences, relationships, and quirky life moments.
A recurring theme is "big swings" — bold life changes or decisions — such as moving to New York, starting a business, proposing, or making significant personal shifts.
The hosts discuss friendship dynamics, including secret trips with friends, shared experiences, and the value of authentic, unfiltered connection.
They explore relationship dynamics, including relationship OCD, the importance of self-reflection, and how vulnerability leads to growth.
There’s a strong emphasis on humor, satire, and playful storytelling, often referencing pop culture, fashion, and internet trends.
The hosts highlight a community-driven vibe, encouraging listeners to share their own "big swings" through email.
Personal anecdotes about family, parenting, and identity — such as hair changes, parenting roles, and political views — add depth and relatability.
The show blends self-deprecation, emotional honesty, and entertainment, creating a unique mix of comedy and introspection.
Summary:
The podcast offers a humorous and heartfelt exploration of personal growth, friendship, and bold life decisions through the lens of "big swings" — major, often unexpected changes in one’s life. Hosts Benito and Mary Bephrone share relatable anecdotes about moving to New York, changing careers, proposing, embracing new relationships, or making unexpected personal choices. They weave in themes of vulnerability, self-reflection, and the emotional toll of relationship anxiety, particularly relationship OCD, while maintaining a comedic tone rooted in pop culture and everyday life.
The conversation also highlights the value of deep, authentic friendships, such as secret trips and shared traditions, and the importance of emotional honesty. Personal stories about family, identity, fashion, and even political views add depth and authenticity. The hosts encourage listeners to share their own "big swings," turning the episode into a participatory experience.
The tone is playful, self-aware, and deeply human, blending humor with meaningful insights about modern life and connection. It’s a celebration of risk, change, and the joy found in imperfect, real relationships.
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The podcast's main theme is 'big swings'—major life changes or bold decisions that represent significant shifts in personal or professional life, like moving to New York, starting a business, or proposing to someone.
A 'big swing' is a bold, transformative life decision such as getting a driver's license, proposing to someone, moving to a new city, or making a personal change like starting a business or changing careers.
The secret trip is a planned, surprise vacation where a small group of friends chooses a destination and keeps it a secret until the last few days, then reveals it through letters or face-time, creating excitement and bonding.
The podcast uses self-deprecating and playful humor to share personal stories, like discussing awkward moments, fashion choices, or family dynamics, blending vulnerability with lighthearted storytelling.
The 'Aayas sisters' refer to a group of female friends who have a tradition of having monthly 'yaya weekends,' symbolizing sisterhood, shared experiences, and emotional support in a close-knit group.
The podcast discusses relationship OCD as a serious condition involving intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors like seeking reassurance, and highlights that it's treatable through specialized therapy like ERP.
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