Becoming KJ: Finding Herself in Australia | Am I Normal

Subscribe and follow the weekly offload We are sponsored by Fit Living who deliver the best treatment in the inner west They offer remedial massage, physiotherapy, acupuncture and chiropractic care Welcome to the weekly offload Originally a podcast just about Rugby League Then I got diagnosed with ADHD Now it's also about mental health And normalizing Matty for blokes who'd rather talk footy But probably need to talk feelings Hello offloaders I hope you enjoy this podcast with KJ We speak about obviously her culture moving here from India I guess finding your identity her path to PT and a lot more And she gives a lot of honest answers So I want to thank KJ for coming on Enjoy KJ as you're famously called Well I should say hello offloaders I haven't said that I normally say that to start the show But how are you KJ? I'm good, how are you? Thank you for coming on Obviously we were meant to record yesterday And there's a little bit of commotion in the gym With a member and things like that But she's doing well So that's the only reason why I thought I mentioned it I guess how are you sort of affected? I said to my wife Polly You guys were more around Like I wasn't around, I was with the client But it still sort of does rock you a bit Yeah, I was with the client as well And then I just saw people sort of crowding around At first I thought they were trying to move a piece of equipment Everything was so quiet I didn't even notice that something was actually going on And came over there and then I saw What was going on But it was pretty scary It does make you I don't know Not really think everything but you know Because obviously as we said she's doing well And everything but I guess when you first see someone on the floor It is sort of like alarm bells and things like that And the guys like especially Adam in particular Was straight to the scene and very good And I know he's having a bit of a tougher day today Which is understandable But I thought the team was good I thought everyone rallied around each other Yeah I think everyone really came together And I guess like that's one of the things like every single staff member was on it Like I didn't really see any members there maybe like one or two But yeah every like staff member was like there to help Yeah I did see it's a bit disappointing But I did see one guy trying to film That was the yeah that was the only thing Yeah, which it is it is hard to think like your first instinct Is to sort of like film but anyways He claimed that it wasn't the case so hopefully that's not the case But anyway today's about you How are you feeling? Feeling good it's my first time on a podcast Yeah Yeah so tell us I guess your story It's a very generic podcast question But tell us your story getting into PT And I guess your KJ's life story So well I came to Australia in 2019 I don't know how far back we're going No no no no, well you only came in 2019 as well And here for like seven years now But yeah I came in 2019 to do my undergrad which I did in psychology Because I was trying to become a psychologist And then it's like it's heavy here like being a psychologist You kind of realise that through the course of the degree And so I thought okay like after you know maybe I'll try corporate for a bit See how that goes you know And then like your first corporate job is obviously like really exciting Because now you have bigger money I like that So you feel like an adult would you say yeah okay I was like like 21 years old with a full-time job and full-time pay I was like absolutely having the time of my life But now I'm like going through like corporate I kind of just felt like not that fulfilled That's just for me personally like yeah I just felt like it wasn't what I was meant to do And it just like kept going where I was like not feeling fulfilled not knowing what to do And then actually finally enough like I've signed up to the one playground academy Like 3 and 4 like twice before that And then I only ended up doing the third time So like what's that? You didn't get like they didn't accept you didn't know But you didn't decide to do it I just like cancelled it at the last minute Why was that? I don't know I was just like okay like is this necessary like yeah I like training But am I really gonna like am I really gonna become a PT or like you know what I mean So I don't know canceling the first two times and then the third time I was like okay fine I'll do it Like that was actually I met someone who was also a PT while I was walking And then he was like you should do it and then I was like okay fine Oh really okay so pretty influential person What do you it's funny because what they show we have had Asian kiss some before And I'm like oh your parents must be strict or they must be quiet Put a bit of pressure on it and they're like no and I look completely like a big very stereotypical But what did your parents think of PT like when you first? Yeah I mean to be honest yeah like the Asian stereotype does exist Like the straight of like you know you have to sort of perform academically and things But actually my parents are very open minded to that sort of thing Okay so I'm wrong again I wouldn't say it doesn't exist because I think like that sort of led me into doing physio as well So like yes and no So adding on to say do you think they're more accepting because you're adding on another qualification Well you didn't know I was gonna do that like until much later Okay okay Yeah I only decided to do it first you're like late like much after I basically started doing PT Maybe like six months not that much But like yeah so I'm no I think like I'm definitely very privileged in that sense To like have parents who are very like open and supportive of what I want to do So they're sort of like as long as you're doing something that you genuinely enjoy And like you're doing something good So did you come to Australia on your own or wow okay and what made you decide to do that? I think like I always knew that I was gonna go outside of India to for like under the line Yeah because I was also in a school that prepared you to go outside of India Oh really? Okay is that common there like there would be schools that sort of you say everyone you went to school with You kind of all had the common ground that you're gonna go somewhere else to study or work Yeah like for just for your 11 and 12 though Yeah I was just like a school where you sort of they prepared you to apply to universities outside of India So yeah I guess like we all just knew that that's what we're preparing for Why is that? Is that like the excuse my ignorance but is that like the high population or what's the reason for that would you say? It's just I guess like education and like what opportunity exposure those sorts of things Like people who want to sort of yeah I don't know like pursue and like just expand their school Just like explore different I don't know like I guess there's just a certain perception of going outside And having that sort of education and like broadening your horizon Yeah yeah yeah yeah something like that Yeah Okay and then what I had like I guess when you first got here was it as expected like from what you had seen of Australia Or a bit different? It was but also like it's such a big learning curve like when you start living on your own And also start living in a different country on your own when you're like 17 Well I say you came here when you're 17 Yeah okay okay And then I mean I turned 18 like shortly after but yeah so I guess like yeah when you have a lot of freedom now In the new country it feels like liberating in a way Yeah I think like obviously I did it later on in life but I get exactly what you're saying Because I've said on this podcast I think when you're in your hometown You are yourself but you're sort of molded by the way your family and friends view too Would you agree with that? Yeah yeah for sure and I guess like it helps you just create your own self identity in that sense But I think earlier on like also COVID hit pretty early after I came to Australia So I guess like two years I couldn't see my family as well So that would be that young age like that would be quite difficult I'm going to put you on a spot on the spot a couple times on this podcast And I want answers KJ as well So I want you to give me what you like about Australia and what you don't like and you being completely honest You can be completely honest To be fair there is a lot to like like I feel like I see myself living here a long term because of the lifestyle that exists here Like especially in the career that we are in like there is almost like no other better place to be I agree with that yeah for Pete for fitness And it's in health like there's such a big focus on health lifestyle fitness And I think people really value that sort of thing over here and there's like appreciation towards it There's value towards it people are willing to pay for it So I think like I really like the active lifestyle and like yeah the way it is in that sense over here But Give me what it is Give me what it is I like It's hard it's so hard but um But there can be even just you know it's like Polly always says my wife like Your home's your home too like do you miss little creature comforts and you know just little things from India that it doesn't happen here Yeah for sure I mean yeah I would agree like I guess what I mean if I had to say something that I dislike about Australia Even though it's not Australia's fault is that it's not my actual home like where I grew up Like my parents still live in India and stuff and like I have so much more family that still lives back home So it's sort of like being split apart between two countries in that sense Because I'll always have to like go back and visit them and it's gonna be like for a finite amount of time I guess like I think for you as well like because you're I think your family lives in the UK So like you get what I mean yeah no I understand that's yeah like my my in laws and Polly's family they're all there So it's either way what we decide we're gonna be traveling back to another one and the 24 hours It's a long flight Obviously without daughter and then we want we're gonna have another child as well in the future So it's like yeah it's gonna be interesting But I mean our daughter is very good on the flight but I do get what you mean you split Making two countries yeah so I guess for you do you have any family here like is there any ties here? Well we have family friends and stuff and now because like I've been here for like six seven years And obviously there's so many others who sort of come with the same sort of background with their families being in another country So that sort of becomes like your new family in a way but no in terms of actual family you know Yeah because I was gonna you'll find with this podcast that just would go in funny direction But I was gonna say Mention that actually or you just sort of put it to the forefront of my mind Are you do you find it easier to become friends with like quite a quite Aussies or people who are expats who are traveling And living away from home as well Yeah I mean look so I was a uni for like such a long period of time right and then like doing my undergrad And then once I started working is I think when I really got exposed more to like Aussies I would say Because I need in like it I'm joking I'm putting words here about that Imagine I cut that bit like that God yeah No I think like I guess it's really it's just like different relationships in all sense but I don't think it's hard I think like once you sort of get a cultureized to like the way of living here I think that is really what helps you sort of create relationships outside of your own community And speaking of relationships What's happening? I'm speaking to every person on this podcast about every Mary Lens guest we've had about dating Whether they want to do or not But yeah how you finding the dating pool since you've been in Australia I heard Nox podcast just to prepare So I feel like she was really echoing my current vibe as well Okay okay No I think like honestly the dating pool is like the dating market is not looking good It's interesting I'm kind of getting hit in various ways but I don't need to But I do know that a lot of girls do say or women do you say that dating and Sydney in particular I like for what I don't know What it is like like I guess one factor could be distance because you're quite like people live in far apart different areas I don't know exactly what it is but I know that even our friends from the UK have said like Sydney is just I don't know It's just tough to date but do you think it's Sydney or it's like your age group in general that are finding it hard to connect I feel like it could just be both I've just been seeing so much on social media about how like in Australia that's just the sculpture of non-chalance I don't know if you've seen that I haven't seen it but I hear you saying that sort of the men not not take a serious part Because we're like traditionally laid back meant to be laid back that it's not there's not the urgency The like cheese or like the yearning Okay, oh right off the year wow Okay, so interesting so you think it's yeah that sort of is a bit lost maybe in Sydney Yeah, I don't even know like I think I mean I've just seen so much about this on social media about like about how Australians trying to be really laid back and like yeah like you said that I've seen people just being like oh like I went to I don't know I went to London or whatever and like people are like really you know outgoing and like forthcoming and things But nobody approaches anyone either I've heard I have heard this a lot from women in Sydney if you go out for example Yeah, which is a good I mean it's a fine line because it's good because you don't want that unwanted attention But then also you kind of would if a guy was normal and you go for a truck to each other it would be okay if he came up and said "Oh, hi" but you're not even like maybe that's not even happening Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay Yeah, I think like that's why people end up like relying on the apps and stuff Yeah, I was gonna I was gonna ask that and before we get into the apps I wanted to say you're like your friends back in India Are they in relationships? You're like your age or are they finding it tougher as well? I feel like every other person on my Instagram is getting married at the moment Really? And you're quite young as well, okay So I don't know what's going on I know there's people who are really single or there's people getting married So yeah, that's just like crazy to see like people are going to school with getting married and like yeah, fully having husbands (Laughter) Fully having husbands where? I'll say, unusual But I was gonna say, I guess yeah for you, this is also another stereotype But is there any not pressure to get married because you're quite young but like do your parents ever ask, oh is there anyone nice in Sydney or are they completely not like that? No, not really, if anything like my parents don't want to talk about my age Oh, okay Because like I'm an only child so for them it's like, oh like you know like almost like letting your child go in a sense Because it's like, no she's out in the world (Laughter) It's funny like, oh but you say that because I remember like when I was 18 and you get home like and you know my mum would say, oh it's sick Like how could you not message or whatever else it is? But then when you become a parent, not that, I've got a lot of years obviously my daughter's story so there's a long time before I have to go through that But I sort of understand it more because you see them like your baby and it just goes so like so fast in front of your eyes that I kind of, I mean I wouldn't baby If my daughter as much as my mum babyed me but I do understand that to an extent But so are you going out much here, what'd you say? I feel like I used to go out like you know back when I first came but now not really Where would you see like when you first got here, what suburb were you living in when you first got here? I still have loads of the like the Eastern suburbs Okay Yeah, because that's where my uni was because I went to uni from undergrad Okay So I used to live like in the Eastern suburbs and then in the city and things But yeah, so I think since then I shifted to the west I started working as a beauty Yeah, because I was going to say obviously being in the east you would have more opportunities to go out I guess so yeah, I've upgraded the west And then I did want to ask you I think I said to you before the Christmas party I was saying that, I do remember this, yeah, I was because you, I think I was saying to you I was like oh there's no one of interest here and you're like no no no no And I was like wait till you save it a college shirt so the Christmas party nothing I thought you're sure it's having changed already Okay So still the same people Just with college shirts, okay, okay But how did you find I guess your first one I won't play good, yeah, how'd you find? No, it was really fun, I really enjoyed it I guess like for me because I was at Haymarket earlier so it was nice that like there was a Haymarket team Obviously the Maryland team and then just see how more people are to sort of celebrate with I'm going to put you on the spot again So that you mentioned Haymarket I want you to compare the two teams and which ones closer It's very different, it's so it's very different because like demographically it's different as well Right I think I'm sorry at Haymarket most of the team is sort of from the UK I remember you saying this And so it's just like it took me really long to actually even get a hold of their lingo Wait, it would be funny if you meant that for the people in the West but even the UK people Okay, okay Yeah, they have like specific words for things and like I was like what do you mean by that? I'm trying to because obviously we would have had that in our household too But do you have an example? I'm trying to think of one too that they might say that I think they say like allow it and I was like what does allow it mean? Or were they saying like Because obviously we say how you going Yeah And they say were they saying you're right? No, no, no, I think it's kind of like I think allow it means like ease of like Oh, okay, I sort of get you Yeah, okay, I like all that sort of but they just say allow Yeah, yeah, interesting So just things like that I guess you need to pick up Yeah, okay, and then which team's closer? That's a toughy That's a toughy I mean look I spend a lot of Not been at Maryland's longer than I've been at Haymarket I believe almost But I think Yeah, I can't pick Okay, okay, okay Because you answered my other question, I'll leave that I'll leave that one for you That's a good And then I guess You're like transition into one playground How do you say that at the moment? And I guess what's We're not ending the podcast but what do you say this is normally what I ask at the end But what do you say for like your future I guess You know working at the gym Yeah, I think like because when I initially moved to Maryland's I was definitely like really challenging because yeah, I was like a whole new team A whole new gym, they're different dynamic to get used to So I think it was really definitely like a bit of a change at the start But obviously since I've gotten a lot more like settled in other things I think like once Because I'm also at uni at the moment like doing physio So once I graduate from physio And then like I've had a few years of coaching experience as well It would be good to like sort of combine the two and be able to work in like physio and coaching And just see I have like a broader scope of practice See what that leads me No, that's good, that's good. I guess for you had a balance So I had you find balancing the study and work like is that tough? It's definitely really hard like right now I'm off uni so I'm literally cruising Because you feel like you've got so much free time now Because I just have to go into work and come back out But with uni is definitely really hard because I would go I would be at the gym 6am to like 12pm Let's say and then at uni 1pm to 5pm Well then that becomes like a 12 hour day essentially And then even if I'm not actually at uni you still have like things to study and like assignments and things to do So it is definitely hard but I mean it's like putting in the hard yards Because are you close to the gym now? Yeah, I live like 20, 25 minutes away so that was the main reason to sort of move Yeah, yeah, yeah And then I did this is obviously a lot of this has been off the cuff But I did get you to prepare one question Because you're quite relaxed I don't think I've ever seen you annoyed what is your weekly offload Like what gets KJ really pissed off? Did you say? I was like sometimes actually I don't know Winner Winston that we work with he was the first one from Maryland to come on And I was super surprised that he said that a lot of things make him angry Really? Because he's always asleep He's always so relaxed Yeah, he's always sleep so the time in the office So when he said that I was like oh that's interesting Even Asian John and a few other ones it was quite surprising I can see Asian John getting mad Oh, okay you want to start a beef on this podcast I get a spiral I can see him getting it but now he's really relaxed Yeah, yeah Well he said it was more when he was younger Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah And stuff like that Oh, you met in his past, okay, now that I mentioned that before, yeah Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm not trying to start a start podcast But he's very vague to get to listen Yeah, so what noise do you? I think like I thought about this and I think like if I have to sum it up it's just when people are inconsiderate Do you know what I mean? Like that can just be applied to so many different circumstances where it's like for example like clients you know sort of showing up 10 minutes later and being like oh oops But then you've got a client right after that that sort of thing Or like I think even just yesterday like like my members just sort of standing but not no one really helping That's another thing or like Baaaah On my way here I hung that's someone really loudly and I never hung Yeah, because I did it I didn't think you'd be much of a road right like that But what made you hold kind of I was like already in the roundabout and he's like zoomed past Oh, okay But you know things like that small things like that when I think people aren't considered of the fact that Other people also have lives or time Yeah, would you be entitled to someone's time or being entitled to someone's you know effort? Yeah, it sounds like would you say it's like Yeah, not being considered of others or thinking of others It'll treat from what it sounds like you're saying I guess it's like you want to be treated You know treat people how you want to be treated Okay, that's actually not I mean that's pretty reasonable I thought you might out of that when you even said the beeping I was like no surely not road rage or anything like that Okay, and then I guess like for you I haven't asked you for ages on the podcast but for whatever reason I'll go with my instinct What about your give me your weaknesses and your strengths? Yeah, I haven't It's like a job interview This is like a retro weekly offload question because this is what I always used to ask and I found It was good because people can relate to that You know and another thing that a lot of members have been saying to me And I'm sure it'll be the same with this podcast is they've been coming up and saying I really like the podcast Because it's like showing me the trainers like a different side Because obviously we're not going to mope around but you do have to be positive like on the floor Professional And when they said it's actually quite nice to hear like the way you can say the yeah they said like even if I I'm not they're not my coach or they're just classes like just seeing them walk around I feel like I know them now So yeah, what would be easier for you? Should we start? Let's start with the weaknesses and then guess because a lot of people find that I found in the retro So it's quite okay. Yeah, or they sort of It's easier for them to If I could put them on the spot, it's easier for them to let me know their weaknesses But the strengths they have to actually think about which is maybe sad if you think about society that I guess our first instinct is to put ourselves down, not elevate ourselves So let's start with your weaknesses I feel like I would have said this for myself earlier for like a pretty long period of time I think my weakness used to be that I would sort of maybe struggle to be alone in a sense But I think now it's over the past year and this year, well 20 days into this year It's changed a lot But I think yeah like over the course of the past year I think I've been able to change that Because I think like when you when you are living here like on your own I guess because I was used to sort of having my parents around for most of my childhood And then yeah just being in like long-term relationships and things Then I guess you guys used to being with someone So I guess like being alone was like not as exciting earlier But I think last year like I went to Bali on my own as well like for 10 days And I feel like I couldn't have done that like the year before that even Is it like it's interesting to me that you say that because you are an only child as well So is my wife too so I would think you had more time on your own But actually because you were an only child do you think your parents are more around you? Because they sort of not giving you a friend but they kind of like they need to fill your time in a certain sense I think it's like they have like one child to focus on So the energy is the director there So yeah I think I think I'm noticed like people with siblings like the parents energy gets like divided between the siblings But for me it was like my yeah my parents were really focused on me And how do you feel about I guess being an only child Because Bali often says like the one thing that kind of upset her because I have my sister Well I have a half brother and half sister too but I grew up with my sister And she sort of said when your parents do pass away you always have that person to discuss Like them we then the memories sort of live on Like what's your or did you like you could say I like having all the house to myself and toys or whatever you had Like did you like being an only child would you say correct? I think at some stage I probably didn't want to sibling and I guess like having a sibling would be nice in the sense of like Oh like I don't know like someone to rely on but also I don't know what that's like I don't know if I can get used to it It's hard to me so I don't know isn't it as well okay okay And then for you like obviously you know coming to Australia on your own you feel like now you've sort of gotten over that period of being on your own Yeah yeah yeah I feel like yeah I mean initially I think like constantly when you're at uni you're like sort of constantly surrounded by friends And then after that yeah just being in like longer term relationships sort of makes you really comfortable in that like of having someone there But I think to get out of that cycle also of like just being on your own and being comfortable on your own is actually so important to actually So that when you are with someone you value them for being with them because of who they are not because you don't want to be alone If that makes sense like yeah and then I think over the last year I think I had to really force myself to learn that To just be on my own and just enjoy my own company which once you do get to that stage it's also like you start to enjoy it way too much You're in that phase of a very very long time No I wouldn't say I'm at that stage but yeah there are definitely times where you're like yeah I'm enjoying this way too much And then did you would you say that you're my age of weakness? Yeah I think like that was I would say that was like my major weakness that over the last like five, six years whatever I think now my weakness That's a tough one. No that's not and that's good I think that I think people can relate to your first one so that's all good So let's go to positive what about your strengths or strength can be what? Well I've heard I mean people have said that I'm kind of like self aware So I guess I could say that that's my strength because I feel like I do like to reflect on my own actions or like my own I'm happy to you know like accept if I could be better in a certain way or like I'm honestly more than happy if someone actually tells me that Oh like I feel like you've heard me in this way because that means that I could just like not do that in the future You can you can analyze it and then sort of I guess not change completely but just sort of if it comes up again you might handle it differently I think that's how I could be better yeah okay and then I know you did it's not a dating podcast but I know you did say about the long term relationship and I did hear that you said not to put him down or anything like that but do you it was that just getting too comfortable? Yeah I think like because we were together for two years I do hope he doesn't watch this I don't know to be completely honest I'm very proud of this podcast and the list is by doubt He's subscribing to the weekly upload is he is he here? Insid me he is okay okay okay okay but yeah yeah we were together for two years and I think like that does make you very comfortable with like being with someone and then I think like soon after that as well like I was seeing someone for a bit like so there wasn't really enough time to sort of just be single really so and before I met him I was like it was like COVID times and I was living I was living with my friend and we were really close so yeah I always had someone there as well even if like in a different capacity and then last one on the dating last promise a promise for you it would you prefer to find which is perfectly fine like an Indian boy or Indian heritage or like Australian or it doesn't matter to you would you say? Well look I've only ever dated people from my own culture and that's not going down very well I think I actually want to ask a question I remember I actually remember a conversation you and I had and you I think I did ask you these and then you're like well I have only dated from my own culture and I was expecting you to say so I'll keep continuing but you're like that's a go for it because maybe I should try something different okay okay okay you know like who knows like maybe it's time to change the demographic I don't know okay but I mean there is obviously a sense of like finding that common ground with someone from your own culture in terms of like you know language or culture and like things that you can sort of do yeah like festivals whatever like there's just a lot that you can have in terms of common ground it's easier it's easier but you know speaking of culture because I feel like we did touch on a little bit but with Indian culture like what do you miss like from there because I think we sort of talked up Australia baby I was trying to get you to say something but we've talked up Australia but yeah what do you miss from from the Indian culture I think actually surprisingly like over here in Australia because like there is community that already exists so in many senses like things that we do want to do we are actually able to do like food and festivals and things like that but obviously like you know having that family or like even the way festivals are celebrated like at home is very different still to the way they're celebrated here so I guess yeah just having that sort of experience is something that's different but yeah I mean that is the cost that you pay okay and now because I did do this to Johnny I didn't ask you this but so I asked him out of everyone at Marylands where we work who would you least want to be on a 24 hour flight with oh my god this one I'm not letting you I'm letting you go the last one I'm not letting you go this one but I feel like you know that I'm gonna say no I don't know what did what did Johnny say he he should I give it away yeah because you're you probably would have heard about there um well you would have heard it when this comes out he said live oh yeah he just never expected that not in a bad like as I said doesn't have to be in a vicious way or anything but he said just because like brother and sister he thought he thought like she doesn't need to be tension he just said and he just said he guys I love about the year the 24 hours with two by heading oh my god yeah can you think of any of I'm maybe like do I want to go down the route of someone unless close to just because unless close to them or do I want to go down the route of who is gonna be really annoying after you your podcast you must enter this one but your 24 hours on a fly on a fly yeah yeah and there's all sorry the stipulation was this is a new question but that only we did last last podcast but the stipulation is there's no headphones and the the the TVs are not working as well oh okay on the fly like for to have a chat yes yeah okay I'm just gonna go with whoever like unleased closes like the upstairs staff room okay yeah yeah yeah yeah no no actually uh least closest to yeah in the offices it's not me I'm trying to think I actually don't know hmm I was a Rachel just because I'm not that close okay fair enough yeah and she I guess she hasn't been at the gym as long as well yeah yeah fair enough I appreciate your honesty actually yeah I was I was thinking I couldn't think of someone that you would say what it would yeah what about we go I didn't do this with Johnny we just went negative but what about positive someone you would like to yeah maybe not yeah I think she'll be nice to talk to her I feel like you know I think she'll if I do this questions in the future she'll get a lot is because as you said easy to talk to and also she's like that mama bear like quite like I feel very safe and protected yeah yeah it is I say I think I said that when she came on the pod it is kind of like that and then did you have a challenge for the next Mary first person your one so Johnny and he said I might don't quote me if this is um don't fact check me if this is exactly but he said he wanted you to do uh 50 burp yeah I think yeah 50 burpees it was like 10 squats 10 push-ups and he actually said the week that you do it so we could do it the week before the podcast comes out maybe it's like a funny promotion uh he'll do it with you oh my god he actually I was actually quite surprised but 50 burpees with me that's what I'm unless I miss quite imagine I miss quite and he said like same he said like 20 and I miss quite even let's just say 50 yeah I think that's what we joke about but he said I don't know if he was in a good mood or what but he said I'll do it with you yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah did you know simple mind was just like oh because I'm I'm not there yet I said oh doing one muscle up oh okay okay one muscle up but muscle ups are quite a difficult exercise okay I'm just saying if uh who I should get to do that actually at the gym I don't mean I can do it okay okay well definitely can't be them then we have to find we have to find someone new I feel like Johnny should do it as revenge well yeah I'm telling you he said he promised and we've got it on tape that he promised he would do it with you as well okay and then what about I guess um they're like to sort of we're not push for time or anything but to sort of round it off like your PT um I guess journey or your clients like how are you finding that at the moment um good I think like it's almost about to be a year of me doing PT because I started in March last year so yeah it's about to be a year and it's been good I guess like it teaches you a lot and you obviously learn a lot through this sort of job and like because you do have to meet someone and have to be in front of someone every single day and meet like so many different kinds of people but also it is really fulfilling because you know that you've made an impact on like this one person's life and I guess like that's why we started doing it in the first place right um so yeah I guess like even even when I first started doing the third three and four like with the academy I always thought that oh maybe I'll just do it on this Saturday and you know just have something or as like a side job on Saturdays because I wasn't enjoying my corporate job but um I think like yeah I would like really look forward like Monday to Friday for that Saturday to be able to actually do something I enjoy and then I decided to transition into doing this full time um but obviously like I think my parents really supported me in that transition so I think I'm very privileged in that sense because this is like not me saying or if you don't like your job quit it and follow your passion or anything you can say that you can say that that's all right I feel like that's a pretty good um mission statement you can do that yeah yeah I mean it it is good but I guess it's not really realistic for everyone and like I think it was only possible for me because I had that sort of support um yeah but since then it has been really good because I think once I decided that I was going to do a PD full time then I went back to uni to do physio and then I actually sort of knew where I was going with my career and what I actually wanted to do as compared to earlier where it was sort of like yeah I'm doing this job but I'm not going to do this for that sort of thing so yeah I guess like finding finding what you really want to do or finding like your purpose and then everything else sort of just fits into that purpose or like thinking about other things and how they could fit into this sort of like life you're building if that makes sense because for example even like going to Bali for me it was a holiday but it was a bit of a training holiday because I wanted to go and like train and like do other things like do a bit of moita I would have like see what the gyms there are like um I guess that also like sort of feeds into what you're wanting to do overall because um just like experiencing a new sort of atmosphere and like things and um I mean I'm not an influencer by any means after they see real who knows yeah this will give you good content so yeah I think like it's been really good from that sense of just feeling a lot more grounded in what I want to do and I guess that also ties back into feeling more autonomous and having that sense of independence because like having that sense of who you are or yourself identity and I think that just like really helps you create a stronger self-self I don't even just ask me about PT no no no no no no no he actually helped with my job because I've really appreciated I'm you honesty and answering my questions like but my last question for you was what have you learned about yourself since moving to Australia um so much I guess like I think I've had so many seasons there is young people aren't I I'm trying to get with the young people errors yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah like I mean I have friends who I met back in 2019 and we've when we look back at it like we're such different people in all of those years leading up to like this year and I think in your early 20s it's just like such a time of change right it's like very dynamic it's very influenced by who you're surrounded by what you're doing um did you by the way before you sorry to cut you off by is anyone you wanted to shout out on the podcast that my listen oh any friends of family back in India or anything like that oh I mean I don't even know if they if they if they hear me they'll listen they'll the weekly off like gets around we've been listening to in 52 countries no way yeah that's actually true so I was let's say like Brazil at 0.1% but I'll take one old guy yeah don't wait away so far we've all got it it likes me likes my voice um that I'm sorry to cut you apart just thought if you did uh want to but you go on go on um I'll come back to it yeah I can't say but yeah I think like every each year teaches you something new especially as you sort of go through life and go through like so many changes in your early 20s like I think the first year was more about just like getting used to a new country then I think the second year was just about well the second year and the third year were like during COVID times um so I guess it was just about how to actually live completely on your own and you know um even like I guess this is so small but like even things like cooking and stuff like I didn't know how to cook okay cooking cooking I'm joking cooking cooking I'm joking not the bags the bags the shopping bags the shopping bags just for KJ's family friends that was a joke this is yeah the shopping bags we got yeah all the shopping um yeah like even things like just cooking like I I never cooked before I came here um so small things like that and I think the years after that it was like okay learning financial independence or learning financial stability because I guess that was my first job because I didn't really have a job before that like um having having a job in your schooling which to be honest is probably not a good thing but having a job in your schooling is not really seen as something that you do back home um but over here there's like 16 year olds that are walking and things so that's probably not a good thing to me honest but that's just how it is like um I didn't I didn't know that kids as young as 16 could have a job before I came here because you said it's more you study and yeah yeah like there's a bigger focus on like starting and doing extra curricula and things when you're younger um and getting a job is just seen as something you do when you're in your 20s um so yeah I think like learning financial independence and stability and all of these things was like a major part of one side did graduate and then I just say you're after that it was like the broader things that I mentioned of like what it what is it that I actually want to do like lifelong or like what is it that actually fulfills me what is it that like I'm actually passionate about and not just say that I didn't think about those things earlier but when you're 17 trying to think about what you're passionate about like back then I was passionate about doing art and painting just wanted to do an art degree um so not that there's anything wrong with doing an art degree but very different to what I'm doing now obviously is what I mean and I guess every year after that has been more of those like bigger themes of just like establishing yourself um and doing things to sort of get towards what your goals are and I feel like maybe I could have but I feel like I don't know if I would have been able to do all of the things that I have been able to um and been really grateful to be able to do living over here then I would have back home because I think there is like like I said like a sense of comfort living at home where you're not really pushed towards like actually thinking about it because there is I think like um not in a bad way but I get really lazy when I get go back home like I don't want to do nothing I just want to relax back in real life well over here like you're in that sort of like you you feel motivated to like do things to like see what opportunities you can get into to like yeah to just work even um so yeah I guess does that answer it? Man that's amazing um and as I said thank you very much because you've been so honest on here as well um and I think like if I could say like congratulate you I think you should really praise yourself for coming over like to Australia and and trying something different you know because a lot as you said a lot of people just stay in there and comfort zone and I always have set on this podcast like even me just moving um to the UK and seeing what it's like just to move overseas and I'm moving to kind of a like for like culture yeah and it's so hard so it really gave me appreciation especially um for people who come here that don't speak the language but even if they do it's a big culture shock it's a you know as you said it's a um like lovely country to live in but that doesn't mean there is some problems and there's a you know different um different aspects that are very different to my home yeah so I think from me you've done very well on this podcast and um you've done very well in general thanks yeah so um I'm with KJ and we've taken a mental load off for this week thank you for listening to the weekly offload please share our episode and give us a review on Apple or Spotify thanks for listening guys