Ask, Tell, Confess: How Did I Not See His Red Flags??

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Qualifying direct deposits required. Terms and limits apply. Go to chimed.com/disclosures for details. #AskToKidBest #HelloFriends. Welcome to another #AskToKidBest #HelloFriends. Welcome to another #AskToKidBest. How's everybody doing today? It's a crazy tongue action. It's so hot in this fucking studio. It's Mimi has me in here just working up a storm. Let me tell you, it's a freaking prison in here. No days off. No days off. We literally have only been away from each other for 24 hours. Yeah, I saw you like last night yesterday, but yeah, me and Kaley only in 24. And I'm trying to go out with her tonight. She's like, no. She's like, please, please, no. Turned off my location. Yeah. The way I watch your location, I don't watch anyone's location like I do Haley's. I get so worried. And if you're like in one spot for too long, I'm like, you good, bro? No. Good. You make me worried. I got to worry about it a little bit. Yeah. I feel like you end up with like a lot of red flags. And that just. Oh, this week in L.A. I'll be with we talk about what happened in L.A. Oh, with the. Guys, that was crazy. So we're at this bar. We're going to leave unnamed. And we're there. And we're just having a fun. We're just having so much fun because it's literally like our local bar that we just hang out at and have a blast. I turned it as dude who is so cute. I mean, like gorgeous, right? And I'm like, my friend Haley would love you because he look like a book talk boy, you know. And he's like, oh, who's your friend? And I'm like, oh, she's over there playing darts. And he's like, oh, we're already hanging out with them. And I was like, oh, of course you are. Okay. Cool. I didn't know this happened. Yeah. I just learned this. This is what started. So this is what started the whole. All I saw happened was you at the bar and you said, and I said, that's all I know that happened. Yeah. So I was like, cool. We'll be over there in a minute. Well, I was having a deep conversation. And we were at the bar just having this conversation. And 20 minutes later, the dude comes back and sits next to me. But his friend stands right here next to pretty little baby, right? And so I turned and I look at his friend and he goes, you're really hot. And I was like, to you? Yes. And I go, oh, thank you. That's so sweet. I was like, but I'm here with, you know, and he goes, he goes, I think you just met him tonight. No, weird. And I said, no, actually, it's we've been together for two months. We really never seen TMZ. Yeah, fuck. And I was like, no, we've been, you know, talking for two months. I was like, this is my guy, you know, like we're just hanging out having a blast. And I turn and I look and his friend is pushing up on him like this close to his face. And I put my hand in between him and I pushed him back. I go, dude, leave room for the Holy Spirit. I was like, what's happening? You know? And so that's when we got up and we walked over to you guys. And I was like, dude, these dudes are tripping. Like what is happening? And so then that's when they got all crazy or whatever. So anyways, Haley was already solidifying the homie. They had a third homie. Okay. So wait, I have to ask her question. The guy who pushed up on you, was that the cop? The cop. Yes. No, not on me. Pushed up on you guys. Yeah. So the cop did that. Yes. Yes. And I put my hands like so chill. It was so nice. Yeah. It was just talking to one of them about me. But they had the weirdest energy with us. It was so weird. So that's why we came over to you guys. And then that's when I kind of like popped off a little bit. And luckily we had our cop friend there with us. Yeah. I literally was like, guys, he's a cop. And then Zach goes, so am I. Yeah. My bad. Yeah. I joke a lot that he's not a cop. And I kind of believed it for a second. And I like to do. Yeah. So anyways, poor cop, the poor cops in our lives, you guys. Yeah. So anyways, Haley was already solidifying the third dude. And after that, we were just kind of like, let's just go home. Because obviously, fucking, you know, the energy is a little off. Let's just go home. So we all go home. And Haley is like, no, I'm not going home. I'm going to fucking hunch on this dude. And I was like, okay, I'm just crazy. And I was like, okay, so I'm helping Haley call. I'm like, you're not bringing them to the house because the friends are fucking weird. And I was like, you're not going to his house because the friends are fucking weird. And she's like, what do I do? I'm like, get a fucking hotel room. Attention, all new and existing members of the WDNC. I'm Melanie Sanders. And this is the We Do Not Care Club podcast. We got to meet life and realized we just simply do not care much anymore. Now we got to help each other make sense of hot flashes, dry Gucci, chin hair, trifling families, brain fog, and bad wings. We are not alone and we will be heard. So come join the WDNC. Follow and listen to the We Do Not Care Club podcast with Melanie Sanders, wherever you get your podcast. So me and Haley are trying to call home, don't talk or drive through. She's like, you got any rooms? We're waiting for our order. I'm ordering Del Taco. I'm hearing, yeah, do you got like a king bed or? And he's like, what the fuck do you guys want to give me your order? I'm like the two girl chicken. Yeah. And so anyways, Haley ended up going and getting smashed by the homie and fucking had a blast. I was watching her little location. But we were worried about her. This circle is back to why we worry about her because she does end up in these crazy situations. Oh, we know you walk right into the line of fire sister. And the next morning I was cleaning up the Del Taco. I just hear a door open and just footsteps and something's dragging. And I just see her coming to the doorway. She's like, I got his belt. She's like a serial killer. She collects items from the fucking con quest. You took his belt. I said, why do you have? I'm like, why do you have his belt? She's like, I grabbed it. And I said, why? He said, because then he'll have to call me and she just walks away. Did he ever call you? Nope. Get that one. He's like rip. All right, baby. Oh, my God. That's crazy. Who are we getting over? I'm not saying that on just we'll believe it. Oh, God. Wait, I thought you guys were literally talking like two seconds ago. Anyway, by the way, we do nick name. Everyone that is in Hailey's life. Yeah, and everybody's all mentioned him. Everybody that's in each other's lives. The guy's actual name will be like, who? There's been times you said a name and I was like, I don't know who that is. And then you'll be like, this is like, oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah. No, I'll nick that. That dude's a weirdo. I already told you this and I'll go on the record to say he's a weirdo. You've given him an ample opportunity to come out and see you. Dude's playing with you. Dude is literally-- He is one of these stories that we're about to fucking read today. He is a walking red flag. Walking red flag, sister. So we put in our stories, and we got so many of them. We'll probably do a continuation podcast episode of it. So many of you guys. So many. Like, I didn't realize we all fucking have the same type. Yeah. What were some red flags that you ignored because they were hot? And you guys fucking filled up our DM. So we're going to kick it off. We're going to read a few. And then because Astel confesses our little short, we're going to go into it and do an entire episode on that. We will give you because you guys really sent it with these houses. Yeah, no. If you want to submit, just go to our Instagrams. Submit them to Jaime too, guys, because I feel like Jaime needs to be a part of reading the stories. Give Jaime-- Get into his DMs. My DMs. But yeah, the DMs were flooded with this one. I'm excited. Yeah. So funny. And people we knew. Should we call a friend? Sure, let's call Amber. Amber. Call Amber. And Dems. Yeah, Dems for sure. I'll call Dems right now. Right now, please. All right. Do we Face Timer? Yes. She knows I never. Every time I Face Timer, she gets worried. She's like, why are you Face Timing me? Not liking cats is a red flag. Got your red flag. Is not liking cats. Nope. I can go deeper. I can go deeper. It's, well, a little red over there. Peace. You know what? I'm packing my shit up. It's like I'm not working for you anymore. He said, "And I quit." Dems never reply answers. All right, hold on. - She said I'll take my cat. - I'll take my cat. - I'll cat statue behind you. - He has like only two things. - This is two things. - What about my stuff and two things? - You know, like people like pack a box on a little box. - Oh yeah, a little box. - A TV show. - It's just that picture. - It's just that color. - And it's the picture and a little. (laughing) - What we call you now? - Amber. - Oh. - She's got a picture. - Yeah. - Hi, beautiful. What are you wearing? 'Cause we're going to dinner after this. - I'm wearing a eagle. Let me show you one second. - Okay, you're on air right now too, by the way. - Native and Nashville. Shout out nativeandashveld.com. Go by your second merch right now. - Ooh, Amber. - Oh, Amber looks hot, baby. Yeah, always wear heels, you sexy slut. All right, so listen, we want to put you on the podcast. Tell us, yeah, tell us a red flag that you ignored because they were hot. - A-D-E. (laughing) - It's always the big dicks. - I get it. - Yeah. - So it's like for women, literally they will always just put their feelings aside for a big dick. - Yeah. - Yeah, I don't think we don't do it. Not worth it. - It's never worth it. - I'll take a little. - It's worth it in the mean day. - I'll take a little shmeckle that treats me good over a fucking big dick that treats me bad. - Yeah, any day. - Any day. - Any day. - All right, I love you. I'll see you soon. Bye. (laughing) - That was good. - All right, let's read one. I'm gonna hop into my dm's really quick. Damn, that one's long. Not gonna read that one. Hold on. - Long one, sir. - There's some that are novels. - Yeah, someone did send me a book the other day. I said, "Hey, I can't read that on it." - I said, "If you would like to summarize it to a paragraph chat." - I had to summarize it before. - Yeah. Rough. - Oh, you know, when a girl says, I don't like to taste the water. That's a red flag to me. - Ew, that's weird. That means she has a toxic pus. - Yeah. - Red flag. That just means you're nasty. Sorry. - All right, this guy. - Is this the water? - She definitely didn't have the aquafina. She had the fucking Mountain Dew. Mountain Dew pus is wild. - His mattress on the floor with no sheets on it. One crusty pillow with no pillowcase, but I was post divorce. He was hot and I needed a validation smash. - I love that. - Okay. - Did I leave with possibly some salmonella and regret? - Maybe. - But. - Did I go back because the snake slither left me like a giraffe on roller skates. You bet your sweet ass I did. - I love her. - Love her. - That sounds like Kayla. - Kayla, we love you. That was fantastic. - That was hilarious. - I get it. - Can we talk about men and their pillows? - Can we talk about men and their mattresses? - Can we talk about men and no pillowcases on the pillows? - I've told this yellow. - I've told the story before, I was talking to this guy. He was so fucking hot. I was right before I got with Jay. He was so hot. Tall, skinny, you know guys know my type. Baby arm. - I get it. - You guys know baby arm. I never stayed the night at his house. The one night I stayed the night at his house. - I know what happened. - I wake up the next day and bed bugs have ravaged my entire back. I'm talking like I got bit from shoulder blades to buck crack. You had hives, it was so bad. - It was so bad. Bed bugs fucking ate me the fuck up. I bought that motherfucker a new mattress and never stayed the night over there again. I was like, bro. - I would not have bought him shit. - I didn't listen. I like to do charity work. All right. (laughing) - That's crazy. - Yeah, I like to do that. - I mean, I was gonna still keep fucking 'em. - Yeah, you didn't know if I was the fuck on. - I didn't know if I was gonna stay the night over there again. - Would have brought them to your house. I don't know man. I've never, I've never had bed bugs. - You don't have a bed frame. - Yeah, he at least had a bed frame. - Okay, sure. - Took me a minute to get that. - No, the bedding thing is crazy though. Like, I literally-- - Oh, guys. - And switch out your pillows, like every pillow. - I know, or how do you guys sleep on the thin ones? - The thin crusty ones. - And they're literally yellow and you know those started white. - It's like two hats in a cot. Like they fucking are in jail. (laughing) - Yeah. - You know what they call it? Like two hats in a cot, you get two hot meals and you sleep on a cot when you're in jail. - I'm in jail. - Ugh, I have a few times, obviously. You guys have seen all my mug shots. There's literally a mug shot t-shirt right there. That's crazy. All right, go ahead, Amy. - It's crazy, 'cause my story was he had bedbugs but failed to tell me until I was on my bag getting fucked. I wonder if it was the same guy. - Wait, did he tell her mid stroke? - I'm sure she saw them. - Imagine. - Saw them. - You don't see bedbugs. - Yes, you can. - Oh. - If they're big, yeah. - Yeah, if they've been for a while, you can see them. - Hold on. - Yep. - Stop. - Yes, no. - Yeah. - You check the crevices of like hotel beds for them. - Ugh. - You can literally see them. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Yes, you can. Little black dots. - I've never seen them. - Shine your flashlight and you'll see like little eyes. - Little eyes. Eyes. You guys. (laughing) - Have you never checked a mattress for bedbugs? Clearly. - Obviously not. I've never fucking been in situations like until that one that fucking needed it. I've never fucked a dude with a mattress on the floor. Hold on, let me think about this. - I can't say the same. - Yeah, no, I've never fucked a dude with a mattress on the floor. - I definitely don't have. - I've fucked a dude on a floor, but never 'cause he had a mattress on the floor. - Mom, you really gotta stop watching these. - I know. - I know. - I need my name. - Then again, I've also fucked dudes who don't even have their own places to live. So that doesn't make me better than anybody. - I didn't ask to confess in my DMZ other day. You guys. And this one said, this one literally said that the guy told her it was his apartment. And then when he walked out, when they were done, the people were outside waiting to go inside and go to bed. - I love a good chair, you guys. - Yeah. - Can we all have a moment of silence? - Amen. - She fucking said silence, bitch. - She can't. - All right, who's next? Go me and me and silence. - Do not. - Never, you tell Haley, you want her to be quiet and she gets louder. - Oop, another red flag for a dude. If you are flip flops with your pants, red flag. - Excuse me? - If you're a man and you show your feet, if you're not-- - Oh, men's toes out, I'm like even a woman. - No, no, a woman, that's perfectly fine. If a man has his feet out at any point, unless you're by the beach or by a body of water, red flag, that's weird. - Yeah, I'm not. I don't like men's toes that much. So when the toes are out-- - I don't-- (laughing) - Insert thought over here. - Insert thought clip. (laughing) - No, okay, but also there is a type of sandal, a man is okay to wear. - A little tyranosaurus rex foot. - There's a slide that has the big top and then there's the one that goes between the toe. - Yeah. - Why are we wearing the one between the toe? - The thong one, the thong flip block. Don't wear that. - So upset about it. - It's so cool. - A lot of California dudes do that. - We do. - We're a slide, like a man. - And we're a slide like, yeah. - So, you know what, no, it's even hotter? - Slide socks with your slides. - Thank you. - Yeah. - Hot. - Yeah, you love that. - I do. - You sure? - That's some D one athlete. - Do. - Okay, that's not what I was thinking. I was thinking like, yeah, that's so-- - I was thinking like Dickies with a high sock and a slide. - Okay. - Two to five. - That's what I was like. - That's what it was. - That's what she was going. - The thing between the toe, pisses me off. - Yeah, I don't think that's right. - What are we doing in grilling? - It doesn't bother. (laughing) - It doesn't bother me. - You're not staying in front of a grill. - That's the only other exception. - But what? - No, that's not an exception. - No, not an exception. - Where should it be? - 'Cause you know the food's going to be bombed. - Roll up. - If he has those dad grilling shoes, - Food's going to be bombed. - And there's a lot of me. - Just as good in slides. - I love a dude who wears like a flowy shirt with jeans and like flip flops in Cali by the bleach or something. - Maybe if we're in Europe. - And. - Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with that in Europe. - They're weird. - Yeah. - Or if they wear the sandals with all the individuals. - Or if they're hot, it doesn't matter. - That's your red flag? - I'm not even looking at the shoes. - No, looking. - What if they're just like errr? - Not looking. - Don't. - Okay. - I'm not going to look back to it. The biggest red flag I ignored because they were hot. I used to work as a server at a fine dining restaurant in my area. The head sous chef was my crush and always let me get free food. Made my food first and then we would sneak into the elevator and make out on the way up to the walk. - Not. - Just to have a few minutes of intimacy. As far as I knew, he was single. But I thought he was odd. He had a girl at work come up to him very often. He told me she was his sister. - Hmm. - He invited me to hang out one night after work for drinks. And after I left, I invited him over to my place. We had a great night together. A little too much fun, but that's for a different story. Then the next morning, I wake up, he's laying next to me and someone is pounding down my front door. - Damn. - Coming to find out his girlfriend had his location. He forgot to turn it off. He let me escape out the window and let himself out. - Okay. - I ended up moving up North writer because she was stalking me. - Oh, damn. So he was with the real life obsession. - Ooh, great movie by the way. - Yeah, great movie. - Crazy. - Well, you know. - I got one. When I was 18, I wanted out of my parents' house so bad I downloaded Tinder. At this hot guy, we hit it off. And because apparently I'd lost my damn mind, we got married after two months. Ooh, everything was heaven until one week after the wedding. My mother got a screenshot of him trying to hit her up on plenty of fish. I confronted him and he said someone's impersonating me. And I've believed him three weeks later. My cousin sent my mom a screenshot of him trying to send her a dick pic on Plenty of Fish. He has a type. That's when I said, oh, so it wasn't an imposter. - Imposter? - Immediately cut that shit and move my ass back home. - Why is dude sending dick pics on Plenty of Fish? - Why are we on Plenty of Fish? - I thought Plenty of Fish was so 2002. I didn't even know that shit was still around. - It might be an old story. - Okay. - Yeah. - Yeah, 'cause she said when I was 18. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Off. - That's crazy, you're sending the mom in the cousin? - Dan. - Mom is crazy. - The mom is crazy. - Mom is crazy, yeah. - I wonder if they all kind of look alike and he's got like a type and he's like, - Well, there's more than me. - If she was 18, mom had to be like, what? Probably maybe like-- - Oh, no. I don't know. - Help. - Are we doing? - All right. - Yeah, I pray now. - I ain't be mad at my head. - He had a Twitter full of him with other guys, but told me it was old and he needed money. It was happening behind my back the whole time. - Nope. - Got it. - Okay. - That's so hurtful. - Yeah. - Yeah, that's super hurtful. I don't know, I feel like if-- - Also, you can be giving shit to other people - Yeah, you're jeopardizing somebody's health or life. Like there's just so many things that go into that. Like just be honest. Just be like, I still need money or I like it. I do it because I like it. - You guys can be passionate about it together. - Yeah, exactly. Or she can choose to leave. Like always give somebody the choice to stay or go. - Always. - Yeah. - Don't take that, don't take their free will away from them. They don't deserve that. - Yeah. - Look, I've needed money, but ain't nothing going in my ass. Just saying that. - I don't know, we heard the story the other day. - About something going in my ass. - Near it. That's different. (laughing) - So funny, bro. - Oh, it's crazy. - It's crazy work, go ahead. - Yeah. We were only allowed to hang out on Sunday because he was busy the rest of the week. - Okay. - We dated a full year. - You also would frequently sing Chris Brown's these Jose loyal to me while he was cheating on me the last three months. - He sounds like a real fucking gem. - Sounds like one of my exes. - Yeah, he sounds like a real sweetheart. - That's crazy. - It is crazy. - Two times in a year as well. - In a year. That's some serious time. Like ladies, stop fucking wasting your time for fuck boys. - Yeah, and then the people who said they stuck around for a year. - It's crazy. - And I've never stuck around that. - If I might have put up with some shit, it's because that person was in my life daily. You know, there's no way you're gonna see me twice in a year. And I was gonna be okay with that. - Yeah, not happening. - Like ladies, let's go. It's fucking 2026. We are raising our standards. - Move on. - Move on or fucking just let go. Let the dude go. They don't deserve you. - Yeah, I feel like this topic is, you know, kinda let them go. - This is an intervention actually. - Is this what this is actually an intervention theory? - We did this topic for you, Hayley. - Yeah, I know. - So let him go. - I'm head out. (laughs) - All right, guys, we're gonna continue this into another podcast, and it's gonna be a lot longer, so you guys go watch that. Love you guys. See you next week. - We use Shopify for our storefront at bunnyxo.com. And one thing I've learned from running an online store is that you definitely don't have to be an e-commerce expert to get started. I think a lot of people get intimidated by the website side of starting a business, but Shopify makes that part so much easier. One of my favorite things is having everything in one place when you're running a business. You already have a million things going on, so the last thing you want is for managing your storefront to be one more thing to stress about. 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