appreciate the little things you do for yourself | Pod With Ace Ep. 6

Why We Fail to Appreciate Our Own Personal Growth I want to leave you with this message and I want to start by saying appreciate the little things that you do so you don't end up hating yourself. Appreciate the little things that make change because you won't end up falling behind. I changed so much in my life and I always wanted to strive for more because I never thought I was good enough. I never thought I was worthy of love. I never thought I was worthy of where I was currently in life and I thought nothing had changed. Nothing had changed. But when I looked back, everything was different. I realized that the person I am now was nowhere near the person I was when I was 1617 years old. And I still carried those bad habits and the way I thought about myself from then to now. I never appreciate the little things that contributed to change. Therefore, I fell behind. I have imposter syndrome. I am not the person who I believe I am now. It's difficult, but applaud yourself the little things that you do. I always deem myself a failure because I was not living up to the expectations of perfectionism. At the age of 19. I wanted to have it figured out. I wanted to rub higher my parents, I wanted to be financially stable and to be an overachiever. But I had became the best physical shape of my life that year. I had worked 2 jobs, I've gotten out from my own 2 feet, I broke addictions, I made new friends, I got good grades in school, and I came back after having a terrible first college semester. I did so much for myself and yet I wanted more and I always appreciated myself and I always ended up with self hatred. I never appreciated those little things and I resented myself. I always thought that it would just go away if I just let it, if I just let those things linger. But I never took the time to reflect on the things that I had actually done and things I accomplished. It's something I'm still working on to this day, but I wish I could have told my younger self to appreciate the little things that I would have done. I thought I would have never changed. I thought I would have always stuck in those ways. I thought I was always going to be complacent and that nothing would have ever changed. I deemed myself a failure by the age of 18/19/20. My whole life I thought I was this person who would never get up and change for the better. When I I realize now is that one day I woke up and I realized I wanted to change my life and I applied myself to a system where I would not quit. How to Forgive Yourself and Change Your Negative Self-Talk I would not subsequently allow myself to stoop down and succumb to the vices of my life, to succumb to the distractions and everything else that would have rung me down. I took control of my life and I changed, but I didn't feel like I was changing. I was changing objectively, but I didn't feel like I was changing. That was the big problem. So if you're listening to this now, if you made it this far, please take a step back to realize and recognize what you have done for yourself. It's easy to be infatuated with the present and keep overachieving and to keep adapting to the new normal that is your day-to-day life. As I alluded to earlier, I feel like nothing's changed. But when I look back, everything is different. The whole landscape of my life, the way I apply myself, the way I think, the relationships I've been in, the experiences I've learned from, the mistakes I've made and have taken accountability from, has shaped me to the person I am today. I'm doing an impromptu speech about forgiveness of the self. To forgive yourself, to be accountable, to appreciate the little things you do. Because I don't want someone to end up hating themselves like I do. I would go to sleep sad and cry myself to sleep because I felt as if I was a failure. I didn't make my parents proud. I proved everyone else right. Because I was wrong about my own self. I fell short to my own shortcomings. And when you're a young teenager, it can be easy to appreciate on yourself it it's easy to get down on yourself and think that things are over because you have a sequence of bad days, bad month, or a bad year of your life and think that things will never get better. But life in itself is ever changing, so why not change it in a positive way? Why not view yourself in a positive way? The way that you talk to yourself is shaping the way you look at yourself through the subconscious mind. So start looking at things differently. Start telling yourself you're not a failure. You have to recognize that thought pattern and realize I am not a failure. You have to tell yourself that. I always deem myself a failure for example, but in reality I should have been telling myself I am not a failure. I think I'm a failure because my feelings lead me to that. If I recognize that I have changed so much. I went from being a very below average student in high school with a 2.52.6 GPA at best to at least getting on a scholarship. And even though I failed my first college semester, I got back up and I achieved A4 point O for three semesters in a row, almost 4. Breaking Free from Past Labels and Embracing Self-Appreciation I'm doing so much for myself, like I'm in the best physical shape of my life. I done so much for myself, I can't even imagine everything I have done in the past year. But I realized that I never told myself that. I never hyped myself up as if I had done something ever in my life. I was so used to to never accomplish things, to always being a failure and labeling myself as something like a loser, a bum, a failure, someone who didn't deserve to be here and be worthy of a human experience. But you are worthy of a human experience. Oh 100% you are worth it. It's the big things, but it's also the really little things. Pause. And at a certain point, you got to realize that no one's going to change that mentality for you. You might shape the way you look at things over time, through experience, but those harboring insecurities that you carried with you from the ages of 15, maybe it's time to really break free from that. Teenage trauma, per SE was let go of that, that thing we hold to our own selves. For me, I was severely obese. I was 230. I always had my, I always pulled my shirt because I was fat. I always pinch my nipples because I've kind of, I mean, it's the, the silly things, but I still had those, those habits when I lost all the weight and became in great shape, I, I never appreciated myself. I always wanted more. The bar kept going higher. I just kept moving the goal posts and I never took time to realize I had changed. Crazy, right? How the little things can shape the, the person you are today. But rewiring your brain isn't easy, but it starts with the really small things. I appreciate the little things you do for yourself, man. You do a lot more than you think you do. And you don't give yourself enough credit for the things that you've done and persevered through. And your best is more than enough, man. I'm proud of you for living and making it this far. Thank you for listening if you made this far. I love you all and I appreciate you for taking the chance to listen to my video. I love you all.