AMANDA IS BACK BABY

The following podcast is a dear media production. Hello my darlings. This week we have Amanda back on the podcast. Your number one requested guest besides WD. This is such a funny, perfect, I just love doing this episode. It's great. It's nice for me to have a light hearted conversation and to shoot the show with my friends. So please listen to this with the lightness and brevity of which it was intended. This is supposed to be darling, lighthearted and totally fun. And if you're so inclined to leave a positive review on Apple or Spotify, please do. I would appreciate it very much. Thank you. Okay. We have two dating stories and then we have questions that we're going to answer. Yeah, I came for a boy update to start. Okay. And I don't really know. I was saying that it's funny that we don't have real life updates because we saved them for the pie and then Amanda will call me and be like, okay, we can talk. I can't tell you anything but like I have enough stories for the podcast now. Yeah, I'll let you know. I'll be like, I have enough content. Like the first story is just going to be my life update which has been a pretty wild international adventure. You know a lot about this. So last October, me and Pia went to our best friends wedding and she married a Scottish guy and I set them up by the way. Yes, Pia literally set them up. So P is the OG matchmaker. And so the wedding weekend, my friend is posting on Instagram and she's like, is in town. And I'm like, who is on. We're using his real name. Oh shit. Oh, sorry, God, I shouldn't know. Oh my god. Sorry. Sorry. Oh my god. Okay. Oh yeah. Let me set that up. We had to start over because Amanda gave him a government name. That was bad. I'm just like, I'm just so comfortable here. Let's just put this man's like, it was my friend's wedding weekend and I saw her post on Instagram that the quote unquote uncle was in town. And I was like, who is this? Like, who is this? Of course, she does not reply in true fashion. Yeah. That night, also weird that she didn't automatically she's busy. She's busy. She's getting married. Like she doesn't have time to like deal with me being like, who is this? Yeah. She's just like, whatever. So I was so perfect glam that night. I was like, you look at me, Barbie. I had like a gold Air Ray LaJay dress on. My hair was popping. Spray tan was popping. Shout out Airbrush, by Alexandra Lexi. And went to the wedding, literally like catch eyes with him pretty much in the first like 30 minutes. And I go up to him like, who like, who are you? Yeah. He starts speaking to me like this insane Scottish accent. And I'm like, I don't know what you're saying. And then he admits to me, he's like, I saw you on Instagram too. And I was like, oh my god, that's so crazy. We were just like attached to the hip the entire night talking, chatting, he's getting me drinks. People keep trying to talk to me. I'm like, no, I need to talk to this hot Scottish man. That was like the talk of the wedding for like, like at one like around in the bathroom. As everyone's like, Juicy, man. What's his name? It's like, oh my god, they're totally going to have sex tonight. It was like so exciting. I know. I thought that was so fun. So fun. Also so funny. It was like, it was like in LA. So like, didn't really feel like one. Yeah. Then we go to the dance floor. He tries to kiss me on the dance floor. And I'm like, absolutely not. Are you kidding me? Are you kidding me? Like you want to kiss me in front of all of my friends? Like, absolutely not. So I was like, I don't know if this is your first rodeo. This is not how this works. So then I was like, we can go out to the patio. So we went to the patio. I literally took it in the patio. So we had our first kiss. We had like such a fun like magical night. It was like, it was such a vibe. And then we had one little like a one night romance. And then, yeah, the next day I was like, okay, I'll see you later. He's like, well, I'm in town for a couple days. And in my head, I was just like, no, you had an innocent night, by the way. It was it was PG 13. Yeah, I want to propose that. It was PG 13. And I just was like, no, like, no, like you're going home. Like, you know, we're not. We don't need to drag this up. And so we like calls again the next day. He's like, we hang and I'm like, no. I mean, like literally calls again the next day. And he's like, one more shot. And I was like, no. And then the next morning, I was flying out to Minneapolis to me with target. And then I just had this like paying of like, God, am I being such a bitch? So I wrote him. I was like, this is insane. But my flight said, nine, like, you can come like kiss me goodbye at seven AM. And he's like, okay. So he comes to my house at seven AM. He was staying on the other side of town. I know. Comes to my house. I didn't know this. Yes. I was like, you're savage. I know. So you want to come kiss me at seven. And then he like came over and we like made out. And then I went to the airport. And then after that, I was like, I don't even know where this is going. But that was so fun. And that was also PG 13. Yeah. That was it. That was PG. Oh my god. So then we started like talking. Still, I'm not taking it very seriously. He was like, I want to come out for Christmas. I was like, no, it's my time off. Like, no. And then he keeps being, we keep talking. And I'm like, he's kind of like so sweet. Then I get a package in the mail. He sends me a postcard from Scotland and a box of gum. Because I really liked the gum. He had it. It was like European gum sends me a box of the gum. I don't know. But I fucking know any of the handwritten letter. And I was like, this is really cute. Because he's so sweet and nice and effortful. So he's like, he's like, look, I want to come to LA anyways. And I was like, okay, fine. You can come. So I was like, okay, you can come. And then I was like, but I want to go on vacation. Oh my god. I had really been, I was like, I really my next man that I kind of dive in with. I was like, I want them to like take care of me and take me on a trip. And I like, there's these things I've been manifesting. So I was like, I want you to, I want you to take me on a trip. For context, you just so people don't think that you're, that you have been only doing that for a man for a long time. So I've never, I've never been taken on a trip like, neither 100% by a man, me, not even fucking close to like my ex boyfriend before, sorry to cut you off. No, coming off my ex. We met when I was still living in New York. And I was about to move back to LA. And he came to New York. And he was like, what do you want to do on your like last night in New York? And I was like 25. I was super young. And I was like, it's my dream to stay at the Bowery. And he was like, okay, and got like this, like the smallest, like little normal room at the Bowery. And we like ordered in room service. And then I'm not kidding you. Then we then we dated. I'm not kidding you. And then he would just buy me stuff all the stuff one time. We're at his parents house. And his mom goes, what are all these charges on my credit card? No. You know what he said? Pia. Pia wanted to stay at the Bowery. You're like, why'd you put it on mommy's MX? I said, I'm sorry, I had no idea that you were paying for this. He made it seem like these are all gifts for me. And she said, you need to write me a check. And I was probably making like $45,000 a year at this point. I remember my paychecks by weekly or like $1,200 to $1,500 I think. And she wanted me to write her a check for like $1,000 or something or like 800. And I was like, I don't have, so I wrote her a check. And I was like, if you cash this now, I won't, it'll bounce. So I have to wait to get paid again. And I was splitting right with him. He made me split rent. By the way, he was 12 years older than me. So if I was 25, he was splitting rent, but there's shame, like, stealing mommy's CC, stealing mommy's chase out by her and running up the top and then being like, Pia, and then sitting there while she was like, you need to pay me. It's crazy. I think it pops in my head quarterly. Romance and romance and romance and finance is such a sticky situation. I could talk about that for a whole hour. Actually, I have a financial therapist specifically. I don't know that, but I'd like to talk to this person probably. Oh, she's amazing. You should have her on Asia Evans. She's incredible. This is incredible. No, we need to talk about that. But she helps you kind of unfold and dismantle a lot of your financial pre-programming just from like your childhood and like whatever. And for me, I've had my company since I was 14 years old. And you know, I've had like employees since I was like 21. So it's complicated for me. So anyways, I was like, I just want a man to take me on a trip and he was like, I got you. So he came out to LA who was, you know, it was, it was a lot like, it was a lot because I didn't know if I liked him yet. Yeah. We went on a trip. He stayed in my house. Also, he's our best friend's husband's relative. Yes. So there's like added layer there. Yeah. I was nervous, but we had the best time in LA and then I was like, oh, fuck, I think I like him. Like for real, for real. Like he was so wonderful and easy. He met everyone. We had the best time. Like not to say it wasn't without hiccups, but it was just us trying to like, you know, get to know each other in a really short amount of time. It is so unbelievably important to stay hydrated, but did you know that drinking water doesn't necessarily lead to hydration. You really need electrolytes, electrolyte deficiency or imbalance can cause headaches, cramps, fatigue, brain fog. It can make you feel weak. It's truly a difference when you get it right. And also if you're just somebody who like has cocktails or works out or moves your body, you are likely deficient in electrolytes. That's why element has just been like a fluid part of my life for many years because it's a zero sugar electrolyte drink mix. And I learned a few years, how important it is to replenish electrolytes. And so I was using random drink mixes, especially after a night out of drinking. And I read the packet one time and realized that there was so much sugar. And that's why I switched to element. Listen, there's a growing body of research that reveals that optimal health outcomes occur at sodium levels that are two to three times the government recommendations. So each serving of element delivers a meaningful dose. It is formulated to restore health through hydration and is perfectly suited for athletes, folks who are fasting, keto, low carb, paleo, whole food, anybody. They also have a new summer flavor, which is lemonade salt, which is absolutely delicious. It is the most perfect summary, salty, tart, refreshing drink. I mean, this is like something you want to drink. It's just so delicious. And right now element is offering a free eight count sample pack of their most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase. So it's the best way to find your favorite element flavor or you can share with a friend. Get yours at drinkelement.com/pia. This deal is only available through my link. So you're going to go to DRINK LMNT.com/pia. And by the way, element is totally risk free. So if you don't like it, give it away and they'll give you your money back. Absolutely no questions asked. And that is because they have a very low return rate and a very high reorder rate. Dating in this era is in casual. It's strategic and emotional. And sometimes it still feels absolutely ridiculous. Welcome to we met at ACME, the OG dating podcast that meets you right where you're at and gives you the real rules for dating, marriage, and life beyond the ever elusive happily ever after. I'm Lindsay Metzelar and I've been through it all. The apps, the ghosting, finding the one, the ring, and yes, even the baby. Expect ultra honest guest conversations. Personal hot takes an unfiltered advice where I give it to you straight no exceptions. So sit down, tune in, and take notes every Sunday because the rules of dating may have changed, but the standards higher than ever. Did you watch me meet him at SVB and how weird I was? No. What'd you do? Did you even like, no one can understand what he was saying? No, he's like knew so much about it. And so I let he like walked up and our two friends who are related to this person are sitting across from me. So they're staring at me and he's on their side and he went, hi, he had nice to meet you and I went, hi, it's so nice to meet you. And they went, what was that? And I was like, oh, and he's looking at me and they're looking at me and I was like, why are you just so weird? But he's still standing there and I was like, I don't know, I was just like nervous. I was like, weird to have like, it was because I had like a love as well. And I had like, he didn't speak English. I mean, I was like so stupid. I don't know why it was like so nervous. I feel like that was really weird. Well, I feel like I wasn't like a love is blind, quote unquote, relationship because like we were getting to know each other over the phone and FaceTime. And then we had IRL. Then then between then we like, you know, we just like got super, super close. We were talking all the time and then it was this 40th birthday recently. So he's like, I want to, let's go on a trip for my birthday. So I was like, okay. And then we're like one, two, three Paris. Yeah, we're both like, okay. I was like, I really want to go to Paris. He's like me to have never been. So he went to his birthday in Paris. And like between the trip to Paris, it has been like, I don't know, like was like six weeks or something and then like really ramped up. And you know, we talked a lot about like what's it? What would it be like? It was serious. Yeah, it was getting serious. So like, what's it going to be like if we want to like be together? Like, how often are we seeing each other? Like, who's traveling where? Like, where are we spending? Thanksgiving? Where are we spending Christmas? Like we were going to. Was I just willing to move here? Yeah. He was like, I'll move here. I was like, okay. Like, let's just take one step at a time. But he was being so effortful, like carving out so much time in his life. It's like, make me a priority. I just appreciate it. Like effortful award. I think, I don't know. Perhaps or perhaps not. But you've said it. This is like maybe the first time I was like, is it actually Google it? Effortful, not a word. What does it mean if you're giving a lot of effort? You said it before and I kind of blocked out for a second. I was like, do I bring this? We actually need to know if it's a word or not because I say it all the time. Effortful is not a word. You say it all the time? Yeah. Does it mean giving effort? When I look it up, it's just showing like a swallow exercise. Like, that's the top hit is like how to do an effortful. No, effortful is a valid English word. It's an adjective. Why can't I talk? It's an adjective meaning marked by effort or exhaustion. Yeah. Okay. Then I am right. It's a weird. I'm an idiot. People don't, I mean, I never hear it. But I'm like, what's the other, what's the only other way to say like our own great physical effort? Putting in lots of effort. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Okay. Then go on. No, thank God. I'm glad to be checked because it is a weird word. Wow. No. Okay. Please continue. Yes. Yes. Yes. It's the opposite. Effortful is the opposite of effort. Oh, no, it's not because effortless means easy. Yeah. Got to cut this whole section. Yeah. Yeah. We'll get into carving. Is this like, keep the little part where you're like, you said it twice. Is it real? We're like, oh, go cut it. At least Olivia also didn't think it was a word. No, I also didn't know. Okay. So between our LA trip and our Paris trip, I just really appreciated like how much time and effort he was putting in the communication was on 10. Mm-hmm. Like so good. Like we were really running through like a lot of like the logistics of things. It was great. I was like, whatever's happening is like good practice. So excited. This is so embarrassing. I started. I literally started to tell people I was like, I think I'm going to have a boyfriend soon. No, you were very graceful about it. Which is like, it was very much on track for that. I know, but I'm like, why do I need to be saying that stuff out loud? So it's okay. No. Yeah. It's okay. I know. So I mean spoiler alert. We went to Paris and we like ended up ending things at the end of the trip, which is so crazy. Really proud of you. Yeah. This is a great chapter. You learned a lot. And two things were going to happen from that trip. You were going to solidify that you guys were going to be together. And that would have been amazing. Or you got to solidify that this is not the person you're supposed to be with. Also amazing. Yeah. Right. Truly. I was like, all I'm going to get is clarity, like either way, the cookie crumbles, but it was you got to go on a trip. Like, this is just like, I mean, life stuff. It was like always so good. So beautiful. It was so beautiful. Paris was amazing. Like he's like also the best. Like he's still like the best guy ever. And yeah, it was just so tough to like go on a trip. You know, you're like, I don't want to get my hopes up. But then you're like, really getting your hopes up. And then it just didn't pan out that way. But I remember you told me something. We went to lunch before and I was like, I'm so nervous. And you were like, just when you show your eyes and you're laying in bed, just think if you feel it in your bones or not. And I just remember, yeah, I thought I was like, that's such good advice, because that's like very visceral. That has to do with like your gut. That's something I very much lost touch with when I was married. And that's something I'm very much in touch with now, post divorce is my gut. And then I my gut was like, this isn't this isn't it in for him. So happy that that worked for him too. You know, it like wasn't aligned totally. Yeah, it was it was buck wild though. Like we were like eating crock monsters in La Morelle. And I was like, oh my god, are we this I can't believe this isn't moving forward. Like this is insane. What day on the trip. Did you have that conversation? How many days were left on the trip? Like the last day, the lot it was last day last conversation. Oh, okay. Well, at least it wasn't like at the beginning of the trip. No, but the trip with the trip had like challenges. Yeah, he's such a cutie. Like even after that, he like took me to the train station. She slept all my shit, a gamey little kisses, and I was like, you're the best. It's just great. So hot. Do you know what? Like what like the big takeaway from that whole thing is, it's just never bad practice to be treated well. It's never ever. It's never a waste. It's not a waste of time. I don't regret any of it. It was like, okay, no, this is so fun. Yeah, like if someone's supposed to be doing it when they're single. If someone's treating you well, like I think you should just keep putting one foot in front of the other. If you're like, oh, I don't know if this is going to work out. What are the logistics? I'm not sure if I'm that into him, whatever. Like just keep moving forward until you know, until you know, until you know. So it was sad. It was better sweet. So Mandy is back to square one. You're not back to square one. No, I'm not back to square one. You've never been hotter. You've never been more successful. Things are good. And you have another story that's apparently, did you make those earrings? Yes, I did. The front ones? Yes, these are these. I have to have them. If you guys can see, these are new love AJ, they're the Emerald bezel huggies. They are next to diamonds. They look like diamonds. They're so cute. I have to. What are you wearing on the second hole over there? Diamonds. There's the dangles. Custom dangles. I want that. Yeah, they're cute. I need to, I have a bunch of holes today. Do you see that? I have three PMS in one. They look insane. They look so beautiful. They look so good. I want to picture of them. I have ADD, ADHD, as I'm sure you could tell if you listen to this podcast because I cannot keep a thought straight. I ramble on. It is very hard for me. It's been hard my whole life. It made me feel very odd and sad and gave me a horrible school experience as a child. And that was until I found the right stimulant for me. But that stimulant also at a young age, especially, came with a lot of crashes, a lot of mood swings, a lot of emotional depletion. And it's always been an odd thing for me, right? How do I balance needing something that makes me actually productive with the crashes and the emotional emptiness that I feel. And that is where stasis comes in. It's a supplement that is designed specifically for people who take stimulants. This is so smart. I'm so lucky to be living in a time where we're provided with these types of things. It targets the why behind the crashes, the things like the cortisol spikes and the dopamine depletion and the oxidative stress that comes with stimulant use. So it means fewer mood swings, less brain fog and a smoother end to the day. And the best part is that you don't have to cobble together a supplement regimen because there are 23 of them in the daytime and nighttime supplement system. The daytime formula stabilizes energy and sharpens focus and the nighttime formula supports brain recovery. It's everything that you need in one supplement. All the ingredients are naturally derived to the backward research for precision targeted formula for the unique needs of stimulant users. So if your stimulant works, but you still feel like something is missing, stasis might be the thing. It's been a game changer for my routine and it might be for you too. Don't let Adderall make you feel like shit, pair it with stasis and get your focus without the 3 p.m. energy crash, moodiness or restless sites. Get an extra 25% off your first purchase of stasis using my code best to check out. There's only one that knows creamy. It's Philadelphia cream cheese. It's extremely versatile. It can be used to enhance any meal, snack or anything in between because Philadelphia makes everything creamier. Listen, what's better than Philadelphia cream cheese? That has been a staple in my refrigerator since I was a little kid. And obviously we love to put cream cheese on a bagel that is the obvious classic, but we have now elevated ourselves past that. We use it in veggie dips. We use it to enhance our guacamole. Don't tell diabetes, but sometimes we throw it in our creamy pasta. Buffalo chicken dip is my favorite. And if you go on TikTok because I live on there, the recipes are unimaginably delicious like cream cheese ice cream using Philadelphia. They also have pumpkin spice cream cheese because it's the damn season. You can enhance anything by adding a little scoop of Philadelphia ramen pizza. And I like to add a dollop to my salad dressings to make my salad dressing just like super creamy and like really elevate you know, something that people make, you know, diabetes salad, right? But if I make it creamy and delicious with a little bit of Philadelphia and that in that dressing, he's all about it. Like I said, there are so many incredible recipes on TikTok, but also if you go to creamcheese.com, there are a plethora of recipes for you. Philadelphia makes everything creamier and visit creamcheese.com for recipe inspiration so you can start adding Philadelphia to your recipes at home. Anyways, so I know what the listeners came for, and they came for some rather fucking laughs. We need the we need drama. So the drama, the drama starts here. So I came back from Paris, you know, everyone's like, how did it go? And I'm like, you know, you know, we're not together, whatever. So one of my friends is like, I'm going to set you up. I was like, okay, sure. Like why not? And he was like, okay, he's like, I'm not going to tell you who he is. I'm not even giving you the name. He's like, I'm picking the restaurant and I'm going to tell both of you guys the day that I'm in the spot. And I was like, fun. Sign me up. Very fun. So he's like, okay, Wednesday night, 8 p.m. meat outside the restaurant. What restaurant? Drum roll, please. The scene of all of my crimes, chaconis. I'm saying it out loud because I need to put the seniors. I need to stop. It's a cross. I need to stop having dates at chaconis. I've never had a good day. Only at psychotic dates at chaconis. Remember the story? I told y'all the chick coming up to the table 27 times. I was at chaconis. Chaconis is bad news. Anyways, I mean at chaconis, so for context, I live walking distance. So I walked there, walk up. I see the guy. He's like six. How do you know the 10, by the way? Because he was the only man standing there. Okay. And then I looked at him and I was like, are you my date? And he was like, yeah, you're my date. He's like six, six. So not my type. Oh, no. I was like, what? Like, whatever. But he's, I'll say this. He's like not, he's not not attractive. Like he's like, told Ark and Handsome. Okay. Just not my, not my vibe. I walk in the restaurant. He's like being kind of awkward. And then he sees his whole group of guy friends. No. Yes. Like in the first two seconds, he doesn't introduce me, which is fine. Like, I don't even, he doesn't even like know my name at this point. He sees the boys. And then we walk up to the bar. And I'm like, oh, yeah, he's like, oh, yeah, those are all my guy friends. And then he starts to go. He's like, that's like weird that they were all there. He wasn't invited. And I'm like, oh, like, I don't, I have no context. So I'm like, okay. So then I'm like, I order my drink. I order my, I order my spousa martini. He orders his drink. And he starts going, yeah, that's like, it's pretty weird. And he's, and then I'm like, anyways, I'm like, how is your week? And we kind of start kicking. And then he said, let me actually circle back. He's like, I think I'm not invited because my boy owes me 10K. No, no. And I'm like, your boy owes you 10K. And he's like, yeah. And I'm like, I don't, I don't even know what that means. And like, I don't care. So then I'm like, how is your week? And he's like, oh, God, he's like, today was, today was rough. He's like, I really need a drink today. I was rough. And I'm like, why? And he goes, he's like, I got, I got, I got, I got sued today. My martini has not arrived yet. And he proceeds to sell me. He was in a car accident. And the other person had their balls amputated at the scene of the crime or the scene of the accident. And he's now being sued. This is before vodka has hit my lips. And I'm like, this is a lot, babe. This is a lot. I'm drawing so hard not to laugh because I feel so bad for the victim. At this point, I know the victim also was like, this is very interesting. But how do your balls go? I don't know. The story, he told me like a 45 minute story about it. So it was really crazy. But he told me all about this, like, the lawsuit. And I'm like, this is a lot, this is a lot to take in. Let's take in. So I'm trying to like pivot conversation. And I'm like, where's at least a second date? That's at least a second drink drop. Like, babe. So then I'm like, where do you live? Okay, where do you live? He's like, West Hollywood. I was like, oh, me too. And he's like, I really got to move soon. I'm like, why? And he's like, honestly, he's like, I get hit on way too much. I'm like, you get hit on. He's like, yeah, it's crazy. He's like, everyone wants to bang me. And I go, everyone wants to bang you? And he goes, why are you talking like that? I go, because it's, it's an insane thing to say. I was like, that's not even, it's not true. It's not true. I was like, that's happened to you like once, but I've been one time. Everyone wants to bang you. And he's like, that's rude. I'm like, he's sick. He's like, why are you talking like that? He's like, you're being rude. I was like, I'm not being rude. I was like, no one has ever said that. No one's ever said that. It's not true. It's not true. It's not true. Like, you're making this up. And then I was like, you're crazy. I was like, well, you're being crazy. Like, keep it moving. Great date. You're being rude. And this one, I'm like, what are you having? Are you sat down yet? You ever sat down at this point? I was like, this isn't going anywhere. So I was like, I'm going to have like, I'm just going to be like silly. You know, I'm just being silly on the date. And I'm like, I'll fight through. I'm like, ask me questions. And he's like, and then he's, he kind of starts like perk up. And he's like, start to ask me good questions. And it was like, this is funny. He's like, but still, I'm like, this is not a vibe. So the dates, the dates wrapping up. I'm like, I'm going to go. And he's like, oh, is your, is your Uber here? And I'm like, no, I walked here. He's like, okay, I'll walk you home. And I'm like, no, it's fine. He's like, no, no, he's like, honestly, it's late. He's like, you can't really be like walking home by yourself. I was like, fine. So he walks me to my house. And we were talking about saunas. And then he's like, oh, can I come in and see your saunas? I was like, sure. So I walk him in the house. And he goes, oh my god. And I'm like, what? And he's like, you're chic. You are chic. And I'm like, you're so chic. It's just strange. Adjective. And I was like, thank you. Because he's not expecting to be chic. I don't know. And then he goes, he starts walking around and he's going, this is like that episode of Sex in the City when Charlotte brings the guy home and he freaks out over how nice her apartment is. Literally. He starts walking around. He's touching the countertop. He's like, this is finished. And he's going, he's going. This cow cut of Yola. And I'm like, yeah. And he's like, how many slabs did you get? I'm like, six. He's like, damn, damn. And then he's touching the walls. And he's like, what is this Roman clay? And he was like, yeah. And he's like, damn. And then he saw my sauna. He's like, is this a four-seater? I'm like, yeah. And then he comes in and he's like, you're like, yeah, I make money. Where do you live? I'm like, you didn't ask me any questions on the date. So whatever, you don't know any of this information. Also, what? Also, stop touching my cow cut of Yola and guessing the skirt footage. And then it comes in the kitchen. And then he goes, you're going to offer me a tear. What? And I said, no. I said, you got to go. And he's like, really? And I'm like, yeah, really? You got to go. And then he kissed me. I'm like, in what universe did this signal a kiss? I'm like, get out of here, dude. What did you say after us? I said, bye. I said, goodbye. But thank God, I think he knew. I think he knew it was a no because he never, never hit me up. Anyway, so that was my blind date. I called my friend. And he's like, how was it? And I'm like, wasn't a love match babe, but thanks, thanks for trying. So yeah. So I went on a blind date. I went on and I still think you need like a sports agent. I definitely need some. I have like some man before. I see it so clearly. This man represents like a Laker. I love that. The Clippers. It's the Lakers. I'm telling you, I see that as your life. And it's like a house in Hancock Park. Like I just. Yeah, see it because you are so smart and so good at business and a guy like that, he might be like divorced already. And he like, and he just wants a woman who like he can get home with at the end of the day. And like, he can have a real conversation about what his work day looks like. And you can give him real feedback. Like, Dobby Day, like asks me advice. Like, you need. It's the best. You need that. I had that when I was married. And I really loved that. It felt like true building. And you need someone who I hate because fuck your ex. But like, you were so fun. Yeah. It needs to be fun. We got to have fun. You're so fun. I know what I need to be. It needs to be fun. And it needs to be like building. I mean, my mom jokes like I get it for my mom. Like I. I have the ability to make a man 30 to 60% more successful in one year and increase their ROI. Yeah. Like, are you like the ROI on dating me is crazy. It's really. You want to make more money. You want to get hotter. It's a crazy. It's a lot. Yeah. I see it. I tell you what my like POA is though for the next couple of months. I guess for summer. Yeah, we're going into hot girl summer. Yeah, we are. But this is this is my game plan. And like anyone else that's single, this needs to be the game plan. Because I think this makes the most sense. So it's called to block it one and bucket to them. Okay. So bucket one boys. These are like the North star guys like the guys that are actually hitting the qualities we're looking for. They're the ones putting enough for being good communicators. That's the guys. You have to act right. Put your best foot forward. Clear the roster. Stop playing games. Communicate and be authentic with. Okay. So like that's like my like my Scottish man. Like he was a bucket one. So I put all I like went in. Mm-hmm best foot forward. Bucket two guys are the guys that you know you're not going to be with. You have to clock them as bucket two from the jump. And then you got to tell your goals. You can't make a bucket one. You got to tell your girls to a bucket one. Because what you need to do is once you call it and you hold yourself accountable and your friends hold you accountable. You can't fall in love with a bucket too. You can't be spiraling over a bucket too. Mm-hmm. You can't be losing sleep over a bucket too. You can't be tripping over a bucket too. You know what I mean? Yeah. It helps. It's like helps you like snap out of it. Yeah. So if you're like oh my god. Like he has like it's like bucket two who cares? Who cares? Who cares? Because I'm not going to be with him. Mm-hmm. And he's not like for a family. But by the way people enter marriages like that. Because they're like what? Like hardcore are like but like the guy treats them and then they're like wait but then and all of a sudden it's about the tactic and not about the bones. It's the it needs to be the bones and like bucket one guy he might not even look like what you want him to look like. But he has to have like never do. I was so confused by what Davide looked like. Like the story I described to you of like knowing in my bones I remember laying there and he was like naked next to me and I was like huh so you're the one huh? Like that's what you look like like that's that's what like there were his upper thighs and his hairy chest and like these look close he wears like. It's never anyone's type but he's gorgeous. But he's going to get hotter. Yeah he he looked so like the other night at Chateau I was like you look insane he looks amazing. I didn't even like that outfit. He looked great. Yesterday I was like I was looking at him and I was like you've grown into like you're himself. Yeah. Because when I met him and he was working at Brunello he was really tightly wound he was dressed like he thought he was supposed to like he was just like young and like really wrapped up in like this thing that he thought he needed to be and like but same you know what I mean? And like we've just like grown up together but I remember just thinking like what I mean think about the men I dated before. I had like nothing to do. I know with like I mean every person I've ever dated or slept with is like completely opposite for one another. I don't have a type but like I didn't think I was going to marry like the suit like when you definitely would wear like three piece suit you'd wear like the Leonardo Capri like Pinocchio hat. Yeah. One time he was quite formal with every face. I mean in his life is everybody looking at me on the subway and I go you're dressed in a Pinocchio costume. You have the fucking hat on. It looks like you should bring out a fucking accordion dog. Not like you. I don't care if it's eight thousand dollars worth of fucking Brunello Cuccinelli. Nobody dresses like that. He does love a linen night gown. That was just an Ibiza. I loved it. That was so funny. I was like no one could have. He had no unease on. I know. I was so pregnant. That was exactly a year ago. Oh my god. That's crazy. Yeah it was. Yeah it was. Yeah it was. Yeah it was and I had a boyfriend. Thank you Cotton for sponsoring this episode. You should feel confident about what you put on your body. So whether that's clothing or your sheets. You want something that is soft and natural and that's why I just love cotton. Who doesn't love cotton? Who doesn't? I mean denim and a white t-shirt. I mean it's to me it's just like the American uniform. Cotton is gentle on your skin. It breathes so it keeps you cool. It's hypoallergenic and what is better than putting on that perfect t-shirt that you've had forever or getting into a perfect cool yummy cotton bed on a spring or summer night. I always choose to wear cotton when it gets warmer out and I don't know if you know how many different cotton fabrics there are. Again we have denim, corduroy and flannel. It's such a versatile fabric you can wear it with any style season or occasion. Cotton is also so durable. It's easy to wash and care for. It keeps its shape and listen I love cotton for a multitude of reasons. One of them also being you know financial but on top of that the nostalgia that comes with wearing an item that you've had for so many years of your life like my favorite jeans. The jeans I'm wearing right now. I've had these since before I had my daughter and I've worn them through two pregnancies and my favorite favorite favorite white t-shirt I've had through my 20s so I always think about what I put it on like how many places I've worn it. Davide wears one of my dad's t-shirts. It's this cotton shirt that he loves so much that he wears every single time we fly for good luck. If choosing quality fabrics is important to your family make sure that you look for the cotton tag. Cotton truly is the fabric of our lives. Learn more at the fabric of our lives dot com. So yeah that's the vibe and the bucket one bucket two thing it's helpful because you keep your eye on the price. Such good advice. And then you keep your energy limited but you still get to like have fun and have adventures because it doesn't mean like I'm going to be a nun until I like find the one. It's like not about that like I need I need like kisses and I need attention in between I know myself. I'm telling you but I dated so many people right before when we were off and on and it was the best thing I did and it taught me so much about myself and like what do we do where to stay home and like a take talk go on date. Definitely not. I need to be outside. I'm also too cute to be inside for real. I'm way too cute to be inside. You actually know how many dots are on my Instagram stories. We would see in that. I'm out and out dude you are in Vegas for a weekend you went to Kendrick Lamar. Also I was like who are these girls. She's like Alex and yesterday were like who shit Kendrick and then we're like we don't even ask you anymore because we're just like she's out. By the way the Kendrick was the Kendrick was funny. Curry's friend was going to Kendrick and we literally just split the bus with them because we needed to like split a party bus. We didn't even know those people. Oh okay. I was like I don't know these people. We didn't know we didn't we like we have tickets to Kendrick. We separately we separately a tickets. We were like I said it would be economical to split a Sprinter van. How did you find the people that had the Sprinter? I me like I got a Sprinter. By the way I asked chat GPT to find me the cheapest Sprinter van in Los Angeles and it did like I actually can't even believe I found this company. So you got a Sprinter for just you and Karee to go to Kendrick and then you were like let's add some because it's 14 seats. I'm like we have said film this thing up. Why did you think that you and Karee should just get a Sprinter to go to Kendrick? We knew we were gonna fill it up. We knew we would. We just it's all about the ride. It's all about the ride. The ride to the destination is the party. The Uber to the party is the party. Was it fun? It was the bus. Charlie was the bus driver. Had to tow Dodgers. He was like whipping. We need to do another throwback to our first fun weekend together. You know what? Yes. We're going to tell people we're meeting for brunch. And we're going to do the Sprinter thing again. In guys in 2013 I told all my friends P included I said come eat us. We were curious about each other. This is our first thing. Yes. I said Pia come meet me for brunch. I go please clear your schedule for the day. The knowing is there was no Uber at the time until I drove my car to Venice Beach and then left it there. I told everyone I was like just should come to brunch and clear your schedule and then me and my at the time husband ordered a Sprinter van and then after brunch we were like let's get on the Sprinter and then we just ran around L.A. But you guys you guys have no idea we got a rocket brunch and then she's like there was a surprise outside and we knew that there was going to be some sort of fun surprise. We had no clue. It was nobody's birthday and nothing was happening. We just get on this Sprinter. By the way what's true? We tried to go to a store. We got denied for being too drunk. Sam's Hofbroth which is so embarrassing. So it's the scariest place we ended up. My loser ex-boyfriend at the time was out of town. And so we all have after at my house which was so fun. Did people ask us relationship questions? Yeah I'm excited. There's one very serious long one. I'm currently going through a really bad heart break. My boyfriend every year left me with no warning prior. It's been really hard for me to process because this man was my world and security blanket and I never thought he would leave. We were best friends for a year prior to us getting together. Oh and we lived must be lived and we lived together this whole time. We spoke about our future buying a home and marriage so I am just absolutely gutted. He oh he was struggling and couldn't come she's gutted that he was struggling and couldn't communicate or work up a solution together and his solution was just to leave to help himself. We did fight in our relationship but nothing big. I was fully committed and we didn't, this is a talk to text that is not translating. However, when life became challenging he wouldn't know how to process his feelings. It would kind of lash at me and he would apologize and say he didn't mean for me to be the target but that he was committed to us and working on it. Also in the midst of dealing with this three weeks ago I lost my job. Oh my god. So bummer one like three skips. He has reached out and he still has 70% of this no wait this is real we have to do this. These these are relationship questions. They're not fun. They're tough. Dominant I would go through this a lot where he would be like how do I answer this? This is I know. He hasn't reached out. He still has 70% of his stuff at mine and I have stuff in his storage unit. I feel lost with how things ended and being 35 and starting over. You started over in your mid started over at 35 at 34. I mean the simplest thing to start crawling out of the whole of negativity is peppering in little bits of happiness in your day. It's really simple. It's like you start small. It's as dumb as like I really like getting matcha. I was just like getting a matcha or like I like for me mine was like I love being I love getting massages so I was like I just found like a hole in the wall and I started getting massages like literally five times a week. And then I was like oh this one person in my life really makes me feel good. I'm going to carve out like an hour a week with her are like going in a walk. It's stupid but then you start stacking it in. So then your day then it starts tipping from like most your day's shitty to like the smaller portion of your day's shitty. It's just time it's building you know. No one has ever had such an elegant divorce by the way like you by I did not see that coming. Yeah. And that was like so embarrassed. I know honestly it was like so embarrassed. I remember people were like shattering about it before I got divorced and I was so upset. I didn't know anything until after it would have been like solidified. Yeah. But you and this I'm not saying that this is like advice or that this is normal. But you did so much self work and like practical stuff post divorce that you like even like I had friends who were going through a divorce that were like can you tell me what Amanda did because you did a really good job of like coming out better and like so self-aware. So this is like that's incredible practical advice. Yeah because that's all it is. It's like you got to make tiny little habits within yourself. It sucks. It sucks so bad when someone is like treating you like shit or like not replying like that girl like the guy's not replying and not talking or it's like there's nothing you can do man. So like you just you got to get your your stuff in line and like what I just was like what are my goals and one of them was like who am I and what do I like. So I just started like trying stuff again and figuring out like what do I like like do I like going out do I like staying in. What do I want to look like. That was a fun one. I started playing around with my clothes and my makeup and my hair color and just figuring it out. But that to me that's what gets that's what calls me out of the hole is peppering and like tiny bits of happiness. My true biggest advice that sounds insane but has like as someone who was so heartbroken and is now in like year nine of a very healthy relationship with two kids is rejection is God's protection. Hell yeah. Gia said that to me and I was like so upset over my axe to be like babe rejection it's God's protection. You are going to be fine. I'm telling you and I would be like what no way and now I'm like thank God. Yeah because I mean what's meant for you will be even with business I think about the all the time there's so many like there's so many stores I want to be in and like accounts I want to get like there's like certain like PO's and I'm like I think I'm getting and then I'm don't get that I don't get it. I'm not supposed to get it. My factory's not supposed to produce it right now. If I'm going to get it I'm going to get it later. I did that you're supposed to yeah I did that like I literally did that I begged and pleaded with target begged pleaded full loser vibes went so ham on them seven years and they finally gave me a PO seven years by the way but I was like I know I'm going to get it. Yeah absolutely. And it was the right time and I ended up being for like a whole other collection I was like oh this is so interesting and then now I'm successful in target because I do their major league baseball jewelry. So cool. So so random but I'm like people love it and I'm like I wouldn't have been successful if I just a regular love AJ I digress but no but no this is important and now I'll talk about like I don't want to compare her to loser vibes but what I'm saying is when something like that happens and it's so bad it's so unforgettable that like you just need to start healing oh yeah and like holding on to like his stuff is here and my like we don't care when someone treats you like that it makes it a little easier because you're like oh you're such a piece of shit there's there is like thank god adora's close because another one is supposed to open we wish you the best baby girl truly you're going to be you're going to look back on this and like probably god and laugh and it's really hard to think about that right now but it's going to happen okay this is last one and this is really good for you I haven't been able to get into relationships since an awful situation ship with a narcissist five years ago my subconscious is so afraid what is your advice very interesting I can resonate with this because I do love a situation ship I feel like sometimes we teach ourselves that love needs to be earned when there's nothing like the feeling of someone giving you a little bit of bread crumbs and then then giving you a meal a validation and then taking it away it's a it's a very intoxicating cycle to be on but I think you have to be strong enough to be able to look at them and be like that person is broken and flawed that person doesn't pick me and choose me and I'm enough and I'm going to go out and find someone that does because it feels really really different when someone picks you and it feels really good it feels really good and it is not how you enter into a fucking relationship if it's you hoping to get picked because you are not objective at all about what you deserve and you need to think do I even it's about at that point it's about winning yes that my mom says this to me all the time that's why I'm thinking it's only gonna get married over this stuff Amanda you're so competitive because I have this one last situation ship this thing has been going on for years at this point I can't get over it I literally can't get over it don't put this in but this British director he like came back right during the fires yeah yeah I have this one situation ship that just I like oh god it drives me crazy yeah I'm like why would he want to be with me he like and then every time I see him he's just like you're the best the best one like so every time he comes into town you're just like oh and then we hung out and like yeah and it's by the way you're only like that with him it's crazy but I'm like I can't convince someone to love me if they don't you can't and it has nothing to do with this fucking girl and now if you are in person with us I'd grab you by the shoulders you are denying yourself memories stories chapters experiences things to laugh about with your friends on fucking podcasts for that loser think about what he's done the last five years probably lots of awesome shit who cares also you survived it and you will survive another thing and like you're not gonna die so go have fun yeah and sometimes you deserve it sometimes you kind of have to do like a little mental funeral and forgive the person for like not understanding how to love you properly you gotta you have to forgive that person yeah and just I love a mental funeral yeah where you go okay like this isn't it and this isn't serving me and this is done and you know you can be grateful for whatever you got from them and then you can forgive them for not understanding mm-hmm great yeah okay that was a wild ride I think those were great yeah I think they're good I think this is a great podcast yeah me too okay Olivia said we need to sign off I love to start a podcast made combo and end it diabolically yeah I did too I guess we started it with the lip liner yeah I hope you guys got some good little nuggets of wisdom I feel like we gave good ones lots of nuggets I'll just be giving nuggets the Pia Martini earring yeah Pia Diamond Martini sets are incredible please please shop them on levagia.com they come in one carrot and two carrots so many of you got the Pia tennis necklace yes this is a great companion to that it is you want to go full princess vibes full princess full princess and I'm gonna go have a really fun summer and I'll come back with stories I know it's happens by the way it's all already happening so do you have any vacations plan yeah I do where are you going I'm gonna go to Europe twice where going to go to Italy you don't like Italy I have to go for a wedding got it so I'm like I might as well go and enjoy I think you're like it London I'm gonna to Paris and maybe Copenhagen oh Copenhagen yeah fun yeah I'm just gonna go like really live it up this summer do it you deserve it where are you going I'm going to Paris with Davide for market at the end of June okay Alex will be there at the same time okay and then we're going to Italy in July for like two and a half three weeks maybe fun I don't I haven't booked any of these things and I'm neither I'm getting behind on it but we have a wedding and then we're gonna do like Calabria and Sicily after that I mean just like Beechel little Airbnb's traveling with two kids I don't even know fucking socks traveling with two kids fucking sock Carmel is an angel pie from heaven and we'll sit on any airplane quietly with like four little things and like play and lap and like look at people and be awesome and Carlos like the entire little boy fight and I would like to figure out if there is an age appropriate drug to give him yeah which there's not but oh my god I just now know like Davide was such a fucking miserable dick on our fucking flight back from this last trip because Carmel is just sitting there being perfect and Carlos like bouncing on me and then he's like moving the seat thing in between like the armrest up and down and playing peekaboo with the people behind us and they're like loving it because he's so cute and then any time and then Davide would just be like let me take him and Davide would grab it and then like try to put him to sleep and he would cry and he'd be like what's wrong with the baby and I was like you you are what's wrong your energy is uptight this is a he goes you think this is normal I said this is exactly normal also we were sick coming back he started to get a panic attack at one point in time I got both kids on my lap I look at him I said we don't have I said you don't have a the bandwidth to have a fucking pant all right no I said you don't have the privilege to have a fucking panic attack we're on a plane with two children coming back from fucking vacation I said put on a movie breathe and count backwards from a hundred I will see you here in a minute and a half I was like get it together you fucking door enough dog I hate you and then he was like literally like then we landed and he was like you're better than me I said I know I am I can handle I can handle way more than you mentally that's what women do men are bitches but I said you're the one that like wants lots of kids and whatever this is the this is this is what having a kid is he screaming on a plane and I have a good partner this is the first time in our relationship with the kids like with any that he was like a fumble for me yeah because he's usually like on it so he's just like was being such he just like didn't feel good we were sick we're gonna extend grace we didn't feel good and when men are sick they're bitch asses yeah said I blame your mother for this because she coddled you so hard every time you were sick you made that one made him up a little fingers cross he's better on your pairs leg they're not coming to pairs okay Italy though I know I was like yeah yeah yeah yeah anyway okay bye guys see you another time and that ladies and gentlemen concludes this week's episode of everything is the best I hope you enjoyed it please rate review subscribe all that stuff maybe leave a comment go ahead and follow me on Instagram @piabarangini and I hope you have a fabulous fabulous rest of your day love you ciao for products and services individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode