Accountability

hey guys welcome back to the c daddy podcast a podcast where we spread love light and transparency and we just be raw and real and we get into some things up over here i'm your hostess with the mostest chrissy daily y'all i am so excited for episode four this is episode four so if you are just tuning in and this is your first time watching go back three spaces go on back three spaces baby because yeah we got into some things on them other episodes and we definitely finna get into some things today before we get into some things today i do want to go ahead and you know give a big shout out to everybody who has been supporting and rocking with your girl y'all know i gotta do that one do that one for the one two so round of applause round of applause i really appreciate you guys so so much the people that be tuned in for the video podcast on youtube you also following me on my platforms you know tiktok instagram all of that youtube all of that and that's for you guys that are subscribed to me on apple google and spotify i really appreciate you guys okay so we're definitely getting into some things today and what we're getting into for sure today we're getting into accountability y'all know your girl got her cards we getting into some things today all right i want to say these first things first accountability is something that a lot of people do not like to own up to like we as people do not like to own up to it because accountability is not something that you just deal with one time and then you turn around you got it all together it's like a constant test after test after test after test when it comes to accountability you have accountability in in relationships in partnerships business when you have an accountability in the everyday things that you're choosing to do with your time you have to take accountability for those things the reason why this ain't happening is because you ain't did this or you did this which is why this happened we have to learn to take accountability as a whole okay and i'm saying as a whole because i'm speaking for me too like your girl been working on herself if you know you know your girl been working on herself but at the same time i have been putting in that work so i can't i can't say that your girl has been doing that for me to even just come up here and be talking to y'all about that and so a lot of times when i'm coming and talk to y'all about these episodes that i'm talking to y'all about the stuff that's still in the works for me like none of this stuff is an overnight process when it comes to this accountability taking it's definitely not an overnight process not for me it's not an overnight process it's not an overnight process okay now y'all can speak for y'all but you know for your girl no okay because i used to be a person that did not want to take accountability like and we're gonna get into that all right we're gonna definitely get into that like i definitely used to be like oh they did this to me or they said this to me and i didn't want to take accountability for it like i didn't want to take accountability for why they're saying it or why they're doing it or why i'm allowing it because you got to understand what you allow is what will continue again what you allow is what will continue and people be failing to realize that like if you're constantly putting up with something that you don't want to put up with and you're not taking any accountability for that you're going to keep allowing it to happen because you're not doing the work you're not doing the work of accepting and trying to fix the problem you just constantly going with it and just complaining about it and it's just becoming a whole cycle of not accepting the facts not accepting accountability not trying to change the situation the narrative nothing it's just gonna keep happening so i'm gonna give you guys an example y'all already know okay we do the examples we get into some things in the past i didn't really accept accountability as much as i do now okay because i'm learning this is a working process and i'm learning how to do it and i'm learning how to do it and i'm learning how to progress god knows me okay and he he know he know it's taking some time he know we doing our thing he know what's going on all right but i do want to say this i used to get upset and let my emotions control a lot of stuff and that's another thing you're accountable for your emotions i used to let emotions like drive me insane okay because i'm a person that feels deeply and feels a lot so when i feel like i don't know kind of like now now it's just like some stuff that i used to care about or trip over i just walk over all right yeah that one but i do still have like a lot of feelings for things don't get me wrong i'm still very much full of love but a lot of stuff that i once cared about then it don't matter now a lot of stuff like literally and that is all boys and down to accepting and accountability and rather i got an apology for it or not i still accept the apology i you know i said sorry for the people if they did someone said something and whatever or i forgave myself for old things that i've done in the past or said in the past or whatever so that's that's part of taking accountability for why i'm in this mood why i'm in this mode where it just don't matter to me no more because it's me accepting then and not bringing it into my noun but just learning from it like and when it comes to like situations an example is like i used to play dumb i used to be blind just seeing everything from rose colored glasses that's thinking everybody was for me just all of the above like people will give you that feeling like they will give you that as if this is what this is you know what i'm saying and we talked about that in the last few episodes like people will make you believe that this is what this is about or this we know you know like we really rocking and that's not what it is because people be full of crap but then you know i'm still working on me baby because i know i have some little ways to me too that i have to fix you know i know me but however i was this person that always seen everything through the good until it is not until i just let all my emotions just get to me like like i told y'all i over feel so when i feel sad i get really sad kind of depart i don't want to be bothered i want to be to myself let me get back to me let me get back to the happy mood i don't like to be around people when i'm feeling in that mood because i don't want that mood around others i don't really get mad let me say that i don't really get mad it don't even really be that deep when it comes to mad i feel like um it just don't be that deep you can't i don't really get that mad about nothing for real like however i used to be a person that when i got mad i got extremely mad like i said i continued to play dumb i continue to act blind i continue to see everything and everybody through rose-colored glasses continue to act off emotion it took me to sit to my self and just talk to myself and be like why am i allowing this to happen why am i letting what happened in the past why am i letting what someone else did to me affect my current relationship with another person why am i letting this friendship affect others or make me not even want to have friends because i don't trust a lot of people not be open to having more people come around me so i have to just like sit in it and just really just come down to the root of the problem and a lot of times we do have to like sit in it and take accountability for why like we have to literally sit there and ask ourselves why why why why why because why is this happening what are you mad about why are you sad why is this making you feel this way why are you feeling this way you have to literally sit there and ask yourself these questions because you're gonna just continue to disallow it is this gonna be a big cycle of this continuing of whatever emotion whatever feeling whatever energy and everything you just continuing to put out what you're doing to other people what you're saying about people what you're saying to people like all of that is what you just going to continue to put out because of a problem that you never accepted accountability for or that you never even took action to even solve so yeah i know you when your girl get the preaching she get the preaching that's what i know when i get the going i'm gonna get the going y'all already know that way i talk to y'all on my podcast this is how i talk in real life this is like mommy mode friend mode mentor mode on full force yeah it might sound a little crazy but people definitely have to sit with themselves and ask themselves these questions because if not it's gonna be a continued cycle so let's continue so this is another example you guys like i have not always been this person i was a person that was very very like um hold on real quick hold on real quick your girl was sweet now now i wasn't just doing stuff for no reason i feel like i always had a reason but the way i responded i wasn't taking accountability for that i have always been a sweet person okay i've always been a loving person a person that cared too much i've always been that person i feel like i'm just gonna i'm gonna die that person okay in my younger years i say like what high school years or whatever like that because that's when i used to get in the most trouble i feel like i used to get in the most trouble in high school for for the same stuff pretty much i remember like in my younger years i'm saying younger years i'm not really that old but y'all know like in high school years if you know you know i remember in my younger years i wasn't letting anything slide okay like if you think you could slide i'm finna ice skate on it okay that's how it was that's how it was like i was in full force i was like having feelings no feelings like i was like it was like a juggle through a day and it was this crazy because i was just running off of emotions running off of emotions and don't even let my sisters or my friends or something come and tell me some crap like i'm the last person they need to get to because i'm gonna take it from here to here take it from from two to two thousand quickly so that's how it used to be and i'm not very proud of it used to be but i'm thankful for the growth babe because it's definitely the growth i don't know as i got older i was just you know how you do like a reflection and you just reflect on old stuff and i'm like hmm yeah you learn you learn you learn you know what i'm saying you learn you learn you learn but as you get older you mature like most of us do we learn experiences change us and we just evolve and grow so yeah i just was one of them people like i'm still growing it took me to like understand it how i used to be i can't be that way and then part of the reason is once i became a mother i definitely was not on the same stuff as i used to be and i've told y'all in my first episode i believe like how i would try to be around some stuff that i was already accustomed to or used to or whatever couldn't work out wasn't for me and i just quickly started removing myself like once i started to see that the energy is not reciprocated i'm doing too much to even be around i'm not fitting there because i'm not supposed to be there i just remove myself like it don't matter it don't even have to be an environment it could be a friendship it could be a relationship it could be whatever it needs to be if i feel like this is not what i need to be doing at this moment it don't even have to be the environment it could be the relationship it could be the relationship it could be the environment the people or the things like i said it don't even have to be there it's just me taking accountability for me and my actions when i became a mom a lot of stuff that's changed and our dads begin to mature even more i don't know what it'd be but once you become a parent most of us once you become a parent you just begin to like see the world differently it's different like me becoming a parent saved my life honestly like i feel like i'm a parent i'm a parent i feel like that was god saving my life before i even had a kid yes i was in college and all of that but i was on a whole different ball game it was a whole different ball game baby and once i became a mother and started a family and all of that like life is just different it just hits different once i had my daughters just learned to let a lot of stuff slide and if i felt like i couldn't like bear with it or deal with it anymore i just began to remove myself remove myself from whatever or thing environment people whatever it is like i couldn't really let outside energy affect my day-to-day routine because i have to get up and do it for my family every day and it's still like that i couldn't sit here and let old things that i have not solved or dealt with become my new reality or my present when it's happened so many years ago and i just never healed from it or i just never healed from it or i just never healed from it or i just never healed from it or i just never dealt with it or took accountability for it and so i had to really just sit with myself and just say hey man what is the problem sometimes you do have to do little work workbooks worksheets get a little notepad and do a little something and write it down and see like what's the deal like what is causing you to be this way what you really have to get down to the root of the issue and then you have to see the steps that you have to go through to solve the issue and also you have to learn to take accountability for whatever part you caused in it or played in it and you have to be able to forgive yourself and you got to be able to move on another thing you have to learn from it like you don't want to continue to have this same test constantly constantly constantly constantly testing you because one thing about accountability is going to constantly test you in different ways it's gonna come in different times of your life it's not gonna just be like a one thing and then oh i got that in the bag no you don't next here it is again here it is showing up in your current relationship here it is showing up in your children here it is showing up in your workspace your business here it is showing up in your family here it is showing up in your goals that you have not accomplished yet i just had to like really just get to the point where i'm just like why am i angry why am i so sad now one thing that i can say and i was going to talk about this on another episode based out on different platforms what other video would you like to see next or whatever like some topic suggestions and people ask me how to deal with grief and so that's one thing that i'm still currently dealing with yeah that's a deep one so i feel like i'm kind of dreading that one because that's really a deep thing because i'm still going through it myself and when i really got to the root of a problem of why am i so sad it was because i lost my sister like i lost somebody that was really close to me like the closest to me like so that is something that triggered me to be so sad and i had to get down to the root of that like why am i feeling why am i waking up every day sad and you know and that's another thing grief doesn't have grieving and grief it doesn't have a time frame of time sometimes it's just like you having everything going great for you and then boom you said and so that's that's how it is with that but i just um yeah we're going to talk about that in another episode but that was just me giving y'all an example like i had to really get down to why i was so sad or why i'm waking up feeling like this when i'm actually having all these great things in my life currently and i'm actually having all these good things coming my way and that was why and we're going to talk about that because i really don't want to talk about it it's not even uh the topic today um however all of these different emotions when it comes to me feeling all of these ways i have to deal with it and i have to get up every day regardless of how i'm feeling and get up for my family you know what i'm saying and i do believe that everybody should have like an accountability partner or have somebody around you that's holding you accountable for the things that you want to accomplish the things that you say you're going to do you know what i'm saying i do feel like you should have somebody like that and i actually have a few people that are like that in my life currently and we hold each other accountable in business we hold each other accountable in relationships and friendships and personal life like our personal life so i feel like everybody should have someone that's holding them accountable and someone that's not just sitting here telling them what they want to hear but also what they need to know being real with them being raw and real with them like you're not just sitting here telling them whatever because you know this what's going to make them feel better what's going to make them feel better is the truth in the end like you always respect the person that's being truthful all the time to you they're going to be the ones who're going to always hold you accountable and you might not always like what the people say you might not always like what they say but a win is a win someone you can come and talk to somebody that's going to hold you accountable for accomplishing your goals the things you said you was going to do that you said now to do they're going to make sure you're getting that done or like hitting you up like hey have you did this today hey what's up with you you know what i'm saying i know there's people like oh that's not supposed to be like a personal assistant but if you feel like you can have that you can get you a personal assistant as being a accountability partner then hey but i just feel like it should be somebody like you know that you might trust or whatever with that kind of stuff with that kind of information because yeah we all need that we all need somebody that's going to be true to themselves that's going to be truthful with us 100 whatever it is and it don't even just have to be them on you about everything you can be on them as well y'all can both be accountability partners like y'all can be on each other about which i need to do what y'all supposed to do handling this doing that solving this and y'all i have my cards because i have i already told y'all i have my cards because i i have to use my cards so i won't get off track but yeah i always ask myself why is this happening like what did i do why is this happening until one day you just clicked and i took accountability for allowing this energy in these same outcomes it's because you are continuing this cycle you're getting the same outcomes because you just continue in the cycle and so that's how it was for me like i was like the same stuff is going on i'm having the same thing in these relationships i'm having the same thing when it comes to friendships i'm having the same thing when it comes to work same thing because you in this cycle you just letting this just continue and like we said what you allow is what will continue and so i took accountability for allowing the energy in i'm like you allowed it that's the part of your plan you're allowing it to happen so it's gonna continue and yeah once i took accountability and i'm still in the works like i told y'all it's still in the works life just been hidden differently like accountability is one of the hardest things that people don't like to accept and so i feel like once you start taking accountability for the things that you're doing the things that you're saying how you're treating people your life will just hit different like when i'm having conversations with people and it's a constant thing that's going on with them it's a constant repetitive thing i'm like what are you doing to solve this what actions have you took to solve the problem because you're continuing to do something and you're continuing to allow this to happen so if you want different you got to do different what are you doing to continue to have problem happening what is going on what are you still doing oh i'm not doing nothing i'm just sitting here being my regular self you know i'm just doing me and this is just a lot and this just happened i ain't doing nothing you're not doing nothing so you weren't doing nothing before which is why this is happening and then you weren't doing them after you still ain't doing nothing and this is why this is still occurring like we gotta be serious with ourselves like if you want different you have to put different in different income different outcome you have to take accountability for what you doing and what you're not doing because even when you're not doing something you still doing something once i started to take accountability for my actions the things i did the things i said what part i played in situations and things yeah life just changed life is just changing okay however let's be clear on this let's let's be clear on this however don't get me wrong i'll take accountability and we're working on it we're working on we're working on taking accountability and everything in the works but when it comes to people baby people be knowing what they be doing don't be fooled be fooled if you want to people know what they be doing but at the end of the day when you leave this earth god ain't finna be asking you about what she said what she did what he said what he did you don't ask everything you did how you did what you did what part you played in it how you made that person feel people would gas like you do things purposely for whatever their reasons may be and once you respond you have to take accountability for that once you respond how you respond you have to take accountability for that and it's so funny because i just got to the point where i don't even know what to do i just got to the point where i don't even know what to do i don't even want to respond okay no response is the best response i just got to that point where i don't even want to respond i don't even want to talk god know i'm still trying and he know i'm trying to get it right for him it is definitely a process but i can honestly say that i'm not the same person that i was a year ago two years ago three years ago even six months ago and people that come around me they they feel it they see it they know it it's definitely the growth and all praise to the man upstairs still a working process so we we gotta trade lightly but at the end of the day we take accountability for our actions i gotta keep telling myself you're accountable for your action even when you're telling people they gotta trade lightly you gotta know they better know we all accountable for ourselves so we the ones better be trading lightly we the ones better watch how we respond to negativity sent our way watch how we respond to whatever it is we better watch how we respond so no response is the best response it's literally t for real but even then so you still have to take accountability for that not responding in some cases it can be a good thing but then it might be a bad thing when you are waiting on an important call or an important call coming through and then all of a sudden you don't want to respond it just depends on the circumstances the scenarios and whatever it is rather people like to notice or believe it or not we're gonna have to take accountability regardless so whether you want to do it now on earth or you want to do it later when you gone you're gonna have to take accountability regardless and not taking accountability it can lead to a lot of other stuff like it can lead to you being angry about something and holding all the anger and not taking accountability for why you're feeling like that or why is this happening whatever not trying to solve it not trying to get to the root of the problem it can lead to something else like you always mad walking around here it can lead to misoperations opportunities missed friendships missed relationships missed partnerships missed missed missed even when it comes to being sad like you got to really get to the root of that and you got to deal with it how are some ways that you can solve it how are some ways you can deal with it what are you doing now that's helping the problem because you don't always want to hold on to them baggages in them bags and bags and be the bad boy the bag lady like you want to be in your bag but you don't want to be carrying around old baggage okay that's tea you don't want to be carrying all the old dead weight like you already have all this life to live you have all these new experiences to experience these new people to experience these new things and places to go you don't want to keep holding on to the old stuff you want to deal with it now because it's going to come again and once it comes again as a test you're going to know how to deal with it you're gonna be like okay i know what this is i'm on my accountability journey i'm getting it together yeah and this is another thing like when we want to get into relationships when it comes to relationships it's definitely always two sides to the story because you don't know how you made that person feel about whatever you said or did and they don't know how you might feel about whatever they said or did so when stuff occurrence stuff and stuff issues out and it becomes like this big whole thing or it might become a bad moment or a bad problem whatever you still have to take accountability for whatever that was however you treated them however they treated you they have to take accountability for that however you treated them however you made them feel you got to take accountability for that literally whatever roads you played in whatever it is like you're gonna have to take accountability for that you can't control what a person says does or any of that to you you can only take accountability for whatever you did whatever part you played in it when it comes to the accountability part it's easy to talk about what another person did what another person said what another person makes you feel how that makes you feel whatever it's easy to talk about others but it's never easy for a person to talk about what they did what they said what they did what they said is not going to help you take accountability because we just got to get to a point where we just understand we are responsible for us everybody just want to play this game like oh i i pay my bills and i pay out my bills i pay out my bills and i take care of my kids whoop the whoop the whoop as that being the only responsibility but when it comes to all of these issues and these problems and all of this stuff that's not solved and old baggage in your life what responsibility do you take for that what responsibility or role are you taking to solve that because we got to get to the point where we really get down to it example example you have all these things you're not accepting and holding on to not forgiving knowing forgiveness is for us and overall not taking accountability for your mistakes actions etc why not fix it why not deal with it why not come up with a solution to this issue to this problem why hold on to hurt why hold on to portrayal why hold on to disloyalty why hold on to hurt why operate off of hurt because you've hurt because we all know her people hurt people but why do you want to operate off of hurt because somebody else hurt you so now that this new person is coming into your life you want to hurt that person who wasn't the person that hurt you but you want to hurt them because you're hurt versus you could just sit here and own up to whatever it is you're doing whatever part you played in it deal with it solve it get to the root of your issue so that it won't affect your relationships your partnerships your friendships your job your work your career your opportunities you can girl can go and go your girl can go and go because your girl your girl knows some things about some fun and your girl can go and go okay but this is being realistic like why do you want to continue to hold on to that hurt and i'll be asking myself these same questions so do not look at this as if i'm just talking to y'all and fussing at y'all because i'm not okay but it's just being realistic like i'm talking to all of us me included because i still go through my same stuff with accepting accountability and holding on to stuff that doesn't matter and just holding on to hurt holding on to sadness holding on to yeah we all go through these things this is just me coming to y'all delivering the message because it was on my heart to come deliver it why do you want to hold on to all of this stuff negativity hurt losses sadness all of this and then you become that once you solve a problem and it's solved you're not holding on to it no more just being realistic just being realistic just being realistic you're not even holding on to it no more you don't even care about no more have time and you just moved on okay but when you are holding on to it it's constantly dragging you weighing you in new things it's going to show up again within different situations and things in your life because you have not took time to deal with it we got to get to the next level and the only way that we're going to get to the next level is by solving what we haven't solved what we haven't dealt with what we haven't took accountability for i didn't want to make this episode too long i hope hopefully this episode not that long you guys and y'all gonna watch it fully through because y'all love me and i love you i just want to come on here and talk to y'all and just be raw and real spread some you know encouraging words to people and drop some gems like this and like that about accountability and you guys it's not something that happens overnight it's going to continue to show up within our lives it's just life we got to always take accountability for whatever we putting out every day you making some type of action every day you move in your mouth you're saying this and saying that you're doing this and doing that so you just got to know that you got to take accountability for that let's make sure we are moving forward with solving our problems not holding on to old baggage we inspire others to do the same and i hope this inspires somebody that's watching or listening to take accountability for whatever so yeah you guys this will wrap up another episode of the c daily podcast i'm your host is with the most is chrissy daily and i'll see you guys in the next one