#66 Hidden Feminine Superpowers! - Be Smart Play Dumb

Discover the New 2026 Mentorship Program Hello and welcome back to another brand new episode of Be Smart, Play Dumb. We'll teach you how to play the game of life because if you don't know how to play ladies, you will get played. My loves, where do I begin? I literally just got off my life webinar. It is a three day mastermind or life webinar across three days, three different categories I want to discuss with you today. It was all about relationships, the Blackhead archetype introducing 4 new archetypes. We did lots of in session prompts, journaling, homework, reflections of imagining your dream partner. It was so much fun. I loved seeing all of you thousands of and joined us engaged in the group chat everything. It was so, so, so much fun. There was so many cool presentations and slides. And also I've been introducing for the very first time my brand new 2026 mentorship program, which we sell three different options in. So option number one is all about relationships, blanket energy, how to overcome your anxiety, your anxious attachment, jealousy, literally written handbook prompts, when your man cheats, when your man looks at another woman, when your man is stalking somebody else's following list or leaves comments. What to do. OK, it's much more in depth than anything I've ever done. And then option number 2 is basically everything I just spoke about, but also how to make money. And we're going to talk about women that are or two women, and you might be one of them listening to this, that are employed and not necessarily even want their own business, but are just stuck in their job and work in a very much male focused environment. Or want to quit their toxic job but don't know how to deal with it or don't know how to deal with bullies in the workforce. Because there's sometimes, you know, jobs that you actually enjoy doing and it's really purposeful and you love what you do, but the people suck. You know, the men around you suck. Or maybe you have jealous Co worker women. Then the second group of women I want to speak to and target is the woman that do want to start a business. Maybe little side has a little project. This could be for anyone that is a student, somebody that always has thought about, Oh my God, I want to have my own business at some point. Somebody who wants to earn a little bit of extra money, even just $1000 more per week or per month and scale from there. So basically I would teach you how to build the foundation of income and the business. And this could be freelancing, this could be something online. And you know, I've done all of this myself. Sharing Personal Grief from Bondi Beach Tragedy So I'm so passionate about this mentorship and like, it makes me all so emotional because I need to, I need to sort out my thoughts for a second. Hold on a second. The reason I'm so scattered is because this week a lot of things happen and I don't know how to approach this and tell you the right way. So let's start. First things first. I also don't know how I'm going to cope with my emotions today, OK? So please forgive me if this is going to end up being a little bit more emotionally fueled than my usual podcast because I know that I have responsibility and influence and I'm a mentor and I'm a coach. And at the other side of that, there's also just Anna as human. And I experienced a lot of grief and oh God, like a lot of sadness this week. So I woke up at 2:33 AM because the Mastermind was designed and held at a time that I get thousands of you joining because I want to reach as many women as possible. And most of you are from the US or are from Europe. I'm currently in Australia. So in order to make the time available to as many of you as possible, I thought I'm just going to get up at 3:00 AM because it is a good time for everyone else around the world. It's going to suck for me. But also, I put you first, my business, you as my clients are everything to me. I think also as a female founder and business owner, if you don't focus just on money, don't get me wrong, money is important, but if you genuinely focus on, I want to help and I want to better other women's lives, it is so much more rewarding in return. It is so incredibly rewarding. And so I don't want to do it from that perspective. But I will tell you something, this week has been insane because I don't know how to address this. There has been like a terrorist attack, massacre. I don't know the right English words to even describe this. In Bondi Beach in Sydney. This place is like, oh fuck has been like home to me for years and my best friends lived there when my family came and visited me after literally me being in Australia ready for 10 years for the first time, a family like my mom and dad, they finally came over and I wanted to show them my life here and stuff. And there's so many memories. Then I kind of like almost grew up there into like a young woman and I have so many German friends living there because there's just a lot of expats that live there. Some of my like old waitressing jobs, dishwashing jobs to them, working myself up into real the state and stuff. All of that transformation like is there there's so much emotion and connection to the space. Like it truly is home for me. And I'm actually looking to maybe even move back, find an investment property here. And so so OK. And there has been this shooting, two people killed at a Jewish, I think it's called Happy Hanukkah. I'm really sorry if I say it incorrectly. I don't mean to be disrespectful. I genuinely do not know the pronunciation. But it's like a religious sort of event for them. And they just like shot them and and I got home from the weekend from working all weekend and all of a sudden my phone is going off and my partners phone as well. And we both like what's going on and people are like messaging about this. We researching the news. I'm trying to get ahold of my friends. I'm checking in with everyone. And it was just pure chaos, pure panic. And luckily all of my friends were okay, but they were there like they heard the shots being fired. Some of them were locked in 50 meters away, just in the supermarket, held there for hours by police and just hearing the like, just hearing the fear and from them, like how much it affected them is that that is what hurt me so much, seeing, you know, how impacted they are. And, and also like, of course, Oh my God, please, I can't, this is what I mean. Like, I don't even know how to talk about this topic without like in to find the right words because literally kids were dying, like people lost family members and everything. It's just horrible. And the scenes that were described and the things that I have been told and what really happened and the pure evil and yeah, I don't know, I need to put this topic to rest now, but I just wish the families all the best. Fuck that's going to make me so much again. Because then she, like a little girl, died as well. And all the people, because I know a lot of Australians are listening. A lot, a lot of people from Sydney are listening. I just wish you love and prayers and my thoughts are with you and just hug your, your friends and family extra tight today and just appreciate them being with you. And it just puts into perspective how how quickly things can change, you know, OK, I feel like there's no appropriate way after sharing such a heavily emotionally few topic to now go back to giving you my usual advice. How Serving Others Helps Process Grief But I'm trying my best to do so because I will tell you one way for me of dealing with grief is actually being productive. And it's not necessarily to avoid certain things or to distance myself emotionally. It's because I think momentarily, temporarily obviously my focus is on something different and it gives my brain the flexibility of going, OK, sit with your grief, you're home alone, cry process, scream into a pillow, talk to your friends. But then when it's work time and you show up for others, I guess this is the core point of what I'm trying to make. Showing up for others, even when griefing myself or whatever, it almost helps me. It almost heals me, if that makes sense. So some people even off my team were like, you don't have to post, you don't have to do anything, like please take your time and everything. And I was like, no, I actually want to work because it's almost like a way of still showing up for others when I'm not 100%. There is a podcast episode I've done where where I explained your kindness and the way you show up for others, making yourself almost useful even though you right now feel useless or you're sad or you're hurting. It puts more purpose back into your mind It it basically puts you back on track a little bit. I think truly that one of the best coping mechanisms against depression, for example, or anxiety is to stay active with your mind also with your body of course, but with your mind that you think, how can I serve the world and the moments you feel the most? I mean, useless is a horrible world, but not well, not useful, not purposeful. If you feel you're, you're hiding yourself from the world, if you feel lost, if you feel stuck, when you just remove the importance from you as an individual and remember, I'm good. You know, nothing happened to me, nothing happened to my friends. So I'm in a very privileged position too, you know, so I don't take my own emotions that serious either. So, so I'm speaking from a very privileged perspective. I'm just trying to say that again, I'm typically around the topic because I want to, I want to talk about what happened in the most graceful, respectful way that it in a way deserves for the people that were involved because. And I can't find the right words, you know, I'm having a really difficult time for it. But if you're listening to this and even regardless, whatever point you are at in your life, whatever has happened, and no matter what type of grief you feel, because grief is like, yes, a spectrum, pain is a spectrum, but we all go through traumas and hard circumstances and, and pain. I want you to know that the quickest way to pull yourself out of this is honestly by serving others, Not in a golden retriever way where you completely overcompensate and you neglect yourself because that's only going to suppress your emotions further and you're going to grow resentful of becoming the person that carries everyone and everything. But if you can serve others in a way that makes you happy, you know, creating content for you actually makes me happy. So in a way, I should probably thank you for listening to this because you right now, now just tuning in and supporting my podcast, you're actually holding space for me, processing my emotions. And This is why I always say as well, when people support me with beautiful messages, private messages on Instagram, TikTok comments, emails, any submissions, you always look up to me, but I look up to you. Like I think this is a very like minded community. And just as much as I give you value, you give me so much value in return. And there it goes again. Like, isn't it interesting how I just literally explained that when you serve others, others will give you value in return? Like the happiness I get from serving you is purposeful and meaningful and almost important to the amount of happiness I experienced in my day. So it's very interesting. OK, with all of that being said, again, I apologize. It's a very long intro. I apologize if this was triggering, triggering to anybody. And this is probably the first and only and last time I will apologize for being triggering because I'm probably the most triggering person when it comes to certain things around the dating niche industry, relationships, TikTok, and all of the provocative toxic things I say purposely. But this is a whole different level of yeah, spectrum of emotions and hardship and pain and real life trauma and terror, actual pure terror and evil. So let's put this topic to rest. The Black Widow Archetype and Primal Needs And I would like to talk with you about the four archetypes that I have previously introduced. And I think it was either the last podcast or the before that one in a YouTube video where I spoke about four archetypes that you might fall into as a woman. We have the golden retriever. We have the black cat. We already know those two. We also have the Bambi and the Black Widow. And because we talk about somewhat pain, trauma, even your old childhood patterns today, and just emotions you experience, this kind of ties well into what I want to address today with these archetypes. Because these archetypes, excuse me, the Black Widow and the Bambi, it's not necessarily a good archetype to live in or to embody. And the reason for that is because both of them make themselves vulnerable to be taken advantage of. The Black Widow is taken advantage of for maybe status or her hyper masculinity or her strategic mind, and she's going to be the one that speaks up in the restaurant if something went wrong with the order. You know, because the Black Widow thinks she's a black cat. But in reality, she's very deeply guarded. She's so hurt by somebody from the past who cheated on her. She has no touch with her emotions. She's just really, really pushing everything away and becomes very avoidant. But then she's very desperate at the same time for connection, like she genuinely longs for love and validation because it's a human like trade, desire and need to fulfill. We all at the end of the day just want to be loved. This is why you're listening to this. This is why you buy certain clothes. This is why you look a certain way, express yourself a certain way. This is why you people please. This is why I found you all childhood patterns. Everything evolves around the need to be loved and accepted and the biological, how can I say the biological reasoning or purpose behind this is that back in the day, Stone Age times, you know, how love bringing up the Stone Age times. And I'm going to be a little bit of a wannabe scientist, biologist, historic historican. I don't know how you say it is because back in the day we were so tribal, you know, we had to function in groups and if we would be rejected by a group because it was something wrong with us, you know what that whatever that looked like back in the day, I mean, I wasn't there. We would lose the chance to survive really, you know, our our chances of survival become lower and lower and pretty much non existent because without a tribe behind you and for example, even strong men that can protect you and fight off a sable tooth tiger or a mammoth or whatever, you are left alone in the woods. You know, and with all of these crazy animals back around back in the day, you probably would survive maybe 2 hours by yourself. So the longing for connection and acceptance and love, you know, not only romantic love, but even just like the love you feel in your platonic relationships or even with your family, right? That's not even romantic sensual sexual chemistry love like just the need to be accepted and cheers for who you are is so primal. It is ingrained in us as humans. And if you don't know how to be accepted within yourself, so if you don't know how to accept all of your own identity or flaws and also your own positive character traits, and you basically always come from a deficit of I don't love myself, therefore I'm looking outside of love externally for somebody to love me. So then that person, that man, that high school crush, that guy can keep my happiness cup full. If that is the case, that's kind of like a golden retriever trade, speaking about the archetypes, because you would now fall into that pattern of having to earn love because you're not coming from a place of being whole. So there's two layers to this. I want to unpack this a little bit more. The human desire and need to be loved is very natural. It's rooted in our primal instincts biologically, and it's like literally ingrained in our mind. Everyone has this need and This is why men strive for power, status, the fast car, money, all of these things because we want to be also exercising power. Some people have the trade for power more than others, whereas our status even where I think more people or all people have the trade to long for loving and connection. And the second layer to this is that if you now have experienced childhood trauma, abuse, people that betrayed you, you longing for love becomes more intensified because you not whole yourself doesn't make sense. So even a healthy person and I would say about myself, I'm healthy and secure in relationships, whether it's it's romantically with my family, with friends, even in business with people. I mean, you see how I even interact with you in the end of the day, you're somewhat of a stranger. You're listening to me. But I think you can see how I interact with you, that there's a lot of respect, mutual respect and appreciation for each other. Like when I say thank you for your time or, you know, you give me a lot of value in return. So it's a very secure thing to do to exchange appreciation for each other, loving connection while still being respectful. And how can I say not be guarded, but still not losing yourself. You know, I think that I have so much love for you, but it's love that doesn't take away from the love for myself. So that's a really healthy place to be in. So healthy people still have the longing for love and connection, but without abandoning themselves. The golden retriever, for example, will self abandoned in the pursuit of being accepted. And this is where you go wrong. So please don't try to mix up the two that I'm trying to speak about these two categories of yes, it's a normal human instinct to want to be loved and maybe sometimes even do things for it. You know, like, hey, I'm going to give this person a gift or I'm going to write my man a sexy little love letter, or I'm going to impress my best friend by surprising her for with a little solo trip. Like whatever it is like, of course you're going to do nice gestures in order to be liked, but there's a difference between being a giving and kind and graceful yet respectable person with still strong boundaries in place versus a person that self abandoned and has no sense of self. The Bambi Archetype and Relationship Vulnerabilities Another archetype that falls into this is the Bambi. So the Bambi is so feminine. She's actually very, very feminine. She might have grown up in a family that is quite healthy, guarding her a lot because of it, you know, because she's very feminine. She's always been somewhat spoiled when it even comes to her. Outer experience or her outer layer, her physical layer where she always got her hair combed. You know, mommy would always do her hair for school. She always got nice clothes. The family has money. The dad is a very strong, masculine, healthy father who protects her and set a high standard for his daughter. So she goes on to the world thinking, well, you know, every man is going to treat me like my dad. And she's so feminine and she was so protected by her family that she never learned almost St. smarts. You know, she didn't learn that there's evil in this world because her family guided her so much from evil and negativity, negativity and toxic men and experiences that she has no armor. And I said this in a previous episode and it stuck with me because it's just so truthful that I basically explained life is very black and white and very unfair. And even though I'm the most positive person, I love life. I'm a happy person. I love being humorous. I love, you know, joking and whatever and having a good time. I'm very optimistic too, to be honest. I had to be. Otherwise you lose yourself in pessimism and then you lose a sense of self for the future as well and the future version of me that you want to create and become so unattainable. You have to be delusional. You have to be optimistic. So I said sometimes life can be feeling like war and if you don't have a strategy or if you don't understand the male psychology even, or the psychology of power and status and leverage and even narcissism, which by the way, narcissism is a human trait and we all have it to certain degree within us. But I think that it's our choice to exercise it or to suppress it to certain degree. I would speak about myself. I probably have, I don't know, I'm probably sitting somewhere in the middle of the spectrum because why would I be doing these podcasts? You almost need a little bit of narcissism and it's such a triggering word to a lot of you because you know, it's been throwing, been thrown around so much. But basically, what does it mean? It's self centeredness and in order to put yourself out there on social media every single day and be like, hey, look at me and marketing yourself. Isn't that being self-centered a little bit? You know, then you could categorize it again and say, well, the self centeredness of somebody putting themselves out there doing educational content versus Onlyfans. Maybe that's different. You know what's more self-centered? I don't know, I'm going to leave that to you. You know, you could then also bring in ethics and morals and that sort of moral compass. I just, yeah, I don't want to go too deep. I'm going to lose track of what I was saying. So OK, so you when you encounter the world and you're not prepared for true narcissists, not someone that is just like any other human that has the normal human need to be self-centered and selfish because it's like a again, primal instinct too. You put on the air mask in the airplane first on yourself when it's going down and then you put it on someone else. It's always for survivor. You're always kind of actually in in dangerous situations like look after yourself right. And if you go out into the world and you're confronted with an actual narcissist, a diagnosed 1A sociopath, or just people that are morality for themselves and they have the wrong moral compass. This is why I always sprinkle in these words of values, ethics, morals, because you could be a good person with the right moral compass and ethics, which is I have good intentions to serve the world while still then acting a little bit selfish and self-centered. And I think that's the perfect place to be versus you could be having the wrong moral compass, the wrong intentions. So everything you do is very selfish and it's not really positive for anybody but yourself. And it's almost evil to certain degree, but disguised as kind. And then you're internally selfish too. That to me is somebody who's going to fail at life but who's dangerous because they sort of dismantle society too. And that is a threat to society and overall the entire moral compass and the climate of society and its emotions and well-being, if that makes sense. And this is basically why I do what I do, because I want you to have the armor to go out into the world and be able to logically, mentally and emotionally defend yourself. Because if you do understand that everybody else out there is playing a mental game and strategy, then you can protect yourself from it. If you go out into the world and you don't have a strategy, people will take more advantage of you. And the Bambi is basically exactly that. And she falls in love with every man she sees. She's really prone and vulnerable to love bombing as well. And she doesn't really have a life, which in the beginning men really do like because they're like, oh, I'm so masculine next to her. I can control her, I can provide for her. She's so feminine. And she's also beautiful, you know, because she does put a lot of effort and time into her beauty because she does have the privilege of being so protected and been conditioned to look after her energy. But then after a while, men get bored of the Bambi because she doesn't really have a life outside of the relationship. She doesn't have much going for herself. She's too dependent on him. And I always tell you, men don't want to be needed. They want to feel needed. But if you depend on a man, he will run for the hills if you make him feel needed because every now and then you compliment him. You listen to him about all of his accomplishments, about his goals. You support him verbally sometimes by encouraging him to do things, not by verbally constantly telling him how great he is that you love him so much, but even just hey, I believe in you. I'm so proud of you. I'm sure that you can achieve XYZ or hey, looking back at the past, remember this and this. I really appreciate you doing that for me. So a lot of women are quick to say they support their men no matter what they love their men or what to what they always tell them that they love him, blah, blah, blah, but they don't know to speak the male language because a man doesn't need to hear all the time that you of him. First of all, it loses its power. Secondly, he doesn't believe you after a while. And thirdly, he probably gets a nod. He can't treasure it or respect it. So if you speak differently to him, where you encourage his masculine energy and it's almost like a little bit more of a ego centered compliment, right? Not about how you feel about him, but how he makes you feel. You know, I feel so protected by you. I love what you did then and there for me. You encourage his masculine provider or he loves it and will chemically bond more with you. And so the Bambi probably does all of this. Like she could be smart with kissing a man's ego, but she does know how to back pedal and go hot and then cold again. She doesn't know how to handle her own emotions. She doesn't know how to go after her own goals. She doesn't know how to handle her own finances. So therefore she becomes very, very vulnerable. And again, a man then either takes full control and almost sometimes becomes abusive or like very controlling and to the point of her feeling like she can't exist outside of this relationship anymore. She feels very trapped. And that's option one. And then option two, he might just not be interested anymore because there's not really a reward for him. Like, think about this, you know this as well. Like if you as a woman are constantly pursued by a guy and there's not a hot and cold, there's no tension or chemistry, there's no attraction, it's kind of boring. There's no reward there if you actually end up being with him. And I know I always say you are the reward, yes, but a man needs to give value to you. You still want to be able to think. He's such a strong man. He gives me status money. He provides. Like he makes me feel good as a woman. I fall in love with the version of myself that is present when I'm with him. If you just constantly feel like a burden on him because you feel guilty because he's constantly telling you how amazing you are, that's the shitty position to be in. Two. So OK, I spoke about the Bambi and the Black Widow. Discovering Hidden Strengths in Archetypes Now with all of that explained, I want to flip it on its head and explain to you what your superpowers are. And it kind of touched on this. No, actually, no, I didn't touch on this. I went in full depth and we had journal exercises on all of that in the mastermind. But I thought it's so interesting you should know about it as well. I'm obviously respectful because a lot of clients paid for the mastermind, which was live across the 4-5 hours. But I will give you some kind of drips of knowledge on this topic, OK? And I will speak about in general more because it's the four archetypes I've created that are newly introduced to you that are really helpful if you understand who you are. You can also be a mixed, by the way, you could also be a mix of the Bambi and the Golden Retriever or the Bambi and the Black Widow, or switch in and out of them, or different men or different people. Different relationships trigger certain archetypes more. So let's look at the hidden superpower of the Bambi. So the Bambi we just spoke about is very vulnerable, Naive, very feminine, very empathetic, very good hearted. Her superpower is actually her kindness and her generosity and probably also some of you know, her big heart and the empathy and being able to read people and have a deep intuitive understanding. Another thing the Bambi does well is see the magic in everything around them. So much beauty around them. They're also a little bit like go happy, go lucky type of thing, little bit like the golden retriever. And that in a way is also nice. It's a good quality to have if you know how to extract the power of his character traits. Because if you're wounded, Bambi, that's not great. So it's almost like you can utilize these traits that were maybe weaponized against you. So for example, with the Black Widow, she is controlling, she is manipulative, she is very cold and distant. She cuts off everyone. But the superpower here is, well, you know, how to set boundaries that in a cell in itself without labeling how you set the boundary Because that's probably something we can work on and maybe not as quick and irrational and toxic and just causing people. But you know, you have the quality to set boundaries. That's something a lot of people are still sort of pursuing to even understand. You know, a lot of people don't know how to set boundaries. So I want you to because I know sometimes I look at the negatives too much and I, I really want you to feel encouraged to be able to pat yourself on the shoulder and say, no, no, no. Like there is positives and great elements and strong character traits that are so valuable, but you need to come from a place of healing to exercise them the right way. Otherwise you will always weaponize it against people because you victimize yourself. So the Black Widow is also quite calculated, witty, quite rational, logical, and somebody you can lean on for an honest, honest opinion. Just somebody who's very honest because they don't care, you know, they're so emotionally detached. So they're just like, whatever, I'll just say the truth. So that is also a really good trait to have in a friend, a honest friend. You always want somebody, always say this. And this is basically how I present myself on social media too. I'm always going to be the person that tells you stop being ugly, stop being lazy, stop being inefficient, stop running after men who don't want you. And the reason I'm telling you this is actually because I care for you. There's a lot of people who tell you the fluffy bullshit, you know, just be positive and blah blah blah. And like, it is not your fault and he was a narcissist and he did this, but they keep you almost trapped in that victim mentality. And that is something. If I would have done that to my younger self, I would have not sat here today and built the I was about to say empire. And I was like, Oh my God, Anna, please no, please don't become an alpha toxic male. The empire I have built, Just kidding. But I wouldn't sit here today and have created what I have created if I would have constantly been trapping myself in my victim mentality. So I kind of am using the coaching, the constructive feedback, the honest and brutal truth on you that I gave myself when I was younger and that I would have needed from somebody else, right? I kind of became the person of myself here now talking to you that I needed when I was younger. This is why there's so much passion because I can't undo my past. I basically already jumped into a whole different timeline of my business, career, looks, success, love, relationships, everything. Everything has changed already for me. But of course, because if I would go back to the past, I would say, Anna, save yourself years and, you know, find a mentor who teaches you all of this. But nobody was around to teach me the things. So I feel now I found my purpose in becoming that version I needed when I was younger to help other women that are maybe trapped, feeling stuck, anxious, insecure, just like I did when I was young, you know, So that's the superpower of the Black Widow. Then we have the government retriever. Transform Trauma into Strength with Black Cat Energy The government retriever is very loyal, very committed, happy, go lucky, also very active, like constantly needs to impress people and everything. But if you know how to extract the goodness from the golden retriever traits, you are actually a very warm spirited person. You know how to socialize, you really know how to make people feel good and you bring people together. And that in itself, when we now talk about the psychology of power, it's such a powerful trait to have. It is so powerful to hold attention and bring people together. And it's so funny because here comes drum roll. The Black Cat basically is a summary of all of these three archetypes and the extracted gold, their superpowers from the things they struggled with in the past. So the Bambi, when she's not healed and she's going out around the world, she's super naive and she's like delusional and she's like almost too optimistic. She learns to heal through whatever reason, OK, I'm going to Fast forward now through me, through my mentorship, through my podcast, through my TikTok, whatever it is, maybe other people live experiences. And all of a sudden she realizes, you know what, I'm not weak just because you know, I am the way I am. I can actually utilize the things that the trauma impacted in me, those character traits that I almost had to build out of survival like becoming hyper vigilant, becoming very careful and like always reading people and being in tune with people and being in tune with nature and being so feminine and so rendering and being present. I can use that. It's not weak. It's not naivety. If I know how to use and almost weaponize it as my sword and armor, I am actually 2 steps ahead at the game of life where other people aren't. This is why I always say to you, your current disadvantages are actually your biggest advantage in the long run. Because everyone else that you currently comparing yourself to that you're jealous of. Because they have a better life, because they have more money, because they are more privileged, because of whatever it is and they never had to go through the same shit you had to go through. Don't be jealous of them. They should be jealous of you. Because in the long run, if you know how to weaponize and utilize your trauma that impacted certain parts of your psyche, character traits, whatever, you're going to be unstoppable. Because these people have never been exposed to the hardship you have been exposed to. So in a way, you are mentally more resilient than them. That's a good thing. But don't become the Black Widow. Don't become super guarded and bitter and cold and miserable with your own life. You know, like, oh, I'm not a victim. I don't need a man. I'm hyper independent. I don't need to ask for help. That's not helping you. That's not helping anybody, but if you learn to say I'm going to look at the deficit that maybe has been instilled by being burned and betrayed a lot of times in the past. And I'm just going to heal that part of me and become in tune with my emotions again and not lose my good spirited kind heart and not become bitter. But at the same time, I'm going to integrate all of the life lessons I've learned from the trauma in the past that I can set boundaries, that I can speak up. You are unstoppable. Do you see what I'm trying to say here? Same if the golden retriever. If you've always been the golden retriever, overcompensating, trying to earn love, trying to impress people, you actually subconsciously taught yourself people skills that a lot of people lack. You know, a lot of people don't know how to enter a room and even interact with people, make themselves or make others feel good about themselves. So you should now as a golden retriever look at the deficit in your life and the the lessons and everything and go OK I've been people pleasing for so long to the point where I self abandoned. I don't feel good about this. I'm at every freaking event. I am literally the last one to always go home. I don't have strong boundaries. I'm actually so drained from giving to others. OK let's become the black cat and have stronger boundaries. Let's still have a soft heart, but at the same time use and weaponize the power of that social hierarchy. Social climbing, people skills like these are all such valuable traits. So do you see how everything you identify with when it comes to these 4 character traits? Sorry, 4 archetypes. It's not necessarily something negative, but you need to learn how to use it in your favour. And this is basically what my entire coaching methodology is about, my entire mentorship. I need you to stop being a victim, I really do. I need you to take action and I need you to create a new version of yourself with the knowledge I'm giving you. Because for example, with the mentorship as well, I'm literally this is, I don't know how to put into words. It is my baby. Like everything I've learned over the course of the last two years, 1 1/2 years, because I scaled my business really quickly. I scaled everything so quickly because I was so committed from day one. All of the systems I've learned to get to the point where I am, I'm giving you everything. How to make money, how to social media, how to do social media, how to overcome limiting beliefs, how to put yourself out there, how to speak to people, how to network, how to social club. All of these things while also being the most feminine and seductive and central version of yourself. Upcoming Webinar Details and Final Reflections OK, so we have two more days to go. Tomorrow we're going to start in US time. It's actually going to be more in favor of LA and New York because I want to make it more accessible. Also to my beautiful US friends because today was more so Europe and like Eurasia and stuff as well. And if you have already signed up, please make sure to check your e-mail because sometimes you girls message me and I love you all very much, but some of you haven't signed up to our Telegram or WhatsApp channels. So you send me messages and you say, hey, I didn't get any updates even though we've already been sending you 20 emails to let you know when the when the timing starts. So keep an eye out on the e-mail. If you're listening to this for the very first time, you have no idea what I'm talking about. In order for you to join, you can join for free by the link below. I put it into the description box. We starting tomorrow. We also have another day, the day after tomorrow. Tomorrow's all about social media, money, visibility, all of that. And then day three feeds more into that as well to make long lasting changes. And at the end of each webinar, I will also be opening my mentorship because the mentorship is only limited to 300 women. And we already have taken on a lot of spots today. Because while you're on the webinar you get the half price where if you're not on the webinar you have to pay full price for full price transparency. So many of you are in my one-on-one coaching. So I do the one month package for $4000 and the mentorship is $4000, but you get 8 sessions with me instead of four and you get a full course on how to make money. I don't even want to come across a salesy because it it's not even in my nature for me, it's just when I'm so passionate about something, when I'm proud of something, I just want to tell you all about it. And yeah, so it's $4000 and if you wanted to jump on the webinar, it is 2490, so almost half price. OK, my loves, that is all for today. I feel weird. I'm going to be very honest with you. This is obviously uncut and raw and unfiltered, and I feel almost uncomfortable uploading this episode because when I handle topics that involve other people's grief and pain, I sometimes am afraid that I didn't handle it to the best of my ability, even though my intention truly was so. Yeah, please know that I just my, my thoughts are with the people affected and the strategy I shared with you earlier. And I love you all very much. Please protect yourself, please be kind and nice to each other, spread positivity, open your heart, be graceful. And I love you all very much. Thank you so much for listening in today. This might be the last episode for 2025, so I'm going to go on a little holiday break. You can most certainly join the webinar and would be more than delighted to see you there as well. I'm going to keep posting my Tik Toks and Instagram as well if you want to see new content. And I love you all very much. Thank you for tuning in. I talk to you very soon in 2026.