54. 5 Key Mindsets for Success!!

[Music] All right, Brute Campers. Welcome back. This is our first official set of podcasts for the year because at that time of the year, it's Brute Camp Bruster Time, which is our six week challenge at Brute Camp. And for many who listen to this podcast, you are probably in the middle of doing our Brute Camp Bruster. No, sorry, not in the middle. You're in week one. And for those that aren't doing the Bruster, what are you doing? It's a free challenge for all our members. So if you're one of our members and you're listening to this, this Bruster is literally your opportunity every single year to have six weeks that are just slightly more elevated, slightly more challenging, slightly more accountability from your coaches. And we do it twice a year. Okay, so six weeks twice a year, that's 12 weeks of your year, where it's just that little bit of an extra push. We always place them in a time where it's not, you know, Christmas New Year and you're away and you're not at Brute Camp. It's not the middle of winter when you have no motivation. We put them strategically into the year. So if you are listening to this and you're one of our Brute Camp members that is not doing the Brute Camp Bruster, just put a mental note in, do it next time. It gets better and better each time. But one thing that our members who've done it a few times will know is that there is a podcast every single week for you to listen to across the duration of this challenge. So I did have a different podcast for this week, but our five mindsets are going to go here because I detailed them in our Zoom session on Sunday and that part of the recording did not transcribe. That is a me issue. I ran out of iCloud storage space, so I need to deal with that this week. But I thought instead of being able to have that video to share with you guys throughout the week, I would make a podcast and go into those five mindsets that we covered on the welcome call. I would detail them here in a little bit more depth. So if you missed that call or if you were on that call, but it was late at night and you want to hear more about it, let's get into it. So these mindsets are a one-of-preface, grateful life in general. But the reason I wanted to bring them to the beginning of the challenge is because if you can really focus in on a few of them, all of them or even just one of them, it will show up. It'll change how you show up in this challenge. Okay, so they are good mindsets in general. They are not just challenge mindsets, but I want to detail how they're going to help within this challenge if you are doing it. So let's just jump straight in. The first one is an effort mindset or sometimes it's called an effort full mindset. And the concept behind this is that people feel effort and they think, well this is hard. I'm obviously not good at this because it's taking effort and maybe it just isn't for me. But what I want you to understand is that effort is not a sign that something is wrong. Effort is a sign that something is working. If something feels easy all the time, you're probably not growing. You're probably not challenging your body, you're probably not challenging your habits, you're not changing. I'm a big subscriber to the idea that if you're not growing, you're dying. If your brain is not growing, you're dying. If your muscles are not growing, they are dying. If they're not building their atrofying. So that effort mindset means that you look at effort and instead of seeing it as a negative thing, you want to start seeing it as evidence that you are putting in the work. Evidence that you are pushing yourself. Evidence that you are stepping outside of your comfort zone. If anyone has ever done any work on like a growth mindset, you'll understand that there's an area of growth mindset where they talk about children's ability to stay motivated and it is there, you need to be doing things that are just outside your comfort zone. Otherwise, even, for example, early stages of learning, a child will get very bored if they are doing something that is within their comfort zone. It doesn't challenge them. So if you've got someone who understands their two times tables and all they're doing is their two times tables, they're not going to be very motivated by that. As soon as you take something that is slightly out of your comfort zone, so for someone at that age group, it might be doing their five times tables or their six times tables or their seven times tables and that might be challenging for them. But you also don't want to go so far out of your comfort zone that you're pushing for something that is causing you stress and anxiety. So the effort really needs to feel like this is evidence that I am pushing just outside my comfort zone and I'm doing something different to what I normally do and this effort is evidence to myself that I am showing up. Okay, so something in something like a bootcamp booster, there is going to be mornings that you don't feel like coming to boot camp and you're going to need to put that effort in, get out of bed, notice that it takes some effort to get out of bed and go, hey, that is me choosing to show up. That is me putting in the effort as evidence that I can do this. Okay, there's going to be sessions that feel harder than usual. Especially in this challenge, I want you to get to the end of a one minute of pushups set and I don't want you to go all that felt easy. Right, because if it felt easy, we didn't put in the effort required to move the needle. Okay, to show ourselves that you're challenging your body, you're changing something, you're growing muscle or you're increasing your cardiovascular fitness. So it's really up to you to go, hey, did I challenge myself at some point? Did I put effort in instead of pulling back? Okay, so effort in this mindset means it is good. It means something is working. If something is effortless, it means it is not growing you. Okay, it can be effortless in other areas. That's fine, but for the challenge specifically, I want you to focus on where am I putting in effort in areas I want to grow and I want to change. All right, moving to the second one. The second one also, if my bees sound like bees, I've got a bit of a head cold or hay fever, I'm not sure. It's doing my head in and I don't know if the microphone is picking it up, but let's just deal with it. Number two is a self-efficacy mindset. That probably sounds like a big word, but it has a very simple meaning. It just means that you believe in your ability to do something. In case you believe in your ability to follow through with whatever you are doing or you believe in your ability to learn something new. So it's almost before you've ever done the thing, right? It's just when you look at a challenge or a task ahead of you, do you look at it with a internal self-belief of I'm someone who can figure this out and probably something I could do, like, yeah, give it a crack, how hard could it be? That is that self-efficacy mindset. It's truly believing that you can do it before you've even tried versus going looking at a task and be like, absolutely not. So those of you who did it in week one, the juggling challenge that I have given you and I've started off with a really hard one. Week two is actually not as hard as week one by any stretch in terms of self-efficacy. Looking at this first week's challenge where I've asked everyone in our bootcamp Brewstar to try and juggle three balls, 10 consecutive throws, you might look at that and go, absolutely not. Like, I've never tried to juggle, but I just don't think I can. That is the opposite to a self-efficacy mindset, right? Because you haven't collected any evidence that you can or can't yet, you've fallen on the side of I probably can't, right? You don't have that internal sense of belief. And so what I want you to start to shift that mindset to and start to tell yourself is, yeah, you know what, if I give it a go, I probably can't. Right? I'm someone who can figure this out. I hope I can do this. That's the the mindset needs to be of the belief that whatever you put your mind to, you'll be able to do. And that anyone can essentially learn the same skills. It's one of the biggest predictors of success in anything, to be honest. It kind of precedes self-confidence, right? Self-efficacy is the belief you have before you do the thing. Self-confidence is what you get after the fact of having done something and it builds your self-confidence when you've shown yourself that you can, right? So I'll work it out. I'll adjust if I need. I've got this. I can give it a go. Rather than I don't know if I can do this, I'll always fail. I'm not consistent, right? If you haven't tried the thing yet, that's the self-efficacy mindset we need to shift. So during this challenge, just build evidence for yourself, right? If you're finding it hard to take too big of a leap here, so if you're thinking, I can't look at the juggling challenge and go, yeah, I can probably juggle 10 balls. Just start small, go, yeah, you know what, I can put 10 minutes aside for this. And I really think I could learn quite a bit if I put 10 minutes aside for this. All right, just start with a small piece of self-belief. If you find yourself having to stretch too far where you're going, oh, I just feel like I'm faking it, stretches far as feels comfortable for you right now and then you can build that self-efficacy muscle as you do it. It's an identity shift and it takes practice. Moving into number three. Number three, where am I? slides. Number three and this works really well straight off the self-efficacy mindset is our identity mindset. This is probably the one that you've heard us talk about the most on the podcast. I think we did a whole episode on it. So I'm going to probably not spend as much time on this one as I will on number four and five, but the identity mindset. This one is powerful because whether you realize it or not, you already have one, you have an identity mindset. Sometimes it works for you, sometimes it works against you. But everyone has it and you have it in so many different areas of life where you have a certain identity that you wrap yourself in or believe yourself to be. So you might have heard yourself or others say things like, "I'm not a runner. I'm not fit enough. I'm just not very disciplined. I'm not a morning person." And your actions then follow that identity. You don't act into identity. You live from it. So if you believe you're not a runner, you won't run. But if you decide, "I am a runner," or "I am someone who trains," right? If that is too big of a a step for you, still pointed in the right direction. I'm someone who trains. I am someone who has started running. I'm someone who looks after my health. You can still have a negative, and this is actually something I shared on the info session on Sunday. You can still use an "I am not identity" in a positive way. So for example, one thing that I will do if I am out and I'm somewhere where there is a lot of junk food that is just not something that I eat. Instead of sitting there and having that internal monologue of, "Oh, I need to resist from that. I don't want to eat that." And because I personally, the biggest sugar craving, if something is in front of me, I find it really hard not to eat it. Like I, yeah, ask anyone who knows me personally, closely, "I am the worst." When it comes to, "I have a huge sugar craving. If it's in front of me and I don't have this mindset," then I will just stuff my face and feel shit about it tomorrow. Like I don't have an intentional indulgence switch. Anyway, my point is, you can still use an "I don't mind" set in a positive way. So in those situations, I quite literally tell myself, "I'm not the kind of person who eats that stuff." Right? And I might be seeing everyone else eat it. And I just see them, "I'm not the kind of person who does that." And it's not, that might sound really arrogant or rude to everyone else in the room, because I'm not looking at everyone else going, "Oh, you are that kind of person and I'm not. I'm not trying to say I'm better than anyone else. I'm just doing it as an internal identity to myself of rather than, "Oh, everyone's going to think that I'm not joining in or I'm not having fun." It's like, "No, no, no. They'll just think that I'm not the kind of person who eats this stuff." And that's how I want to be known. And that's the identity that I want to move towards. So your behavior starts to align to that. The more, the more that you show yourself, who am I becoming, the more that your actions will naturally and far more easily align with the identity that you are trying to. It becomes easier, it becomes more natural and it becomes more consistent, but it literally starts with what you are telling yourself in your head. Okay? So that identity mindset, talk to yourself, say it out loud, this is what I am, this is who I am, this is the kind of person I am, and get really clear on it. If you're the kind of person who writes things down, write it down. Write it down. I am the kind of person who eats healthy all week so that I can really enjoy a dessert with my husband on a Saturday, right? Or I am the kind of person who trains early in the morning so that I can sit down and watch TV for two hours in the evening. Like, whatever it is, for you, that makes it seem doable, positive, and you're going to feel good about it. Then really start to write that, write that mindset down. I am the kind of person who has started running and will become better at it. If the "I am a runner" is too strong for you. If you can do it, if you can just go "I am a runner", I am someone who trains. I am someone who will always train and always take care of my body. If you can go that far and it doesn't feel like unaligned for you to get to go that far that quickly, go all the way there because your actions will catch up. So that's number three. Number four, and I really want to preface number four for the booster challenge specifically, is it's called a rising tide mindset. And it's based off the quote that a rising tide lifts all boats. And this is so important because Bootcamp is a group environment. And when it comes to something like a challenge, there can be thinking that's like, I need to beat everyone or I'm hope I'm doing more than them or you know, when we've got location versus location, it's like we want our location to do better than their location or whatever it might be. That's healthy competition, but there is a mindset that can actually disconnect you from the biggest advantage, which is our overall community. And the fact that at Bootcamp Co, we don't win alone. We actually win by helping others rise. So when you encourage someone, celebrate someone else show up with good energy, you lift the standard of the whole group. And when the group rises, you rise with it. So it doesn't even need to be that you are performing the highest of the group and you're bringing everyone up, you could actually be having a really low day. And one of the best things that you can do is encourage someone else or help someone else or you know, because that will in turn rise you with it. Right, you don't lose anything by helping other people win. So in fact, you will win faster. So instead of thinking like, how do I be my best today, I want you to add to that sentence and go, how do I bring out the best in others and the others around me? Because that will help me be my best self. So if we start on a macro level, we're looking at your walking home and you're about to walk into your house and you've got your immediate family there. If you are not feeling your best self, you also need to be thinking, how can I bring out the best in the other people in my family as I walk through the door? Because that in turn will help lift me back up. But if I walk in and I'm not my best self and I do something that's now going to make everyone else, not their best selves, well, now I am kind of adding to the things that are going to make me feel even worse. Right? So on a really micro, it's like walking into your house. How do you do that? Then let's go walking into bootcamp and you've got a group environment. You've got 20 of you, 10 of you, five of you, however many are at the session. I want you to walk in there, not just thinking how can I do my best, but how can I bring the best out in everyone in this group? Can I say hello? Can I make the joke? Can I encourage the person next to me? Can I say, come on, we got this five more, let's do it? Can I tell someone else to push harder, but they're doing well that I've noticed a change in them, whatever it is. If you can help everyone else in the bootcamp elevate, that will elevate your experience and your fitness and your strength and your ability to get the results you want. And then if we go to a larger scale and we look at everyone across all the locations and the bigger bootcamp co-community that we have here, if you within this challenge or even just as a member of bootcamp, if you can make sure that you are thinking how can I help everyone in this community? Because if this community becomes the strongest and best and most supportive community that it can be, whether they are from Eltham, Knox, they haven't even started yet, wherever someone is from, if I can help bootcamp be the best community that it can be, that community will help me rise when I need it most. I think a lot of people think that it's the trainers and the owners that kind of bring the energy. We do it to an extent, but there is like five of us and 500 of you. So it's really important that we don't miss all of those little data points where you guys can really help each other and you guys have got shared experiences, you guys have been through things that other people have been through and felt the exact same experiences that other members have felt. So I want to make sure that we're really utilizing each other's energy. So the rising tide mindset, which is a rising tide lifts all boats, just comes back to that, the more that you can lift everyone in this community, in your group, in your family, in your immediate environment, at work, perhaps the more it is going to come back to benefit you, 10fold. And then our final one, I know I've gone on for a little while, our final one is our internal locus of control mindset. This one is a little bit more of a psychology theory and so I'll explain it first and then we'll go into how it plays out. But this is about where you believe your control sits within your life. So this is a, what's it called, a spectrum, right? It lives on a scale. On one end of the scale, you've got the external locus of control and this is where you believe that everything is happening to you. Right, I couldn't train because it was raining. I didn't eat well because work was busy. I'm not seeing results in my body because I'm stressed at work because my boss is an asshole. Whatever it is. It's very Everything happens to you. It's always something outside of you that has caused whatever response you are having or whatever you are dealing with. On the other side, on the complete other side of the spectrum, on the scale, we have an internal locus of control. And this is where you believe that I have influence of my outcome. So rather than everything is happening to you, it is almost everything is happening from you. You are in control and you influence everything that happens to you, your outcomes, and the interesting thing about these scales is they refer to the same situations. So you've got the internal and the external locus control, but if you take the exact same situation, two different people will think about that same situation very very differently. A bootcamp example, right, a really simple bootcamp example that you've probably all been through, is you miss a session. An external locus of control mindset is I missed it because the day got away from me or I was stressed or I didn't feel like going That's probably not the best example. Let me give a better example. An external mindset. I want to go like I want to go full end of the spectrum. I didn't hear it here. I didn't make it to the session because my boss is an asshole and he made me stay late at work to do something that could have been done tomorrow morning. And that's why I didn't get to training tonight. The internal mindset, so if I have an internal locus of control and I'm going to go to the extreme, right? Everyone falls obviously somewhere in here. You're not always going to be on the extremes. But the internal mindset for that exact same thing, you missed a session, would be I missed that session because I didn't have the confidence to tell my boss that I don't want to stay late because this bootcamp is a priority to me. And so instead I stayed out of my own inability to communicate my needs and to communicate that this could be done tomorrow morning. I didn't know how to do that and that is why I missed the session. So the session still got missed. I want to preface that the exact same outcome happens, but how you think about the mindset behind it, whether it was someone else's fault or whether you had control in that changes how you think of it. One basically gives your power away and the other one, it puts power back in your hands, but it also takes a lot of self accountability. Right? And that's not about blame. It's not about blaming yourself, but it's about taking ownership of where you could have responded better or controlled the situation better. You can't control everything, but you can still be aware of where you could have controlled things more. So for almost everything in your life, you will have you'll sit somewhere on that internal locus of control external locus of control. Right? You've probably even in like small little things, you've probably had someone in your life where if they knock over something that's on the floor or a chair or they bump into something they'll almost blame the inanimate object like, oh, that's stupid chair. Whereas the chair wasn't perhaps anywhere out of the norm and someone else who bumps into the chair will internally be like, oh my god, I'm not looking at where I'm going. Like that was all me. I bumped into the chair, right? The chair didn't bump into me. And yet it's such a clear explanation of those two different mindsets. So I've waffled on for 25 minutes, but I really want to, I really want every single person who's listened to these five mindsets. Let me just give them an overview. We had the effort mindset, right? Which is about effort is a good thing. We need it to grow. Two is the self efficacy mindset. If you've never tried something having an internal belief that you can do it, right? Because you don't have any evidence of the fact that you can't. So you might as well tell yourself that you can. Number three is the identity mindset and that is really taking on an identity of who you want to be. I am a runner. I am a morning person versus having an identity that works against you. I'm not a morning person. I'm not a runner. Number four, the rising tide mindset that is bringing up the people around you will tend to fall back to bring you up. And then five is that internal locus of control and really taking the moment to look at what do I have within me that is influencing this outcome. I'm going to leave it there. Pick one if there is one that stands out to you. Pick two or focus on all five and see where they show up for you this week or throughout the six weeks and beyond. If there is one that really sat with you that you're like, oh, I know that I need to work on that or you know the people around me need to work on that. I really encourage you to look at all five, analyze them and go, yeah, this is the ones that I want to focus on. So thank you for joining me for another episode. There will be another episode next week and I am so looking forward to this challenge with everyone. See you. Bye.