2| Made a mistake again? How to break free from the fear of failure and rebuild confidence

Build miserably again, this one's for you. In this episode we'll talk about how to rise. Without shame, reclaim your confidence and remember your fall doesn't cancel your calling. Hey sis, welcome to Reframe Herworth, tired of fear, inconsistencies and striving, Prave in peace and confidence you're in the right place. I'm tame, wife, mom and founder of this space. I went from Dalton to walk in a journey of clarity with fate, mindset shifts and identity grounding, ready to use your God-giving gifts with intention and freedom. Hold on tight, let's ride! If this podcast has blessed our inquiry too, please take a moment to leave a written review on our podcast or Spotify so other women can find it too. Ever found yourself thinking, I promised I wouldn't do that again. Yet you're here. Stocking does seem cycle. Again, this episode is for the woman who's tired of feeling like a mistake means that she's not enough. The one wondering if she'll ever really get it right. Today we're talking about how to stop letting shame and fear of failure keep you stock. And how to rise again with God-given confidence. There was sitting on my bed thinking, oh, I goofed again. I'd made a commitment to myself. I wasn't going to shout anymore. I was going to be more self-controlled. I'll speak better to my children. I'd even attended causes and made an accountability commitment, but at night I completely lost it. I shouted so badly my whole body shook from it, and afterwards I just laid there, paralyzed by guilt. I had big plans for that evening, but in a moment the weight of disappointment swallowed up my all-itinerary and I slept the sleep of shame. I thought to myself, surely you can do better. That all too familiar, self-deprecating voice crept in again. Well, here's a truth. I won't make real progress if shame is the only voice in my head. He said progress isn't made through shame. It's made through rising, through standing up, through choosing to walk again. My story continues. The next day I called my son. I gave a heartfelt apology. I told my men about what had happened to keep myself accountable, and in that moment I chose to rise. No, it didn't erase what happened, but it reminded me of what becoming looks like. It's not perfect, but it's honest, it's healing, and freedom. Let's think about Judas and Peter for a moment. Judas got stuck in guilt and he died carrying the weight of shame. But Peter, he denied Jesus three times. He was broken by it, yes. But he rose again. He returned. He partnered with Jesus and became one of the greater leaders of the early church. So what made the difference? One rose above his mistake, and the other one was drowned by it. Sis, just because you fell doesn't mean you failed. Your story isn't over. You're still powerful. Your mistake doesn't cancel your calling. Let me say that again. Your fall doesn't cancel your calling. Every time you rise again, you're already working in progress. So yes, what to do the next time you feel miserable? Refrain the thoughts. Is it a last-kin? What could I? How could you? Ask. What could I have done differently? That question is ownership, and ownership, not shame, leads to growth. Extend grace to yourself. Sometimes I'm insane. I'm sorry, like I did in my case. Other times, it means gently reminding yourself. Yes, that happened. No, it's not okay, but I'm not stuck. Next, please. But now with God, don't run away from him. Run to him. You see, Peter didn't avoid Jesus. He returned, and Jesus reaffirmed his calling. He asked him, "Do you love me more than this? Feed my ship." He said, "That's what God does. He restores us. He grants us in who we truly are, accepted, beloved, and still becoming." So next time you fall, don't rehearse, the failure. Refrain it. Don't stay stuck in shame. Rise. Don't fear the fall. Rebuke your confidence and walk again. Here's some reflection questions for the week. One, in what way have I let mistakes date what I say about myself? Take a moment and think about this. Two, how can I consciously reframe the way I see failure or falling short? Three, how can I partner with God to rise above my mistakes today? I'd love to hear your reflections. You can email me. My email is in the shoe notes. Until next time, keep walking, keep believing, and keep becoming. Because you, you're enough. Thank you for sharing your time with me, sis. If this has blessed you, I'd really love for you to share with your friends or two and leave a written review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. So more women find this space. Want to join the journey? The link to my email list is in the show notes. Northspam just heartfelt notes from me to you. Until our next ride next week, stay rooted in truth and wrapped in peace.