#148 - Parenting Advice From Actual Parents

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It looks like you have it like a hotel. It's like a little tiny area. It's a. A little tiny circle area for a baby. It's a cage with an opening. So this would be for a baby that's not able to move that much. The baby's not, like, can barely. A crawling baby? Can get through anything. Anything. And you don't even realize. And the funniest thing ever is when they have something in their hand they know they're not supposed to have and they go. And they're stoked. Like, there's like a. We have like a little remote to turn on one of our lamps and Cole gets it and goes, And he holds it up and then I go, Okay, come here, give that to me. And he goes. And he crawls off so fast. It's the funniest thing you've ever seen. And it's just because he's like. They just know. I know I'm not supposed to have this. They know they're not supposed to have it and they just go, You gotta reverse psychology it. Where you gotta try to give him all the things he's not supposed to have. You're so right. And then be like, baby toys, you're like, Like a glass bottle. It's probably a bad thing to teach early on. Here's a glass bottle, kid. Yeah. Here you go, some cigarettes. Yeah. Smoke them up. I mean, you think. I think about it, how insane it must be to be a baby, right? Like, because you know what? I try to. The closest you can get as an adult is anytime you just have a brand new experience. You're wasted. Yeah. Getting absolutely plastered. No, but like new experiences. But it takes so much to have a brand new experience. Like on a roller coaster, you're like, ah! Yeah. But that's them all the time. All the time. Because that's like, this is my first time touching whatever this is. Yes. This is my first time seeing that thing. Yes. And they really learn the word no pretty fast. Really? They like, they like F with you. You'll be like, uh-uh. And they're like, you're like, no. And they're like. Oh. And they do this like little smile. Like, Cole's favorite thing, truly, you don't need to buy toys. I mean, toys are fun and they're good for like learning. And there's some toys that's like, if I click this, it'll turn on. But really, get them like a big ass map of California. A map of the world. Start teaching them geography. No, because they're. It's very hard to tear. Oh. And so they're like. And when they do tear it, they're like. They're stoked. They're like, I have grown stronger. They're literally psyched. I should preface this. We are. Oh, yeah. Why are we talking about kids? Yeah. So we have a bassinet here and we're talking about your kid because it's parent week. My kid. It's parents week at Smosh, which is something we're doing. It's really exciting. We have a lot. All the channels are doing something special involving parents. Yeah. A lot of people are bringing their parents on. Spoiler. I might be talking to some parents. Ooh. Maybe Spencer's mom. Whoa. Maybe Arash's mom. Okay. And then I won't reveal the third person. There are a few parents that are coming on. You named a couple. Yeah. Of like a few that are coming on. A few that are coming on. I met all these parents this past week and I was like, oh my God. The personalities. And did they know who you were? They knew who I was. Yeah. All of them did. Yeah. Yeah. We're like, oh my God. Truly, kind of. You're Shane Topp. Yeah. I will say Spencer. Like, Spencer's mom. No, I won't say this. Actually, yeah, I will. She was saying like, oh, Spencer's always complimenting how you dress. He's like, oh, Shane dresses so cool. And I was like, damn, that's really cool. Why weren't you going to say that? I don't know if Spencer's like, oh, don't put me on blast like that. No, Spencer doesn't care. Trust me, I interviewed him and his mom. He does not care. I'm like, everyone's personalities make. Most makes so much sense when you meet. Like, Spencer's mom is hilarious. She's so. I really related to Spencer's mom a lot. She just reminded me a lot of my mom. She did like, she was just so comfortable telling stories. And my favorite thing that I learned was like, I really asked this question like, oh, is your son or daughter your best friend? And it really was like a kind of a controversial topic because some moms were like, of course, some moms are like, no, I've got. My best friend, Janet, Spencer's mom's like, no, she's like, I love my son. But now I have friends. She's like, that's weird. And then after she was like, is it weird that I said that that's weird? And I was like, no, it's not a problem either way, but it's so funny to see the difference between moms. Yeah. And like my, I relate to that because I think my mom would be the same. And then I feel like me as a mom would be like that. Interesting. Like, I don't think my son. My son's going to be my best friend. I yeah. Yeah. That's not something I don't think my mom would. I'm like, I have a, I have a bump in a place. Like, what am I going to do? I think my mom would say like, no, she has her best friend. Like, that's like someone she hangs out with. That's her best friend. Yes. Her sons are like, I'm excited to like their friend. We're obviously like, I understand saying yes to that though. Yeah. That's just like a, how you view it type of situation. Yeah. It's like, I want to, I want to like. You know, travel with my son. I want to do these really cool experiences. I want to like read together. I want to do all these really fun things, but I also want to like, be his parent for me. And like I said, there's like real no, like I talked to some moms and they're like, oh, we're best friends. And it was like a really cool relationship that they had because I think it has to do with like upbringing and all that stuff. But it was so funny how that one question was kind of like, oh, we are split on this. Yeah. And it, it really, it was really cool to interview some moms because it made me think about like, oh, what do I want to be like as a mom? And they have like years of experience. Totally. It's wild. No, I mean, it's the weirdest thing that like, cause you know, you can't, I don't really comprehend it. I was talking to someone who is a parent, but he's like in his sixties. This was a few years ago. Oh. And he was talking about how it's like so weird that he's like, yeah, like the majority of your relationship with your kid is when they're an adult. And I was like, it's such a weird thing. Weird. Like, I'm like, yeah, like, like you have a kid and it's like, but they're only a kid for so long. And then they're, you know, after 18, like, you know, the, the hope is that you spend so much of your life, like that you're adults just like, you know, each other like that. And that's so weird. Someone literally just said this to me and it really does put things into perspective when I'm so in it. You know, my son is a baby and it really puts into perspective, like what is important right now? And for me right now is like any chance I can get, I want to spend time with my son, but not only just like spend time with him, but be really, really present. Like I was thinking you asked, you and Selena asked me a question and I know we're going to do this later, but it was just like, what's something that really surprised me as being a mom? I forget the exact question, but it was like, I do not simply do not get bored watching him play. Like, and I thought that I, you know, we've all babysat some kids randomly when we were teenagers. Or maybe that was just me. My mom was like, you're babysitting this family. I'm like, what? I'm 10. What the fuck? Oh, truly. You're babysitting these 12 year olds. I'm 10 years old. You're sitting babysitting these kids and you're like, I am bored out of my mind. Totally. But with my son, I could watch him play for so, I'm like, it's just so freaking cute. And you never think that you would, you would do that. It's, it's, it's really, really cool. But yeah, I, I, someone said that it's like, they're going to be adults. They're going to be adults for so long. I know. And every phase of their, you know, kid life. And I'm, and I mean, phase by like month or two weeks. Yeah. It just keeps getting better. It's really cool. Yeah. Um, it's been so cool to see like you and H are such an incredible team. And like, it reminds me of my brothers. Cause so when my brothers had kids, I remember always being like, I feel like so many people in our parents' generations talked about kids where it's like, oh, wait till you have kids. What a nightmare. What a nightmare. Then everything's over. Your life is awful. Your life is done. Your body's done. Shut the doors on your sex life. Yeah. It's just like, you're never going to have fun ever again. Yeah. Um, literally. But my brothers, they, they had kids and like, it's just like, oh, life didn't stop. And it, they, they kind of, in my conversation with them, they're like, oh yeah, it's fine. And I, but you know what I, at least the through line with them and then you is like, you and your partner are such incredible teams. And you guys have each other's backs and, um, I don't think a lot of people have that. Yeah. And I think that's what really is hard. Right. Like is like so many, so many husbands and stuff are just not like pick helping out. And like, I know that's, it's the case in different ways, but like, I think there's in reading Reddit stories at least, which is such a ridiculous thing to bring up. But like so many situations where it's parents, it's like, oh my God, so many people just are not. a good team. they're not respecting each other and then you get into that yes it is so that it is like really the team and i think i think unfortunately it's like circumstances it's timing but i did a a postpartum like therapy group which if you're a new mom i highly recommend it it was really really amazing it was like a bunch of other moms like in it i'm talking like right two weeks in it three weeks in it and the biggest things i learned is that everyone is experienced everyone's experiencing something different but like sometimes it's like okay the the the the partner the husband or the father whatever is like doesn't know how to handle or they're not around or they're struggling but then it's also like sometimes the mom gets really scared and worried and they have control and they they they kind of like kind of sometimes like gatekeep a little bit of like okay well i'll just do it i'll just do it i'll just do it so the sometimes the baby never makes the bond and then they get resentful because the husband's like she doesn't even know the baby doesn't even know me and like it's so layered and complicated and it's like it's so easy to be like well he wasn't around or she wasn't around but it's like it is so layered and complicated but i realize the biggest thing is like people just don't want to feel alone they don't want to feel like lost and confused and you need so much support when you're raising one baby yeah imagine having twins or you need so much support and i really got really lucky like i have a very very supportive partner and we're just on the same wavelength yeah it just like the timing worked out and i feel really really grateful for it because i can't even imagine i think it would be so hard but like single moms out there my god they deserve they deserve everything they deserve the world because they're doing all that while also making a good life for their kids while also doing it all and it's like well in this day and age like everybody has to continue working like you can't like raise like you you get like oh my god jobs will be like yeah we'll give you uh two weeks off it's like when i was pregnant people in the uk were like so do you get like nine months did you get like so do you get five years off no do you get like 10 months to like fuck off do you get like time to like you know fuck off it's like i don't know if you have read up about how things are going in this country i'm back in diapers honey i'm wearing diapers and i'm going back to work no it's insane it's it's what it takes a full community to my mom i talked to my mom and she went back to work really early because they needed her and it's like you really really need time you need time for your mind and i just i i really wish people would take like mental health more seriously and would educate more new moms about like this is a lot and what you're feeling is normal and you are not alone and i just i wish there was like one handbook of resources for like you're a new mom welcome and it like opens and it's all it's everything just like truly a guide just pictures a tutorial guide yeah because it's just like you really have to seek out information yeah but it's not easy man yeah like it's so hard i mean dumb comparisons like it's hard to find like valid information on anything nowadays like you know it's so weird how with the internet there was a time when it truly was like you could google things you could find the resources that you need and now we're in an era where it's so much harder to find the right information yeah and you really realize it when your mom tries to give you advice about being a mom and my mom gives me great advice but sometimes she's like you don't need a bassinet just get you know a dresser and you open one of the drawers just dig a hole and make sure it's a wide hole throw them in the middle and they won't be able to get out really she's like just i mean she did tummy time like day four of life she was like and i'm grateful that she did because he was like up and about and some moms are like how did he do that i'm like my mom flipped him on his like flipped him upside down like day god so every it's like and it's all and it's so much like you get so much advice i'm assuming but it's all anecdotal it's just like there's no like research it's not like oh well actually this research it's just like well what we did is this and every baby is different it's just like well what we did is this different yeah and i will say my mom's advice is very funny and like then i'm also married to someone who's not from this country his mom's advice was hilarious she had like advice about vodka like it's just you know give the baby vodka there are just there are so many there are so many different i know there are so many different things and but i will say uh and i don't know if most moms feel this but like you there's like a little voice inside you your intuition is very strong it's like no or it's like yep or it's like this is what we should do and you kind of just do that it's so interesting yeah it's like you can read a thousand books yeah but really when it happens you it's your own baby it's a constant 24 7 yes i do think i feel that whenever people criticize moms for just any sort of like slip up or anything i'm like please it is a it's 24 7 for years and also they're figuring it out and you're exhausted you can read a million books but it's like your baby's doing something different they have a rash that you're like where did you get that buddy brand new person yeah but no it's true because every person is completely unique so you're faced with completely unique problems yes they're similar but it's going to be its own version of it it's that's so infinitely it's so wild but like you know our moms are our moms are boomers so they have like their own how do you feel about people who um because i i see it get brought up on the internet people who are like who use kind of being a parent whenever anyone complains about anything in the world they go well try having kids i really don't like it and and you know i think early on the early days i was like i wish i had time and it's like okay yeah and then people used to say that and be like i didn't tell you to do this i didn't tell you to have kids and not have time so i had to like catch myself because you're so tired and someone's like oh my god it was so fun we went out for drinks and wine and you're like oh i wish i could do it and it sucks it's like i don't enjoy it i don't enjoy hearing it i don't enjoy when my little voice does that too because it's just like this is this is your decision like commit 100 to it but i think what i hear when people do that is like oh they need a break totally oh they're exhausted they're exhausted they need some time off and they're not getting enough support there's not enough balance right yeah and like i think my view on it as someone who doesn't have kids is like when people say like i'll try having kids i'm like i know i'm i know i probably i'd be more tired to having kids i'm also like in the sense that like i i understand that having a kid is probably the most exhausting thing on the planet but also the most rewarding thing so like it is exhaustion for something like there's nothing really to compare it to but it's like you know running a marathon is exhausting but you're doing it because you want it to and it's rewarding yeah that way it's like it's like you're you're working you are you are home and you are doing labor like in the best way possible but like you are working so hard you're doing labor you're like you're feeding them you're cleaning up after you're taking a bath you're you're changing their diaper you're putting them in in their night thing you're putting them in the sleep sack you're getting them calm and that's just one hour of the day right so it's like and then it's just the most amazing aha moments of your life you grow a lifetime by being a new parent it's really really unbelievable but if you if you're not present you're gonna miss it yeah you're gonna miss the phase that you're in and then you're gonna grieve the old phase and while you're grieving the old phase the new phase is starting right it's like the wildest experience of my life totally it's really really cool but yeah i think if i listen to everyone in the world i would you kind of have to take your own you really do because there are a lot of people out there that's like oh good luck yeah like oh but my mom my mom loved having kids my mom had a very very wonderful positive outlook on it and she traveled a lot with us and yeah we were very lucky so like i had i i came from that so i got to have that totally and my sisters both love being parents yeah so i got to have that so i don't know what it would be like if i had the opposite yeah i mean i feel for people i know there's obviously countless situations where people have children unplanned and and like that's a tough situation and i um and it's what makes me feel so bad that i feel like societally it's it is so hard because it is so expensive and nothing is set up in our society to make it easier it almost feels like it's funny because like you read all these headlines where it's like oh they like the government wants people to have more kids whatever but it's like well everything in our day-to-day lives tells us not to it's wild because it's so hard and so expensive and people are just trying to stay afloat in general it's so weird and so like people want to have kids they of course do but it's like my god it's you you have to set aside everything for it um and i i feel like every time i read up on like how expensive anything for babies and children are i'm like oh my god they're that it's that expensive like you know what's weird is like it is and then it like has anything been surprisingly not expensive or what has been surprisingly expensive and what has been surprisingly not as expensive as you thought it would be surprising and expensive is formula oh my god yeah like you know breastfeeding and pumping that's a whole other journey because you have to unless insurance gives it to you for a little bit and sometimes that happens you have to buy this contraption that is so expensive but there's like this cool like mom thing where people really give away a lot of mom stuff and it is so epic but like formula like oh my god blew me out of the water why is it so expensive do we know i mean i guess there's like a lot of vitamins and minerals and they want to make it i don't know i i guess it's like i think it's kind of bullshit that that's even something we pay for like i'm just like hey that's for babies maybe that should maybe we should all chip in and that should be for free trust me i'm like how are we all born we were all babies and like we have to pay for everything yeah that was really expensive and then also like we i got really lucky that uh my husband loves making cole's food like he loves making it it's like a fun process for him he loves like storing it and making it and he makes our food and stuff but i we went on like a trip and i was like oh let me go and get the pouches it's you know whatever easy and i was like what i thought the pouches were expensive to me there were like pouches the food pouches oh i thought they were really expensive it's just like i don't know all of it's expensive but it's like that that stuff pisses me off yeah i'm just like baby food is expensive i'm like child care i'm just like come on man nannies daycare but you just do it you know when you have well you you have no choice you just do it i'm saying like i'm criticizing yeah the thing at large yeah just that i'm like this is only for babies maybe we should do everything we can to make this not as expensive i know because oh this is only for babies and now i'm thinking like i have i've got a big baby like he's a big boy and i'm thinking six two he's six two already it's crazy when you're at the park people are like hey does he want to play pickup basketball he's he's he's like no i'm with my mom i'm with i can't right now i'm with my mom i always get surprised because if i have friends come over and hold him they're like how's your back i'm like it hurts man i'm struggling it really hurts like i don't know what to say but he is a big boy so i'm just thinking about when he gets older how much food am i gonna have to have in the house yeah like damn yeah things things things surprise me and then things are actually weirdly this is gonna sound weird but things are actually easier than i thought they would be in a weird way okay yeah i thought i thought everything was gonna like be really really really hard and things are really hard but some things are like oh okay that worked yeah cool yeah yeah i think you are someone though i mean from everything i've seen and talking to you you are so good at like cherishing the good things and i think that helps you and i think a lot of a lot of the like older generations that we experienced growing up really like they would they they got addicted to negativity and i know that's i'm trying not to say that about parents when i don't have a kid but like we just grew up around it so much and i think it like for so many millennials i think a lot of us were like having kids was a scary thing definitely it's like we were told we were convinced in so many parts of the world of like oh this is gonna be the worst thing yeah you know you're coming home late and your mom's like i have been up i didn't experience this you haven't my mom would be like this she'd be like asleep on the couch like and then i'd come home she wasn't asleep she was like i've been awake all night long like i my mom was just like how dare you and i'm like i i don't want that like she just felt like her heart was being torn out all the time because you were not whatever i was home late for like two seconds what the fuck mom truly i was home late one time the cops drove me home like it wasn't that big of a deal yeah they gave you a ride they gave me a ride home he was my dare officer it's fine he gave me drugs not even kidding but like i get it my mom had four girls that is hard a lot of like mind games and stuff but like it's yeah i just was like oh that's so hard but then i realized oh this is my own life this is my own experience and i got really lucky like my husband is just like down for an adventure he's just like yep hard work he's like i'm in yeah he's like hard things he's like i'm in and he's the most patient man ever because i'm like yeah but i but the but at the end of the day it's just like we enjoy our son so much we love our time with him so much it's just like it's just so much fun yeah so like the little things when i get kind of stressed about like well what is what is he gonna eat next and he's like figure it out i got it but yeah and i think it's probably so much easier like i said earlier like you guys can rely on each other and i think that's also like it's just really seems to be the case with like children of like having people you can rely on you know like you know like you know like you know like you know it's really important i i i i'm just grateful i'm not doing it alone like it's really important i i feel very lucky and i feel super fortunate and like i also didn't go into having being a parent of like it is a it is a it is a 100 guarantee i think i went in being like i hope that i can yeah i hope that my body can i hope that i'm fortunate enough like yeah i just feel like we we kind of need to consider that it's not it's not a guarantee for everybody it is it is a fucking privilege yeah it's a privilege to be able to have a child and afford a child and have a partner who can help you and i think i think i just like i got really like on that before i had kids i was like i hope that i can and it really bothered me when people would be like when are you and i know that bothers a lot of people yeah i i really do uh i think it is really great that so many people our age are being like oh do i not do i want a kid like it's just like hey if you have if you have the privilege of having that moment of being like do i really want that it's like unless you really want it like you don't have to i'm in full support of people who are like i don't want a kid i'm like great rocks yeah you do not need to have a kid it is a privilege and an honor and i think back in the day like our parents it was like it was part of the list of like things they had or needed to do and i think a lot of them wanted to do it but it's very it's it's very cool to be a mom and then see my mom be a grandma yeah like it's it's very generationally if you if you want it and you decide to do it you enter another level of like life of like human it is so overwhelmingly emotional to watch your mom with your with your baby it is like oh and it's also so funny yeah because you watch her do like the weird my mom has had this like song that she does to every grand child she'd be like check check to boston chat chat to lynn the child watch out and she says the name and then she's don't fall in and then she like flips them is that only her song i think it's like a song okay i don't know like a boston thing we'll have to look it up but like all these little songs that you like kind of you like your your childhood comes back like she did that when you were a baby yeah she like cook cook cook just like it's really amazing to see and you're also just like you feel like you're like outside of like a snow globe like looking in it's so weird wow it's really cool it's really really cool yeah it's it sounds like such an insane experience man but and your mom's a your mom's a grandma yes yeah i have nieces and nephews and i mean is your mom like different as a grandma or is she the same um i i she's definitely got a different vibe to her with the with the grandkids she's definitely got a different vibe to her with the with the grandkids i mean they're all the grandkids are all like they're all getting into like middle school now it's crazy i think it happens so fast it all happens so fast um but i mean she she's like stoked she like loves just like spending any time with them but it's kind of funny to see your grand maybe it's just my mom she like tries to lay down the law sometimes with them and i'm like good luck buddy yeah like she's gonna get you but i'll tell you what it's also fascinating like with my nieces different they are and they grew up in like the same situation like they all like grew up together but i'm just like wow like same parenting style same everything but just you are a whole person like and i do believe in both nature and nurture i think both of them play huge parts but it's just fascinating that i'm just like what who would have predicted like all right but uh it's i love it like i love seeing like unique personalities come out of people and stuff and uh i'm really excited for when they're all adults you know like i think that is so fun that's gonna be really fun and cool oh yeah just like oh cool you get to hang out with these are you gonna be like the uncle that's like you can call me at any time i mean i think i'm that like i think i can be that yeah like absolutely um i had an aunt that was like if you don't want to tell your mom where you are you want to call me and i never did because i was like you don't even live in this state yeah like i don't know what i could really offer them but and luckily my brothers and my sister-in-laws are so cool that i don't know - They are, I met them. - Yeah, you have met them. - I met them in Denver. Very cool. But they're very chill. But I really just like, I'm very grateful. Like, I'm very lucky that my family's dynamic is all very chill. And I think it's going to be that way forever. I don't foresee drama really occurring, but very lucky. So we got confirmation that that is a real song, Trot Trot to Boston. I think it is. Yeah, that makes sense. She's been singing it. By the Black Eyed Peas. Her and Fergie are really tight. You know what is really fun with, like, kids is eventually being able to, like, play video games with them or just, like, shared interests or whatever. It's so fun. H and I are like. It's so cool. We're not even debating about it, but H is like, he's going to play video games. No, no. There is simply nothing you can do to stop that in this day and age. Which is so hard. Like, what? That is literally the world now. It will be impossible. Do you know what? Fine. But you know what? I really want. I want to read, like, really epic. I want to start a series with my son. Yeah. And he can start to read and read, like, really epic series with him. Oh, yeah. Like, every night we do, like, a few pages. Oh, absolutely. No, that's the best thing to do. That's my dream. Like, how old can he be until we start, like, reading Lord of the Rings or something? Lord of the Rings might take a bit. Game of Thrones. I'm kidding. Lord of the Rings might just bore him when he's a kid. Game of Thrones. But there's tons, dude. Like, he'll hit a certain age where, like. Yes. I don't think he is to be that. Like, there's plenty of really cool, like, children's books. But when he gets to, like, I don't know, like, somewhere between seven and nine years old, you could probably be reading, like, Percy Jackson and cool stuff like that. I'm just so excited to, like, introduce him to that nerd culture that I'm into. Like, sci-fi, dragons. Yeah. Witches. Totally. I'd be shocked if he's not into that stuff. Yeah. I mean, unless he's, like, rebellious and because you guys are nerds, he's like, no. No. I think he's into it. Because I always do a lot of weird. Yeah. I like weird voices and he likes it. Interesting. My new voice is like, what is it? That's a spicy meatball. Oh, and he loves that. He loves it. Yeah. Because you do, like, a bunch of different characters for him. I do a bunch of different characters. The interrogation has stopped. He's not into it anymore. You're not into it. I'm like, where were you Friday night? He doesn't like it anymore. Have we talked about that on Smosh Mouth? I don't think so. Yeah. So you were interrogating him for a long time. I don't know what it is, but he likes to be a little spooked. Yeah. He likes to be scared. He's like, where were you Friday night? Friday night. And he's like, oh. Yeah, he loves to be spooked. Like, I wasn't anywhere. So I used to do interrogation and then I would do, like, are you a traitor or are you a faithful? And he loved. See, I'm laughing at that. Everybody finds that funny. He loved it so much. But he likes to be accused. Yes. And now I go, are you a spicy meatball? Wow. And he loves that. He loves it. Oh, my God. I don't know what it is. It's like, my husband and I call it the new laugh unlocked. We're like, new laugh unlocked. Because he really, he moves on pretty quick. So it's like interrogation only lasted like a week. You got to keep coming up. Traitors lasted a week. You got to keep coming up with new material. Yes, all the time. That's brutal. All the time. But what will always get him is, I'm going to get you. Oh. He flips out. Does he, like, run away? He's like. And then he goes. He starts crawling away. I'm not even kidding. I go, I'm going to get you. And he goes crazy. Sometimes, one time, he went so hard, he, like, kind of hit his head on the floor. And I was like. Don't react. Don't react. Don't react. And then he gets up and he goes. And I'm like. And then he goes, okay, well, I guess it's fine. But I love it. And then when H does it, he does it like a little too scary. I'm going to get you. He literally goes, I'm going to get you. He goes, I'm going to get you. And Cole's like. He's like, no, not for real. And Cole, like, crawls up me. And I'm like, babe, you're scaring him. And he's like, but I'm going to get him. I'm going to, I want to get him. But he does it too high up. See, levels matter. Your 6'5 husband. Literally. Arms outstretched. Your husband, H does what you should do to scare off a mountain lion. No. He actually does it. He literally does. He'll go like that. And Cole's like, sometimes he's down. But I'm like, you have to get on his level or you scare him too much. Because you're doing like a sinister. I'm doing it like here. I'm like. So I do this. He likes more of like a goblin. He's doing like, like Yeti. He's doing vampire. He's doing Nosferatu. Yeah. Cole's like. But you said Cole. Cole loves scary stuff. And Cole loves like, like going after H at any time. He'll like climb up his head and like pull his hair. Oh God. He gets really into it. Wow. Yeah. But it's like, if you're this high and Cole's down here. Oh yeah. Jesus. Yeah. It's like, what the heck? Get on his level, man. Um, do you think, uh, how, how young do you think he'll be when you'll show him like a scary movie? I think about it all the time. Trust me. Yeah. I'm like. Because this is weird, but Disney movies for kids nowadays are scary as hell. Yeah. We just had to watch Fantasia. Dude, Fantasia, Fantasia. The devil. Chernabog. Night on Bald Mountain. That shit rocks. It was so scary. I loved that as a kid. And I was like, this is part of our life. It is literally hell. He's like taking souls from a village. He is. I mean, Hunchback of Notre Dame. Oh yeah. That one's messed up. That one is messed. I watched it recently. That is probably the most messed up one. But like. Bambi. That was a one and done. When I was a kid, I was like. Never again. Fuck this shit. It was awful. So sad. They're all scary. Ariel. Like the sea witch. Oh, Ursula? Yes. But Ariel. I meant Ariel's story. I don't know why the sea witch felt like it was offensive. I was like, whoa. That's Ursula. You're like, she has a name. She has a name. She's a person, sort of. But yeah. Scary shit. I mean, we'll definitely show scary shit. I mean, Garnet shows me like his favorite movie from Belarus, and I'm like, that was the scariest thing I've ever seen. So it's like, I definitely want to show him some Disney movies. Okay. Scary movies are, they're good. Yeah. Is that wrong? No. You need to be a little scared. You can't just have like a, la, la, la, la. Yeah. What was your first scary movie? Do you remember? Other than Fantasia. Like, that's just childhood. I'm trying to think of like, really, what was like some of the first scary stuff I watched as a kid. I was very scared. I would get very scared. I'd be like, oh, like, am I going to get scared? Like, whatever. Depending on the thing. Me too. But I would watch scary movies. I can't recall, like, what was the first one? All I know is I watched that Goosebumps episode where my phone was ringing. He's like, Goosebumps? And someone's like, are you scared? It's me, a vampire. Vampire. I remember watching that Goosebumps episode, The Night of the Living Dummy. And that's what made me scared of dolls for so long, was just that episode of Goosebumps, which isn't scary. I'm sorry, but dolls are terrifying. Yeah, but then I would see like a trailer or like a commercial for Chucky. Like, it'd be like, tonight at seven. It's like, it's child's play. And it'd be like, Chucky. And I was like, he looks freaky. Chucky. I don't like how he looks. Chucky is terrifying. Are You Afraid of the Dark did a lot of doll stuff on Nickelodeon. But I think my first, like, classic horror was Psycho. Oh. My dad showed us Psycho. I watched Psycho when I was young. Yeah. And I remember just being like, this is weird. It's weird. Yeah. It's scary, though. But like, that and the original It, I remember watching. Oh, I never watched that one. So scary. Yeah. Like, gutter children. Like, what? So scary. Yeah. So yeah, I probably won't show him those, but like, I definitely want to show him some Disney. There's also some good, I'm trying to think of like, good PG, like, scary movies that aren't like, that don't have like all, like, too much other stuff. A Princess Bride is, I'm pretty sure, PG. Oh, Princess Bride. Princess Bride's a perfect movie. It's so scary. Boo! Boo! But there's also, there's also the thing of like, showing a kid a movie when they're old enough to appreciate it. But you don't want them to be too old. Like, I. Right, right. That's like, how do you thread that needle? Where you show them that movie at just the right, you know what I actually think is the age, the media age. Ooh, give it to me. And we're about to have a guest on here in a second. Yeah, we are. Who I think actually is going to be able to speak to this better than either of us. Yeah, probably. But I think the age that your favorite things happen, as far as video games, movies, books, all that stuff, is eight years old. It's like, eight years old. It's like, what was your favorite, what's your favorite childhood TV show? It's like, whatever you watched when you were eight years old. Okay. And it's like, kind of the same. You know where you see it with? Is Pokemon. You're not going to know what I'm talking about here, but people go, what's your favorite Pokemon? I know what Pokemon is. But no, but I mean like, what's your favorite Pokemon generation? And people go, oh, it's this one. It's like, it's always the one that when you were eight years old. What was I? What was I? Eight to 12 is when movies, TV shows, and video games slap harder than they've ever slapped. I kind of agree with you. I think I watched Psycho when I was eight. And then like, I went down the road of like, detective, grisly crime. Well, we should bring on our guest so that he can respond to this. We should bring on our guest. Because at Smosh. All right, come on out. Yeah, here's our baby. We have only you and one other person here at Smosh. We only have two parents on Smosh. Yeah, not many. - And it's me and Alex Aguilar. - That's right. Come on out here. Come on out here, Alex. Alex, thank you for joining us. Happy to be here. Fans have probably not gotten to see you since some of the TNTLs where you came out and you slapped people and all sorts of stuff. It was good stuff. Yeah, he slapped Garrett. R.I.P. He's alive. By the way, I should let you guys know, Alex has some of the darkest humor here at Smosh. It's very, very funny. He's very funny. And he's also a dad. He's also a dad. And you are also a massive movie fan. It's like you and Luke, who I feel like have seen just every movie. We've gone to the movies together. Whoa. What is that like? Does the movie shut down? They're like, everybody else, get out of here. We have two pros. I think the last movie we watched together was Muppet Treasure Island. In theaters. That movie is so good. I've never seen it. Okay, so when you were eight, do you think that eight to 12 is like peak media time? Yeah. So you're talking to somebody whose parents literally put them in front of a TV at two months old. So I actually- There's a parenting technique for you. Awesome. Yeah, no, my family, I guess at two months old, they're like, all right, there you go. And then they just like, TV was like my family for a while because of that. And I'm not raising my son like that at all. No, no, no. No, you're not. Yeah, so I disagree. I think for me, it was around five or six because of how early everything started for me. Yeah, you were a pro earlier on. Well, clearly. Yeah, so like a lot of my favorite shows, like cartoons growing up are like Rocco's Modern Life or Hey Arnold. I love Rocco's Modern Life. Rocco's Modern Life. B52s. Yeah. Yep. But yeah, just from an early age, I was just dropped in front of a TV and then like kind of left to my own device to watch kids stuff. And then when my dad was around and he would watch movies, I grew up on like a lot of, I hate to say it like this, but Mel Gibson, like. Hey. That was the era. What was the movie? Braveheart? Not that one. It's the cop one. Oh my God. Oh, I don't know that. Oh, oh, oh. Lethal Weapon. I grew up watching a lot of Lethal Weapon and Die Hard. Die Hard, of course. So I grew up with that because of my dad. And then my mom left my dad. Okay. So you stopped Mel Gibson after that happened? That's what you're like, oh, I'm done with Mel Gibson. He left Mel Gibson as well. You didn't watch What Women Want with Helen Hunt? God, what a classic. I didn't watch that movie. What a classic. I remember my mom was watching that. Of course. No, such a classic thing would be my mom would be watching a movie like that or What Lies Beneath. Best movie ever. Some movie along those lines. And I'd come out and she'd be like, oh, this movie's amazing. So Mel Gibson can hear women's thoughts. And I'd be like, yeah, I picked that up from this one scene I'm watching. Yeah. Yeah. He's hearing Helen Hunt's thoughts and then he tries to get with her. He actually paints his nails at one point to try to get into the woman's mind. I'm like, oh my God. And I loved it. So Alex, you have a son as well. You have a son. Yeah. I would say he's about four months older than my son. Yes. And I feel like talking to both of you, you guys, it seems like it's been chill. Yeah. How would you rate your overall experience as being a woman? As being a parent? In one word or less. Thanks for joining us on this podcast. What's going on? It's good. There's a lot of highs and a lot of surprising highs. And some like, oh, this is going to be fun when it's over situations. Yes, definitely. I actually just came from a trip abroad with a kid. I saw that. I wanted to ask you about this. We went to Spain. Whoa. Okay, talk to me about that. It's, he, the best thing about it was other kids were there and they were much worse than he was. So comparatively, he was an angel. Okay. He likes to stare whenever like other kids are like doing other shit. Same with my son. Like he just kind of like, it's like his face like, I can do that? Or like, am I not allowed to do that? And I just kind of like hold him. I'm like, I'm not going to do that. Don't do that. What was it like traveling to Spain with him? Honestly, pretty easy. Okay. I was afraid that his sleep schedule was going to get all messy and it didn't. He, he slept a good chunk of the, on the plane, just like sprawled on both me and my partner. But then once we got there, it was like pretty easy on the, now that we're back, his sleep schedule was a little messed up. Like when we first got here, he, he like went to bed and then at 2 a.m. he woke up thinking it was the morning. Of course. And then it got pushed. And as of today, so a few days. Yeah. Of coming back. Yeah. He finally went back to his sleep schedule. Because you and me are pretty on it about sleep schedules. And that's, that's not every parent that I, I didn't realize that. Like I, I talk about my sleep schedule. It is just a part of our daily lives. And I didn't realize that not every parent does that. I heard the, where like some parents did have a sleep schedule, but it backfired horribly on them. Like one of my neighbors, I think that's what happened. They like had a, they were very strict on their sleep schedule, but then it backfired where like that kid woke up earlier because of that sleep schedule. And then their morning started at 4:00 a.m. So let me tell you, sleep schedule is literally one of the biggest parts of parenting. It is truly, I think it's one of the biggest parts. It, it, it, it determines your entire day. It's like an Excel, navigating for another human being's sleep schedule. Just I'm like, I can barely, well, their sleep schedule, depending on what they do. That depends on your life, your whole life, not even sleeping, but how your day is going to go. Yeah. It's wild. How was it for you when you came back to work here? Like after being gone. So I had, uh, so I came back and then I left again. Right. So that was my whole thing. Cause I had the, uh, parental leave from Smosh and then the, I came back and then the state parental leave, I was able to dip out again and then come back. It was. It was strange because I, I came back and I like, so I left sort of like as a surprise to everyone. Cause I, my son came like a, like a week early than expected, like a week or two. And then I kind of like, I was literally setting up meetings for the next day. Like, Oh, I'm going to do this with, uh, this freelancer and I'm going to do this. I'm going to have this meeting. And then seven o'clock comes and then, uh, my partner's water breaks. Um, or not, well, her water never broke actually, but like she, uh, she was like, I think I'm ready. And I'm like, Oh, okay, cool. I can't, we can't. I have a very fun, uh, very funny. Uh, we had tickets to go see, uh, princess Mononoke that night. And now, and I'm like, are you sure? Cause I don't, we have an hour before the movie. Just, I gotta make sure we can, we gotta cancel these A-list tickets. And we did. Uh, we did. We, we canceled the tickets. And then that night I texted, uh, my team and I was like, Hey guys, uh, I'm not coming in tomorrow. Um, I'm, I think I'm done. And then, and then I came back and it was pretty okay. It was leaving again. Cause then around that time was Smosh Summer Games. Um, I left during the perfect times. I think, uh, when it got hectic for the art department, I was like, Ooh, I gotta go. Um, but I, I think I like my team and my team was very supportive, uh, here. So I, it was really easy to come back and it's still like really easy. Um, not just my team, but like Smosh. I felt the same exact way because you kind of hear horror stories, uh, like back in the day of like, Oh, especially for the female. It's like, don't tell them until it's really like late in the pregnancy or blah, blah, blah. Like they're going to cut your pay or whatever. And I, I genuinely felt so supported. Like it was like anything you need, anything you need. In fact, they're like, you could be more of a diva. And I was just like, I, yeah. Okay. But I miss my, I miss my work. And then I miss my, so I found it to be tough. I think if I left again, it would be really hard. I think so too. It's one of those situations where I'm like, I like, I enjoyed my like work from home time, uh, before he was born. And then when I got back, I was like, I don't know if I can do this. Like, I don't know, it's I'm, I'm rambling, but yeah, it's, uh, I totally understand. Yeah. Yeah. It's, it's, it's kind of a wild experience for, you know, the dad and the mom too. But what I really want to ask is when are you going to show your son something scary? Um, maybe you have the answer and I, I just don't know. I think my, I was like, when you guys were talking about it, I was like, I think it was four. When I watched a child's play, I watched Chucky when I was four because my mom that makes sense. Yeah. I also have like a vague memory of also watching evil dead at four, which is great. That's also fun. Yeah. That's crazy. Were your parents watching it with you? No. Yeah. Yeah. My mom had a kick of showing me like horror movies. Like she made me watch the exorcist at four or five. And it was just like, she was like, ha ha. Look at how funny this is. And I'm like, that movie, the devil. - But also growing up as a Catholic, I was like-- - Yeah, you're watching the NFL. that is the funniest thing because my my mom my family's catholic uh or we were catholic growing up but uh my mom when we were watching the exorcist i remember as a kid she'd be like and and it's crazy like this could be like yeah for sure yeah like no i i get it i get i also grew up catholic and the exorcist was like my mom was very against my dad showing it to us but my dad would show it to him they might get possessed my dad didn't go to church he was like man your dad was all into technology yeah he didn't care like i don't believe he was like science is what's happening science is scary aliens are what are happening yeah he showed you alien he was like this is real he did there's an old clip you've probably seen it there's this old clip from the premiere of alien when it was in theaters and they're interviewing people as they leave and they interview this guy and he's there with his like 10 year old son they're like oh did you guys enjoy the movie he's like yeah and he's like and you you think it's appropriate for your 10 year old son he's like he's like i do well he needs to know that this this could happen out there about alien but hey you know i don't know i love that it's so funny i've never seen that it's such a classic i need to see that it's this old school clip this is from the 70s this guy's got this big old mustache he needs to know what he needs well he needs to know that this could happen it's like what the fuck both of you is there a movie that you are so excited to show you like to watch with your kid i have a so there's a question there's a book that came out like a few years ago that i was able to get for for this like it's like from a24 it's this entire book of like growing up watching movies with your kids whoa um and it starts like from age two these are the movies you should you should try to watch with your kid i want this book and literally the first page that opens up for pay for year two for like when he's two years old is fantastic mr fox and i was like oh i didn't think about that one that is a great movie it's like watching like movies and also like shorts i think there's an entire like section for the wallace and gromit shorts whoa so i was like oh these are this wouldn't be a bad idea so like that's amazing i was thinking about that as fantastic mr fox is just so visually gorgeous yeah or totoro i think my partner and i are very much into uh ghibli movies and yeah well yeah yeah yeah yeah um and it's like ponyo or totoro would be like those are incredible yeah yeah i have no idea have you never seen ponyo or totoro um no i haven't you should watch them with when when cole's the right age i would like to i think age has i would like to watch that i would like to watch like really beautiful fantastical movies like fantastic mr fox sounds amazing but there's there's a movie watership down i mean yeah i grew up with like older older movies like i watched the secret garden and that movie's really sad and dark i think courtney showed me that movie and i was like oh my god it's really damn yeah okay it's really dark yeah but like fern gully fern gully is essentially avatar but animated oh i i don't know why i just remembered a scary movie i watched when i was a kid small soldiers wait that's his gremlins with toys wait a gremlins is also another movie that i watched too young but i didn't watch gremlins until recently i was like damn this is not for me i didn't watch gremlins until recently i was like damn this is not for me i didn't watch gremlins until recently i was like damn this is not for me i didn't watch gremlins until recently i was like damn this is not for me i didn't watch gremlins until recently small soldiers small soldiers is awesome funny it's so funny but it's kind of a relic of the past like it does not nobody talks about it anymore no but it's ridiculous super young kirsten dunst the last person i talked to about that movie is actually luke baker so yeah that makes sense that makes sense yeah i don't know i i really do also want to show him fantasia oh fantasia is amazing you know fantasia yeah that's a movie that i was considering showing him as his first disney movie yeah i'm being honest it because it's just visual it's just and it's symphonies and it's orchestra and the music is so beautiful yeah i consider it we have a bunch of questions right i have the questions right here because we and uh h actually answered some of these okay this i think this is a really good question and i'll read h's answer and then i want to hear yours what's a super tiny life hack that makes a huge difference with a newborn his answer is not really tiny but we we actually bought a second freezer okay that's it's not a tiny life hack but this is what he put in here you have a second freezer we bought a second freezer our my mom asked like my my parents asked what they could do to help and h was like we need a second freezer and i was like no we don't it was the greatest gift really it was the best thing ever because we meal prepped for weeks out we did so many like breakfast burritos quiches like breakfast sandwiches and we put it in the freezer so that when i was on maternity leave for all the many hours that's what we were eating that was like the greatest thing and for me my my greatest life hack and i think a lot of people know this is every corner in every room that you have or you know in little in like little corners just put like a little area that has some toys in it when they start crawling so that in every room you just have a little bit of something just a little bit and i remember my friend told me this and i was like no i'm not doing that the toys are going to stay in one place and then i started like we have a bookshelf right and i emptied out the bottom part and i just put some blankets some books and like a little thing that has like fun little toys or whatever and then a map and and i just did that in like little corners and it's so great because it's like they can go to those little spots in the house that's amazing so that's that's my tiny life hack but my friend told me about a very big yeah free a second freezer but he's a he's a he's a food person no i mean you've talked about how he meal preps and that's amazing um alex alex was anything that you i think for our life hack it just it depends on like the opportunities but knowing other parents with babies who are like maybe a year older oh getting all that like getting diapers i think that was our our big thing we're like we we my partner has a friend whose baby like just went through the diaper like ages pretty fast like by the time we were ready for for our child that baby was already at size three or four so we like her her friend was just like we have all these boxes of huggies so here you go so we still have huggies in our closet like wow size four ready to go and it's like all right and that's our that's our hack and you gave me diapers i did give you diapers i forgot about that yeah diapers is such a hack honestly any any parent or family that you know just be in contact with them because they inevitably have all of our stuff is second hand they inevitably have stuff for you yeah and diapers is i mean you need them you need a thousand of them because i think we go to costco for we've run out of the diapers that we have for that size so we're like we go to costco and it's like 40 bucks for a box so we're like all right well it's amazing how many diapers do you have for a box it's amazing how many diapers do you have for a box how many diapers does a baby go through in like a week depends on the age yeah yeah when they are newborns 10 10 diapers a week so 10 diapers a day 10 diapers a day yeah so 70 a week yeah because we did the math also while we were in spain we're like how many diapers is he going through right now a day and it's like seven and that's including the night diaper yeah yeah whoa that's yeah that's like now oh my god yeah that's crazy i knew it was a lot i was like i know it's gonna be a lot it's gonna be a ton it's just like and if crazy and how many are in like a big package that you buy 50 something 50 something yeah oh so it's but not even covering a week yeah so we buy like whenever costco has those deals like buy two or like this this one has like ten dollars off like we we look at the limit of like you can only buy three per person i'm like all right i'm gonna go in this one time get them go out and then come right back in to buy another yeah yeah oh my god that's a costco trip yeah that's also a life literally it's just like get whatever you can pay you now yeah okay what's something that you experienced that you weren't prepared for at all so that he would talk immediately he just he spoke to me in a different language hello alex hello alex when he was little i think the sheer fear of like i'm gonna fuck this up uh like whenever he would like like nest like nestle up to me like to like under my chin i'd be like oh that's cute and then the the fear in the back of my head i'm like oh i'm gonna press this soft spot i'm gonna i'm gonna press the soft spot and it's just like finding out about these little things that are like that are a little dangerous because he's like fragile and i'm like i can't be trusted with this guy i relate to that so much i i call them intrusive thoughts the the intrusive thoughts i had some really weird ones i had weird weird ones about dogs i had nightmares about random dogs that i don't even know that would like eat him i just had that thought like i i i like had these thoughts of like i love you so much and then my brain would automatically think of like the worst thing that could happen to him it was the same thing with my cats where i was like i love my cats to death but then i like i would look at my cats be very wary of him and i'm like oh no this is this the intrusive thought was like they're gonna they're gonna like try to slice them up yeah with like the paws yep but now like a year later i'm like oh no luke is gonna pull the intrusive thoughts start to like yeah but i was i agree i was not prepared for how intense they were h wrote i was not prepared at all for how good the sleep quality was considering everyone else's experience my husband's up having a blast let me tell you he's you said your husband's making it sound like he's sleeping better since having a kid he's sleeping great i think because he's going to bed just like oh like he's so exhausted yes wow okay he thought like we hear from everyone like you're never gonna sleep and in the beginning it is kind of like that you don't act you it's crazy what you can get done with no sleep but then you you do actually start if you do the sleep schedule you do actually start to sleep so for us we like had an alarm because like we we had to feed him yes like in the beginning we had to feed him like every two or three hours same so we had an alarm ready and we'd be the ones waking up before he did yep so same like it was just it was our schedule that was like it was because of us it was and did your did your like parents disagree with it did they say anything about it they didn't disagree with it they're like i think their biggest uh disagreement was like why is he sleeping in the same bedroom as you guys and oh and maybe that's why you guys aren't sleeping i was like well that's a whole thing yeah like that's people do people do what works for them it's a whole thing yeah man but we slept well we still sleep well like it's that's one of those things where like everyone tells you like you're never gonna sleep i literally had a talk with a freelancer today and like how's your sleep schedule did you sleep at all i'm like yeah i'm still sleeping yeah yeah so am i i think that's why he i wonder though too some people because i know we've had this convo on a show before of like some people when they wake up in the middle of the night they cannot go back to sleep so if you're someone who can wake up and go back to sleep easily maybe it's easier but me you're someone who when you wake up you're up yeah that was the hardest thing i'm up for a bit too like we had the same thing was we had an alarm because your pediatrician is like you have to wake up to make sure they're gaining enough weight whatever and my mom really struggled with that when she helped she was like why would you ever wake up a sleeping baby yeah so it's kind of like old way new way but wow i found it really hard this the lack of sleep i i really struggled with it yeah these answers are wild in what ways do you see yourself in your son already that was one of selena's questions this question is so great throwing out like my husband wrote is very funny i did i haven't thought of that actually i i guess little actions that he does that that he just kind of like plays with fire i guess not like actual fire but just like there's things there's like things he does i'm like that i feel like i would do like just just getting close to the edge like he will look at me and then try to grab my hair and then i'm like don't do it and then he'll like look at me for a split second and be like yeah yeah yeah again and then same thing with the cats like i will like hold his hand and like all right don't grab too hard he'll like he'll and he'll start laughing as he's petting him and then he'll do this and i'm nope you can't be doing that and then he gets upset so i let him go and he does it slowly i'm like that's good and i'm like okay the thing is i would do something like that too i'm like but what if you know you're you're just kind of like i what happens yeah you're just curious i won't cause an effect that's what i want yeah i think that is true like when you're a kid yeah you want to see things happen h wrote when the bass hits the body grooves so i can explain that um h loves like techno dance house music yeah so he plays it a lot and it's the funniest thing is cole will be eating and then he plays it and he'll be like that's awesome or he'll be like holding on to something eating something and he'll be like and it is it's so real he'll literally move his body isn't it fascinating that like i i i need to ask like i need to look this up of like what is in our brains that makes us do this because it's like you see babies dance and i'm like there's something that happens to us i i know i don't it's the wildest thing i've been wanting to do that but like i can't see my my child like dance as much i play so we we have a lot of vinyl records at my place and then i just play music i try to play as much music as i can he just kind of like accepts it as like extra sound and like i just hold him next to the record player i'm like okay you have to hear everything and he just gets so fascinating with like the the record smell the visual of it every baby is different it's so funny fascinating yeah i i cole is gonna be in warehouses until 6 a.m probably do we want to do one more question yeah one more let's do one more question oh what are you so excited to teach your son oh karate taekwondo fight me you're ready pick up the sword i'm three oh yeah yeah yeah you would i've read the anarchist cookbook sure um no i think what i'm trying to do right now actually is uh teach him another language which is oh it's a it's a lot let me tell you same three languages we're trying to do that that's whoa wait my partner's french uh and i'm uh it's spanish french spanish and english yeah how is that going if you're only doing spanish i'm trying so hard and i like i i like lose it it's hard yeah it's hard because we're doing russian but h is not really doing russian with him because he's speaking english with him but then my mother-in-law is yeah i'm like i'm i try and i catch myself speaking in english and i just repeat the same sentence in spanish and it's i just forget because i'm so ingrained in speaking in english and i think my big issue is that my i would speak spanish with my family and since they're not around i'm like why am i speaking it exactly yeah but i'm trying real hard to do that so he he can understand spanish and then same thing for my partner she speaks french and she's much better at it than than like trying to teach him that it's hard so it's yeah that's like the big thing i'm trying have you noticed him say anything that you're like agua water oh yeah and like he like like when we offer him water he's like agua agua and then he like he will drink a little bit of water and just like throw it at you but but he will drink is winning yeah but then he but then uh my partner says like i think something along the along the lines of going to sleep but as like more childish is like uh something like dodo and then he likes saying that as he's like we're all right we're getting ready for bed a dodo and then it's it's like okay so it's happening because for us like we're like oh it's not happening but then the other day we were like no way is he keeps saying dada right for dada but then sometimes he'll go da and we're like you mean like da like like yes he's like da da vodka da vodka come vodka come sit next to me sit next to me little dense he'll randomly say like you're like you're speaking english but you just have a russian accent so i don't know what's happening come on vodka it's okay and i'm like oh god are we those parents that are like he said da but he's saying dada i don't know guys at some point my partner and i were talking about like oh he's saying mama and dot and dada and it's like but those are sounds like he doesn't understand what those phrases mean when he said no we're like oh it's just a sound but he would do no and then just shake his head and i'm like he knows what it is he knows what no is you you can you can you can tell the difference yeah i think with mama he i think he knows he knows he for sure knows i need to sleep tonight so he knows mama he knows it's fascinating stuff man but yeah you guys are doing great i hope so i think you guys are doing great it's really really really fun it works for us alex and i yeah for youtube but yeah it's parents week and we got these didn't mention we didn't mention we have pins but we're wearing we're wearing pins which you know in the future you'll be able to figure out what to do i think these will be available at smosh.com mine says cool parents watch smosh you want some cool get these as a gift for your parents they're really cool i don't understand mine yeah mine just uh they're majeon okay so we will be playing majeon on smosh games channel this week that makes sense some moms might be playing yes yes i'm not gonna say whose moms but some moms might be playing each other with their children on their teams i love that um and then also uh i know we threw this out last week but uh send us your hometown drama go to the smosh subreddit send it there you probably could send it in our community posts and everything as well you want to read your wherever you want drama let us know your hometown drama we're gonna do a whole episode where we cover can i do that yes there's so many dead people in my hometown from when i was in high school there's only been a couple people who've been like here at the office who's like oh i'll send in hometown drama are murders okay and i'm like well let's let's we also have a murder that happened in my hometown too okay well let's get you know i think that's what drama dramas are about in america that yeah and let me tell you parents love to watch messed up stuff that's how we get through the night that is very true like the exorcist yeah let us know what you want us to show our child let us know what the first horror movie you watched was how old were you yes when you watched your first horror movie and what was it and also if you're a parent what's the first horror movie you showed your kid or are going to show your kid or or not or or not anyways alex thank you for joining us happy to do so thank you alex and thank you for watching and we'll see you later bye