#148 - Parenting Advice From Actual Parents

Hello, welcome to Smoshmouth. I'm Shane and I'm Amanda or as some people call me mommy mother Mama Sita or daddy. It depends on the day. Oh, yeah for sure for sure totally. So we have a so we have a bass and end on the ground Oh, that's what that's called I Think I thought that was an instrument Why do I laugh at your dumb jokes? Oh Okay, it's I guess it's a bass and end on the ground I'm not really sure it looks like a fun couch that you have at like a hotel. It's like a little tiny area It's it's a little tiny circle area for a baby. It's a cage with an opening So this would be for a baby that's that's not able to move that much right? The baby's not like can barely a crawling baby Can get through anything anything and you don't even realize and the funniest thing ever is when they have something in their hand They know they're not supposed to have and they go and they're stoked Like there's like a we have a little remote to turn on one of our lamps and cold gets it and goes And he holds it up and then I go okay, come here give that to me and he goes and he crawls off so fast It's the funniest thing and he's just because he's like I just know I know I'm not supposed to have They know they're not supposed to have it and they just go you gotta you gotta reverse psychology it Where you got to try to give him all the things he's not supposed to have so right and then be like baby toys You're like a glass bottle. It's probably a bad thing to teach early on. There's a glass bottle kid. Yeah, here you go some cigarettes Yeah, I mean you think about it how insane it must be to be a baby, right like because you know what I try to the closest You can get as an adult is anytime you just have a brand new experience. Yeah, I can be absolutely plastered No, but like new experiences. Yeah, but it takes so much to have a brand new experience Yeah, but that's them all the time all the time Because that's like this is my first time touching whatever this is. Yes, this is my first time seeing that thing Yes, and they really learn the word no pretty fast really but they like they like eff with you you'll be like Uh-uh, and they're like oh No, they're like And they do this like little smile like Cole's favorite thing truly You don't need to buy toys. I mean toys are fun and they're good for like learning and there's some choices like if I click this It'll turn on but really get them like a big ass Map of California a map of the world start teaching them geography. No, because they're fit It's very hard to tear and still they're like and when they do tear it they're like they're stoked They're like I have grown stronger. They're literally psyched Um, I should I should preface this we are. Oh, yeah. Why are we talking about kids? Yeah, so we have a bassinet here and we're talking about Your kid because it's parent week my kid parents week at smosh which is something we're doing. It's really exciting We have a lot all the channels are doing something special involving parents Yeah, a lot of people are bringing their parents on spoiler. I might be talking to some parents. Oh Maybe Spencer's mom. Whoa, maybe a rush is mom. Okay, and then I won't reveal the third person There are a few parents that are coming on you named a couple yeah of like a few that are coming off a few that are coming on I met all these parents this past week and I was like oh my god the personality Where they knew I was all of them did yeah, yeah, are they called my god truly kind of you're shame top. Yeah, I will say Spencer Spencer's mom, uh, no, I won't say this actually. Yeah, I will I will uh, she she was saying like oh Spencer's always complimenting how you dress He's like oh Shane dress is so cool. Oh, and I was like damn. That's that's really cool. Why were he's like Spencer's the best That I don't I don't I don't know. I don't know if Spencer's like. Oh, I don't don't put me on blast like that No Spencer doesn't care, but um Trust me. I interviewed him. It's mom. He does not care I'm like everyone's personalities make most make so much sense when you meet like Spencer's mom is hilarious So I really related to Spencer's mom a lot Um she just reminded me a lot of my mom. She did like she was just so comfortable telling stories and uh my favorite thing that I learned was like I I really asked this question like oh is your you know son or daughter your best friend and it really was like a Kind of a controversial topic Because some moms were like of course some moms were like no, I've got my best friend Janet Spencer's mom's like no She's like I love my son, but now I have friend. She's like that's weird and then after she's like is it weird that I said that that's weird No, it's not a problem either way, but it's so funny to see the difference between Moms yeah, and like my I relate to that because I think my mom would be the same and then I feel like me as a mom would be like that Interesting like I don't think my son's gonna be my best friend. I yeah Yeah, that's not something. I don't think my mom would sort of like I have it. I have a bump Say in a place like what am I gonna do? I think my mom would say like no. She has her best friend like that's like oh Someone she hangs out with. That's her best friend. Yes her sons are like her son. I'm excited to like their friend We're obviously like I understand saying yes to that though. Yeah. That's just like a how you view it type of situation. Yeah, it's like I want to I want to like you know travel with my son I want to do these really cool experiences. I want to like Read together. I want to do all these really fun things But I also want to like be his parent. Yeah for me and like I said there's like real note like I talked to some moms They're like oh, we're best friends and it was like a really cool relationship that they had because I think it Has to do with like upbringing and all that stuff, but it was so funny how that one question was kind of like Oh, we are split on this. Yeah And it really it was really cool to interview some moms because it made me think about like oh What do I want to be like as mom and they have like years of experience totally? That's why I mean it's the weirdest thing that like because You know, you can't I don't really comprehend it. I was talking to someone who is a parent But he's like in his 60s. This is a few years ago. Oh, and he was talking about how it's like so weird that he's like Yeah, like the majority of your relationship with your kid is when they're an adult And I was like it's such a weird like I'm like yeah, like to me like you have a kid And it's like but they're only a kid for so long and then they're You know after 18 like you know the hope is that you spend so much of your life like They're your adults just like you know each other like that and that's so weird Someone literally just said this to me and it really does put things into perspective when I'm so in it You know my son is a baby and It really puts into perspective like what is important right now? Yeah, and for me right now is like any chance I can get I want to spend time with my son but not only just like spend time with him but be really really present like I was thinking You asked you and Selena asked me a question and I know we're gonna do this later But it was just like what's something that really surprised me As being a mom I forget the exact question, but it was like I do not Simply do not get bored watching him play Like and I thought that I you know he we've all baby sat some kids randomly when we were teenagers or maybe that was just me My mom was like your baby sitting this family. I'm like what I'm 10 Oh truly your baby sitting these 12-year-olds. I'm 10 years old. You're sitting baby sitting this kid You're like I am bored out of my mind totally, but with my son. I could watch him play for so I'm like It's just so freaking cute You never think that you would you would do that. It's it's it's really really cool But yeah, I someone said that it's like they're gonna be adults for so long. I know and every phase of their You know kid life and I'm and I mean phase by like month or two weeks. Yeah, it just keeps getting better. It's really really yeah It's been so cool to see like You and H are such an incredible team and like it reminds me of my brothers because so when my brothers had kids I remember always being like I feel like so many people in our parents generations talked about kids where it's like oh Wait till you have kids that it's night man everything's over. Yeah Your body's done Shut the doors on your sex life. Yeah, it's like okay. You're never gonna have fun ever again. Yeah literally, but my brothers They they had kids and like it's just like oh life didn't stop and it they they kind of In my conversation with them. They're like oh, yeah, it's fine and I but you know what I at least the through line With them and then you is like you and your partner are such incredible teams and you guys have each other's backs and um, I don't think a lot of people have that And I think that's what really is hard, right like is like so many so many Husbands and stuff are just not like Pick helping out and like I know that's it's the case in different ways, but like I think there's In reading Reddit stories at least which is such a ridiculous thing to bring up but like so many situations where it's parents It's like oh my god so many people just are not a good team. It's it's they're not respecting each other and then you get into that Yes, it is so that it is like really the team and I think I think unfortunately it's like circumstances It's timing, but I did a postpartum like therapy group which if you're a new mom, I highly recommend it It was really really amazing. It was like a bunch of other moms like in it. I'm talking like bright two weeks in it three weeks in it And the biggest things I learned is that everyone is experienced some everyone's experiencing something different, but like Sometimes it's like, "Okay, the partner, the husband, or the father, whatever is like doesn't know how to handle or they're not around or they're struggling." But then it's also like sometimes the mom gets really scared and worried and they have control and they kind of like kind of sometimes like gatekeep a little bit of like, "Okay, well, I'll just do it. I'll just do it. I'll just do it." So sometimes the baby never makes the bond and then they get resentful because the husband's like, "She doesn't even, the baby doesn't even know me." And like, it's so layered and complicated and it's like, it's so easy to be like, "Well, he wasn't around or she wasn't around." But it's like, "It is so layered and complicated." But I realize the biggest thing is like, people just don't want to feel alone. They don't want to feel like loss and confused and you need so much support when you're raising one baby. Imagine having twins or triplets like, "You need so much support." And I really got really lucky like I have a very, very supportive partner and we're just on the same wavelength. It's just like the timing worked out and I feel really, really grateful for it because I can't even imagine. I think it would be so hard. But like, single moms out there, my God, they deserve, they deserve everything. They deserve the world because they're doing all that while also making a good life for their kids while also doing it all. And it's like. Well, in this day and age, everybody has to continue working. Like, you can't raise it. Like, you get like, "Oh my God." A job will be like, "Yeah, we'll give you two weeks off." It's like, when I was pregnant, people in the UK were like, "So do you get like nine months? So do you get like.?" So do you get five years off when I made it? No, there's like ten months to like fuck off. Do you get like time to like, you know, fuck off? It's like, I don't know if you have read up about how these are going in this country. I'm back in diapers, honey. I'm wearing diapers and I'm going back to work. No, it's insane, I get it. It's what. It's so simple. Full community to really look at. I talked to my mom and she went back to work really early because they needed her and it's like, "You really, really need time. You need time for your mind." And I just. I really wish people would take like mental health more seriously and would educate more new moms about like, "This is a lot." And what you're feeling is normal and you're not alone and I just. I wish there was like one handbook of resources for like, "You're a new mom." Welcome. And it like opens and it's all. It's everything. Just like, truly a guide. Just pictures. A tutorial guide. Yeah, because it's just like, you really have to seek out information. Yeah. But it's not easy, man. Yeah. Like, it's so hard. I mean, dumb comparisons. Like, it's hard to find like valid information on anything. Nowadays. Like, it's so weird how at the internet, there was a time when it truly was like, "You could Google things. You could find the resources that you need." And now we're in an era where it's so much harder to find the right information. Yeah. And you really realize it when your mom tries to give you advice about being a mom. And my mom gives me great advice. But sometimes she's like, "You don't need a bass in it. Just get, you know, a dresser and you open one of the drawers and change them." Just make sure it's a wide hole, throw them in the middle and they won't be able to get out. Julie, she's like, "Just." I mean, she did tell me time like, day four of life. She was like, "Ha ha ha ha ha." And I'm grateful that she did because he was like up and about. And some moms are like, "How did he do that?" I'm like, "My mom flipped him on his like, flipped him upside down like day." So every it's like, and it's so much like, you get so much advice I'm assuming, but it's all anecdotal. It's just like, there's no like research. It's not like, "Oh, well, actually, this research is just like, well, what we did is this." And every baby is different. Yeah. And I will say my mom's advice is very funny. And like, then I'm also married to someone who's not from this country. His mom's advice was hilarious. She had like advice about vodka. Like, it's just, you know. You have the baby vodka. There are so many, there's so many different. I know. There are so many different things. And, but I will say, and I don't know if most moms feel this, but like you, there's like a little voice inside you. Your intuition is very strong. It's like, no. Or it's like, yep. Or it's like, this is what we should do. And you kind of just do that. That's so interesting. Yeah. It's like, you can read a thousand books. Yeah. But really when it happens, you, it's your own baby. It's a constant 24/7 thing. I do think I feel that whenever people criticize moms for just any sort of like slip up or anything, I'm like, please. It is a, it's 24/7 for years. And also, they're figuring it out. And they're exhausted. You can read a million books. But it's like, your baby's doing something different. They have a rash that you're like, where did you get that, buddy? Ain't brand new person. Yeah. No, it's true because every person is completely unique. So you're faced with completely unique problems. Yes. They're similar, but it's going to be its own version of it. That's so infinitely complicated. It's so wild. But like, you know, our moms are, our moms are boomers. So they have like, they're own. How do you feel about people who, because I see it get brought up on the internet, people who are like, who use kind of being a parent whenever anyone complains about anything in the world and they go, well, try having kids. I really don't like it. And, and you know, I think early, on the early days, I was like, I wish I had time. And it's like, okay. Yeah. And then people used to say that and be like, I didn't tell you to do this. I didn't tell you to have kids and not have time. So I had to like catch myself because you're so tired. And someone's like, oh my god, it was so fun. We went out for drinks and wine. And you're like, oh, I wish I could do it. And it sucks. It's like, I don't enjoy it. I don't enjoy hearing it. I don't enjoy when my little voice does that too. Because it's just like, this is, this is your decision. Like commit 100% to it. But I think what I hear when people do that is like, oh, they need a break. Totally. They're exhausted. They're exhausted. They need some time off. And they're not getting enough support. There's not enough balance. Right. Yeah. And like, I think my view on it as someone who doesn't have kids is like, when people say, like, I'll try having kids. I'm like, I know. I know. I know. I probably, I'd be more tired to having kids. I'm also like, in the sense that like, I understand that having a kid is probably the most exhausting thing on the planet, but also the most rewarding thing. So like, it is exhaustion for something. Like, there's nothing really to compare it to. But it's like, you know, running a marathon is exhausting, but you're doing it because you wanted to and it's rewarding. Yeah. It's like, it's like, you're, you're working. You are, you're home and you are doing labor. Yeah. Like in the best way possible. But like, you are working so hard. You're doing labor. You're like, you're feeding them. You're cleaning up after you're taking a bath. You're, you're changing their diaper. You're putting them in in their night thing. You're putting them in the sleep sack. You're getting them calm. And that's just one hour of the day. Right. So it's like, and then it's just the most amazing aha moments of your life. You grow a lifetime by being a new parent. It's really, really unbelievable. But if you, if you're not present, you're going to miss it. Yeah. You're going to miss the phase that you're in. And then you're going to grieve the old phase. And while you're grieving the old phase, the new phase is starting. It's like the wildest experience of my life. Totally. It's really, really cool. But yeah, I think if I listen to everyone in the world, I would, you kind of have to take your own. You really do because there are a lot of people out there that's like, Oh, good luck. Yeah. Like, but my mom, my mom loved having kids. My mom had a very, very wonderful positive outlook on it. And she traveled a lot with us. And yeah, we were very lucky. So like, I had, I came from that. So I got to have that. And my sisters both love being parents. Yeah. So I don't know what it would be like if I had the opposite. Yeah. I mean, I feel for people, I know there's obviously countless situations where people have children unplanned. And like, that's a tough situation. Yeah. And it's what makes me feel so bad that I feel like societally, it's, it is so hard because it is so expensive. And nothing is set up in our society to make it easier. It almost feels like it's funny because like you read all these headlines where it's like, Oh, they like the government wants people to have more kids or whatever. But it's like, well, everything in our day to day lives tells us not to because it's so hard and so expensive. And people are just trying to stay afloat in general. And so like people want to have kids. They of course do. But it's like, my God, it's, you, you, you have to set aside everything for it. And I, I feel like every time I read up on like how expensive anything for babies and children are, I'm like, Oh, my God, they're that it's that expensive. Like holy crap. It is. And then it like has anything been surprisingly not expensive? Or what has been surprisingly expensive? And what has been surprisingly not as expensive as you thought it would be? Surprisingly expensive is formula. Oh my God. Yeah. Like, you know, breastfeeding and pumping. That's a whole other journey because you have to, unless insurance gives it to you for a little bit. And sometimes that happens. You have to buy this contraption that is so expensive. But there's like this cool like mom thing where people really give away a lot of mom stuff. And it is so epic. But like formula like, Oh my God, blew me out of the water. - Right, it's so expensive. - Do we know? - I mean, I guess-- - There's like a lot of vitamins and minerals, and they want to make it. - I don't know. I guess it's like, I think it's kind of bullshit that that's even something we pay for. Like, I'm just like, hey, that's for babies. Maybe that should, maybe we should all chip in and that should be for food. - Trust me. I'm like, how are we all born? We were all babies and like, we have to pay for everything. So that was really expensive. And then also like, I got really lucky that my husband loves making cold food. Like, he loves making it. It's like a fun process for him. He loves like, storing it and making it. And he makes our food and stuff. But we went on like a trip and I was like, oh, let me go and get the pouches. It's, you know, whatever, easy. And I was like, what? I thought the pouches were expensive. To me, they were like-- - The pouches. - The food pouches. - Oh. - I thought they were really expensive. It's just like, I don't know. All of it's expensive, but it's like-- - That stuff pisses me off. - Yeah. - I'm just like, baby food is expensive. I'm like-- - Child care. - I'm just like, come on, man. - Manny's, take care. But you just do it. - You know what you have? - Well, you have no choice. - You just do it. - I'm saying like, I'm criticizing the thing at large. I'm just that I'm like, this is only for babies. Maybe we should do everything we can to make this not as expensive. - I know. - 'Cause this is only for babies. - And now I'm thinking like, I've got a big baby. I'm like, he's a big boy. And I'm thinking-- - He's six too. - He's six too already. It's crazy. - When you're at the park, people are like, hey, does he want to play pickup basketball? He's like, oh, what's my mom? - With I can't right now, with my mom. - I always get surprised because if I have friends come over and hold him, they're like, how's your back? I'm like, it hurts, man. - Struggling. - It really hurts. Like, I don't know what to say, but he is a big boy. So I'm just thinking about when he gets older, how much food am I gonna have to have in the house? - Yeah. - Like, damn. - Yeah. - Things, things, things surprise me. And then things are actually weirdly, this is gonna sound weird, but things are actually easier than I thought they would be. - Okay. - In a way. - Okay. - Yeah, I thought everything was gonna like be really, really, really hard. And things are really hard. But some things are like, oh, okay, that worked. - Yeah. - Cool. - Yeah. - Yeah. - I think you are someone though. I mean, from everything I've seen and talking to you, you are so good at like cherishing the good things. And I think that helps you. And I think a lot of the like older generations that we experience growing up really like, they got addicted to negativity in the ways. And I know that's, I'm trying not to say that about parents, but I don't have a kid. But like, we just grew up around it so much. - Definitely. - And I think for so many millennials, I think a lot of us were like having kids was a scary thing. - Definitely. - 'Cause we were convinced in so many parts of the world of like, oh, it's gonna be the worst thing. - Yeah, you know you're coming home late and your mom's like, I have been up. (laughing) - I didn't experience this. - You haven't? My mom would be like this. She'd be like, oh, sleep on the couch. And then I'd come home, she wasn't asleep. She was like, I have been awake all night long. Like, my mom was just like, how dare you? And I'm like, I don't want that. Like, she just felt like her heart was being torn out. - Oh, that's insane. - 'Cause you were not. - Whatever, I was home late for like two seconds. (laughing) - What the fuck, mom? - Truly, I was home late. One time the cops drove me home. Like, it wasn't that big of a deal. - Yeah, they gave you a ride. They gave me a ride, how? He was my dare officer, it's fine. (laughing) - He gave me drugs. - Not even kidding. But like, I get it, my mom had four girls. That is hard. - That's a lot. - Lotta like mind games and stuff. But like, I just was like, oh, that's so hard, but then I realized, oh, this is my own life. This is my own experience. And I got really lucky. Like, my husband is just like, down for an adventure. He's just like, yup, hard work, he's like, I'm in. He's like, hard things, he's like, I'm in. And he is the most patient man ever. Because I'm like, but at the end of the day, it's just like, we enjoy our son so much. We love our time with him so much. It's just like, it's just so much fun. So like, the little things when I get kind of stressed about it, like, what is he gonna eat next? And he's like, figure it out, I got it. - But yeah, and I think it's probably so much as easy as you're like I said earlier of like, you guys can rely on each other. And I think that's also like, it just really seems to be the case with like, children of like, having people you can rely on. - It's really important. I'm just grateful I'm not doing it alone. Like, it's really important. I feel very lucky and I feel super fortunate. And like, I also didn't go into having, being a parent of like, it is a, it is a 100% guarantee. I think I went in being like, I hope that I can. I hope that my body can. I hope that I'm fortunate enough. Like, I just feel like we kind of need to consider that. It's not, it's not a guarantee for everybody. It is a fucking privilege. It's a privilege to be able to have a child and afford a child and have a partner who can help you. And I think, I think I just like, I got really like on that before I had kids. I was like, I hope that I can. And it really bothered me when people would be like, when are you? And I know that bothers a lot of people. Yeah, I really do. I think it is really great that so many people are age are being like, oh, do I not, do I want a kid? Like, it's just like, hey, if you have the privilege of having that moment of being like, do I really want that? It's like, unless you really want it. Like, you don't have to. I'm in full support of people who are like, I don't want a kid. I'm like, it's a fucking rocks, yeah. You do not need to have a kid. It is a privilege and an honor. And I think back in the day, like, our parents, it was part of the list of things they had or needed to do. I think a lot of them wanted to do it. But it's very cool to be a mom and then see my mom be a grandma. Yeah. It's very, generationally, if you want it and you decide to do it, you enter another level of life, of human. It is so overwhelmingly emotional to watch your mom with your, with your baby. It is like, oh, and it's also so funny. Yeah. 'Cause you watch her do like the weird, my mom has had this like song that she does to every grandchild. She'll be like, check, check, to Boston, check, check, to Lynn, check, watch out. And she says the name and then she says, don't fall in and she like flips them up like that. Is that only her song? I think it's like a song. Okay. I don't know. It's like a Boston thing. Well, let's look it up. But like all these little songs that you like kind of, you like, your childhood comes back. Like she did that when you were a baby. Yeah. She was like, good, good, good, good. Just like, it's really amazing to see. And you're also just like, you feel like you're like outside of like a snow globe, like looking in. It's so weird. Wow. It's really cool. Yeah, it sounds like such an insane experience, man. But, and your mom's a grandma? Yes, yeah, I have nieces and nephews. And I mean, is your mom like different as a grandma, or is she the same? Oh, my, I, I, she's definitely got a different vibe to her with the, with the grandkids. I mean, they're all, the grandkids are all like, they're all getting to like middle school now. It's crazy to think it happens so fast. It all happens so fast. But I mean, she's like stoked. She like loves just like spending any time with them. But it's kind of funny to see your grand, maybe it's just my mom. She like tries to lay down the law sometimes with them. And I'm like, good luck, buddy. Yeah. Like, she's gonna get you. But I'll tell you what, it's also fascinating, like, with my nieces and nephews, like, how different they are. And they grew up in like the same situation. Like, they all like, grew up together. But I'm just like, wow, like, same parenting style, same everything. Like, just, you are a whole person, like, and I do believe in both nature and nurture. I think both of them play huge parts. But she's like, fascinating that I'm just like, what, who would have predicted? Like, all right, but it's, I love it. Like, I love seeing, like, unique personalities come out of people and stuff. And I'm really excited for when they're all adults. You know, like, I think that is so fun and exciting. That's gonna be really fun and cool. Oh, yeah, just like, oh, cool. You get to hang out with these people. Are you gonna be like the uncle that's like, you can call me at any time. I mean, I think I'm that. Like, I think I can beat that. Yeah, like, absolutely. I had an aunt that was like, if you don't want to tell your mom where you are, you want to call me. And I never did. Because I was like, you don't even live in this state. Yeah, like, I don't know what I could really offer them. But, and luckily, my brothers and my sister-in-law's are so cool that I-- They are, I met them. Yeah, you have met them. I met them in Denver, it was very cool. But, they're very chill, but I really just like, I'm very grateful, like, I'm very lucky that my family's dynamic is all very chill. And I think it's gonna be that way forever. I don't foresee drama really occurring. But, very lucky. So, we got confirmation that that is a real song, "Trot to Boston." I think it is. Yeah, that makes sense. She's been singing it. By the black eyed peas. [LAUGHTER] Herne for me, herne for me are really tight. You know, it is really fun with like. kids is eventually being able to like play video games with them or just like shared interests or whatever. It's so fun. Oh my god. Age and I are like, it's so cool. We're not even debating about it, but age is like he's going to play video games. He's going, no, no, no, there is simply nothing you can do to stop that in this day and age. Which is so hard. Like why? He's going, that is literally the world now. It will be impossible. Do you know what? Fine. You know what, I really want, I want to read like really epic, I want to, I want to start a series with my son. Yeah. And he can start to read and read like really epic series with him every night we do like a few pages. Oh, absolutely. No, that's the best thing to do. That's my dream. Like how old can he be until we start like reading Lord of the Rings or something? Uh, Lord of the Rings might take a bit because it might be, Lord of the Rings might just bore him when he's a kid. But there's tons, dude, like he'll hit a certain age where like, yes, I don't think he has to be that like, there's plenty of really cool like children's books, but when he gets to like, I don't know, like somewhere between seven and nine years old, you could probably be reading like Percy Jackson and cool stuff like that. I'm just so excited to like, introduce him to that nerd culture, but I meant to like sci-fi dragons, which is totally, I'd be shocked if he's not into that stuff. Yeah. Unless he's like rebellious and because you guys are nerds, he's like, no, no, I think he's into it because I always do a lot of weird voices and he likes it. My new voice is like, um, what is it? That's a space. I made the bowl. Oh, and he loves that. He loves it. Yeah. So you, cause you do like a bunch of different characters, I do a bunch of different characters. The interrogation has stopped. He's not into it anymore. You're not into it. Yeah. I'm like, where were you Friday night? He doesn't like it anymore. Have we talked about that on Smash Bros? I don't think so. Yeah. He's been communicating for a long time. I don't know what it is, but he likes to be a little spooked. Yeah. He likes to be scared. He's like, where were you Friday night? And he's like, oh. Yeah. He loves to be sweet. But I wasn't anywhere. So I used to do interrogation and then I would do like, are you a traitor? Or are you a faithful? And he loves. See? I'm laughing at that. Everybody finds that funny. He loves it. That's so funny. But he likes to be accused. Yes. And now I go, are you a spicy meat the bowl? Wow. And he loves that. Oh my god. I don't know what it is. It's like, my husband and I call it the new laugh unlocked. We're like new laugh unlocked because he really, he, he's, he moves on pretty quick. So it's like interrogation only lasted like a week. You got to keep coming up with new material? Yes. All the time. That's brutal. All the time. But what will always get him is, I'm going to get you. Oh. He flips out. Does he like Broadway? He's like. And then he goes, he starts crawling and then I'm going to get you to, and he goes crazy. Sometimes he went so hard. He like kind of hit his head on the floor and I was like, don't react. Don't react. And then he gets to me goes, and I'm like, and then he goes, okay, well, I guess it's fine. But I love it. I go, I'm going to get you. And then when age does it, he does it like a little too scary. I'm like, get him. He literally goes, I'm going to get you and calls like, he's like, no, no, no, he crawls up me. Oh. And I'm like, baby, you're scaring him and he's like, but I'm going to get him. I'm going to, I want to get him. But he does it too high up, see? Levels matter. You're, you're six, five husband literally arms out straight, I'm going to get you. Your husband, your age does what you should do to scare off a mountain lion. No, he actually does, he'll go, like that calls like, sometimes he's down, but I'm like, you have to get on his level or as you scare him too much because you're doing like a sinister I'm doing it. Like here. I'm like. So I do this. He likes more of like a goblin. I go, I'm going to get, he's doing like, like, I'm going to get you. He's doing vampire. He's doing those for ought to. Yeah. Oh, but you said cold loves scary stuff, cold love scary stuff and cold loves like, like going after age at any time, he'll like climb up his head and like pull his hair. Oh, God. He gets really into it. Wow. It's like, if you're this high and cold sound here, oh, yeah, Jesus, yeah, it's like, what the hell is level, man? Do you think how young do you think he'll be when you'll show him like a scary movie? I think about it all the time. Trust me. I'm like, because this is weird, but Disney movies for kids nowadays are scary as hell. Yeah. We just have the old one's like, do fantasy, fantasy, the devil, the devil night on Bald Mountain. That shit rocks. It was so scary. I love that as a kid. And I was like, this is part of our life. It is literally hell. He's like taking souls from a villain. He is. I mean, hunchback of Notre Dame. Oh, yeah. That one's messed up. That one is messed up. That is probably the most messed up one, but like, Bambi, but that was a one and done when I was a kid. I was like, never again. Fuck this shit. It was awful. So sad. They're all scared. They're all scared. Like, the sea witch. Oh, Ursula. Yes. But Ariel. I meant Ariel. I don't know the sea witch felt like it was offensive. I was like, whoa. That's her. Like, she has a name. She has a name. She has a personality. She's a person that's sort of, but yeah. Scary shit. And we will definitely show him scary shit. Yeah. And he already shows me like his favorite movie from Belarus. And I'm like, that was the scariest thing I've ever seen. So it's like, I definitely want to show him some Disney movies. Okay. Scary movies are, they're, they're good. Yeah. Long. No. You need to be a little scared. You can't just have like a, blah, blah, blah, blah. Yeah. What was your first scary movie? Do you remember? Other than Fantasia, like, that's just childhood. I'm trying to think of like really what was like some of the first scary stuff I watched. I was very scared. I would get very scared. I'd be like, oh, like, am I going to get scared? It's cute. Like, whatever. Depending on the thing. Me too. But I would watch scary movies. I can't recall like, what was the first one? All I know is I watched that Goosebumps episode where my phone was ringing. He's like, Goosebumps? And someone's like, oh, you scared me. It's me, a vampire. I remember watching that Goosebumps episode the night of the living dummy. And that's what made me scared of dolls for so long was just that episode of Goosebumps, which isn't scary. I'm sorry, but dolls are terrifying. Yeah. But then I would see like a trailer or like a commercial for Chucky. Like, I'd be like tonight at seven. It's like, it's child's play and it'd be like, Chucky, I was like, he looks freaky. Chucky? I don't like how he looks. Chucky is terrifying. Are you afraid of the dark? Did a lot of dolls stuff on Nickelodeon? But I think my first like classic horror was Psycho. Oh. My dad showed us Psycho. I was a Psycho when I was young. Yeah. And I remember just being like, this is weird. It's, yeah. It's scary though. That and the original it. I remember watching. Oh, I never watched that one. So scary. Yeah. Like, got our children. Really? Like what? Good. So scary. Yeah. So yeah, I probably won't show him those, but like, I definitely want to show him some Disney. There's also some good. I'm trying to think of like good PG, like scary movies that aren't like, that don't have like all like too much other stuff. A Princess bride is, I'm pretty sure PG. Oh, Princess bride is a perfect movie. It's so scary. Boo. But there's also. There's also the thing of like showing a kid a movie when they're old enough to appreciate it. But you don't want them to be too old. Like right. Right. That's like, how do you thread that needle where you show them that movie at just the right, you know what I actually think is the, the age, the media age, and we're about to have a guest on here in a second. Yeah, we are. Who I think actually is going to be able to speak to this better than either of us. Yeah, probably. But I think the age that your favorite things happen as far as video games, movies, books, all that stuff is eight years old. It's like eight years old. It's like, what was your favorite, what's your favorite childhood TV show? It's like, whatever you watched when you were eight years old. Okay. And it's like kind of the same. You know what you see it with? It's is Pokemon. You're not going to know what I'm talking about here, but people would go, what's your favorite Pokemon? I know what Pokemon is. But no, but I mean like what's your favorite Pokemon generation? And people go, oh, it's this one. It's like, it's always the one that when you were eight years old. What was I? Eight to 12 is when movies, TV shows, and video games slap harder than they've ever slept. Yeah. I kind of agree with you. I think I watched Psycho when I was eight. And then like eight, like I went down the road of like detective, crazy crime. Well, we should bring on our guests so that we should bring on our guests there because that's smart. All right. Come on out. Yeah. Here's our baby. We have only you and one other person here. We only have two parents on small. Yeah, not many. And it's me and Alex Aguilar. That's right. Alex, come on out here. Come on out here, Alex. Alex, thank you for joining us. Happy to be here. Fans have probably not gotten to see you since some of the TNTLs where you came out and you slapped people and all sorts of stuff. Yeah. You slapped Garrett. RIP. He's a lot. Oh, by the way, I should let you guys know Alex has some of the darkest humor here at Smosh. It's very, very funny. He's very funny. But dad, he's also a dad and you are also a massive movie fan. And it's like you and Luke, who I feel like have seen just every movie. - We've gone to the movies together. - Whoa. - What is that like? Does a movie shut down? - They're like, "Everybody else, get out of here!" - We got two pros. - I think the last movie we watched together was "Muppet Treasure Island" in theaters. - The movie is so good. - I've never seen it. - Okay, so when you were eight, do you think that eight to 12 is like peak media time? - So you're talking to somebody who's parents literally put them in front of a TV at two months old. So I actually, there's a parenting technique for you. - Awesome. - Yeah, no, my family, I guess at two months old, they're like, "All right, there you go." And then they just like TV was like my family for a while because of that. And I'm not raising my son like that at all. - No, no, no, you're not. - Yeah, so I disagree. I think for me, it was around five or six. - Because of how early everything started for me. - Yeah, you were a pro earlier. - Well clearly. - Yeah, so like a lot of my favorite shows, like "Cartoon's Growing Up" are like, "Rockos Modern Life" or "Horn On Life." - "Rockos Modern Life." - "Rockos Modern Life." - "Rocko B-52s." - Yeah. - But yeah, just from an early age, I was just dropped in front of a TV and then like kind of left to my own device to watch kid stuff. And then when my dad was around and he would watch movies, I grew up in like a lot of, I hate to say like this, but Mel Gibson put like, - Hey. - That was the era. - What was the movie, "The Brave Heart?" - Not that one, it's the cop one. Oh my God. - Oh, I don't know. - Oh, oh, oh, oh. - "Leave the Weapon." - "Leave the Weapon." - Yeah, I grew up watching a lot of "Leave the Weapon" and "Die Hard." - "Die Hard." - Yeah, of course. - So I grew up with that because of my dad. And then my mom left my dad. - Okay. - So you stopped Mel Gibson after that happened? (laughing) - That's why you're like, I'm done with Mel Gibson. - He left Mel Gibson as well. He didn't watch what women want with Helen Hunt. God, what happened? - I watched that movie. - What a classic. - I remember my mom was watching that. - Of course. - No, my, such a classic thing would be my mom would be watching a movie like that or what lies beneath some movie on those lines. And I'd come out and she'd be like, "Oh, this movie's amazing." So Mel Gibson can hear women's, (laughing) and I'd be like, "Yeah, I can't pick that up "from this one scene I'm watching." - And he's hearing Helen Hunt's thoughts and then he tries to get with her. He actually paints his nails at one point to try to get into the woman's mind. I'm like, - Oh my God. - And I loved it. - So Alex, you have a son as well. - You have a son? - Yeah. - I would say he's about four months older than my son. - Yes. And I feel like talking to both of you. You guys, it seems like it's been chill. - Yeah, how would you rate your overall experience as being a parent? (laughing) - In one word or a spell? - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - Thanks for joining us on this podcast. - What's going on? - It's good. There's a lot of highs and a lot of surprising highs. And some like, "Oh, this is gonna be fun when it's over." - Situations. - Yes, definitely. - I actually just came from a trip abroad with-- - I saw that. - Kid, I, we went to Spain. - Whoa. - Okay, talk to me about that. - It's, he, what the best thing about it was, other kids were there and they were much worse than he was. So, comparatively, he was an angel. - Okay. - He looks to stare whenever other kids are doing other shit. - Same with my son. - Like, he just kind of, it's like his face like, "I can do that." Or like, "Am I not allowed to do that?" And I just kind of like, hold them. I'm like, "Hey, not gonna do that." - What was it like traveling to Spain with him? - Honestly, pretty easy. - Okay. - It's, I was afraid that his sleep schedule was gonna get all messy and he didn't. He, he slept a good chunk of them on the plane just like sprawled on both me and my partner. But then, once we got there, it was like, pretty easy. On the, now that we're back, his sleep schedule was a little messed up. Like, when we first got here, he, he like went to bed and then at 2 a.m., he woke up thinking it was the morning. - Of course. - And then it got pushed in as of today. So a few days, yeah, of coming back, he finally went back to his sleep schedule. - Because you and me are pretty on it about sleep schedules. And that's, that's not every parent that I, I didn't realize that. Like, I talk about my sleep schedule. It is just a part of our daily lives. And I didn't realize that not every parent does that. - I heard the, where like some parents did have a sleep schedule, but it backfired horribly on them. Like one of my neighbors, I think that's what happened. They like had, they were very strict on their sleep schedule, but then it backfired where like that kid woke up earlier because of that sleep schedule. And then their morning started at 4 a.m. So. - Let me tell you, sleep schedule is literally one of the biggest parts of parenting. It is, truly, I think it's one of the biggest parts. It determines your entire day. Whew, it's like an ex-house function. - Navigating for some. - Another human being sleep schedule. Just, I'm like, I can barely. - Well, they are sleep schedule. - Depending on what they do, that depends on your life. Your whole life, not even sleeping, but how your day is going to go. - Yeah. - It's wild. - How was it for you when you came back to work here like after being gone? - So I came back and then I left again. - Right. - So that was my whole thing 'cause I had the parental leave from Smosh and then I came back and then the state parental leave. - Yeah. - I was able to dip out again and then come back. It was strange because I came back and I like, so I left sort of like, as a surprise to everyone 'cause my son came like a week early, then expected, like a week or two. And then I kind of like, I was literally setting up meetings for the next day. Like, oh, I'm gonna do this with this freelancer and I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna have this meeting and then seven o'clock comes and then my partner's water breaks and or not, well, her water never broke actually. But like, she was like, I think I'm ready and I'm like, oh, okay, cool. - I have meetings. - I hate meetings. - We can't. - I have a lot of meetings. - Actually, very funny. We had tickets to go see Princess Moton, okay, that night. And now, and I'm like, are you sure? 'Cause I don't know. - Princess Moton. - We have an hour before the movie. Just, I gotta make sure we gotta cancel these a-list tickets. And we did. We canceled the tickets and then that night I texted my team and I was like, hey guys, I'm not coming in tomorrow. I think I'm done and then I came back and it was pretty okay. It was leading again. 'Cause then around that time was the Smosh Summer Games. I left during the perfect times, I think, when it got hectic for the art department. I was like, ooh, I gotta go, just pissed out. But I think I like my team and that my team was very supportive. - Oh yeah. - Here, so it was really easy to come back. And it's still like really easy, not just my team, but like, Smosh. - I felt the same exact way. Because you kinda hear horror stories like back in the day of like, oh, especially for the females. Like, don't tell them until it's really like, late in the pregnancy or blah, blah, blah. Like, they're gonna cut your pair, whatever. And I genuinely felt so supported. Like, it was like anything you need, anything you need. In fact, they're like, you could be more of a diva. And I was just like, I, yeah, okay. But I miss my, I miss my work and then I miss my, so I found it to be tough. I think if I left again, it would be really hard. - I think so too. It's one of those situations where I'm like, I enjoyed my work from home time before he was born. And then when I got back, I was like, I don't know if I can do this. I don't know, I'm rambling. But yeah, it's a, I totally understand you, yeah. It's kind of a wild experience for, you know, the dad and the mom too. But what I really want to ask is, when are you gonna show your son something scary? (laughing) - When you have the answer and I just don't know. - I think my, I was like, when you guys were talking about it, I was like, I think it was for when I watched child's play. I watched Chuck E when I was four. - That is my mom. - Because my mom doesn't do the mixes. - Yeah. - I also have like a vague memory of also watching Evil Bed at Four. Which is great. That's also fun, yeah. - That's crazy. - Were your parents watching it with you? - No. - Yeah. - My mom had a kick of showing me like horror movies, like, she made me watch the exorcist at four or five, and it was just like, she was like, I had to look at how funny this is. And I'm like, that movie's the devil. - That's real. - But also growing up as a Catholic. I was like, yeah. - You're watching this. (laughing) - That is the funniest thing 'cause my mom, my family's Catholic, or we were Catholic growing up, but my mom, when we were watching the exorcist, I remember as a kid, she'd be like, and it's crazy, like, this could be real. (laughing) I was like, yeah, for sure. (laughing) - Yeah. - Like. - No, I get it. I also grew up Catholic, and the exorcist was like, my mom was very against my dad showing it to us, but my dad. - He show it to him. I think it possessed. - My dad didn't go to church. - He was like, man. - Your dad was all into technology. - Yeah, he didn't care. - He was like, I don't believe in God. - He was like, science is what's happened. Science is scary. - Aliens are winter happening. - Yeah. - He showed you alien. He was like, this is real. - He did. - There's an old clip, you've probably seen it. There's this old clip from the premiere of Alien when it was in theaters. And they're interviewing people as they leave. And they interview this guy and he's there with his like 10 year old son. They're like, oh, did you guys enjoy the movie? He's like, yeah, and you think it's appropriate for your 10 year old son. He's like, he's like, I do. Well, he needs to know that this could happen out there. (laughing) - About alien. But hey, you know, I don't know. - I love that. - It's so funny. - I've never seen that. - It's such a classic. - I need to see that. - It's this old school clip. It's from the '70s. This guy's got this big old mustache. - He needs to know what it's called. - Well, he needs to know that this could happen. (laughing) It's like, what the fuck? Both of you, is there a movie that you are so excited to show, like to watch with your kid? - I have a, so there's a book that came out like a few years ago that I was able to get for this. Like it's like from A24, it's this entire book of like growing up watching movies with your kids. - Whoa. - And it starts like from age two. These are the movies you should try to watch with your kid. - I want this book. - And literally the first page that opens up for year two for like when he's two years old is fantastic Mr. Fox. And I was like, oh, I didn't think that was a great movie. - It's like watching like movies and also like shorts. I think there's an entire like section for The Walls and Grommet Shorts. - Whoa. - So I was like, oh, these are, this wouldn't be a bad idea. So like-- - That's amazing. - I was thinking about that. - As fantastic as Mr. Fox's. - Or Totaro. - Or Totaro. - Yeah, or Totaro. I think my partner and I are very much into jibbly movies. - Oh yeah. - Well, you are in the pony show. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - And yeah, it's like Ponyo or Totaro would be like-- - Those are incredible. - Yeah. - Yeah. - I have no idea. - Have you never seen Ponyo or Totaro? - No, I haven't. - You should watch them with when Cole's the right age. - I would like to. I think H.S., I would like to watch that. I would like to watch like really beautiful, fantastical movies. Like, oh, fantastic Mr. Fox. Sounds amazing, but there's, there's a movie. - Watership down. - I mean, I grew up with like older, older movies. It's like, I watched The Seeker Garden and that movie's really sad and dark. - I think Courtney showed me that movie and I was like, oh my god. - It's really damn. - Yeah. - Okay. - It's really dark. - Yeah. - But like Fern Gully. Fern Gully's essentially Avatar, but animated. - Oh, I don't know why I just remember to scary movie I watched when I was a kid. Small soldiers. - Wait. - That's his grandma's a toy. - Wait, I understand. That's crazy. But Gremlins is also another movie that I watched too young, but I didn't watch Gremlins until recently. I was like, damn, this is not for kids. - Small soldiers, I remember it's so funny. - It's so funny, but it's kind of a relic of the past. Like, it does not, nobody talks about it anymore. - No. - But it's ridiculous. - Super young, Kirsten Dunst. - The last person I talked to about that movie was actually Luke Baker. - Yeah, that makes sense. - That makes sense. Yeah, I don't know. I really do also want to show him Fantasia. - Oh, Fantasia's amazing. You know what I mean? - Show Fantasia. - Yeah. - That's a movie that I was considering showing him as his first Disney movie. - Yeah. - From being honest. - Because it's just visuals. It's just, and it's symphonies. - And it's Orchord, and the music is so beautiful. - Yeah, like that's amazing. - It's so beautiful. - Yeah, and I consider it. - We have a bunch of questions, right? - I have the questions right here. - Because we, and H actually answered some of these. Okay, this, I think this is a really good question. And I'll read H's answer and then I want to hear yours. What's a super tiny life hack that makes a huge difference with the newborn? His answer's not really tiny, but we actually bought a second freezer. - Okay, that's. - It's not a tiny life hack, but this is what he put in here. - You have a second freezer. - We bought a second freezer. My mom asked, like, my parents asked what they could do to help. And H was like, we need a second freezer. And I was like, no, we don't. It was the greatest gift. - Really? - It was the best thing ever because we meal prepped for weeks out. We did so many, like, breakfast burritos, kishes, like breakfast sandwiches and we put it in the freezer so that when I was on maternity leave, for all the many hours, that's what we were eating. That was like the greatest thing. And for me, my greatest life hack, and I think a lot of people know this, is every corner in every room that you have, or, you know, in, in, like, little corners, just put, like, a little area that has some toys in it. - Oh. - When they start calling. - So that in every room, you just have a little bit of something. - Just a little bit, and I remember my friend told me this and I was like, no, I'm not doing that. The toys are going to stay in one place. And then I started, like, we have a bookshelf, right? And I emptied out the bottom part and I just put some blankets, some books, and, like, a little thing that has, like, fun little toys or whatever, and then a map. And, and I just did that, like, little corners. And it's so great, 'cause it's like, they can go to those little spots in the house. - That's amazing. - So that's, that's my tiny life hack, but my husband wrote a very big life hack. - Yeah, a free, a second freezer. - But he's a, he's a, he's a food person. - No, I mean, you've talked about how he meal first. - He's a food person, man. - And that's amazing. - Alex. - Is there anything that you like? - I think for our life hack, it just, it depends on, like, the opportunities, but knowing other parents with babies who are, like, maybe a year older. - Oh. - Getting all that, like, getting diapers. I think that was our, our big thing. We're like, we, we, my partner has a friend whose baby, like, just went through the diaper, like, ages pretty fast. Like, by the time we were ready for, for our child, that baby was already at size three or four. So we, like, her, her friend was just like, we have all these boxes of huggies, so here you go. So we still have huggies in our closet. Like, the size four, ready to go. And it's like, all right. And that's our, that's our hack. - And you gave me diapers. - I did give you diapers. I forgot about that. - Yeah. - You gave me diapers is such a hack. Honestly, any, any parent or family that you know, just be in contact with them because they inevitably have, all of our stuff is second hand. They inevitably have stuff for you. And diapers is, I mean, you need them. You need a thousand of them. - Yeah. - We go to Costco for, we've run out of the diapers that we have for that size, so we're like, we go to Costco and it's like 40 bucks for a box. So we're like, all right, well. - It's amazing. - How many diapers does a baby go through in, like, a week? - Depends on the age. - Yeah. - When they are newborns, 10? - 10 diapers a week. - So 10 diapers a day. - Yeah. - 10 diapers a day. - Yeah, we're so 70 a week. - Yeah, 'cause we did the math also while we were in Spain. We're like, how many diapers is he going through right now? A day and it's like seven. And that's including the night diaper. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Whoa. - That's, yeah, that's like now. - Oh my God. - Yeah. - That's crazy. I knew it was a lot. I was like, I know it's gonna be a ton. It's just like crazy, and how many are in like a big package that you buy? 50 something? - 50 something. - Yeah. - Oh, so it's not even covering a week. - Yeah, so we buy like, whenever Costco has those deals, like buy two or, like, this one has like $10 off. Like we, we look at the limit of like, you can only buy three per person. I'm like, all right, gonna go in this one time, get them, go out and then come right back into buy another. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Oh my God. - That's a Costco trip. - Yeah, that's also a life hack. Literally, it's just like, get whatever you can from people that you know. - Yeah. - Okay, what's something that you experienced that you weren't prepared for at all? - So, that he would talk immediately. And he just, he spoke to me in the different language. - Hello, Alex. When he was little, I think the sheer fear of like, I'm gonna fuck this up, like whenever he would like, like nestle up to me, like, to like under my chin, I'd be like, oh, that's cute. And then the fear in the back of my head, I'm like, oh, I'm gonna press the soft spot. I'm gonna, I'm gonna press the soft spot. And it's just like, finding out about these little things that are like, that are a little dangerous 'cause he's like fragile. And I'm like, I can't be trusted with this guy. - I relate to that so much. I call them intrusive thoughts. The intrusive thoughts. I had some really weird ones. I had weird ones about dogs. I had nightmares about random dogs that I don't even know that would like, eat him. I just had that thought. - Okay. - I like, had these thoughts of like, I love you so much. And then my brain would automatically think of like, the worst thing that could happen to him. - It was the same thing with my cats where I was like, I love my cats to death. But then I like, I would look at my cats be very wary of him and I'm like, oh no, this is, this, the intrusive thought was like, they're gonna, they're gonna try to slice them up with like the paws. But now like a year later, I'm like, oh no, Luke is gonna pull the fur. - The intrusive thoughts start to like, but I was, I agree, I was not prepared for how intense they were. H wrote, I was not prepared at all for how good the sleep quality was considering everyone else's experience. My husband's up, having a blast. Let me tell you, he's having a great time. - Your husband's basically making it sound like he's sleeping better since having a kid. - He's sleeping great. I think because he's going to bed just like, ugh. - Oh, like he's so exhausted. - Yes. - Wow, okay. - And if he thought like we hear from everyone, like you're never gonna sleep. And in the beginning, it is kind of like that. You don't act, you, it's crazy what you can get done with no sleep. But then you do act like- If he did the sleep schedule, you do actually start to sleep. - So for us, we had an alarm, 'cause we had to feed 'em. - Yes. - In the beginning with the feed 'em, like every two or three hours. - Yes, same. - So we had an alarm ready, and we, the ones waking up before he did. - Yep. - Same. - Like it was just, it was our schedule, that was like, it was because of us. - It was our, and did your parents disagree with it? Did they say anything about it? - They didn't disagree with it. They're like, I think their biggest disagree with everyone was like, why is he sleeping in the same bedroom as you guys? And, and maybe that's why you guys are sleeping. - That's a whole thing. - Well, that's a whole thing. - Yeah, like that's, people do, people do what works for them. It's a whole thing. - Yeah, man. - But we slept well. We still sleep well. Like it's, that's one of those things where like, everyone tells you like, you're never gonna sleep. I literally had to talk with a freelancer today and like, how's your sleep schedule? Did you sleep at all? I'm like, yeah. I'm still sleeping fine. - Yeah. - Yeah. - So am I, I think that's why he- - I wonder the two, some people, I know we've had this convo on a show before of like, some people when they wake up in the middle of the night, they cannot go back to sleep. So if you're someone who can wake up and go back to sleep easily, maybe it's easier, but you're someone who, when you wake up, you're up. - Yeah. That was the hardest. - I'm not far from it too. - 'Cause we had the same thing was we had an alarm. 'Cause your pediatrician is like, you have to wake up to make sure they're gaining enough weight, whatever. And my mom really struggled with that when she helped. She was like, why would you ever wake up a sleeping baby? - Yeah. - So it was kind of like, old way, new way, but I found it really hard, the lack of sleep, I really struggled with it. These answers are wild. In what ways do you see yourself in your son already? - That was one of Salinas' questions. - This question is so great. - I was throwing up like it was. - Well, my husband wrote is very funny. - I didn't, I haven't thought of that actually. I guess little actions that he does, that he's just kind of like plays with fire, I guess. Not like actual fire, but just like, there's things. There's like things he does. I'm like, that I feel like I would do like just getting close to the edge. Like he will look at me and then try to grab my hair and then I'm like, don't do it. And then he'll like, look at me for a split second and be like, yeah, yeah, do it again. And then same thing with the cats. Like, I will like, hold his hand and like, all right, don't grab too hard. He'll like, he'll start laughing as he's petting him. And then he'll do this and I'm like, no, you can't be doing that and then he gets upset. So I let him go and he does it slowly. I'm like, that's good. And I'm like, okay, the thing is, I would do something like that too. I'm like, but what if, you know, you're just kind of like, I, what happens? - Yeah, you're just curious. - I won't cause an effect. - That's what I want. - Yeah, I think that is true. - That's a real thing. - Yeah, you want to see things happen. - A throat, when the base hits the body grooves. - So I can explain that, age loves like techno dance house music. - Yeah. - So he plays it a lot and it's the funniest thing is cold will be eating and then he plays it and he'll be like, - That's awesome. - Or he'll be like, holding onto something, eating something and he'll be like, and it is, it's so real. He'll literally move his body. - Isn't it fascinating? Like, I need to ask like, I need to look this up of like, what is in our brains that makes us do this? 'Cause it's like, you see babies dance? And I'm like, there's something that happens to us. - I know, it's the wireless thing. - I've been wanting to do that, but like, I can't see my child dance as much. I play, so we have a lot of vinyl records at my place. And then I just play music. I try to play as much music as I can. He just kind of like, accepts it as like, extra sound. And like, I just hold on next to the record player. And I'm like, okay, you have to hear everything. And he just gets so fascinating with like the, the record speed. - Oh, the visual of it. - Every baby is different. It's so funny. - Yeah, fascinating. - Yeah, I, Cole is gonna be in warehouses until 6am. - And probably, do we want to do one more question? - Yeah. - One more. - Let's do one more question. Oh, what are you so excited to teach your son? - Ooh, karate. - Taekwondo. - Fight me, you're ready. Pick up a sword. - How do I pick up a sword? - I'm a three. - Yeah, yeah, you would. - I've read the anarchist cookbook. - Sure. - No, I think what I'm trying to do right now, actually is teach him another language, which is, it's a lot. - Let me tell you the same. - Three languages, we're trying to do that. - That's, whoa. - My partner is French, and I'm, it's Spanish. - French, Spanish, English. - How is that going? Is there only doing Spanish? - I'm trying so hard, and I like, I like lose it. - It's hard, yeah. - It's hard, because we're doing Russian, but H is not really doing Russian with him, 'cause he's speaking English with him, but then my mother-in-law is. - Yeah, I'm like, I try, and I catch myself speaking in English, and I just repeat the same sentence in Spanish. And it's, I just forget, 'cause I'm so ingrained in speaking in English. And I think my big issue is that my, I would speak Spanish with my family. And since they're not around, I'm like, - Why am I speaking it? - Exactly. But I'm trying real hard to do that, so he, you can understand Spanish, and then same thing for my partner, she speaks French, and she's much better at it than, like, trying to teach him that. - That's hard. - So it's, yeah, that's like the big thing I'm trying to do. - Have you noticed him say anything that you're like? - Agua. - Water. - Oh. - Yeah. And like, he, like, when we offer him water, he's like, Agua, Agua. And then he, like, he will drink a little bit of water and he'll just throw it at you, but he will drink. - So the drainage is winning. - Yeah. But then he, but then my partner says, like, I think something along the line to go and sleep, but as, like, more childish, is like, uh, something like dodo. And then he, like, saying that as he's like, we're all right, we're getting ready for bed, uh, dodo. And then it's, it's like. - Okay, so it's happening. Because for us, like, we're like, oh, it's not happening, but then the other day, we were like, no way is he keep saying dadda, right? For dadda, but then sometimes he'll go, da. And we're like, you mean like, da? Like, like, yes? - He's like, da. - Da. - Da. - Da. - Vodka. - Vodka. - Come, sit next to me. - Sit next to me. - No, no. - He'll randomly say like, da. And I'm like, you're like, oh, you're speaking English, but you just have a Russian accent. - You know? - So I don't know what's happening. - Come, vodka, that's, like, come on, vodka. It's okay. And I'm like, oh god, are we those parents that are like, he said, da, but he's saying, da, da. I don't know. - Guys. - At some point, my partner and I were talking about like, oh, he's saying mama and dadda, and it's like, those are sound. It's like, he doesn't understand what those phrase mean. When he said no, we're like, oh, it's just a sound. But he would do no, and then just shake his head. And I'm like, he knows what it is. He knows what no is. - You can tell the difference. - Yeah. - I think with mama, he, I think he knows. - Yeah, he knows, he, for sure knows. - I need to sleep tonight, so he knows mama. He knows, it's fascinating stuff, man. - But yeah. - You guys are doing great. I hope so. - Thank you. - I think you guys are doing great. - It's really, really, really fun. It works for us, Alex and I. - Yeah, for YouTube. - But yeah, it's Parents Week. And we got these pins. - We didn't mention. - We didn't mention we have pins. - We're wearing pins, which, you know, in the future, you'll be able to figure out what to do. (laughing) - I think these will be available at Smosh.com. - Yeah, mine says, cool Parents, watch Smosh. - So, if you want some cool, get these as a gift for your parents. - They're really cool. - I don't understand, mine. - Yeah. - Mine just, oh, they're Smosh. - Oh, they're Smosh. - Okay, so we will be playing Smosh on Smosh Games channel this week. - That makes sense. - Some moms might be playing Smosh. - Yes, yes. - I'm not gonna say who's moms, but some moms might be playing each other with their children on their team. - I love that. - And then also, I know we threw this out last week, but send us your hometown drama. Go to the Smosh sub-reddit, send it there. I probably could send it in our community posts and everything as well. - We want to read your hometown drama. - Let us know your hometown drama. We're gonna do a whole episode where we cover it. - Okay, can I do that? - Yes. - There's so many dead people in my hometown from when I was in high school. - There's only been a couple people who've been like, here at the office who was like, oh, I'll send in hometown drama, our murder's okay. And I'm like, well, let's, let's see. - Well, we also have a murder that happened in my hometown too. - Okay, well, let's get some-- - You know that I think that's what drama, dramas are about in America, that yeah. - And let me tell you, parents love to watch messed up stuff. That's how we get through the night. - And that is very sad. - Like the exorcist. - Yeah, let us know what you want us to show our child. - Let us know what the first horror movie you watch was. How old were you? - Yes. - When you watched your first horror movie and what was it? And also, if you're a parent, what's the first horror movie you showed your kid or are going to show your kid? - Or not. - Or not. Anyways, Alex, thank you for joining us. - Happy to do so. - Thank you, Alex. - And thank you for watching. And we'll see you later. Bye. - Yeah.