Olen Shannon Maldonado, käsintehtyjä artesaanitua teitä myyvän jauji-lahjakaupan perustaja. Valit sinu shopifeinkoska alustoja testa testani totesin sen ehdottomasti yhdeksi helpokäyttöisimmistä alustoista. Minulla oli tärkeää pohtia kehittymistämme tulevaisuudessa. Kaikki myyntiin tarvittavat työkaluut, kuten varaston suunnittelu ovat kätävästi dashboardissa. Aloita ilmainen kokeilu shopifeipiste komsi vustolla. Verustin pyöräilyvää teitä valmistavan ornotin vuonna 2013. Mielestäni parasta shopifeissaan se, että voimme harjoittaa liiketoimintaa ilman teknistä osaamista. Voimme hallinnoida yrityksen taustajaristeelmiä ja frontendia sekä myydä verkossa. Vaivatta, jos shopifei olisi pyöräilyvaruste, sollisimielestäni itse polkupyörä. Sillä asiat hoidetaan ja meidän liiketoiminta me hoituu shopifeissa. Olen Shannon Maldonado. Käsintehtiä artesaanitua teita myyvän jaujiin lahjakaupan perustaja. 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And then when I was about 20, - Well, was it a man? - It was a man. - Okay. - It was a man. And it went as far as it did. So when I was about 20, I, you've probably heard of the penthouse forum. And I came across a letter in there. I've never seen one that was by or gate, never. Like not once. And it was about a guy who happened, I'm not gonna say what the profession was, but who, guy who was in my very unusual profession, who was a God sucker, and I immediately responded to it. And I was like, holy shit. I can't, no, this is, I know this is true about me, but I can never tell anybody. I can never let anybody know about this, but it was just my awareness. Like, oh, so this is a thing that I have in me. And then I, here's the reason I bring all that up, is because my shame and fear around that fact, and it's just a fact, call it bisexual, whatever you wanna call it, it led me to be really weird, sexually. I did like the serial monogamous thing. I did not open up completely to any of the girls I was with. I finally had a girlfriend, like I was in my late 20s, and I don't even know how he stumbled on it, but we both stumbled on the fact that we were both basically by. And so we played in fantasy and all that stuff. But when I finally got married, of course, I mean, by this time, it was like, sure, I would read, I like reading, that's why I'm super psyched to read your book. I like reading almost really more than visual porn, which is supposedly not what men are, but I'm a writer. So, I had this as an interest in my, and then I met my wife, and I was like, I don't know, mid 30s, or I don't know, I can't remember exactly. And she had a way more interesting sexual resume than I did. She was raised by a kind of a mentally ill, inappropriate mom, but my God. But when we got together, I mean, seriously, like here's the model. I was told sex sucks, men suck, don't be like that. She was told by her mom who was truly mentally ill. Your body is your coin in life, and I don't give a fuck what you do. And so my wife, she calls herself, oh yeah, I was a little slut, and that's just what she learned, and I learned. So we at Khan, we get married, and here that happened, and this is weird. I, out of shame, because of the messages I think I got, I'm like, oh God, my sexuality's too much, I want it too much. So I was the one who restricted four decades. In our marriage, I was just like, look, I'll fuck her once a week, and I love that. I want it every day, but I can't show that I'm that kind of person who loves sex. And so then I would jerk off and do all this stuff. And what she said years later, when I finally started coming clean about stuff, she was like, you know, it was weird to me, because before we really got married, you know, we had such a fun time, and it was so great. And then we got married, and I just figured you're a once a week guy. And that's what she said, but I'm not a once a week guy. I am not, but out of shame, I restricted myself. So basically, that makes sense with the messaging that your mother was giving you. You didn't want to be that guy that your mother told you not to be the guy that loves sex and wants to fuck all the time. - Yep. And so it's a real conflict. - Yeah, I'm just a reporter. - For a man where it's like, I love sex. I am bisexual at some level. I'm all these things. I gotta hide it. And I just know that nobody else wants to be a part of, part of my mother's message to me was girls and women, they don't like this shit. They only put up with it because they have to. So I literally had that message. You know what? I actually think that's part of what led me into being molested. I can explain to you if you want, but it was just like, I didn't think girls would ever like me. - I didn't. Right. - Because, and so, so here's this person, and he comes up, you know, and I listen. I ended up blowing whistle on him. Nobody fucking believed me. Nobody helped me. He's still in me. - Even your mother. - But nobody, nobody helped me. - I agree. - And the guy, you know, finally he gets nailed. And nobody even came and said, hey man, we're sorry. That just didn't happen. - How old are you? - So how old are you by the way? - I am 64 and literally. - Right, so you're just from that generation where our parents just like swept everything under the rug. It was just pure denial. No one at that time. Any parent that would have done something with that at that time was like way ahead of their times. Because most parents would have rolled like yours and all the other fucking adults around you. Let's just pretend everything's perfect. Sweep it under the rug and live in denial. That was just very common, unfortunately. And that's why it, you know, a bunch of fucked up people on that generation. - Right, yeah, totally. And then, you know, the messages from my father were, look, I'm a different kind of guy. I'm not hairy. I'm not big. I'm as thin as I've ever been now, like seriously, outpost pictures and stuff. And I've always been adventurous and athletic, but my dad had his own insecurities. And he, I was too much for him. And he, no, he sent the message that I was, you know, a sissy, which I wasn't, I absolutely wasn't. Or, you know, he used to ask me if I was gay all the time. I was like, Jesus Christ. So I came from that. But so, all right. So my wife and I are together. We're doing these things. I am engaging in fantasy and in fact. - That's what I was gonna say. I was wondering, like, because if you're sort of holding all this stuff at bay, what are you doing with that energy? You're like doing stuff on the secretly on the side, like jerking off furiously? - Yep, yeah, exactly. And it was, it was pouring a lot of us written, 'cause I like read written stuff. I did, I did do chats and things like that, which were, you know, they weren't that great. But basically, I was hiding. And I, you'll relate to this. Some bad stuff happened and it's really five or six years ago because of me, I have had affairs with women. And I just, I understand. First of all, I think now when I look back, it's like, I've never been naturally monogamous. Just not. And so I had affairs with women and one of them ended very badly. And my wife, you know, learned a bit and all this stuff. And I just kind of hit a point and I'm like, listen, here's, here's, I'm just gonna, I'm tired of just like, trying to push myself down, it makes me mad, it makes me depressed, it made me an alcoholic. - It made you cheat. - And all this stuff, it made me cheat, it made me all these things. And I'm not saying it made, I made my choices. But it was just like, I want to be myself. To not sort of do it. from Shobifa, it is worthwhile for you to learn how hard to do to your own skaes. For example reanie it in front away for some original coursework, while a spa德lessness becomes hard for your own behalf. 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And I just kind of hit a point and I'm like, listen, here's, here's, I'm just going to, I'm tired of just like trying to push myself down. It makes me mad. It makes me depressed. It made me an alcoholic. It made you cheat. And all this stuff. It made me cheat. It made me all these things. And I'm not saying it made. I made my choices. But it was just like I want to be by self to that's what I did. And so I came clean to her and really I just said, look, I'm not even asking for anything. I just want you to know that I'm going to turn over a new leaf. I'm going to stop drinking. I want to be honest, rigorously honest, I'm going to tell you. Bye!
bisexual, you can ask what that means. You know, please don't assume. And I'm not naturally monogamous. And honestly, you know, I understand, I'm good at communicating. I've done lots of work and stuff. But you know, it was hard for her. And we spent a couple of years where honestly, I didn't like my sexuality being under the microscope all the time, but it just was. And so you know what I did right? And this thing, I give it to you. - And what sense was it under a microscope? Because she didn't trust you and she had to build that back and you had to show her everything of what you were doing full transparency? - Well, I'm never gonna do that 'cause I believe in privacy. But yeah, she was just anxious and it would come up and then she would make assumptions and just a fears and stuff. - Well listen, when somebody fucking cheats on you, you turn into a psychotic crazy person. That's the, I mean, the fact that she stayed with you is a miracle because that's hard to get past. And when someone does that to you, it's just that happens to people. Like it's because, you know. So you can't blame her. And the worst thing is when people are like, oh, like, you know, you gotta like, like obviously you work through it. So you have to understand on a certain level. She couldn't help being completely distrustful for you because you were distrustful. You know, I mean, you weren't to be trusted. - So I'm gonna tell you something that I suspect you won't believe and I have to be really careful because people do know this and not everybody knows about our love. - Oh, I can't wait. - Tell me. - It's, it, okay, it's complicated, okay? So yes, I did commit infidelity and was found out. But I, how can I say this? I'm just gonna cross my fingers and hope. - Yeah. - I had been given a hall pass because we had a very extended absence where I. - So how, why was it cheating? Okay, wait, you cheated before. - Because there were two rules. - There were two rules. - Okay, I'm confused. One of the rules is no like emotions, no like relationship, no texting, none of that. I got it. And then number two, I don't ever want to know about it. - Yeah, okay. - So I did violate number one because it wasn't really sexual. We tried that and it just didn't work. And so, but what it was is more emotional. And I, it didn't last very long. It didn't last very long at all. But, you know, I did what I thought I was expected to do. I didn't tell her. And then because I'm an idiot, I just didn't hide it or cover my tracks. And so, so here's the thing. I don't excuse because I did violate that rule. And it's very important. But what I want you to know is like, I, this was not me just charging around and being a pad. And here's the thing that's really important to me. And we'll talk about it or we won't. I really, really don't agree with the way we look at cheating in this society. I'm not saying it's good. And you're always very careful to say that. But like what happened was very complex and different. And yet because society sort of supports this notion like, oh, the wrong spouse, whether man or woman, you sort of adopt these roles and therapists or into that. And I'm like, okay. But like, you know, remember those people who got caught at the Coldplay concert? - Yeah. - Okay. You know what? I was saying on social media, people got up. - These people suck. And I said, you know what? We don't have any idea what was going on. We literally have no idea. And I will not condemn them. They made their choices. But like everybody's so quick to just like assume, cheater, I don't even like the word cheater. - No, no, no, that's why I have cheating stories on my show because I think nine out of 10, I think there's different variations of cheaters. You have on one very far end of the spectrum, the flander who'll fuck his wife's best friends when she's in the other room. Like the worst kind of fucking garbage cheater. But most cheaters, I'm sorry, 'cause I've talked to so many of them, especially also when I used to do my DL calls. Okay, most cheaters aren't that guy. Okay. Same with the women too. A lot of people who are cheating are cheating because there are serious issues in their relationship. Needs aren't being met. Things are happening. Years are gone by. Communication is bad. And listen, not that cheating is the right thing to do. But that's what happens. And that's why I have those stories. 'Cause I think sometimes if you listen to people's stories, maybe you won't judge them by like, "Oh, that guy cheated, he's just a fucking scumbag." You know what I mean? It's a lot more complex than that. It's not just so black and white. - Yeah. I totally agree. And you know, I just said that the kind of the development I've done with myself and I guess you could call it, I don't really know. I have practices that I do every day. And they're important to me. And they just, you know, they help me just to not just overreact to stuff. And what I'm gonna say is I do think, and I get it, it's made a controversy, but I think we've made such a big deal out of cheating with a capital C. And it's such a loaded word. Come on, tell me, cheating is a bad, you know, it's like you could say infidelity, but so I just think we overdo it. And I think then there's a script and I think people get into it. And here's the thing, I may be wrong about this. But I think when people have that expectation, like oh God, if I get cheated on, I'm going to feel, 'cause they see it in the media and they hear it and they read it online, they're gonna feel that way. And what I'm saying is nobody has to feel good about it, but I think people can actually come together. The feelings are about, I don't think anybody should go up on the cross and confess and I don't agree with that. I think like you say, it's going on with the relationship. And it can be an opportunity, as you know, from people. I'm not saying it's a good thing, but it absolutely, I would say sometimes you might almost say had to happen. And yeah, looking back, of course, looking back five or 10 years, most of the time people that are cheating, even sometimes it would be very interesting. I'd get emails from guys being like, oh, the biggest scumbag I cheat, I just love women, I love variety. And then I get on the phone with them and when I question them, like really hardcore and get into it, it's not just that. They didn't feel like liked by their woman, they didn't feel wanted, like it was a lot more than they even thought. They were like sort of even projecting on themselves this whole sort of, oh, I'm just cheating and it's not that deep, but even with men, it is. It's most of the time it's about that. And people, and listen, you know, that shit is gonna come up in a relationship. And when it does, most people, they could get through it, they wind up on the better side. But let's get back to your story. So you, so the problem you do, you never cheated before you got the free pass is what you're saying? - No, no, no, no, not true. But what I did, what I did was I tried some sort of anonymous hookups with men. And here's the thing, they were just first, you know, like I'm, I'm, because I have this all, let me see, I'm traveling, let me get a guy to come give me a blowjob. And then at some point, like I knew, I knew from way back, like, you know, I kind of want to suck con. I think that'd be interesting. So I started trying that. I did that a little bit, not a lot. And you know what? It was never, I mean, okay, right, it's hot in the moment. And if you come, you know, whatever, it's exciting. But it wasn't, it wasn't good. It wasn't what I'm interested in. These are guys like me, they're ferned, they're afraid. You know, they run away or they're unattractive. And you know, fat. And it's just such a not what I was interested in. Now, I'm not really interested in men. I'm just not. But if I'm gonna be with a guy, I kind of want to chill dude who's intelligent, who doesn't make a big deal, who's not on a fucking power trip. And you know, I'm basically not really I had the opportunity to have that. But because here's the thing, over time, I just let my sexuality loose with my wife. And I started saying like, hey, you know, I wasn't always like this. I was super jealous when I was younger, like most men. But I just got to a point where it was hot for me to think about her fucking other guys, right? And we'd talk about it and the key in, as you've heard from many other guys, I've heard a lot of your shows. It's just like, you know, we started talking about her experiences. And she wasn't sure she was, she thought I would be jealous or mad or this or that. And just over time, through fantasy and all that stuff. I, I, you know, it wasn't sneaking. I just sort of worked a little bit of by ideas and the things. And then we would talk about it because you know, oh, maybe she isn't comfortable or blah, blah, blah. But you know, it was slow. I never, ever pushed her. I never asked specifically for anything. I didn't have expectations. I was patient. I never once, even though it was annoying to me. All those years, she said really shitty things to me. Homophobic things. I never lost my cool. And that's not actually who I was. Like I was a person who could have a temper. But on that, I never did. So that to me is just like advice to guys like, I get it. It's exciting. And you want it. But like I just think patience and keep your fucking cool. And don't push, don't push. Why did she eventually come around to it? She did. And she did. Because, because she learned that to fantasy and all those kinds of things with, okay, let's just say with that whatever we want to call Hot Wifeing or whatever. That that was exciting to her. And her only thing you've heard this before.
was like, was she was afraid like, oh, not what I be in the instance, like in the reality. So she didn't want to step over that line, but it just like I, she wanted to trip with her friends and I told her, I'm like, look, I'm at home. I'm, you know, I think get mad at you or whatever, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah. And there was a person she had known previously and they got together and here's the thing. It didn't bother me at all. I thought it was super exciting. They actually saw each other more than once. So I got to hear a little about it and then they went back and you know, I learned about me like, oh, this is a turn out for me. And it's not just like a surface thing. I'm cool with it. I've grown up a lot like I feel confident in our marriage and our commitment that I'm not really afraid. Now, of course, something could happen, but if that's the case, we'll find. So it just got there to that point and she tried it once and it really made a difference for her because she was like, wow, you know, you really, you really do enjoy this. And this is a person that I had known in the past too. And it used to like this person very much, but she's like, wow, you know, you don't, you don't even like Billy Bob making up the name, but here you are. And I'm like, yeah, I'm different. So from there, you know, we talked more, she, you know, she has some rules and I, I never expect them. Like I haven't, I haven't gone out behind her back at all, you know, with men or women, you know, for all that time. And one of her rules is she's just like, yeah, I'm not really ready to kind of do this in our town and at home. And I like to be out. I am not afraid. Anybody knows that I'm by, but she's a little worried, you know, reputation wise and she's come so far with that. 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With that, like she's really fucking awesome and like in bed and fantasy and the bigger thing I guess I should say is like D accepted it all enough and believed in us enough to like say hey, do you want to like, you know, try to go to an adult vacation place and I'm like sure. This was after the guy, after her being with the guy. Yep, okay, okay. Because and and you know, so that's and every single thing that happens whether it's a misunderstanding or whatever, it's just an opportunity to learn. That is how I do my life. And so we have been now a number of times and it's always got certain amount of ups and downs, but we've learned better like how to do it and to make sure we have a plan and communication and all these things and it's been really. All right, but get specific. Okay, because you're just paid to go over the whole picture. You went many times. We don't know any details. Walk me maybe through like your first experience there and then explain some of the ups and downs you went on what you guys even did there. Absolutely. So the first time was just really pretty fun. It was just a normal way. I will tell you this. Maybe you don't know this, but like most of these kinds of places, they are and I think this sucks and I'm guessing you do too knowing you they're not okay with like open mail to mail contact. Yeah. And so that's just not on the table. But like, you know, I wish I could remember all the stories, but we just had a really good time. But what was on the table? Are you gonna fuck women too? Or is she just fucking guys? Is it just hot wiping that's on the table? Yeah, basically, but basically that because she's just not sure. But here's what here's what happens. Once she's into it, she's super cool. If there are people she likes and men, women, whatever. So as long as it feels kind of like a situation where it's not going to be like out of control or I'm running off or whatever, it's been great. So let me just give you an example like on the beach, right? We're there and we're you know, it's it's it's nude, you know, you don't learn. He closed and cool guy walks up black guy that very smart, you know, super cool guy, big guy and he just says and we're talking on the beach. I'm out in a conversation with him and he just starts, you know, putting his fingers in her pussy and brother and so she's just over there getting this and he and I are having this conversation and she fucking love that, right? She loves to be the center of attention. And so that was just that thing and then later, I don't know the next day or something that same guy, I'm over on the other side of the pool talking to people and there were there were women hanging off me and somebody was making out with me and she was okay with it like I always chuck in with her. I would never do anything without asking and she's like she calls me from across the pool. So I go over there and she's like sort of in the water sitting on this guy's lap and she's like, why don't you put your hand down here and see what's going on? Well guess what? He, you know, he was fucking her. He had his dick and I thought I was just tickled. I thought it was really fucking fun and awesome. And she did too because it's playful. It's not dead serious. Nobody's thinking you're going to get married or blah blah blah. So that's one example. No, we're guys like, you know, they were desperate, like to fit there were single guys that go in there in the worst shape at those places. You know, they're desperate to get with us and I would do it but it's all hurt. She, she is in control. She gets to make the decisions. But you know, we ended up having hilarious fun, sexy as fuck times and like these playrooms. They're people that we had connected with outside, like sitting with them at dinner or whatever. And then we just wind up there and I mean it's almost comical. Just the shit that we got into like a six person kind of semi. Well, it was an orgy and you know, she's with it then. So of course she's getting fucked. She's she will not blow somebody besides me. So that's not the thing she likes when people do to her. So there's that, although she likes girls and she will do to girls. She likes eating pussy. She won't say she want to describe herself as by it. She does. So we're in this thing. I'll just give you an example, like, oh, what's going on? She was getting fucked and this and that. And there was this one woman who we'd we'd talk to and she's like, you know, on her second cock and I'm like, okay, I check it out, you know, visually with my wife is cool because it's like this white
room. So this woman starts doing it and then she says, "Oh, I want to do something else." And so she pushes me over and then just starts eating my ass, which is something that I fucking love. And this happened almost never in my life. My wife did it kind of once. She didn't hate it. It's just like sort of not her thing. So that happened. And then you know it was great. All the fun, all the play, all the shit. And then at a certain point, we're just coming together and we're gonna fuck. And it's in this environment. And we've got all this fun. And it's been low key and exciting and fun and funny. And we had the greatest sucks together. That whole week, like whether it was just us in our room or whether we're in the playroom. So it kind of went like that. And you know, I'm just laid back. I'm not worried. I seem to do what she is permission to do whatever she wants. And I'm more restricted. And I respect that. It's fine. Like, you know, we're moving gradually toward, you know, a little more permission for me. But that we also have gone to weeks that specifically allow bisexuality. What here, here's somebody told me a joke or a funny thing. You know, those places exist. So women can eat pussy. And when they have like a bisexual week, it's so men can suck cock. And it's kind of true. I think it's kind of true. So we go that week and it was it was interesting because there was more like sensitivity on her part. And we had to talk about it like, you know, I said, believe me sugar. I mean, I'm. It's her sensitivity about it. But about you being more into guys. And she's worried about it. That maybe you'd leave her for a man. And she she has it exactly backwards. Like I'm very hero. I only noticed women. I'm super flirty, which she knows. And she's okay. But when I'm out somewhere on the beach or whatever, I am only, like that's just my thing. So she kind of has it backwards. But I think like many women, she came to this thing. It's like, well, but that's something I can't really provide to. And I said, oh, yeah, you can. We can just use dill those or whatever. But so she had that insecurity. So she company lose to do some stuff. And it was interesting. I I liked it. Okay. But I found it that my real sweet spot. And we haven't really, really done this yet. But my sweet spot is like for her to be there. And MMS, you know, like two guys and her or couples where, you know, kind of anything goes, that's kind of the sweet spot. And we've been enough times now. That it's clear to me that that's my sweet spot. It's does it's not the only thing I'll do fucking almost anything. I'm super wide open. I have that openness to experience. You know, you do the personality test. I'm like super high on that. I'm I'm game. And she loves that because I'll go do anything and follow her down any road, any fantasy, very taboo stuff. And I fucking love it. So I kind of figured that out. But we're finding this balance where she feels very secure. And I tell her every time we go, I'm like, here's number one. We are number one. Our connection is number one. And the only times there have been any kind of like weirdness is when like by design, you know, we weren't together. We were sort of separate. I don't care about it. It makes her nervous. And so, you know, it's just been a learning process. Well, most couples don't like to play separately. Anyway, most couples have that as a rule. Or they only play in room together. A lot of people would feel anxious having their partner fucks somebody else in the other room. You know what I mean? That's normal. Yeah. Yep. And she wasn't sure whether she wanted to see me suck a dick, for example. I mean, we probably didn't know how she'd she. Yeah. No, but she's I suck dildos and veg. She's been cool with that. And we fantasize a little bit with that. And I go down her roads. And so, so, you know, I was off on my own on certain times. And, you know, I think she found that that just isn't something she wants to do. And I'm like, that's cool. She hasn't even tried it. Because listen, I've heard many times women think that they would have a very like negative reaction to it. And then they saw it and they were like fucking turned up by it. So how would she know unless she just like experienced it? I totally agree. And here's what I respect in her. She's not going to do it with just some random dude that we don't really know. It's going to be somebody that she knows or has met like, let's say she's met and connected with down at the place. And then it's going to happen. In fact, we know of a person that she had a great fucking time with on her own. I wasn't there. And we have talked about person about trying to meet us up there. And like he's not by, but he's down with the fact that I am. And so, okay, so she's open to it. She's going to try it. Diaz. Okay. She is. It just and she's not on like me. It just needs to be a person that we actually care about. Like that care care. But like a person that they got to be intelligent, they got to not be assholes on a power trip. Unless that's the game we're playing. And they just have to be like at least somewhat fit. Not totally gross. I require we both have we're kind of. Diaz Queens, if you will. And we have very specific tastes and dicks. I am very lucky. I'm a short person with a big dick. And so we're spoiled, you know, like this is kind of what we want. And we're learning. And here's the thing ever since I came clean and like I said, it wasn't easy at first. I don't have the temptation to go out and do, you know, shitty stuff behind her back. First of all, I didn't love it. But that that that that desire would come up, you know, the the hornyness or whatever. And I didn't do it for that long. But I don't have that desire anymore. And here's what I honestly believe for me. It's not the same for everybody. Me being honest and me simply accepting myself, which took a lot of fucking works means that I just don't I don't have the desire to do that. And are so she accepted you. I mean, you literally got to the point where you accepted your stuff. A little more or less. She's like fucking she's more. Okay, not less. Okay. What's that? She's about to watch you focus on. She's has you sucking on dildas. She's gone to adult resorts. She's been down on women. I mean, she's pretty much more not less. Okay. Do you know, literally it's not just about you caught like accepting it in yourself. Once you accept it in yourself and you put it out to your wife, she also accepted it. And that's huge. So why would you have any all those desires you had were you had them because they were secret. But once or not secret. It goes away. Unless you're addicted to like cheating and stuff. That's a whole other issue. But that was it. Most of the time it's a lot of people are cheating like in your situation and those desires go away when it's allowed. Of course. Yeah. Yeah. Just to clarify, she's great. And where we are now is fucking amazing. And everything you just said, what I was talking about was the first couple of years were not great. And it was very it was not right after you cheated. Like was it like a heart like was it yours? That was that the problem? No, no. And it was about it was about that I became open about my bisexual. He said you should throw your words and stuff and saying rude things about. Yeah. Yeah. That's all I'm talking about because she is amazing now. I could not ask our look. We are mostly not out there. Most of the time it's just the two of us. We have a fucking great time. I'd never have better sex. The two of us are super fit. I'm as fit as I've ever been. She's as fit as she's ever been. She used to tell me life so many women you've heard this. I don't really have fantasies. I don't really bullshit. And once we both once I loosened up and I became really like more open. I didn't force it. She loosened up to she has some great fantasies. And because I'm the person I am. And I just like I was an actor at one point, not anything you'd have heard of. But you know, you know, mostly stage. But like, I don't do anything. I'll play any role. So it's been really, really great. And listen, I didn't say this, but it's important. She's seen me fuck lots of women now. And she is down. She's seen me. Amazing. Right? She's seen me make out. Yes. Amazing. And we are moving toward where when the situation's right, if the situation's right, I know that she's going to we're going to have that kind of situation a couple swap or an MF or something where it's going to happen. And then we'll see. You mean the guy and guy. Let me let me just say something to though about like the years of her coming around a guy a fetish guy, like an episode where I was talking about a fetish, somebody once said this and it was so brilliant. And it applies in this situation because it wasn't like you had a fetish, but you had this whole thing and this whole, you know, this whole, all this desire that you had in you that you weren't able to come to terms with, you know, and it took you your whole fucking life to accept it. So, you know, what this one guy said to me once was like, you know, why would I think that my wife would accept my fetish when it took me my whole life to figure it out myself? Of course, your partner is going to take some time. Like for you, it took you your whole life to accept the fact that you were by and understand what it meant and become clear about it and be okay with it and accept it. So, of course, it's going to take your partner some time to get to that place too. It's not like just because you're now accepted, she's going to get it in two fucking seconds. Sometimes that happens and that's great, but it didn't happen with you, but it makes sense. It took her a while to really be able to understand it as well. No, I agree. I agree. And here's the thing. I was kind of frustrated with the, when people come from a place of fear, they can say really not things that they really mean. And that kind of stuff, I didn't look, but I want to tell you, and it was, I wasn't always this way as a human. and then I had to mature a little bit. I'm very. proud of how patient I was, I never once lost my cool. Not once. I don't lose my cool at all anymore, like in it in an inappropriate way. But like I was very patient with it. So you're right. I did have some frustration, but I'm not complaining about her at all. Let me ask you with her. No, but let me ask you with her. Like what would like when she looks back on how terrible she was in those years and the rude thing she would say and how long it took her like what is she what does she say about herself like regarding those times like what did she realize she like does she have any kind of conclusions about where she was coming from maybe you know what I'm saying like as she ever talked about that. Yeah. Yeah. We talk about lots because as you can tell what she's saying. I love something. Yeah. She said it basically basically she just recognized after some work her own work that you know her insecurities were based on this and that and you know stuff goes back to childhood and all that. Yeah. And so she just look I do things hurt but I don't dwell on them. I of course I was upset about it, but I let stuff go. That's just kind of a thing that I've never did when I was younger, but so she recognizes that it came from a place of fear and uncertainty. And I accept that like that's why that is why I didn't I didn't say well fuck you you know I didn't it didn't feel good. Well sometimes maybe what was said or happening, but I knew like this is a big thing to drop on somebody. Here's the truth. A lot of guys and I chat sometimes but I barely rarely chat like sexy chat, but I like to talk to other guys that are I'm a I'm a member of a couple groups of like mixed marriages or bisexual husbands or whatever. So I like to ask questions and and all this stuff, but like there's so you know there's so many men whose wife just I don't know if the men bear some responsibility clearly who knows how they're communicating, but they never come around. And I just feel so incredibly fortunate and I'm telling you the sex between my wife and I and it's like three fucking times a week and we're this age. It is the hottest most mind blowing sex I've ever had and listen if she's not super up for it one night. She's like let me let's let's have some such a chat and I'll give you a hand job. I'm down. So it's I am lucky. I'm incredibly fortunate. But your story is also very like inspiring. You know what I mean because like you said there's a lot of stories that end with the wife never accepting it. But you're here to say like your wife really didn't, but you guys work through it and you had that patient. And you know on the other side of things she's it's completely the opposite. She's now totally down and you're ready to suck a guy's dick in front of her eventually. And so that's pretty amazing. She knows. Yeah, she knows I really want that and it's gonna happen. I I have no doubt it's gonna happen. We're we're we're talking about one guy and we're planning another trip and it's it look and the lucky is person on earth. I'm not perfect. I you know I'm not some wise men, but I really do think you hear a lot of people I listen to cook podcast and hot wave podcast. You know the guys are not going to get my life to this. You can't get your wife to do it. Don't try to make her go on a date. Don't try any of that. Be honest about yourself and like you like be honest with her. I know it's scary. And just go from there. patient, be compassionate, recognize just like you said, Kathy, it's like, I had our remaining goddamn years of shame where I was suppressing myself and hiding. So I can expect a person to be like, Oh, yeah, it's fine today. So I think a lot of, it's just super hot thing. Believe me, I thought it was too. I didn't really think it would ever happen. And I was, you know, I would like it to happen, but I wasn't moping because we were playing with it in fantasy. There is a middle ground sucking a dildo in the middle. So it's great. It's better than any dick. I'm telling you also, I think that's really key. Like is that you were able to come clean? That's like the first thing. Like that's amazing that you were able to really put it on the table. You have to do it. Yeah. I say to people when I'm, you know, discussing or chatting or whatever, you have to be brave enough to do it. And it's scary because there are people out there. I think they're mistaken, but there are women and men both who they hear something like that. And in my opinion, they're following a religious script or society script or family script or whatever, they will just be like, well, fuck you. We're getting divorced. We have a great, we've had our rough times just like any 30 year marriage, but we have a great fucking marriage. Now tragic would it be if I said, Hey, you know, look, I just want you to know. So I don't have to feel I'm hiding anymore. I am this way. I am bisexual. I, I don't think I'm naturally monogamous, but I'm not answering. And if my person said, well, that's disgusting. Fuck you and gets a lawyer and tries to accuse me in court of being a pervert. That happens. That happens all the time now. And it's real. I mean, I'm going to say some, I have lots of opinions, but I'm going to say something that's really sad. Like men enforce this anti gay thing, of course, out of insecurity, but I'm telling you, as you know, really well, there are so many men, I think maybe older, more mature men who have a bi side. And, but the true enforcers, the people in my opinion, and I'm not, I'm, my life jokes that I'm more feminist than she is. So this is not misogynist. I got it. We're going to save the women or the problem. They are, they are primarily the enforcers of that. They're the ones who can't handle it as much. And I'm not saying every woman. I'm just saying in my, I think that's an assumption. It's an assumption. But I have seen in us that I think it in marriages, I just think here's my thing. I don't think it's anybody's fault. I'm not blaming women. What I'm blaming is a society that is really fucked up about sex. It's sex everywhere, but it's super, super repressed. And people follow scripts. And so I think, I think it's really cruel. Even if your husband came to you and said, Hey, you know, I'm buying. If you didn't, even if you didn't like it, I heard you say on a very recent episode or one that I listened to recently, like you did kind of yuck the dude's yamen and the thing you were talking about, you grosses me out. It was the egg thing. Fucking disgusting. Like I, he put common his eggs to. Yeah, sorry. I'm allowed to yuck someone's yam if I think it's crazy. What's the problem? That's my opinion. No, you are. But here's the way, here's the way I do it. Yeah. I never yuck anybody. And I have a fair number of people like you. That's what Doc chocolate said to me when he asked me that question. He's like, Oh, don't yuck someone's yam. I'm a realist. Okay. If I think things fucking crazy, I'm gonna be like, oh my god, he wanted me to send me a picture. He eats his common scrumble to eggs. Sorry. You just said it's gross. You think that's not yucking someone's yam. You're doing the same shit. I'm still. And just say it to his face. I would because I'm honest. That's a difference. Well, okay. But does that make you better than me? No, no, absolutely not. And it's a lot of people. I talked to her in a whole hour. He was a lovely man. I just didn't. I just thought what he did was gross. And like crazy. It was like kind of crazy. I agree. I agree. No, you don't have to apologize. Good for you. I just have come to a different place. And I'm not better than you. This is just what I do. It is gross. But I would never say that out loud to a person. That's all in here. I don't even think that first of all, but wait a second. No, I got to debate with Lil'a. There's no way I told him it was gross. Okay. Ever really really when I was at. No, no, no, I didn't say any of that stuff to him. Honestly, the only time I've ever talked about it being gross is when I've been asked questions about who was the craziest episode you ever heard and stuff. And I've said that out. But there's no way I said it to him. You're gross. Okay. Sorry. Go listen to the episode actually and come back to me. Okay. And that's cool. Go listen to it. There's no way. I believe you. I just and again, I am not judging you. I think you're. That's you are. You just. No, I'm not. No, I'm not. I said I went and you yucked his yum. I didn't go listen to the episode. I just talked about it afterwards. Just like you said, I just like, oh, that was like the craziest. It was kind of gross to me because he literally said, do you want to see the picture? I just I have it in my pants right now. And I just made it omelet. Do you want to see the picture? That to me was like, no, thanks. I'm a foodie. Yep. Sorry. Well, I can see the point. I'm sure I missed her. I did the only reason I brought it up is I wanted to make this one. Yeah, no me too. But I can. You're just getting to your point is that you're so you're very. Listen, you've come a long way. You came from this very repressed place where you judged yourself so harshly to the point where you were like living a lie is secret life, literally just allowing yourself to only fuck once a week, being torturing yourself. Yeah. Finally, you've come to a place and by no means, of course, would you ever judge anybody? I'm one of the most non-judgmental people like for real. You are on my show. So I totally get it. And you came to that place and I think that is amazing. Like you have literally changed your life and what I love is that because I believe no matter how old you are, you know, or where you're at in your life, it's always time to completely change the fucking game. And that's what you and your wife did.
you guys are living your best life and finally being true to who you are and that's fucking amazing. - It is fucking amazing. Listen, you're great. And I wanna thank you for something in particular. I wanna thank you for one thing in particular. Your advocacy for bisexual men is really fucking important because that double standard drives me insane. And I do it in a calmly and I do it in a rational way. But I really appreciate your advocacy. And you are non-judgmental. You have to be honest. - Because I'm a realist. Like someone said recently, like, oh, you must be really into guy and guy action 'cause that's all you're ever pushing. It's like, no, actually I'm not. And I don't know. I've never seen a guy blow another guy in front of me. So I don't really know, right? But it's not like, oh, that's my thing. And that's why it's because I'm into total fairness. And I'm also a realist. Tons of guys are into guys, okay? It's a fucking fact. And the fact that there is still that stigma bothers the fuck out of me. - Oh man. - Not fair and it's not right to guys. There's so many guys are doing it. It's not even right for women because the guys are doing it behind their fucking backs. Okay, and they don't know about it. That's not cool either. So nobody wins with this fucking stigma. I literally got so mad. I was on this big swinger site on Facebook. It's actually amazing. Pineapple 101, he's got like 50,000 engaged swingers. And I pushed it. Pineapple 101, it's like really great for swingers. Yeah, it's great. He built a great site there. But I posted something about, I posted a guy on guy action episode there. And I said, listen, this is, I'm posting this because this is very anti in this swinger community. And I don't understand it. And I love to put episodes out there because like I'm on a mission blah blah. And somebody said, it's, there's no stigma or, this is a man talking. There's no stigma around it. We just think it's gross or we just don't like it. So that's why it's not allowed. And it's like, are you fucking kidding me? That's even worse than a stigma. Forget about the fucking work. Just because you don't like something means it shouldn't be allowed because it makes you uncomfortable. What if you don't like women that are tall with brown hair and she's at a swingers club, that shouldn't be allowed either. It's such bullshit hypocrisy garbage. It fucking pisses me. I agree. And you, I cheer you every time and there's some podcasts and people out there who do some advocacy front porch swingers and not. Yeah, that guy was at my show. He gave me one of my greatest episodes. Yeah. And it's so cool. Yeah, I make a point of emailing and saying, I am so grateful for your advocacy because it is, I don't have to explain it to you. That guy is great. Yeah, no, that guy, he was on my show, the man in that partner, right? Came out and he came on and did a whole episode. And I'm like, good for fucking you because he's such an alpha guy. Same with this other guy, who's a very much an alpha. I love those fucking alpha manly man man that come out and say, yeah, this is who the fuck I am. And I suck dick, okay? Because supposedly the scenario is the opposite. You're like a chick if you like guys and you're a guy. It's so stupid. Yeah, it's really fucking stupid. Yeah, but we can try to answer hours. I have to end. But like, you know, yeah, yeah. This is the kind of stuff I do love to talk. I'm glad that you appreciate it. I'm glad that you came on and told your story. And you know, I think, like I said, it's super interesting because you talked about sort of the psychology around it for you as well and where it came from. And but the fact that you were able to turn things around, I think is inspiring. The fact that your wife was so rude about it too is actually a good part of your story because even that person was able to come around. So I feel like that gets people hope. And it's such a great story because it has all of it in it, you know, the good, the bad, the ugly and the happy ending. Yeah. And it is a very like super happy ending. But here's the way I put it sometimes to myself. I was repressed and given terrible messages about sex when I was younger. And then I fucking did it to myself for decades. I did it to myself. Of course, yeah. Yeah, you took ownership for it. Right. Because at a certain point, unfortunately, all these, whatever's put on you as a child, like it was put on you. And now all that's left is for you to actually sort of untangle that. And you have to go do something about it. And you did. And that's what it's all about instead of just sitting there like a victim. Eventually it was you that changed things around and took control of it. And sort of been, who you always were maybe, been more true to yourself. Instead of who your parents try to make you become. The question I would ask parents honestly is do you want your child to be a happy adult? And if you do, think about how the message is you got, do you want your child to be happy when they're an adult? And I'm guessing most parents do. And that should help people see, like, just don't fucking put that shit on your head. But if people don't understand that everything they do and they say to their children is either going to make their life easy or make their life super difficult. And it's sad when people choose to not get out of the way of themselves and do the right thing because they can't. And sometimes people just can't, like I said, get out of the way of themselves and they fuck up their kids and then their kids have a whole life of low self-esteem and all these kind of things because of what was put on them when they were younger. And that's a sad sort of thing. My reason for having a kid was because I had all that stuff too. But my reason for having a kid was like, I'm going to have a kid and not do any of that stuff and just make the most normal, happy, healthy, self-esteem person on the fucking planet. And that's how I pay it back. And I could die a happy person. Yeah. So listen, Chris, thank you so much for calling in. I love this whole story. I could talk bigger picture with you anytime. It's like, I could talk to you for another hour. I got to go eat my dinner. I love your food. Thanks so much for calling in, Chris. I don't know-- obviously, I don't take pictures of wives when they don't know that you're calling in or whatever. But you already have access to my Patreon, right? And my Discord? Yep. OK, good. OK, so you'll see the comments when it airs. And thanks so much for calling in. I'm going to talk to you for another hour. Oh, I can talk. We could probably talk each other. I know. I know. OK, thanks, Chris. Thanks so much for calling in. Finally. All right, bye-bye. 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