im cringe but im happy

Ay sobrang give pimple. Grabe guys mag high kayo sa ano ko bago ko pimple it's been a while since i got so stick acne and i forgot how it physically actually hearts but it's fine because that's a part of life and i am not defined by outer exterior shell skin kasi ako i define sa aking pagiging latina alright. Anyway, twenty twenty five we are on learning. Siya yung baby. Pagiging mahiyain feeling cringe looking at other people on saying na they are cringe judging people cringe all of that iiwan natin yan for twenty twenty four iiwan natin yan sa kahapon. Let's leave it to the past because i really wanna be successful if you wanna live a life that's free and happy, we have to embrace the cringe baby gusto ko nang mag story pero before anything else let me just introduce myself this country jhenny. Ang iyong kaibigan na tayo at ano iyong kaibigan alright? Let's go da yun today and today we're gonna be discussing, is that my feet? And today we are gonna be discussing cringe. Actually yung pinakarason why i wanted to talk about this topic is because may nakita akong post sa facebook. About ni rose mar kilala niyo naman siguro kung sino si rose mar if hindi isearch niya sa tiktok. But i'm sure you've heard her because it's very famous. Anyway, yung context ng post sa facebook is di ba may sumisikat ngayon si neneng b yung mga ano ulam tapos nagtitinda siya ng mga hotdog? Di ba ang inyong mga hotdogs niya dina dialect ang daming taong nakapila sa mga hotdogs niya because yun nga she got viral and then. It happened na si ross smar nag build din pala siya ng kanyang own hotdog business. The hotdogs look very very similar sa hotdogs ni neneng b when you think about it, parang tiniming niya din sa pag viral ni nanay yung b tapos they were making fun of rosmari kasi tinatawag nila na kape cut daw si rosemary. Ang cringe daw kasi oh just because may bagong nadine hotdogs viral on the internet. We're also gonna do it like parang lahat na lang pinapasukan mo lahat na lang ng business opportunities kinukuha mo cringe, cringe copy cut copy cat no originality. People were making fun of her. On that facebook post, but you know what i was thinking i was thinking this exact behavior is probably the reason why rosmari so much more richer than all of us combined. Listen, she's probably so successful and maybe even famous because she just does things without caring what other people think without. Criticizing her own self and calling herself french, do you think na i frost mar was calling herself cringe every time there is a business opportunity such as that one? If she said na okay, i'm not gonna sell hotdogs, i'm not gonna do anything because it's cringe and it's topical and i care what other people say she would be getting money? No, she would not be getting money and i'm not saying na the reason why rosmari so rich right now or famous right now is because she doesn't care about cringe but in general in general if all of us. Actually just took action instead of carrying what other people say, and instead of criticizing our own selves and calling our selves cringe, they would also be going to places na further than where we are right now. That's all that i'm saying. Another example is. Janella janella magtangal. I've been seeing so many posts on facebook about. Hessler racism and that people are calling his lyrics goofy calling his lyrics. At trying hard or cringe or whatever, and it's literally the same thing withdraws. Mark, he's so successful right now, he's doing music. He's like number one on the billboard sa spotify philippines or something because he doesn't care what other people say and he just continues on what he's doing with his music. Kasi di ba nag release siya ng song? Yung title is sining tapos people were making fun of his lyrics kasi nga ang cringe daw ang baduy daw like parang ang trying hard daw, okay, whatever people are probably just kidding but you know, even these type of jokes naka self conscious siya and this is where papalakpak. Talaga ako kay janella kasi una. Yung mga comments ng mga netizens. He wasn't affected by it. Second he himself probably loves his craft so much and doesn't reject himself in the very first place by calling himself cringe and still continues on what he does. And he released another song, tapos yung another song niya is called marilag and it's still so successful. It's number one on the philippine charts again again again and it's viral and the point of what i'm trying to say here is i feel like we could. Learn so much. And bring so much opportunities to us if we stop labelling the things that we do as cringe. If we stop cringing so much and just start doing what we want to do and so they. This is a sign this is me telling you know, if you wanna do something but you're so afraid because you care about what other people say, you're afraid of what other people might say to you, they might judge you or you yourself is kind of afraid to step out of your comfort zone. This is your side to stop doing it, leave it to twenty twenty four, bring back, taking space in twenty twenty five. Because the opportunities in the freedom that you get the happiness that you'll get. And the endless possibilities that is going to happen with your life. If you just start taking action, this is your sign. Beach and nagsulat din ako ng tips here on how to stop feeling cringe or how to unlearn shame and how to unlearn feeling cringe because i feel like i have a little grass on how to do it anyway. Yung pinakauna na tip na maibibigay ko sayo if you wanna stop internalizing on feeling change is you stop calling other people cringe and the very first place stop shaming other people for what they do. And start mining your own business. Listen, let me talk when you criticize others, you're also criticizing yourself when you judge other people for what they do. Let say, let's say example, example. If a judge ko yung friend ko kasi nagko content create siya tapos nagpo post sya sa mga tiktok tas tatawagan ko na may gosh ang cringe ang trying hard like this is like why are you content creating? Like why are you doing that? If i do that to my friend? Will i have the confidence to content, create and post myself? No, because ano yung iisipin ko ang my god this is so cringe. Oh my god, why am i trying so hard? Like why am i contant creating like? I am limiting myself. Because i'm also judging myself because all they do is judge other people and not mine, my own business. Most of our insecurities will project it to other people. Trust me, let me call me talk. That's why i always believe that the people above you or like those that are doing the things that you want, they are not gonna be criticizing you. The people who are gonna be judging you are the people na below you or something like that or something. That effect another example. Napapansin ko to with the way that i address because before before before. I would judge other people in the way that they dress like, for example, if other people are over dressing on a regular day is i would like in my head judge them and say na ano kayang occasion ngayon? Bakit overdressed na over trust tong tao na to? Or if they're wearing like long sleeves or jacket and then it's on a sunny day, i judge them in my head internally as in tanga ang init init tapos nagkasakit ka nag long same kung ano ka tanga ganon eh ako mismo interesado ako sa like fashion and dressing up. However, during that time during those times na parang judgemental ko. Every time i would try to step out of my comfort zone and wear something nice and over dressed in a specific day. I would be judging myself. I would parang feel na tanong na bakit naka over dress ako ngayon a regular day lang. I was judging myself in the weather, i judge other people and then pag i would really like layer layer layer clothes like a follow and attempt up i would call myself. But ako naglalaro ng clothes eh ang init init, i was judging myself in the way that i was judging other people. Even if i really, really wanted to over dress or layer or where a long sleeve i wasn't able to do it, i was being limited because i was being my own kritik. I was criticizing myself and the reason why i was criticizing myself. I have this attitude was because i was criticizing other people. And so this is why my first step is you really just have to mind your own business and let other people do what they wanna do. Tapos. In addition to this example, may nakita akong post sa facebook na yung sabi niya is. Pray for mindanao kasi everyone in mindanao is becoming a vlogger. Do you think the people who feels that way na parang they're making fun of like ah nag vlog na lahat baba, do you think we're gonna have the courage to vlog? No because they gonna be a shamed as well because that's what we're doing to other people there shaming other people, even if they really wanted to vlog, and even if they really wanted to content create, they're not gonna be able to do it because they're gonna be overwhelmed by this judgement that's coming from themselves because they do it to other people and the limited and so this is why this is why again, let me just repeat what i just said, this is why i'm really gonna encourage you. To stop judging other people. That is the first step to a learning cringe and on learning shame. Alright okay yung pangalawa ko na tip on how to unlearn siyam eto yung more on a tangible staff start posting start being seen, start taking space. You don't have to like post a ten minute vlog immediately, you can just start with posting a selfie of your picture that you really wanted to post. If you're someone mahilig ka mag take ng outfits or mahilig ka mag take ng tiktok with yourself or with your friends. Start doing it right now. And start posting them in your my day and don't cover your username. Sa tiktok mo just do it start posting your instagram start, changing your profile picture and to public ito yung mga first things to unlearn siyam because you're gonna first step out of your comfort zone because you're allowing yourself to be seen. And second, this is where i believe you're gonna start to realize the this is not that scary or other people are not that judgemental or if they do, it's not the end of the world. We're gonna start feeling that and once you repeat doing it, once you start taking space. We're gonna move on to maybe like content creating or something or dressing yourself outside or wearing clothes na, you know, not in your comfort zone and in connection with this. I have been saying this in my past episodes, the spotlight of. We are so proud to thinking na everyone's judging ourselves when we do something, but the truth is they are all thinking about themselves, okay? If you get so scared by being called cringe or by the judgement of other people, just realize na they gonna forget about it and like. Ten minutes max nag scroll at i live their own lives and let's say there are people who will judge you for like a longer time. Just realize na it's not gonna matter anyway, because they're gonna forget about it, and it's not gonna be one of the world. You're not gonna die. When was the last time they were thinking twenty four, seven about another person because there so credible and they were doing something na parang out of their comfort zone. You can't remember anything because all that you think about is yourself, everyone is doing the same. Okay now, besides the financial opportunities and the material things that you get. When you start doing the things that you want to do and you start taking space and learning shade and embracing the change is also really important because it's the first thing. To being good at something if you wanna learn a new hobby or a new thing, the first step is always gonna be cringing, pero you can't get to that level na magaling ka na. If you don't do the necessary requirement, which is the first step and the first step is being cringed. Yung maisip ko na example is yung content creating ko na. Journey, i wouldn't say na i'm like so magaling right now pero i would say na i've gotten so much comfortable with talking to the camera compared before and that's because i was willing to be cringed in my very first few months or years of contract creating like if i look back at myself and look at my older videos, parang na o awkward ako kasi wala parang hindi ako masyadong komportable sa camera but then. That was the reason why i am able to do this right now. Rather example like and in fashion dressing up i was saying na i'm kind of comfortable with how i present myself in terms of addressing myself. Pero the reason why. I have this. Parang mastery level of mastery with how i address myself right now was because i wasn't afraid to be cringe and be look embarrassing on my very first few outfit trials. Like of course i look a little backy on my first two out for tries, but i wouldn't be able to learn through mistakes through small and consequential mistakes. If i wasn't willing to try and that's actually just the point of what i'm trying to say here. If you wanna be good at something. The first step is allowing yourself to try, and that is gonna be so crucial and so difficult. Kasi yun din yung mga parts. You feel so so much cringe but once you get task through. You're not just gonna unlearn shame and be more confident. You're also gonna be better at the thing that you're doing. Let me cook baby, and so i want you to think right now, what is that you wanna do? Even in the smallest things? Do you wanna perhaps make a tiktok in public? Do you want to post more make up videos or something? If that's what you're interested in, do you want to post more covers because you actually sing? But other people don't know that that you sing or you right music or that you dance. Or the you cook or something? I want you to think really think about that. I want you to internalize what i just said and realized that we're all just small specs of dust. And while i'm just saying anything and we all die anyway and cringe. It's probably a weapon from the society to keep up to keep us from being successful, but this is me saying that we can all join the favor in our own hands and slay, i'm slay this limiting belief that society has imposed on us anyway before tayo mag move on sa ating q and a kasi nagpa cute anay kasi ako sa instagram puls. Oh if hindi ka pa nakasali sa instagram group. Kim parahas ko eto na din yung sign mo. I really wanna have like. A community guys like, what do i call you guys? Kasi yung sa instagram ko na group dahil it's called countries rats. I think may personally i think it's like a cute and sa joke like a funny is a joke like. Are you a country sprak like are you a rat like squeak? Sounds of it. I think it's cute and it's funny, daga or whatever. But syempre naman, alangan naman na tawagin ko yung daga, hindi naman yun pwede. I would be the mother rat if that happens. So if you guys have like sa junctions, what should i call you? Listeners but a listers too generic and it doesn't feel intimate. What should i call you? Comment down above. Anyway, the first question, what's the feeling of hypothetically, the shame of being the not so smartest person in the room, especially in a large crowd? How do you deal with not being the best in our room? How do you stop feeling ashamed? On the top of my head right now. All they could think of right now is there is literally nothing to be ashamed of what so shameful about not being the smartest in the room. Nothing there, something shameful about it. The best person in the world doesn't exist. It lets put it to perspective. You're feeling ashamed because you're not the smartest people in the room. Let's put the smartest and the room and that moment to another room where there are smarter people than him, so they're not the smartest person in that room, but are they're not smart at all? Now because the hypothetical competition that we're constantly putting ourselves into that even exist in the very first place, and so. You're gonna be freed from the shackles of shet. If you stop subjecting yourself to this competition and realize na your worth is not determined, if you're the smartest person in that room and that given time, but then again its so much more easier said than done. No, so i'm gonna share a story. Ako actually nai intimidate din ako eh kasi sa up ako nag school eh king ina ng maroons lahat ng classmates ko teh magagaling matatalino. I am confident with my intelligence. Academically, i've been doing well academically my entire life. Pero sa u p parang like everyone is also matalino. But then. I just think to myself no, are they judging me because i'm stupid now? If i say arong answer, are they gonna be judging me? Probably know because smart people don't do that, and because there also probably just thinking about themselves and so it all just circles to what i just said about the spotlight effect. And then this is also the part na i'm gonna say to you na one of the reasons why we feel ashamed and we're not the best in that. And a specific time like let's say beauty or wits or being intelligent is because. Sometimes we think na our worth is tied into these things and we have been conditioned to think about that our entire life, like, for example, in school of first honor. Ah can be also, i would think na oh. I can only feel good about myself if i'm the best and so i'd have this constant competition with other people. I have to be the best of the time. I have to be smart all the time because thats what im condition to thinking but then. How am i when i'm with my friends? Do i make my friends laugh? Am a good person around my family and my friends and the way that i treat strangers and the answer is yes and so sayo. If the answer is also yes, if you also create other people with kind as in generosity and compassion, this being the smartest person in the room, still matter. Not too much now. Objective the again perspective, of course it's gonna matter your smart and you study hard, and this is my reminder to you na there is literally nothing to be ashamed of. Okay, nothing zero to be ashamed of. You're not the best in the room. I also just wanna share na lang din na not being the smartest president. The room is something that i also go through all the time, but i've learned to. Adopt with it like for example, especially like in college because we all have different specialties now, like, for example, if i'm with my friends na mga comsci, i'd be like the dumbest person in that room. Um, technically or whatever, they're all gonna know how to code and shit. But i would actually just admit na, okay, i'm not a smart person in the room right now and i become stable with not knowing everything. Be comfortable with not knowing anything and having the willingness to admit that because it's not a shameful thing, it's actually. And admirable thing and endearing thing na you don't know anything because youre allowing yourself to be top and the person is gonna teach you. It's gonna feel good because they feel like they imparted their knowledge or something, but anyway, i'm trying too much from the topic. But yeah, yun lang talaga guys what i said. I, i think i like this question, do you think the shame we feel? Overpass cringe moments come from personal growth. Or is it unnecessary self judgement? Basically yung question is asking if nagki cringe ka sa mga past. Actions mo yung mga pinaggagawa mo sa grade five ka is that growth or is that judgment? And the answer is i think it could be both. But what's important is how you move after. That feeling prince is an indicator na we are growing di ba? Like for example nag cringe ako nung high school ako kasi when i was a group leader i would be like a necessarily i would be an unnecessary mean beach and right now like in this moment of my life nagka crush ako nung time na yun because why was i? That was so unnecessary that was so mean and it was so uncalled for and me right now cringed about that is a good indicator na i've grown past that attitude because nare realize ko na na ah okay mali pala yung ginagawa ko. Di ba crush is a good indicator if you're feeling about your past actions, don't beat yourself too much because that probably just means na you learned add. You're not gonna do it again, and you're gonna be able to handle future situations with a better equipped. Mindset, attitude, soul and heart, alright, i also encourage you. Strongly, you don't judge your past selves for not knowing better than now. There was a time before and i fell in a fell in love or a i had a crush on a straight guy, and, you know, i was really wished for him, and i was like, ah umiiyak iyak ang vavae. To put things to perspective right now. I know that moment. Pero i dont. Call myself stupid or dumb because i did that. Because we're all about feeling grace here. Yun lang. Anyway i think dito na magtatapos ang aking episode nila. Grabe hindi na binasa yung mga questions pero kasi yung mga questions yung iba i categorize ko na lang siya sa ibang topics kasi ah some of the questions are not necessarily related to change but are still useful for future episodes. So i'm still very thankful for everyone who preached and their questions. Alright, let's go na dion. I want a. I want a ah. I want ah. I want i i i want to end this episode by. Saying thank you so much to everyone who is putting my episodes in their mind. Ay un for everyone who follow this episode. I just recently learned na may follow up button sa ah podcast. So if. You're kind of addressed with what i'm yapping. Please do give my. Please do give my a podcast and follow. It would mean the world to me. And again if umabot ko sa episode to isa kang star who's gonna stop feeling french and start on learning shame and start posting and taking space? Okay alright. I love you so much. Let's go na dayun let's get this bread alright.