The Gift Of Letting Go

Intro Welcome to you our Love Podcast, a podcast for beloved women. We would love to journey with you on how to cultivate your relationship with God. We pray that each episode will be a blessing to your heart, mind and soul. May you feel loved and encouraged. So relax and let's learn together. We are so blessed to have you here. Speaker 2 It's another you are love podcast. Happy New Year my dear beloved with our favorite Co host coach Jenny. Hello, I know Gabina and John at Climate Climate. Speaker 3 And and. Speaker 2 This year Telegas you are La Madame, I mean with all our podcast episode and of course next all that then you are live journal Marami Marami Salamat so Bagun edition and you are live podcast, travel and travel. Hello Aunty Jenny, you are. Speaker 3 Live Edition. Speaker 2 Yes, so if you have any suggestions, please give me Adm me includes a journal Naito so Bible journal in parentayo. But I'm praying that I could be able to make a prayer journal soon. But don't muna tayo OK, so ATI jeni icebreaker muna tayo. So for this year, I know you Hindi mutan OK? Highlights of this year I mean, you highlight more for the year, for the next year. Speaker 3 Highlight go for this. Speaker 2 Year for this? Speaker 3 Year is highlights. OK, what what what stood out for me this year is I was able to do a lot of things. I was able to talk podcast. We're continuing to minister and I am working at a school and I'm enjoying. So pattern for me, yeah. And at my age, yeah, I'm so thankful for that. And then I'm still able to spend time with my kids and with my grandkids. So yeah, for me, that's the highlight of this year and I hope more, more of that. Speaker 2 In 20 and enjoying you you faceting every role as a mom as you know now and then grandparents wow Apostolic ministry. I love that you also have a chance to take care of your dad, how you cultivate that relationship. So thank you for being a role model for me. This is last year as an individual, as a parent is the art of letting go. The art of letting go So last year and definitely physically letting go of my daughter. Yeah. It's my highlight. Letting go, I mean home schooling last year, December 2020. So now Kumbaga more time to be able to rediscover myself. That's one and my only. Speaker 3 School with. Speaker 2 God and then getting to know also my kids in a deeper level when I start letting go. But I'm really thankful to God he was able to walk with me in every painful of. Speaker 3 You know. Speaker 2 Experience of letting go, I mean, beginning reward or medal about it. I'm still there, OK, I'm still there, but I'm learning a lot, whether it's positive or negative. And I'm so thankful for this journey because. I mean expose and then they discover. I love to discover it with him. So you. Speaker 3 Wow, that's really good. Nah, Nah. Sometimes that's sometimes we resist it and we fight against it. It's like a picture of him parent. When you started to trust God, even your parents, your even your kids relationship and yet you discovered a deeper facet of relationship with them. Speaker 2 Yeah. Speaker 3 Yeah. Speaker 2 I'm sure, yeah, from your experience. How many years of your life being with them and then now? That's why this topic is so so timely. No, the gift of letting worded the gift. Is it really a gift? Speaker 3 Yeah, it's a. Speaker 2 Gift is it really a gift? It's a gift so excited come in Coach Jenny and maybe my identify did not know what are the burdens that sometimes are holding us No for us to that God is calling us maybe to release no na sometimes Hindi natima let go 2025 na deba. The Gift of Letting Go Yeah, that's true. That's true, Deba. The most powerful changes happened when we decide to take control of the only things that we have the power to control instead of craving to control what we cannot control. the BA holding on is hard. La Luna hold on because it's stressful, anybody? It's so stressful like gigging and upanako contribute plus a relationship problems. It causes unhappiness and so much more. But as human beings sometimes must end, tendency to cling to almost everything just because it's familiar, it's comfortable. The bath, so oh, the bar. Nothing unchanged. So we hold on to the past. We want the life that we think that we want the life the way it should be. We don't want to let go. We don't want we don't want to reimagine or restore our lives. The apparent we want calling the imagine at the union. Oh yeah. We get attached to the ideas that we have. That's the very thing that hurts us. So in fact, you, we've been ministering for 35 years now. Wow. Oh, since 1989. So we've talked, I have talked, of course, very mature, very immature. So a lot of human stress is our stubborn propensity to hold on to things. Talagan IO, Nathan Mcgillian So apparent in a nutshell, we hold on to things because we hope that things would go exactly as we wanted to. How very human nature, divine, apparent. So when in fact, that's the very thing that complicates our lives. So this year, Diba, I want us to see that letting go is a gift. How to Stop Holding On to Things And how do we stop letting go, Diba? We stop letting go by realizing that there's nothing talaga to hold on to, nothing material that we can hold on to. Most of the things that we try to desperately hold on, apparently imagine that they're the real, solid, everlasting things. But they're not Diba, they're in some form that like babago, nothing, nothing remains the same except that nothing, nothing will not everything will change, Everything will pass away. So for us to be deceived, to hold on to things complicate and boy, nothing. So I don't know, no college swimming. So when yeah, first year go swimming. So I want to imagine first time go. So I really wanted to learn how to swim. So first couldn't swim divine pattern. The more tense you are, the more you want to hold on to the side, the more you may hear up and come and float. But when you just start to relax and let go, that's the time that you float the bow. When you grab on the imaginary things, that's swimming. So now when you imagine yourself as taking a deep breath, divine. Well, Lana, don't. Don't. So that's the biggest thing that I learned. So let me challenge you now, OK? Now I want to ask you and try to think about this. Is there something that you're trying to desperately hold on to? How is holding on to this affecting your life now? Whether that's our relationship, whether that's something material, whether that's an ideal, then try to imagine yourself just trying to relax and let go. Can you imagine how that change will change, how that will change your life? So that let's talk about back it now, but gift and letting go. Benefits of letting go Why this we're going to talk about some benefits that we will never really enjoy until we let go. OK, so now when we let go, we allow ourselves to make the most of the things that we have. I say a big part of our ability to be happy and successful means and realize, don't say willingness nothing to let go of what we think our life is supposed to look like, right Diba? When in fact, if we sincerely appreciate everything for what it is, let go tie you of the things that we think we should have, and then just sincerely appreciate what you do have and then make the best of it, then Mas, Noel and Kanaki will worry. When you worry about something that you can control, you have more time and energy to change the things that you really can control. Speaker 2 Yeah, that's. Speaker 3 Good. So when you let go of things, when we let go the bar, we allow ourselves to make the most of what we do have. Another thing is when we let go, we're able to use our resources more effectively passing out. When we hold on, we're trying to control what's uncontrollable. But when we let go and allow uncontrollable things to happen, if it's a being an uncontrollable, things will take care of themselves more naturally. The back as I call you control on papaya and Mulan and then just let go the back at least you have less to do control and the more time and energy you have to focus on the things that you really have to control. Yeah, like human positive and effective daily habits that you can start divine demo control your habits, primary control stress. You have more if you will let go of things like or, or people or situations and then just just focus on the things that you can control, then it's a gift. You'll be healthier and positive effects avoid more. Another gift of letting go is when we let go we free our minds from extra worries passing out when we are holding on to things that we cannot control. It's easier to mistake your worries then a union reality moment. In fact it's not your reality. Be mindful. Let's be mindful the present and then overthink. Let's go and accept. Let's go of what was and have faith in all your present possibilities instead of you know, control. Will you future the predicate maniare tapas, you know, control me now manipulate. Just enjoy where you are at the present and then let go and then allow God to do what he wants to do well, like an extra worry. And also when we let go. Another gift is we learn to we learn more about how life really works when you hold on to things how they should be. Speaker 2 That's good you. Speaker 3 Block yourself automatically from the truth. You resist you how everything works rather than learning about it. You resist it instead of learning how it's really working. That help me resist money to remain in the hand we buy, for example. It's probably a relationship that's not working according to how you want it to work. So can you control but when you let go how it's really working? When you let go, when you don't control what you don't really have the power to control? Another gift. It's when we let go, we get to appreciate others for who they are people when we loosen up, when we learn to appreciate different perspectives, different lifestyles and opinions, kaitna ibic sabian it over. That means overcoming our ego and even opening our mind beyond what's comfortable for for us to buy. We begin to really appreciate those that we didn't appreciate before. I don't know if you if, if that has happened to, you know, being close Casa Ibang. I, I let me change nothing. There are some things I hope so apparent means and it's about letting those you care about be unapologetically be themselves. As a young lad, you're trying to you're trying to control things. So even the people around you can't be who they really are around you. So they can be who they are around you. I love that. So you get to appreciate them, Diba, for who they are. Diba yes, you control people tend to be somebody that you want them to be. Speaker 2 Letting go actually is an invitation for you to have more freedom. I think the word is freedom. Freedom to be able to to. Freedom to be able to free your mind. Freedom to be able to really identify what works, what matters most. It means it's not giving you freedom. Speaker 3 Love what you. Speaker 2 Have like for example, and I know you'll be able to discuss this a while ago, you have a man pleasing spirit. Yeah, you're not being yourself, Diba, Cassie. You are trying to project something that you are not. So indeed, again, yes, Space Diba. Speaker 3 That's true. That's true and I love what you said, Natalie again, Cassia, when you're trying to control the by instead we think that when we control things tire you may freedom in there. You're right. I say you're you're bound by what you think, by what you believe instead of being open, just like what you said. That's another gift guy. We're less distracted by people pleasing. I think I was to nothing control what they think of us, Debasso. We try to people please. So you let go and you just try to keep in mind that people will think what they want to think and what people think is their problem. Not your problem, Deba. So just be who you are. So who I only love, unless Callaghan, who I only like cow, then it's not your problem. So so we're we we will not be distracted. So, well, I'm pretty sure we could just enjoy and then in, in that so exchange, then what's my enjoy? Like what I said earlier, we get to enjoy the people around us when we're letting go. Speaker 2 Of letting go of people, toxic people. Let go. 2025 you identify you. I like that. No, I like that. Thank you. No. Speaker 3 Yes. Speaker 2 Exactly identify. Speaker 3 There are, oh, there are people, there are relationships and it's not, it's not bad, I think because sometimes we we have ideas. We think that, yeah, we think that my idea kind of friends, the best friendship. There are seasons in our lives, the most close to Dito and sometimes friendships. So it becomes stressful for both of you to try to recreate when in fact it's even. Which is which. Which goes to my next point, that when we let go, we allow ourselves to grow and heal. When we let go, we allow ourselves to grow and heal Deba, for example, someone broke your heart, so it's not easy to deal with, but you can heal as long as you're willing to accept the circumstances and then gradually move through them. Deba so means and, but it's not a helpful thought to say reality. Just accept the reality that you probably overlook that and then let go and then you'll grow from that. You could, you could drink things, overlook yon so you could rethink that and you could grow from that and you could heal from that. So that's another gift of letting go. Another gift is when we let go, it gets easier to forgive ourselves. When we let go, it gets easier to forgive ourselves Sometimes we have to ask ourselves, possibly bad that you must Malay or you foolish things that you have done have been forgiven and forgotten by almost everyone who matters in your life except you. Oh. Speaker 2 No. Speaker 3 Sometimes people, sometimes people don't. Forgiven. Forgive me. Speaker 2 By OH. Speaker 3 The bus or sometimes you just have to look in the mirror and just say, yeah, I was wrong in doing that. But that's that. That's that's done. It was a mistake. I've grown from it now. Now I have to move on. I'm still worthy of love. I'm still worthy of forgiveness. I'm still worthy of living a full life in spite of that mistake. So when we let go, it gets easier to forgive ourselves. Let's go. Let's go. Another gift is when we let go, we and we get to enjoy more of life's little surprises. When we let go, we get to enjoy more of life's little surprises Humana unpredictable beauty and brilliant little surprises. You, you buy a sudden unexpected arrival. Surprises like what you were telling me about your trip to to Spain when you let go of an idea, this is how life is supposed to look like. This. This is how our trip is supposed to look like. But then I'll just be open. I'll just let go. I'm not going to control. Then you'll be open to the surprises. So let's not be so controlling. Let's not be. Let's not hold on to our thoughts and our ideas. Another gift is when we let go, we live more gratefully and graceful. Speaker 2 That's good. Speaker 3 So in fact, to let go is in part to be grateful for the experiences that made you laugh and made you cry, that helped you learn and grow. When we accept everything that we have, everything that we once had. Hi Hypna Malipa Lion. When we accept that when we accept you know that the lessons that we have learned because of that mistake, deba, we become more graceful and grateful Deba. So we have to find the strength to embrace human inevitable things. Abuhi banga changes oh debabe mana changes abuena then I open up in panga Pena Nangarina. But it could be a a change in employment and then you have to move to another. You have to move to another place because of that. And then you control, you do things to manipulate. You'll never get to enjoy what you have. You'll never be grateful for the things that God has added to your life just because of He took that. Speaker 2 Away. Speaker 3 God took something away. If you will hold on to what God has has taken away, you'll never see the beautiful things He has replaced it with. Speaker 2 That's good. Speaker 3 And lastly, when we let go, it becomes clearer who's got us and who never lets us. Speaker 2 Go, come. Speaker 3 On We forget that we're not God. We forget that we're just human beings. Kiba, I love the Scriptures. I love Deuteronomy 331, verse six and eight. Sabadito, be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you. Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you. We will neither fail you nor abandoned you. So this is a good word for 2025. If you're if there's something that you cannot let go off in 2024 because you fear what's going to happen without these things that you're holding on to, I want you to hear what the Lord is telling you in Deuteronomy 31 verses 6:00 and 8:00. He will not abandon. Speaker 2 You wow. Speaker 3 I think it's new Living translation, OK. Speaker 2 That's good. Speaker 3 So another scripture is in Isaiah 4110. Fear not, for I am with you. Yeah, be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. So Kite Anumanian young Pinapa, let go, say Unigard, you can let go, trusting that God will never let you go. Speaker 2 Yes, wow, I think that really seals beautifully this conversation. Thank you Auntie Jenny and Matin Dingbaonta. Not in total 2025. The gift of letting go sometimes so you know we're having having a fear of letting go or this is the time maybe we could be able to ask God to identify and by my comfort zone and by Nagihinder Satin and I remember I'm definitely take on to that verse engineering Atti Jenny about said the autronomy and I want to share also you I remember in Philippians 313 to 14 correct me if I'm brothers and sisters. I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it, but one thing I do is forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead because I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me in Christ Jesus Tiba. So I really pray no. Maha, dear beloved, we hope that you found inspiration and encouragement to be able to release what no longer serves you no Yes, and be able to embrace that God has given us the invitation of peace and freedom. Speaker 3 Yes, when we let go. Yeah. When we hold on to things we are saying I want to control. Yeah. And we are saying we know better than God. Wow. So when we let go, we are saying, say God, Lord, I release this unto your hands, and what better time to do that than at the start of the year? Lord, I release this year to you. I trust you. I trust I entrust this whole year to you. I have plans, I have expectations, but I'm not going to hold on tight to them. I'm going to hold on tight to you. These are just guidelines. So I'm not saying don't make plans and don't make preparations, but don't hold tight to them. That's good. Let's let let's leave the controlling to God. Speaker 2 Yes, yes, I totally agree. Thank you, coach Jenny, I know surrendering is not easy. I think that's the word of letting go. We need to surrender at oh, nothing. But no. So maybe take time. No, maybe this is the time. Also, Seguro, if you're listening to this, one of the things that I realized sometimes I have a one day retreat for myself and just think about it and reevaluate. No, and not be guilty of having that a retreat maybe with myself. This is the time to reflect and be able to identify all of this. So if you think you found value in this conversation today, just please give us feedback, OK? Share it with your friends and family and leave us a review, OK? And definitely subscribe to our podcast that next year. We're so excited for our future topics with Coach Jenny. So please, please give us a feedback and thank you for the support that you have given us this year. And we really pray, Coach Jenny and I, that we'll be able to support more and reach out more hearts and minds in this podcast. Thank you Auntie Jenny for being with us this year. Thank you for your life. Thank you for just imparting your life to us. Maraming, maraming Salama. Speaker 3 Thank you also, Novi, this year has been fuller also for me because of you and because of Humana feedback then from the people. Thank you so much. Thank you. 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